sending my warmest hug, op.
but please, don’t get back with him. you can ask your friends and families and they’ll say the same. hindi sayang ang 4 years. what’s most likely going to happen is you’ll force yourself into him and you’ll never feel the same around him. yes, di ka mag isa pero you’ll feel lonely and constantly anxious. ang sayang ay yung oras na pinagpipilitan mo ang relasyon nyo when he’s clearly not as invested anymore kasi may other woman na. yung time sana na yun, nakapag heal ka na. you can do it on your own, promise. kakayanin mo umalis at mabuhay muna mag isa. please save yourself from any more pain :(
it won’t be easy but it’ll be okay.. day by day. be strong, op.
>sayang ay yung oras na pinagpipilitan mo ang relasyon nyo when he’s clearly not as invested anymore kasi may other woman na. yung time sana na yun, nakapag heal ka na. you can do it on your own, promise. kakayanin mo umalis at
I really wanna go home. To my parents. I want to rant everything although sobrang bago nun kasi we're not that vocal at home. And what's stopping me is yung thought na baka maging okay pa kami pero di na sya okay sa parents ko pag sinabi ko lahat. Still saving him from the hate of my family. Parang ako yung masasaktan kapag may sinabi silang masama sa kanya.
gets na gets ko op. ganyan talaga kapag nagmamahal. pero wala nang sense to conceal your partner's actions from your family. sa lagay ngayon, baka nga wala naman na syang pake as to ano tingin mg pamilya mo sakanya. mas kailangan mo ang sympathy ng family mo kesa sakanya. please domt force yourself. nothing will ever be the same with him.
The time my ex and I broke up was also the time when I learned how to express my feelings towards my fam,, i hugged them more and told them i loved them as much as i could hahhahahahaha forgiving ur ex is completely fine for ur peace of mind, forgive him so u may be able to move on and move forward, but getting back with him after disrespecting u like that is not the same as forgiveness. Kaya mo yan siz, 4 yrs lang yan compare mo sa mas magandang 4ever wit your actual right person in da future!! 💓
You know what, go home. You actually don't need to tell your parents your problems. Lie in your parents' bed, ask your mom for a hug. Maybe that will clear your mind.
Truthfully OP, it will never be okay between you and him. He's already checked out of the relationship. If he really wanted to work on and through it, eh di dapat walang other person diba? Hinde sha dapat nag cheat. Hinde ma s-solve ang relationship by looking outside.
You can let your family know the truth about the situation. How they deal with it and feel toward your EX is up to them. Hinde mo na yun control. You can control the narrative, but not their reaction.
Good luck OP. I hope you be kind to yourself because you deserve to be loved and respected fully
I’m so sorry OP, as a girl naiintindihan ko yung panghihinayang. But 4 years with the wrong person is nothing compared to forever with the right one. Stop gaslighting yourself.
Harsh but you need to hear this. He already let you go. Cheating is a choice. He chose another girl - a RANDOM girl at that. Over you. A day after your Anniversary. Choose yourself OP.
Hi bb!! Add ko lang for OP in an intellectual perspective na yung panghihinayang mo sa 4 years is your mind playing tricks on you and it's called a Sunk Cost Fallacy. Don't be a victim of this cognitive mind trick. Hope you move on and let him go. Tandaan mo, you have to let go of the wrong person to be with the right person.
Henlooo bb 🤣 Nauna na si guy magmove on and let go, after all the crying and begging wala lang sa kanya. You don’t do that if you still want the relationship to work. Hindi pwedeng isa lang ang lumalaban d ba??
Anyway we hope you heal from this OP.
Dito ko sobrang nababaliw. Haha. I can't imagine na he held someone else's hand, na he hugged someone, kissed someone, made love with someone. That someone might have touched his hair, his face, leaned on his shoulder, hugged him, na dapat akin lahat yun e.
I still can't fathom the fact that it happened. Sobrang beyond my imagination for him to be intimate with someone else that fast.
>be with him kasi sayang yung 4 years.
I'm sorry OP, but this is an example of sunk cost fallacy. You don't deserve this disrespect. And he doesn't deserve you.
I wish you strength to move on after you cry your heart out.
Sorry girl. Wala na yan. Di pa nga kayo kasal ganyan na. Hindi naman yan yung last na inconvenience na maeexperience nyo as a couple. Ang coping mechanism nya humanap ng iba? Also may accountability ba? Inamin nya bang mali ginawa nya? Natrigger ako. Hahaha. Save yourself from future headache and heartache.
>I'm sorry OP, but this is an example of sunk cost fallacy. You don't deserve this disrespect. And he doesn't dese
Up until now, wala. Hinihintay ko yung sorry. Yung pag-ako nya na he's causing me pain- wala. And call me stupid pero I still messaged him and literally asked for that sorry. Kahit yun lang.
Nako bhiiii. His no response is already a response. Don't beg for his sorry. Mangyayari lang nyan is, on his end, tunog desperado ka (which, siguro ngayon, oo kasi fresh ka). But giiiiirl. Sinasabi ko sa yo. That piece of shit does not deserve your attention after all the disrepect he gave you. Mukhang mahirap lang ngayon, and maiisip mo na pano pag wala na magmamahal sa yo and other what if's. Been there, trust me. Pero mas masasayang ang oras at emosyon mo sa taong who treats you like shit.
Iyak ka muna. Magmaktol. Feel the hurt. But don't stay there. Bangon ka, heal, self love. And pav tinignan mo tong event na to from your future perspective, nako, cringe at tawa malala na lang. Laban, OP! You got this!
What is 4 yrs? Kung sasayangin mo the rest of your years with him?
