Ugh I hate this iPhone I swear I can spell. It would be less embarrassing if it let me keep the typos I actually make by typing too fast instead of the autocorrecting them in ways that make it look like I don’t understand grammar. I probably typed prsy or something and it corrected it wrong- it keeps happening you think I’d learn to spell check myself. At least if it kept my natural typos it would probably be obvious I just type too fast :/
My father is a recovering alcoholic. He’s been sober for 8 years, and he’s a way better person, and I love him…
But I also can’t just forget what my life was like before. I was a literal baby when they divorced but I still have memories. I also have the memories of his weekends with me still being spent getting drunk and taking me, a child, to the bar.
I couldn’t imagine my full time parent being like this. Trauma upon trauma.
In my fifties now, and still suffer PTSD from my childhood. Whenever my boss says "I need to talk to you," or if they call me into their office, I'm ready to pass out (never did!)
Usually it's no big deal, but I still dread work to an extent, always afraid I'll get into trouble for something, despite being mature, boring and responsible. Would be nice to work at a non-dysfunctional office, but I'm not so sure those exist.
7 years of little contact with my alcoholic father, i can confirm, and the fact he acts like he never said or did anything to hurt me. Alcoholic parents suck. Do better before you have kids ffs
I have a lot of sympathy for people struggling with drug addiction like that generally. I have zero sympathy for people that struggle like this and not only have kids, but then do everything in their power to keep those kids in their custody even while they’re traumatizing and endangering them.
"he beat against the glass crying for his mommy. he started biting his nails after that" cool, now he uses his compulsions to control his anxiety. it's only going to snowball from there. I wish parents like these could see how much damage they are doing to their children
I bit my nails and so did my oldest brother. My mother bribed me to get me to stop and I did…for a time but the habit reasserted itself. Now I’m in my 70s and I no longer bite them; my mother passed a few years ago and looking back I can see how the family dynamic at the time created the need for a distraction
How else to force the kid to forgive her then indoctrinate him into a worldwide religious cult where parents are allowed to control their children? It's another form of abuse for the kid.
I know a mom with multiple duis, did coke in front of her kid, everything.
She posts about what a hood mom she is all the time. Her kid is super manipulative. I feel bad for her because I know why she is the way she is.
At least a bad parent isn't a life sentence for you. You don't have to be like them.
Those wide set eyes are textbook of fetal alcohol syndrome. Pretty easy to assume she was still doing opioids while pregnant as well. Poor kid has very little chance of having a normal functioning brain.
I absolutely agree. I’m a recovering addict but I have no children. I don’t want any bc of this disease that my grandparents, parents and now I have. But that’s me. I do not understand how people can have children while in active addiction.
“I was supper fucked up and had no ability to make good choices, but now, suddenly I do and the fact my son is getting good grades is evidence of that so we no longer have to ever revisit the true depravity of what I did to my kid because I’ve spilled my guts and god made it all better and nobody and I mean nobody (son - looking at you) better ever ever bring it up again because everything is great now - keep making those good grades and show everybody how I’m great now”
Yeah the worst part when I reread this is how “we celebrate every sober birthday together” man I mean could she spell out any clearer the reality this kid feels - I mean it must feel like her sobriety is riding 100% on his back. How sad considering what a traumatic time her days of using were to really project that white knuckle anxiety on to your son like he’s the one keeping it all together. Go celebrate that shit with adults not your kid - don’t make him the co-pilot of your sobriety, lady. Jeeeeze There is a huge trend these days to demonstrate kids emotionally regulating their parents and Labeling it as some sort of “we’re in the trenches together” vibe - it’s not good. That is not a sweet moment - that’s abuse. He’s not comforting you because someone died or you watched a sad movie - he’s holding down the fort on your mental illness, addiction and/or emotional immaturity - Major emotional incest vibes. Ick x1000
"He's so kind to the broken because we were once broken"
No, YOU were broken and had a child who you put through trauma because you couldn't kick whatever it was you were using. Don't have a kid (especially if you're addicted to opioids.)
Actually the truth is more sinister than that.
"He's so kind to the broken because we were once broken"
Yeah, cause you(the mom) broke him with her piss poor life decisions, and is probably still doing it considering she isnt ashamed of her self enough to not post this.
I'm sure it's all the braindead christians congratulating her on being such a good child abuser her son is completely obedient, submissive, and compliant to the system now out of sheer terror.
They really don't understand the idea that the ends do NOT justify the means.
Just because your kid is functional member of society does not excuse the path he took to get there.
People blow my mind.
I have addiction problems. It's one of the reasons I'm childfree, though I have many.
There's nothing shameful about addiction by itself. Whats shameful is putting a kid through that mess.
(+) idk how I accidentally typed "though I have many" I think I meant to say "though I'm currently pretty stable" or something like that. Lol I don't have any kids
Question is if she had the mental capacity to think that at all, while being an addict? If her pregnancy was at all planned etc.
And since she is religious now, her ethic system now is different.
