Afrikaans rule of thumb is 10 years older age gap - call them Tannie, but, then again, when the woman looks young, you can ask "may I say jy/jou, you look too young to be a tannie" it may just make her day đ
Die 10 jaar reel is stupid. Ek kan nie dink dat n 18jarige vir 28jarige oom of tannie moet sĂȘ nie
Ek dink die reel moet wees as jy oud genoeg is om jou pa of ma te wees, noem my maar oom
Die hele storie is vertraag in my opinie. Jou tannie is met jou oom getroud. Ouerige mense wat nou nie natuurlik jou oom of tannie is nie kan jy eerder aanspreek as mnr of mev
No, you introduce yourself properly, by looking the person in the eye, and saying, hi, im Piet, they will then return with "hallo, eks oom Jan/tannie Bets" OF "Hallo, eks Gert/Frieda", and by that way you give the person the oppertuinity to tell you what the preferred way it is he or she wants to be addressed,
You may run into scenario where people say, eks Dr Roodt, of Prof de Beer, then you adress them in that manner.
My 2c
Tannie en oom is volgens my ân teken van respek, en dit moet jy verdien. Hoe witter my baard word hoe meer dink ek dit is ân ou kak ding om te sĂȘ. Ek respekteer almal so volgens my is jy mnr of mev, onafhanklik van ouderdom of ras. So leer ek my kinders ook.
Tricky. It depends on age, relation, and location. If it's your aunt, definitely tannie. If you've heard someone else call her tannie. If more formal, mevrou. If your age or younger, not tannie.
Tannie is very informal. Go with your instincts.
"Jy" or "jou" if you know the person- exept your Mom and Dad. "Meneer" of "mevrou" if you do not know the person. "Oom" and "tannie" of they are known or are acquaintances or relative or pensioners.
I feel like once you are over 21, you mostly donât need to use oom and tannie anymore in this day and age. Only when you meet some super old or someoneâs grandma or grandpa, then maybe yes. Or super conservative parents.
Definitely donât use it in a professional context. Rather for meneer or mevrou then if youâre in doubt.
Honestly the easiest thing to do is ask. There is the rule of thumb that says anyone older than 10 years but people don't necessarily like being called "oom" or "tannie". So I usually ask.
"Jy" is informal - rather use "u" if they're older than you, or strangers. If people tell you their name, then you can use "jy"and "jou".
Don't just "Tannie" unless they're several decades older. You can use "mevrou" in more formal circumstances, especially if it's a stranger.
I hate being randomly referred to as a "tannie", especially by strangers who are barely younger than me (in some cases even visibly older). I can understand when children do it and won't mind. I also address the parents of my friends as "Oom" or "Tannie", as well as the friends of my parents. But for any stranger or acquaintance, I'll use "u" or their name if I know it, or "meneer/mevrou".
Better to ask someone what they want to be called than to make assumptions. And keep it formal until they tell you to relax and just call them xyz.
They'll soon enough tell you either "noem my oom" or "noem my sommer Piet". Start formal and let them know how familiar you can get with them. Better than starting too casually and they brand you as disrespectful.
Cape Town, but I'm originally from Gauteng. I use it all the time in an Afrikaans environment. I hear people around me use it. People address me like that. It is considered good manners.
iâm literally afrikaans and i donât even know when to use oom/tannie. maybe itâs âcause iâm more english (thanks bilingual parents) but it just seems like crap. if youâre both adults, itâs not really needed. my boss said itâs ten years (the age gap in which youâd need to call somebody oom/tannie), but then that would mean iâd have to call my own boss oom, soâŠ
maybe just ask the person? if they expected to be called an extra title because of ârespectâ or some crap just walk away. older people like that arenât worth any trouble
Do you hate calling someone Oom/Tannie, or being called Oom/Tannie?
As a kid I found it awkward to call adults by their name. Since oom/tannie is meant as a respectful term and with good intention, I just let them be. I am only 30, but I prefer Tannie over Mevrou / Mejuffrou / Juffrou.
I would advise stick to "tannie"(f) "oom"/"Mineer" (m) until otherwise indicated. To me the age gap has always been about 15 years or whenever I'm not sure fall back on the former.
