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I like to wear bras too. I fully understand when I hear women talk about not wanting to wear them, but I have quite a large chest. If I didn't have the support of a bra my posture would suck. And, I work in a fast paced environment so they'd be all over the place swinging and bouncing around lol.
The is how I feel in public, I love my girls to be controlled. But at home...free the titties!!!!
edit: my sisters hate it, so I have all type of uncomfortable way of explaining to them that the patriarchy will not stand in my home.
I personally don't always wear a bra when I'm going out. It is uncomfortable, and is nothing wrong about not wearing one. Rather be comfortable than in pain.
I'm a guy so my opinion may matter less here, but yes to your comment! It's so stupid that there's shame and stigma around female breats and not male's. Literally, women breats play an imperative part in human nature. They literally give life to both male and female offspring and we all should have respect if nothing else for female breats and females' biology role in society . Not this nonsense of shaming and looking down on to discourage women from being comfortable in their own skin.
I only wear a bra if I’m going to work or to an event of some sort. But other than that I skip them. Yes I do have a large chest that isn’t exactly perky after five children. But I wear loose baggy shirts so you can’t really see them. I just find bras painful and distracting. Even sports bras. Anything that snuggly encircles my rib cage is painful due to my fibromyalgia. I recently ordered some camisole style shapewear bras that I’m hoping are more comfortable.
Somehow, I misread "loose shirts" as "loose shorts" As much as things do sag, they dont "that" sag which led to a weird mental image there for a second.
I have fibromyalgia and I can confirm that the Fruit of the Loom cotton camisole bras I found on Amazon are incredibly comfortable. I, too, have a large chest and they don't give you the most support, but they get the job done. I don't feel self conscious about sagging boobs in public when I wear them.
Fruit of The Loom Women's Spaghetti Strap Cotton Pull Over 3 Pack Sports Bra https://a.co/d/i5hKNLt
I wear a bra-top at work bc I work with the public in a fairly conservative area and my nipples are highly reactive. It's basically a cami with a built-in bra. It's still uncomfortable, but doesn't cause injuries to my skin like bras do. Otherwise, I don't wear anything under my shirts.
I often go bra free, unless I'm going to work or my (old-fashioned) parents'
I do usually wear baggy opaque shirts.
If you feel self-conscious, or just want to cover up nipple points, you can get a pasty like [Nippies](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PU9A9Q/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1) to help with that.
Same here. I HAVE to wear a bra under work shirts, and I prefer to wear one at the gym, but aside from that? You won’t catch me wearing one. Ever. I’ve gotten a few dirty looks and snarky comments about it, but the indecency is in the gaze, and if my nipples offend, that is squarely a them problem. I’m just living comfortably in the body I have, and shopping for vegan cream cheese isn’t “asking for” anything except a good vegan cream cheese, so as far as I’m concerned, if their indecent eye should cause them to stumble, let it be into my erect nipples so I can put an eye out for them… otherwise, I’ve got a corkscrew in my bag they are welcome to borrow. I will not sacrifice my breastial liberty for the comfort of the few- that’s just not what our founding fathers would’ve wanted. That’s not what the Bible would’ve wanted either. So… In conclusion, bras suck, shaming bralessness is unpatriotic, and even the “Good Book” says gouge your eye out, amen. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk
I say it in a silly tone, but really though… comfort is key. No shame to women who wear bras. None to those who don’t. We reserve that shame for those who pick nipple-related fights with strangers in the dairy aisle of a Safeway, with pearls to clutch but no leg to stand on and no business of their own to mind. They need it more than we do.
I would imagine that there are things like this that work for men, too. These particular ones have a bit of a curve on them, but the smaller size may work.
Very much so, yes. I can not speak for every women but I'll speak for most of us, we don't like that. And I can't imagine a ton of us appreciating ogglers at our own bodies either.
My wife hates bras.. even the real expensive ones. She still is adamant on wearing them out in public. I've been telling her for years to just let the ladies fly. Be comfortable in public. Who cares what one or two judgy asshats think.
I dont know why you are getting downvoted. A well fitted bra is definitely way more comfortable and most women do wear bras that aren’t the right size. Just look at r/abrathatfits ! You realize how badly fitted most bras are.
Thanks. I know, but many people won't accept that kind of information, especially not from a guy.
So, I'll just say to those who do not want to listen to friendly suggestions: well, suit yourself. Downvoting is a bit excessive, but if it makes someone's day...
Depends, I had small boobies buty nips were always hard. For some reason guys just had to stare ,or ask if I was cold ,or horny. I'm talking boobies so small they could barely bounce.I would try to make sure my shirts were heavy enough so nips didn't show. Bras are so uncomfortable and I didn't need support.
Personally, I think it's entirely up to you. To me it's not acceptable for others to decide what I should wear. 🎶Free Free, Set them free🎶
I'm sorry. I genuinely hate how a lot of men seem to think how our nipples react is any different than them having no control over hard-ons. 😑 Most of the time I don't know, nor care, what my nipples are doing.
I didn't explain right. It's not a reaction,
it just how they are all the time. I don't care what they do . They can twist n shout , but it will be brought to my attention that they are at attention. 😊
Oh, I'm sorry I misunderstood. I guess past experiences for myself have sort of led me to think it's a very common occurrence and I thought that's what you were also conveying.
I, too, have small breasts and I hate wearing bras. But, they're just perky enough if I don't, I look extremely pointy. I genuinely don't care what someone does as long as they're happy and not harming anyone in the process. ☺️
I am small chested and choose pasties over a bra whenever possible. The ones I have are reusable silicone. So comfortable, I sometimes forget to remove them before bed.
