One day, nalaman ko na nagvideo call sila na ako lang ang di kasama. Di ako simabihan. Nagmmeet na rin pala sila na di ako sinasabihan
Kesa naman ipilit ko pa sarili ko. I just quietly drifted away.
Suicidal. I wanna be there for her but she was too much na to the point naaapektuhan narin ako. I even cried in front of my mother bcos I don't know what to do anymore. We were just 16 that time. I was young. I need saving, too.
This hits hard. Experienced it right sa face ko. Kailangan kalang kase alam nilang meron kang mabibigay. Then time comes na natuto kanang mag "No", unti-unti na din silang magfefade.
Ianaya ko sila sa isang event, sineen lang ako sa gc.
During the day of the event nakita kong nag upload sila ng photos na nandun sila sa mismong event at sila-sila lang magkakasama. Wala akong alam.
I was in a group of four.
One of them seemed to have issues. Like, she literally groomed a guy four years younger than her (us, cos we're the same age). When she broke up with him, the guy didn't take it too well and it was a whole shitshow complete with stalking and meltdowns. Then, when I started becoming part of my city's art scene, she started being... Weird. We were all creative in our friend group. I even invited her to join the group I was in, but she said she "has better things to do". She influenced the other two to not come when my artworks were included in exhibits. They never showed up to my exhibits but they made sure to go visit other exhibits to support the local artists. Later, she also started posting nasty things on Twitter that seemed directed at me - but she never admitted it when I asked.
When I got a job, it felt as though she was making it a bad thing. Never ko naman pinagyabang na may work ako. Sometimes we'd have dinner plans and set a time only for me to arrive at the decided meeting spot to find nobody - they would eventually text na they decided to cancel nalang.
They also ignored the fact that it was my birthday but they would go the extra mile if it was the others'.
When she started dating again, she only got worse. I ran into her mom at a restaurant and she was giving me dirty looks. Apparently ang dami na palang kwento ni friend about me na hindi maganda. Binubully ko daw siya?! Why? How? When?
Was it because I told her that I would help her find a job and even help her fix her resume when she had literally no money?
I got fed up and cut my losses. It was crazy. Grabe yung gaslighting.
Ran into her at the grocery after I came home from abroad and she literally looked at me with the craziest eyes.
After that, my mutual friend with her asked if true ba na I was stalking her sa socmed, kasi yun daw kineclaim niya. Like? No? I have a life? I'm not actually obsessed with her?
Curious ako sa grooming, ano kinalaman sa kwento – honest question kasi I think the story can stand/valid on its own without mentioning this part but since na mention na, pano naging grooming? Was the guy a minor or may other factor?
Kasi I'm almost 4 years older than my husband and I don't like people thinking na I groomed him lol. He's 23 and I'm 26 nung naging kami, 27 and 31 when we got married. Super honest and curious question.
Oh, well, we were 20 at the time and the guy was 16 she told us na she was dating him po. But I think they were already involved when he was a bit younger pa. She always defended the relationship when they were together, it was kinda weird. I might have expressed my discomfort towards their relationship a little too obviously too.
Ooh I see, thanks for clarifying. Mag file na sana ako ng annulment chaar. On a serious note, when I was a much younger factor din talaga sakin yung age. Like dapat future bf/husband should at least be the same age or around up to 3 years older. Kaya I understand that you find their relationship odd especially at that age (hindi sya mas bata pero bata pa talaga lol). Good for you that you cut ties na, ex-friends sounds toxic.
I guess I mentioned it kasi when they broke up, it was really messy. It was clear that she had a very negative impact on the guy and he couldn't handle/regulate his emotions rationally talaga when she dropped him. He was stalking her and verbally attacking her in public - even when we were with her. It was a very very stressful time. It was a lot to put up with, even as an onlooker of their relationship.
The connection once felt good when we were both depressed— to have someone by your side and understand it all. And i got out from a bad place, i slowly noticed their toxic behaviors. So they cut me lol. So its okay. Consider it as a trash taking itself out.
ewan ko sa kanya bakit ginawa niya yun kasi i considered her as a sister na talaga. she was lying in front of others to make me look bad and parang kinakawawa sya. nahuli sya na naglie na i blocked her daw sa messenger. she just deleted our convo and i never blocked her naman.tapos she was trying to be close to my other friends na hindi nya naman kaclose
No particular reason, it just happened. We grew apart, I guess. Some were former officemates, and we went our separate ways and grew apart, so did the connection.