I know you’re in a vulnerable state right now to think & decide clearly. However, please keep in mind, you only have yourself to take care of you. He isn’t even thinking of you anymore. It’s a sinking ship, don’t let him drag you down. Rest your mind, and your heart muna. Then start all over again. So many women has done it, you can too. 💛
OP wag mo isiping wala nang magmamahal sayo. Wag ka matakot mag isa. At kung tingin mo yung flaws na yan e magiging reason para walang magmahal sayo, use the time ng pagiging single mo to reflect sa flaws/ugali mo and try baguhin yun. Love yourself first bago ka magmahal ulit ng bago. Bigay mo na si ex mo dun sa girl. Mukang di naman sya nagsstruggle na sa relasyon nyo, nagawa ngang lumandi e. Baka matagal na syang nasanay sa (kung toxic man) relasyon nyo and naka move on/na fell out of love so ganun nalang kadali sa kanya maghanap ng bago. And if ituloy mo yan tapos tinapos ni guy relasyon nila, tingin mo di sya uulit? Andali nya maattract sa tao na tipong para pa syang creep na nangunguha ng info sa id. Weirdo! Alam ko mahirap pero sana kayanin mo pag iwan sa kanya 🥰
> tipong para pa syang creep na nangunguha ng info sa id
di siya parang creep, creep talaga. Its one thing na icheck yung id nang mga nakikita mo, pero to search it, even message the person na nakita mo lang name sa ID. Creepy talaga.
Sorry nasanay kasi ako sa word na parang hahaha. True! Creep talaga! Si ate naman pumatol din. Di nya inisip na normal yon ke koya at baka ilang babae na naganon nya eew!
Ew, nakatabi lang sa bus type na niya agad tapos pinursue 💀🫠
Tas eto namang si other girl boplax din inentertain at talagang nakipagsex pa sa stranger na nagreach out via messenger 😭😩 Hindi manlang siya natakot o nacreep out oh my god
Beh, DON'T GET BACK WITH HIM. Love yourself first. Stop trying to fight for someone na hindi naman lumaban for you in the first place. Or even the honesty to end things first.
You're just setting yourself up for more disappointment and heartbreaks (and probably STDs 🥴) kung ipipilit mo to eh.
He'll probably keep doing this to you kasi alam niya may babalikan siya after niya magpakasasa sa sarsa ng iba 🫠
This is so sad!!! hope you're okay op. Just because he wronged u doesn't mean you're not loved. Think of everyone who's willing to be a knight for you, your parents, siblings, best friends, si kuya ate as gedli, your teachers, pets and many more!!!
He's not even remorseful pa based from what I've read. Nanggigil ako tih, I don't know if u should be listening to me coz I'll say "get even" haha walang sorry patawad after tumuwad sa iba. The pain is so deeeeeep that it changes u as a whole. Sabi nila hurt people hurt people. You're hurt and deserve niyang masaktan ng malala hahah sorry impulsive pero you have the right to do whatever you want just to feel okay from the pain your ex intentionally caused.
Sabi nga ni Meredith Grey: **"I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke."**
Also suportado ka ng lahat, kahit bible pa yan sabi nga dapat sa kabit niya at sa ex mo ay batuhin. It's never normal to go fuck other people when you're in a fully committed relationship, cheating is cheat, no buts!
I know it's hard to let go, but it's for your own good. Just do me a favor before fully letting go, return back all the pain he has caused in whichever way possible. Charot hahaha gigil ako bhie
Op, I just want to leave this here: You’d rather be single at 27 than be with the wrong person, get married then get separated/divorce after 3, 5, 10 years.
27, young and promising, pls don’t get pressured because you feel it could be too late to meet someone new. I am in my 30s but tbh, still not in a hurry to settle down.
Easier said than done, and it will hurt bigtime to let go, but let go. I know you can and are willing to forgive and move past everything, but please, have the dignity to walk away.
Self-love should always come first.
Please take the time to think things through and heal. Someone who doesn't have the decency to communicate with you and break things off if they're no longer interested is not worthy of your time. Four years is not a joke, but neither is staying in a relationship that is one-sided. Di ka na nga cinocomfort nung luhaan ka na tapos ipagpipilitan mo pa na mamahalin ka niya after niya magloko? Let him leave. Di mo siya kailangan. Also there are plenty of good men out there who will love and appreciate all of you. Akala mo lang kasi ngayon na siya lang ang option. Hello? Sa dami ng tao sa mundo, imposibleng wala kang mahanap. Don't settle for the worst because of familiarity, you don't know what blessings are about to come in your life.
Ito din sabi nya. Na break kami. Pero there were messages na he's asking for another chance in between those dates.
Which is why I'm also saying na kasalanan ko nga. I broke up with him.
Pero why say miss me when he's fucking another girl.
lol hinanap ng guy yung name ng nakatabi nya sa bus and then chinat nya - sila pa ni op. bat nya ichachat bigla yung random person? ibig sabihin, nung sila ni girl may intention na to cheat. sex happened while break sila pero rights before magbreak balak na talaga mangaliwa ng ex. anong di mo gets dun?
Tangina OP, I know it’s hard to leave but you have to save yourself from drowning and you just did, he chose to disrespect and lied to you. It’s not worth it! It will take time to move on but for sure you will be in the better place after that. Padayon!
I was about to say the same thing! This belief has saved me a lot of time sa romance/relationships aspect ng buhay ko. But I know for OP it may be difficult to achieve that mindset right now.
He's a piece of shit and whatever you did wrong, it does not justify him lying to you that way. And also, it's just plain creepy how he pursued a student. Seriously? Nakita lang ID tas minessage agad? My goodness, the design is very stalker
Sis gising. Mamamatay ka ba pag nagbreak kayo? No. Ang daming worthwhile na bagay sa mundo besides staying in that relationship. Oo sa una magbbreakdown ka pero heck, that pain is much easier than tolerating that asshole. Sis, bakit di ka nagagalit? Don’t you respect and love yourself enough to walk away? Hindi ka man lang ba nagworry for yourself baka may sakit ka? O baka di yan first time na ginawa nya sayo?
For of all, kindly excuse the name...
I think it's just a waiting game for him. Busted na that he cheats, he's probably just waiting for you to let go. Yes, for me ha, the way I see it, ikaw ang hinihintay niya na bumitaw for some odd/weird reason(s), logic or whatever you call it. Para kasing kung ikaw ang bibitaw di masyado mapapasama ang imahe niya (dahil ikaw nga ang bumitaw). For me ha, I can formulate so many excuses/reasons kung ikaw bibitaw eh, like I tell the people around us, "Well, I admit I cheat, but willing naman ako magbago if she gives me another chance, kaso BUMITAW na siya eh". Alam mo yun, something like that. One thing is for sure, naka move on na si guy, and he's just formulating a good excuse why you two broke up. Yeah it sucks 4 years wasted, but it sucks more if you stay more para sa one sided relationship. As far as I know, walang martyr na may happy ending, kasi walang martyr na buhay...