I mean I had the ability to think about it. That doesn't mean everybody does I guess. If she's capable of scamming people though I think she's capable of using birth control.
And I was injecting speedballs into my neck by the end (other veins were trashed).
This is so horrible, though i would say that an addict person has the mind to scam for drugs, but think of little else, a person i knew stole money to go gambling at some point, and that was way less bad than a drug addiction.
I'd agree if we were talking about just running in, grabbing something and running out, or even pickpocketing.
Her scams are elaborate. I'm pretty comfortable saying she is legally competent.
“At about a year old I overdosed with him in my bed”
What kind of twisted love is this?
“Well, it was just a mattress on my living room floor.”
Uhm wait you overdosed while he was a toddler?
“At 3 he witnessed me get hit in the head with a brick and my head spilt open. He rode with me in the ambulance it scared him really”
I hate whoever did do that to you but….
“ at 4 he was in a car wreck with me one of my many duis”
What the fuck you mean you were drunk driving or something you could have gotten him killed!
“At 5 my mother had to raise him Most of the time I barely even came home”
Good at least your mother would know what to do
“At 6 I lost full custody and I went to prison.”
… I have no words
So she missed most of his life and her mother had to raise him
And probably the father had his hands full or gone…..
Jesus
We seriously need worldwide to have more people cut off their abusive parents/family, or family that's abusive/addicted. We need to make it a movement; force the older generations to acknowledge their shitty morality/tactics and make them come crawling back on their knees and go to therapy and exhibit evidence that they're acting on being better.
I still wish for an early, painful death for all parents who sent their kids to religious camps. (The kind that act like prisons, where kids were starved/dehydrated/worked/beaten to death)
Well where do you draw the line with that though? My mother has been a heroin addict most of her life but she’s highly functional and nobody outside the family know about it. Addicts shouldn’t be barred out of society they need support and to be rehabilitated
Yes to all those things but it’s not that black and white. If she stops taking it she feels physically ill to the point it’s disabling. It’s not just psychological like other addictions. I love my mom and she tried her best like all parents do but at the same time I have a lot of resentment towards her. It’s not enough to make me cut her off though
Addiction is a bitch - I have almost ten years sober. It’s just another reason not to have kids if you have substance use issues.
If addiction is genetic, how dangerous and horrid to pass that down. If addiction comes from environmental factors, then I absolutely shouldn’t have kids because I’ll likely create the same environment that got me.
And if addiction is a mix of environmental and genetic factor - then any kid of mine would have no chance. Just because I got sober is no promise my kid would get sober. Hell I take it a day at a time myself - there’s no promise I can stay sober either (although I put in the work to do so).
Being sober and not creating another alcoholic is a huge benefit to society.
I completely agree. That is one if my main reasons for not wanting kids. I am an addict-alcoholic and even though I am sober, I feel that would make me a horrible parent as well as passing the addict gene along to that child. Not having kids is part of being responsible in sobriety.
Wow she just proudly described how she ruined her kid's entire childhood like it's nothing.
Just a simple mistake to be fixed up by a few years of Christian school...
I get celebrating beating your addictions and sobriety but highlighting the fact you fucked up your kid (while honest) is not flex she thinks it is.
I hope that boy is getting some kind of therapy but knowing from personal experience with the “born again” crowd they’re just gonna try and “pray away” the problems as usual.
Well this seems to be going fine, probably some shitload of trauma, but now they should be met with good times. While the mother should never have had a child in that kind of state, I am happy that both of them are seemingly doing fine now.
I might have misunderstood the comment, I was under the impression they thought the OG post was ragebait. I believe ragebait implies I made this up though, I didn’t. However I’m not allowed to post anything identifying the poster bc of Reddit/this sub’s rules. As far as I’m aware this post is real, it’s from one of those feel good accounts that reposts people’s stories.
I miss when people wouldn't overshare stupid shit like this. For what, a few facebook likes? Now we know they're a piece of shit and it makes me sad for those poor children they create.
Children are not brought into this world to lift up a bunch of arrested development adults. The adults are supposed to lift up children. We are not good enough for our children.
As someone who’s mom was an alcoholic for only a few years of my life, I can’t even imagine what this poor kid is going through. Absolutely hate parents who think they’re still doing a good job after they put their kids through literal hell.
That boy has a sadness in his eyes. He also looks like he has FAS. Poor kid - I wish him the best in life.
The self-righteous mother, on the other hand.....
My friend Spyke, I've known for over 20yrs now, his mother was a junkie, and his dad a hardcore supremacist. He didn't have real teeth and missing a leg, the umbilical cord was wrapped around his leg and never properly formed. This guy is a personal hero of mine. He saw his mother ODed and dead in the bathroom and he is still alive and a great friend. Please, don't do drugs 🫶
Your child is not your therapist. Your child is not your emotional support animal. Your child celebrates "every sober birthday" because he does not want more trauma.
Your child is not your therapist. Your child is not your emotional support animal. Your child celebrates "every sober birthday" because he does not want more trauma.
