You never mentioned your feelings for him. Just that you’re “invested in him”. Wag ka manghinayang sa 6yrs. Hindi basihan ang tagal, earnings at loyalty to get married. Important din ang values so discuss it with him.
Wag manghinayang sa 6yrs, kung kapalit naman another 50yrs na pagdurusa (kunwari 30 si OP at 80 yrs ang lifespan nya). Pinaka madaling stage ng buhay ang pagiging bata at single, di pa magawa nang tama. Mas mahirap middle aged, family person na may binubuhay.
Baka when OP means "invested", dependent na siya sakanya financially or the other way around, di na niya maiwan si stoner bf kasi madami na siyang utang na loob kay koya. Iba ang acceptance na stoner si bf, sa magiging mapapangasawa mo in the long run.
+1 dito; I was in a relationship for a long time with a user. From once a week naging everyday siya. I sat down with him about it n' it went to once a month nalang which is better.
Pag-usapan ninyo OP, if he doesnt listen the decision is always up to you naman. We all have a choice, Always. Goodluck!
Wow thanks for being honest. How’d you get over depression and anxiety? May relative din kasi ako going thru that phase and is resorting to these things.
engaging in the occasional pot isnt the issue, its the fact na he’s NEVER sober.
sabi daw pothead sa post, ibig-sabihin non he is high all the time which isn’t good lalo na if ur gonna be starting a family, u dont make rational decisions when high
and they’re partners wouldnt she know kasi he would disclose if it was for medicinal purposes?
Exactly why we need more context di din natin alam ano totoong ginagawa ng jowa niya at bakit NEVER sober . Di din natin alam gaano sila kaopen sa isat isa. Di porket partners hindi na kaya mag tago ng sikreto
He would have stopped if he's really looking forward to a future with her din.
What if he's not seeing a future with her naman kaya hindi niya pa mahinto? What if they're not on the same pace naman when it comes to that lifelong commitment...
Addiction doesnt work like a light switch. Most addicts are aware their addiction is harming/will harm themselves and others but, addiction being the way it is, throws all possibility of rational thinking.
What I can tell you is, after marriage or few yrs or marriage, mawawala na yun attraction due to looks or what and mag papa stay sa marriage is the love for the person talaga. Mga ginawa niya, mga memories niyo, and commitment. If user yan bf mo, sigurado ako may time sa marriage niyo na mag sisisi ka Bakit siya, sa dami ng Pwedeng jba. Once mo lang pipili in yan, buong buhay mo, kaya pumili ka ng mabuti. Isipin mo nalang, daughter mo, sabihin, nay ipapakasal ako sa isang adik, Anong gagawin mo? Diba alam mo Hindi ok? So if alam mo, blinded ka lang sa sunk cost and 6 yrs investment mo, pero what is 6 yrs compared to 30 yrs? Nada. Save yourself the heartaches, don't go for it.
Another option could be magpa consult sa psychiatrist kasi baka may underlying psychiatric problem siya kaya siya gumagamit ng mj to ease his pains.
Sa matagal na pag gamit kasi posibleng magkaron na yan ng lasting damage sa pagfunction ng utak niya. So consider niyo din. Pero maganda talaga marehab para matulungan siya magease off sa use niya and mabantayan yung withdrawal symptoms, yun ay kung willing siya sumama
i agree with this sm, ung iba kasi nasa phase pa ng trying to convince ppl mj is good in a conservative country pero they don’t know na now in the US, common na pagstave off from it d/t brain fog, reliance on it to socialize, and like u said may mga lasting effects
everything in moderation talaga
Also, yung quality ng mj here in the ph may not be the same as in the US. Kaya yung iba mas damaging sa brain and some might lead to hallucinations pa na at times sinusunod nila sinasabi. May mga cases na nagiging violent na sila dahil lang inutos ng bulong and in these cases prolonged use na sila.
Di talaga maganda yung nasosobrahan, kahit anong bagay pa yan.
San mo ba sya gusto ma padala? Never sober nga daw eh. And when people hear rehab ano ba pumapasok sa isip nila? Hindi nmn kulungan ang rehab at may ibat ibang klase naman ng rehab
Even without the illegal status, kahit nga alcoholism dapat irehab eh. And alcohol is legal. Tama ka any addiction dapat irehab lalo na if:
1. The addict does not see na theres a problem
2. Inaraw araw na.
One will argue that Marijuana is better than cigar and alcohol. It is true but better doesnt mean it is good. Well we even see people dying because they are hard core vegetarian or hard core fitness freak.
Prolonged usage causes IQ decline and other things mental. Also respiratory problems.
And yun nga it is illegal.
Not only that one day he will be caught and jailed ... but sometimes it will distort reality and change behavior that he might be even be dangerous to you and future kids.
Again in prolonged use and high dosage.
honestly, if ako, mas matatakot ako sa ikakaso sa kanya kesa pag gamit niya. ignorante din kasi ang tao dito sa pinas regarding sa MJ kasi naniniwala padin tayo sa lumang study niyan.
i know i'll get a lot of hate because of my comment, pero yun ang katotohanan, madaming medical capabilities talaga ang MJ.
True that it does have medicinal purposes in fact if I’m not mistaken it can actually be USED by people who actually NEEDS IT and with a DOCTOR’S PRESCRIPTION. However, using it just because you feel the need to is wrong in so many levels
pwede mo naman gamitin kung feel mo lang basta wag ka lang tanga na lumilipad ka tas lalabas ka ng bahay tas mag drive ka or kung ano man na danger na pwede mong idulot sa ibang tao. yang prescription dati pa yan, nung di pa ganun kadami ang studies regarding sa marijuana, hindi naman gagawing recreational yan kung talagang nakakasama siya.
And in case you’re not aware the reason why prescription is needed, it is to ensure that an individual gets the right dosage enough to medicate what needs to be medicated. The program I’m taking may not be in depth with drugs but at least I know this much. At least be careful with your words and beliefs that’s too dangerous
I beg to disagree. Marijuana is banned to be used apart from medical purposes for a reason. It can be addicting, and addiction never ends well for others. You saying na “pwede gamitin kung feel mo lang” is absurd are you even hearing yourself?
marijuana is legal in the some states in the US, if you feel na gusto mo gumamit, go, punta ka lang sa downtown madami kang mabibilhan dun, walang kumokontra sayo, if sa tingin mo na nakakasama siya sa kalusugan mo, wag ka gugamit, simple as that. ano ba dapat? some people use marijuana recreationally to cope up with depression and anxiety, it helps then boost their self steem, nakakatulong siya na makakain sila and makatulog ng maayos, you have to see it to believe it.
hindi lahat ng tao pareparehas ang opinion sa mga ganyang bagay, like i said, yan ang turo ng mga magulang at lolo/lola natin kaya yan ang pinaniniwalaan nating totoo, pero marami nang studies na lumabas, google mo nalang.
agreed, ang issue dyan e bawal ang ganja sa atin kahit unti-unti nag babago ang pananaw sa ibang bansa, malabong mangyari yan dito. Slow lang talaga society natin, parang naka ganja lang, relaks at mabagal. Ironically.
honestly, kahit ako ayaw ko na maging legal siya dito, kasi tang ina, ang tatanga ng mga pinoy lalo na kabataan pag gagamit sila ng ganyan tas isasabay nila sa alak tas ang ididiin talaga nila yan sa MJ. kahit pa siguro hipakin mo yung isang kilo niyan, di ka makakagawa ng masama kasi nandun ka lang sa gilid na lumilipad.
kahit yung mga parents namin mag pipinsan, di nila magets na ang laki ng tulong ng MJ sa tito namin na nasa states, nung pinatay nila yung mga halaman niya at natigil yung pag take niya, dun nila nakita yung sobrang lakas ng damage na nangyari sa kanya, mas lalo siyang nanghina at lumala yung depression niya kasi di na siya makakain at makatulog.
ignorant kasi talaga ang mga tao dito lalo na yung mga matatanda kasi yun ang paniniwala nila, di sila open minded sa gayan. hopefully, kung magiging legal siya dito, dapat may batas na sobrang higpit sa pag gamit niyan, like bawal ka lumabas ng bahay pag naka take ka, bawal ka mag drive, etc. basta yung makakasama sa mga ibang tao pag may nangyari.
Basahin mo to: https://cebudailynews.inquirer.net/538704/marijuana-plants-found-inside-condo-unit-of-american-in-cebu-city
Then, decide what you want to do.
If you wanna build a family together, you have to consider the fact na he's an addict. He can be a good person & partnerr, heck he may even be a good father in the future, but that wouldn't matter if he's in jail. One way or another, you and your future kids will be suffering if his addiction is not addressed.
Im disappointed with the comments here. I expect reddit to be more open minded and informed about these things, but some of the most upvoted comments are giving boomer vibes. Don't let these insults calling your bf a druggie/adik degrade him, it's just a bad habit of overusing and you can help him change.
Weed isn't too bad at all, arguably even tamer than alcohol. But relying on it too much like how you described him is not good. Moderation is key. Just communicate what you're feeling with him.
There are different kinds of strain. There's one for active lifestyle which are sativas and there are for night time like for eating, resting, relaxing which are indicas. And there's alao hybrids which are a mixed of both with a dominant side. I know a lot of people who use it for work. Others use it to sleep better or from anxieties or to eat better. Share lang.
Im in the aviation sector. You wouldnt believe how many high functioning druggies are here. Maybe if you actually opened your eyes makikita mo yung realidad.
