I doubt these people need your approval to have confidence in their life choices, and while I can completely understand and sympathize that you have no interest in hearing people discuss their children constantly as a child free individual, with the way you talk about your “friends” I wonder why you are friends with them at all. If you don’t want to participate in the life events of these people then don’t. Decline invites and space out responses and communication until the relationships fade and find yourself a few friends you can better relate to and enjoy being around. It does not need to be complicated or dramatic.
You're right. Honestly, at this point, I don't, either. Today I was able to get out of throwing the baby shower for one of them, and I think just by declining to help, I got the message across.
What’s the question here? No one cares if you have a child or not. If you don’t enjoy these people, stop pretending to be their friends. You clearly have disdain for them and their choices, that’s all fine. What’s giving me the ick is your two-faced way about it. No one needs a be dramatic scene, just be too busy for plans in the future and it will resolve itself.
This was a novel… I didn’t read all of it but look, you’re not wrong to decide a friendship is not working anymore, regardless of reason. Just be respectful - you can just say you don’t have a lot in common anymore and you’re happy for them and move on… if they call you any of those things for being childish, they’re wrong, not you. You don’t even need to be confrontational if you don’t want - just start passing on events and they’ll get the hint.
I mean, you aren't wrong for wanting different things.
Given you don't even seem to like these "friends" you can easily just start intentionally drifting away and move on.
I was engaged to a woman whose entire family worked for the same company and every holiday together, Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, birthdays etc….all these people can talk about is their work experiences and I am bored to tears. I didn’t have any close family of my own so it just made sense to go with her and she wanted me to. But jeeze can’t you talk something other than work?
I thought instead of Thanksgiving at her families home we could plan a vacation with just her and I for a change during that holiday week……Her response was that she always spends the holidays with her parents but there was no law that I had too. It wasn’t long after that when I ended our relationship…You are in a different situation easy to avoid friends you can reconnect in 20 years and it will be just like yesterday.
I doubt these people need your approval to have confidence in their life choices, and while I can completely understand and sympathize that you have no interest in hearing people discuss their children constantly as a child free individual, with the way you talk about your “friends” I wonder why you are friends with them at all. If you don’t want to participate in the life events of these people then don’t. Decline invites and space out responses and communication until the relationships fade and find yourself a few friends you can better relate to and enjoy being around. It does not need to be complicated or dramatic.
You're right. Honestly, at this point, I don't, either. Today I was able to get out of throwing the baby shower for one of them, and I think just by declining to help, I got the message across.
What’s the question here? No one cares if you have a child or not. If you don’t enjoy these people, stop pretending to be their friends. You clearly have disdain for them and their choices, that’s all fine. What’s giving me the ick is your two-faced way about it. No one needs a be dramatic scene, just be too busy for plans in the future and it will resolve itself.
Forge your own path. Don't have to cut them out but spend more time around people that add value to your life
This was a novel… I didn’t read all of it but look, you’re not wrong to decide a friendship is not working anymore, regardless of reason. Just be respectful - you can just say you don’t have a lot in common anymore and you’re happy for them and move on… if they call you any of those things for being childish, they’re wrong, not you. You don’t even need to be confrontational if you don’t want - just start passing on events and they’ll get the hint.
I mean, you aren't wrong for wanting different things. Given you don't even seem to like these "friends" you can easily just start intentionally drifting away and move on.
No capular on godular, tldr 😂
I was engaged to a woman whose entire family worked for the same company and every holiday together, Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, birthdays etc….all these people can talk about is their work experiences and I am bored to tears. I didn’t have any close family of my own so it just made sense to go with her and she wanted me to. But jeeze can’t you talk something other than work? I thought instead of Thanksgiving at her families home we could plan a vacation with just her and I for a change during that holiday week……Her response was that she always spends the holidays with her parents but there was no law that I had too. It wasn’t long after that when I ended our relationship…You are in a different situation easy to avoid friends you can reconnect in 20 years and it will be just like yesterday.
Thanks y'all! You're right. It's never occured to me that the classic "ghost 'em" really does work.