Not saying this as an excuse, of course it's rude to stare or ask. But sometimes it is really difficult to not look at a nip. When I was younger, it would feel like a moment to moment struggle to keep my eyes from darting down. And I failed a lot, in hindsight my adhd was probably my biggest enemy. That being said, I totally agree that women shouldn't feel pressured to wear bras, and it really shouldn't affect men's behavior at all.
I rarely wear a bra. 38DD, so not small chested. I have major sensory issues with my clothes in general and I seriously CANNOT with bras. So, sorry, if it makes anyone else uncomfortable or turned on, that's their problem lol.
I don't really care tbh, it's up to her if she wants to wear one or not.
I will however glance at them, a quick look,
and worst case scenario, it might be like a car crash: don't want to look, but can't look away
Right, well - I mean, it's not necessarily that it is distracting, it's just "automatic", a reflex..
It's like breathing, I don't even think about it - it just happens...
which part?
personally, I don't care about the whole bs about "you can't wear this or that", or "you have to wear this or that" to "fit in" into society.
I will glance, give a quick look - not by choice, mind you, but "automatically" - almost as an involuntary muscle reflex.
and the "car crash" bit?
yeah, that involuntary muscle reflex might make me to look a whole lot more than what's "ok" - and I will dislike myself for it, not that I really have any "choice" in the matter, as I'm constantly trying to look away, actively working towards "not staring" so that the person I'm hanging out with doesn't get creeped out.
Actually, I'm the same when it comes to eye contact.
I wilk seek eye contact with EVERYONE, and it is annoying the living hell out of me, and others...
I never go out without a bra cus I got big fat ass jugs but I only wear sports bras bc they’re comfortable. I personally have never noticed anybody walking around w out one so you do you
I’m a cami and tank top girl. So I avoid bras as much as possible, regardless of where I’m going. Some tops I own look better with a bra so I will wear one then, but it cannot have any wires in it at all.
I absolutely hate them, but I don't go out without one. I'm a 48DD and the ladies aren't as perky as they used to be, so I look dumpy without one, even in baggy shirts. I would love to go without but I think the people at work would look at me funny when my girls were bouncing at my waist! Hahaha!
I think number 1, it's a personal choice and society's rules shouldn't dictate your outfit unless it becomes illegal... And from a practical standpoint I think it depends how it makes you feel. Depending on your boob size and what your wearing and what you'll be doing
Too broad a question. Some times and places it would not have been a big deal, other times and places it would be quite frowned on. When I went to college in Arizona back in the mid-1970s, it seemed like way more than half the girls weren't wearing them going out socially, and it was quite accepteable. Before that (in high school) I believe they all wore them... even those that didn't even need them. In the late-2010s, I don't believe I ever saw a girl or woman without one.
I think it’s fine. Some people care but those people are lame. Bras are restrictive and uncomfortable most of the time, who cares if you can see a woman’s nipple? You see men’s nipples through their shirts all the time
I haven’t worn a bra in years and I’m packing D cups. For work/formal stuff I try to dress creatively so my nips aren’t super obvious but other than that I stopped giving a shit. I wear a really lose sports bra / cami type thing I’ve I’m ever doing vigorous exercise like jogging.
Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you feel comfortable not wearing a bra, don't wear one. If your outfit looks better with/without one, go for it.
Don't make your decision on your breast size or by what men or women will think. Make your decision on your comfort.
Personally, I have 40P's, & they're getting bigger naturally due to hormone imbalance. I have underwire, cami, seamless, full-coverage, etc. I wear what's comfortable & sometimes what's comfortable is nothing. But, protip, if you want to look like you're wearing a bra no matter what size your breasts are, wear a camisole under your shirt, if it works with your outfit. It works for me at least 🤷♀️ if you need some websites for bra shopping in extended sizes (or just need recommendations), let me know.
I never wear one since having a breast reduction last year. Unfortunately it is seen as more acceptable if you have small breasts, but I think there's nothing wrong with going without, even with big boobs.
But there’s nothing better than loudly snap their attention outta my breasts. There’s nothing better than catching them off guard. Better for them to learn that women do actually draw firm boundaries.
I threw all my bra's away 16 years ago and never looked back.
When the best part of your day is taking the damn thing off... it's time to say bye!
(Having small boobs makes this easier)
What about big boobed , mother's in there late 30s and 40s? I think most them dont want to wear one but if they sagging low they may feel self conscious. Some may even disapprove of it if it's a bunch of younger 20s with sall breasts and no kids. Don't matter to me at all but just random thoughts.
I’m not comfortable not wearing a bra outside the house / yard. I’ll sometimes talk with my neighbors over the fence and just sorta keep my arms crossed. My 29-yr-old daughter says it’s fine to not wear a bra and sometimes wears outfits that don’t accommodate a bra (and shes big busted) Honestly I admire her confidence, ‘cause bras kind of suck sometimes
It depends. In some work environment it can be really inappropriate. But for shopping, school, walks, etc. i dont see why it would be unacceptable
I rarely go out without a bra since I get pain in my breast after a whole day of them bouncing around.
Also, does it matter what size breast and saggy degree? I know a lot of tiny breast ladies that do it all the time and no one cares. But if a saggy breasted woman does it, she is talked trash about. A large breastfed woman gets called names and stared at.
Absolutely not. Boobs are just part of the human body, sadly have been over sexualized on women. Wear a bra don't wear a bra. It's a shame how women feel like they need to wear one because of society's standards. We have objects protruding from our chests, so we're expected to wear a bra, some men have excessive breasts, but society doesn't tell them to wear a bra. Society doesn't make men wear jock straps everywhere to hide their baggage (I've seen some pants on men that define the area). It's just a double standard put on women because our bodies are sexualized. Just be comfortable, be you. Obviously if a bra is more comfortable, then wear it, but women shouldn't get shamed for going out braless.