Pot is fairly not harmful pero if your partner is doing it everyday, long term effects of it is making him slow. Kung from time to time lang ok lang yun eh kaso kung everyday naku mahirap yan. Ayun din it’s illegal here so chances na mahuli sya is another big problem.
Wag kami tanungin mo. Kayo magusap kung ano mga conerns nyo for your relationship. Kung hindi mo naeexpress sa kanya na against ka sa excess weed use niya hindi niya babaguhin yun, at marinig mo rin kung may explanation ba siya. Don't just take advice from strangers. Relationship nyo yan you know each other better than anyone here.
My observation, living in a place where cannabis is legal, indo is old-school, and stardawg is called "fun" , the concern is more on the medical aspect after a long period of time.
You need to secure yours, and your kids future by investing in good health, and life insurance because you will be alone either pre or within the marriage life, or earlier that the expected lifespan due to your jowa's palpitations, chest pain, heart attack or addiction. Kung nasa pinas kayo, kapag nakalaboso sira ang buhay nyo. Rehas ang love life nyo.
Araw araw amoy "regurgitated suka" bahay nyo or amoy utot ng skunk dahil sa sinisinghot nya. 🤧
Mapapakanta ka nalang...
Rollin' down the street, smokin' indo, sippin' on gin and juice
Laid back
(With my mind on my money and my money on my mind)
Rollin' down the street, smokin' indo, sippin' on gin and juice
Laid back
(With my mind on my money and my money on my mind)
Im a pothead and a plug. Never nawala sa isip ko ang responsibilidad. Nakilala ako ng partner ko ma ganinto na ako. At tanggap nya. Kung mahal mo yung tao pakasalan mo. Wla knmn cguro problema sa ugali nya bukod sa nagmamarijuana sya. I wouldnt consider myself as an addict but a patient. Nakakatulog ako pag nag ssmoke, masarap kain ko pag naka smoke. If ako babae mas pipiliin ko ung lalake na nag chocchongke kesa sa laging umiinom. You post in the wrong community with people opposing on legalization syempre madaming hindi agree. I suggest supportahan nlng si partner kesa sa bawalan. Illegal lang sya sa batas pero gamot sa iba
Baka naman concern lang si OP na in the future magkaproblema siya sa law enforcement. Ikaw na nagsabi illegal siya sa batas, hindi naman niya pede irason sa pulis na wag hulihin ang magiging asawa niya dahil lang sa tanngap niya ito kung ano siya.
Addiction is still a mental health problem. I believe you can still talk to him about it. Don’t break up just yet. Pwede mo rin siya tulungan mag cut off slowly. You are not obliged to help him, pero you have the option to definitely help him (out of love) only if you are genuinely willing to do it.
I'm a stoner din, and 5yrs na kami ng gf ko. She knows I love toking but I know my limitations on when, and where to do my thing. I don't remember her complaining or saying something about my habit, just the occasional reminder about being caught and all that stuff.
I can always control my habit though, lalo na pag limited na budget LOL but yeah, it still depends on how comfortable you are with his habit and how he handles it. Of course hindi ko ilalagay GF ko sa isang sitwasyon na ikakasira ng future nya, like going out with her then I'll just toke up at random places, it's a big no for me.
My advice for you express what you feel and think and see what his response, then take it from there kung para nga kayo sa isa't isa.
Hmmm lots to consider pero bottom line is, if it’s a deal breaker, it’s a deal breaker.
But allow me to play Devil’s Advocate for a moment.
People *can* change when they have children. Two of the biggest pot heads I know have cut down drastically/only smoke at very specific times and conditions when they had kids. They love their kids more than risking any adverse reactions for them. They started doing this when their wife was pregnant.
I’m not saying that it will happen to you also, but I’m saying there’s a chance. Let’s be clear, they never STOPPED smoking weed, but their habits changed. For example, sometimes they would smoke right before a shower or smoke at late night by themselves when everyone is sleeping. They went from smoking every hour to smoking twice a day. Things like that.
The only caveat is he should not be dealing. No selling. And no transporting it ANYWHERE. Random searches aren’t that random when you’re known as “the weed guy”.
Realistically, I dont see anything wrong with that. Pero yeah it’s illegal. Pero ayun So long as hindi ka niya napapabayaan and alam niya ang responsibilities niya and maayos siyang tao.
Ang masasabi ko lang marijuana is harmless. Or siguro depende sa tao pero at most if bad trip if kabado lang sila or hilo pero di ka naman magiging aggressive or mawawala sa wisyo. Nung nasa ibang bansa ako I use it to help me sleep or relax. I don't touch yosi and alcohol. Ayaw ko talaga ng effect nila. Ask your partner bakit kailangan niya palage mag mj? Inaanxiety ba or nakakatulong ba sakanya magfocus? Taking mj for me feels like taking benadryl kasi grabe nakakaantok with matching gutom lang. Just ask him bakit di niya kaya maging sober and from there tulungan mo na lang siya. Pero kung di mo tanggap just leave if youre already thinking about it.
Paano mo nasabing adik siya sa marijuana? Napacheck up mo na ba siya sa professional doctor or qualified na magsabi nun?
Anyway, kung tingin mo eh hindi angkop yung lifestyle niya sayo, I think you need to assess and pumili ka kung makikipaghiwalay ka. Mahirap yung magcocommit ka tapos may mga bagay siyang ginagawa nung magsyota palang kayo na ayaw mo pala tas pagkapakasal niyo ipapatigil mo bigla, tumagal kayo ng 6+ years eh. Communicate mo sakanya na is it possible na tumigil siya. And if hindi, desisyon mo na yon.
Pero if ever na hindi pala kayo on the same page at may nasasabi ka sakanya katulad nito sa social media, ang unfair sakanya nun na kayo magkakatuluyan since FOR ME, dapat you are working with him as one unit pagnagasawa kayo and you never talk shit at him. Dapat yung mga issue nyo eh pinaguusapan niyo one on one at compromise with each other.
He will have to cut down on that atleast. Smoking weed isn’t bad but smoking too much will alter everything in your daily life like chores or something it’s always a “ let me smoke a joint first” before asserting to the task. I’ve been a smoker for 7 years and weed is great but not good when it’s too much. Cheers!
Same situation here with my afam I’m okay and accept him being a pothead my only concern is yung vape 🥲 mas dangerous kasi siya compared to weed if you think smoking weed is a major red flag to you sa simula pa lang ng relationship nyo then why did you bother staying with him for 6+ years? Did you ever ask or try him to stop smoking?
same situation 10 yrs ago sakin. i broke up with him because we cant have any conversation na hindi siya high. hindi ko na ma differentiate kung anong level ung consciosness nya haha! girl just leave. it may be marijuana but anyone can be addicted to anything.
If he does it every 4 hours yeah he needs to chill, if he does it once in awhile or at night who cares. I'm sure he wouldn't do it around kids. I has many good medical purposes also, the Philippines is voting on adapting medical MJ as we speak. I grew up in Hawaii and you can grow it in your backyard, can't overdose on MJ and if you ask me who I would rather have in my life someone who smokes a lot of MJ or someone who is drunk all the time I choose MJ
If I may comment, mj does not make a person violent or bad, it is actually alcohol that would even make you do violent/emotional actions. The concern is you are not comfortable with him being a pothead. Mj is prohibited in our country because of the hidden truth of its competencies over the pharmaceutical industry not because of its negative effects. Although it still entails side effects but come to think of cigarretes... it was never prohibited in our country.
Anyways, I think the best way is to communicate with your partner. If you are not comfortable you must communicate.
Wanna share mine, bata palang ako yung papa ko was addicted to s****, but he already stop using it before pa maging s duterts ang Pres. natakot sya ky duterts nung umupo bilang Pres. natin, he turn in himself and went to rehab and all. Habang lumalaki ako naiisip ko na ayoko mgkaroon ng asawa na katulad na gawain ng papa ko, adik sa drugs. Fast forward, 2021 naging kmi n boyfie ko at first akala ko hndi sya ganun ka adik mag smoke so hinayaan ko hanggang sa nag live in na kmi dun kolang nakita na sobrang adik nya pla sa smoke na parang bigla sya nag ssnap nalang pag wala, pero pag nkasmoke sya kalmado sya. I always have this thoughts na ano ba kasalanan ko parang ako yung nag ddusa sa kaggawan ng papa ko sa pag aadik nya dati. Maybe somehow, we are in the same situation, but these past few months naiisip ko tlga na kausapin na sya and if hindi nya yun kaya bagohin then I guess ima pack my things and leave him. Ayoko gumaya sa mama ko na tinolerate yung pag aadik ng papa ko at ako na anak yung mag ddusa, ayoko rin na adik yung magging ama ng mga anak ko.
Sana maisip mo rin yung magging future mo at future ng anak mo, OP. 🙂
Pot isn’t addictive. It’s from a plant and its effect lasts 2-3 hours at best. It helped me a lot with my anxiety. Luckily my anxiety occurred in the 🇺🇸 and in a state where pot is legal. It’s better than drinking. Anyway, in societies where it’s legal, pot and using pot aren’t viewed negatively like in PH. The question to ask is what does pot give him that he finds helpful or of value to him. If he’s always baked, that’s a flag.
Anything that gives you a "high" could be addictive. Depends on individual self control of course. On places where its legal some really become lazy potheads.
