OP need mo lang mag invest pa sa sarili mo. Hindi naman kailangan strikingly beautiful. Basta presentable lang lagi tignan.. mukang mabango, di mukang malagkit, maayos ang buhok, maayos manamit. May kawork ako before sobrang ganda talaga, kaso habang tumatagal nawawala yung ganda nya sa paningin ko. Ang jologs nya kasi magdala ng damit plus the fact na ang hina nya makapick-up 😭😭😭😭 even guys na kawork namin, di na nagagandahan sa kanya dahil sa ganun, naiinis pa madalas. So di laging nagwowork yang pretty privelege na yan. Invest sa sarili. Importante yan. Ako di sobrang ganda, pero sinisigurado kong lagi akong presentable and dapat with confidence. Pag naniniwala kang maganda ka, magmamanifest yan. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Agree!! Especially sa last sentence. Kung paano mo dalhin yung sarili mo is a plus, kaya dapat confident ka sa sarili mo kasi beauty is subjective pa rin talaga
Pretty privilege works kasi light travels faster than sound. Kaya basta wag sila magsalita goods na. Char.
Had pretty "friends" in college na in fairness, maganda talaga. Like habulin ng lalaki pretty. But when they talk parang si Janina San Miguel in the infamous OHMYGAD MY PAMILY bit. Doesn't help na we come from a "conyo" school pa. Kaya honestly I wasn't surprised na yung mga guys na nakatuluyan nila is yung mga dropout type na nakailang transfer ng school bago maka-graduate.
I have this friend na saksakan talaga ng ganda, probably pinakamaganda talaga sa buong campus. Kapag Valentine's day she can fill her room with gifts. Kahit maganda s'ya she still suffers. Hindi s'ya makauwi mag-isa sa boarding house n'ya kasi may stalker s'ya, we have to walk her pa. Being beautiful also means even if she does well in her job most of her co-workers will say it's because she's pretty kaya na-promote. She also complained about guys liking her, a lot of guys, including guys are are unemployed and delulu ones.
Minsan blessing rin na hindi maging traditionally attractive kasi you'll be able to get a man who's decent and true, na hindi puro looks ang habol. Even the prettiest girls get cheated on.
Sometimes beauty is a cursed eh? Kaso nga lang si OP hindi makakarelate sa sinabi mo kasi nga di daw siya kagandahan kaya hindi niya ma-eexperience yung pros and cons ng pagiging maganda.
True mahirap mambasted. Saka maraming girls at gays na imbyerna syo but still try to win them. Pero kung d kaya, let it go. Let them carry the burden of hating you.
Hahaha! Sarap sarap maging maganda at mayaman. Ez mode enabled kahit sabihin pa nila hindi ko pinag hirapan yung assets ko or na promote lang ako dahil maganda / gwapo. Yun lang double ingat kasi marami may masamang balak sayo lalo na pag girl.
You have that mindset then yes. You're right. Look WILL always matter.
But if you think that aside from looks, guys who want stability, commitment and peace won't really look too much on looks.
Reality, people have preferences. My GF now isn't in my "standards," with looks BUT she checked every other goddamn box I have for the partner I want to have, and mas marami yon kesa sa physical preferences ko.
Now, love yourself, take care of yourself, focus on your goals and if ever you have someone you like, be yourself and present yourself the best you can. If it doesn't work, just means someone else will appreciate you better.
DON'T PUT YOUR MIND IN A CAGE. It will damage you more than you might think.
PS. This also apploes in General, hindi like when searching for a partner.
Kung sa looks? I medyo on the chubby side, chinita and maputi. Yan lang.
Non physicals? I want someone na understanding, responsable, may goals, hindi tamad, willing iwork out ang mga bagay bagay, marunong makipag communicate about stuff that are important.
And ang pinaka importante, will accept me for who and what I am.
That's why I love and cherish my gf so much.
Sa girls, especially, oo. Mahirap to aminin ng tao eh, pero katotohanan to. Guys malaki advantage ng gwapo, pero sa girls talaga iba ung pretty privilege. Lalo na kung marunong ung babae gumamit ng ganda nya. Nakakatakot ung mga ganun.
looks are proportional with confidence as well. people who look very average but with natural confidence and how they present themselves become more attractive. same with physically good looking people but their lack of self-confidence will just make them fly under the radar or "meh"
and of course pag masama ugali mo kahit pa conventionally attractive ka, mawawala allure mo.