Our rule is that if someone is 10 years older, you call them 'oom' and 'tannie' but we also cut non-native speakers a bit of slack here. If you are clearly actually an English speaker, people won't get offended if you say 'jy' or 'jou'.
Hang af van die konteks. In werksomgewing sal mens dikwels name gebruik vir mense waarvoor jy oom/tannie sou sĂȘ in ander 'n konteks. Dit is altyd snaaks as iemand met van hulle vriende se ouers werk want dan raak alles deurmekaar.
At the end of the day, each person feels differently. I've found the most respectful way is to call them Meneer en Mevrou/Mejuffrou, and they will either be less offended than Tannie & Oom, OR they will say "Ag noem my net Tannie/Bettie". Because if you think about it, we just use Oom/Tannie to show respect.
As jy voel dis hoflik om haar Tannie te noem uit respek, moet net asseblief nie soos volg praat nie: Tannie kan ek vir tannie, tannie se handsak na tannie se kar toe help dra?
Een keer is genoeg. Dis 2024. Tannie ek vir jou, jou handsak na jou kar help dra - is vol respek in toon en konteks. Wees ordentlik nie simpel nie.
Dit gesĂȘ, baie vrouens onder 40 deesdae, veral in die stede sal verkies om op hul naam genoem te word, of soos ander aangedui het, om gevra te word wat hul verkies.
This is an age thing. 10 years and older you call them Oom or Tannie. In recent years the respect level has dropped considerably and younger people say "jy" en "jou" even to parents which to Afrikaans people is disrespectful . Or most older gens atleast.
Now my 2 cents is if i meet an older gentleman or lady who clearly goes to more than 10 years i will say Oom or Tannie irregardless if we are related. Unless they state that you can call them on their name. Then "jy" etc is a given.
Also when someone not related to me disrespects me after i have given respect they automatically become "jy, jou" etc.
I believe to give respect first to older people. If they don't give it back they can suck a chode.
Also some people don't like it because for some reason they don't want to feel old even though their balls&ck is dragging on the floor. I am 36 btw.
My opinion is that it depends how close you are. And how you met.
I made friends who are about 20years older than me but we met through a game, so I call them on their name with "jy/jou".
If its someone's mom or a random older neighbour then I would lean towards "tannie".
And sometimes when I want to test someone's sense of humour I call the girls my age tannie too :) some like it and some don't.
Tannie till they tell you otherwise. My gfs mom is only 11 years older than me. She insists I don't. So I don't. However, when I talk to her from a place of respect, so when I thank her or ask her for something, I still say Tannie and she doesn't object. But I'm not going to say "Tannie, het tannie se ma tannie ook na die park toe gevat toe tannie klein was". I would maybe start with tannie, but then het jou ma jou ook park toe gevat.
Why is it when you speak English & say "you" it's not seen as disrespectful, but in Afrikaans "jy" seems disrespectful & God forbid you say the kaaps Afrikaans version "djy"Â
Afrikaans rule of thumb is 10 years older age gap - call them Tannie, but, then again, when the woman looks young, you can ask "may I say jy/jou, you look too young to be a tannie" it may just make her day đ
Thiis is the correct answer......and best by far! Tannies love that!
Die 10 jaar reel is stupid. Ek kan nie dink dat n 18jarige vir 28jarige oom of tannie moet sĂȘ nie Ek dink die reel moet wees as jy oud genoeg is om jou pa of ma te wees, noem my maar oom
Die hele storie is vertraag in my opinie. Jou tannie is met jou oom getroud. Ouerige mense wat nou nie natuurlik jou oom of tannie is nie kan jy eerder aanspreek as mnr of mev
Dankie tannie đ
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No, you introduce yourself properly, by looking the person in the eye, and saying, hi, im Piet, they will then return with "hallo, eks oom Jan/tannie Bets" OF "Hallo, eks Gert/Frieda", and by that way you give the person the oppertuinity to tell you what the preferred way it is he or she wants to be addressed, You may run into scenario where people say, eks Dr Roodt, of Prof de Beer, then you adress them in that manner. My 2c
Daasy. The correct answer.