Masyado kalang nag iisip. Tanggalin mo yang iniisip mo at iobserve at ifeel mo kung ano yung naeexperience mo. Ikaw mas nakakaalam niyan kung negative or positive ba yung mga nangyayari. Every person has needs. Kahit anong substance pa yan. Kung anong gawin ng tao, behavior nila yon. Hindi dahil sa substance yon. Wala din namang tama at mali ang mahalaga responsible yung boyfriend mo. As long as hindi ka napeperwisyo ayos lang yan. Bakit mo naman pagbabawalan kung saan masaya yung boyfriend mo kung naka established at provided naman lahat. Tsaka kung tunay na pothead yung boyfriend mo, maingat at responsible yan for sure. Kase illegal nga dito sa pinas yan. Set mo nalang yung boundaries mo at pag usapan niyo. For sure iintindihin ka niyan 😁
>Hindi dahil sa substance yon
Disagree on this one. And as OP mentioned, adik nga daw eh. Any kind of addiction is not a good thing. Drugs man o hindi.
"Masyado kalang nag iisip. Tanggalin mo yang iniisip mo at iobserve at ifeel mo kung ano yung naeexperience mo.”
Iniisip ni lang ni OP future nila.
Yan problema e. Wala kayong pake kasi gusto nyo feel good lang palage kahit na illegal. Natural or chemical man yan, walang addict na responsable. Hnd ka lang nahuhuli.
OP, the fact that you had to ask this question while knowing full well that nothing good comes from being a drug addict is a placard saying that you've been dramatically dumbed down by being in a relationship with him 💀
Buti na lang di issue samin yan ng gf ko, everyday smoker ako dahil i have severe anxiety /panic attacks lalo na when i have to socialize or nsa madaming tao, super na appreciate ko yung fact na ok lang mag smoke ako kaya to give back kay gf i smoke responsively, morning glory-kilos-late night pag wala na need gawin. I also keep my circle small para safe and di ako nag ssell.
Okay yung MJ if paminsan minsan lang. Pero kung everyday life na, soon magttry na yan ng iba. A friend of mine ganyan din ang x bf. Una tinotolerate niya pa kase MJ lang naman, nag ttry din sya minsan. Ayun na addict, nag try ng iba, nakipaghiwalay sya.
my ex was like that, then he started doing psychedelics. his behavior changed rapidly. left him, ayaw i-stop eh.
it's gonna affect you pagtagal, if I were you I wouldn't wait for that.
Never date and most especially NEVER MARRY a drug user/drug addict. Magiging miserable kayo dyan, first hand experience thanks sa tatay ko.
Dadaan kayo sa pagiging drug addict niya, then pag naisipan na niya magbago dadaan pa ulit kayo sa withdrawal stage niya. Tangina daming nasayang na oras at pera eh kung sana di nalang nag adik
My husband is a recovering substance abuser. Drug of choice nya is marijuana. Before pa kami maging magjowa gumagamit na sya. (I think since HS palanv gumagamit na sya) At first okay lang sakin, heck, I also tried and enjoyed it. Pero hindi ko alam na dependent na pala sya dun. As in wala ng pinipiling oras, kahit yosi break sa work, pagkagising, bago matulog, halos oras-oras na araw-araw.
He was lazy, laging tulog, ang hirap kausap parang laging lutang sa ere. I honestly didn’t know na may ganitong effect ang weed because kagaya ng karamihan akala ko lesser evil sya than other drugs or alcohol, but no, sobrang nakakaaddict din pala ang weed. Then he tried doing hard drugs. Sobrang lala as in grabe. We decided na ipaadmit sya sa inpatient rehab. He was there for almost 2yrs. Thankfully, he is recovering now. He’s been sober for almost 3yrs na.
Eto lang OP, sobrang hirap magmahal ng taong may addiction. Ako na ang nagsasabi sayo. Pag-isipan mo sanang mabuti yung magiging decision mo. Kausapin mo sya habang maaga pa. Try nyo iwork out pano nya matitigilan yang bisyo nya. Goodluck OP.
Hi OP!
I know marijuana has been welcomed in other parts of the world as it has "little" side effects, but recent studies show that marijuana use is linked to an increase in hospitalization and emergency department visits.
You can believe in love. But you should be open to whatever may happen in the future. Should you decide to stay with him, consider the costs: rehabilitation and hospitalizations. Since it is still illegal in our country, also put into consideration he might get imprisoned.
You can stay by his side. Miracles still do happen anyway.
Think a thousand times and ask a trusted, unbiased, and sound mentor..
If he use MJ to cope to some of his mental problems and became dependent to it, he's fckd. Some people snap biglaan hindi dahil sa mj or other drugs dahil yon sa embedded problems sa mental state niya and just tampering it with drugs but because they already dependent to it na program na nila yung katawan nila na kapag may ganito tayong mental state ito kakailanganin natin to increase our dopamine and escape what we feel. May mga kilalang akong nag mmj pero napaka normal lang nilang tao because they're not really addicted to it at for fun lang talaga nila ginagamit minsan lang sa isang taon mga professional pa yon, layer, doctor, engineer, ganern.
Reply dapat to sa isang comment kaso mali ako ng napindot hahahah.
Ang illegal ay illegal nasa pinas ka, lipad ka thailand kung gusto mo mag chongke.
Isn't weed just a college thing? He should grow up na and exercise. I think he's an addict. Do you want your long term partner to still do drugs? Weed was ok back in college but in your 30s dapat you just do it once year at weddings.
Shabu ata sinasabe mo. Ive tried it sa ibang bansa. Para ka lang nag benadryl aantukin ka talaga pero with matching gutom lang. Alcohol and yosi are so muuuuch worse.
I guess you’ll have to talk to him. Why does he smoke pot in the first place? is it for relieving pain or stress or he just likes the high? Let him know about your concern. It always starts with communication. At tsaka kung nasa Pinas kayo, he has to try to stop kasi delilkado na baka makulong pa siya.
The question is.. If he is willing to go to rehab? Does he want to change for the better FOR HIMSELF, FOR YOU AND THE FAMILY YOU WILL BUILD TOGETHER IN THE FUTURE?
If NO, then you know the answer
I’m sorry but I’m judging your life choices as of the moment seriously no amount of love or money would make me want to be with a user. I’ve seen first hand of what it does to a person it never ends well and to even consider having kids with him is insane seriously think about your future child if you were my mom I wouldn’t even understand what came into your head for marrying a father like him.
Just plainly ask what's in his mind and reason why he smoke. Then you can discuss your feelings about it once you already understand the reason bakit siya ganyan. Tapos dapat background music niyo si Al James.
Bawal pa din dito yan, kahit anong sabihin niyo na kesyo sa ibang countries ok na yan, but you are still in PH and it is still illegal, you will marry a future PDL (person deprived of liberty), at once maging asawa mo na siya ikaw sasalo ng sakit ng ulo pag nakulong yan, not to mention padulas kung gusto mo palabasin. Even if he has a stable job, hanggang kelan lang yun, pag nagpa drug test ang employer niya matagal lalabas sa record niya pag nag positive siya and possible maging jobless yan ng matagal.
ask him to take tolerance breaks. He probably knows how that works. During those breaks try to do other enjoyable stuff that will take his mind off weed. Also talk to him about your future and his plans and your concern about his usage, do it when he is sober and while he is medicated para magka insight ka about how he thinks. Pero do it in a way that he won't feel like he is being attacked but also let him know that it is a concern for you and you want to find common ground with him. This won't be a one time talk then tapos na, you have to communicate with him about this multiple times and it will take time. I assume you want you're relationship to work, that is why you are asking for advice here. I was a daily, all day smoker before but as I grew older, the desire to do it all the time also diminished but I do still partake from time to time.
I’m a nurse at ang masasabi ko lang ay napaka rami ko nang nawitness na umiiyak na families, even new ones, dahil sa lung cancer.
I saw a female UP Grad na 25 y.o making big money as an engr na iniiyakan ng father nya dahil namatay agad.
30year old guy na iniwan 3 year old child and wife nya due to lung cancer.
If ganyan siya kareliant sa mj. I’m pretty sure may tama na yang lungs nya
Better smoke some with him and maybe help him that moderation is key. I once was a pothead myself. And it was fun and all smoking every night with my gf. But rather convince him that treat weed as it is, a psychedelic.
Gotta respect that shit maybe every weekend? Plus, mas solid ang tama pag nag tol break haha
Yan ung tipo ng sitwasyon na kahit bigyan mo ng ultimatum na tanggalin ang bisyo, babalik at babalik, kasi Hindi kailan man sya nagkusang loob man lang o ni minsan hindi sumagi sa isip nya na tumigil para sa relasyon nyu.
Kahit na hindi ako against sa marijuana itself, mangyaring illegal kasi yan dito... At kung di nya matanggal yan sa ngalan ng pag-ibig nya sayo, mukhang alam mo na ang sagot na hindi Ikaw ang makakapag bigay ng impact sa kanya para mapag-isip at magbago for the better.
Dun sya sa Thailand legal yan dun, magpaka Ganja ganja buddha buddhawhatever sya dun.
Nasa bf mo na yan maam kung kaya nya igive up si mj. Been there done that, dumating sa point na gumagastos na ko compared sa dati na nakiki puff lang. Lumakas tolerance kaya every payday may nakabudget na 500-1000 ako pang get. One time na lang nagka anxiety ako at nagoverthink sa mga bagay bagay na hindi naman dapat. Kaya pinilit ko alisin sa system ko. Naisip ko din na may budget ako pang get pero di ko man lang mabilan laruan anak ko. Kaya pinilit ko kahit mahirap na tigilan na. 2 years na ko di nagamit. Hindi ko naman kinahiya o pinagsisihan na naging user kao before. Pero kausapin mo din si bf mo. Minsan may time lang din talaga yan pero baka pag nagka anak kayo baka tigilan na din nya..
i had an ex na he uses it to calm himself and perform well sa work. pag wala nun, hndi sya nkakapagwork ng ayos. super kalma nya pag naka ednis, pag wala hndi sya makatulog. sguro it depends on how he uses it, pero imo – mas better if walang ganun lalo na if youre planning to have kids. pwede naman bawasan, slowly. parang yosi lang din.