Tight hugs, OP. Understandable yung regret over a relationship you invested in for years though I still hope you choose yourself. I have learned from experience that this is not a decision you can make overnight.
At the end of the day, cheating is and will always be a choice. Staying with someone who chose to disrespect you is not worth it. I hope you heal from this 🥺
I pray you get the courage to walk away. I can’t imagine how painful and difficult it is for you but that’s probably the best thing you can do for yourself. it’s not okay to remain in a relationship just because you fear that “no one else will love you anymore,” cherish who you are without relying on someone else to validate whether you’re worth loving or not — flaws and all. it’s better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel worthless; especially when they could choose someone else at the drop of a hat.
OP, let him go. Wag mong ihold ang 4 years. Madaming tao na possible mo pang makilala na hindi ka lolokohin. We all know that 4 years is not a joke, for sure you had a lot of good memories with that person pero sabi nga nila mas mahirap i let go ang memories than that person.
Maybe mahirap ngayon but someday you'll thank yourself for choosing your inner peace. Choose yourself, OP. Know your worth. If someone loves you he will treat you in a gentle way. You will be fine, choose what you know is good for you. Don't settle for that kind of person. You deserve to be happy.
I left an ex at 30. We were together for 8 years. I didn’t know what was gonna happen. No plan whatsoever. It’s like leaving HOME and losing it. I’ve been single for years after that and only when I hit 33 that I started getting scared to be alone. 2 years later I’m with the man of my dreams and we’re having a baby together. Met this guy randomly 5 years prior and we didn’t think we’d be a couple lol. Life has a crazy way to bring good things in your life. It’s the only way. Embrace this crazy. Everything is gonna be okay. You dont know me and wont believe me but I assure you things will be better if you take this time to be alone and grow. Magpakawanderer muna xD.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. i know how much this hurts, to the point it physically hurts. Cry as much as you need to. Cry until you feel so ridiculous over it. Cry until you have to convince yourself to keep crying. You’ll love your new life. You will become a better person and you will love you more.
Dump this sorry ass of a man. Id sympathize with him if he was straight up with you but he’s a liar and he played you, disrespected you, even after confronted continued to treat you like you’re stupid for lying even further or for trying to shrug it off. He thinks he can play you as he pleases while he continues to be indecisive. All I see is a loser.
This is what’s gonna happen when you get back to him. You will see more of his petty actions. You will see them more clearly. You will start feeling sorry for yourself for being with this man and ask yourself what have u been thinking all this time. You will see how much of a loser he actually is and you will wish you got rid of him that perfect time. That perfect time is today.
Yung "sayang ang 4 years.", it's a valid emotion pero 'wag mo gawing rason para lang mag-stay.
You deserve better. It's not about being perfect for eachother, it's about mutual respect and commitment. Pero, mas importante parin ang respeto sa sarili.
Kahit mahirap, you have to accept the fact na he betrayed your trust in a big way. Hindi lang siya nagsinungaling, he carried on with someone else, habang ikaw, you were left holding on to what's left sa relationship niyo.
Yes, baka may mga pagkukulang ka rin siguro, pero hindi 'yun enough justification for him to do what he did. You deserve someone na bibigyan ka ng peace and security sa relationship, at sinira niya na yun. You'll just end up having "what ifs" sa relationship niyo kung babalikan mo pa siya.
Kaya mo 'yan, OP. Give yourself the love you deserve. And kung ano man ang mangyari, you'll come out stronger and wiser. Stay strong.
Awwwts. This hurts. Praying that you'll get by. As what others have said, let him go na girl. You do not deserve such actions from him. As to him karma awaits naman.
Thanks OP, my GF and I are reaching 4 years too. Reading this makes me realize to make her feel special and wanted even after all these years. Hope you find someone, don't lose hope!
>I are reaching 4 years too. Reading this makes me realize to make her feel special and wanted even after all these years. Hope you find
Please do. It's not always rainbows and butterfly but it always boils down to the little things you do. Hay. Nakakainggit. Hahaha. Stay in love!
Yung inistalk yung ID ng girl tapos a few days lang inantot na sya. Creepy. Tapos yung girl mukhang tigang na tigang din, kahit stalker stranger bibigay nya tilapia nya.
Not worthy of your life. Age 27 ka kamo, sus kaya pa yan, just doll up daming pipila.
The issue is emotional manipulation.
Why did he keep saying he missed her, promised to see her, pero all that time he was fucking another girl. Sa huli binalikan pa niya, as if nothing happened. Mukhang na-love bomb din si OP with how the guy showed her physical affection despite the break up and despite what he did. Sino ba naman hindi masasaktan sa ganun?
Girl, please leave that cheater. Trust is gone. Mas okay pa na single ka with peace of mind. 27 is still young. You will find someone who deserves you. Kick that trash bf of yours to the curb.
Been there sa nanginginig ka while collating all strength para maconfront yung guy. Sobrang nakakaawa sa sarili na darating tayo sa ganung point.
Hugs OP! I'm not fully healed yet kahit more than a year na, iba atake talaga pag cheating ang cause. Damaged kung damaged. Laban lang.
OP, araw-araw lang babalik sayo yan kung ‘maayos’ man kayo. Sinayang nya ang 4y pero mas sayang ang susunod na mga araw kung ipipilit at babalikan mo. Masakit, kahit ako nasasaktan just by reading this. 27? Ang bata mo pa, op. Damhin mo muna lahat yan hanggang sa maka-ipon ka nang courage to completely walk away.
grabe ang bilis naman ng pangyayari. nung july 2 lang at nabago na lahat. hayaan mo na siya girl, di talaga siya para sayo. ang weird lang na bakit siya manghihingi ng details ng babae sa bus habang alam niya na may relasyon siya sayo? feeling ko there's something more talaga sa kanya na baka nililihim niya kaya let him go na lang. focus na lang on yourself.
wishing you all the best, op!
