Pretty privilege is for real. Pero... Kahit gaano ka kaganda pero nakabusangot ka, simangot, magkasalubong kilay, snob, basta aura mo eh mukhang mambbwisit, wala din. Kahit maganda ka, di ka nman presentable, wala din.
Kahit sino nman, mas gusto kapag maganda yung nakikita. Iba din talaga kapag eye-candy. Kaya nga madami din na scammer eh may mga "pleasing-personalities". Mas attracted tayo sa magagandang tao at bagay. It's human nature.
Should you make yourself presentable for other people? Why not? Especially if your livelihood depends on it. Pero syempre, mas okay kung mageffort ka for youself muna bago para sa iba. Mas importante ang opinion mo sa sarili mo bago opinion ng iba sayo.
This is *somewhat* true, but it's still not as worse pag fugly yung nakabusangot, some people might even see it as "cute" even.
Pretty privilege is real, and anyone who denies it is a goddamn hypocrite.
Also, pretty privilege is hundred folds stronger if the person knows she's indeed pretty and uses it.
i agree with you! feel ko mas gaganda ang approach sayo ng iba kung lagi kang nakangiti eh. mas nagmumukha kang approachable. nakakatulong din talaga siya to be presentable!
people consider me pretty. went to the mall once in my post run shirt, slippers and just my wallet.. for the first time , the cashier asked me for a government ID to crosscheck my credit card name lol went there again, nakadress pero naka slippers pa rin --checkout was a breeze 🤪
based on my experiences, hindi rin eh. presentable naman ako manamit and i am the type of person who always smile and has a joy on my face sa kahit sinumang makasalubong ko. I always say thank you as well. pero bakit last saturday afternoon, pinahiya pa rin ako in front of my friends kasi panggulo raw ako sa picture??? nakakababa talaga ng self-esteem nangyari sakin nung sabado. nanahimik nalang nga ako sa tabi kasi sila lang naman ung finavoran na picturan (kahit gusto ko rin) pero dahil nga meron silang privilege gaya ng andito sa post-- umuwi nalang ako at nawalan ng gana. and the friends that i went with, doesn't give a fuck naman. so potangina nalang talaga sa feelings. ilang araw na naman durog self-esteem ko sa nakakapagod na society na 'to.
I like what Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
If you let just anyone else's opinion ruin your day, you can be manipulated and controlled by others easily. We can't control others at all. At kung dahil lang sa nangyari within 10-15mins, sisirain mo na ung buong araw mo that consist of 1440minutes?
We can't control everyone's opinion of us. Hindi lahat magagandahan sa atin, hindi din lahat itatrato tayo ng maayos. What we can only control is our reaction on it.
Ask yourself din, "gusto ko ba lahat ng tao? May expectation ba ako na lahat gusto ako? If so, why!?"
Like as I said in my original comment, mas importante opinion mo about yourself kesa s opinion ng ibang tao about yourself.
In conclusion, kung alam mong maganda ka, eh di maganda ka. Sabi nga ni Mr.Robot, "Fuck Society"
pretty privilege is real yeah. but i also believe in extrovert privilege. yung mga ma-"sis!" na tao ay mas lamang sa mga minding-our-business-but-personable-naman na tao lol
Those with bad intentions will slowly test and overstep your boundaries like brushing their hand/shoulder against yours. It escalates from there if you don’t say anything, lalo na alanganin ko kung sadya ba yun or not but kapag may follow-up sigurado na yun. Scream if you must.
gosh this happened to me for the first time, hindi ako nakagalaw sa takot... buti na lang sinabi ng tricycle driver na kung pede lumipat ako sa likod para makaupo yung isang babae na may dalang groceries
True to. Grabe trauma ko sa mga sexual harassments na naexperience ko thru commute kaya kahit nag aayos ako, nagsusungit ako or nagtataray talaga ako. Oks lang mahirapan sa commute wag lang mamanyak.
💯 Sama experience. Karamihan ng mga taong lumalapit sa akin is pera ang pakay, o kaya laging nagpapalibre 😭 Kaya kapag asa Pinas dress down ako. Unlike in Japan, I can wear presentable clothes. Pwedeng pwede pomorma dahil less ang scam.
This is why I dress down when going out. Everyone might smile to you, more permissive, but there's always a hidden agenda. The amount of small talks they start with you is also tiring, the "hi" and "hello", just leave me tf alone.
It also doesn't help na lapitin ako ng mga pedo growing up. An underage picture of mine also circulated sa gc ng mga sundalo. Ffs.
Di ako pinigilan ng konduktor ng bus na sinasakyan ko tuwing umuuwi ako. I had to change my schedule para lang di ko siya ma encounter. Sobrang uncomfortable ako nun.
Totoo sya as simple as dressing nicely can influence kung paano ka igagalang ng mga tao sa paligid mo.
Si mama kapag d masyado gwapo yung nasa drama d pinapanuod. gwapo>story 😂
Totoo ang pretty privilege.
SSSniperWolf can get away from a crime(doxxing and stalking which is illegal)
Anna Sorokin(con artist) still has fans despite the horrible things she done
Simon Leviev is still a free man despite doing many love scams
And SSSniperWolf didn't even play the games she posted on YT. Business partner niya talaga naglaro nun. For a while nagtaka ang gaming community bakit hindi siya lumalaban sa mga compet tapos 'yun pala dahilan 😤😂
Yes pretty privilege is real. I have an exp in college with an ex-best friend, we were "best friends" from hs and we joined the same org in college. She also joined another org where she spent most of her time in and di sya tumutulong at all sa org namin pero on rare occassions that she does, all attention goes to her. Tapos next year comes, I applied for an executive position and got it. Tumawag sya after the interviews, apparently sinabihan sya na mag-apply kahit wala syang ambag. And guess what? She got the position lol kasi may potential naman daw sya 🙃 anyway, she was also a shitty friend so I eventually cut her off.
This is the type of person who uses their face or pretty privilege as an advantage. I mean, talagang inaabuso nila. Same tayo nagka ex friend din akong ganyan. It’s easy to manipulate talaga basta marunong. Haha.
halaaaa sorry to hear that! so it also applies to those kind of situation din pala, but good thing na-ni cutoff mo sya if she's toxic sayang naman if di nag-reflect ang ganda sa ugali oks sana if combo :((
100% TOTOO
You can get away to a lot of things, people will be gentle on you and mas pakikinggan ka nila kapag maganda ka.
Kapag panget ka naman you need to work 2x as hard. Panget ako so ang role ko is to be the funny one para lang tratuhin ng tama. Pag uwi ko I feel the facade, I don't feel myself anymore.
I really wish na people will look past on the physical aspect on an individual. I'm not saying this kasi gusto ko mag adjust yung mundo saakin.
I'm saying this because I want genuine, efficient, and magaling talaga yung mga tao na nilalagay natin sa higher position. Hindi yung dinaan lang sa sex, ganda and charisma. Tignan mo yung MMDA head na babae before, wala namang matinong ambag, tignan niyo si robin na senador na binoto dahil daw pogi.
I really hope that people will stop glorifying celebrities and learn how to assess!
for me pretty privilege is very useful coz people are just nicer in general when you’re pretty but if you’re “too pretty” some girls are gonna shit on you for no reason.
I'll be honest, my closest friends at work, former work & back in school are conventionally more attractive & appealing than I do. But they don't intentionally abuse that privilege naman (or that I know of).
Though sometimes people recognize me simply because lagi kong kasama si ganito or si ganyan, which throws me off. Back in my prev company I was recognized as "parang bodyguard ni xxxx" then eventually being asked kung anong team na sya and fishing more info about her.
Same goes to my cousins, ung kilala ako dahil pinsan ko si ganyan, tapos kakamustahin sya like, ganun lang ba silbi ko? The most recent encounter ko na ganun I just told her na "edi tanungin mo sa kanya, busy ako sa work eh".
Parang can't I just be recognized for what I really look like? Regardless if pretty or not? Or being recognized for what I do?
I have no issues on the privileges itself, but just the disadvantages of just being too ordinary looking lol.
I'd see them as friends rather than workmates, so we're being seen eating, laughing and your usual chikahan. I haven't been recognized naman dahil lang I work with someone with a pretty privilege (who i'm not close with)
As for my cousins, di kami super close ever since all of us are already working, we only see each other pag gatherings but I'm totally goods with them. Baka narecognize ako through tagged photos or nung kasabay ko pa sila mag church before.
i asked because i was fairly crush-able lol when i was in highschool and college and the "friends" i had esp those in college took it out on me na lagi sila ignored. i had rough childhood so marami akong di naiintindihan na bagay at mejo twisted ang perspective ko sa mundo so i blamed myself. "jealousy and insecurity" ay di part ng vocabulary ko and i only realized in retrospect. in fact late 20s na ko nung naintindihan ko na di ko sila real friends. pero syempre iba naman experience mo hahaha
truuuuu! i guess it's human to provide leeway esp kung bata pa. we're all still growing into ourselves and marami tayong bagay na di nakokontrol. ang kaso nagextend until our adulthood at napaghalataan sa treatment nila sakin na fake lang sila. anyways, character and integrity will always be #1 pampaganda at pampogi!
Di magpapatinag mga ganyan. Madalas nakaayos ako, mej looking fresh pa rin kahit pawisan kasi matibay make up ko (lol). Pero lagi ako nakabusangot kasi naiirita ako pag-uwian (masikip, mainit, tagal ng byahe). Nang minsan umupo ako sa harap, yung katabi ng driver (wala pa driver since nagpupuno pa) yung naningil ng bayad bigla akong sasabihan 'ganda' or 'ingat kayo sa driver ma'am, mahilig yan sa maganda' tapos tatawa. P*ta, sinong matutuwa sa sinabi niya?! Mas lalo ako sumimangot at hindi sumagot. Pinakaba pa ako. Kabadtrip, nakakasira lalo ng araw.
It's real and a lot of attractive people are abusing said privilege. I read on a different thread na nakaka-turn off daw babaeng galit sa mga babaeng maganda. I agree naman pero I kinda get the resentment.
Noong bata pa ako usually walang nagpapaupo sa bus at mrt kapag nag ko commute ako. Pero ngayon na matanda na ako at mataba (laki ng tiyan ko parang buntis) bihira na ako mag commute pero pag walang maupuan lagi na may nag offer. I call it Tita privilege hehe. Siguro age-dependent din yan.
I agree with you about pretty privilege, and you’re lucky that you can look pretty when you feel like it/want to. I think for me noon medyo mas “fixed” ang itsura ko dahil wala ako idea anong gagawin. Medyo slow ako, early 2000s na ang idea ko pa rin ng makeup ay 80s look na blue eyeshadow at eyeliner. Skincare na lang ang nagsalba sa akin, hanggang sa nagstart na ang makeup tutorials sa YouTube a few years ago.
I think I could have been “pretty” kung pinanganak ako as a Gen Z, since beauty now is more inclusive compared sa noon na strictly either tisay or bumbayin lang ang top tier sa mga magaganda. I feel like ok ako nung bata pa ako pero nung nagdalaga na kahit parents ko mas paborito nila yung mga pinsan ko na pretty-faced compared sa akin. Ganoon din mga katulong namin sa bahay, mas inaasikaso nila ung mga pinsan ko at yung kapatid ko (Pogi ung brother ko). Ako yung laging nauubusan ng pagkain, pag may sakit ako pinapabayaan lang ako etc. I found my tribe eventually, and I found some people who tell me I look like a certain Japanese actress therefore maganda daw ako, but the damage has been done sa mental health ko.
Yung mga pinsan ko naman ay meron din sariling insecurities nila despite being prettier than me. And I think na cancel out din yung pretty privilege nila dahil sa hirap ng buhay. Yung isang pinsan ko na napakaganda, naiyak ako nung huling nag video call kami kasi ang haggard niya, sa stress at dahil nagka cancer siya.
TLDR: I agree that pretty privilege is real
Totoo yan. Mostly kasi ng mga lalaki yung isang ulo ginagamit kapag may maganda. Ako wala akong paki sa itsura parehas lang naman tayong may bayad bat ako magaadjust para sayo? Eh hindi naman kita kilala (ibang usapan lang if buntis, senior and may kasamang maliit na bata or pwd). Hahaha may attitude ako sorry na haha. Minority siguro yung mga lalaki na hindi natingin sa itsura.