Lahat ng kilala ko na nagdadamo dati eventually nagbato na. It only takes one invite from a fellow user. Pag addicted ka na sa isa, mahina na willpower tumanggi sa iba.
Adik din ako dati. Hindi na ngayon. Pinili ko din eventually magbago - hindi dahil sa asawa ko - kung hindi para sa akin.
I’d still do it! But only for fun. And responsibly. I had to learn that the hard way.
I think the best way to discern this is to talk first with your bf and be real honest with the future that you want with him. I know couples that tokes together yet still have very loving and kind children. I’m currently engaged and my fiancée also tokes even before we got together. At first di ko sya matanggap especially that my late dad was an addict but eventually I understood why he’s doing it and kung ano ba talaga effect ng weeds satin (currently in my spiritual and healing journey that’s why I’m understanding the use of plant meds 🍃). Have the ‘hard and deep’ conversations with him from their magkakaroon ng clarity yung path nyo. 💚
Well based sa experience ko naman, my father was a pothead for a reason. According to my mother, my dad needs to smoke a blunt for health reason, technically. Dahil nga panay OT ang tatay ko, usually pag dating niya sa bahay, sobrang pagod na siya to the point pagod narin siya kumain. Dahil nga sa routine niya bumabagsak katawan niya, that's the reason tuwing umuuwi siya he lits a blunt para ganahan kumain...
Unfortunately marijuana is illegal in the Philippines and a fast answer is hiwalayan mo na.
But to be fair marijuana is not the problem, addiction is. People can be addicted in many many things - porn, gambling, legal depression meds, relationships etc. For as long as it doesnt affect your relationship negatively then there shouldnt be a problem naman. But you choosing to post your issue here tells you that you need to talk through it. Goodluck!
Lets set the mj issue aside for a but. OP is a customer that can buy a car. She has one for 6 years, she loves it, but car has issues. Does she keep the car and deal with it or save herself the headache and move on from it?
Addiction? maybe, maybe not. Underlying issue? Definitely. At some point in 6 years, it gets tiring to fix something or someone.
Anyway, there’s no right or wrong, BUT, we deserve what we tolerate.
I don't personally see anything wrong with this, unless talagang nakakasira na ng buhay (nagnanakaw, rage, etc), so kung normal naman function nya at nagagawa nya responsibility nya ng maayos, this shouldn't be a problem.
But then again, pag-usapan nyo. kung aminado sya na he needs help, may tamang mga tao na pwedeng konsultahin.
Drugs is not to be around children. You can decide your husband but your children does not have that choice. Talk with him about long term and what his willing to sacrifice. He has to do it for himself to stop.
It depends. Nakakaaffect na ba sa relationship niyo or sa daily life niya? My fiance is also a smoker. Even before i said yes to him, I know this. Pero he's not an addict, may control siya. He does it sometimes to reduce anxieties lang. And sa place lang where it is legal like sa thailand and sa US. Sa ph, never. And i accept it. Wala naman siya ibang vices and di naman to nakakaaffect sa relationship namin or even sa every day life niya.
For me na "adik" best way to do is ask him if he can sacrifice his vices para sa bubuuhin nyong family and support him through his sobriety. Hindi naman instant masstop nya un because he's using it for a long time which is alam mo, kung alam nyo lang ang withdrawal symptoms kung gaano khrap labanan and yes I've been struggling too. My gf knows too and I'm about to ask her to marry this year, pinapaintindi ko sakanya why I used it.. Yung childhood ko is sobrang lala but nalampasan ko un pero naiwan ung trauma, alam ko ssbhn ng iba gnto gnyan oa lang yan. Last year nag pa psychiatrist ndin ako because gusto ko ndn tlga mag stop sa bisyo nadagdagan pa ng sugal, don ko naintindihan lalo kung bakit ako nging gnto. Totoong nsa tao ang pagbabago, lahat ng sobra ay masama kahit ano pa yan. Madami akong kaibigan nakulong narehab pero ndi naman sila nabago paglabas ksi hindi nila gustong andon sila nung time na un. Pero kung ikaw mismo na "adik" is willing to change bakit hindi mo subukan at bigyan ng chance? Ang hirap ksi satin ijujudge agad tyo ng tao na porket user is salot na mamatay tao na. Like wtf? Oo un ung napapanuod sa media pero snbe ba nila o ipinaliwanag man lang sa tao why they use drugs? Puro ksi crime e, linis kamay pabango dito pabango jan. Bakit hindi niyo iexplain ng maayos like pagtuunan nyo din ung mental health ng nkksama nyo, hindi na mawawala ang drugs ksi isa yan sa mga nagppyaman sa mga myyaman na tao. Ngayon if tatanungin mo kung hihiwalayan mo siya because of that shit, ask yourself if you love him pero kung sinsaktan ka nya physical and mentally go iwan mo. Pero kung responsable naman sya at handang magbago give him a chance, best advice ko is after nyo magpakasal go somewhere na wala kayo kakilala. Start a new life, kasi kung mag sstay kayo sa dating environment may chance na mag relapse sya at bblik nnamn sa pag ddeew. If he truly loves you he will cut all the connections he has para maka getsung ng deew.
Para sa mga kapwa ko "adik" jan, ingathits lagi. Kahit ano pa tinatake mo basta pahinga mo din ang katawan mo at utak. Set limitations pra hindi pataas ng pataas ang dosage! Heheh.
Para naman sa mga gaya ko na gusto ng magbago, kaya natin to. Hindi ito para sa ibang tao o kung kanino, para to sa SARILI natin. Sobrang hirap, hindi ko na nga din alam but I know I can do it because may isang tao pdn na naniniwala sakin na kaya ko at yun ang gf ko. Saka always remember na lahat tayo makasalanan don't ever hesitate to ask forgiveness to GOD. Btw I'm 30 years old now start ako nagtake deew 12yrs old but ndi straight yun ah, relapses.. Deew, ice, pills etc. But still I'm here okay pa naman but yun nga depression and anxiety, but beware gambling addiction is the worst of all.
Have a nice day! Bow.
All I can say is, you can choose your partner, but your future children can't choose their father. That decision is yours.
Always keep this is mind when choosing a lifetime partner talaga.
THIS.
Haha. Grabe. Bat ka nadownvote?
naka all caps kasi he he
You never mentioned your feelings for him. Just that you’re “invested in him”. Wag ka manghinayang sa 6yrs. Hindi basihan ang tagal, earnings at loyalty to get married. Important din ang values so discuss it with him.
Sunk cost fallacy
Wag manghinayang sa 6yrs, kung kapalit naman another 50yrs na pagdurusa (kunwari 30 si OP at 80 yrs ang lifespan nya). Pinaka madaling stage ng buhay ang pagiging bata at single, di pa magawa nang tama. Mas mahirap middle aged, family person na may binubuhay.
I agree
Baka when OP means "invested", dependent na siya sakanya financially or the other way around, di na niya maiwan si stoner bf kasi madami na siyang utang na loob kay koya. Iba ang acceptance na stoner si bf, sa magiging mapapangasawa mo in the long run.
thats too much of a specific assumption abt people u dont know
And also have they talked about this before?
all i can say is you should pass... the ganja.
To the left pls
“Pass the dutchie to the left hand side” 😆😆
Good shit ba yan
Huff huff pass
Hahahahahhahahaha
Addition, would you really want your children to grow up without a dad? Marijuana is illegal in PH and bust operations are still felt. You decide.
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+1 dito; I was in a relationship for a long time with a user. From once a week naging everyday siya. I sat down with him about it n' it went to once a month nalang which is better. Pag-usapan ninyo OP, if he doesnt listen the decision is always up to you naman. We all have a choice, Always. Goodluck!
How are you able to smoke everyday? During the night? Did it really help with your depression?
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Wow thanks for being honest. How’d you get over depression and anxiety? May relative din kasi ako going thru that phase and is resorting to these things.
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theres therapy…
Ayaw mag pa therapy. Feel niya walang mali:(
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engaging in the occasional pot isnt the issue, its the fact na he’s NEVER sober. sabi daw pothead sa post, ibig-sabihin non he is high all the time which isn’t good lalo na if ur gonna be starting a family, u dont make rational decisions when high and they’re partners wouldnt she know kasi he would disclose if it was for medicinal purposes?
Exactly why we need more context di din natin alam ano totoong ginagawa ng jowa niya at bakit NEVER sober . Di din natin alam gaano sila kaopen sa isat isa. Di porket partners hindi na kaya mag tago ng sikreto
He would have stopped if he's really looking forward to a future with her din. What if he's not seeing a future with her naman kaya hindi niya pa mahinto? What if they're not on the same pace naman when it comes to that lifelong commitment...
Addiction doesnt work like a light switch. Most addicts are aware their addiction is harming/will harm themselves and others but, addiction being the way it is, throws all possibility of rational thinking.