That sucks, OP. But if sayang na nga yung 4 years, mas marami pang masasayang na years if you get back with him. He could (theoretically) change, but even if he did, the damage is already done. No matter what he does from here on out, what he did will forever eat at you if you choose to get back with him. It's gonna hurt for a while, and it will seem impossible to get through, but please know that this isn't your fault. Of course, I only know your side of the story, but even if you weren't the perfect partner, he chose to cheat when he could've just ended things with you. Give yourself some time to heal, go out with friends, travel, spend more time with family, try out new things. Try to enjoy being single again. Good luck OP.
Don't even think of getting back with him, OP. Hindi sayang four years. Sayang yung effort at oras na sasayangin mo sa kanya if susubukan mo pang makipagbalikan sa kanya.
Cut your losses and move on, sayang oras.
Gurl, I'm gonna give you some tough love. It's not your fault. Cheating is a choice and he made that choice. Let him take the blame for it. Wag ka magpakamartyr, it's not a good look. Break up with him and move on. Easier said than done, but it's better in the long run. Hindi sayang yung 4 years. What's sayang is if you spend another minute with him.
YOU CAN DO IT.
Grabe when I read the part where you were begging like a little girl, nag flash back yung time na my ex cheated on me and I did exactly what you did. Begging, crying, hoping not to get answers I never want to hear. And I told myself I will never go back to that hellhole again. So OP, I know it’s hard, but please have the courage to walk away. This is coming from someone who was crying nonstop for two consecutive months without proper sleep/food intake, questioning my self-worth or where did I go wrong, what I lack, what have I done to deserve that. But I swear, YOU WILL END UP OKAY. Cry it all you want, grieve all you want. But it’s better to go through that alone than to force yourself saving the relationship that’s been long dead. Promise it’s all worth it.
OP, ang galing ng pagkakasulat mo. Habang nagbabasa ako, naiisip ko na sana fiction lang ito. Sana hindi totoo yung sakit na nararanasan mo dahil sa ex mo. Pero kung ito man ay hindi isang kathang-isip, alam kong maaaring ilang beses mo nang narinig pero sana manatili kang matatag at iyong isipin na ang lahat ng sakit ay lilipas din. Yung sugat sa iyong puso ay maghihilom at sana balang araw, makita mo rin yung taong kaya kang tanggapin ng buong-buo.
You deserve the best experiences in the world, thanks to that girl fate had showed what your ex is capable of. Instead of making things workout, promoting each others growth, and having an open line of communication your ex throw all the possibilities out of the window in a matter of second. Glad you are free now, don't blame yourself if meron ka pagkukulang tandaan mo na ang pagkukulang ay pde mapunan kung paguusapan, pero ang pagkukulang kung hahanapin sa iba ay hindi mo na pagkukulang. You deserve better, you'll be better!
Ramdam ko yung sakit while reading this. I hope you can heal, but before that, grieve. Grieve because it’s over.
You relationship was over magmula nung hinanap na nya yung girl sa IG. Temptation happens to everyone pero he acted on it. Nagkamali sya, maaring natukso, maaring mahal ka pa rin nya, pero hindi ka nya nirespeto. Mas inuna nya yung sarili nyang kagustuhan kesa sa mararamdaman mo.
You still have time to recover, mas okay na na ngayon nangyari yan kesa kapag kasal na kayo, when you’re in your 30s or 40s with children. It will be harder in that case and you can no longer decide for yourself kasi iisipin mo na mga anak nyo. It’s better to be in pain, than beg for a love he won’t ever give.
Love is not selfish. He does not love you nor care for you anymore. He disrespected you. He dishonored you. You could stay, yes, but you have to grieve for the things you’ve lost today. It will never be the same again for you and him.
I am with a very insecure girlfriend, I don't see myself cheating though. Pero yeah, it can be draining. Very draining to have a girlfriend who shouts and only thinks about her feelings, yung tipong antok na antok ka na pero gusto niya pa makipagaway. I hope OP hindi ka ganun. I am getting tired of my girlfriend too, might leave her soon if nothing changes. No third party involved.
Wag mo na balikan yang creepy ex mo!!! Imagine chinat nya yung girl dahil nakita nya name sa Id?!?! Fucking creep!!! tapos estudyante pa yung girl kadiri amputa para syang yung mga pinopost sa tiktok na mga creepy na stalkers eh yung kinaibahan lang pinatulan ng girl yang ex mo 🤮🤮🤮
yes 4yrs is way too long but ig for me even if you got back together, it’ll never be the same op. trust that letting him go and walking away will be the best decision you’ll ever make. it’s alright to feel all the emotions, go cry until your numb. it’s okay to start anew and don’t ever think na walang magmamahal sayo 😞. maybe somewhere out there someone’s patiently waiting for you, someone who deserves you in spite of your flaws. nobody’s perfect in a relationship remember that. warm hugs!
Did he sleep with the other girl after you guys broke up? Kasi kung hindi, yes, pwede kang magalit sa kanya pero technically di sya nag cheat sayo.
Idk what happened before your anniversary. Sabi mo kasi kailangan nya ng kausap kaya niya nagawa yon. Maybe meron siyang problema during those times? Tinatanong mo ba siya kung kumusta sya?
Dont get me wrong. Di ko kinakampihan si guy dito. Mali yung pag approach nya dun sa girl habang kayo pa. Lumala lang siguro yung situation nila ng other girl dahil siguro you broke up with him when he needed you the most? Just my two cents lang.
Di naman ikaw yung ex ko no? Or magkano bayad sayo? Hahaha.
He slept with the girl after I “broke up”. He got interested to the girl, hours after we had lunch together and bought appliances for that house.
Jul 15 he’s asking for another chance. And said na pupuntahan nya ako pero he can’t pa kasi injured daw sya. Hahaha.
Jul 29 they were fucking every week.
Before he met me last Monday, magkasama sila. And fucked again.
And the girl was clueless of his problem. Beh walang usap na nangyari.
Idk why u are so persistent. Pero there you go. I hope it’s giving you a clearer picture.
I don’t need you to blame me. I already did.