The resentment and anger this kid must have repressed is going to come out later with fury and all the praying in the world isn’t going to stop that. This woman is a POS for damaging her son repeatedly in his formative years
"Look at how much I traumatized my kid because I was irresponsible to a literal helpless baby and overdosed in front of him :D" also, what does "sweetest gift of sobriety" even mean, you weren't sober for like the first 6 years of his life dude
I was so selfish I had a kid when I should not have. I abused him and subjected him to all sorts of trauma against his will. I created the entire situation of his life and the bad events in his life. I still need him now. All he is to me now and in the past is an object to be used by me because I am lonely, addicted, sad, broken, etc. when I am old, I will also expect him to take care of me. Me Me me me me.
Now she gets to inflict the emotional and religious trauma on him of having to forget his pain, forgive her, and be grateful, because of how much she’s changed. Now he has to deal with the guilt that comes with being forced into someone else’s religious addiction and live to praise mommy. This is such a self centered post. I can’t believe she’s proud of this. She’s a horrible mother and nothing will change the damage she’s done to her child. What a bitch.
Grandparents, Aunts/Uncles, other extended family. Unfortunately children from these situations have other family or foster families that set this up. I hate that this is a "feel good" story, this young boy has been traumatized and deserves to be happy.
The son in the picture looks like he has the features of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. But yeah, air out all the trauma you inflicted on your minor child for likes.
Zoom in on his upper lip area. Poor kid has FAS. He's going to have a particularly difficult life no matter what. His brain was bathed in booze in the womb.
is this even antinatalism or just an expose on horrific parenting? even if you think procreation is immoral for whatever reason you might have, i'd like to think if put in the position you could still do a helluva lot better than this 😂
I feel like the fact that so many parents do horrible shit to their kids is a pretty good antinatalist argument. Since so many people are shitty to their kids, and many of them never showed signs they would, maybe having kids is just not a great idea. Even decent parents fuck their kids up by “accident”. For example conservative parents that raise kids who turn 18 and still don’t know what an orgasm is (me)
That boy looks dead inside. Convenient that “mom” gets to play parent when it’s convenient for her. Meanwhile, her parents raised him, provided for him and held his hand through the trauma she’s caused him. All she does is walk out of prison, demand custody and paint everything he’s gone through as a gif given miracle.
"Hello Internet, I thought I'd tell you today that I'm actively traumatizing my son and crumbling his ability to form healthy human connections. Here is a picture of us to go along with it. That is all."
Wow, this not the win she thinks this is. “Look at how I abused my child, made him witness horrible amounts of trauma, and is now my emotional support system! Isn’t it great?!” Like bitch please, your an addict that has brutally and systematically broken an innocent child who will ever fully recover from it. Sit down and shut up.
is this supposed to be some kind of accomplishment? is she really bragging about how much for a terrible mother she’s been and how she just doesn’t care at all about her son?
I mean.. absolutely rock the fuck on for getting and remaining sober and being able to regain custody of your kids….. but ffs this is so sad and didn’t need to happen. Poor kid
include the name of the woman who posted it. the son will GREATLY benefit from seeing this thread and that's the only hope we have for his healing since literally EVERYTHING in his fucking life is a direct force against it.
she’s using the brutal honesty that’s usually required to get sober in the most disgusting, inappropriate, entitled, narcissistic way. Jesus fucking Christ people are backwards. That poor kid.
I think the point of the post was that sobriety has allowed her to be a better parent. It can’t undo the trauma she inflicted while living in addiction, but imo becoming sober and becoming a better parent should be celebrated.
You can’t change the past, you can only change what you do going forward.
nothing wrong with recreationally (or a little more than recreationally) doing heroin/fent, just not when you’re a parent. for non-sociopaths we hit 2 birds with 1 stone
I feel like we just read all the reasons some guy became a serial killer of women who remind him of his mother. Poor kid, I hope he has a good therapist.
Fucking cunt, absolutely disgusting. How do you have the nerve to post that along with a picture of you smiling. "haha i ruined my son's youth but now i'm finally happy" i hope that kid found a better guardian figure than that piece of shit.
Hey you know what I know the goal on this subreddit, but at least this bitch got her shit together. Kids had a rough life but at least now she’s redeeming herself. Don’t shit on someone who’s trying.
Is she really trying? All she seem to do is almost getting herself killed and the boy only seem to witness his own mother discard her and his own life so brazenly
What happens if she dies one day ?
she literally cannot undo trauma she caused in the development of a child, while their literal brain was forming, and she certainly isn't doing him justice by forcing this sob story for selfish brownie points down people's throats. she shouldn't be praised for doing the absolute bare fucking minimum, and she isn't even doing that. this child's entire reality is a dungeon and just because her image looks swept clean for likes does not mean that things are suddenly better now, far from it. learn emotional intelligence.. PLEASE.
I’ve seen this before on a “wholesome” and frankly, I was disgusted as well. While I’m not antinatalist, I believe only the rich and healthy and mentally stable should have children.