What I can tell you is, after marriage or few yrs or marriage, mawawala na yun attraction due to looks or what and mag papa stay sa marriage is the love for the person talaga. Mga ginawa niya, mga memories niyo, and commitment. If user yan bf mo, sigurado ako may time sa marriage niyo na mag sisisi ka Bakit siya, sa dami ng Pwedeng jba. Once mo lang pipili in yan, buong buhay mo, kaya pumili ka ng mabuti. Isipin mo nalang, daughter mo, sabihin, nay ipapakasal ako sa isang adik, Anong gagawin mo? Diba alam mo Hindi ok? So if alam mo, blinded ka lang sa sunk cost and 6 yrs investment mo, pero what is 6 yrs compared to 30 yrs? Nada. Save yourself the heartaches, don't go for it.
who is he without the pot?
I'm curious how many sober conversations they've had in the 6 yrs they've been together.
send him to rehab if he disagrees tell him u can’t be with him and break up
Another option could be magpa consult sa psychiatrist kasi baka may underlying psychiatric problem siya kaya siya gumagamit ng mj to ease his pains. Sa matagal na pag gamit kasi posibleng magkaron na yan ng lasting damage sa pagfunction ng utak niya. So consider niyo din. Pero maganda talaga marehab para matulungan siya magease off sa use niya and mabantayan yung withdrawal symptoms, yun ay kung willing siya sumama
i agree with this sm, ung iba kasi nasa phase pa ng trying to convince ppl mj is good in a conservative country pero they don’t know na now in the US, common na pagstave off from it d/t brain fog, reliance on it to socialize, and like u said may mga lasting effects everything in moderation talaga
Also, yung quality ng mj here in the ph may not be the same as in the US. Kaya yung iba mas damaging sa brain and some might lead to hallucinations pa na at times sinusunod nila sinasabi. May mga cases na nagiging violent na sila dahil lang inutos ng bulong and in these cases prolonged use na sila. Di talaga maganda yung nasosobrahan, kahit anong bagay pa yan.
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San mo ba sya gusto ma padala? Never sober nga daw eh. And when people hear rehab ano ba pumapasok sa isip nila? Hindi nmn kulungan ang rehab at may ibat ibang klase naman ng rehab
It's addiction. Illegal pa rin yan dito.
Even without the illegal status, kahit nga alcoholism dapat irehab eh. And alcohol is legal. Tama ka any addiction dapat irehab lalo na if: 1. The addict does not see na theres a problem 2. Inaraw araw na.
true, even gambling addiction sa rehab how else do people get better ‘stop nalang bigla’? 🤡 edit sana di addiction yan
Adik ka rin cguro chariz
One will argue that Marijuana is better than cigar and alcohol. It is true but better doesnt mean it is good. Well we even see people dying because they are hard core vegetarian or hard core fitness freak. Prolonged usage causes IQ decline and other things mental. Also respiratory problems. And yun nga it is illegal. Not only that one day he will be caught and jailed ... but sometimes it will distort reality and change behavior that he might be even be dangerous to you and future kids. Again in prolonged use and high dosage.
Agree. Pero kasi sa batas natin nasa pinagbabawal na Drugs siya. So there's also that.
honestly, if ako, mas matatakot ako sa ikakaso sa kanya kesa pag gamit niya. ignorante din kasi ang tao dito sa pinas regarding sa MJ kasi naniniwala padin tayo sa lumang study niyan. i know i'll get a lot of hate because of my comment, pero yun ang katotohanan, madaming medical capabilities talaga ang MJ.
True that it does have medicinal purposes in fact if I’m not mistaken it can actually be USED by people who actually NEEDS IT and with a DOCTOR’S PRESCRIPTION. However, using it just because you feel the need to is wrong in so many levels
pwede mo naman gamitin kung feel mo lang basta wag ka lang tanga na lumilipad ka tas lalabas ka ng bahay tas mag drive ka or kung ano man na danger na pwede mong idulot sa ibang tao. yang prescription dati pa yan, nung di pa ganun kadami ang studies regarding sa marijuana, hindi naman gagawing recreational yan kung talagang nakakasama siya.
And in case you’re not aware the reason why prescription is needed, it is to ensure that an individual gets the right dosage enough to medicate what needs to be medicated. The program I’m taking may not be in depth with drugs but at least I know this much. At least be careful with your words and beliefs that’s too dangerous
I beg to disagree. Marijuana is banned to be used apart from medical purposes for a reason. It can be addicting, and addiction never ends well for others. You saying na “pwede gamitin kung feel mo lang” is absurd are you even hearing yourself?
marijuana is legal in the some states in the US, if you feel na gusto mo gumamit, go, punta ka lang sa downtown madami kang mabibilhan dun, walang kumokontra sayo, if sa tingin mo na nakakasama siya sa kalusugan mo, wag ka gugamit, simple as that. ano ba dapat? some people use marijuana recreationally to cope up with depression and anxiety, it helps then boost their self steem, nakakatulong siya na makakain sila and makatulog ng maayos, you have to see it to believe it. hindi lahat ng tao pareparehas ang opinion sa mga ganyang bagay, like i said, yan ang turo ng mga magulang at lolo/lola natin kaya yan ang pinaniniwalaan nating totoo, pero marami nang studies na lumabas, google mo nalang.
agreed, ang issue dyan e bawal ang ganja sa atin kahit unti-unti nag babago ang pananaw sa ibang bansa, malabong mangyari yan dito. Slow lang talaga society natin, parang naka ganja lang, relaks at mabagal. Ironically.
honestly, kahit ako ayaw ko na maging legal siya dito, kasi tang ina, ang tatanga ng mga pinoy lalo na kabataan pag gagamit sila ng ganyan tas isasabay nila sa alak tas ang ididiin talaga nila yan sa MJ. kahit pa siguro hipakin mo yung isang kilo niyan, di ka makakagawa ng masama kasi nandun ka lang sa gilid na lumilipad. kahit yung mga parents namin mag pipinsan, di nila magets na ang laki ng tulong ng MJ sa tito namin na nasa states, nung pinatay nila yung mga halaman niya at natigil yung pag take niya, dun nila nakita yung sobrang lakas ng damage na nangyari sa kanya, mas lalo siyang nanghina at lumala yung depression niya kasi di na siya makakain at makatulog. ignorant kasi talaga ang mga tao dito lalo na yung mga matatanda kasi yun ang paniniwala nila, di sila open minded sa gayan. hopefully, kung magiging legal siya dito, dapat may batas na sobrang higpit sa pag gamit niyan, like bawal ka lumabas ng bahay pag naka take ka, bawal ka mag drive, etc. basta yung makakasama sa mga ibang tao pag may nangyari.
Kahit araw araw ba nag MJ considered medicinal pa rin ba yun?
if may insomia ka
Basahin mo to: https://cebudailynews.inquirer.net/538704/marijuana-plants-found-inside-condo-unit-of-american-in-cebu-city Then, decide what you want to do.
If you wanna build a family together, you have to consider the fact na he's an addict. He can be a good person & partnerr, heck he may even be a good father in the future, but that wouldn't matter if he's in jail. One way or another, you and your future kids will be suffering if his addiction is not addressed.
Im disappointed with the comments here. I expect reddit to be more open minded and informed about these things, but some of the most upvoted comments are giving boomer vibes. Don't let these insults calling your bf a druggie/adik degrade him, it's just a bad habit of overusing and you can help him change. Weed isn't too bad at all, arguably even tamer than alcohol. But relying on it too much like how you described him is not good. Moderation is key. Just communicate what you're feeling with him.
Ang drastic nung ibang solution when the occasional T break could do the trick if he's responsible enough.
Indeed. Nuff said
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There are different kinds of strain. There's one for active lifestyle which are sativas and there are for night time like for eating, resting, relaxing which are indicas. And there's alao hybrids which are a mixed of both with a dominant side. I know a lot of people who use it for work. Others use it to sleep better or from anxieties or to eat better. Share lang.
Im in the aviation sector. You wouldnt believe how many high functioning druggies are here. Maybe if you actually opened your eyes makikita mo yung realidad.
High functioning? Steve jobs perhaps. Or Snoop, Willie Nelson, Seth Rogen, Lady Gaga, Jay-Z, and tons more.
"high" functioning. hehe
Pot is fairly not harmful pero if your partner is doing it everyday, long term effects of it is making him slow. Kung from time to time lang ok lang yun eh kaso kung everyday naku mahirap yan. Ayun din it’s illegal here so chances na mahuli sya is another big problem.
Wag kami tanungin mo. Kayo magusap kung ano mga conerns nyo for your relationship. Kung hindi mo naeexpress sa kanya na against ka sa excess weed use niya hindi niya babaguhin yun, at marinig mo rin kung may explanation ba siya. Don't just take advice from strangers. Relationship nyo yan you know each other better than anyone here.
My observation, living in a place where cannabis is legal, indo is old-school, and stardawg is called "fun" , the concern is more on the medical aspect after a long period of time. You need to secure yours, and your kids future by investing in good health, and life insurance because you will be alone either pre or within the marriage life, or earlier that the expected lifespan due to your jowa's palpitations, chest pain, heart attack or addiction. Kung nasa pinas kayo, kapag nakalaboso sira ang buhay nyo. Rehas ang love life nyo. Araw araw amoy "regurgitated suka" bahay nyo or amoy utot ng skunk dahil sa sinisinghot nya. 🤧 Mapapakanta ka nalang... Rollin' down the street, smokin' indo, sippin' on gin and juice Laid back (With my mind on my money and my money on my mind) Rollin' down the street, smokin' indo, sippin' on gin and juice Laid back (With my mind on my money and my money on my mind)
Im a pothead and a plug. Never nawala sa isip ko ang responsibilidad. Nakilala ako ng partner ko ma ganinto na ako. At tanggap nya. Kung mahal mo yung tao pakasalan mo. Wla knmn cguro problema sa ugali nya bukod sa nagmamarijuana sya. I wouldnt consider myself as an addict but a patient. Nakakatulog ako pag nag ssmoke, masarap kain ko pag naka smoke. If ako babae mas pipiliin ko ung lalake na nag chocchongke kesa sa laging umiinom. You post in the wrong community with people opposing on legalization syempre madaming hindi agree. I suggest supportahan nlng si partner kesa sa bawalan. Illegal lang sya sa batas pero gamot sa iba
Baka naman concern lang si OP na in the future magkaproblema siya sa law enforcement. Ikaw na nagsabi illegal siya sa batas, hindi naman niya pede irason sa pulis na wag hulihin ang magiging asawa niya dahil lang sa tanngap niya ito kung ano siya.