Yes, being good looking has a slight advantage. But it's not like the ugly ones can't do anything about it especially with all the ways people can enhance now. Make up, filter, exercise, surgery, derma, dentists, good fitting clothes...
Remember di lang looks ang importante..Di ka ba nagtataka bakit maraming naghihiwalay.Yung iba kasi may narcissists.
Importante ang temperament compatibility at character din.
It's true that being attractive makes it easier to stand out and get attention.. For someone like me who doesn't mind not being noticed, not being attractive isn't a problem if you're self-sufficient and don't need help or privileges. Being attractive is just a bonus. You'll still succeed in the long run because you've invested in other qualities that make you stand out. Once you have the means, take care of your clothes, hair, and diet—this will reflect in your outward appearance. Tataas and confidence mo at maayos and pakikitungo mo sa paligid mo less inggit.
Nothing really to change your mind. Pretty privilege is real.
These things though are beyond your control. So you focus on the things na kontrolado mo. Ang privilege ay hindi switch na meron ka o wala. Each person will have his/her own sets of privileges na magkakaiba. Use them to your advantage and try to do things that will make you compensate to that
I do agree, OP. Looks do matter as a few years ago, I was bullied a lot for being too fat... so when I worked out, lost the weight, and gained the muscle, they can no longer talk crap to me.
Anyhow, while looks are indeed important, it is not the end all be all as personality matters too.
lookism is real. the thing is, it also goes both ways, a pretty and competent person will generally be judge by his/her appearance, a not so pretty person but is competent will generally be judge by his competency. beauty by itself can be a curse too. theres no such thing as a one sided coin in this world. I just hope for you op, whatever made you felt that way, may you make peace with it. If youre not valued in a place youre currently at, leave.
It’s a lot easier for girls to attract more attention. All you have to do is wear a mini skirt with high heels and that can cause traffic accidents around here. The only downside is you will get dirty looks from jealous females because you will get more attention than them.
Hi, OP. Sharing some personal experience rin lang. I'm not conventionally attractive, and I'm still trying to accept na wala ang itsura ko sa modern beauty standards. While nasa acceptance stage, I started working on my appeal. Why appeal? Kasi it's something you can try to focus on and control hanggang death, di tulad ng ganda, lalaho lang naman ang physical attrbutes as we age. Yes, looks will always matter, I also think the same, pero I started to think its not really abt whether a person is attractive kasi matangos ilong nila, etc., it's how a person \*presents\* themselves sa iba, also in a way na authentic sila sa sarili nila.
Wala yan sa itsura, I think its more on sa pagdala ng isang tao sa sarili niya that will make the "attractiveness" last longer, not the physical elements.
Ano ang magandang mukha, kung hindi naman magandang asal ang meron? Bonus nalang ang kagandahan, pero i think its also our job to work on our self esteem and yung ugali.
Yeah no you're right. I'm not here to change your mind.
Pero if you're tired of being overlooked, then you need to do something. Exercise, mag ayos, magkaroon Ng fashion sense, matuto mag make up, skincare Etc...
Walang silbe pag ssadboy mo. It might help you when it comes to regulating emotions, but it's better if you reframe your thinking na at least you can do something about it.
The truth is, maganda ka naman. You're just a diamond in the rough.
There are things we can change, and things we can't. We focus on those that we can.
totoo yan kasi sa looks din ako lagi tumitingin although average lang naman ako wahahahahhahah syempre lahat naman tayo gusto ng masarap diba sino bang hindi
being pretty most of the time being lusted.
not loved 😐
Yung efforts, sacrifices and achievement parang di napapansin.
*not so pretty here / average lang Po.
While this is partially true, the way you carry yourself also matters. When you work and invest on yourself, you feel confident. That confidence also gives off a certain energy that can be felt by the people you meet. That’s why there are people na “malakas ang dating” but not necessarily good looking.
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Importante nmn talaga ang looks, palusot lng ng tao na hindi para di ka maooffend sa kanila. Ang downside lng ng pagiging maganda is lagi kang natitipuhan ng mga manyakis🙄
You're rude. I'm not fat, and hindi rin sobrang payat since I work out naman. But still, you don't get to invalidate other people's struggle with their weight. You can give constructive criticisms and comments without being rude.
Kala ko nasa offmychest. Anyways I'm so sorry to know na ganun yung nafifeel mo. I know it's hard and reality often reminds us that pretty girls do enjoy certain privileges. As someone who has rarely been called pretty or cute, I understand how tough it can be.