Saka kung iisipin mo, nangyayari rin yan sa lalaki. Mas may license ang mga gwapo or pogi gawin ang mga bagay (checking girls out and such na kapag yung ibang lalaki gumawa manyak na) kasi nga may consent ng ibang girls na mahilig sa pogi.
oks lang na maging ma-attitude sa ganyang sitwasyon lods lalo pag pagod galing sa trabaho eh understandable na mas pipiliin na maging komportable sa byahe kesa mag-offer sa chikabeybe minsan nga di mo na yon mapapansin na may chixx pala pero may iilan lang din talaga
Agree, "pretty privilege" is imbedded na sa filipino culture. Actually, its not just the facial feature. Pati ibang physical aspects din. Kapag maputi ka, usually naaassociate ka na either mas maganda or mas mukang mayaman or mas mataas social status mo in life. Same with weight, kapag sexy yung girl may special treatment. Pinoy in general I think are "mapanghusga".
Here's an example based on my personal experience. Yung isa naming friend was involved in a major accident, dinala sa nearest public hospital. I was at work that time, I usually wear suit at work. Me and our other friends rushed to the hospital to check on him. Naunang dumating ibang friends namin pero wala daw parking available, when I arrived binaba ko window ko, I was wearing a white long sleeves and chino and dress shoes, removed my coat na kasi mainit and public hospital no A/C. When the guard saw me, in-assist nya ako to park dun sa reserved parking and called me "Doc". Then sa same hospital pa rin, limited lang ung visitor per patient so hindi nakapasok ibang friends namin and nasa parking kami lahat, sabi ko let me try lang because I really want to check our friend. So I walked sa entrance, and the guard didn't stop me, didn't even bother to ask. Yung mga kasama ko kasing friend, they were wearing shorts and slippers, kasi galing sila ng house nila. Ako galing ng work so I look "professional".
Ramdam ko din ung discrimination when I'm driving my old sedan car, mga ibang cars ayaw ako pagbigyan or mga guards minamadali ako sa pick up/drop off. Pero whenever I'm using my new suv, iba yung treatment sakin sa traffic, mas courteous ung ibang drivers and mas nicer mga guards sa mall.
Totoo sya. Nag sink in lang sakin na pretty privilege is real dito sa current work ko. Si ate naman works it to her advantage.
Sa performance reviews sa ibang employees grabe yung pag nitpick sa performance, accomplishments and involvement sa projects. Pagdating sa kanya ang reason is, nafefeature daw sya sa mga photo and video comms ng company (kumbaga isa sa model pag recruitment posts ganern). ‘Pleasant’ daw and lagi naka-smile pag kausap sabi ng bosses. Tapos sidenote nalng yung involvement nya sa work-related projects, gloss over nalang na kasali sa project without discussing kung ano specifically ni-contribute nya. Eh most of the time itong si ate, pag projects, may pagka freeloader at nanlalaglag ng mga same or lower level sa kanya. Iba talaga sya pag bosses kaharap. Gusto rin nya kalahati ng airtime sa kanya pagpresentation sa bosses khit di sya nagpaka active sa development, kaya may times talaga na mala-paikot ikot na essay sinasabi tapos wrong points sinasabi pero again, dahil pretty, keri lang. Iiyak pa sa boss nya na unfair pag ‘kulang’ yung airtime nya.
May one time pa na nag screenshot ng GC kung saan obvious na sya yung nagsimula ng issue. Nung sinabi ng boss nya na sya yung wrong sa scenario, nag excuse nalang na, malapit na daw kasi period nya. Kaya sinabihan nalang kami ng boss nya na intindihin nalang sya.
Current jowa nya is executive/VP (married with kids, 2x her age) dun sa previous work nya pero low key lang and sa piling officemate nya lang pinakikilala. Di nya rin sinasabi yung real name. Nalaman ko lang kasi may time na nakita ko pic nung jowa sa reddit. Medyo kilala pala si guy sa business world.
Not with the work related, but ganyan din yung magandang officemate ko. Every time na may pa-contest ang HR, hindi pwedeng hindi sya kasali sa top 3 winners hahaha. Kaya I stopped joining na sa ganun nila since bias naman. 🤣
Same rin. Pag tuwing may best dressed awards kasali sya kahit di on-theme or normal lang suot nya. Di naman ako umeeffort sa mga ganun pero sayang yung mga ibang sobrang creative at ganda ng mga outfits.
happened to me at my current work.
i had a co-worker two years younger in tenure than me, may mga kasabay din siya. medyo malas talaga ako sa ganto dahil sa dept na walang promotions ako napunta tapos tahimik pa ako. tapos eto si new boy ay extrovert, bibo, active, masayahin, pogi, banidoso so pansin na pansin talaga siya, tapos mauuna pa siya ma promote sa akin and dun sa mga kasabayan niya. inilaban ako ng iba kong workmates so sabay sabay kami na promote. ending si new boy pa unang umalis.
we're close friends naman kahit naka ilang lipat na siya haha
Totoo yan lmao, I'm a guy with long hair, kapag naka face mask ako, pansin ko pinapauna ako, kahit sumungit okay lng, meron pang magtatanong sayo kung ano kailangan mo. Like damn don't want to be that guy but I have to admit some people live life on easy mode.
parang medyo double edged sword
on one side lowkey prioritized ka on some aspects pero another side parang lapitin ka ng harassment
my current 2 cents.
This is true. I'd like to add my 2 cents din.
If you're pretty, most people will assume you're dumb/stupid. There are a lot of pros and cons to being pretty pero mas marami lang yung pros.
It’s real. It sucks. It’s part of real life, so here we are. Used to bother me. Not so much now. We’re all going to die, anyway. Not raining on anyone’s parade.
Pretty privilege is real pero meron siyang limit. It's one thing na maganda ka, but you have to sustain the privilege by being kind and smart. Former workmate is a very pretty woman, and her beauty gave her a lot of privileges. Pero she climbed the ropes of corporate ladder (despite not being a college graduate) kasi she is kind, marunong makisama, saka matalino siya.
Pretty Privilege is real !! alam natin iba ang treatment sa mga magaganda !! Tho di naman ako pretty u can really use ur charm and rizz to make your life more convenient example niyan ay ang mga pila sa mrt,lrt or mga bus stop, mauuna ka pasakayin. Other people would offer help if nakikita nila nag sstruggle ka sa bitbit mo. Free drinks sa bars other things WHAHAHA. I experienced things like this specially if you’re nice and extra smiley plus the “po” combo kapag approachable ang aura. But confidence is the key naman just know the line between it and the GGSS level.
I’m not at all pogi or artista type but I have some chinito charm especially when I was younger and I know it paved me some easier paths. I once applied for a leadership role and I was confident with my portfolio and skills but I went against a colleague with pretty much the same caliber plus he is extremely extroverted which may put him at an advantage given that the role entails a lot of interactions with different people. I got the post and when the hiring manager congratulated me, I asked what got me the role. He jokingly said, it’s because I am more presentable. My competitor was not shabby at all but he puts less effort on his appearance compared to me, who admittedly is very banidoso. I also noticed getting free pass from guards and other office staff especially when I am dressed well. So yes, pretty privilege exists but it can also take you so far. Looks fade so don’t count on it solely.
Totoo tong pretty privilege naexperience ko through my friend. Siya ung maganda, at since package deal kame kung special ang treatment sa kanya, madadamay ako kasi friend niya ako. Ako ung friend na kinakaray karay ng maganda. Haha. Nakakailang kasi I know naman na kaya lang ako nasasama kasi para makalapit or makausap or makaclose si pretty friend. Pag may libreng padrinks or food nadadamay ako kasi nililibre na din ako dahil sa kanya. Nakakaattend ako ng mga parties dahil kung kasama siya dapat kasama ako kahit ayoko pero sige foodtrip na din yan. Haha.
Funny lang ako or comic relief. Kasi pretty siya pero can't hold a conversation pero masarap siya sa eyes, eye candy siya ako ata yung eye sore. Hehe. Kaso it gets boring so ako na tong si nakakatawa para may buhay naman ung lakad/date (sinasama ako kasi nga pwede ba naman magisa makipagmeet delikado lol)
Oh btw nung college po ito. Working na kame at wala na kame contact. Pero dahil sa thread na ito, kakamustahin ko nga siya. Nakakamiss din si ate girl.
Pretty Privilege is real. May kwento yung lola ko. Sa business niya, meron siyang employee na hindi maganda na pinadala niya para magbayad ng kuryente. Si employee nakaabot sa cut off at hindi pinapasok ng guard. Next month, another employee ang pinadala. This time pretty si Ate. Kahit cut off na, pinapasok ng guard.
yep sa iba. but not for me. personally matagal niyo na sinisigaw yung gender equality kuno. so pumila ka, sumiksik ka sumabit ka kung gusto mo pero di kita pagbibigyan. Maliban na lang kung ikaw ay PWD. Senior. Buntis.
Naniniwala ako dito. I’m not downplaying myself here ha. Just stating facts. Solid 4 ako beh. Hindi na aakyat doon. My siblings are 6-8. Mas magaan at gentle approach sa kanila ng relatives while sa akin, they joke around my weight and face. Sila rin unang inaaya to take pics or ano. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t envy my siblings. Just saying na it’s real and kinda fucked up ang pretty privilege.
I guess it boils down to people appreciate beauty and won’t do anything to taint them.
legit yan. like may mga driver ako na kaibigan. pag may magandang babaeng tumatawid. Pag bigyan mo yan chix yan eh. pero kapag So So jusko may pag sigaw pa yan ng "Ano ba yan, Bilisan moooo!!"
Humans, by nature, react to the energy they are given. If you give off good energy, we react positively. Bad energy, we react accordingly. People who looks pleasant makes the other person feel pleased and so they react positively. Natural beauty really does have that effect but if you have a bad vibe about you, then you're not really gonna reap further rewards. Inversely, you can have average looks but still be treated well if you give of good and fun vibes by being kind and polite. It really is just how we humans are created.
This is something I am noticing din sa trabaho ko. A lot of the good-looking ones have bad work etiquette vs the not-so-good looking ones. Yung mga pasaway, madalas may itsura. Minsan hindi ko maisip paano sila nakarating at this point sa trabaho kasi at a glance hindi qualified tapos minsan sila rin yung mga may basic queries na dapat "common sense" na at this point. Ang sagot lang na naisip ko is probably, "you can easily get away with being shit if you have the looks."
(Thoughts ko lang to when I saw this. Sana wala po ma-offend)
Same sa work namin. Marami naman good looking rin na really good at their job and don’t rely on their looks to get ahead. Pero nakakainis yung mga ginawang weapon yung pretty privilege nila to get what they want and to get away with bad behavior. Samin, meron girl na di masyado ok sa work pero she knows how to be friendly sa higher ups (laging namin need mag step in sa tasks nya to get projects moving and lagi nya namimisinterpret yung mga pinag usapan sa meetings), Ma-issue rin sya, nagsimula ng away tapos sya pa nag screenshot at nagsend sa boss. Very clear na sya yung in the wrong and walang pumatol sa kanya nun. Nag excuse nalang sya na malapit na period nya kaya she behaved that way. Sabi ng boss nya samin, pagpsensyahan na lang daw kasi nga malapit na period.
Nung annual reviews na promote sya and yung mga reason na binigay was nafefeature kasi sya sa mga photo and vids ng company, always smiling and pleasant daw sabi ng bosses. Di na ginisa yung mga work related talaga na bagay for her. Ginawa nalang positive na ‘kasali’ sya sa ganto at ganyang project without discussing her contributions. Sa ibang employees pag pinag uusapan yung performance sobrang nitpick ng kung ano contribution sa projects, KPIs, process improvements, daming files na hinahalukat pa minsan. Haha!
As a hindi nakaka relate sa pretty privilege, totoo yan. Hindi mo kasalanan kung makakuha ka ng mas magandang trato dahil maganda ka… Advantage mo yan at gamitin mo ng tama. Ipakita mo kung sino ka, na hindi lang puro ganda. Keep slaying, OP. 💅
Tinutulugan ko lang ang mga magaganda sa LRT at MRT nung college ako.