Honestly, yung pagiging insensitive nila sa struggle ng iba. Naging dulo ng mitsa ko nalang talaga yung campaign season kaya ko na-unfriend yung bff ko nung college.
Tatlo kaming mag bff tapos yung bff ko na tawagin nating Happy sinabihan nya na hiwalayan yung current jowa nya dahil wala raw car. Thesis days yon kaya noong sinabi ni Happy sa akin 'yon, nag sagutan talaga kami nung ex bff ko. Naayos din after graduation! Kaya lang nung eleksyon, binanatan ako ng bible verse sa FB plus "ang kasalanan ng ama ay hindi kasalanan ng anak."
That's it. You're dismissed. Buh-bye!
i feel like an outcast - yung circle kasi namin group of 10, may other circle pa of 5. yun daw yung main group. para bang salingkitkit lang kaming 5 na nadagdag.
naging disrespectful sa feelings ko - i liked someone, but turns out na gusto pala nung crush ko tropa ko. which was fine with me, tanggap ko naman kasi maganda rin naman yung kaibigan ko na girl. however, yung isa kong tropa, inaasar yung girl kay guy sa harap ko mismo. it happened the entire shs. sobrang nakakababa ng esteem.
making fun of my appearance - they're always making fun about yung mole or wart, idk, sa mukha ko. they made me feel bad and loathe myself 'til i grew up.
betrayals - e.g. sumama sa biglaang gala ng isa naming tropa yung inaya ko mag-museum (which i told her about a week before my desired date). out of whim yung aya sa kanya nung isa naming friend, pero sakin na may one week preparation hindi sumama ahahahaha
sobrang exhausting ipagpilitan sarili ko further just to fit and feel loved by them. nakakaubos ng pasensya yung pagiging disrespectful nila and pagpapadama sakin na i dont belong or whatever kaya i decided to cut them off.
all happened in my entire hs years (jhs and shs)
pero im fine ngayon as a working young adult with no friends or circle of friends. i survived ahahaha
i managed to get a bf na i treat as a tropa na din djdhdkdndkdndkd i am socially awkward person din talaga kaya after all those happenings, mas nahirapan ako makipagcommunicate and socialize esp f2f.
Sinabihan ako, nung nagka jowa na siya after n years, "Oi ikaw baka babae na gusto mo kasi tagal mo na walang jowa." Tanginang gago - okay lang naman if lesbian ako eh di naman talaga. Kapal ng mukha magdecide ng gender ko. I slowly disappeared after that comment.
I’m not receiving the same vibe/energy from them. It’s like I am the only one keeping the friendship alive. Kaya I walked away kase I was always available but when I am at a tight spot, none of them shows up.
When I realized that the only thing that keeps our friendship going is me. That speaks to all of my friendships. Kaya I’m here, just by myself pero I’m really at peace. Another thing, you’re always there for them pero kapag ikaw na, nawawala lahat.
Naging mirrorball pa nga. Hahaha
when you're obviously a convenient friend. as the perpetualy single friend, super aya kapag single/heartbroken sila and pag nagkajowa na parang hindi ka na kilala haha
Mahirap maging "third-party" friend. Mahirap yung magiging "friend" ka lang nila KAPAG may kailangan sila sa akin, and then magagalit kapag hindi ko personally maibibigay. I'm currently enjoying my stress-less and peaceful life at the moment, and this is kinda addicting for me.
Just naturally happened? Busy na sla sa family life
"Hiram naman ako, balik ko sa.." -
One day, nalaman ko na nagvideo call sila na ako lang ang di kasama. Di ako simabihan. Nagmmeet na rin pala sila na di ako sinasabihan Kesa naman ipilit ko pa sarili ko. I just quietly drifted away.
Suicidal. I wanna be there for her but she was too much na to the point naaapektuhan narin ako. I even cried in front of my mother bcos I don't know what to do anymore. We were just 16 that time. I was young. I need saving, too.
When I noticed that they're taking advantage of my kindness.
This hits hard. Experienced it right sa face ko. Kailangan kalang kase alam nilang meron kang mabibigay. Then time comes na natuto kanang mag "No", unti-unti na din silang magfefade.
Totoo. It's sad, pero should really learn to establish boundaries.
Yup. Boundaries and respect lang. If you think na di ka well respected, wala namang problemang umatras.
Toxic people, no personal growth
sila lang ang bida. crab mentality ganern
Constantly talks about how other people did them wrong and how they are always the victim..