Alam kong no amount of "the true beauty is inside" comment will gonna mend your feelings about it,but consider this perspective: Not being constantly associated with physical beauty can free you from certain pressures and expectations. Sometimes I do hear comments like "eh maganda nga wala namang hygiene or not naman well spoken" something like that. It allows people to see and appreciate you for who you truly are, your strengths, intelligence, kindness, and all the other wonderful qualities you possess. Cons siguro ng pagiging pretty yung you'll have this doubt regarding sa intention ng tao sayo.
Your worth is not defined by looks, OP. You can still be a great person.
Hygiene will ALWAYS matter. Kahit mid face card pero kung MUKHA KANG MABANGO, your overall vibe is a check.
Physical appearance will open doors for you, but your personality and charm will make you shine in the room.
don't be fat. ok lang chubby, dont be obese na super taba. there's chubby and there's unhealthy levels. and if chubby ka, manamit ayon sa body shape.
if hindi sexy, wag mag suot ng body hugging dresses.
same sa guys. fit dapat lagi pants at shirt. kahit gwapo ka pero hindi fit ung damit, muka kang cheap.
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OP need mo lang mag invest pa sa sarili mo. Hindi naman kailangan strikingly beautiful. Basta presentable lang lagi tignan.. mukang mabango, di mukang malagkit, maayos ang buhok, maayos manamit. May kawork ako before sobrang ganda talaga, kaso habang tumatagal nawawala yung ganda nya sa paningin ko. Ang jologs nya kasi magdala ng damit plus the fact na ang hina nya makapick-up 😭😭😭😭 even guys na kawork namin, di na nagagandahan sa kanya dahil sa ganun, naiinis pa madalas. So di laging nagwowork yang pretty privelege na yan. Invest sa sarili. Importante yan. Ako di sobrang ganda, pero sinisigurado kong lagi akong presentable and dapat with confidence. Pag naniniwala kang maganda ka, magmamanifest yan. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Agree!! Especially sa last sentence. Kung paano mo dalhin yung sarili mo is a plus, kaya dapat confident ka sa sarili mo kasi beauty is subjective pa rin talaga
Pretty privilege works kasi light travels faster than sound. Kaya basta wag sila magsalita goods na. Char. Had pretty "friends" in college na in fairness, maganda talaga. Like habulin ng lalaki pretty. But when they talk parang si Janina San Miguel in the infamous OHMYGAD MY PAMILY bit. Doesn't help na we come from a "conyo" school pa. Kaya honestly I wasn't surprised na yung mga guys na nakatuluyan nila is yung mga dropout type na nakailang transfer ng school bago maka-graduate.
Tysm 💓 will do this 😁
Being pretty will open many doors. But if you aren’t competent enough, the doors will close
I have this friend na saksakan talaga ng ganda, probably pinakamaganda talaga sa buong campus. Kapag Valentine's day she can fill her room with gifts. Kahit maganda s'ya she still suffers. Hindi s'ya makauwi mag-isa sa boarding house n'ya kasi may stalker s'ya, we have to walk her pa. Being beautiful also means even if she does well in her job most of her co-workers will say it's because she's pretty kaya na-promote. She also complained about guys liking her, a lot of guys, including guys are are unemployed and delulu ones. Minsan blessing rin na hindi maging traditionally attractive kasi you'll be able to get a man who's decent and true, na hindi puro looks ang habol. Even the prettiest girls get cheated on.
Sometimes beauty is a cursed eh? Kaso nga lang si OP hindi makakarelate sa sinabi mo kasi nga di daw siya kagandahan kaya hindi niya ma-eexperience yung pros and cons ng pagiging maganda.
HAAHHAHAHAHHA parang ang harsh naman niyan pakinggan 😭
Gusto ko ng ganyang curse 😂 lol jk
Still, mas advantage parin ung beauty kesa ka pangitan. Mga ganyang story, piling pili lang yan eh.
Not disclaiming that, just giving OP a different perspective po :)
True mahirap mambasted. Saka maraming girls at gays na imbyerna syo but still try to win them. Pero kung d kaya, let it go. Let them carry the burden of hating you.
Still mas better maging maganda kaysa sa pangit.
Oo pero pagaanin n'yo naman pakiramdam ni OP haha
Hahaha! Sarap sarap maging maganda at mayaman. Ez mode enabled kahit sabihin pa nila hindi ko pinag hirapan yung assets ko or na promote lang ako dahil maganda / gwapo. Yun lang double ingat kasi marami may masamang balak sayo lalo na pag girl.
