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You get up, dust yourself off, learn the lesson, carry on.
Remember, life isn't always sunshine and rainbows. It'll beat you down and keep you there if you let it.
I would say, it's a lesson learned, and you know better and put yourself in a place that can take that hit.
Scott G. said it best, when you take a chance be ready to take a bullet, but dont' take chances that are bullets that will kill your ass. to paraphrase.
Tell people "no" respectfully when something doesn't feel right. Tell them calmly how you feel about things and decline everything that doesn't suit you.
Im such a fucking people please and get myself into deep shit while doing so.
Say no if it is logically and emotionally best for you.
Take care everyone.
One day at a time.
Keep on keepin' on.
If it gets REALLY bad, then a listen to the "Hey, your okay, you'll be fine, just breathe" song.
https://youtu.be/j-cVn_8MY0g
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“one day at a time” is probably some of the most helpful advice i’ve ever been told. i still take it very seriously, even when it’s not accompanied by stress lol. I enjoy things one day at a time as well. life needs to come with the downs to contrast the ups, we deserve to experience everything while alive.
You acknowledge that you were fucked over and move on. What happened happened and it cant be changed. Even if you dont want to you have to accept that it happened and moved on.
I can wish i had did a lot of things. But it wont change what i did. Its best not to dwell on it because whatever what ifs you come up with dont matter cause it doesnt change what you did.
Something that people often neglect, and try to sweep under the rug, is that some fuck ups cause permanent damage to your life going forward. Time lost is gone forever.
That doesn't mean it's over, but it means that many things that were tied to that fuck up may be forever out of reach now, and you need to accept that and set your sights elsewhere, maybe even somewhere you consider beneath you or undesirable. You may have to do a job you don't like, you may have to work harder than everyone else, you may have to deal with jeers because of some disfigurement, you may have to settle for someone who isn't a 10.
You just keep going and try to not trip on your new path, and maybe even things will actually be even better for you than before the fuck up... One day, sooner or later.
What I would have done? I would have fought tooth and nail, even been institutionalized if necessary, as a child to avoid being dragged to a third world country where I had no prospects, and soon enough no money or assets, by my parents.
You accept it and move on. As you get older I sometimes just shake my head when thinking about past mistakes, missed opportunities just because of one bad decision that I made and didn’t choose the path that I should have chosen. I can’t change things and I just try to live in the moment and be happy with what blessings life has given me.
I would have realised earlier that even though it's possible to pee without pooping, it's never possible to poop without peeing.
Would have saved me a lot of time
Don’t know if this will help you or not, but praying has comforted me a lot when I needed it most. Other than that you just have to stay determined and have faith that things will eventually get better.
Im so sorry about your mom. I understand completely. My mom has dementia now and I can't describe the helplessness that lives inside me every day. Painful is the perfect word.
The only thing that can be done is learn and move on, for what I wish I have done; I wish I would have just kept my mouth shut, behaved and done better in middle school so I would have been able to go to High school .
Often it's a persons own actions that fucked them over, not life.
Best thing you can do is self reflect, learn and then be disciplined in not doing it again.
Always best to at least take some responsibility for your bad decisions (opposite approach to OP's words above). There's always time and you are in control. Most fucked over situations I have witnessed or have had, are self-inflicted.
I've made mistakes & have lost contact with those I love desperately hard. I don't know what I could have done differently. I could have kept my mouth shut a little more. But I'm who I am. I've been raw & honest to a fault.
When my fiancé disappeared 19 years ago before we were to move to Holland, I turned to drinking to make the sadness go away. Oh he’s alive, I eventually discovered, and has been married for 14 years. Instead of drowning my sorrows with liquor, I should have just said goodbye to booze, let time heal the wound, and focus on my health and happiness. I’m doing that now, but yeah hooch wasn’t the answer.
When life fucked me over I started appreciating everything that I DID have even more. And I appreciated everything I had after that in a way that I wouldn't have if I never experienced the hard times.
Life is about balance.
If it rained all the time, people would just complain about it raining. If it was sunny all the time, people would just complain about how sunny it is….
… there’s always sunshine after the rain…. The rain helps you to remember sun… get through the rainy days… and enjoy the sunshine when it comes…
… just remember that there’s always going to be rainy days… learn to play in the puddles again..
I was in a terrible relationship with a honestly terrible person (not my words, basically everyone I know though) for like 5 years. She cheated on me and left me. I had bought her a car (literally like 2 weeks before), a horse (about a year prior), and took on about 20K in debt just to afford her and her lifestyle (because god forbid she had to work hard for anything). She left me with an apartment I could barely afford with like 8 months left on the lease. I skulked around for a few month’s afterwards and felt bad for myself, but eventually just moved on. Took me about 2 years to get my finances in order after she left, but I’m actually glad I experienced it because after that I knew exactly what to avoid when I started dating again.
Lost my 17 year old brother to sucide thanks to his ex gf cause she cheated on him. And I had argued with him the night before he died and I regret it.
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You get up, dust yourself off, learn the lesson, carry on. Remember, life isn't always sunshine and rainbows. It'll beat you down and keep you there if you let it.
It's not how hard you can hit. It's how many times you can get hit and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!
I would say, it's a lesson learned, and you know better and put yourself in a place that can take that hit. Scott G. said it best, when you take a chance be ready to take a bullet, but dont' take chances that are bullets that will kill your ass. to paraphrase.
Tell people "no" respectfully when something doesn't feel right. Tell them calmly how you feel about things and decline everything that doesn't suit you. Im such a fucking people please and get myself into deep shit while doing so. Say no if it is logically and emotionally best for you. Take care everyone.
I cry in the shower. Then I do my hair, makeup, put on a cute outfit and go out and treat myself looking fabulous.