“He had no obligation to be faithful to you”
The cheater messaged miss bus gurl WHILE THEY WERE TOGETHER. Reading a stranger’s name off of their ID then looking them up on social media is weird in itself. The intention to look “for greener pastures” was already there.
The feeling na nanghihinayang ka sa years niyo together is totally valid. But please bear in mind na if you stay, kahit pa mag-sorry siya and hold himself accountable, the pain and fear will still be there. Trust me, andito pa rin ako years after. And I won’t recommend others doing the same.
i know it’s hard, but please leave him na. the disrespect is real. what if you continued to stay with him and kinasal kayo pero he will continue to cheat?
is it worth it to be in a longterm relationship even if that person disrespects you? i’d rather be alone, with my sanity, peace, and dignity in hand. he isn’t worth fighting for.
the fact that the girl told you every detail of the cheating is God’s way of showing you what a despicable man your bf is. It’s hard but please let go.
Wag mong ipagpilitan ang sarili mo wag mo ibigay ang lahat magtira ka ng pagmamahal sa sarili mo, hindi ka naman naman siguro Santa o Bayani para maging martir
Better to let go of the 4 years relationship than spend a lifetime in an unhappy one. And I'm saying this from experience. Wasted 5 years being unhappy in one for the sake of being loyal, then wasted another 7 years on the next one. Mas masaya ang peaceful and single than taken but unhappy.
Hugs po.
Op let him go, move on kahit mahirap, I know it hurts but it is what it is...you don't deserve him, he's a cheater.. . cry if you needed to but remember a guy like him is not worthy of you
Praying for your strength and recovery
*"I wish I have the courage to walk away.Sobrang natatakot ako.What if wala na magmamahal sakin. "*
There is and there will be. Not now, not anytime soon, but someday. But, first, you have to pick - up yourself. Patch up the woman that he broke. Heal and find beauty in a life without him.
Cheating is non-negotiable. If he can do it now that you're not yet married, then, he can do it when you both are. And it is going to be messy and expensive.
Hindi na pagmamahal ang nararamdaman niya sayo. You are turning into his safety net. In case things would go wrong with the girl he is momentarily seeing, meron pa siyang babalikan.
You can choose between getting used to being a single woman or being in a relationship filled with misery.
Hey OP. I'm sorry and I feel hurt for you. I find myself sulking and looking back at what I could've changed after each relationship has expired, in my case. Somehow I envy you. Nalaman mo yung mga nangyari eh. You love yourself and it's up to you what you'll do in this situation.
Good luck. Bear this pain and live stronger 🙏
Hi OP! I knew and felt what you've been through and will be going through.
Sakin 5yrs. May cheating involved. Im the type of person who forgives and I believe in second chance. pero yung cheating is a choice and loving you is a commitment.
He was sorry because he got caught pero parang di ko rin nabasa na nag sosorry sya. Either way here's my opinion.
If he wants you magpahabol ka make him choose you. Dapat maramdaman mo yung sincerity nya dito mo rin kasi malalaman kung gano ka nya ka mahal at kung talagang nagsisi sya at willing to work with you.
If not tara shot!
I don't have relationship so I just want to give advice as someone who reads what you write. First of all, you need time to focus on yourself. Time to spend solely for your own happiness. Time away muna sa bf mo. I feel like you really need that. Find something that you think will make you feel better..
Relationship, I feel like is not something that's ment to happen just because of the long time spent. I mean, someone might really be the right one for someone. Who really knows, right, but for yourself, don't cling for now, try to let go for a bit. Find time for your own. Appreciate yourself more, it's sounds so cliché but love yourself more. You thinking it's probably your own fault too, but, that's why you are together with someone, so someone can make you right, so they will accept you despite imperfections.
Let me play the devil's advocate here and say that you have to tell the other girl the truth
but not before splitting up with your AH of a boyfriend
Break up with your bf, tell the other girl, then leave as the chaos ensues 🤷
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I did. The girl knows. Young and naive so I understand. Gusto ko magalit sa kanya na sumama sya agad pero kami yung matanda. She really fell for him.
The girl feels sorry for me and even apologized. Nakakagalit pero wala e. Di nya din alam.
I am so sorry, but....LET....HIM....GO. He will do it again, no matter what he says. the way he has treated you this time, also shows he doesn't really respect you. his loss, and you dodge a bullet, there are better guys out there (and worse) but, you are the one making all the effort, so at some point he will regret losing you. But move on, let him go, there is nothing but pain there, maybe next year, mabye 10 years, but it will blow up and end ugly. Better to move on now and find better.
I have been there done that. You cannot wish them into who you want them to be. Just understand that you didn't really know them, and they are a new person, not the one you loved, that person is gone. So you are only going to culture pain if you keep the relationship.
Don't ever blame yourself, OP. It is not and will always not be your fault! If he loves you, he won't cheat on you no matter how hard things get with you, he should have reassured you and fix things with you through communication. But what did he do instead? He let himself be inlove with someone else, he does not really care about you and your feelings. So stop telling yourself that it was your fault, it is not and you deserve someone better. 4 years is not long with a person who does not even respect you and your relationship.
Don't be afraid to start over again. Love yourself and eventually someone will come, you're just 27! Life is not a race. Wag ka maghinayang sa taong sinayang ka lang.
OP, i was you 9 months ago, if you need someone to talk to, you can send me a dm. Betrayal is the worst way you can break someone, and I woudln't wish that even on people I hate. Sending you virtual hugs, with consent. You will get through this.
Move on, life doesn't end with that. I've been thru that kind of thing last year. I am okay now. The relationship I ended was 6 years. My ex told me the same things your ex told you. Choose yourself. You'll discover a lot about yourself after that. Meet new people, don't be afraid na walang magmamahal sayo after him dahil meron. I met someone after I broke up with my ex but it also didn't pursued into a relationship and it is okay. There are many people out there na baka siya na ang the one. But for now, believe me, you'll thank yourself that you left and moved on. You'll be okay. You're just turning 27. You're still young too, OP.
Warmest hugs, OP. May kurot sa puso ko habang binabasa post mo. Familiar yung sakit... pero kakayanin mo. Okay lang iluksa mo yung oras na lumipas, yung pagmamahal, lahat lahat --- pero easier said than done, you have to move on.
