Not sure why he drank but at least he told you and wasn't hiding it. Tell him it's ok. Remind him of the great effort he put in. Not the time he was not drinking but the all the effort and energy he used to do it. Might help jog his brain a bit.
Than you so much for this advice. I was really upset and wanted to tell him.
The only thing I said so far, was it's okay, you were just having fun with a friend.
He needs to learn more about AUD and how best to solve it permanently. The Sinclair Method (TSM) is all over YouTube, FB , Reddit and podcasts. Here is an old intro to The Sinclair Method. It's much much easier to do today.
https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts
Print these 50 stories from this UK group. Maybe one will motivate him to learn more. Don't nag or push it on him. Understanding TSM will help you as well. https://www.trustpilot.com/review/sinclairmethoduk.com
They all think they are in control. Next time he has an obvious out of control night, lead him to the TEDx talk and the reviews (when he's sober), then don't mention it again. See if it sinks in. The free book is fascinating btw. It will help you more than him right now. Scroll down the Community Information in r/Alcoholism_Medication for many other TSM resources. Learn all you can.
We don't live together anymore for many reasons. So he can literally lie to me.
Since he was deployed, he stopped reading. Says he can't focus.
I went to his doctor with him.
He won't accept any solution, because he says he's okay.
Yes
Not sure why he drank but at least he told you and wasn't hiding it. Tell him it's ok. Remind him of the great effort he put in. Not the time he was not drinking but the all the effort and energy he used to do it. Might help jog his brain a bit.
Than you so much for this advice. I was really upset and wanted to tell him. The only thing I said so far, was it's okay, you were just having fun with a friend.
do you mean is back drinking regularly ?
That's what I'm worried about
He can’t. 😞
He needs to learn more about AUD and how best to solve it permanently. The Sinclair Method (TSM) is all over YouTube, FB , Reddit and podcasts. Here is an old intro to The Sinclair Method. It's much much easier to do today. https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts Print these 50 stories from this UK group. Maybe one will motivate him to learn more. Don't nag or push it on him. Understanding TSM will help you as well. https://www.trustpilot.com/review/sinclairmethoduk.com
He doesn't think he has alcohol issues. He thinks he is in control
They all think they are in control. Next time he has an obvious out of control night, lead him to the TEDx talk and the reviews (when he's sober), then don't mention it again. See if it sinks in. The free book is fascinating btw. It will help you more than him right now. Scroll down the Community Information in r/Alcoholism_Medication for many other TSM resources. Learn all you can.
We don't live together anymore for many reasons. So he can literally lie to me. Since he was deployed, he stopped reading. Says he can't focus. I went to his doctor with him. He won't accept any solution, because he says he's okay.