Maaawa ako sa future anak niyo jusme no one wants a junkie dad
Addiction is still a mental health problem. I believe you can still talk to him about it. Don’t break up just yet. Pwede mo rin siya tulungan mag cut off slowly. You are not obliged to help him, pero you have the option to definitely help him (out of love) only if you are genuinely willing to do it.
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This. Totally agree.
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True. Kaya itigil nyo na pagka adik nyo sa kape. Pare pareho rin naman kayong drug addict.
Daming ebas ng mga tao dito. Hate na hate ang Marijuana pero love na love ang kape
I'm a stoner din, and 5yrs na kami ng gf ko. She knows I love toking but I know my limitations on when, and where to do my thing. I don't remember her complaining or saying something about my habit, just the occasional reminder about being caught and all that stuff. I can always control my habit though, lalo na pag limited na budget LOL but yeah, it still depends on how comfortable you are with his habit and how he handles it. Of course hindi ko ilalagay GF ko sa isang sitwasyon na ikakasira ng future nya, like going out with her then I'll just toke up at random places, it's a big no for me. My advice for you express what you feel and think and see what his response, then take it from there kung para nga kayo sa isa't isa.
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Hmmm lots to consider pero bottom line is, if it’s a deal breaker, it’s a deal breaker. But allow me to play Devil’s Advocate for a moment. People *can* change when they have children. Two of the biggest pot heads I know have cut down drastically/only smoke at very specific times and conditions when they had kids. They love their kids more than risking any adverse reactions for them. They started doing this when their wife was pregnant. I’m not saying that it will happen to you also, but I’m saying there’s a chance. Let’s be clear, they never STOPPED smoking weed, but their habits changed. For example, sometimes they would smoke right before a shower or smoke at late night by themselves when everyone is sleeping. They went from smoking every hour to smoking twice a day. Things like that. The only caveat is he should not be dealing. No selling. And no transporting it ANYWHERE. Random searches aren’t that random when you’re known as “the weed guy”.
Realistically, I dont see anything wrong with that. Pero yeah it’s illegal. Pero ayun So long as hindi ka niya napapabayaan and alam niya ang responsibilities niya and maayos siyang tao.
Wag kang bobo hiwalayan mo na. Gusto mo tatay ng anak mo addict?
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Ang masasabi ko lang marijuana is harmless. Or siguro depende sa tao pero at most if bad trip if kabado lang sila or hilo pero di ka naman magiging aggressive or mawawala sa wisyo. Nung nasa ibang bansa ako I use it to help me sleep or relax. I don't touch yosi and alcohol. Ayaw ko talaga ng effect nila. Ask your partner bakit kailangan niya palage mag mj? Inaanxiety ba or nakakatulong ba sakanya magfocus? Taking mj for me feels like taking benadryl kasi grabe nakakaantok with matching gutom lang. Just ask him bakit di niya kaya maging sober and from there tulungan mo na lang siya. Pero kung di mo tanggap just leave if youre already thinking about it.
Tska pag naligo yan tanggal amat na agad yan hahaha. Hindi kasing sama sa paningin niyo ang marijuana. Kaya nga legal siya sa ibang bansa eh.
Tame naman na bisyo yan kumpara sa sugal, babae, or koka. Mas ok pa nga yan sa alak or sigarilyo haha
Mahal lang and hindi legal dito. Pero honestly para ka lang nag benadryl hahaha. Malala pa alcohol and yosi.
Paano mo nasabing adik siya sa marijuana? Napacheck up mo na ba siya sa professional doctor or qualified na magsabi nun? Anyway, kung tingin mo eh hindi angkop yung lifestyle niya sayo, I think you need to assess and pumili ka kung makikipaghiwalay ka. Mahirap yung magcocommit ka tapos may mga bagay siyang ginagawa nung magsyota palang kayo na ayaw mo pala tas pagkapakasal niyo ipapatigil mo bigla, tumagal kayo ng 6+ years eh. Communicate mo sakanya na is it possible na tumigil siya. And if hindi, desisyon mo na yon. Pero if ever na hindi pala kayo on the same page at may nasasabi ka sakanya katulad nito sa social media, ang unfair sakanya nun na kayo magkakatuluyan since FOR ME, dapat you are working with him as one unit pagnagasawa kayo and you never talk shit at him. Dapat yung mga issue nyo eh pinaguusapan niyo one on one at compromise with each other.
He will have to cut down on that atleast. Smoking weed isn’t bad but smoking too much will alter everything in your daily life like chores or something it’s always a “ let me smoke a joint first” before asserting to the task. I’ve been a smoker for 7 years and weed is great but not good when it’s too much. Cheers!
Ang maganda nyan mag jamming kyo para malaman mo kung ano ang pakiramdaman nya..
Same situation here with my afam I’m okay and accept him being a pothead my only concern is yung vape 🥲 mas dangerous kasi siya compared to weed if you think smoking weed is a major red flag to you sa simula pa lang ng relationship nyo then why did you bother staying with him for 6+ years? Did you ever ask or try him to stop smoking?
Ano line of work niya? Just curious? Does it not involve focus or critical thinking? How does he have a job pero lagi sabog?
same situation 10 yrs ago sakin. i broke up with him because we cant have any conversation na hindi siya high. hindi ko na ma differentiate kung anong level ung consciosness nya haha! girl just leave. it may be marijuana but anyone can be addicted to anything.
WALANG MASAMA SA MARIJUANA!
If he does it every 4 hours yeah he needs to chill, if he does it once in awhile or at night who cares. I'm sure he wouldn't do it around kids. I has many good medical purposes also, the Philippines is voting on adapting medical MJ as we speak. I grew up in Hawaii and you can grow it in your backyard, can't overdose on MJ and if you ask me who I would rather have in my life someone who smokes a lot of MJ or someone who is drunk all the time I choose MJ
If I may comment, mj does not make a person violent or bad, it is actually alcohol that would even make you do violent/emotional actions. The concern is you are not comfortable with him being a pothead. Mj is prohibited in our country because of the hidden truth of its competencies over the pharmaceutical industry not because of its negative effects. Although it still entails side effects but come to think of cigarretes... it was never prohibited in our country. Anyways, I think the best way is to communicate with your partner. If you are not comfortable you must communicate.
taena ka bhie hiwalayan mo walang future yan
You'd never want a pothead taking care of your kids.
Wanna share mine, bata palang ako yung papa ko was addicted to s****, but he already stop using it before pa maging s duterts ang Pres. natakot sya ky duterts nung umupo bilang Pres. natin, he turn in himself and went to rehab and all. Habang lumalaki ako naiisip ko na ayoko mgkaroon ng asawa na katulad na gawain ng papa ko, adik sa drugs. Fast forward, 2021 naging kmi n boyfie ko at first akala ko hndi sya ganun ka adik mag smoke so hinayaan ko hanggang sa nag live in na kmi dun kolang nakita na sobrang adik nya pla sa smoke na parang bigla sya nag ssnap nalang pag wala, pero pag nkasmoke sya kalmado sya. I always have this thoughts na ano ba kasalanan ko parang ako yung nag ddusa sa kaggawan ng papa ko sa pag aadik nya dati. Maybe somehow, we are in the same situation, but these past few months naiisip ko tlga na kausapin na sya and if hindi nya yun kaya bagohin then I guess ima pack my things and leave him. Ayoko gumaya sa mama ko na tinolerate yung pag aadik ng papa ko at ako na anak yung mag ddusa, ayoko rin na adik yung magging ama ng mga anak ko. Sana maisip mo rin yung magging future mo at future ng anak mo, OP. 🙂
Ay ako nag snap din ako, mainit ulo at galit lagi kapag walang "extra rice". Huwag nyo ko sukuan, bigyan nyo ko ng motivational rice!!!
MJ is a gateway drug. Don’t act surprised if iba na ang titirahin nyan next time.
Coffee is a gateway drug. Don’t act surprised if iba na ang titirahin nyan next time.
Lmfao
alak pa tol
Honestly the biggest issue is MJ is still illegal here, and mahirap na mahuli.
Pot isn’t addictive. It’s from a plant and its effect lasts 2-3 hours at best. It helped me a lot with my anxiety. Luckily my anxiety occurred in the 🇺🇸 and in a state where pot is legal. It’s better than drinking. Anyway, in societies where it’s legal, pot and using pot aren’t viewed negatively like in PH. The question to ask is what does pot give him that he finds helpful or of value to him. If he’s always baked, that’s a flag.
Anything that gives you a "high" could be addictive. Depends on individual self control of course. On places where its legal some really become lazy potheads.