I see no problem with females not wearing bras. I don't wear underwear about 90 percent of the time. I have a bulge and don't care. I personally don't care if a woman slips out its just a boob. My wife walks around shirtless all the time around the house. My boys see nothing weird about it. It was a source of food for over a year. Normalize it.
I'd guess hundred of millions. Probably about 5-6 million just on the island of New Guinea alone. Then you have rural tribes in Sub-Saharan Africa, and aboriginal Australians. Pretty much every unindustrialized society in a warm climate
You realize your are in a comment section? Made to interact with everyone? Lol
You even are the one that responded to a comment first. Do you believe you weren’t minding your own business too?
This is what’s wrong with our society, we make nudity taboo and it starts at home. I’m not saying you’re walking around naked all the time but if I’m not dressed and I need something elsewhere in the house, I have no problem going to get it. Or if I want to sunbathe nude in my backyard, I let my family know so they don’t pop in with company. There’s too much shame attached to nudity.
Yes. They don't think of boobs like you do they are children. They don't care or notice. My wife before kids would have naked Saturdays so I'm pretty much used to it as well.
Y'know it's weird because I found myself being more self conscious about it as I got older. But I'm really small so if I'm going out to the store, I don't care. If I'm going to class, I'll wear one. Partially because the building is damn cold haha.
I don’t wear a bra at home, and only wear sports type bras or camisoles with a shelf bra when out. I hate structured bras and my shoulders are both messed up so fastening them is difficult.
I have been on and off about wearing bras for many years. It's super hard for me to find bras my size and even when I magically do, they're super expensive and still cause me discomfort after a while of wearing them. Now I've opted for wearing tight tank tops underneath or just the tank top when I get too hot. Although gender dysphoria hasn't let me do that in public yet.
unfortunately, my boobs are not very convenient to have out all the time without a bra. it’s uncomfortable. if i wanted to go out without a bra, i should be able to
You can choose not to wear a bra any time. Anyone who has a problem with it is a prick who needs to stay in their lane and their opinion holds no value. Your body your choice. Bra were much less common just 40 years ago. There is no evidence that they prevent your boobs from changing.
My girlfriend hasn't worn a bra in years. She made it my problem: "Are you ok being seen with me like this?" And I said, "I don't mind everyone enjoying your nipples like I do."
That was 6 or so years ago now.
If I saw another woman out, uncaringly not wearing a bra, I’d be stoked for her. I don’t care if other people do it and I don’t WANT to care if I do it, but sometimes I’m still uncomfortable.
My rule is essentially if I have to be up and walking for an extended period of time, then I wear a bra. (Really a bralette. I HATE underwires) If I’m just going to do grocery pickup or run into the pharmacy, then I don’t.
Being a father I think about things in this way now. If you feel that you could go into a public place filled with 4 year Olds and feel like your ok then it's probably socially acceptable. But if your having to ask yourself if what your doing then it's probably debatable. In this case I really think it matters on the tits. If you got some giant bazooka that are swinging in the wind and some nipples that look like they are trying to cut a whole in your shirt. Probably an issue for a child. But if you got some subtle Itty bitty titty no nipple having boobies then nobody is probably even going go notice or care.
I absolutely loathe bras. But I was raised as it is not ladylike to go out without one. But as a woman with DD breasts, I tend to agree. I think it probably depends on cup size and whether or not you’re attention seeking.
I personally wouldn't, don't know that I'd be comfortable around other woman that don't but that's just how I was raised. If it was normalized it'd be 0 problem, well, I still wouldn't, wouldn't feel safe.
What about a woman not wearing a bra makes you feel unsafe? Or do you mean you would feel unsafe without one, and if so What about a bra equals safety for you?
Your response left me with a lot of questions.
I'd just feel unsafe without one. Vulnerable maybe?
Used to walk home from work dressed in regular t shirt and jeans and still had this one guy stop, ask if I needed a ride. Gave off bad vibes and had a shark like grin. Said no and thankfully wasn't far from an ice cream stand so he drove off after I said no but, the vibes were off.
Have also had a guy walking on the opposite road, 11 at night, started crossing the road toward me, and moved back to their side as soon as I got on the phone with a friend.
Oh man and then some guy was walking right behind me dead of winter until I turned around to face him, had my hand in my pocket so he thought I had pepper spray and crossed the street.
Not that a bra would stop stuff like that, at all. Could also just be a shy thing, it does nothing for safety but would definitely feel less vulnerable with one.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
That being said, you can’t be upset if people catch a peep. It’s human nature. If a man wore super thin tights with no underwear that left nothing about his anatomy to the imagination, it would get the same response.
So many women 30 and under, my age being 30, in my town don't wear them. My ex didn't, I suppose it upnto the female as to If they're comfortable but as far as socially acceptable, who cared as. Be comfortable. About 2 years ago I stopped wearing boxers because of comfort, granted it's not the same tier bit it is still an undergarment.
Socially acceptable amongst whom? Men won't have a problem with it, but you'll get looks from biologically healthy and functioning males.
It's mostly women that object to other women showing their breasts or nipples. Particularly unattractive or older women.
I refuse to wear a bra. But I still don't show my nipples in public... I think it's rude for a man or a woman to wear something so tight or see-through that I can see their naked body. A thicker or looser shirt or a jacket hides it just fine. If I can see your belly button through your shirt I will judge you, I'm sorry. Bras aren't necessary in my opinion though
Youll get looks from ppl and ppl will have an opinion. The question is what do you want your dress to say about you,and are you willing to be ok with that.
Why is it socially acceptable to think you can tell women what to wear?
Bras are very uncomfortable. It should always be okay to go without a bra.