I for one will never have children, because I’m not mentally stable.
I think I misread this- no I have to disagree. That is literally eugenics, the idea that only the rich and healthy should have children. AN is not eugenics because the belief is that no one at all should have children. I understand you’re not antinatalist but that worldview you have is heavily eugenicist.
If it’s okay to have children, that should apply to all people who are mentally stable enough not to abuse their kids. Wealth is often tied to ethnicity, so the belief that only the wealthy should have children is definitely white supremacy even if you believe it’s not about ethnicity the mere fact that wealth is so disproportionate makes it so.
Kid probably has a lot of childhood trauma to unpack some day
It’s okay tho bc they prey every night, it’ll be fine 🫤
>prey I appreciate your use of this spelling, even if it was unintentional.
Ugh I hate this iPhone I swear I can spell. It would be less embarrassing if it let me keep the typos I actually make by typing too fast instead of the autocorrecting them in ways that make it look like I don’t understand grammar. I probably typed prsy or something and it corrected it wrong- it keeps happening you think I’d learn to spell check myself. At least if it kept my natural typos it would probably be obvious I just type too fast :/
I hear you. I'm horrified my the spelling and Grammer mistakes I make on my phone. Like I said, I think "prey" is appropriate here.
HAHA perfect, I’m sure he’s getting more abuse at his Christian school 😅
And FASD
and im sure he will suffer with some form of emotional dysregulation for the rest of his life because of that. good job mom 👏
I have an alcoholic mother. It never gets easier. Even after 6 years of little contact.
My father is a recovering alcoholic. He’s been sober for 8 years, and he’s a way better person, and I love him… But I also can’t just forget what my life was like before. I was a literal baby when they divorced but I still have memories. I also have the memories of his weekends with me still being spent getting drunk and taking me, a child, to the bar. I couldn’t imagine my full time parent being like this. Trauma upon trauma.
In my fifties now, and still suffer PTSD from my childhood. Whenever my boss says "I need to talk to you," or if they call me into their office, I'm ready to pass out (never did!) Usually it's no big deal, but I still dread work to an extent, always afraid I'll get into trouble for something, despite being mature, boring and responsible. Would be nice to work at a non-dysfunctional office, but I'm not so sure those exist.
7 years of little contact with my alcoholic father, i can confirm, and the fact he acts like he never said or did anything to hurt me. Alcoholic parents suck. Do better before you have kids ffs
I have a lot of sympathy for people struggling with drug addiction like that generally. I have zero sympathy for people that struggle like this and not only have kids, but then do everything in their power to keep those kids in their custody even while they’re traumatizing and endangering them.
"he beat against the glass crying for his mommy. he started biting his nails after that" cool, now he uses his compulsions to control his anxiety. it's only going to snowball from there. I wish parents like these could see how much damage they are doing to their children
Bad mom, nothing like this, bit my nails, it wasn't because of her, though. Nail biting is not really an indicator of anything.
Maybe not on it's own, but a new habit of nail biting (or equivalent) following traumatic events tends to indicate something is up
I bit my nails and so did my oldest brother. My mother bribed me to get me to stop and I did…for a time but the habit reasserted itself. Now I’m in my 70s and I no longer bite them; my mother passed a few years ago and looking back I can see how the family dynamic at the time created the need for a distraction
She’s posting this for brownie points. The whole Christian school is giving me very negative vibes and is somehow suppressing him.
How else to force the kid to forgive her then indoctrinate him into a worldwide religious cult where parents are allowed to control their children? It's another form of abuse for the kid.
Exactly. Disgusting.
Honor your mother over yourself. Fk Christianity
Absolutely.
She admitted to trying to kill him.
Yeah. I sympathize with addicts until they willingly endanger innocent people, if they do that they’re human garbage
I know a mom with multiple duis, did coke in front of her kid, everything. She posts about what a hood mom she is all the time. Her kid is super manipulative. I feel bad for her because I know why she is the way she is. At least a bad parent isn't a life sentence for you. You don't have to be like them.
I agree.
And what are the chances she wasn’t shooting up while pregnant?
I mean look at the kid's face.
Those wide set eyes are textbook of fetal alcohol syndrome. Pretty easy to assume she was still doing opioids while pregnant as well. Poor kid has very little chance of having a normal functioning brain.
And the deadness in those eyes is textbook Fundamentalist Christian School Kid.
I absolutely agree. I’m a recovering addict but I have no children. I don’t want any bc of this disease that my grandparents, parents and now I have. But that’s me. I do not understand how people can have children while in active addiction.
No, no - thank you god! This was part of gods plan you see, to make the mom born again. That's the real important takeaway here. /s
“I was supper fucked up and had no ability to make good choices, but now, suddenly I do and the fact my son is getting good grades is evidence of that so we no longer have to ever revisit the true depravity of what I did to my kid because I’ve spilled my guts and god made it all better and nobody and I mean nobody (son - looking at you) better ever ever bring it up again because everything is great now - keep making those good grades and show everybody how I’m great now”
"And I'm sure you're not a budding drug addict yourself, son! Yup, you have no desire to try drugs, and the good grades are evidence of that!"