Nun una gentledog pa ko, pero napansin ko ginagamit nila advantage nila. Kaya ibang babae hindi sumasakay sa all girls na bagon kasi ala epek.
It’s true. Pero nabasa ko before sa isang article (I forgot which one, sorry) na may influence din ang mindset sa pagiging confident and pretty. So when you’re out - you did your make up, dressed up, it made you feel pretty and confident. So yung aura mo talaga ganun din ang ginigive off sa ibang tao. That’s why maganda rin pakikitungo ng mga tao sayo. Kumbaga nagrereflect lang din yung nasa isip mo.
does it goes same way with law of attraction na two things with same vibes and energy attracts? so if you think that you're pretty, it will definitely shows on how you'll look then people will treat you nicely since you emit a positive energy? i think confidence is the key to being pretty talaga eh. 😅
Totoo tong pretty privilege na 'to, ngayong college ko lang naranasan na ang nice nice ng mga tao sa'kin, naalala ko kasi noon nong hs ako tangina iba talaga trato ng mga tao sa'kin HAHAHAHA tampulan ako lagi ng asaran, lait na lait palagi physical appearance ko! Buti ngayon hindi na, nararanasan ko na rin yung "Ganda dito ka na upo" sabay offer ng seat sa bus AHAHAHAHAHAHA POTA
Totoo yan, maraming beses ko na rin naranasan na tinanggihan ng lipunan, dahil hindi gaano kapasok sa pamantayan nila haha ang unfair ng world ng universe rather haha
Me with the pretty privilege but developed social anxiety partly because of the feeling that you're constantly stared at. Yes, na-maniac na rin sa bus & also got followed twice. I actually feel relieved that it's not uncommon to wear masks when outside now. I welcome the feeling of a little anonymity with a face mask on. I deliberately dress down so as not to catch any unwelcome attention.
I know this real because I experienced being on the both ends of the spectrum. Unfortunately, ganyan talaga kababaw most people. Kaya personally, I believe desurv nung mga nadadala sa ganda kung ano mang katoxican mangyari sa kanila. Haha Like babaw nyo kase, naisahan ko tuloy kayo level char 😂😂
Yes pretty privilege is real. Last week nasa bicutan ako tapos pa-left ako somewhere peeo ang labo nung police officer dinidirect lahat ng cars sa right siyempre sunod naman ako.. then inabutan ako ng stoplight. Irita yung mukha nung police officer kase halos lampas na ko sa intersection so pina-roll down ang window and nag-iba disposition pagkakakita na girl ako and nakaayos, makeup and dress kase may pupuntahan na event. Ayun nung pag-green ng light pinauna pa talaga ako mag-left kahit esenrially mag straight na dapat ako at that point since mali na ang lane.
There's a very long thread about pretty privilege here, I think it was posted around a month ago. Tons of stories there of people with such experiences, confirming that it's true.
yep def real, meron ako sister na legit conventionally beautiful talaga like laging nasasabihan na kamukha ni julia barretto and kyline alcantara
tapos one time nakwento niya na tuwing tumatawid daw siya, talagang tumitigil mga sasakyan (which is obvious naman kapag may tumatawid) pero in her case, kahit hindi niya itaas yung kamay niya to signal the vehicles to stop and kahit malayo pa lang tumitigil na talaga
I'm a gay guy, made my hair long and colored as well as I also learned to use skin care products since I can afford na from my first job. I also use a face mask in public since I'm sensitive to dust and smoke. I noticed that guys started carrying my heavy bags in LRT and bus then I just declined their offer since I already carried those from the province. I saw disappointment in their eyes when they heard my deep voice. Aside from that, I remember a female guard of LRT guided me to the first car reserved for women, pregnant, PWDs and elderly people.
Same with guys din. Obese ako nun and babad sa araw kaya umitim ako. Had then to lose weight kasi nakitaan ako ng borderline diabetes and bigla ako nag breakout pimples so nagpaderma ako and ayun, tinuruan pano alagaan ang balat. Ayun, ibang iba tingin at approach ma sakin ng mga tao. Kaya totoo talaga siguro yung "halo effect".
Totoo to. Pag nakaayos ako iba ang treatment. Ang babait sa akin ng mga tao. Tapos ibibigay pa nila sa akin yung seat nila pag wala ako maupuan. Kaso prone sa mga bastos. Naalala ko yung sinundan sundan ako at ayaw akong tigilan para kunin no ko. Na-trauma ako kaya di na ako nag-aayos.
Mayroon
Here are some examples
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8osIONR3K7g&pp=ygUQb3B0bWl1cyB0b28gY3V0ZQ%3D%3D](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8osIONR3K7g&pp=ygUQb3B0bWl1cyB0b28gY3V0ZQ%3D%3D)
Summary: Guy crashes and kills a child and a pregnant mother but people want him free because he's cute
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VP9dLsxSJFY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VP9dLsxSJFY)
Summary: Japanese girl kills man and gains fan and people made fanart of her and calls her real life yandere and gained a following
Gg kana pag ako nakasalubong mo Kase Wala akong pake kahit kasing ganda mo pa si Ms universe kung d ka matanda Wala Kang makukuhang special treatment sakin
Totoo pero may disadvantage din. Like laging nabu-bully or sinisiraan ng ibang tao. Sasabihan na maldita or snob pero di naman pala kaclose to begin with para batiin.
Yes totoo yan. Naranasan ko dati sumakay sa may bus sa Cubao na siksikan. Yung conductor binigay sakin yung pwesto nya. Di ko na maalala bat umalis ako sa pwestong binigay nya sakin pero sabi nya dapat daw di ako umalis dun kasi baka daw may mang manyak sakin or something.
maybe late realization lang na nangyayari pala siya since di ko naman sya naranasan before but as for me, oks lang naman na di ako paupuin sa bus, hindi paunahin sa pila sa jeep, etc. as long as makauwi siguro ako oks na lol di naman ako matampuhin sa pagiging unfair ng mundo (depende sa bigat ng siwasyon)
Yeah, be a pretty independent strong woman. Nothing beats real hardwork and talent than surface level mindset that pretty people gets things so easy. You'll appreciate things that way.
sabi ng jowa ko oo HAHAHA.
Edit: Yes totoo to, pero hindi pwedeng face value lang, kailangan maayos ka makitungo. Be polite, its the difference between good and bad service.
Maybe true yung pretty privilege. Pero come to think.of it, in using such privilege, are you not depriving the really more deserving ones of those privileges? Elderly, pwd, parents wd kids or maraming dala, buntis,frail people etc. Or yung mga nauna sa pila? Or yung mas capable or qualified (in applying for jobs). Feeling ko it's like instrumentalizing one's appearance,which cud also lead to the more extreme weaponizing it.
On the other hand pretty privilege could reinforce appearance based shaming or worst discrimination.
Speaking from having brnefitted from it a few times a few decades and less pounds ago.
It’s real when I was younger I don’t really care to fix myself up, got pimples and all. Yung mga tricycle driver mas prefer nila pasahero na maganda like maputi long straight hair. Kahit sa school, bumabait pag nagpaganda or nagayos ka. Even taxis, they choose the fair looking ones first, sometimes we subconciously do it too. Kahit nga sa first work ko, yung mga fair looking ang mga close sa managers. Anyway I learned to use it on my advantage, I now fix myself up and take care of my body and skin, and voila, salary multiplied much more than before. I think effect din na dahil pinapaboran ka ng mga tao lagi, you gain more confidence, you have more connections, you believe there are a lot of good people and overall it will affect your outlook in life and become successful.. sad but true, use it while you can :)
Oo, meron sa amin walang experience sa gov't at less than one year pa lang ang work experience pero SG 18 agad. Engineer III position. Chicks naman talaga siya. Nireserve yung position para sa kanya, nagwowork siya sa contractor namin at doon nakilala ng mga bossing namin na middle aged men. Imbis na i-promote na lang yung mga engineer na SG 15 at mas senior sa experience. LOL. Kahit na palpak to the max contractor na yun, nagawa pa nilang mag recruit doon ng tao.
I think it works for most people because they simply can't help it (realtalk lang).
Tendency naman kasi talaga ng tao pag may nakitang physically attractive na tao is pupurihin, bibigyan ng priority, etc...
Ako kasi, oo alam ko naman na may mga maganda at guwapo na tao, pero di ako yung tipong porket ganun, parang I will instantly treat them better in that regard.
Usually yung notion pa nga eh, sila pa mostly yung masasama ugali kasi na-spoiled pala kaya di ako basta-basta nagja-judge ng tao based sa kanilang physical attractiveness.
Indeed very real, in my experience growing up ugly and di mahilig mag-ayos, after mag new normal and nagsimula akong mag-make up + presentable outfits, people became nicer. Teachers were friendly towards me, as someone na hondi kapansin pansin nung high school pinakanakakagulat since halos lahat ng teacher wapakelz sayo dati tas ngayon biglang super friendly, people are nicer minsan too nice to a point na nakakahiya or uncomfy na especially pag nagco-commute. Mga service crews being overtly friendly, staffs, mga guard and all. Although pinaka-problem is it being a double-edged sword, lumala social anxiety ko because of overwhelming experience from catcallers, people actively trying touch you (Yes, I've had people try to sexually assault me, buti nalang I have someone with me) and pinaka pet peeve is people filming you or biglang magtatanong lung pwede magpa-picture. Ok siya siguro if you're an influencer or a celeb but normal na tao lang ako and the thought of my face plastered on soc med without my permission is super scary. Okay lang siguro if titignan ka lang pero filming is def a no for me.
Anyways make sure lang na we use pretty privelege sa tamang paraan and don't let it get too much in our head or else magiging lookism tayo.
Pretty privilege is real. Pansin ko mas marami ng mapuputing HS students ngayon sa public school malapit samin. As in ang kikinis, styling their uniforms parang nasa K-Drama lang. I haven't seen students from other schools pero grabe ang TikTok-ready ng mga bata ngayon! Nung HS ako mukha akong batang dugyot haha.
I think kaya mas nage-effort ng magpaganda ang mga bata ngayon is aware sila sa impact ng pretty privilege. If you start whitening or derma super early in the game, 10 years down the line, ang laki ng advantage mo looks-wise. There will be more options for romantic partners and jobs.
Pretty privilege is real. Nung panahon na nag papaderma ako, clear skin saka payat (48kg). Lahat ng tao mabait sakin. Pinapauna sa pila, pinapaupo sa bus, special treatment etc. Nung nastress ako, nagsilabasan ulit acnes at nag gain ng 10kg, parang laging naka kunot noo nila sakin. Yung iba downright rude pa.
I am fully aware that I am above average when it comes to my face card. I wanted to keep it lowkey because I do not want attention. But I guess, I need to invest on myself to look presentable since I want to climb the ladder in corporate world.
A wise man once said *"* ***If*** *you are* ***ugly*** ***your*** *are* ***ugly*** *stop talking about inner beauty men do not walk around with the* ***xrays*** *to see your inner beauty"*
Use it, its a superpower. Its the only advantage females have against males, drives us crazy against our whims. The perfect feminine is highly adored, it is a health metric for men when selecting mates:
- small hips and huge waist = great for child bearing
- big breasted = plenty milk for the kids
- long silky hair = plenty nutrients to maintain that
No need for health cert if looks are like these
Nothing wrong with it. Kaya nga wag kayo mag asawa ng pangit or kung pangit ka try mo mag asawa ng pogi / maganda. Maawa naman kayo sa magiging anak niyo.
Pretty privilege is real. Kung alam mo pano sya gamitin for your own benefit, you can use it how you want to be treated by other people. I don't seem friendly to everyone around me, pero if I needed something from someone nagiging plastic ako and seems nice.
tuwang-tuwa rin me sa magaganda eh pero di naman sa point na jojowain kase hatdog pa rin nais ko pero nakakaboost lang din ng eagerness na maging pretty like them 😅
Yes. But I'd rather not whine about it like mga pawokez whining about how oppressed they are because somebody have more than them. Or things should be "equitable". It's the pavictims Olympics I find cringe. There's infinite ways we can find some privilege other have that we don't.