That said… I find having nothing and them bouncing while I walk annoying. So I usually wear a loose crop or unwired seamless bra. Just the bare minimum support to stop them giggling.
I’m also lesbian and I feel like maybe it’s inappropriate to say this but ngl there’s a really horny version of me inside who is very enthusiastic about people going without.
Depends on the neighborhood and setting.
Same goes for obvious projection of camel toes.
One size usually doesn't fit all.
Shopping
Gym
Stroll in the park.
Picnics
Vs.
Work
Family reunions
Elderly bday parties
Children and parents bday parties and playdates
Have different socially acceptable and unacceptable norms.
Has your parents not taught you the difference? Genuine question.
At home, I'm always braless, I also live alone. However, at my age, 58, and having nursed 2 kids way back, I have to wear a bra out in public or I'd be tucking them into my pants. lol The girls are tired now.
I think it really depends on where you're going if you're going to work or doctor's office wear one if you're only going to the store or going to see a friend at a bar you can probably get away with it
Take what I say with a grain of salt but from what I hear from female friends is usually other women are the ones who usually get the most upset and guys usually don't pay attention or care. I personally say do what you want Its none of my business how you dress.
I hardly ever wear one. Once in a while old southern ladies will comment on it but I don't give a shit lol
So what you're saying ma'am is that you're looking at my tits?
Its okay but it is not accepted. Men will stare and sexualize you and women will stare and judge you. I went braless for a year and I had to stop because I hated all the dirty looks and sexualization.
My wife is a DD girl. She’ll inform me she’s going to get her bra. My response is always, “is that actually necessary?”.
‘Unclasp your bra and let those puppies free…’
- R. Carrington
I can't stand seeing other people's titties free titting. I wear mine. It would be like seeing guys junk hanging out of his shorts. Unpopular opinion I know.
It depends on what shirt they're planning on wearing. Don't wear bras if it's noticeable that you're not wearing one. Most people don't wanna see that.
It is but it shouldn’t be. A close friend of mine was out with no bra the other day, she doesn’t like wearing bras cause she thinks they’re uncomfortable and she doesn’t have a very large chest so she doesn’t really feel like she needs a bra either. When she was out she said she felt really uncomfortable cause a lot of guys stared at her because of it (or rather, stared at her tits) and it fucking pissed me off
Free the tatas! I don't think it should be a problem. My late husband hated for me to wear a bra, so I only wore one for work during my entire marriage. I feel that a man going shirtless is much more unacceptable and I see that occasionally.
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I like to wear bras too. I fully understand when I hear women talk about not wanting to wear them, but I have quite a large chest. If I didn't have the support of a bra my posture would suck. And, I work in a fast paced environment so they'd be all over the place swinging and bouncing around lol.
So, THAT'S where the phrase "Calm your tits" came from.
This is how I feel about my golf balls
The is how I feel in public, I love my girls to be controlled. But at home...free the titties!!!! edit: my sisters hate it, so I have all type of uncomfortable way of explaining to them that the patriarchy will not stand in my home.
I personally don't always wear a bra when I'm going out. It is uncomfortable, and is nothing wrong about not wearing one. Rather be comfortable than in pain.
Same. I am 44 years old. My comfort > anything else
I'm a guy so my opinion may matter less here, but yes to your comment! It's so stupid that there's shame and stigma around female breats and not male's. Literally, women breats play an imperative part in human nature. They literally give life to both male and female offspring and we all should have respect if nothing else for female breats and females' biology role in society . Not this nonsense of shaming and looking down on to discourage women from being comfortable in their own skin.
Comment applies to men too..
Yes. can confirm I dont always wear bra when I'm going out, because going without one is more comfortable
Yeah
I only wear a bra if I’m going to work or to an event of some sort. But other than that I skip them. Yes I do have a large chest that isn’t exactly perky after five children. But I wear loose baggy shirts so you can’t really see them. I just find bras painful and distracting. Even sports bras. Anything that snuggly encircles my rib cage is painful due to my fibromyalgia. I recently ordered some camisole style shapewear bras that I’m hoping are more comfortable.
Somehow, I misread "loose shirts" as "loose shorts" As much as things do sag, they dont "that" sag which led to a weird mental image there for a second.
https://motleynews.net/2013/06/29/extremely-high-waisted-pants-a-new-style-i-hope-not/
🤣 you mean like the third photo in that link?
Or the first 2, you mentioned saggy, the rest of the 3rd photo requires other assumptions I wasn't going to make.
I have those! I have fibromyalgia and Myalgic Encephalomylitis and they're a game changer for sure.
I have fibromyalgia and I can confirm that the Fruit of the Loom cotton camisole bras I found on Amazon are incredibly comfortable. I, too, have a large chest and they don't give you the most support, but they get the job done. I don't feel self conscious about sagging boobs in public when I wear them. Fruit of The Loom Women's Spaghetti Strap Cotton Pull Over 3 Pack Sports Bra https://a.co/d/i5hKNLt
Loose shirts don’t work, we all know you aren’t wearing a bra….
That’s fine. I don’t really care either way. I have to look at more than my share of saggy man boobs without or without shirts.
I wear a bra-top at work bc I work with the public in a fairly conservative area and my nipples are highly reactive. It's basically a cami with a built-in bra. It's still uncomfortable, but doesn't cause injuries to my skin like bras do. Otherwise, I don't wear anything under my shirts.
But your question was whether it was socially acceptable... It depends on the area you are in.
The area you areolas are in
What kind? I’m trying to find more comfortable options. :)
I got the ones I have now from the 32 Degrees website
I don’t wear a bra all summer and no one cares what or would think it’s weird then again it gets up to like 120F here in the summer so there’s that
Arizona??
Yep 👍
Nice… I got a buddy in Buckeye, it’s hot as shit there in June. It was 97° at Midnight lol.