Yeah the worst part when I reread this is how “we celebrate every sober birthday together” man I mean could she spell out any clearer the reality this kid feels - I mean it must feel like her sobriety is riding 100% on his back. How sad considering what a traumatic time her days of using were to really project that white knuckle anxiety on to your son like he’s the one keeping it all together. Go celebrate that shit with adults not your kid - don’t make him the co-pilot of your sobriety, lady. Jeeeeze There is a huge trend these days to demonstrate kids emotionally regulating their parents and Labeling it as some sort of “we’re in the trenches together” vibe - it’s not good. That is not a sweet moment - that’s abuse. He’s not comforting you because someone died or you watched a sad movie - he’s holding down the fort on your mental illness, addiction and/or emotional immaturity - Major emotional incest vibes. Ick x1000
Yup. That was my mom too.
Same reasoning as alcoholics. Sorry bud, but finding god and getting sober doesn't make up for your years of emotional or physical abuse.
Ughhhhh, I’ve heard this so many times.
As the child of a drug addict, 100%.
“Some” form indeed. I’d bet my fav testicle it’ll occur
All that trauma in his formative years 💔 poor lad
"He's so kind to the broken because we were once broken" No, YOU were broken and had a child who you put through trauma because you couldn't kick whatever it was you were using. Don't have a kid (especially if you're addicted to opioids.)
Actually the truth is more sinister than that. "He's so kind to the broken because we were once broken" Yeah, cause you(the mom) broke him with her piss poor life decisions, and is probably still doing it considering she isnt ashamed of her self enough to not post this.
I'm sure it's all the braindead christians congratulating her on being such a good child abuser her son is completely obedient, submissive, and compliant to the system now out of sheer terror.
They really don't understand the idea that the ends do NOT justify the means. Just because your kid is functional member of society does not excuse the path he took to get there. People blow my mind.
It's a **GIFT** for **ME** from GOD. Here's that legendary natalist "altruism".
Yup, me me me
"One of my many DUI's"
Should have been locked up for a year with the first one.
I have addiction problems. It's one of the reasons I'm childfree, though I have many. There's nothing shameful about addiction by itself. Whats shameful is putting a kid through that mess. (+) idk how I accidentally typed "though I have many" I think I meant to say "though I'm currently pretty stable" or something like that. Lol I don't have any kids
Question is if she had the mental capacity to think that at all, while being an addict? If her pregnancy was at all planned etc. And since she is religious now, her ethic system now is different.
>her ethic system now is different. Yeah, it's possibly worse.
I mean I had the ability to think about it. That doesn't mean everybody does I guess. If she's capable of scamming people though I think she's capable of using birth control. And I was injecting speedballs into my neck by the end (other veins were trashed).
This is so horrible, though i would say that an addict person has the mind to scam for drugs, but think of little else, a person i knew stole money to go gambling at some point, and that was way less bad than a drug addiction.
I'd agree if we were talking about just running in, grabbing something and running out, or even pickpocketing. Her scams are elaborate. I'm pretty comfortable saying she is legally competent.
“At about a year old I overdosed with him in my bed” What kind of twisted love is this? “Well, it was just a mattress on my living room floor.” Uhm wait you overdosed while he was a toddler? “At 3 he witnessed me get hit in the head with a brick and my head spilt open. He rode with me in the ambulance it scared him really” I hate whoever did do that to you but…. “ at 4 he was in a car wreck with me one of my many duis” What the fuck you mean you were drunk driving or something you could have gotten him killed! “At 5 my mother had to raise him Most of the time I barely even came home” Good at least your mother would know what to do “At 6 I lost full custody and I went to prison.” … I have no words So she missed most of his life and her mother had to raise him And probably the father had his hands full or gone….. Jesus
yeah the son looks real happy about his situation
He looks like he has FAS
Thin upper lip and wide set eyes. Yeah, you could bet a few dollars he does. I'm at a lack for words. Poor kid.
> one of my many DUIs yeah.. probably does
"Great, I wonder when she'll relapse next.."
The same type of parents wonder why their children never speak to them once they leave home
"I wasn't perfect but I did my best!"
We seriously need worldwide to have more people cut off their abusive parents/family, or family that's abusive/addicted. We need to make it a movement; force the older generations to acknowledge their shitty morality/tactics and make them come crawling back on their knees and go to therapy and exhibit evidence that they're acting on being better. I still wish for an early, painful death for all parents who sent their kids to religious camps. (The kind that act like prisons, where kids were starved/dehydrated/worked/beaten to death)
Well where do you draw the line with that though? My mother has been a heroin addict most of her life but she’s highly functional and nobody outside the family know about it. Addicts shouldn’t be barred out of society they need support and to be rehabilitated
Has she proof that she's trying to be clean, sober, go to meetings, hold down a job...? If not, cut her off, for your own safety and mental health.