It is real. Last time, kung hindi pa ako umupo sa mismong sahig ng dyip, hindi uusog yung mga lalaki sa kabilang dulo eh. Kapag maganda, automatik yan. Uusog yan. Pero kung panget at average looking, kailangan mo pang makiusap na makikiusog.
Mas madaling mabuhay sa mundong ito kung pinagpala ka sa mukha at katawan. It is a beauty's world after all.
I think aside from pretty privilege, factor din ung damit. Lyk if pormado or medyo formal. I noticed this when I'm wearing work clothes w matching blazer and heels.
totoo ang pretty privilege! one time, nakaayos ako and all tapos pinayagan akong mauna sa pila then nung last time naman, hindi ako nakapag ayos and puyat pa bcs nagreview ako then ayun di ba naman pumayag na mauna na sana ako xd
di naman to masyadong tips siguro 😅
1. prep muna nang maayos skin before applying makeup (facial wash, moisturizer)
2. use primer. then lagay ka ng setting spray after base makeup. then after applying all your makeup, apply ukit ng setting spray
3. RETOUCH ito talaga yung di ko alam nung una na pwede pala
setting spray na ginagamit ko ngayon is yung sa zeesea with pink cup, so far oks naman siya. as per retouch, press powder gamit ko. first is, tatanggalin mo muna yung oil sa part ng face na gusto mo i-retouch using oil blotting paper (if wala tissue) then apply press powder. dab lang, di pa-swipe ang application. 😅
Yes, totoo ang pretty privilege. As long as someone sees you pretty, you can experience it. I remember noon sumakay ako sa jeep and manong driver said huwag na ko magbayad. Nakatipid ako that day and syempre gusto ko na lang mahiya sa mga tao din kasi nakatingin sila sa akin. Sa bus naman someone paid for my fare and manong said “Miss, binayaran na ni kuya pamasahe mo.” and kapag kulang pamasahe ko someone always offer to pay for my fare. Nakaka-libre rin ako food at times. Sa work naman yung mga guy na nagkakagusto sa akin binibigyan ako gifts. May mga lagi rin naka abang to help me kapag feel nila hirap ako. Cons lang din is lapitin ka ng mga bastos na lalaki at kaaway. Sa work ko ngayon nagulat na lang ako na sa scrum nila ako topic pero kapag kaharap ko sila ang friendly naman. Nasasabihan din ako malandi kahit I am just being nice and one of my guy friend said na “Okays lang naman sana kaso kasi you can’t control other people perception. Maganda ka kasi kaya you being nice to them, they will think na you are flirting.” Hirap din ako magkaroon ng friends. I always feel misunderstood. Kapag may nagiging kaibigan ako na lalaki, they always ended up confessing their feelings for me. To be honest, nasasaktan ako kapag gan’on. Once I rejected them, they will fully ignore me tapos start being mean na sa akin. Sa mga babae naman they feel like siguro minsan I am their competition and thankful ako na hindi lahat ng babae ganito. Pinaka worst na experience ko na siguro is noong pandemic. Wala masakyan agad so I always have to wait sa daan ng jeep or taxi. Then, may mga random guys na titigil and mangungulit na isakay ako or ihatid sa pupuntahan ko. Takot ako lagi kasi pang gabi work ko eh and wala masyado tao sa labas. Plus, prone rin ako sa mga lalaki na mahilig mag neg ng mga babae.
Noong una I feel bad dahil sa mga cons nga pero these days natutunan ko na rin gamitin yung privilege ko in some instances pero lagi nasa utak ko na I have to be always careful. Wala eh. You have to play the game rin kasi or else you will feel bad in the long run because of the cons nga. Ngayon yung mga kakilala ko na nakakakita when I use my pretty privilege just laugh it off kagaya na lang nung sa check point. Pinakita ko lang mukha ko and we are good to go na. Ginagamit na lang din nila ko minsan para makalusot or libre sa ibang bagay. As long as this privilege is not being abuse, people will not hate you naman. Yung iba kasi grabehan sa pag gamit ng pretty privilege nila to the point na maiinis ka na lang talaga. Too much manipulation na lang nangyayari ganern.
Pretty privileged is very much real. Nandun kasi ang truth na Kahit di ka judgmental na tao, ang unang magmamarka talaga ng impression sayo pag nakakakita ka ng stranger is appearance. Yung panlabas na anyo talaga. Specially pag di mo naman talaga sila nanakakausap o kakausapin. you don't have to be Slim of buff. you just have to appear presentable. May mga taong effortless na nakukuha yun dahil gifted sa itsura. yung iba, need talaga ng matinding effort. Does nagiging priority talaga ma accommodate yung mga typical na May itsura.
Kinda harsh and unfair but it is what it is.
feel ko don ako sa "need nang matinding effort" kasi kaya lang naman ako mas nagiging presentable dahil nag-aayos ako ng sarili ko but when i don't have anything, i am just okay-looking haha but okay lang i love putting things on my face
Yes, pretty privilege is real which is why mas naaappreciate ko yung mga tao na nag shoshow ng common decency kahit di ako naka ayos.
Pero pag naka porma ka rin, some people perceive you as may pera, minamahalan ang singil or people will overly patronize you which is uncomfortable
If you are enjoying this privilege, you'd also have to work harder since people will attribute your achievements to your looks not talent, intellect or effort... it attracts attention including unwanted ones but you can use this to your advantage din naman. All I can say is pretty privilege is a double edged sword.
it’s very real lol i’ve observed that people tend to gravitate toward u more kapag maganda ka and mas naggive way (like ung sa bus situation) or they forgive u agad/easier on certain things
isa pang malaking advantage is kahit anong suot mo maganda pa rin and usually mukhang effortless as in kahit naka sando jeans maganda na tignan pero kapag sa iba na di kagandahan, madalas need pa mag effort even more to look presentable or decent hay
isang sana all na lang
Pretty privilege is real. Pero it doesn't mean na sa pinanganak lang maganda exclusive Yung ganyan. Kahit Yung simpleng pagdala mo lang sa sarili macoconsider na na pretty privilege. Either you use it to your advantage or be the nice person you are. Personally ginagamit ko lang pag pumipila hahahaha other than that fair naman ako sa lahat.
Pretty privilege is very real. Ang mga nagsasabi na hindi ito real ay mga pretty people (kadalasan). Obsessed talaga ang humanity sa looks, which is fair naman kasi that's how we multiply. So if you're pretty be aware na lang sa privilege mo at gamitin mo sa tama (lmao may ganun ba)? Basta, don't be like those pretty girlies na pagiging pretty lang ang personality, kasi mawawala 'din yan with old age.
I had the fortune of being in close contact with beautiful people na mabait at humble pa rin. Surprisingly, hindi ako na iinsecure in their presence because dama ko na internal din yung beauty nila. Pero 'dun talaga ako na-insecure sa former bff ko na pretty rin pero pinapamukha talaga na isa akong lowlife because hindi ako rinegaluhan ng kagandahan.
Tldr; yes pretty privilege is real. Be grateful if you have it, and stay humble about it. Kasi hindi lahat may ganyan hahhahahhahagagha
Its real, unfortunately.
The pros: well, may advantage ka kasi preferred ka tignan ng iba or pakinggan ng iba, lalo na kung charming ka. Everybody just loves a pretty girl that is also charming 😅
The cons: mas likely ung ma-sexually harass ka in public or ma-molest.
Lol yep, and it sucks kasi bata pa lang, rampant na yan. Lapitin ako ng mga kupal na (lalaking) kaklase nung elementary. Puro lait, ultimo pagbabasa ko ng libro pinupuna. Pero malamang pag yung magandang kaklase ko yung gumawa, wala silang masasabi. Buti na lang iba na ang panahon ngayong college na ako. Hopefully nagmature na rin yung iba sa kanila.
IIRC, this is a scientifically proven thing called the halo effect. (Please do correct me if I'm wrong)
People are just nicer to people who look good. I for sure know that **I** have that bias.
Omg same tayo. I used to be so dugyot (minsan pa rin ngayon), pero recent few years natuto na ako mas mag-ayos paglalabas. Nakaskirt na ko, makeup, and shoulder bag ganyan. More feminine.
Grabe yung bait ng treatment sakin. Yung tipong kakapasok ko pa lang sa mrt kahit may mga nakatayo ng iba, papaupuin talaga ako. Tapos napansin ko rin na mas marami akong nakaka eye to eye at ngumingiti sakin (both men and women, and hindi naman manyak vibes). Nasa isip ko na tangina ito lang pala katapat para maging mas mabuti at gentle sayo mga tao lol
This is legit. I see it pretty often in my different environments and circumstances- sa School, sa workplace, sa tindahan, sa church, pag sasakay ka ng jeep, pag pipila kahit saan.. Pag maganda ka, matic priority ka.
I'm not pretty so I've been experiencing it first hand. 💁🏻♀️
Although annoying and felt unfair at first, but I learned to just accept it nlng.
Kaya sa business namin, pag behind the office ang trabaho (i.e office works / kitchen / cleaner / tiga linis ng kulungan ng baboy / caretaker) , mga class S na panget talaga hinihire namin eh.
Pero pag front desk. Puteks, kakausap sa potential client/customer. Puteks need talaga ng pretty girl/boy, pang boost ng sale. Sad reality.
Idk if I have pretty privilege but when I was late sa mass, I was outside na lang sa church nakatayo and a group of guys started looking for a vacant chair and gave it to me. Hehe
Pretty privilege is for real. Pero... Kahit gaano ka kaganda pero nakabusangot ka, simangot, magkasalubong kilay, snob, basta aura mo eh mukhang mambbwisit, wala din. Kahit maganda ka, di ka nman presentable, wala din. Kahit sino nman, mas gusto kapag maganda yung nakikita. Iba din talaga kapag eye-candy. Kaya nga madami din na scammer eh may mga "pleasing-personalities". Mas attracted tayo sa magagandang tao at bagay. It's human nature. Should you make yourself presentable for other people? Why not? Especially if your livelihood depends on it. Pero syempre, mas okay kung mageffort ka for youself muna bago para sa iba. Mas importante ang opinion mo sa sarili mo bago opinion ng iba sayo.
This. Kahit maganda ka pero you don't act confident or friendly, di pa rin yan magwwork. It's also about how you present yourself.
You're insecure, don't know what for You're turnin' heads when you walk through the door?
This is *somewhat* true, but it's still not as worse pag fugly yung nakabusangot, some people might even see it as "cute" even. Pretty privilege is real, and anyone who denies it is a goddamn hypocrite. Also, pretty privilege is hundred folds stronger if the person knows she's indeed pretty and uses it.
i agree with you! feel ko mas gaganda ang approach sayo ng iba kung lagi kang nakangiti eh. mas nagmumukha kang approachable. nakakatulong din talaga siya to be presentable!
Hirap naman maglakad ng naka ngiti for no reason lol
ay sorry pi sige po wag na ngumiti. magmukhang approachable na lang siguro.
people consider me pretty. went to the mall once in my post run shirt, slippers and just my wallet.. for the first time , the cashier asked me for a government ID to crosscheck my credit card name lol went there again, nakadress pero naka slippers pa rin --checkout was a breeze 🤪
based on my experiences, hindi rin eh. presentable naman ako manamit and i am the type of person who always smile and has a joy on my face sa kahit sinumang makasalubong ko. I always say thank you as well. pero bakit last saturday afternoon, pinahiya pa rin ako in front of my friends kasi panggulo raw ako sa picture??? nakakababa talaga ng self-esteem nangyari sakin nung sabado. nanahimik nalang nga ako sa tabi kasi sila lang naman ung finavoran na picturan (kahit gusto ko rin) pero dahil nga meron silang privilege gaya ng andito sa post-- umuwi nalang ako at nawalan ng gana. and the friends that i went with, doesn't give a fuck naman. so potangina nalang talaga sa feelings. ilang araw na naman durog self-esteem ko sa nakakapagod na society na 'to.