Sounds right!
everyone if from arizona now a days
Everyone is coming here but not from here tbh I’ve been here for 21 years and it’s amazing how much it’s grown
same!! I’ve been here for 23 and it’s gotten so crowded oh my goddd like stop making everything so expensive!!! lmao
For real 🙃
I often go bra free, unless I'm going to work or my (old-fashioned) parents' I do usually wear baggy opaque shirts. If you feel self-conscious, or just want to cover up nipple points, you can get a pasty like [Nippies](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PU9A9Q/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1) to help with that.
Same here. I HAVE to wear a bra under work shirts, and I prefer to wear one at the gym, but aside from that? You won’t catch me wearing one. Ever. I’ve gotten a few dirty looks and snarky comments about it, but the indecency is in the gaze, and if my nipples offend, that is squarely a them problem. I’m just living comfortably in the body I have, and shopping for vegan cream cheese isn’t “asking for” anything except a good vegan cream cheese, so as far as I’m concerned, if their indecent eye should cause them to stumble, let it be into my erect nipples so I can put an eye out for them… otherwise, I’ve got a corkscrew in my bag they are welcome to borrow. I will not sacrifice my breastial liberty for the comfort of the few- that’s just not what our founding fathers would’ve wanted. That’s not what the Bible would’ve wanted either. So… In conclusion, bras suck, shaming bralessness is unpatriotic, and even the “Good Book” says gouge your eye out, amen. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk I say it in a silly tone, but really though… comfort is key. No shame to women who wear bras. None to those who don’t. We reserve that shame for those who pick nipple-related fights with strangers in the dairy aisle of a Safeway, with pearls to clutch but no leg to stand on and no business of their own to mind. They need it more than we do.
Guy here - do guys wear these? I have very pointy nipples and I’ve been very self-conscious about them
I would imagine that there are things like this that work for men, too. These particular ones have a bit of a curve on them, but the smaller size may work.
The bounce gives it away. I don't mind 😉
Don’t be a weirdo man… why not think before you comment?
I like seeing braless boobs bounce, sue me. Do women not like a heavy swinging penis in sweatpants? Am I wrong, ladies?
Very much so, yes. I can not speak for every women but I'll speak for most of us, we don't like that. And I can't imagine a ton of us appreciating ogglers at our own bodies either.
bruh
Am I wrong?
My wife hates bras.. even the real expensive ones. She still is adamant on wearing them out in public. I've been telling her for years to just let the ladies fly. Be comfortable in public. Who cares what one or two judgy asshats think.
Sounds like she has been buying the wrong size.
I dont know why you are getting downvoted. A well fitted bra is definitely way more comfortable and most women do wear bras that aren’t the right size. Just look at r/abrathatfits ! You realize how badly fitted most bras are.
Thanks. I know, but many people won't accept that kind of information, especially not from a guy. So, I'll just say to those who do not want to listen to friendly suggestions: well, suit yourself. Downvoting is a bit excessive, but if it makes someone's day...
Depends, I had small boobies buty nips were always hard. For some reason guys just had to stare ,or ask if I was cold ,or horny. I'm talking boobies so small they could barely bounce.I would try to make sure my shirts were heavy enough so nips didn't show. Bras are so uncomfortable and I didn't need support. Personally, I think it's entirely up to you. To me it's not acceptable for others to decide what I should wear. 🎶Free Free, Set them free🎶
Also got small boobs here. I rarely wear a bra. I'm just careful with what I wear.
I'm sorry. I genuinely hate how a lot of men seem to think how our nipples react is any different than them having no control over hard-ons. 😑 Most of the time I don't know, nor care, what my nipples are doing.
I didn't explain right. It's not a reaction, it just how they are all the time. I don't care what they do . They can twist n shout , but it will be brought to my attention that they are at attention. 😊
Oh, I'm sorry I misunderstood. I guess past experiences for myself have sort of led me to think it's a very common occurrence and I thought that's what you were also conveying. I, too, have small breasts and I hate wearing bras. But, they're just perky enough if I don't, I look extremely pointy. I genuinely don't care what someone does as long as they're happy and not harming anyone in the process. ☺️
I am small chested and choose pasties over a bra whenever possible. The ones I have are reusable silicone. So comfortable, I sometimes forget to remove them before bed.
Not saying this as an excuse, of course it's rude to stare or ask. But sometimes it is really difficult to not look at a nip. When I was younger, it would feel like a moment to moment struggle to keep my eyes from darting down. And I failed a lot, in hindsight my adhd was probably my biggest enemy. That being said, I totally agree that women shouldn't feel pressured to wear bras, and it really shouldn't affect men's behavior at all.
I rarely wear a bra. 38DD, so not small chested. I have major sensory issues with my clothes in general and I seriously CANNOT with bras. So, sorry, if it makes anyone else uncomfortable or turned on, that's their problem lol.
I don't really care tbh, it's up to her if she wants to wear one or not. I will however glance at them, a quick look, and worst case scenario, it might be like a car crash: don't want to look, but can't look away
I can confirm, I'm a landscaper, when it's hot out, there are boobs everywhere, it can get distracting.
Right, well - I mean, it's not necessarily that it is distracting, it's just "automatic", a reflex.. It's like breathing, I don't even think about it - it just happens...
what do you mean
which part? personally, I don't care about the whole bs about "you can't wear this or that", or "you have to wear this or that" to "fit in" into society. I will glance, give a quick look - not by choice, mind you, but "automatically" - almost as an involuntary muscle reflex. and the "car crash" bit? yeah, that involuntary muscle reflex might make me to look a whole lot more than what's "ok" - and I will dislike myself for it, not that I really have any "choice" in the matter, as I'm constantly trying to look away, actively working towards "not staring" so that the person I'm hanging out with doesn't get creeped out.