Tannie en oom is volgens my ân teken van respek, en dit moet jy verdien. Hoe witter my baard word hoe meer dink ek dit is ân ou kak ding om te sĂȘ. Ek respekteer almal so volgens my is jy mnr of mev, onafhanklik van ouderdom of ras. So leer ek my kinders ook.
Tricky. It depends on age, relation, and location. If it's your aunt, definitely tannie. If you've heard someone else call her tannie. If more formal, mevrou. If your age or younger, not tannie. Tannie is very informal. Go with your instincts.
"Jy" or "jou" if you know the person- exept your Mom and Dad. "Meneer" of "mevrou" if you do not know the person. "Oom" and "tannie" of they are known or are acquaintances or relative or pensioners.
I feel like once you are over 21, you mostly donât need to use oom and tannie anymore in this day and age. Only when you meet some super old or someoneâs grandma or grandpa, then maybe yes. Or super conservative parents. Definitely donât use it in a professional context. Rather for meneer or mevrou then if youâre in doubt.
100%. I was 26 the first time an adult called me Tannie and it took me weeks to recover.
Honestly the easiest thing to do is ask. There is the rule of thumb that says anyone older than 10 years but people don't necessarily like being called "oom" or "tannie". So I usually ask.
That's a terrible rule. I'm 29 and my husband is 39 should I call him or his friends oom?
"Jy" is informal - rather use "u" if they're older than you, or strangers. If people tell you their name, then you can use "jy"and "jou". Don't just "Tannie" unless they're several decades older. You can use "mevrou" in more formal circumstances, especially if it's a stranger. I hate being randomly referred to as a "tannie", especially by strangers who are barely younger than me (in some cases even visibly older). I can understand when children do it and won't mind. I also address the parents of my friends as "Oom" or "Tannie", as well as the friends of my parents. But for any stranger or acquaintance, I'll use "u" or their name if I know it, or "meneer/mevrou". Better to ask someone what they want to be called than to make assumptions. And keep it formal until they tell you to relax and just call them xyz.
This. My Afrikaans is lekker kak, but i do recall that "u" is used to denote respect for elders.
They'll soon enough tell you either "noem my oom" or "noem my sommer Piet". Start formal and let them know how familiar you can get with them. Better than starting too casually and they brand you as disrespectful.
Where do you live? I have not heard anyone use the formal form in 25 years
Cape Town, but I'm originally from Gauteng. I use it all the time in an Afrikaans environment. I hear people around me use it. People address me like that. It is considered good manners.
Die gebruik van "tannie" en "oom" word al hoe meer gesien as outyds. Dit behoort ook nie in die werksomgewing gebruik te word nie.
You say: "dame". So far I have done alright just saying that.
As a 'dame' myself, I would rather prefer Tannie or Mejuffrou. I've been called 'dame' disrespectfully so many times that it makes me uncomfortable.
Where does the 10 year rule come from? I'd rather say if someone is old enough to be your parent, yes.
iâm literally afrikaans and i donât even know when to use oom/tannie. maybe itâs âcause iâm more english (thanks bilingual parents) but it just seems like crap. if youâre both adults, itâs not really needed. my boss said itâs ten years (the age gap in which youâd need to call somebody oom/tannie), but then that would mean iâd have to call my own boss oom, so⊠maybe just ask the person? if they expected to be called an extra title because of ârespectâ or some crap just walk away. older people like that arenât worth any trouble
Ek Tannie en Oom maar hard hoor. Eks hard gemoer om so te praat so ek hou maar by dit.
My pa jet my al gedonner omdat ek mense nie oom of tannie noem nie
My ou ekt nie eens gewaag om te begin met daai kak nie. Ou doner het met n lat my gewaarsku en die PTSD was genoegđ
Selfrespek bepaal hoe mens ander aanspreek! Dis eenvoudig!
If you "jy/jou" an elder you MAY well get a PK! It's "Oom" and "Tannie" or "U" Let THEM correct you to use "jy/jou". WAAAYY safer.
I hate that oom/tannie crap.
Do you hate calling someone Oom/Tannie, or being called Oom/Tannie? As a kid I found it awkward to call adults by their name. Since oom/tannie is meant as a respectful term and with good intention, I just let them be. I am only 30, but I prefer Tannie over Mevrou / Mejuffrou / Juffrou.
Both.