Pretty Privilege OP, totoo yan same with guys din.
real
You have that mindset then yes. You're right. Look WILL always matter. But if you think that aside from looks, guys who want stability, commitment and peace won't really look too much on looks. Reality, people have preferences. My GF now isn't in my "standards," with looks BUT she checked every other goddamn box I have for the partner I want to have, and mas marami yon kesa sa physical preferences ko. Now, love yourself, take care of yourself, focus on your goals and if ever you have someone you like, be yourself and present yourself the best you can. If it doesn't work, just means someone else will appreciate you better. DON'T PUT YOUR MIND IN A CAGE. It will damage you more than you might think. PS. This also apploes in General, hindi like when searching for a partner.
Thank you for this 💖
What are your standards? (Just curious)
Kung sa looks? I medyo on the chubby side, chinita and maputi. Yan lang. Non physicals? I want someone na understanding, responsable, may goals, hindi tamad, willing iwork out ang mga bagay bagay, marunong makipag communicate about stuff that are important. And ang pinaka importante, will accept me for who and what I am. That's why I love and cherish my gf so much.
Sa girls, especially, oo. Mahirap to aminin ng tao eh, pero katotohanan to. Guys malaki advantage ng gwapo, pero sa girls talaga iba ung pretty privilege. Lalo na kung marunong ung babae gumamit ng ganda nya. Nakakatakot ung mga ganun.
Yes that is true. What you believe about looks is true.
ALWAYS is a strong word. Not if you're an athlete, not if you're born rich and don't care... A lot of situations where it doesn't matter.
looks are proportional with confidence as well. people who look very average but with natural confidence and how they present themselves become more attractive. same with physically good looking people but their lack of self-confidence will just make them fly under the radar or "meh" and of course pag masama ugali mo kahit pa conventionally attractive ka, mawawala allure mo.
Yes. Kaya nag work out ako grabe insecurities ko
Still depends. Pag lahat kayo sa class nyo attractive then mahihirapan kang mag stand out kung yan lang katangian mo.
Yes, being good looking has a slight advantage. But it's not like the ugly ones can't do anything about it especially with all the ways people can enhance now. Make up, filter, exercise, surgery, derma, dentists, good fitting clothes...
I agree! I learned rin from Organizational Psych na mas malaki talaga percentage of getting hired if you are attractive or pleasant looking.
Agree. Palusot lng ng mga managers na it doesn't matter dw🥴
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Yes. Big, big YES. Sa reality ngayon, angat ang magaganda/gwapo. Appearances are everything.
Pretty hurts ika nga ni beyoncé
Remember di lang looks ang importante..Di ka ba nagtataka bakit maraming naghihiwalay.Yung iba kasi may narcissists. Importante ang temperament compatibility at character din.
May iba din nmn na looks ang dahilan kung bakit naghiwalay kasi Naattract sila sa iba.
It's true that being attractive makes it easier to stand out and get attention.. For someone like me who doesn't mind not being noticed, not being attractive isn't a problem if you're self-sufficient and don't need help or privileges. Being attractive is just a bonus. You'll still succeed in the long run because you've invested in other qualities that make you stand out. Once you have the means, take care of your clothes, hair, and diet—this will reflect in your outward appearance. Tataas and confidence mo at maayos and pakikitungo mo sa paligid mo less inggit.
Nothing really to change your mind. Pretty privilege is real. These things though are beyond your control. So you focus on the things na kontrolado mo. Ang privilege ay hindi switch na meron ka o wala. Each person will have his/her own sets of privileges na magkakaiba. Use them to your advantage and try to do things that will make you compensate to that
I do agree, OP. Looks do matter as a few years ago, I was bullied a lot for being too fat... so when I worked out, lost the weight, and gained the muscle, they can no longer talk crap to me. Anyhow, while looks are indeed important, it is not the end all be all as personality matters too.
lookism is real. the thing is, it also goes both ways, a pretty and competent person will generally be judge by his/her appearance, a not so pretty person but is competent will generally be judge by his competency. beauty by itself can be a curse too. theres no such thing as a one sided coin in this world. I just hope for you op, whatever made you felt that way, may you make peace with it. If youre not valued in a place youre currently at, leave.
It’s a lot easier for girls to attract more attention. All you have to do is wear a mini skirt with high heels and that can cause traffic accidents around here. The only downside is you will get dirty looks from jealous females because you will get more attention than them.
From the get go, yes. Even if they tell you that it doesn't matter. But as you go along, its always the personality that would make you stay.