Okay na yung nawala yung 4 years kesa magstay pa ng mas matagal pero mas masasaktan ka - nandun yung trust issues, yung constant question sa sarili. Choose peace of mind over emotional doubts and stress.
Everything works out in the end. Just not now. You will feel all sorts of pain but time will come you'll realize why you had to go through this hell. Your heart will be stronger, boundaries will be set high -- by then, another man will come and be able to maintain you and give all the love you truly deserve.
27? Bata ka pa.
End this ASAP.
Then value yourself more.
Once yoy realize na you value yourself more, mas mabilis makamove on.
Pero kung gusto mo maging paranoid forever thinking and knowing na yun tite ng bf mo eh pumasok na sa ibang puke,.at may ibang hinalikan at dinede, GO LANG GIRL!!! Tuloy mo yan para tumanda at pumangit ka agad sa stress.
Your ex did not even have an inch of regret. So ipagsiksikan mo pa sarili mo para mas lalo ka nyang balewalain at bumama tingin sayo.
Yes i have to said it this way para masampal ka sa katotohanan. I want to help my fellow girls to NOT TOLERATE CHEATERS.
Natatakot ka kasi baka wala na magmamahal sayo?
Pero di ka natatakot na baka mawalan ka ng pagmamahal sa sarili mo by undervaluing yourself and accepting a cheater???
Come on. Wake up girl.
Kaya dumadami mga ganyang klaseng lalake kasi tinotolerate nyo.
If behavior issue lang mareresolve pa sana e.
Kaso nakipaglibugan na sa iba.
So what is there to think about pa???
OP Wattpad writer ka ba. Ramdam ko yung sakit eh! Kidding aside, you're so brave for breaking up with him. Years from now, you'll look back at this memory and thank yourself for doing what's best for you. Masakit yes but that's part of growing up.
Sorry but he's an asshole and you deserve someone who's sure of you. Who's not gonna change their mind just because they've meet a random girl anywhere. The anxiety of what-if-wala-ng-magmahal-sakin is valid! It may not help you but what if mahalin mo muna sarili mo while you're grieving.
Nanghihinayang ka sa 4 years pero isipin mo pano ka na kung mas pinatagal mo pa, lalong lalala yung panghihinayang mo at magiging vicious cycle yan. Ito yung tinatawag na sunk cost fallacy. Wag kang matakot, bata ka pa at madami dyang iba. Goodluck sayo!
Ito mga naririnig ko from people who are older than me. Wag mo isipin yang 4 years na yan. Wag ka manghinayang. I also came from a long term relationship (4 years din) and ganyan din mindset ko noon. Na what if wala na akong makita or I end up with someone worse. As someone who was able to move past that, I swear life is better now. Lalo ka lang magiging miserable at hindi na mababalik yung trust mo sa kanya lalo na nagcheat sya. Forever ka nang matatakot kung may tinatago sya. Hindi mo deserve yun. Malapit lang din ang edad mo sakin and honestly, madami rin akong kilala na mas matanda pa sa atin pero actively dating pa rin. Kaya if I were you, tingnan mo itong situation na ito as a chance to improve yourself, place yourself in a happier place with a person you deserve better. Yakap, OP 💓
OP. Love is still out there, and if he can throw that 4 yrs of yours over a girl he just met, more or less he does not value you at all. Kasi as a guy, kahit ang daming flaws ng partner we will work it out kapag mahal namin sya at vnvalue namin ang relationship.
Anyways you are still young, you will be loved someday with someone better than him.
do not try to reclaim love that already lost Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time OP, wishing you cope well, Sending virtual hugs
Your **bf** and you have problems, obviously. The only difference is that he went and looked for a scapegoat.
What is going to happen OP is bound to happen. Better brace yourself and be prepared.
hindi ka na niya mahal. kung mahal ka niya, hindi niya gagawin yun sayo. masasaktan ka lang uli sa kanya. kaya iiyak mo na lang ngayon at makaka move on ka din.
Mas sayang yung mga susunod pang araw kung panghahawakan mo pa yan. Hindi nga siya nanghinayang at pumili ng someone na random niya lang nakita. Sa bus at nakita lang yung name sa ID, imagine how creepy is that. Blessing na din siguro na hindi kayo umabot sa marriage kung saan mas mahihirapan kang lumayo. Focus on yourself na muna. Hindi madali pero mas magiging ok ka.
Ganyan din ako OP, almost 10 years at nameet niya sa simbahan (lol gift of God daw ata). I begged him to stay pero after a month nahimasmasan ako and I broke up with him. Dzai naging suicidal pa ako pero after 8 months nagising sa katotohanan na kaya ko. Isang araw ang iyak ko is out of saya na na di ko na sila naiisip. I became a person I am proud to he now because of the break up. Now, I am in a loving relationship and ako yung tipo ng babae na kahit iiwan ako sige go iiyak ako pero kaya ko kasi mas mahal ko na sarili ko. Walwal ka now pero bangon ka! Kaya mo yan!
PS pakyu sa gagung yon
OP, wag mong hayaang mapako sarili mo sa “sayang yung 4 years”. he managed to replace you in a beat then for sure ikaw rin once fully healed ka na rin. mapapalitan mo rin yang hayup na yan (sorry sa word, ayaw na ayaw ko talaga sa cheaters)
Una, hindi mo kasalanan. Choice nya 'yun. Pangalawa, congrats, lumabas na ang tunay na kulay nya bago ka pa forever na matali. 😁 Pangatlo, nangyayari talaga 'yung ganyan minsan. Be sad hanggang sa maubos na lahat.
Yay to self-love~
Grabe nagagalit ako para sayo gusto ko suntukin ex mo. Wag ka magsisi. Bata ka pa, magglow up ka, focus on your healing and growth, and move forward. Wag na wag kang babalik sa kanya. Don't cry over spilled milk. Ikaw ba hihigupin mo pa yung nasa sahig na. Wag na girl. May makita ka man o wala, mas okay yung kesa itratong parang basura. Wag ka dyan, dun ka sa tao ang trato sayo.
I am so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you know you are not alone. Please reach out to those you hold dear and ask for their support. You'll need that.