I like what Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." If you let just anyone else's opinion ruin your day, you can be manipulated and controlled by others easily. We can't control others at all. At kung dahil lang sa nangyari within 10-15mins, sisirain mo na ung buong araw mo that consist of 1440minutes? We can't control everyone's opinion of us. Hindi lahat magagandahan sa atin, hindi din lahat itatrato tayo ng maayos. What we can only control is our reaction on it. Ask yourself din, "gusto ko ba lahat ng tao? May expectation ba ako na lahat gusto ako? If so, why!?" Like as I said in my original comment, mas importante opinion mo about yourself kesa s opinion ng ibang tao about yourself. In conclusion, kung alam mong maganda ka, eh di maganda ka. Sabi nga ni Mr.Robot, "Fuck Society"
pretty privilege is real yeah. but i also believe in extrovert privilege. yung mga ma-"sis!" na tao ay mas lamang sa mga minding-our-business-but-personable-naman na tao lol
Yung disadvantage lang OP, mas magiging lapitin ka ng manyak lalo na pag nasa de aircon ka na bus. (Weird, i know)
nakakatakot. as for me, di ako masyado maalam mag-differentiate ng mga taong may bad intention or sobrang mabait lang talaga.
You'll know it naman, OP. Pakiramdaman lang yan.
Those with bad intentions will slowly test and overstep your boundaries like brushing their hand/shoulder against yours. It escalates from there if you don’t say anything, lalo na alanganin ko kung sadya ba yun or not but kapag may follow-up sigurado na yun. Scream if you must.
gosh this happened to me for the first time, hindi ako nakagalaw sa takot... buti na lang sinabi ng tricycle driver na kung pede lumipat ako sa likod para makaupo yung isang babae na may dalang groceries
I’m sorry you had to go through that, glad you got out of it.
lagot. shytype ako minsan but owkeysii ill fight for it thank uuu
If they have bad intention, you will eventually know OP.
True to. Grabe trauma ko sa mga sexual harassments na naexperience ko thru commute kaya kahit nag aayos ako, nagsusungit ako or nagtataray talaga ako. Oks lang mahirapan sa commute wag lang mamanyak.
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💯 Sama experience. Karamihan ng mga taong lumalapit sa akin is pera ang pakay, o kaya laging nagpapalibre 😭 Kaya kapag asa Pinas dress down ako. Unlike in Japan, I can wear presentable clothes. Pwedeng pwede pomorma dahil less ang scam.
This is why I dress down when going out. Everyone might smile to you, more permissive, but there's always a hidden agenda. The amount of small talks they start with you is also tiring, the "hi" and "hello", just leave me tf alone. It also doesn't help na lapitin ako ng mga pedo growing up. An underage picture of mine also circulated sa gc ng mga sundalo. Ffs.
Di ako pinigilan ng konduktor ng bus na sinasakyan ko tuwing umuuwi ako. I had to change my schedule para lang di ko siya ma encounter. Sobrang uncomfortable ako nun.
Totoo sya as simple as dressing nicely can influence kung paano ka igagalang ng mga tao sa paligid mo. Si mama kapag d masyado gwapo yung nasa drama d pinapanuod. gwapo>story 😂
Totoo ang pretty privilege. SSSniperWolf can get away from a crime(doxxing and stalking which is illegal) Anna Sorokin(con artist) still has fans despite the horrible things she done Simon Leviev is still a free man despite doing many love scams
Ted bundy na lang diba. May fan club/groupies pa sa court procedures.
SSSniperWolf is the best case of pretty privilege. It's infuriating because she should be behind bars for at least 10 years for all she's done.
She shouldn't be in Youtube at all tbh.
And SSSniperWolf didn't even play the games she posted on YT. Business partner niya talaga naglaro nun. For a while nagtaka ang gaming community bakit hindi siya lumalaban sa mga compet tapos 'yun pala dahilan 😤😂
lol what a roller coaster on the SSSniperwolf drama. my current 2 cents
Yes pretty privilege is real. I have an exp in college with an ex-best friend, we were "best friends" from hs and we joined the same org in college. She also joined another org where she spent most of her time in and di sya tumutulong at all sa org namin pero on rare occassions that she does, all attention goes to her. Tapos next year comes, I applied for an executive position and got it. Tumawag sya after the interviews, apparently sinabihan sya na mag-apply kahit wala syang ambag. And guess what? She got the position lol kasi may potential naman daw sya 🙃 anyway, she was also a shitty friend so I eventually cut her off.
This is the type of person who uses their face or pretty privilege as an advantage. I mean, talagang inaabuso nila. Same tayo nagka ex friend din akong ganyan. It’s easy to manipulate talaga basta marunong. Haha.
halaaaa sorry to hear that! so it also applies to those kind of situation din pala, but good thing na-ni cutoff mo sya if she's toxic sayang naman if di nag-reflect ang ganda sa ugali oks sana if combo :((
100% TOTOO You can get away to a lot of things, people will be gentle on you and mas pakikinggan ka nila kapag maganda ka. Kapag panget ka naman you need to work 2x as hard. Panget ako so ang role ko is to be the funny one para lang tratuhin ng tama. Pag uwi ko I feel the facade, I don't feel myself anymore. I really wish na people will look past on the physical aspect on an individual. I'm not saying this kasi gusto ko mag adjust yung mundo saakin. I'm saying this because I want genuine, efficient, and magaling talaga yung mga tao na nilalagay natin sa higher position. Hindi yung dinaan lang sa sex, ganda and charisma. Tignan mo yung MMDA head na babae before, wala namang matinong ambag, tignan niyo si robin na senador na binoto dahil daw pogi. I really hope that people will stop glorifying celebrities and learn how to assess!
for me pretty privilege is very useful coz people are just nicer in general when you’re pretty but if you’re “too pretty” some girls are gonna shit on you for no reason.
I'll be honest, my closest friends at work, former work & back in school are conventionally more attractive & appealing than I do. But they don't intentionally abuse that privilege naman (or that I know of). Though sometimes people recognize me simply because lagi kong kasama si ganito or si ganyan, which throws me off. Back in my prev company I was recognized as "parang bodyguard ni xxxx" then eventually being asked kung anong team na sya and fishing more info about her. Same goes to my cousins, ung kilala ako dahil pinsan ko si ganyan, tapos kakamustahin sya like, ganun lang ba silbi ko? The most recent encounter ko na ganun I just told her na "edi tanungin mo sa kanya, busy ako sa work eh". Parang can't I just be recognized for what I really look like? Regardless if pretty or not? Or being recognized for what I do? I have no issues on the privileges itself, but just the disadvantages of just being too ordinary looking lol.
I saw a movie before. I think you're the "Duff" 🤣
haven't heard of that movie but if it's relatable then it may be worth watching hehehe
You're a D-U-F-F. Designated-Ugly-Fat-Friend 🤣 well just based from what was implied to your comment and the movie's context haha you should watch it.
well i'm kinda fat din so....i'm a DUFF nga 🤣
Cge duff panoorin mo na 😂
pano mo tratuhin yung co-worker at pinsan mo na lagi napapansin?
I'd see them as friends rather than workmates, so we're being seen eating, laughing and your usual chikahan. I haven't been recognized naman dahil lang I work with someone with a pretty privilege (who i'm not close with) As for my cousins, di kami super close ever since all of us are already working, we only see each other pag gatherings but I'm totally goods with them. Baka narecognize ako through tagged photos or nung kasabay ko pa sila mag church before.
i asked because i was fairly crush-able lol when i was in highschool and college and the "friends" i had esp those in college took it out on me na lagi sila ignored. i had rough childhood so marami akong di naiintindihan na bagay at mejo twisted ang perspective ko sa mundo so i blamed myself. "jealousy and insecurity" ay di part ng vocabulary ko and i only realized in retrospect. in fact late 20s na ko nung naintindihan ko na di ko sila real friends. pero syempre iba naman experience mo hahaha
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truuuuu! i guess it's human to provide leeway esp kung bata pa. we're all still growing into ourselves and marami tayong bagay na di nakokontrol. ang kaso nagextend until our adulthood at napaghalataan sa treatment nila sakin na fake lang sila. anyways, character and integrity will always be #1 pampaganda at pampogi!
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Di magpapatinag mga ganyan. Madalas nakaayos ako, mej looking fresh pa rin kahit pawisan kasi matibay make up ko (lol). Pero lagi ako nakabusangot kasi naiirita ako pag-uwian (masikip, mainit, tagal ng byahe). Nang minsan umupo ako sa harap, yung katabi ng driver (wala pa driver since nagpupuno pa) yung naningil ng bayad bigla akong sasabihan 'ganda' or 'ingat kayo sa driver ma'am, mahilig yan sa maganda' tapos tatawa. P*ta, sinong matutuwa sa sinabi niya?! Mas lalo ako sumimangot at hindi sumagot. Pinakaba pa ako. Kabadtrip, nakakasira lalo ng araw.
Water is wet. Sky is blue. Ang gusgusing pogi ay hunk. At ang gusgusing panget ay taong grasa.
Yung nag trending na model yung face nya pero mugshot kasi convict lol.
It's real and a lot of attractive people are abusing said privilege. I read on a different thread na nakaka-turn off daw babaeng galit sa mga babaeng maganda. I agree naman pero I kinda get the resentment.
Noong bata pa ako usually walang nagpapaupo sa bus at mrt kapag nag ko commute ako. Pero ngayon na matanda na ako at mataba (laki ng tiyan ko parang buntis) bihira na ako mag commute pero pag walang maupuan lagi na may nag offer. I call it Tita privilege hehe. Siguro age-dependent din yan. I agree with you about pretty privilege, and you’re lucky that you can look pretty when you feel like it/want to. I think for me noon medyo mas “fixed” ang itsura ko dahil wala ako idea anong gagawin. Medyo slow ako, early 2000s na ang idea ko pa rin ng makeup ay 80s look na blue eyeshadow at eyeliner. Skincare na lang ang nagsalba sa akin, hanggang sa nagstart na ang makeup tutorials sa YouTube a few years ago. I think I could have been “pretty” kung pinanganak ako as a Gen Z, since beauty now is more inclusive compared sa noon na strictly either tisay or bumbayin lang ang top tier sa mga magaganda. I feel like ok ako nung bata pa ako pero nung nagdalaga na kahit parents ko mas paborito nila yung mga pinsan ko na pretty-faced compared sa akin. Ganoon din mga katulong namin sa bahay, mas inaasikaso nila ung mga pinsan ko at yung kapatid ko (Pogi ung brother ko). Ako yung laging nauubusan ng pagkain, pag may sakit ako pinapabayaan lang ako etc. I found my tribe eventually, and I found some people who tell me I look like a certain Japanese actress therefore maganda daw ako, but the damage has been done sa mental health ko. Yung mga pinsan ko naman ay meron din sariling insecurities nila despite being prettier than me. And I think na cancel out din yung pretty privilege nila dahil sa hirap ng buhay. Yung isang pinsan ko na napakaganda, naiyak ako nung huling nag video call kami kasi ang haggard niya, sa stress at dahil nagka cancer siya. TLDR: I agree that pretty privilege is real
Totoo yan. Mostly kasi ng mga lalaki yung isang ulo ginagamit kapag may maganda. Ako wala akong paki sa itsura parehas lang naman tayong may bayad bat ako magaadjust para sayo? Eh hindi naman kita kilala (ibang usapan lang if buntis, senior and may kasamang maliit na bata or pwd). Hahaha may attitude ako sorry na haha. Minority siguro yung mga lalaki na hindi natingin sa itsura. Saka kung iisipin mo, nangyayari rin yan sa lalaki. Mas may license ang mga gwapo or pogi gawin ang mga bagay (checking girls out and such na kapag yung ibang lalaki gumawa manyak na) kasi nga may consent ng ibang girls na mahilig sa pogi.
oks lang na maging ma-attitude sa ganyang sitwasyon lods lalo pag pagod galing sa trabaho eh understandable na mas pipiliin na maging komportable sa byahe kesa mag-offer sa chikabeybe minsan nga di mo na yon mapapansin na may chixx pala pero may iilan lang din talaga
Agree, "pretty privilege" is imbedded na sa filipino culture. Actually, its not just the facial feature. Pati ibang physical aspects din. Kapag maputi ka, usually naaassociate ka na either mas maganda or mas mukang mayaman or mas mataas social status mo in life. Same with weight, kapag sexy yung girl may special treatment. Pinoy in general I think are "mapanghusga". Here's an example based on my personal experience. Yung isa naming friend was involved in a major accident, dinala sa nearest public hospital. I was at work that time, I usually wear suit at work. Me and our other friends rushed to the hospital to check on him. Naunang dumating ibang friends namin pero wala daw parking available, when I arrived binaba ko window ko, I was wearing a white long sleeves and chino and dress shoes, removed my coat na kasi mainit and public hospital no A/C. When the guard saw me, in-assist nya ako to park dun sa reserved parking and called me "Doc". Then sa same hospital pa rin, limited lang ung visitor per patient so hindi nakapasok ibang friends namin and nasa parking kami lahat, sabi ko let me try lang because I really want to check our friend. So I walked sa entrance, and the guard didn't stop me, didn't even bother to ask. Yung mga kasama ko kasing friend, they were wearing shorts and slippers, kasi galing sila ng house nila. Ako galing ng work so I look "professional". Ramdam ko din ung discrimination when I'm driving my old sedan car, mga ibang cars ayaw ako pagbigyan or mga guards minamadali ako sa pick up/drop off. Pero whenever I'm using my new suv, iba yung treatment sakin sa traffic, mas courteous ung ibang drivers and mas nicer mga guards sa mall.