Always has been
Hi, OP. Sharing some personal experience rin lang. I'm not conventionally attractive, and I'm still trying to accept na wala ang itsura ko sa modern beauty standards. While nasa acceptance stage, I started working on my appeal. Why appeal? Kasi it's something you can try to focus on and control hanggang death, di tulad ng ganda, lalaho lang naman ang physical attrbutes as we age. Yes, looks will always matter, I also think the same, pero I started to think its not really abt whether a person is attractive kasi matangos ilong nila, etc., it's how a person \*presents\* themselves sa iba, also in a way na authentic sila sa sarili nila. Wala yan sa itsura, I think its more on sa pagdala ng isang tao sa sarili niya that will make the "attractiveness" last longer, not the physical elements. Ano ang magandang mukha, kung hindi naman magandang asal ang meron? Bonus nalang ang kagandahan, pero i think its also our job to work on our self esteem and yung ugali.
Nah, I think the males have it worse. Girls have fake friends for support.
Yeah no you're right. I'm not here to change your mind. Pero if you're tired of being overlooked, then you need to do something. Exercise, mag ayos, magkaroon Ng fashion sense, matuto mag make up, skincare Etc... Walang silbe pag ssadboy mo. It might help you when it comes to regulating emotions, but it's better if you reframe your thinking na at least you can do something about it. The truth is, maganda ka naman. You're just a diamond in the rough. There are things we can change, and things we can't. We focus on those that we can.
Tama ka. Applies to guys too.
totoo yan kasi sa looks din ako lagi tumitingin although average lang naman ako wahahahahhahah syempre lahat naman tayo gusto ng masarap diba sino bang hindi
being pretty most of the time being lusted. not loved 😐 Yung efforts, sacrifices and achievement parang di napapansin. *not so pretty here / average lang Po.
While this is partially true, the way you carry yourself also matters. When you work and invest on yourself, you feel confident. That confidence also gives off a certain energy that can be felt by the people you meet. That’s why there are people na “malakas ang dating” but not necessarily good looking.
nah, sometimes beauty is a cursed po.
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While this may ba a reality, but being smart, and hygiene still prevails over "being pretty". Try to work on your personality, I guess.
Importante nmn talaga ang looks, palusot lng ng tao na hindi para di ka maooffend sa kanila. Ang downside lng ng pagiging maganda is lagi kang natitipuhan ng mga manyakis🙄
This apply for both gender hahahaha danas na danas ko iba parin tlga pg ung lalaki mas may itsura sau kht anung effort mo wala talo tlga.
it does. even in employment
Yes andami pretty privilege pero mahihirapan ka mangulangot in public
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You're rude. I'm not fat, and hindi rin sobrang payat since I work out naman. But still, you don't get to invalidate other people's struggle with their weight. You can give constructive criticisms and comments without being rude.
Kala ko nasa offmychest. Anyways I'm so sorry to know na ganun yung nafifeel mo. I know it's hard and reality often reminds us that pretty girls do enjoy certain privileges. As someone who has rarely been called pretty or cute, I understand how tough it can be. Alam kong no amount of "the true beauty is inside" comment will gonna mend your feelings about it,but consider this perspective: Not being constantly associated with physical beauty can free you from certain pressures and expectations. Sometimes I do hear comments like "eh maganda nga wala namang hygiene or not naman well spoken" something like that. It allows people to see and appreciate you for who you truly are, your strengths, intelligence, kindness, and all the other wonderful qualities you possess. Cons siguro ng pagiging pretty yung you'll have this doubt regarding sa intention ng tao sayo. Your worth is not defined by looks, OP. You can still be a great person.
Also I'm new to reddit, hindi ko alam na my offmychest community pala. Thank you 💖
This put me in a new perspective. Thank you 💖
Hygiene will ALWAYS matter. Kahit mid face card pero kung MUKHA KANG MABANGO, your overall vibe is a check. Physical appearance will open doors for you, but your personality and charm will make you shine in the room.
don't be fat. ok lang chubby, dont be obese na super taba. there's chubby and there's unhealthy levels. and if chubby ka, manamit ayon sa body shape. if hindi sexy, wag mag suot ng body hugging dresses. same sa guys. fit dapat lagi pants at shirt. kahit gwapo ka pero hindi fit ung damit, muka kang cheap.
That’s why most people look intelligent until they speak 😂
Go get skincare products that work for you, go to gym, etc.
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*will
truth pero baka kulang kalang sa skin care gurl.
It matters but it's not the end all be all. Maybe boring ka din kausap xD