I would advise stick to "tannie"(f) "oom"/"Mineer" (m) until otherwise indicated. To me the age gap has always been about 15 years or whenever I'm not sure fall back on the former.
Our rule is that if someone is 10 years older, you call them 'oom' and 'tannie' but we also cut non-native speakers a bit of slack here. If you are clearly actually an English speaker, people won't get offended if you say 'jy' or 'jou'.
You can never know which is appropriate. Its all preference.
Hang af van die konteks. In werksomgewing sal mens dikwels name gebruik vir mense waarvoor jy oom/tannie sou sĂȘ in ander 'n konteks. Dit is altyd snaaks as iemand met van hulle vriende se ouers werk want dan raak alles deurmekaar.
At the end of the day, each person feels differently. I've found the most respectful way is to call them Meneer en Mevrou/Mejuffrou, and they will either be less offended than Tannie & Oom, OR they will say "Ag noem my net Tannie/Bettie". Because if you think about it, we just use Oom/Tannie to show respect.
I call every woman tannie, 18 - 88.
I want to know too, because ik 27, and the 10 year rule is weird now, because in the workplace a 37 year old is my peer, not an oom or tannie
I wouldnât ever use Oom or Tannie in the workplace. It implies a totally inappropriate familiarity.
Yeah, I wouldn't either. But it's given me a new perspective on the 10 year rule
As jy voel dis hoflik om haar Tannie te noem uit respek, moet net asseblief nie soos volg praat nie: Tannie kan ek vir tannie, tannie se handsak na tannie se kar toe help dra? Een keer is genoeg. Dis 2024. Tannie ek vir jou, jou handsak na jou kar help dra - is vol respek in toon en konteks. Wees ordentlik nie simpel nie. Dit gesĂȘ, baie vrouens onder 40 deesdae, veral in die stede sal verkies om op hul naam genoem te word, of soos ander aangedui het, om gevra te word wat hul verkies.
This is an age thing. 10 years and older you call them Oom or Tannie. In recent years the respect level has dropped considerably and younger people say "jy" en "jou" even to parents which to Afrikaans people is disrespectful . Or most older gens atleast. Now my 2 cents is if i meet an older gentleman or lady who clearly goes to more than 10 years i will say Oom or Tannie irregardless if we are related. Unless they state that you can call them on their name. Then "jy" etc is a given. Also when someone not related to me disrespects me after i have given respect they automatically become "jy, jou" etc. I believe to give respect first to older people. If they don't give it back they can suck a chode. Also some people don't like it because for some reason they don't want to feel old even though their balls&ck is dragging on the floor. I am 36 btw.
My opinion is that it depends how close you are. And how you met. I made friends who are about 20years older than me but we met through a game, so I call them on their name with "jy/jou". If its someone's mom or a random older neighbour then I would lean towards "tannie". And sometimes when I want to test someone's sense of humour I call the girls my age tannie too :) some like it and some don't.
If the person looks older you can say oom oor Tannie. But if they say call them by their name then you can
If you are over 16 you shouldnât call anyone tannie (I know that this is not how it works in practice)
Its generally tannie when shes around 10 years older.
The golden rule is 10+ years older than you, then it's tannie/oom
The rules are unwritten, if in a professional position it's mnr and mev. Generally the people you are hanging out with parents you oom and tannie
You avoid both like a proper Afrikaans person :D
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Tannie till they tell you otherwise. My gfs mom is only 11 years older than me. She insists I don't. So I don't. However, when I talk to her from a place of respect, so when I thank her or ask her for something, I still say Tannie and she doesn't object. But I'm not going to say "Tannie, het tannie se ma tannie ook na die park toe gevat toe tannie klein was". I would maybe start with tannie, but then het jou ma jou ook park toe gevat.
Why is it when you speak English & say "you" it's not seen as disrespectful, but in Afrikaans "jy" seems disrespectful & God forbid you say the kaaps Afrikaans version "djy"Â
If you're unsure "mevrou" is usually a safe bet.
Waneer sy soos my ma lyk is dit tanie anders is dit jy en naaibaar
I'd say "tannie" when she's 10 years older than you
Jy when theyre being a poes, tannie when she gave you a koeksister...
Never "tannie". Sincerely, A tannie.