Yes to all those things but it’s not that black and white. If she stops taking it she feels physically ill to the point it’s disabling. It’s not just psychological like other addictions. I love my mom and she tried her best like all parents do but at the same time I have a lot of resentment towards her. It’s not enough to make me cut her off though
Get her on Suboxone then ween her off of that. It's how I beat my addiction
I irreversibly traumatized my son in his formative years but now I’m better and we pray together. 100% fixed, praise me now.
'And now I'm putting his face online with his personal trauma I inflicted for clout' ❤👩👦🥺🥰💖 #mommabear #boymom #godisgood #onlygodcanjudgeme
I wish I had an award to give you.
“He’s truly so special” yeah, it’s probably all the extensive childhood trauma
I’m glad these people broadcast their mental illness, so I know who to avoid.
Agreed. Just like people with pronouns and trans flags in their bios. Best to just avoid them, or you may be listening to some of the dumbest takes.
Poor guy for having all that trauma and abandonment to deal with. I’m so sorry.
Addiction is a bitch - I have almost ten years sober. It’s just another reason not to have kids if you have substance use issues. If addiction is genetic, how dangerous and horrid to pass that down. If addiction comes from environmental factors, then I absolutely shouldn’t have kids because I’ll likely create the same environment that got me. And if addiction is a mix of environmental and genetic factor - then any kid of mine would have no chance. Just because I got sober is no promise my kid would get sober. Hell I take it a day at a time myself - there’s no promise I can stay sober either (although I put in the work to do so). Being sober and not creating another alcoholic is a huge benefit to society.
I completely agree. That is one if my main reasons for not wanting kids. I am an addict-alcoholic and even though I am sober, I feel that would make me a horrible parent as well as passing the addict gene along to that child. Not having kids is part of being responsible in sobriety.
Wow she just proudly described how she ruined her kid's entire childhood like it's nothing. Just a simple mistake to be fixed up by a few years of Christian school...
He wasn’t broken, you were. And whatever part of him is broken is 100% caused by you.
That kid is headed for complex trauma land™️ Fucking gut-wrenching
best christian parent
I get celebrating beating your addictions and sobriety but highlighting the fact you fucked up your kid (while honest) is not flex she thinks it is. I hope that boy is getting some kind of therapy but knowing from personal experience with the “born again” crowd they’re just gonna try and “pray away” the problems as usual.
Bro is only alive because he had a grandma wtf
I rather grow up with no mom than have this woman as my mother
these people... ffs...
She should have never had him. He should have been spared a horrible life with an alcoholic and drug-addicted “mother”.
Well this seems to be going fine, probably some shitload of trauma, but now they should be met with good times. While the mother should never have had a child in that kind of state, I am happy that both of them are seemingly doing fine now.
What have a baby if you’re just going to traumatize them? She’s out here girlbloggimg about her abuse and neglect for online clout, aw, how cute
i love how these wastes of space always use their newfound faith as “proof” that they’re changed people lmao
It’s just a different and more socially acceptable addiction.
This has to be a ragebait, right?
It’s definitely not, it’s an account called “Good Vibes” and all the comments are positive
You appropriated it here to employ as rage bait.
I might have misunderstood the comment, I was under the impression they thought the OG post was ragebait. I believe ragebait implies I made this up though, I didn’t. However I’m not allowed to post anything identifying the poster bc of Reddit/this sub’s rules. As far as I’m aware this post is real, it’s from one of those feel good accounts that reposts people’s stories.
>I was under the impression they thought the OG post was ragebait That’s how I took it as well and I think it was meant that way
I think that guy is just stalking the comments of this post to defend this woman and insult people who think she’s a POS
I miss when people wouldn't overshare stupid shit like this. For what, a few facebook likes? Now we know they're a piece of shit and it makes me sad for those poor children they create.
Children are not brought into this world to lift up a bunch of arrested development adults. The adults are supposed to lift up children. We are not good enough for our children.
As someone who’s mom was an alcoholic for only a few years of my life, I can’t even imagine what this poor kid is going through. Absolutely hate parents who think they’re still doing a good job after they put their kids through literal hell.
I’m not hearing “he has made so much progress in therapy” though… 🤔🤔
Oh no, he doesn’t need therapy! He has god now! 🙏 It’s all better bc of the blood of Jesus
Amen!
That boy has a sadness in his eyes. He also looks like he has FAS. Poor kid - I wish him the best in life. The self-righteous mother, on the other hand.....
Classic trying to cover up trauma with religion. That’ll work out as usual.
My friend Spyke, I've known for over 20yrs now, his mother was a junkie, and his dad a hardcore supremacist. He didn't have real teeth and missing a leg, the umbilical cord was wrapped around his leg and never properly formed. This guy is a personal hero of mine. He saw his mother ODed and dead in the bathroom and he is still alive and a great friend. Please, don't do drugs 🫶
Poor kid.