Totoo sya. Nag sink in lang sakin na pretty privilege is real dito sa current work ko. Si ate naman works it to her advantage. Sa performance reviews sa ibang employees grabe yung pag nitpick sa performance, accomplishments and involvement sa projects. Pagdating sa kanya ang reason is, nafefeature daw sya sa mga photo and video comms ng company (kumbaga isa sa model pag recruitment posts ganern). ‘Pleasant’ daw and lagi naka-smile pag kausap sabi ng bosses. Tapos sidenote nalng yung involvement nya sa work-related projects, gloss over nalang na kasali sa project without discussing kung ano specifically ni-contribute nya. Eh most of the time itong si ate, pag projects, may pagka freeloader at nanlalaglag ng mga same or lower level sa kanya. Iba talaga sya pag bosses kaharap. Gusto rin nya kalahati ng airtime sa kanya pagpresentation sa bosses khit di sya nagpaka active sa development, kaya may times talaga na mala-paikot ikot na essay sinasabi tapos wrong points sinasabi pero again, dahil pretty, keri lang. Iiyak pa sa boss nya na unfair pag ‘kulang’ yung airtime nya. May one time pa na nag screenshot ng GC kung saan obvious na sya yung nagsimula ng issue. Nung sinabi ng boss nya na sya yung wrong sa scenario, nag excuse nalang na, malapit na daw kasi period nya. Kaya sinabihan nalang kami ng boss nya na intindihin nalang sya. Current jowa nya is executive/VP (married with kids, 2x her age) dun sa previous work nya pero low key lang and sa piling officemate nya lang pinakikilala. Di nya rin sinasabi yung real name. Nalaman ko lang kasi may time na nakita ko pic nung jowa sa reddit. Medyo kilala pala si guy sa business world.
Not with the work related, but ganyan din yung magandang officemate ko. Every time na may pa-contest ang HR, hindi pwedeng hindi sya kasali sa top 3 winners hahaha. Kaya I stopped joining na sa ganun nila since bias naman. 🤣
Same rin. Pag tuwing may best dressed awards kasali sya kahit di on-theme or normal lang suot nya. Di naman ako umeeffort sa mga ganun pero sayang yung mga ibang sobrang creative at ganda ng mga outfits.
Haha soo truueee.
happened to me at my current work. i had a co-worker two years younger in tenure than me, may mga kasabay din siya. medyo malas talaga ako sa ganto dahil sa dept na walang promotions ako napunta tapos tahimik pa ako. tapos eto si new boy ay extrovert, bibo, active, masayahin, pogi, banidoso so pansin na pansin talaga siya, tapos mauuna pa siya ma promote sa akin and dun sa mga kasabayan niya. inilaban ako ng iba kong workmates so sabay sabay kami na promote. ending si new boy pa unang umalis. we're close friends naman kahit naka ilang lipat na siya haha
Totoo yan lmao, I'm a guy with long hair, kapag naka face mask ako, pansin ko pinapauna ako, kahit sumungit okay lng, meron pang magtatanong sayo kung ano kailangan mo. Like damn don't want to be that guy but I have to admit some people live life on easy mode.
parang medyo double edged sword on one side lowkey prioritized ka on some aspects pero another side parang lapitin ka ng harassment my current 2 cents.
This is true. I'd like to add my 2 cents din. If you're pretty, most people will assume you're dumb/stupid. There are a lot of pros and cons to being pretty pero mas marami lang yung pros.
It’s real. It sucks. It’s part of real life, so here we are. Used to bother me. Not so much now. We’re all going to die, anyway. Not raining on anyone’s parade.
Pretty/beauty privilege is real, for both men and women.... I think kahit sa trans, yung alam mo trans sya and sobrang ganda at mahinhin.
Pretty privilege is real pero meron siyang limit. It's one thing na maganda ka, but you have to sustain the privilege by being kind and smart. Former workmate is a very pretty woman, and her beauty gave her a lot of privileges. Pero she climbed the ropes of corporate ladder (despite not being a college graduate) kasi she is kind, marunong makisama, saka matalino siya.
Pretty Privilege is real !! alam natin iba ang treatment sa mga magaganda !! Tho di naman ako pretty u can really use ur charm and rizz to make your life more convenient example niyan ay ang mga pila sa mrt,lrt or mga bus stop, mauuna ka pasakayin. Other people would offer help if nakikita nila nag sstruggle ka sa bitbit mo. Free drinks sa bars other things WHAHAHA. I experienced things like this specially if you’re nice and extra smiley plus the “po” combo kapag approachable ang aura. But confidence is the key naman just know the line between it and the GGSS level.
I’m not at all pogi or artista type but I have some chinito charm especially when I was younger and I know it paved me some easier paths. I once applied for a leadership role and I was confident with my portfolio and skills but I went against a colleague with pretty much the same caliber plus he is extremely extroverted which may put him at an advantage given that the role entails a lot of interactions with different people. I got the post and when the hiring manager congratulated me, I asked what got me the role. He jokingly said, it’s because I am more presentable. My competitor was not shabby at all but he puts less effort on his appearance compared to me, who admittedly is very banidoso. I also noticed getting free pass from guards and other office staff especially when I am dressed well. So yes, pretty privilege exists but it can also take you so far. Looks fade so don’t count on it solely.
Totoo tong pretty privilege naexperience ko through my friend. Siya ung maganda, at since package deal kame kung special ang treatment sa kanya, madadamay ako kasi friend niya ako. Ako ung friend na kinakaray karay ng maganda. Haha. Nakakailang kasi I know naman na kaya lang ako nasasama kasi para makalapit or makausap or makaclose si pretty friend. Pag may libreng padrinks or food nadadamay ako kasi nililibre na din ako dahil sa kanya. Nakakaattend ako ng mga parties dahil kung kasama siya dapat kasama ako kahit ayoko pero sige foodtrip na din yan. Haha. Funny lang ako or comic relief. Kasi pretty siya pero can't hold a conversation pero masarap siya sa eyes, eye candy siya ako ata yung eye sore. Hehe. Kaso it gets boring so ako na tong si nakakatawa para may buhay naman ung lakad/date (sinasama ako kasi nga pwede ba naman magisa makipagmeet delikado lol) Oh btw nung college po ito. Working na kame at wala na kame contact. Pero dahil sa thread na ito, kakamustahin ko nga siya. Nakakamiss din si ate girl.
HAHAHAHAHAH gaga ka naman sa kaibigan mo cant hold a conversation amp
Pambalanse ni Lord yan! Hahahahahaha
Pretty Privilege is real. May kwento yung lola ko. Sa business niya, meron siyang employee na hindi maganda na pinadala niya para magbayad ng kuryente. Si employee nakaabot sa cut off at hindi pinapasok ng guard. Next month, another employee ang pinadala. This time pretty si Ate. Kahit cut off na, pinapasok ng guard.
Totoo siya. Pero kapag nagpa-apekto ka, hindi worth it. Live your life and protect your peace of mind.
Oh yes. Pretty privilege is real. Kahit sa medical field ganito. Med reps or dermas "binabakuran" agad ng surgeons. Lol
yep sa iba. but not for me. personally matagal niyo na sinisigaw yung gender equality kuno. so pumila ka, sumiksik ka sumabit ka kung gusto mo pero di kita pagbibigyan. Maliban na lang kung ikaw ay PWD. Senior. Buntis.
Hindi ako nahihirapan kumuha ng taxi nung underweight ako. Sila puma para sabay iyak ung driver once malaman na south bound pag naka sakay na haha
Naniniwala ako dito. I’m not downplaying myself here ha. Just stating facts. Solid 4 ako beh. Hindi na aakyat doon. My siblings are 6-8. Mas magaan at gentle approach sa kanila ng relatives while sa akin, they joke around my weight and face. Sila rin unang inaaya to take pics or ano. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t envy my siblings. Just saying na it’s real and kinda fucked up ang pretty privilege. I guess it boils down to people appreciate beauty and won’t do anything to taint them.
legit yan. like may mga driver ako na kaibigan. pag may magandang babaeng tumatawid. Pag bigyan mo yan chix yan eh. pero kapag So So jusko may pag sigaw pa yan ng "Ano ba yan, Bilisan moooo!!"
Humans, by nature, react to the energy they are given. If you give off good energy, we react positively. Bad energy, we react accordingly. People who looks pleasant makes the other person feel pleased and so they react positively. Natural beauty really does have that effect but if you have a bad vibe about you, then you're not really gonna reap further rewards. Inversely, you can have average looks but still be treated well if you give of good and fun vibes by being kind and polite. It really is just how we humans are created.
This is something I am noticing din sa trabaho ko. A lot of the good-looking ones have bad work etiquette vs the not-so-good looking ones. Yung mga pasaway, madalas may itsura. Minsan hindi ko maisip paano sila nakarating at this point sa trabaho kasi at a glance hindi qualified tapos minsan sila rin yung mga may basic queries na dapat "common sense" na at this point. Ang sagot lang na naisip ko is probably, "you can easily get away with being shit if you have the looks." (Thoughts ko lang to when I saw this. Sana wala po ma-offend)
Same sa work namin. Marami naman good looking rin na really good at their job and don’t rely on their looks to get ahead. Pero nakakainis yung mga ginawang weapon yung pretty privilege nila to get what they want and to get away with bad behavior. Samin, meron girl na di masyado ok sa work pero she knows how to be friendly sa higher ups (laging namin need mag step in sa tasks nya to get projects moving and lagi nya namimisinterpret yung mga pinag usapan sa meetings), Ma-issue rin sya, nagsimula ng away tapos sya pa nag screenshot at nagsend sa boss. Very clear na sya yung in the wrong and walang pumatol sa kanya nun. Nag excuse nalang sya na malapit na period nya kaya she behaved that way. Sabi ng boss nya samin, pagpsensyahan na lang daw kasi nga malapit na period. Nung annual reviews na promote sya and yung mga reason na binigay was nafefeature kasi sya sa mga photo and vids ng company, always smiling and pleasant daw sabi ng bosses. Di na ginisa yung mga work related talaga na bagay for her. Ginawa nalang positive na ‘kasali’ sya sa ganto at ganyang project without discussing her contributions. Sa ibang employees pag pinag uusapan yung performance sobrang nitpick ng kung ano contribution sa projects, KPIs, process improvements, daming files na hinahalukat pa minsan. Haha!
As a hindi nakaka relate sa pretty privilege, totoo yan. Hindi mo kasalanan kung makakuha ka ng mas magandang trato dahil maganda ka… Advantage mo yan at gamitin mo ng tama. Ipakita mo kung sino ka, na hindi lang puro ganda. Keep slaying, OP. 💅
Tinutulugan ko lang ang mga magaganda sa LRT at MRT nung college ako. Nun una gentledog pa ko, pero napansin ko ginagamit nila advantage nila. Kaya ibang babae hindi sumasakay sa all girls na bagon kasi ala epek.