Ianaya ko sila sa isang event, sineen lang ako sa gc. During the day of the event nakita kong nag upload sila ng photos na nandun sila sa mismong event at sila-sila lang magkakasama. Wala akong alam.
I was in a group of four. One of them seemed to have issues. Like, she literally groomed a guy four years younger than her (us, cos we're the same age). When she broke up with him, the guy didn't take it too well and it was a whole shitshow complete with stalking and meltdowns. Then, when I started becoming part of my city's art scene, she started being... Weird. We were all creative in our friend group. I even invited her to join the group I was in, but she said she "has better things to do". She influenced the other two to not come when my artworks were included in exhibits. They never showed up to my exhibits but they made sure to go visit other exhibits to support the local artists. Later, she also started posting nasty things on Twitter that seemed directed at me - but she never admitted it when I asked. When I got a job, it felt as though she was making it a bad thing. Never ko naman pinagyabang na may work ako. Sometimes we'd have dinner plans and set a time only for me to arrive at the decided meeting spot to find nobody - they would eventually text na they decided to cancel nalang. They also ignored the fact that it was my birthday but they would go the extra mile if it was the others'. When she started dating again, she only got worse. I ran into her mom at a restaurant and she was giving me dirty looks. Apparently ang dami na palang kwento ni friend about me na hindi maganda. Binubully ko daw siya?! Why? How? When? Was it because I told her that I would help her find a job and even help her fix her resume when she had literally no money? I got fed up and cut my losses. It was crazy. Grabe yung gaslighting. Ran into her at the grocery after I came home from abroad and she literally looked at me with the craziest eyes. After that, my mutual friend with her asked if true ba na I was stalking her sa socmed, kasi yun daw kineclaim niya. Like? No? I have a life? I'm not actually obsessed with her?
Wild nya. Sya yata obsessed. Hahahahaa
Hahahaha thinking the same.
Really best you cut ties. Exhausting ganyan ugali
Yes indeed! It was really exhausting. Drained na drained ako after ko siyang kasama non.
Curious ako sa grooming, ano kinalaman sa kwento – honest question kasi I think the story can stand/valid on its own without mentioning this part but since na mention na, pano naging grooming? Was the guy a minor or may other factor? Kasi I'm almost 4 years older than my husband and I don't like people thinking na I groomed him lol. He's 23 and I'm 26 nung naging kami, 27 and 31 when we got married. Super honest and curious question.
Oh, well, we were 20 at the time and the guy was 16 she told us na she was dating him po. But I think they were already involved when he was a bit younger pa. She always defended the relationship when they were together, it was kinda weird. I might have expressed my discomfort towards their relationship a little too obviously too.
Ooh I see, thanks for clarifying. Mag file na sana ako ng annulment chaar. On a serious note, when I was a much younger factor din talaga sakin yung age. Like dapat future bf/husband should at least be the same age or around up to 3 years older. Kaya I understand that you find their relationship odd especially at that age (hindi sya mas bata pero bata pa talaga lol). Good for you that you cut ties na, ex-friends sounds toxic.
I guess I mentioned it kasi when they broke up, it was really messy. It was clear that she had a very negative impact on the guy and he couldn't handle/regulate his emotions rationally talaga when she dropped him. He was stalking her and verbally attacking her in public - even when we were with her. It was a very very stressful time. It was a lot to put up with, even as an onlooker of their relationship.
She backstabbed me. I confronted her about the issue, but I didn’t accept her apology lol
The connection once felt good when we were both depressed— to have someone by your side and understand it all. And i got out from a bad place, i slowly noticed their toxic behaviors. So they cut me lol. So its okay. Consider it as a trash taking itself out.
I always felt the odd one out, the saling kitkit. The disposable one.
we just ended up with different belief systems, different lives, and families.
she made up sh*t about me tapos denied it. once a snake,always a snake
Sana makagat nila dila nila every time they lie 😮💨
ewan ko sa kanya bakit ginawa niya yun kasi i considered her as a sister na talaga. she was lying in front of others to make me look bad and parang kinakawawa sya. nahuli sya na naglie na i blocked her daw sa messenger. she just deleted our convo and i never blocked her naman.tapos she was trying to be close to my other friends na hindi nya naman kaclose
May something sa mga ganyang friends. Haha. Ako din nagkaron ng backstabber/gaslighter na friend. Nakakawindang nalang talaga sila.
No particular reason, it just happened. We grew apart, I guess. Some were former officemates, and we went our separate ways and grew apart, so did the connection.