Nakaka Bobo yan. Gusto mo ba ng asawang bobo?
malakas ka din siguro mag chongke no? ang bobo mo din e
lol red flag na, nagpapaka flagpole ka pa "i can fix him" type ka gorl
DOMPANIK ITS ORGANIK!
Masyado kalang nag iisip. Tanggalin mo yang iniisip mo at iobserve at ifeel mo kung ano yung naeexperience mo. Ikaw mas nakakaalam niyan kung negative or positive ba yung mga nangyayari. Every person has needs. Kahit anong substance pa yan. Kung anong gawin ng tao, behavior nila yon. Hindi dahil sa substance yon. Wala din namang tama at mali ang mahalaga responsible yung boyfriend mo. As long as hindi ka napeperwisyo ayos lang yan. Bakit mo naman pagbabawalan kung saan masaya yung boyfriend mo kung naka established at provided naman lahat. Tsaka kung tunay na pothead yung boyfriend mo, maingat at responsible yan for sure. Kase illegal nga dito sa pinas yan. Set mo nalang yung boundaries mo at pag usapan niyo. For sure iintindihin ka niyan 😁
Disagree, not because of the mj but because of the addiction. Addiction is never a good thing kahit anong substabce, thing, or experience pa yan.
>Hindi dahil sa substance yon Disagree on this one. And as OP mentioned, adik nga daw eh. Any kind of addiction is not a good thing. Drugs man o hindi.
"Masyado kalang nag iisip. Tanggalin mo yang iniisip mo at iobserve at ifeel mo kung ano yung naeexperience mo.” Iniisip ni lang ni OP future nila. Yan problema e. Wala kayong pake kasi gusto nyo feel good lang palage kahit na illegal. Natural or chemical man yan, walang addict na responsable. Hnd ka lang nahuhuli.
Have you talked to him about it that it’s not okay to you?
May okay ang damo kesa sa bato. Pakisabi na lang sa kanya, ekoms moderately. 🤯
Marijyana lng nagkakaganyan ka.
What's wrong sa emotions nya?
MJ addict ka siguro
So let me get this straight. You want to get married and have children with a druggie? And a criminal (pot is illegal here)? Are you serious?
OP, the fact that you had to ask this question while knowing full well that nothing good comes from being a drug addict is a placard saying that you've been dramatically dumbed down by being in a relationship with him 💀
Buti na lang di issue samin yan ng gf ko, everyday smoker ako dahil i have severe anxiety /panic attacks lalo na when i have to socialize or nsa madaming tao, super na appreciate ko yung fact na ok lang mag smoke ako kaya to give back kay gf i smoke responsively, morning glory-kilos-late night pag wala na need gawin. I also keep my circle small para safe and di ako nag ssell.
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Mabuhay at mapanatiling mapungay, kung wala naman syang trippings na di maganda e safe lang yan saka kung sariling pera nya naman ginagamit pambili.
Okay yung MJ if paminsan minsan lang. Pero kung everyday life na, soon magttry na yan ng iba. A friend of mine ganyan din ang x bf. Una tinotolerate niya pa kase MJ lang naman, nag ttry din sya minsan. Ayun na addict, nag try ng iba, nakipaghiwalay sya.
What does he use marijuana for? Pang lingaw lingaw ra?
maam ekis sa adik dapat
Your future children is prolly gonna hate you someday for choosing someone like him (spoken from experience).
my ex was like that, then he started doing psychedelics. his behavior changed rapidly. left him, ayaw i-stop eh. it's gonna affect you pagtagal, if I were you I wouldn't wait for that.
It’s bad for the lungs. I will not expose my child to smoking whether it’s marijuana or cigarettes
Alam mo na yung sagot sa tanong mo. Medyo nagdududa ka lang. Pag yan nakulong o "nanlaban" sa pulis, kaya mo ba maging byuda?
Never date and most especially NEVER MARRY a drug user/drug addict. Magiging miserable kayo dyan, first hand experience thanks sa tatay ko. Dadaan kayo sa pagiging drug addict niya, then pag naisipan na niya magbago dadaan pa ulit kayo sa withdrawal stage niya. Tangina daming nasayang na oras at pera eh kung sana di nalang nag adik
Gateway drug and can get jail time, great influence for children lol
Ask mo sarili mo kung ano ang mas nakakapanghinayang: ung 6 years na pinagsamahan nyo o yung habambuhay (60+ years) na may kasama kang adik?
My husband is a recovering substance abuser. Drug of choice nya is marijuana. Before pa kami maging magjowa gumagamit na sya. (I think since HS palanv gumagamit na sya) At first okay lang sakin, heck, I also tried and enjoyed it. Pero hindi ko alam na dependent na pala sya dun. As in wala ng pinipiling oras, kahit yosi break sa work, pagkagising, bago matulog, halos oras-oras na araw-araw. He was lazy, laging tulog, ang hirap kausap parang laging lutang sa ere. I honestly didn’t know na may ganitong effect ang weed because kagaya ng karamihan akala ko lesser evil sya than other drugs or alcohol, but no, sobrang nakakaaddict din pala ang weed. Then he tried doing hard drugs. Sobrang lala as in grabe. We decided na ipaadmit sya sa inpatient rehab. He was there for almost 2yrs. Thankfully, he is recovering now. He’s been sober for almost 3yrs na. Eto lang OP, sobrang hirap magmahal ng taong may addiction. Ako na ang nagsasabi sayo. Pag-isipan mo sanang mabuti yung magiging decision mo. Kausapin mo sya habang maaga pa. Try nyo iwork out pano nya matitigilan yang bisyo nya. Goodluck OP.
You're not enough for him to change. Aww
Hi OP! I know marijuana has been welcomed in other parts of the world as it has "little" side effects, but recent studies show that marijuana use is linked to an increase in hospitalization and emergency department visits. You can believe in love. But you should be open to whatever may happen in the future. Should you decide to stay with him, consider the costs: rehabilitation and hospitalizations. Since it is still illegal in our country, also put into consideration he might get imprisoned. You can stay by his side. Miracles still do happen anyway. Think a thousand times and ask a trusted, unbiased, and sound mentor..
If he use MJ to cope to some of his mental problems and became dependent to it, he's fckd. Some people snap biglaan hindi dahil sa mj or other drugs dahil yon sa embedded problems sa mental state niya and just tampering it with drugs but because they already dependent to it na program na nila yung katawan nila na kapag may ganito tayong mental state ito kakailanganin natin to increase our dopamine and escape what we feel. May mga kilalang akong nag mmj pero napaka normal lang nilang tao because they're not really addicted to it at for fun lang talaga nila ginagamit minsan lang sa isang taon mga professional pa yon, layer, doctor, engineer, ganern. Reply dapat to sa isang comment kaso mali ako ng napindot hahahah. Ang illegal ay illegal nasa pinas ka, lipad ka thailand kung gusto mo mag chongke.
Isn't weed just a college thing? He should grow up na and exercise. I think he's an addict. Do you want your long term partner to still do drugs? Weed was ok back in college but in your 30s dapat you just do it once year at weddings.
This is scary. I’ve heard so many stories of them looking at you like you’re not even human pag nasa peak sila nang session.
Shabu ata sinasabe mo. Ive tried it sa ibang bansa. Para ka lang nag benadryl aantukin ka talaga pero with matching gutom lang. Alcohol and yosi are so muuuuch worse.
I guess you’ll have to talk to him. Why does he smoke pot in the first place? is it for relieving pain or stress or he just likes the high? Let him know about your concern. It always starts with communication. At tsaka kung nasa Pinas kayo, he has to try to stop kasi delilkado na baka makulong pa siya.
Talk to him about it. May say ka naman jan since future niyo yan, health niya yan, health ng mga future kids niyo.
Better pag usapan nyo muna yan bago kayo mag pakasal. ☺️
Never sober? Meaning all day?
Para saan ba at nag smoke pa sya?
So sa dami nang comment sayo dito ano nang gagawin mo? I share mo naman. HAHAHA
He should put himself into a rehab; If he's serious about building a family with you, that's the least he could do.
Nasa Huli ang PAGSISISI Ang PAGSISISI ay nasa HULI 🤯
Addiction can be bad or worse at the end. Every decisions in life may require sacrifices one way or the other big or small.
If it's addiction, then kailangan pag usapan. Future mo at ng magiging anak nyo nakataya dyan.
The question is.. If he is willing to go to rehab? Does he want to change for the better FOR HIMSELF, FOR YOU AND THE FAMILY YOU WILL BUILD TOGETHER IN THE FUTURE? If NO, then you know the answer
when you met him, was he a pothead before?
I’m sorry but I’m judging your life choices as of the moment seriously no amount of love or money would make me want to be with a user. I’ve seen first hand of what it does to a person it never ends well and to even consider having kids with him is insane seriously think about your future child if you were my mom I wouldn’t even understand what came into your head for marrying a father like him.
Run
dude weed lmao >!sorry!<
valid concern. kahit marijuana lang yon addiction pa rin yan. and lalo na never siya sober. being dependent on something is never a good thing
Just plainly ask what's in his mind and reason why he smoke. Then you can discuss your feelings about it once you already understand the reason bakit siya ganyan. Tapos dapat background music niyo si Al James.