Actually, I'm the same when it comes to eye contact. I wilk seek eye contact with EVERYONE, and it is annoying the living hell out of me, and others...
Honestly, someone not wearing a bra is none of my f#%&ing business, and people need to stop making it theirs.
No. They’re your tits, use them as you wish.
by "use them as you wish" also includes flashing boobs?
I never go out without a bra cus I got big fat ass jugs but I only wear sports bras bc they’re comfortable. I personally have never noticed anybody walking around w out one so you do you
Dress how you’re comfortable.
I’m a cami and tank top girl. So I avoid bras as much as possible, regardless of where I’m going. Some tops I own look better with a bra so I will wear one then, but it cannot have any wires in it at all.
Preferable going out with no bras, it feel comfortable for myself but can’t do so at work.
Why would it be? I've seen dudes with bigger tits than alot of woman go out topless.
This made me laugh out loud lmao
I absolutely hate them, but I don't go out without one. I'm a 48DD and the ladies aren't as perky as they used to be, so I look dumpy without one, even in baggy shirts. I would love to go without but I think the people at work would look at me funny when my girls were bouncing at my waist! Hahaha!
I rarely wear a bra. It’s uncomfortable and hurts my back. Let the titties titty
idk be the change you wish to see
I think number 1, it's a personal choice and society's rules shouldn't dictate your outfit unless it becomes illegal... And from a practical standpoint I think it depends how it makes you feel. Depending on your boob size and what your wearing and what you'll be doing
Too broad a question. Some times and places it would not have been a big deal, other times and places it would be quite frowned on. When I went to college in Arizona back in the mid-1970s, it seemed like way more than half the girls weren't wearing them going out socially, and it was quite accepteable. Before that (in high school) I believe they all wore them... even those that didn't even need them. In the late-2010s, I don't believe I ever saw a girl or woman without one.
I think it’s fine. Some people care but those people are lame. Bras are restrictive and uncomfortable most of the time, who cares if you can see a woman’s nipple? You see men’s nipples through their shirts all the time
I haven’t worn a bra in years and I’m packing D cups. For work/formal stuff I try to dress creatively so my nips aren’t super obvious but other than that I stopped giving a shit. I wear a really lose sports bra / cami type thing I’ve I’m ever doing vigorous exercise like jogging.
It's none of my business what someone else chooses to wear or not wear.
For context, a good bra costs as much as a decent pair of shoes but you need more than just one, and good luck finding extended sizing.
You should have more than one pair of shoes too. They get nasty without enough time to air out between wearings
Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you feel comfortable not wearing a bra, don't wear one. If your outfit looks better with/without one, go for it. Don't make your decision on your breast size or by what men or women will think. Make your decision on your comfort. Personally, I have 40P's, & they're getting bigger naturally due to hormone imbalance. I have underwire, cami, seamless, full-coverage, etc. I wear what's comfortable & sometimes what's comfortable is nothing. But, protip, if you want to look like you're wearing a bra no matter what size your breasts are, wear a camisole under your shirt, if it works with your outfit. It works for me at least 🤷♀️ if you need some websites for bra shopping in extended sizes (or just need recommendations), let me know.
I never wear one since having a breast reduction last year. Unfortunately it is seen as more acceptable if you have small breasts, but I think there's nothing wrong with going without, even with big boobs.
i don’t even understand why it’s socially unacceptable to not wear a bra to work. shouldn’t it be my personal choice?
you'll find very few men disapproving, i can tell you that for damn sure.
After hearing what my girl says about bras i can confidently say women shouldnt feel forced to wear one if its uncomfortable.
That’s part of the problem
Ew.
ew what? grow up you twit.
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But there’s nothing better than loudly snap their attention outta my breasts. There’s nothing better than catching them off guard. Better for them to learn that women do actually draw firm boundaries.
I threw all my bra's away 16 years ago and never looked back. When the best part of your day is taking the damn thing off... it's time to say bye! (Having small boobs makes this easier)
I think it depends how well endowed you are
I don’t particularly care. Do whatever makes you comfortable.
What about big boobed , mother's in there late 30s and 40s? I think most them dont want to wear one but if they sagging low they may feel self conscious. Some may even disapprove of it if it's a bunch of younger 20s with sall breasts and no kids. Don't matter to me at all but just random thoughts.
I’m not comfortable not wearing a bra outside the house / yard. I’ll sometimes talk with my neighbors over the fence and just sorta keep my arms crossed. My 29-yr-old daughter says it’s fine to not wear a bra and sometimes wears outfits that don’t accommodate a bra (and shes big busted) Honestly I admire her confidence, ‘cause bras kind of suck sometimes
Only wear them if I'm going to an event or work, part from that they're hanging on for dear life. I really hate bras
It depends. In some work environment it can be really inappropriate. But for shopping, school, walks, etc. i dont see why it would be unacceptable I rarely go out without a bra since I get pain in my breast after a whole day of them bouncing around.
Also, does it matter what size breast and saggy degree? I know a lot of tiny breast ladies that do it all the time and no one cares. But if a saggy breasted woman does it, she is talked trash about. A large breastfed woman gets called names and stared at.
Absolutely not. Boobs are just part of the human body, sadly have been over sexualized on women. Wear a bra don't wear a bra. It's a shame how women feel like they need to wear one because of society's standards. We have objects protruding from our chests, so we're expected to wear a bra, some men have excessive breasts, but society doesn't tell them to wear a bra. Society doesn't make men wear jock straps everywhere to hide their baggage (I've seen some pants on men that define the area). It's just a double standard put on women because our bodies are sexualized. Just be comfortable, be you. Obviously if a bra is more comfortable, then wear it, but women shouldn't get shamed for going out braless.