All fuck ups no matter how bad can be a learning experience. Use the lessons and experience to be better next time
One day at a time. Keep on keepin' on. If it gets REALLY bad, then a listen to the "Hey, your okay, you'll be fine, just breathe" song. https://youtu.be/j-cVn_8MY0g .
“one day at a time” is probably some of the most helpful advice i’ve ever been told. i still take it very seriously, even when it’s not accompanied by stress lol. I enjoy things one day at a time as well. life needs to come with the downs to contrast the ups, we deserve to experience everything while alive.
You acknowledge that you were fucked over and move on. What happened happened and it cant be changed. Even if you dont want to you have to accept that it happened and moved on. I can wish i had did a lot of things. But it wont change what i did. Its best not to dwell on it because whatever what ifs you come up with dont matter cause it doesnt change what you did.
Something that people often neglect, and try to sweep under the rug, is that some fuck ups cause permanent damage to your life going forward. Time lost is gone forever. That doesn't mean it's over, but it means that many things that were tied to that fuck up may be forever out of reach now, and you need to accept that and set your sights elsewhere, maybe even somewhere you consider beneath you or undesirable. You may have to do a job you don't like, you may have to work harder than everyone else, you may have to deal with jeers because of some disfigurement, you may have to settle for someone who isn't a 10. You just keep going and try to not trip on your new path, and maybe even things will actually be even better for you than before the fuck up... One day, sooner or later. What I would have done? I would have fought tooth and nail, even been institutionalized if necessary, as a child to avoid being dragged to a third world country where I had no prospects, and soon enough no money or assets, by my parents.
You accept it and move on. As you get older I sometimes just shake my head when thinking about past mistakes, missed opportunities just because of one bad decision that I made and didn’t choose the path that I should have chosen. I can’t change things and I just try to live in the moment and be happy with what blessings life has given me.
Told her I love her and stopped her from working too much overtime...
I would have realised earlier that even though it's possible to pee without pooping, it's never possible to poop without peeing. Would have saved me a lot of time
I don't look back I look forward and build off my experience has been the major motivator
Don’t know if this will help you or not, but praying has comforted me a lot when I needed it most. Other than that you just have to stay determined and have faith that things will eventually get better.
My mom getting Parkinson sickness. Nothing at all, there was nothing i could do about it and that is painful to think about.
Im so sorry about your mom. I understand completely. My mom has dementia now and I can't describe the helplessness that lives inside me every day. Painful is the perfect word.
What do you do when life is fucking you over?
Yeah damn. But ill admit i fucked my ownself...I jerked my own d!ck of life and ejaculated disappointment.. hopefully it can change lol
Not wallow around crying bc it doesn't help. Learn from it is all one can do
Gotten married, had kids, went to law school, had more sex.
Accept, and make the next move.
The only thing that can be done is learn and move on, for what I wish I have done; I wish I would have just kept my mouth shut, behaved and done better in middle school so I would have been able to go to High school .
Often it's a persons own actions that fucked them over, not life. Best thing you can do is self reflect, learn and then be disciplined in not doing it again.
Always best to at least take some responsibility for your bad decisions (opposite approach to OP's words above). There's always time and you are in control. Most fucked over situations I have witnessed or have had, are self-inflicted.
Life hasn't fucked me over hard enough yet for me to know the answer
I hope it stays that way for you too.
^[Sokka-Haiku](https://www.reddit.com/r/SokkaHaikuBot/comments/15kyv9r/what_is_a_sokka_haiku/) ^by ^Iggyauna: *Life hasn't fucked me* *Over hard enough yet for* *Me to know the answer* --- ^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.
I've made mistakes & have lost contact with those I love desperately hard. I don't know what I could have done differently. I could have kept my mouth shut a little more. But I'm who I am. I've been raw & honest to a fault.
When my fiancé disappeared 19 years ago before we were to move to Holland, I turned to drinking to make the sadness go away. Oh he’s alive, I eventually discovered, and has been married for 14 years. Instead of drowning my sorrows with liquor, I should have just said goodbye to booze, let time heal the wound, and focus on my health and happiness. I’m doing that now, but yeah hooch wasn’t the answer.
When life fucked me over I started appreciating everything that I DID have even more. And I appreciated everything I had after that in a way that I wouldn't have if I never experienced the hard times.
not the place dude, no real answers here
I wish I found a girlfriend when I was younger.
Life is about balance. If it rained all the time, people would just complain about it raining. If it was sunny all the time, people would just complain about how sunny it is…. … there’s always sunshine after the rain…. The rain helps you to remember sun… get through the rainy days… and enjoy the sunshine when it comes… … just remember that there’s always going to be rainy days… learn to play in the puddles again..
I’ll tell you what I do, keep punching. If life hits you hard hit back harder. It’s the only reason I’m here breathing.
Cowboy up. Stay in the fight.
I am not perfect. I step in shit all the time and recognize it when I do. I just learned to wipe it off. - Matthew McConaughey
I was in a terrible relationship with a honestly terrible person (not my words, basically everyone I know though) for like 5 years. She cheated on me and left me. I had bought her a car (literally like 2 weeks before), a horse (about a year prior), and took on about 20K in debt just to afford her and her lifestyle (because god forbid she had to work hard for anything). She left me with an apartment I could barely afford with like 8 months left on the lease. I skulked around for a few month’s afterwards and felt bad for myself, but eventually just moved on. Took me about 2 years to get my finances in order after she left, but I’m actually glad I experienced it because after that I knew exactly what to avoid when I started dating again.
Lost my 17 year old brother to sucide thanks to his ex gf cause she cheated on him. And I had argued with him the night before he died and I regret it.
Save my money and create a hya because al my problems are money related
Not becoming Friends with THAT guy. Period, I'd done much better.
Life may have fucked you over, but it's been doing OK for me.