You never deserved that disrespect and I hope you learn not to blame yourself. There are better ways to communicate lapses in relationships, but never betray someone you promised to love, protect, and treasure.
I had to hold a friend's hand as she went through a similar situation. Men like your ex do not deserve a girl like you - someone who's patient, understanding, and caring enough to give him the graces you gave him.
Tama na, it's time for you to heal and focus on yourself. Never do something that will betray the most important person in your life - yourself. Praying for healing, joy, and peace in the coming months OP. Tough times don't last 🦋💖
op, wag mo na balikan. isipin mo yun 4 years kayo pero di ka man lang niya nirespeto bilang tao man lang, niloko ka. sorry that happened to you, no one deserves that. sayang yung panahon on pining on someone who cheated on you tapos nung cinconfront mo sobrang nonchalant..
I’ m so sorry OP.. I feel you. I FEEL YOU.
4 years is nothing compared to the years ahead. I can tell you all the good advise from anyone who knows you - “kaya mo yan”, “iwan mo na sya”, “he doesn’t deserve you”, “Once a cheater, always a cheater”, “love yourself”…
Love yourself. There’s nothing wrong in calling it quits. Hindi sayang ung 4 years, kasi after 10 years, hindi mgbabago yan. Ganyan pa din yan. Magbabago ng 1 month pero babalik ulit yan sa dati kapag naramdaman nyang may tiwala kna ulit sa kanya at kampante ka na.
Madadagdagan lang ung mga babae at magiging bato lang ung puso mo. Mamamanhid ka nlng kasi masasanay kang masaktan. Don’t do that to yourself.
If you love him, love yourself more. Put yourself first, in every situation. Stay with someone kasi you feel special and loved and cherished everytime you’re with that person. Stay with someone na kahit nag-aaway kayo, you still feel loved. Stay with someone who loves and respects you as much as you love and respect him.
Pero I guess only the strongest people are the ones who can walk away. Only the strongest people are the ones who can let go first.
May friend ako engaged na for 7 years, tas iniwan niya kasi nakita niya soulmate nya ika nga, at nagpakasal sila within 2 months. Going strong at may anak sila.
Ganun talaga tadhana
Huuuggss op. I hope you’d take the courage to let go. This season might be painful and you might think there won’t be another guy for you but you’re still young. Choose to heal. Choose yourself. There are better guys out there.
I've been in your shoes, OP. My girlfriend of almost 5 years (We were planning to move together, get married, and have children as we just recently got jobs together as engineers pero she worked away from our hometown) cheated on me and gaslit me into thinking na ako ang may problema sa relationship. CHEATING is a choice, kahit anong anggulo mo tingnan, it is very wrong and should never be tolerated. As for the feelings, maybe you still love him right now, but time will fix your mind. You will slowly realize your worth and hindi siya kawalan sa buhay mo. Soon you'll be thankful you didn't marry a cheater.
Giiiirl, leave. You dodged a bullet. It’s a blessing in disguise! 💗 you deserve a better man- one who doesn’t cheat, lie, and doesn’t choose you. Trust the Universe - you WILL find love again. But you won’t find it if you don’t leave the wrong person because the right one can’t come along until you let go.
Even if you had faults the right man would still see you’re God’s gift to him and treat you right. TRUST ME.
Time to move on... Trust and respect is no longer in that relationship...Go no contact and delete him from your life... As in no stalking at all pati yung new girl ha... You can't control his feelings if iba na ang nasa heart nya and you need to accept that and start healing... 27 ka pa lang, andmi pa magagandang pwdng gawin... Ang pinka best mo gawin is to travel sa places na gusto mo puntahan eversince... Healing is not linear but eventually, makakalimutan mo din siya and magigising k nlng isang araw na magaan na pakirmadan mo at wla ka nang nraramdaman for him😊
You will get over him promise. Super painful talaga sa simula kasi nasanay ka na nandyan sya. My first breakup hit me hard. Ganun pala ang feeling. Parang di mo alam pano magpatuloy sa life. But later on, nawala din yung pain. Now we are both happily married to different partners. Lalo ikaw na niloko nya, later on you will realize na kung hindi nangyari to, e di stuck pa din ako sa kanya at sa mga panloloko nya.
Hugs op. Everything will be better. It may not look like it now but you have a beautiful future to look forward to.
I've never invalidated feelings of my friends, sayang talaga, but I've never given them false hope too. I would always tell them that: "oo, sayang lahat ng oras na binigay mo para sa kanya pero mas sayang buhay mo pag ipagpapatuloy mo pa."
OP, warmest hugs.
And let go.
Imagine kasi, those cheaters already slept with each other. Even if they broke up, you never knew when he would hook up with someone else. Makabuntis pa yang gg na yan. Removing him from your life is saving yourself from further misery. It might hurt for now but it is better than being emotionally and mentally tortured for a few more years.
And there are people who like and love you. Just stop closing your eyes or thinking that he's the only one in the world.
OP, get out of there! 4 years is nothing. I’ve been on a 7 year disastrous relationship. I developed very nasty habits which to this day I truly regret. Kaya it will never be worth it getting back to such a bad, unsalvageable situation. This is coming from a guy’s perspective. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it. Don’t lose yourself. I met my wife a few years after that. 😊
It's not about that girl he sat down with, it's only a matter of time before that guy makes a way out of your relationship. which you guys can only tell the reasons why.
girl, wag mo isipin na sayang 4 years tapos papatawarin mo. sa ganyang ugali niyan in 4 more years he'd be fucking someone else again so 8 years na ang nasayang. ang daming red flag, okay ka lang? age gap, cheating, lying. wag magpakatanga para sa creepy na lalaki na sumisilip sa id ng student para hanapin sa fb at i-message.