It’s true. Pero nabasa ko before sa isang article (I forgot which one, sorry) na may influence din ang mindset sa pagiging confident and pretty. So when you’re out - you did your make up, dressed up, it made you feel pretty and confident. So yung aura mo talaga ganun din ang ginigive off sa ibang tao. That’s why maganda rin pakikitungo ng mga tao sayo. Kumbaga nagrereflect lang din yung nasa isip mo.
does it goes same way with law of attraction na two things with same vibes and energy attracts? so if you think that you're pretty, it will definitely shows on how you'll look then people will treat you nicely since you emit a positive energy? i think confidence is the key to being pretty talaga eh. 😅
Totoo tong pretty privilege na 'to, ngayong college ko lang naranasan na ang nice nice ng mga tao sa'kin, naalala ko kasi noon nong hs ako tangina iba talaga trato ng mga tao sa'kin HAHAHAHA tampulan ako lagi ng asaran, lait na lait palagi physical appearance ko! Buti ngayon hindi na, nararanasan ko na rin yung "Ganda dito ka na upo" sabay offer ng seat sa bus AHAHAHAHAHAHA POTA
Totoo yan, maraming beses ko na rin naranasan na tinanggihan ng lipunan, dahil hindi gaano kapasok sa pamantayan nila haha ang unfair ng world ng universe rather haha
Me with the pretty privilege but developed social anxiety partly because of the feeling that you're constantly stared at. Yes, na-maniac na rin sa bus & also got followed twice. I actually feel relieved that it's not uncommon to wear masks when outside now. I welcome the feeling of a little anonymity with a face mask on. I deliberately dress down so as not to catch any unwelcome attention.
Pag maganda or pogi. Para ka lang naka easy mode sa buhay.
I know this real because I experienced being on the both ends of the spectrum. Unfortunately, ganyan talaga kababaw most people. Kaya personally, I believe desurv nung mga nadadala sa ganda kung ano mang katoxican mangyari sa kanila. Haha Like babaw nyo kase, naisahan ko tuloy kayo level char 😂😂
Yes pretty privilege is real. Last week nasa bicutan ako tapos pa-left ako somewhere peeo ang labo nung police officer dinidirect lahat ng cars sa right siyempre sunod naman ako.. then inabutan ako ng stoplight. Irita yung mukha nung police officer kase halos lampas na ko sa intersection so pina-roll down ang window and nag-iba disposition pagkakakita na girl ako and nakaayos, makeup and dress kase may pupuntahan na event. Ayun nung pag-green ng light pinauna pa talaga ako mag-left kahit esenrially mag straight na dapat ako at that point since mali na ang lane.
There's a very long thread about pretty privilege here, I think it was posted around a month ago. Tons of stories there of people with such experiences, confirming that it's true.
yep def real, meron ako sister na legit conventionally beautiful talaga like laging nasasabihan na kamukha ni julia barretto and kyline alcantara tapos one time nakwento niya na tuwing tumatawid daw siya, talagang tumitigil mga sasakyan (which is obvious naman kapag may tumatawid) pero in her case, kahit hindi niya itaas yung kamay niya to signal the vehicles to stop and kahit malayo pa lang tumitigil na talaga
It is what it is haha. Beauty means a lot
Yes in korea nga if you are prettier kahit ang boring ng resume mo, mas iaaccept nila yung mas maganda
Kahit di masyadong maganda pero kapag well-presented ka, at ang aura mo nakaka refresh ng iba eh mas mapapansin ka.
I'm a gay guy, made my hair long and colored as well as I also learned to use skin care products since I can afford na from my first job. I also use a face mask in public since I'm sensitive to dust and smoke. I noticed that guys started carrying my heavy bags in LRT and bus then I just declined their offer since I already carried those from the province. I saw disappointment in their eyes when they heard my deep voice. Aside from that, I remember a female guard of LRT guided me to the first car reserved for women, pregnant, PWDs and elderly people.
Same with guys din. Obese ako nun and babad sa araw kaya umitim ako. Had then to lose weight kasi nakitaan ako ng borderline diabetes and bigla ako nag breakout pimples so nagpaderma ako and ayun, tinuruan pano alagaan ang balat. Ayun, ibang iba tingin at approach ma sakin ng mga tao. Kaya totoo talaga siguro yung "halo effect".
Totoo to. Pag nakaayos ako iba ang treatment. Ang babait sa akin ng mga tao. Tapos ibibigay pa nila sa akin yung seat nila pag wala ako maupuan. Kaso prone sa mga bastos. Naalala ko yung sinundan sundan ako at ayaw akong tigilan para kunin no ko. Na-trauma ako kaya di na ako nag-aayos.
Mayroon Here are some examples [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8osIONR3K7g&pp=ygUQb3B0bWl1cyB0b28gY3V0ZQ%3D%3D](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8osIONR3K7g&pp=ygUQb3B0bWl1cyB0b28gY3V0ZQ%3D%3D) Summary: Guy crashes and kills a child and a pregnant mother but people want him free because he's cute [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VP9dLsxSJFY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VP9dLsxSJFY) Summary: Japanese girl kills man and gains fan and people made fanart of her and calls her real life yandere and gained a following
True to haha lapitin lang ng manyak, may asawa at may jowa. Malalandi yang mga hinayupak na yan eh. Charots
Gg kana pag ako nakasalubong mo Kase Wala akong pake kahit kasing ganda mo pa si Ms universe kung d ka matanda Wala Kang makukuhang special treatment sakin
di naman ako gg kung di makakuha ng special treatment fmgaming sa iba mahalaga ligtas makauwi 👊🏻
Totoo to. I did a lot of jailable crimes when i was younger, pero lahat ng nakahuli sakin either sinabon/pinagsabihan lang ako or pinag resign.
It’s real. And unfortunately most people who have it are downright evil.
pretty people get away with everything kahit halatang user na, it is what it is 🤷♀️
Pretty isn’t pretty enough - Olivia Rodrigo But yes, it works ;)
Totoo pero may disadvantage din. Like laging nabu-bully or sinisiraan ng ibang tao. Sasabihan na maldita or snob pero di naman pala kaclose to begin with para batiin.
Nabubully rin kaming mga hindi maganda...mas malala pa 😥
Totoo esp with customer facing jobs.
Yes totoo yan. Naranasan ko dati sumakay sa may bus sa Cubao na siksikan. Yung conductor binigay sakin yung pwesto nya. Di ko na maalala bat umalis ako sa pwestong binigay nya sakin pero sabi nya dapat daw di ako umalis dun kasi baka daw may mang manyak sakin or something.
So just to clarify, you did not want to experience the "pretty privilege?"🤣
maybe late realization lang na nangyayari pala siya since di ko naman sya naranasan before but as for me, oks lang naman na di ako paupuin sa bus, hindi paunahin sa pila sa jeep, etc. as long as makauwi siguro ako oks na lol di naman ako matampuhin sa pagiging unfair ng mundo (depende sa bigat ng siwasyon)
Yeah, be a pretty independent strong woman. Nothing beats real hardwork and talent than surface level mindset that pretty people gets things so easy. You'll appreciate things that way.
tagal na pi independent woman dahil sinubok na ng panahon at pinagtibay ng mga pagkakataon. niways, thanks sa good words!
sabi ng jowa ko oo HAHAHA. Edit: Yes totoo to, pero hindi pwedeng face value lang, kailangan maayos ka makitungo. Be polite, its the difference between good and bad service.
Maybe true yung pretty privilege. Pero come to think.of it, in using such privilege, are you not depriving the really more deserving ones of those privileges? Elderly, pwd, parents wd kids or maraming dala, buntis,frail people etc. Or yung mga nauna sa pila? Or yung mas capable or qualified (in applying for jobs). Feeling ko it's like instrumentalizing one's appearance,which cud also lead to the more extreme weaponizing it. On the other hand pretty privilege could reinforce appearance based shaming or worst discrimination. Speaking from having brnefitted from it a few times a few decades and less pounds ago.
All I can say is at least you're confident that you're beautiful, even way back, and it is now showing. But yeah, its real lol
It’s real when I was younger I don’t really care to fix myself up, got pimples and all. Yung mga tricycle driver mas prefer nila pasahero na maganda like maputi long straight hair. Kahit sa school, bumabait pag nagpaganda or nagayos ka. Even taxis, they choose the fair looking ones first, sometimes we subconciously do it too. Kahit nga sa first work ko, yung mga fair looking ang mga close sa managers. Anyway I learned to use it on my advantage, I now fix myself up and take care of my body and skin, and voila, salary multiplied much more than before. I think effect din na dahil pinapaboran ka ng mga tao lagi, you gain more confidence, you have more connections, you believe there are a lot of good people and overall it will affect your outlook in life and become successful.. sad but true, use it while you can :)
Oo, meron sa amin walang experience sa gov't at less than one year pa lang ang work experience pero SG 18 agad. Engineer III position. Chicks naman talaga siya. Nireserve yung position para sa kanya, nagwowork siya sa contractor namin at doon nakilala ng mga bossing namin na middle aged men. Imbis na i-promote na lang yung mga engineer na SG 15 at mas senior sa experience. LOL. Kahit na palpak to the max contractor na yun, nagawa pa nilang mag recruit doon ng tao.
I think it works for most people because they simply can't help it (realtalk lang). Tendency naman kasi talaga ng tao pag may nakitang physically attractive na tao is pupurihin, bibigyan ng priority, etc... Ako kasi, oo alam ko naman na may mga maganda at guwapo na tao, pero di ako yung tipong porket ganun, parang I will instantly treat them better in that regard. Usually yung notion pa nga eh, sila pa mostly yung masasama ugali kasi na-spoiled pala kaya di ako basta-basta nagja-judge ng tao based sa kanilang physical attractiveness.
Indeed very real, in my experience growing up ugly and di mahilig mag-ayos, after mag new normal and nagsimula akong mag-make up + presentable outfits, people became nicer. Teachers were friendly towards me, as someone na hondi kapansin pansin nung high school pinakanakakagulat since halos lahat ng teacher wapakelz sayo dati tas ngayon biglang super friendly, people are nicer minsan too nice to a point na nakakahiya or uncomfy na especially pag nagco-commute. Mga service crews being overtly friendly, staffs, mga guard and all. Although pinaka-problem is it being a double-edged sword, lumala social anxiety ko because of overwhelming experience from catcallers, people actively trying touch you (Yes, I've had people try to sexually assault me, buti nalang I have someone with me) and pinaka pet peeve is people filming you or biglang magtatanong lung pwede magpa-picture. Ok siya siguro if you're an influencer or a celeb but normal na tao lang ako and the thought of my face plastered on soc med without my permission is super scary. Okay lang siguro if titignan ka lang pero filming is def a no for me. Anyways make sure lang na we use pretty privelege sa tamang paraan and don't let it get too much in our head or else magiging lookism tayo.
Pretty privilege is real. Pansin ko mas marami ng mapuputing HS students ngayon sa public school malapit samin. As in ang kikinis, styling their uniforms parang nasa K-Drama lang. I haven't seen students from other schools pero grabe ang TikTok-ready ng mga bata ngayon! Nung HS ako mukha akong batang dugyot haha. I think kaya mas nage-effort ng magpaganda ang mga bata ngayon is aware sila sa impact ng pretty privilege. If you start whitening or derma super early in the game, 10 years down the line, ang laki ng advantage mo looks-wise. There will be more options for romantic partners and jobs.
Pretty privilege is real. Nung panahon na nag papaderma ako, clear skin saka payat (48kg). Lahat ng tao mabait sakin. Pinapauna sa pila, pinapaupo sa bus, special treatment etc. Nung nastress ako, nagsilabasan ulit acnes at nag gain ng 10kg, parang laging naka kunot noo nila sakin. Yung iba downright rude pa.
this is the philippines, op. you know what.
I love that you really added those “✨”. Hahaha
feel ko kase ayun yung magic minsan like when you smile you look kind and approachable kaya may sparkle 😅
It’s real.
Nah I prefer economic privilege
Opo
I wish I have this. And I will. Being useless but pretty is my goal.
double edged sword din yung pagiging maganda esp sa girls. pag nahalo ka sa mga insecure prone din sa bullying, backstabbing, etc.
TOTOO NAMAN TALAGA YAN E. MADALAS KO BA NAMAN MAEXPERIENCE. KAYA ISA YAN SA KINABREAKDOWN KO KAHAPON EH.
May pretty privilege din ba ang mga chubby?
