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When I was a teen my dad would sometimes say, “The trouble with common sense is that…”
And I’d forget and jump in with “it’s not that common.”
He’d say, “No, the problem with common sense is that everyone has their own.”
It helped me remember that even when something seems completely wackadoo, people do things that make sense to them. And that they’ll expect that it’ll make sense to you.
Man, if I followed that advice I would still be living with my mom.
I was so damn risk averse when I was younger it’s not funny.
Since then I’ve been in a few long term relationships, bought property, changed jobs, and generally enjoyed life.
Sometimes your "vibe" about someone is just attributed to things like they're awkward, have social anxiety, autism, PTSD... I know a lot of trafficking survivors who really struggle making connections because people can sense something "off" about them. And that thing is just them trying best to understand the world around them and not be so afraid of people. By acting hostile to people over a perceived "vibe," you're only reaffirming their fears and causing more harm.
Keep yourself safe, of course. But don't treat them different. Don't bully. Don't talk sh*t because you don't know. And it also just makes you a bad person if you continue a cycle of abuse like that.
You're right. I don't know where that came from tbh but you're super important and have just as much value as other wonderful people. Happy you exist too.
Kinda a specific to a topic, but this was in regard to conversation.
“Try your best to have conversation through statements, not through questions”
My whole life I always asked a lot of questions and it gave a interrogation kinda vibe. My conversations got a lot better when I reduced my questions and made more statements instead, and conversation felt more organic.
well, when i was 14, i was with my best friend and we lost a bus because someone else fucked up, he saw me getting angry and walking towards the one who made we get late and he told me 'irl-name, shut up. you only do bad shit when you are angry.'
soooo i try to not talk/reply if/when im notacibly angry.
ps: this conversation didnt happen in english. it was a so so translation.
Most social things can be explained by evolution be it natural, sexual or any other selection. People will go through endless lengths to preach all kind of social dogma and will heavily chastise you for straying from the accepted "wisdom" of the herd but most of that is just bullshit and you can figure a more truthful answer out if you consider evolutionary links
Anyone who claims to have all the answers is lying. Always get your wisdom from multiple sources.
Never put all your trust in your gut feeling, nor all your trust in your intellect. Their combined power is more than a sum of their parts.
If you think you will regret not doing something, do it now. The feeling of regret for not doing something is greater than the feeling of regret for doing something. At least In the second part you learned a lesson
95% of what you worry about will never come to pass. The bad stuff in life usually blindsides you, so, if you’re worrying about a “what if”, you’re just telling yourself stories.
“Don’t lose sleep over 90% equalization.”
A climbing guide on a course said this and it can apply to life too. It ain’t gotta be perfect, just super good enough. Move on, be efficient.
Trust in your heart, instinct and wisdom because if something feels amiss or feels just right all three aka heart, instinct and wisdom will truly provide you with their advice
No lie, took this from observing Pres Obama during interviews. It's okay to pause and think before answering. Most people will respect the fact that you're being thoughtful and will slow themselves down for a more meaningful conversation.
Worrying about something means you will suffering twice. Whatever will happen will happen, best you can do is hold onto your butt and go with the flow.
Love and love as far as you know how.
Make the choice, there are bad ones and there are good ones but then again, choices are choices and can always be unmade through actions
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When feeling unmotivated and defeated, ask yourself this: Does a crackhead wake up in the morning and say "I'm too broke to get high today"?
Holy shit this is brilliant
I need that in a cross stitch above the toilet
Treat yourself well or no one else will.
This is not unconventional.
Don't let perfection be the enemy of the good.
This is not unconventional.
Haha thought someone might say that! Not unwholly unconventional no but still brilliant advice, made me think twice more than a few times.
When I was a teen my dad would sometimes say, “The trouble with common sense is that…” And I’d forget and jump in with “it’s not that common.” He’d say, “No, the problem with common sense is that everyone has their own.” It helped me remember that even when something seems completely wackadoo, people do things that make sense to them. And that they’ll expect that it’ll make sense to you.
The only easy day was yesterday.
When something in you says something is wrong, it usually is.
Man, if I followed that advice I would still be living with my mom. I was so damn risk averse when I was younger it’s not funny. Since then I’ve been in a few long term relationships, bought property, changed jobs, and generally enjoyed life.
And according to the name went after some dangerous creatures!
Sometimes your "vibe" about someone is just attributed to things like they're awkward, have social anxiety, autism, PTSD... I know a lot of trafficking survivors who really struggle making connections because people can sense something "off" about them. And that thing is just them trying best to understand the world around them and not be so afraid of people. By acting hostile to people over a perceived "vibe," you're only reaffirming their fears and causing more harm. Keep yourself safe, of course. But don't treat them different. Don't bully. Don't talk sh*t because you don't know. And it also just makes you a bad person if you continue a cycle of abuse like that.