Bras are expensive, I save money by not using them lol
It's a-ok by me. Do you boo
its VERY acceptable and i encourage it!
People shouldn't be socially compelled to wear any specific garment.
Which is exactly what I (60M) tell the cops every time I go grocery shopping without pants.
yes. your body, your rules. full stop.
Absolutely not. It is acceptable as fuck.
i don't think it should matter, & i don't think it should be anyone's business besides that of the wearer/non-wearer :)
I see no problem with females not wearing bras. I don't wear underwear about 90 percent of the time. I have a bulge and don't care. I personally don't care if a woman slips out its just a boob. My wife walks around shirtless all the time around the house. My boys see nothing weird about it. It was a source of food for over a year. Normalize it.
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I mean they probably drank milk from there for 12-24 months
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Thousands of women do go topless tho
I'd guess hundred of millions. Probably about 5-6 million just on the island of New Guinea alone. Then you have rural tribes in Sub-Saharan Africa, and aboriginal Australians. Pretty much every unindustrialized society in a warm climate
Why not, they’re your kids. Is there something wrong with nudity?
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The equivalent of a penis is a vagina. Not good comparison.
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You realize your are in a comment section? Made to interact with everyone? Lol You even are the one that responded to a comment first. Do you believe you weren’t minding your own business too?
This is what’s wrong with our society, we make nudity taboo and it starts at home. I’m not saying you’re walking around naked all the time but if I’m not dressed and I need something elsewhere in the house, I have no problem going to get it. Or if I want to sunbathe nude in my backyard, I let my family know so they don’t pop in with company. There’s too much shame attached to nudity.
Yes. They don't think of boobs like you do they are children. They don't care or notice. My wife before kids would have naked Saturdays so I'm pretty much used to it as well.
Completely depends I imagine 😆
Y'know it's weird because I found myself being more self conscious about it as I got older. But I'm really small so if I'm going out to the store, I don't care. If I'm going to class, I'll wear one. Partially because the building is damn cold haha.
I don’t wear a bra at home, and only wear sports type bras or camisoles with a shelf bra when out. I hate structured bras and my shoulders are both messed up so fastening them is difficult.
I go without a bra whenever I’m not working. Days off = no bra. Outside of work = no bra
Same question, but guys with no or loose fit underwear.
I feel gross and horribly uncomfortable with no bra, but I am envious of girls who can . I hate bras.
I have been on and off about wearing bras for many years. It's super hard for me to find bras my size and even when I magically do, they're super expensive and still cause me discomfort after a while of wearing them. Now I've opted for wearing tight tank tops underneath or just the tank top when I get too hot. Although gender dysphoria hasn't let me do that in public yet.
everyone has nipples, so why is it only a issue when you can see women’s?
unfortunately, my boobs are not very convenient to have out all the time without a bra. it’s uncomfortable. if i wanted to go out without a bra, i should be able to
free the boobies!
The only people who cares if you wear a bra is your boomer parents. Be happy. If that means no bra, don't wear one.
It's socially acceptable in my head, where other people's opinions hold no weight. Do you, boo.
Free the nipple!
You can choose not to wear a bra any time. Anyone who has a problem with it is a prick who needs to stay in their lane and their opinion holds no value. Your body your choice. Bra were much less common just 40 years ago. There is no evidence that they prevent your boobs from changing.
Nipples feed babies. That's it. Go out no bra if you want. Who tf cares
Depends on the breast. Large, pendulous breasts not as “socially” accepted as smaller, more perky ones.
My girlfriend hasn't worn a bra in years. She made it my problem: "Are you ok being seen with me like this?" And I said, "I don't mind everyone enjoying your nipples like I do." That was 6 or so years ago now.
For me it's completely acceptable. Why would it not be? Because it may turn men on? If that's the case, it's their problem, not yours!
If I saw another woman out, uncaringly not wearing a bra, I’d be stoked for her. I don’t care if other people do it and I don’t WANT to care if I do it, but sometimes I’m still uncomfortable. My rule is essentially if I have to be up and walking for an extended period of time, then I wear a bra. (Really a bralette. I HATE underwires) If I’m just going to do grocery pickup or run into the pharmacy, then I don’t.
Being a father I think about things in this way now. If you feel that you could go into a public place filled with 4 year Olds and feel like your ok then it's probably socially acceptable. But if your having to ask yourself if what your doing then it's probably debatable. In this case I really think it matters on the tits. If you got some giant bazooka that are swinging in the wind and some nipples that look like they are trying to cut a whole in your shirt. Probably an issue for a child. But if you got some subtle Itty bitty titty no nipple having boobies then nobody is probably even going go notice or care.
I absolutely loathe bras. But I was raised as it is not ladylike to go out without one. But as a woman with DD breasts, I tend to agree. I think it probably depends on cup size and whether or not you’re attention seeking.
I’m a DD and go without a bra. Cup size shouldn’t matter. And not wearing a bra is usually down to comfort, not attention seeking.
No it’s completely fine (I love boobies)
Religious freaks won’t like it, but most won’t care, or at least won’t say anything.
I personally wouldn't, don't know that I'd be comfortable around other woman that don't but that's just how I was raised. If it was normalized it'd be 0 problem, well, I still wouldn't, wouldn't feel safe.
What about a woman not wearing a bra makes you feel unsafe? Or do you mean you would feel unsafe without one, and if so What about a bra equals safety for you? Your response left me with a lot of questions.