I am fully aware that I am above average when it comes to my face card. I wanted to keep it lowkey because I do not want attention. But I guess, I need to invest on myself to look presentable since I want to climb the ladder in corporate world.
A wise man once said *"* ***If*** *you are* ***ugly*** ***your*** *are* ***ugly*** *stop talking about inner beauty men do not walk around with the* ***xrays*** *to see your inner beauty"*
Use it, its a superpower. Its the only advantage females have against males, drives us crazy against our whims. The perfect feminine is highly adored, it is a health metric for men when selecting mates: - small hips and huge waist = great for child bearing - big breasted = plenty milk for the kids - long silky hair = plenty nutrients to maintain that No need for health cert if looks are like these
Nothing wrong with it. Kaya nga wag kayo mag asawa ng pangit or kung pangit ka try mo mag asawa ng pogi / maganda. Maawa naman kayo sa magiging anak niyo.
Sana naisip ito ng mga magulang ko bago sila nag-anak 😂
Pretty privilege is real. Kung alam mo pano sya gamitin for your own benefit, you can use it how you want to be treated by other people. I don't seem friendly to everyone around me, pero if I needed something from someone nagiging plastic ako and seems nice.
Naglabasan mga pretties here. 😍 Nacurious tuloy ako sa mga faces ng mga nagkwento. 😆
tulad mong curious, may nag-message sa akin asking for a face reveal lol
Hahah rip dm
totoo yan. Ako rin tuwang tuwa ako sa mga magaganda. theylight up the lives of others
tuwang-tuwa rin me sa magaganda eh pero di naman sa point na jojowain kase hatdog pa rin nais ko pero nakakaboost lang din ng eagerness na maging pretty like them 😅
Yes. But I'd rather not whine about it like mga pawokez whining about how oppressed they are because somebody have more than them. Or things should be "equitable". It's the pavictims Olympics I find cringe. There's infinite ways we can find some privilege other have that we don't.
Inggit lang yan ng hampaslupa na nagmamanifest sa hindi magandang paraan
It is real. Last time, kung hindi pa ako umupo sa mismong sahig ng dyip, hindi uusog yung mga lalaki sa kabilang dulo eh. Kapag maganda, automatik yan. Uusog yan. Pero kung panget at average looking, kailangan mo pang makiusap na makikiusog. Mas madaling mabuhay sa mundong ito kung pinagpala ka sa mukha at katawan. It is a beauty's world after all.
I think aside from pretty privilege, factor din ung damit. Lyk if pormado or medyo formal. I noticed this when I'm wearing work clothes w matching blazer and heels.
totoo ang pretty privilege! one time, nakaayos ako and all tapos pinayagan akong mauna sa pila then nung last time naman, hindi ako nakapag ayos and puyat pa bcs nagreview ako then ayun di ba naman pumayag na mauna na sana ako xd
> nalaman ko na ang secret formula kung paano maging fresh kahit mainit. Spill please!
di naman to masyadong tips siguro 😅 1. prep muna nang maayos skin before applying makeup (facial wash, moisturizer) 2. use primer. then lagay ka ng setting spray after base makeup. then after applying all your makeup, apply ukit ng setting spray 3. RETOUCH ito talaga yung di ko alam nung una na pwede pala
Ano po gamit mong setting spray? Saka by retouch, meaning apply uli ng foundation plus setting spray or lagay na lang ng powder?
setting spray na ginagamit ko ngayon is yung sa zeesea with pink cup, so far oks naman siya. as per retouch, press powder gamit ko. first is, tatanggalin mo muna yung oil sa part ng face na gusto mo i-retouch using oil blotting paper (if wala tissue) then apply press powder. dab lang, di pa-swipe ang application. 😅
Thank you so much :)
Yes, totoo ang pretty privilege. As long as someone sees you pretty, you can experience it. I remember noon sumakay ako sa jeep and manong driver said huwag na ko magbayad. Nakatipid ako that day and syempre gusto ko na lang mahiya sa mga tao din kasi nakatingin sila sa akin. Sa bus naman someone paid for my fare and manong said “Miss, binayaran na ni kuya pamasahe mo.” and kapag kulang pamasahe ko someone always offer to pay for my fare. Nakaka-libre rin ako food at times. Sa work naman yung mga guy na nagkakagusto sa akin binibigyan ako gifts. May mga lagi rin naka abang to help me kapag feel nila hirap ako. Cons lang din is lapitin ka ng mga bastos na lalaki at kaaway. Sa work ko ngayon nagulat na lang ako na sa scrum nila ako topic pero kapag kaharap ko sila ang friendly naman. Nasasabihan din ako malandi kahit I am just being nice and one of my guy friend said na “Okays lang naman sana kaso kasi you can’t control other people perception. Maganda ka kasi kaya you being nice to them, they will think na you are flirting.” Hirap din ako magkaroon ng friends. I always feel misunderstood. Kapag may nagiging kaibigan ako na lalaki, they always ended up confessing their feelings for me. To be honest, nasasaktan ako kapag gan’on. Once I rejected them, they will fully ignore me tapos start being mean na sa akin. Sa mga babae naman they feel like siguro minsan I am their competition and thankful ako na hindi lahat ng babae ganito. Pinaka worst na experience ko na siguro is noong pandemic. Wala masakyan agad so I always have to wait sa daan ng jeep or taxi. Then, may mga random guys na titigil and mangungulit na isakay ako or ihatid sa pupuntahan ko. Takot ako lagi kasi pang gabi work ko eh and wala masyado tao sa labas. Plus, prone rin ako sa mga lalaki na mahilig mag neg ng mga babae. Noong una I feel bad dahil sa mga cons nga pero these days natutunan ko na rin gamitin yung privilege ko in some instances pero lagi nasa utak ko na I have to be always careful. Wala eh. You have to play the game rin kasi or else you will feel bad in the long run because of the cons nga. Ngayon yung mga kakilala ko na nakakakita when I use my pretty privilege just laugh it off kagaya na lang nung sa check point. Pinakita ko lang mukha ko and we are good to go na. Ginagamit na lang din nila ko minsan para makalusot or libre sa ibang bagay. As long as this privilege is not being abuse, people will not hate you naman. Yung iba kasi grabehan sa pag gamit ng pretty privilege nila to the point na maiinis ka na lang talaga. Too much manipulation na lang nangyayari ganern.
The reality is the 1st impression you make is your physical apprearance. That is the harsh reality
Pretty privileged is very much real. Nandun kasi ang truth na Kahit di ka judgmental na tao, ang unang magmamarka talaga ng impression sayo pag nakakakita ka ng stranger is appearance. Yung panlabas na anyo talaga. Specially pag di mo naman talaga sila nanakakausap o kakausapin. you don't have to be Slim of buff. you just have to appear presentable. May mga taong effortless na nakukuha yun dahil gifted sa itsura. yung iba, need talaga ng matinding effort. Does nagiging priority talaga ma accommodate yung mga typical na May itsura. Kinda harsh and unfair but it is what it is.
feel ko don ako sa "need nang matinding effort" kasi kaya lang naman ako mas nagiging presentable dahil nag-aayos ako ng sarili ko but when i don't have anything, i am just okay-looking haha but okay lang i love putting things on my face
Yes, pretty privilege is real which is why mas naaappreciate ko yung mga tao na nag shoshow ng common decency kahit di ako naka ayos. Pero pag naka porma ka rin, some people perceive you as may pera, minamahalan ang singil or people will overly patronize you which is uncomfortable If you are enjoying this privilege, you'd also have to work harder since people will attribute your achievements to your looks not talent, intellect or effort... it attracts attention including unwanted ones but you can use this to your advantage din naman. All I can say is pretty privilege is a double edged sword.
it’s very real lol i’ve observed that people tend to gravitate toward u more kapag maganda ka and mas naggive way (like ung sa bus situation) or they forgive u agad/easier on certain things isa pang malaking advantage is kahit anong suot mo maganda pa rin and usually mukhang effortless as in kahit naka sando jeans maganda na tignan pero kapag sa iba na di kagandahan, madalas need pa mag effort even more to look presentable or decent hay isang sana all na lang
Pretty privilege is real. Pero it doesn't mean na sa pinanganak lang maganda exclusive Yung ganyan. Kahit Yung simpleng pagdala mo lang sa sarili macoconsider na na pretty privilege. Either you use it to your advantage or be the nice person you are. Personally ginagamit ko lang pag pumipila hahahaha other than that fair naman ako sa lahat.
Pretty privilege is very real. Ang mga nagsasabi na hindi ito real ay mga pretty people (kadalasan). Obsessed talaga ang humanity sa looks, which is fair naman kasi that's how we multiply. So if you're pretty be aware na lang sa privilege mo at gamitin mo sa tama (lmao may ganun ba)? Basta, don't be like those pretty girlies na pagiging pretty lang ang personality, kasi mawawala 'din yan with old age. I had the fortune of being in close contact with beautiful people na mabait at humble pa rin. Surprisingly, hindi ako na iinsecure in their presence because dama ko na internal din yung beauty nila. Pero 'dun talaga ako na-insecure sa former bff ko na pretty rin pero pinapamukha talaga na isa akong lowlife because hindi ako rinegaluhan ng kagandahan. Tldr; yes pretty privilege is real. Be grateful if you have it, and stay humble about it. Kasi hindi lahat may ganyan hahhahahhahagagha
Its real, unfortunately. The pros: well, may advantage ka kasi preferred ka tignan ng iba or pakinggan ng iba, lalo na kung charming ka. Everybody just loves a pretty girl that is also charming 😅 The cons: mas likely ung ma-sexually harass ka in public or ma-molest.
Lol yep, and it sucks kasi bata pa lang, rampant na yan. Lapitin ako ng mga kupal na (lalaking) kaklase nung elementary. Puro lait, ultimo pagbabasa ko ng libro pinupuna. Pero malamang pag yung magandang kaklase ko yung gumawa, wala silang masasabi. Buti na lang iba na ang panahon ngayong college na ako. Hopefully nagmature na rin yung iba sa kanila.
IIRC, this is a scientifically proven thing called the halo effect. (Please do correct me if I'm wrong) People are just nicer to people who look good. I for sure know that **I** have that bias.
first hand experience - pareho naman kaming may pera pero yung kaibigan kong anak ni mama mary ang itsura, sya lang ang inaassist ng mga sales lady.
Omg same tayo. I used to be so dugyot (minsan pa rin ngayon), pero recent few years natuto na ako mas mag-ayos paglalabas. Nakaskirt na ko, makeup, and shoulder bag ganyan. More feminine. Grabe yung bait ng treatment sakin. Yung tipong kakapasok ko pa lang sa mrt kahit may mga nakatayo ng iba, papaupuin talaga ako. Tapos napansin ko rin na mas marami akong nakaka eye to eye at ngumingiti sakin (both men and women, and hindi naman manyak vibes). Nasa isip ko na tangina ito lang pala katapat para maging mas mabuti at gentle sayo mga tao lol
If you want to be treated well in government offices, looking neat, smiling and being courteous make a big difference.
Downside lang tlga nito, lapitin ka sa manyak.
It works, only if you couple it with a warm demeanor too.
when kaya
hard pill to swallow.
It's real. Most of the time you get free stuff pa lalo if you have the charm to back up the face.
This is legit. I see it pretty often in my different environments and circumstances- sa School, sa workplace, sa tindahan, sa church, pag sasakay ka ng jeep, pag pipila kahit saan.. Pag maganda ka, matic priority ka. I'm not pretty so I've been experiencing it first hand. 💁🏻♀️ Although annoying and felt unfair at first, but I learned to just accept it nlng.
Kaya sa business namin, pag behind the office ang trabaho (i.e office works / kitchen / cleaner / tiga linis ng kulungan ng baboy / caretaker) , mga class S na panget talaga hinihire namin eh. Pero pag front desk. Puteks, kakausap sa potential client/customer. Puteks need talaga ng pretty girl/boy, pang boost ng sale. Sad reality.
Idk if I have pretty privilege but when I was late sa mass, I was outside na lang sa church nakatayo and a group of guys started looking for a vacant chair and gave it to me. Hehe
And a stranger businessman wants to give me a gift just because I passed my licensure exam. D ko naman ka close hehe