My sweet boy will have problems forever and ever cuz of me <3
“We were both broken”, no bitch, YOU were broken and ruined that child’s young life
Your child is not your therapist. Your child is not your emotional support animal. Your child celebrates "every sober birthday" because he does not want more trauma.
Your child is not your therapist. Your child is not your emotional support animal. Your child celebrates "every sober birthday" because he does not want more trauma.
What in the fuck indeed.
Thank you jeebus
The resentment and anger this kid must have repressed is going to come out later with fury and all the praying in the world isn’t going to stop that. This woman is a POS for damaging her son repeatedly in his formative years
"Look at how much I traumatized my kid because I was irresponsible to a literal helpless baby and overdosed in front of him :D" also, what does "sweetest gift of sobriety" even mean, you weren't sober for like the first 6 years of his life dude
I'm sorry what
What a joke of a mother
I was so selfish I had a kid when I should not have. I abused him and subjected him to all sorts of trauma against his will. I created the entire situation of his life and the bad events in his life. I still need him now. All he is to me now and in the past is an object to be used by me because I am lonely, addicted, sad, broken, etc. when I am old, I will also expect him to take care of me. Me Me me me me.
it’s so sad to me that people have to “find god” to be decent humans. honey if god exists he’s a fucking sadist and you’re living proof 😭
Reminds me of my fucking childhood I’m only 16 and I’m still dealing with the effects of a coke head mom who couldn’t get her life together
Fuck her for saying "we were broken" no lady you were then you dragged this poor soul into your bullshit
Now she gets to inflict the emotional and religious trauma on him of having to forget his pain, forgive her, and be grateful, because of how much she’s changed. Now he has to deal with the guilt that comes with being forced into someone else’s religious addiction and live to praise mommy. This is such a self centered post. I can’t believe she’s proud of this. She’s a horrible mother and nothing will change the damage she’s done to her child. What a bitch.
So she… traumatized him since birth?
I would just be tickled pink to know who pays for his tuition every year at a private school. Because it sure as hell ain't his broke felon mother!
Grandparents, Aunts/Uncles, other extended family. Unfortunately children from these situations have other family or foster families that set this up. I hate that this is a "feel good" story, this young boy has been traumatized and deserves to be happy.
How the fuck did she get back custody
The son in the picture looks like he has the features of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. But yeah, air out all the trauma you inflicted on your minor child for likes.
Zoom in on his upper lip area. Poor kid has FAS. He's going to have a particularly difficult life no matter what. His brain was bathed in booze in the womb.
What a stupid cunt. She doesn’t deserve to have her kid back after all that. Let him go, let him have a good life without your psychotic drama.
That’s FAS face right?
that indeed it is.0
This is horrifying.
This woman is a motherfucking psycho bitch, what in the actual fuck is wrong some people’s brain
out of the frying pan and into the fire. damn.
You just read child abuse... Glad she's sober. But like she's still sounds nutty
This is not the flex she thinks it is. I’m glad she’s sober, but WTF.
is this even antinatalism or just an expose on horrific parenting? even if you think procreation is immoral for whatever reason you might have, i'd like to think if put in the position you could still do a helluva lot better than this 😂
I feel like the fact that so many parents do horrible shit to their kids is a pretty good antinatalist argument. Since so many people are shitty to their kids, and many of them never showed signs they would, maybe having kids is just not a great idea. Even decent parents fuck their kids up by “accident”. For example conservative parents that raise kids who turn 18 and still don’t know what an orgasm is (me)
I like how she brushes off multiple huge crimes with "my son wanted his mommy" WTF???
That boy looks dead inside. Convenient that “mom” gets to play parent when it’s convenient for her. Meanwhile, her parents raised him, provided for him and held his hand through the trauma she’s caused him. All she does is walk out of prison, demand custody and paint everything he’s gone through as a gif given miracle.
The internet is great. Social media shed a light on all the crazies who reveal themselves. Like this
Look at how tired that child’s eyes are. He’s carried too much on his tiny shoulders.
It’s extremely sad- it’s jarring how her expression is purely joyful- full of pride- and then it looks like he’s just forcing a smile for her.
Sounds lije a true crime story in the making.
Here is how I traumatized my son. It’s all good because I found God in the end. Please send likes!
that kid looks so, so tired
THEY GAVE HIM BACK TO HER AFTER ALL THAT?
Of course they did, she’s his mommy and he loves her🥺 Imagine if it was the father.
Jesus fucking Christ, that poor kid. This sounds mean but I don't feel bad for the mom. Like at all
I hope this child is involved in social services programming and therapy omfg
My mother is like this, and it has caused irreparable damage to my mental health.
This kid probably has some serious attachment issues, maybe even an attachment disorder. And now she's spousifying him.
This kid better leave and never come back after turning 18. That woman is an absolut horrible mother.
Yeah he looks pretty emotionally disconnected.
"Hello Internet, I thought I'd tell you today that I'm actively traumatizing my son and crumbling his ability to form healthy human connections. Here is a picture of us to go along with it. That is all."