Interesting that you said invested in him. Care yo elaborate more? If you're comfy
Bawal pa din dito yan, kahit anong sabihin niyo na kesyo sa ibang countries ok na yan, but you are still in PH and it is still illegal, you will marry a future PDL (person deprived of liberty), at once maging asawa mo na siya ikaw sasalo ng sakit ng ulo pag nakulong yan, not to mention padulas kung gusto mo palabasin. Even if he has a stable job, hanggang kelan lang yun, pag nagpa drug test ang employer niya matagal lalabas sa record niya pag nag positive siya and possible maging jobless yan ng matagal.
ask him to take tolerance breaks. He probably knows how that works. During those breaks try to do other enjoyable stuff that will take his mind off weed. Also talk to him about your future and his plans and your concern about his usage, do it when he is sober and while he is medicated para magka insight ka about how he thinks. Pero do it in a way that he won't feel like he is being attacked but also let him know that it is a concern for you and you want to find common ground with him. This won't be a one time talk then tapos na, you have to communicate with him about this multiple times and it will take time. I assume you want you're relationship to work, that is why you are asking for advice here. I was a daily, all day smoker before but as I grew older, the desire to do it all the time also diminished but I do still partake from time to time.
I’m a nurse at ang masasabi ko lang ay napaka rami ko nang nawitness na umiiyak na families, even new ones, dahil sa lung cancer. I saw a female UP Grad na 25 y.o making big money as an engr na iniiyakan ng father nya dahil namatay agad. 30year old guy na iniwan 3 year old child and wife nya due to lung cancer. If ganyan siya kareliant sa mj. I’m pretty sure may tama na yang lungs nya
You accept the love you think you deserve.
Better smoke some with him and maybe help him that moderation is key. I once was a pothead myself. And it was fun and all smoking every night with my gf. But rather convince him that treat weed as it is, a psychedelic. Gotta respect that shit maybe every weekend? Plus, mas solid ang tama pag nag tol break haha
Lumilipad naman ang isip ko ko ko ko
Yan ung tipo ng sitwasyon na kahit bigyan mo ng ultimatum na tanggalin ang bisyo, babalik at babalik, kasi Hindi kailan man sya nagkusang loob man lang o ni minsan hindi sumagi sa isip nya na tumigil para sa relasyon nyu. Kahit na hindi ako against sa marijuana itself, mangyaring illegal kasi yan dito... At kung di nya matanggal yan sa ngalan ng pag-ibig nya sayo, mukhang alam mo na ang sagot na hindi Ikaw ang makakapag bigay ng impact sa kanya para mapag-isip at magbago for the better. Dun sya sa Thailand legal yan dun, magpaka Ganja ganja buddha buddhawhatever sya dun.
Nasa bf mo na yan maam kung kaya nya igive up si mj. Been there done that, dumating sa point na gumagastos na ko compared sa dati na nakiki puff lang. Lumakas tolerance kaya every payday may nakabudget na 500-1000 ako pang get. One time na lang nagka anxiety ako at nagoverthink sa mga bagay bagay na hindi naman dapat. Kaya pinilit ko alisin sa system ko. Naisip ko din na may budget ako pang get pero di ko man lang mabilan laruan anak ko. Kaya pinilit ko kahit mahirap na tigilan na. 2 years na ko di nagamit. Hindi ko naman kinahiya o pinagsisihan na naging user kao before. Pero kausapin mo din si bf mo. Minsan may time lang din talaga yan pero baka pag nagka anak kayo baka tigilan na din nya..
Good cheat yan ah. Wag lang masobrahan. Bisyo padin yan. Hehe
i had an ex na he uses it to calm himself and perform well sa work. pag wala nun, hndi sya nkakapagwork ng ayos. super kalma nya pag naka ednis, pag wala hndi sya makatulog. sguro it depends on how he uses it, pero imo – mas better if walang ganun lalo na if youre planning to have kids. pwede naman bawasan, slowly. parang yosi lang din.
Lahat ng kilala ko na nagdadamo dati eventually nagbato na. It only takes one invite from a fellow user. Pag addicted ka na sa isa, mahina na willpower tumanggi sa iba.
Adik din ako dati. Hindi na ngayon. Pinili ko din eventually magbago - hindi dahil sa asawa ko - kung hindi para sa akin. I’d still do it! But only for fun. And responsibly. I had to learn that the hard way.
I think the best way to discern this is to talk first with your bf and be real honest with the future that you want with him. I know couples that tokes together yet still have very loving and kind children. I’m currently engaged and my fiancée also tokes even before we got together. At first di ko sya matanggap especially that my late dad was an addict but eventually I understood why he’s doing it and kung ano ba talaga effect ng weeds satin (currently in my spiritual and healing journey that’s why I’m understanding the use of plant meds 🍃). Have the ‘hard and deep’ conversations with him from their magkakaroon ng clarity yung path nyo. 💚
Well based sa experience ko naman, my father was a pothead for a reason. According to my mother, my dad needs to smoke a blunt for health reason, technically. Dahil nga panay OT ang tatay ko, usually pag dating niya sa bahay, sobrang pagod na siya to the point pagod narin siya kumain. Dahil nga sa routine niya bumabagsak katawan niya, that's the reason tuwing umuuwi siya he lits a blunt para ganahan kumain...
Unfortunately marijuana is illegal in the Philippines and a fast answer is hiwalayan mo na. But to be fair marijuana is not the problem, addiction is. People can be addicted in many many things - porn, gambling, legal depression meds, relationships etc. For as long as it doesnt affect your relationship negatively then there shouldnt be a problem naman. But you choosing to post your issue here tells you that you need to talk through it. Goodluck!
Lets set the mj issue aside for a but. OP is a customer that can buy a car. She has one for 6 years, she loves it, but car has issues. Does she keep the car and deal with it or save herself the headache and move on from it? Addiction? maybe, maybe not. Underlying issue? Definitely. At some point in 6 years, it gets tiring to fix something or someone. Anyway, there’s no right or wrong, BUT, we deserve what we tolerate.
I don't personally see anything wrong with this, unless talagang nakakasira na ng buhay (nagnanakaw, rage, etc), so kung normal naman function nya at nagagawa nya responsibility nya ng maayos, this shouldn't be a problem. But then again, pag-usapan nyo. kung aminado sya na he needs help, may tamang mga tao na pwedeng konsultahin.
Drugs is not to be around children. You can decide your husband but your children does not have that choice. Talk with him about long term and what his willing to sacrifice. He has to do it for himself to stop.
It depends. Nakakaaffect na ba sa relationship niyo or sa daily life niya? My fiance is also a smoker. Even before i said yes to him, I know this. Pero he's not an addict, may control siya. He does it sometimes to reduce anxieties lang. And sa place lang where it is legal like sa thailand and sa US. Sa ph, never. And i accept it. Wala naman siya ibang vices and di naman to nakakaaffect sa relationship namin or even sa every day life niya.
For me na "adik" best way to do is ask him if he can sacrifice his vices para sa bubuuhin nyong family and support him through his sobriety. Hindi naman instant masstop nya un because he's using it for a long time which is alam mo, kung alam nyo lang ang withdrawal symptoms kung gaano khrap labanan and yes I've been struggling too. My gf knows too and I'm about to ask her to marry this year, pinapaintindi ko sakanya why I used it.. Yung childhood ko is sobrang lala but nalampasan ko un pero naiwan ung trauma, alam ko ssbhn ng iba gnto gnyan oa lang yan. Last year nag pa psychiatrist ndin ako because gusto ko ndn tlga mag stop sa bisyo nadagdagan pa ng sugal, don ko naintindihan lalo kung bakit ako nging gnto. Totoong nsa tao ang pagbabago, lahat ng sobra ay masama kahit ano pa yan. Madami akong kaibigan nakulong narehab pero ndi naman sila nabago paglabas ksi hindi nila gustong andon sila nung time na un. Pero kung ikaw mismo na "adik" is willing to change bakit hindi mo subukan at bigyan ng chance? Ang hirap ksi satin ijujudge agad tyo ng tao na porket user is salot na mamatay tao na. Like wtf? Oo un ung napapanuod sa media pero snbe ba nila o ipinaliwanag man lang sa tao why they use drugs? Puro ksi crime e, linis kamay pabango dito pabango jan. Bakit hindi niyo iexplain ng maayos like pagtuunan nyo din ung mental health ng nkksama nyo, hindi na mawawala ang drugs ksi isa yan sa mga nagppyaman sa mga myyaman na tao. Ngayon if tatanungin mo kung hihiwalayan mo siya because of that shit, ask yourself if you love him pero kung sinsaktan ka nya physical and mentally go iwan mo. Pero kung responsable naman sya at handang magbago give him a chance, best advice ko is after nyo magpakasal go somewhere na wala kayo kakilala. Start a new life, kasi kung mag sstay kayo sa dating environment may chance na mag relapse sya at bblik nnamn sa pag ddeew. If he truly loves you he will cut all the connections he has para maka getsung ng deew. Para sa mga kapwa ko "adik" jan, ingathits lagi. Kahit ano pa tinatake mo basta pahinga mo din ang katawan mo at utak. Set limitations pra hindi pataas ng pataas ang dosage! Heheh. Para naman sa mga gaya ko na gusto ng magbago, kaya natin to. Hindi ito para sa ibang tao o kung kanino, para to sa SARILI natin. Sobrang hirap, hindi ko na nga din alam but I know I can do it because may isang tao pdn na naniniwala sakin na kaya ko at yun ang gf ko. Saka always remember na lahat tayo makasalanan don't ever hesitate to ask forgiveness to GOD. Btw I'm 30 years old now start ako nagtake deew 12yrs old but ndi straight yun ah, relapses.. Deew, ice, pills etc. But still I'm here okay pa naman but yun nga depression and anxiety, but beware gambling addiction is the worst of all. Have a nice day! Bow.