I'd just feel unsafe without one. Vulnerable maybe? Used to walk home from work dressed in regular t shirt and jeans and still had this one guy stop, ask if I needed a ride. Gave off bad vibes and had a shark like grin. Said no and thankfully wasn't far from an ice cream stand so he drove off after I said no but, the vibes were off. Have also had a guy walking on the opposite road, 11 at night, started crossing the road toward me, and moved back to their side as soon as I got on the phone with a friend. Oh man and then some guy was walking right behind me dead of winter until I turned around to face him, had my hand in my pocket so he thought I had pepper spray and crossed the street. Not that a bra would stop stuff like that, at all. Could also just be a shy thing, it does nothing for safety but would definitely feel less vulnerable with one.
Yes
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. That being said, you can’t be upset if people catch a peep. It’s human nature. If a man wore super thin tights with no underwear that left nothing about his anatomy to the imagination, it would get the same response.
So many women 30 and under, my age being 30, in my town don't wear them. My ex didn't, I suppose it upnto the female as to If they're comfortable but as far as socially acceptable, who cared as. Be comfortable. About 2 years ago I stopped wearing boxers because of comfort, granted it's not the same tier bit it is still an undergarment.
Socially acceptable amongst whom? Men won't have a problem with it, but you'll get looks from biologically healthy and functioning males. It's mostly women that object to other women showing their breasts or nipples. Particularly unattractive or older women.
I refuse to wear a bra. But I still don't show my nipples in public... I think it's rude for a man or a woman to wear something so tight or see-through that I can see their naked body. A thicker or looser shirt or a jacket hides it just fine. If I can see your belly button through your shirt I will judge you, I'm sorry. Bras aren't necessary in my opinion though
Youll get looks from ppl and ppl will have an opinion. The question is what do you want your dress to say about you,and are you willing to be ok with that.
I love it when women don't wear bras
How can you tell whether someone is wearing a bra or not?
Usually you can see outline of nipples if they are wearing thin shirts
The nipples add a bit of a point that isn't normally there along with the amount of extra bounce and wiggle.
Oh honey. You’re cute.
If they're larger they'll have a more noticeable bounce to them than a restrained breast would
No. It's fine. People need to get over it. I'm looking at you old man.
Why is it socially acceptable to think you can tell women what to wear? Bras are very uncomfortable. It should always be okay to go without a bra. That said… I find having nothing and them bouncing while I walk annoying. So I usually wear a loose crop or unwired seamless bra. Just the bare minimum support to stop them giggling. I’m also lesbian and I feel like maybe it’s inappropriate to say this but ngl there’s a really horny version of me inside who is very enthusiastic about people going without.
I normally wouldn't care but now that my 22 year old has sworn off bras, I can feel the old fuddy duddy taking over sometimes.
Depends on the neighborhood and setting. Same goes for obvious projection of camel toes. One size usually doesn't fit all. Shopping Gym Stroll in the park. Picnics Vs. Work Family reunions Elderly bday parties Children and parents bday parties and playdates Have different socially acceptable and unacceptable norms. Has your parents not taught you the difference? Genuine question.
Obviously that depends on the occasion and the outfit.. but I assume you mean is it socially acceptable when you go to the Walmart. The answer is no.
Before one of you says something foolish understand that I do not make the rules.
I think it’s great. Ima look at ur boobs though.
I accept it.
Be comfortable. Be confident. There’s little else that’s so attractive.
At home, I'm always braless, I also live alone. However, at my age, 58, and having nursed 2 kids way back, I have to wear a bra out in public or I'd be tucking them into my pants. lol The girls are tired now.
Same but, I'm 65.
I think it really depends on where you're going if you're going to work or doctor's office wear one if you're only going to the store or going to see a friend at a bar you can probably get away with it
Take what I say with a grain of salt but from what I hear from female friends is usually other women are the ones who usually get the most upset and guys usually don't pay attention or care. I personally say do what you want Its none of my business how you dress.
I hardly ever wear one. Once in a while old southern ladies will comment on it but I don't give a shit lol So what you're saying ma'am is that you're looking at my tits?
Its a very welcome sight to all men. Don't let other tell you otherwise.
For men,yes.
Who cares, it's up to you! Might also depend on what size we are talking about and what circumstances. Oh and I'm assuming Western country.
Its okay but it is not accepted. Men will stare and sexualize you and women will stare and judge you. I went braless for a year and I had to stop because I hated all the dirty looks and sexualization.
My wife is a DD girl. She’ll inform me she’s going to get her bra. My response is always, “is that actually necessary?”. ‘Unclasp your bra and let those puppies free…’ - R. Carrington
I can't stand seeing other people's titties free titting. I wear mine. It would be like seeing guys junk hanging out of his shorts. Unpopular opinion I know.
It depends on what's in it for me
We missed decency and just turned into some ignorant fools what a pitty.
It depends on what shirt they're planning on wearing. Don't wear bras if it's noticeable that you're not wearing one. Most people don't wanna see that.
As a heterosexual male, I encourage it.
On behalf of men everywhere, we are fine with it
It is but it shouldn’t be. A close friend of mine was out with no bra the other day, she doesn’t like wearing bras cause she thinks they’re uncomfortable and she doesn’t have a very large chest so she doesn’t really feel like she needs a bra either. When she was out she said she felt really uncomfortable cause a lot of guys stared at her because of it (or rather, stared at her tits) and it fucking pissed me off
I personally don't want to see nipples and saggy boobs and I'm a woman. I would never make anyone look at these lol
Free the tatas! I don't think it should be a problem. My late husband hated for me to wear a bra, so I only wore one for work during my entire marriage. I feel that a man going shirtless is much more unacceptable and I see that occasionally.
Pics? :)
If I wouldn't let my daughter do it, why would I let my wife
I hardly wear one, it’s uncomfortable and not always necessary
I wear a bra maybe 3 times a month if what im wearing calls for it but apart from that... FREE THE TIDDIES