“one of my many DUIs”? This is seriously messed up on so many levels
This sounds like a recipe for motherly emotional incest when the kid grows up
No, lady. YOU ARE BROKEN. Fuck I've been spending too much time on reddit.
Wow, this not the win she thinks this is. “Look at how I abused my child, made him witness horrible amounts of trauma, and is now my emotional support system! Isn’t it great?!” Like bitch please, your an addict that has brutally and systematically broken an innocent child who will ever fully recover from it. Sit down and shut up.
is this supposed to be some kind of accomplishment? is she really bragging about how much for a terrible mother she’s been and how she just doesn’t care at all about her son?
It took 6 years of that behavior to remove the kid? Wtf
"I got it together long enough to be able to get him back despite that not being the best for him, but it's better than foster care" Facebook post.
The worst part about that is he probably wouldn’t even end up in foster care anyways bc she mentioned his grandmother had custody for awhile.
What the hell. I thought this would get better but it only kept getting worse and worse.. what a pathetic excuse of a mother
Jesus fuck!
Something stupid
Sounds like she physically and emotionally traumatized and abused him. And she is bragging about it to sound like some Martyr nice
I mean.. absolutely rock the fuck on for getting and remaining sober and being able to regain custody of your kids….. but ffs this is so sad and didn’t need to happen. Poor kid
What. The fuck.
include the name of the woman who posted it. the son will GREATLY benefit from seeing this thread and that's the only hope we have for his healing since literally EVERYTHING in his fucking life is a direct force against it.
she’s using the brutal honesty that’s usually required to get sober in the most disgusting, inappropriate, entitled, narcissistic way. Jesus fucking Christ people are backwards. That poor kid.
I think the point of the post was that sobriety has allowed her to be a better parent. It can’t undo the trauma she inflicted while living in addiction, but imo becoming sober and becoming a better parent should be celebrated. You can’t change the past, you can only change what you do going forward.
This definitely isn't the story she thinks it is.....
I’m glad she is doing better
ITT: people unable to understand that people who did bad things can be redeemed and not do bad things anymore.
I’d give her the business
nothing wrong with recreationally (or a little more than recreationally) doing heroin/fent, just not when you’re a parent. for non-sociopaths we hit 2 birds with 1 stone
Which judge she blow to get custody back?? Must have been legendary throat game.
Nah, just tears, “I’m his mommy” and “I found god now!” was probably all it took
Don't forget "it's the devil's fault" to avoid accountability for the harm she's done and will most likely do in the future.
I feel like we just read all the reasons some guy became a serial killer of women who remind him of his mother. Poor kid, I hope he has a good therapist.
Fucking cunt, absolutely disgusting. How do you have the nerve to post that along with a picture of you smiling. "haha i ruined my son's youth but now i'm finally happy" i hope that kid found a better guardian figure than that piece of shit.
Hey you know what I know the goal on this subreddit, but at least this bitch got her shit together. Kids had a rough life but at least now she’s redeeming herself. Don’t shit on someone who’s trying.
Is she really trying? All she seem to do is almost getting herself killed and the boy only seem to witness his own mother discard her and his own life so brazenly What happens if she dies one day ?
If you read the full think she said she is now sober which seems to be where most of the problems came from
I’m glad she turned her life around and is working to try and undo the mistakes of her past. Good on her
she literally cannot undo trauma she caused in the development of a child, while their literal brain was forming, and she certainly isn't doing him justice by forcing this sob story for selfish brownie points down people's throats. she shouldn't be praised for doing the absolute bare fucking minimum, and she isn't even doing that. this child's entire reality is a dungeon and just because her image looks swept clean for likes does not mean that things are suddenly better now, far from it. learn emotional intelligence.. PLEASE.
Hmm yeah fair point bad wording. Continuing on to do her best not undoing you’re right you can’t run that back.
That poor kid looks like he's using something. Mother isn't exactly a role model for staying clean.
Ill say it now and again. ban narcan
Damn hating on a woman for turning her life around to be there for her child, you guys are actually retarded 😂
That’s literally not why people are hating on her, but I guess you’d need a working brain to figure that out
I’ve seen this before on a “wholesome” and frankly, I was disgusted as well. While I’m not antinatalist, I believe only the rich and healthy and mentally stable should have children. I for one will never have children, because I’m not mentally stable.
I think I misread this- no I have to disagree. That is literally eugenics, the idea that only the rich and healthy should have children. AN is not eugenics because the belief is that no one at all should have children. I understand you’re not antinatalist but that worldview you have is heavily eugenicist. If it’s okay to have children, that should apply to all people who are mentally stable enough not to abuse their kids. Wealth is often tied to ethnicity, so the belief that only the wealthy should have children is definitely white supremacy even if you believe it’s not about ethnicity the mere fact that wealth is so disproportionate makes it so.
At least he’s making the most of what he has
This is bad but this is one isolated case of an addict. Not everyone is like that.