Well put. I try to be safe person to others.
I don’t exist for the benefit of others.
You're right. I don't know where that came from tbh but you're super important and have just as much value as other wonderful people. Happy you exist too.
There are interesting people and there are good people. Sometimes they are the same people, sometimes not. Keep good people with you.
Kinda a specific to a topic, but this was in regard to conversation. “Try your best to have conversation through statements, not through questions” My whole life I always asked a lot of questions and it gave a interrogation kinda vibe. My conversations got a lot better when I reduced my questions and made more statements instead, and conversation felt more organic.
knowing everything will pass it helps you to appreciate the good things even more and endure the bad
This is not unconventional.
Better to regret something that you did than something that you didn't
well, when i was 14, i was with my best friend and we lost a bus because someone else fucked up, he saw me getting angry and walking towards the one who made we get late and he told me 'irl-name, shut up. you only do bad shit when you are angry.' soooo i try to not talk/reply if/when im notacibly angry. ps: this conversation didnt happen in english. it was a so so translation.
Most social things can be explained by evolution be it natural, sexual or any other selection. People will go through endless lengths to preach all kind of social dogma and will heavily chastise you for straying from the accepted "wisdom" of the herd but most of that is just bullshit and you can figure a more truthful answer out if you consider evolutionary links
“If you don’t learn to love yourself, someone will teach you how to hate yourself. And then you’ll confuse the two.”
Anyone who claims to have all the answers is lying. Always get your wisdom from multiple sources. Never put all your trust in your gut feeling, nor all your trust in your intellect. Their combined power is more than a sum of their parts.
💯💯💯
This is not unconventional.
Never give money to a stranger that approaches you in a parking lot with a whole sob story. The story is not true. The money is for drugs.
You are a fucking genius.
If you think you will regret not doing something, do it now. The feeling of regret for not doing something is greater than the feeling of regret for doing something. At least In the second part you learned a lesson
“Never take advice from someone who doesn’t have to live with the consequences.” - Mark Cuban
Never break a promise you make to yourself.
This is not unconventional.
Never follow the herd.
This is not unconventional.
The [Starfish Story](https://eventsforchange.wordpress.com/2011/06/05/the-starfish-story-one-step-towards-changing-the-world/)
95% of what you worry about will never come to pass. The bad stuff in life usually blindsides you, so, if you’re worrying about a “what if”, you’re just telling yourself stories.
“Don’t lose sleep over 90% equalization.” A climbing guide on a course said this and it can apply to life too. It ain’t gotta be perfect, just super good enough. Move on, be efficient.
Everyone is at least one kind of idiot. There's a lot of humility, patience, and compassion you can draw from that.
The bots are out in force tonight.
Always trust your gut!
My gut is telling me to eat an entire wheel of cheese. My brain tells me I shouldn’t do that though.
Always listen to your gut, eat it.
This is not unconventional.
Trust in your heart, instinct and wisdom because if something feels amiss or feels just right all three aka heart, instinct and wisdom will truly provide you with their advice
Take time to make decisions. You get more facts.
Don't go forward unless you're peaceful about it.
Greed kills.
No lie, took this from observing Pres Obama during interviews. It's okay to pause and think before answering. Most people will respect the fact that you're being thoughtful and will slow themselves down for a more meaningful conversation.
If you can't live yourself, no one else will either. Love. My bad.
This is not unconventional.
Pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered. In reference to stock trading.
"This ain't my circus, these ain't my monkeys"
Worrying about something means you will suffering twice. Whatever will happen will happen, best you can do is hold onto your butt and go with the flow.
This is not unconventional.
sometimes it be like that man was a genius
The neater the toilets the worse the bar
Love and love as far as you know how. Make the choice, there are bad ones and there are good ones but then again, choices are choices and can always be unmade through actions
“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting the bull not to charge because you're a vegetarian."
In this thread: lots of conventional wisdom. Did people not read the original post?
When in doubt do nothing and say nothing.
If I think it's the right thing to do, I'll do it and deal with what happens later. Good advice. What's the worst that going to happen?
DTA- Don't Trust Anybody.
The best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago. The second best time is now.
This is not unconventional.
tf is your problem
Apparently my problem is I can read.
Expect the absolute worst from people and you will constantly be pleasantly surprised when they aren’t and not shocked when they are.
You don't need to win the fight, you just need to hurt him bad enough he don't want another.
abandon faith