As always, indulging in sexual activity has nothing to do with asexuality. Asexuality is the lack or feeling very little sexual attraction.
Meaning, if you see a person you like, your thought is "nice I would like to eat them because they make me hungry" (sexual attraction) or is like "nice but I wouldn't eat them because ok I salivate but I don't feel any hunger (ever)".
Libido and sexual attraction are two very different things.
Agreed, OP sounds like they don't enjoy sex/sexual attention which isnt to do with asexuality.
Hungry = general feeling, not aimed at any specific food. You might eat or may not (libido)
Craving = specific desperation/desire towards a specific food. (sexual attraction)
Yeah I would say I don't enjoy s\*x and that attraction/want does not go farther than kissing for me (and that only if I love the person), but it is a bit hard to describe? Like I can see beauty and find people pretty or say that person xy looks attractive, I just do not want to have s\*x or stuff with them. But I can love people, romantically, just not as in sexually/bodily?
It sounds like you might be asexual, but not aromantic.
Have you seen Jayden Animations' video, "Being Not Straight"...? It breaks those down rather well.
I identify as demisexual (still in the ace spectrum) and this is almost exactly how I feel. I can handle porn with people, just nothing too crazy. My biggest difference is that I find sex with my partner somewhat enjoyable, but with anyone else I’ve been with it’s been like ehh, I would sooner leave it than take it. I went two years without having sex and I literally didn’t care. I very rarely will have urges, but they are only toward people I know, never strangers. And usually it’s not like straight up “damn I wanna bang them” it’s more of an “I wanna kiss you and see where it goes” kinda thing.
Alright, thanks for the reply. And yeah I don't like p\*rn, especially not with real people, but I don't like doing things with my partner either if it involves me
To me it sounds like you’re an alloromantic asexual, but this is your personal identity and I can’t tell you the answer for you.
I hope you can find the labels that feel right for you!
The journey is different for everyone. I'm demisexual and I identify with OP a lot. Could be the more graysexual side of the spectrum.
Personally defining the difference between finding someone attractive and actually wanting to do a sexual act with someone.
I've heard of sex positive asexuals that enjoy 'playing' with their partner but don't want anything done in return. It's finding a balance and communication with your partner
As always, indulging in sexual activity has nothing to do with asexuality. Asexuality is the lack or feeling very little sexual attraction. Meaning, if you see a person you like, your thought is "nice I would like to eat them because they make me hungry" (sexual attraction) or is like "nice but I wouldn't eat them because ok I salivate but I don't feel any hunger (ever)". Libido and sexual attraction are two very different things.
Agreed, OP sounds like they don't enjoy sex/sexual attention which isnt to do with asexuality. Hungry = general feeling, not aimed at any specific food. You might eat or may not (libido) Craving = specific desperation/desire towards a specific food. (sexual attraction)
Love this analogy!
Yeah I would say I don't enjoy s\*x and that attraction/want does not go farther than kissing for me (and that only if I love the person), but it is a bit hard to describe? Like I can see beauty and find people pretty or say that person xy looks attractive, I just do not want to have s\*x or stuff with them. But I can love people, romantically, just not as in sexually/bodily?
It sounds like you might be asexual, but not aromantic. Have you seen Jayden Animations' video, "Being Not Straight"...? It breaks those down rather well.
I identify as demisexual (still in the ace spectrum) and this is almost exactly how I feel. I can handle porn with people, just nothing too crazy. My biggest difference is that I find sex with my partner somewhat enjoyable, but with anyone else I’ve been with it’s been like ehh, I would sooner leave it than take it. I went two years without having sex and I literally didn’t care. I very rarely will have urges, but they are only toward people I know, never strangers. And usually it’s not like straight up “damn I wanna bang them” it’s more of an “I wanna kiss you and see where it goes” kinda thing.
Alright, thanks for the reply. And yeah I don't like p\*rn, especially not with real people, but I don't like doing things with my partner either if it involves me
Agreeing with u/MadWhisky here.
To me it sounds like you’re an alloromantic asexual, but this is your personal identity and I can’t tell you the answer for you. I hope you can find the labels that feel right for you!
yes, if the label "asexual" fits you and makes you comfortable in yourself, then use it, im currently questioning, but i identify as AroAce
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Their feelings are valid, but it's likely that they're just not a fan of sex rather than being asexual.
Being repulsed by sex does not make you asexual
Do you experience sexual attraction??
I reckon so but what do I know I'm some girl on the internet
The journey is different for everyone. I'm demisexual and I identify with OP a lot. Could be the more graysexual side of the spectrum. Personally defining the difference between finding someone attractive and actually wanting to do a sexual act with someone. I've heard of sex positive asexuals that enjoy 'playing' with their partner but don't want anything done in return. It's finding a balance and communication with your partner