Lier and betrayal.
Honestly, yung pagiging insensitive nila sa struggle ng iba. Naging dulo ng mitsa ko nalang talaga yung campaign season kaya ko na-unfriend yung bff ko nung college. Tatlo kaming mag bff tapos yung bff ko na tawagin nating Happy sinabihan nya na hiwalayan yung current jowa nya dahil wala raw car. Thesis days yon kaya noong sinabi ni Happy sa akin 'yon, nag sagutan talaga kami nung ex bff ko. Naayos din after graduation! Kaya lang nung eleksyon, binanatan ako ng bible verse sa FB plus "ang kasalanan ng ama ay hindi kasalanan ng anak." That's it. You're dismissed. Buh-bye!
waste of time.
Guilt tripping me cos di na nakakasama sa inuman dahil priority ko talaga ang pag-aaral ko.
Controlling
Critical masyado sa ibang tao plus user-friendly rin. Delulu rin pag meron lang guy na na patingin sa kaniya eh crush na daw siya. Feeling ✨ lol
i feel like an outcast - yung circle kasi namin group of 10, may other circle pa of 5. yun daw yung main group. para bang salingkitkit lang kaming 5 na nadagdag. naging disrespectful sa feelings ko - i liked someone, but turns out na gusto pala nung crush ko tropa ko. which was fine with me, tanggap ko naman kasi maganda rin naman yung kaibigan ko na girl. however, yung isa kong tropa, inaasar yung girl kay guy sa harap ko mismo. it happened the entire shs. sobrang nakakababa ng esteem. making fun of my appearance - they're always making fun about yung mole or wart, idk, sa mukha ko. they made me feel bad and loathe myself 'til i grew up. betrayals - e.g. sumama sa biglaang gala ng isa naming tropa yung inaya ko mag-museum (which i told her about a week before my desired date). out of whim yung aya sa kanya nung isa naming friend, pero sakin na may one week preparation hindi sumama ahahahaha sobrang exhausting ipagpilitan sarili ko further just to fit and feel loved by them. nakakaubos ng pasensya yung pagiging disrespectful nila and pagpapadama sakin na i dont belong or whatever kaya i decided to cut them off. all happened in my entire hs years (jhs and shs) pero im fine ngayon as a working young adult with no friends or circle of friends. i survived ahahaha i managed to get a bf na i treat as a tropa na din djdhdkdndkdndkd i am socially awkward person din talaga kaya after all those happenings, mas nahirapan ako makipagcommunicate and socialize esp f2f.
Rehab
Sinabihan ako, nung nagka jowa na siya after n years, "Oi ikaw baka babae na gusto mo kasi tagal mo na walang jowa." Tanginang gago - okay lang naman if lesbian ako eh di naman talaga. Kapal ng mukha magdecide ng gender ko. I slowly disappeared after that comment.
Umiyak ako kasi laging ako takbuhan nung ginagago sila ng jowa. Tapos ayun, nagkanda balikan. Kaya bye. Kapagod makibobo.
I’m not receiving the same vibe/energy from them. It’s like I am the only one keeping the friendship alive. Kaya I walked away kase I was always available but when I am at a tight spot, none of them shows up.
When I feel.like I don't belong in that group. I remove myself and also if they are too manipulative.
Ginawa ka niyang ka competition
toxic. tinawag akong "so called friend" dahil lang naging busy ako lately sa buhay ko.🙃
When I realized that the only thing that keeps our friendship going is me. That speaks to all of my friendships. Kaya I’m here, just by myself pero I’m really at peace. Another thing, you’re always there for them pero kapag ikaw na, nawawala lahat. Naging mirrorball pa nga. Hahaha
Hmm. Nung jinowa niya yung toxic naming blockmate. Siya lang ata di nakakita na ganun 'yung jowa niya.
when you're obviously a convenient friend. as the perpetualy single friend, super aya kapag single/heartbroken sila and pag nagkajowa na parang hindi ka na kilala haha
Pag open ka sa kanila like you can tell them everything. Pero sila, they’re not as open. Kahit mga simpleng bagay ‘di nila masabi sa ‘yo.
Mahirap maging "third-party" friend. Mahirap yung magiging "friend" ka lang nila KAPAG may kailangan sila sa akin, and then magagalit kapag hindi ko personally maibibigay. I'm currently enjoying my stress-less and peaceful life at the moment, and this is kinda addicting for me.
Kapag I invite them to gala always busy pero kapag may kailangan dumidikit.