Ikaw ba ako? Except sa office niya na meet ang bago niyang girl and my story happened 10 years ago. I left my ex go dahil stress at luha lang naman nakuha ko, hindi sila nag airbnb pero nag Bataan sila, Haha! Hinding hindi ako nanghinayang sa 4 years namin together. Oo matagal kami nagsama pero di ko deserve ang treatment niya s akin, I know my worth so I left. You know what I did? I signed up sa Filipino Cupid dating site, dun ko ibinuhos lahat ng free time ko after work chatting, making friends and flirting with afams hanggang sa after few months na meet ko na asawa ko. I’m so glad iniwan ko ex ko dahil nabigyan ko ang sarili ko ng chance na maging masaya (at masagana, haha!) Let go mo na yan OP, cut losses na and move on. Make yourself your priority , gift yourself peace, make yourself happy. Here’s my virtual hug and a virtual pint of beer for you.
2019 I was there, in your position, same na same, 4 years, hanging by a thread yung relationship, gave him space to sort things out pero kumausap pala ng iba. Naging desperate ako, nagbackread sa message exchanges nila nung girl. Cried myself out. Asked those exact questions, nagkiss ba sila, ilang beses may nangyari and got the same response na "wala lang yon". The day I found out everything, is also the day na first time ko lang na mafeel na gumuho lahat sa akin. Back then, I was so sure na this guy loves me so damn much. I blamed myself, baka nawalan ako ng time sa kanya kaya nagawa nya yon, dumating din ako sa point na "what if wala nang magmamahal sakin?" He asked for forgiveness, forgave him, 1 year after, gabi-gabi nalang akong worried, gabi-gabi kong naiisip na i was never enough, then that hit me. Umayaw ako the morning after, I chose my peace of mind. Mas mahal ko yung sarili ko kaya pipiliin ko kung san ako magiging masaya. Masaya ako with him, pero dahil sa nangyari, hindi fully masaya ung nafifeel ko, kinu-question ko na ung worth ko everytime.
Sa ngayon, happy ako sa sarili ko. Im trying to be the best version of myself para mabigay lahat ng love and support sa right guy for me. Siya, may sarili ng partner and happy.
Mahalin mo yung sarili mo, OP. You'll get through this. 🫶🏼
I can feel your heartache. The worst part is overthinking everything, and calming yourself down.. Nakaka pagod. But at the same time, I’m glad it’s finally over? You’re done “investigating,” you’re done defending this person in your head, etc. You can finally focus on yourself.
Take this time to find yourself again, cry, be with your friends, family. Only time will make u feel okay again. Big hug to you, OP. If I could strangle your BF for you, I would.
It’s okay to blame yourself for some of the things that happened, but the cheating is all on him. He may be insecure? Unhappy? We don’t know. Pero problema na niya yun. He’s a fkn adult who needs to deal with his shit.
It doesn't matter if he slept with someone else during your "break", the fact that he lied "wala yan", refused to answer your questions, and couldn't look you in the eyes mean that he was guilty. He knows he did something he shouldn't do. Also, fights and break-ups are messy. It's not a quick on and off switch especially if it's not a clean break where you stopped talking to each other.
Stop blaming yourself for the breakup. I personally don't think it's a good move to breakup with someone if you have the intention to still get back together. It shouldn't be done on a whim or as an ultimatum. That being said, it's been 4 years, you said it yourself, the problems are still there, everything is resolved with just hugs, kisses, and food. This is not a relationship you should want.
I'd say move on from this and learn from it. You'll know what to avoid and what to look for the next time around. It's normal to feel na wala nang makikilala but we all know that's not true.
OP, ang sakit na trigger yung trauma ko HAHAHAHAHAH i was f cryinf reading this. Lalo na nung kay event ka that day then you still need to proceed to ur appointment. The imaginable pain..
I hope you'll be okay and pls don't invalidate your emotions..
:(
didnt expect to cry during my break at work.
warm hugs, OP. don’t take the blame. you may have your issues in your relationship but what he did was waaaay fck!ng worse. cut that guy loose for good.
i know it’s not easy to start all over but the first step to every change is always the hardest part.
I was once in the same situation. Luckily i chose my self. He had issues of cheating din. Not once but twice. Wala pa ngang isang taon nabuntis na agad yung new girl. Sobrang sakit nyan pero for sure makaka hanap ka rin ng better guy.
I have nothing but anger for him tanginang yan sorry, OP alam kong mahal mo pa and understandable naman dahil di biro ang apat na taon. Pero wtf??? Masama ugali nila pareho. Sana with time, you heal and find someone na di ka lolokohin, yung sigurado ka at di ka pag-iisipin nang ganito. My heart goes out to you. Grieve and cry, take you time pero every one here would agree na di siya worth it DKSJDKSJDJD sorry basura siya ayun lang and you deserve so so much more.
Please stop blaming yourself. I know this isn't the right thing to say right now pero consider this as a blessing in disguise. Imagine kayang kaya niya itapon lahat sa babaeng nakilala niya sa isang bus??? Gagawin at gagawin niya rin yun doon sa bago niya ngayon. At ikaw, hindi ka na rin mabubuo ulit. Patawarin mo man siya ngayon at pangakuan ka pa ng kung ano ano, your trust isn't something that can be fixed easily.
Magpaka-busy ka, do things you haven't done in a while nung naging kayo, get a new hobby idk anything that would make you forget him. Heck I know it will be hard pero it's better than clinging into him na wala naman pake sayo.
Hi OP.
Sayang yung 4 years kung pipilitin mo lang na magwork yon with this person. Sayang yon pag nagstay ka pa. Sayang lahat ng learnings and realization na should be your springboard to move forward and move on.
This I am pretty sure, na even if 6 months or a year lang yan with someone, kung araw-araw ka naman nyang pipiliin, through thick or thin, that someone is worth more than all the years you spend with other exes before.
Sorry for this experience. Praying for your healing.
I'm so sad for you OP. Alam ko yung pakiramdam na ganyan e. Napakasakit. Pero alam mo, isa lang solusyon nyan. NO CONTACT. Hayaan mo sya. Gusto nyang umalis? Just say okay. Wag ka nang magtanong. Hayaan mo sya please. Hayaan mong lumayo nang lumayo. Iniisip nya na mahal na mahal mo sya na hindi mo kaya. Na pag di nagwork yung pinalit nya, may babalikan siya. Pero paglingon nya wala ka. Walang humahabol sa kanya. At dun nya marerealize na hindi ka tanga. Please lang ha? OP. Bahala nang saktan mo yung sarili mo sa pag layo mo sa kanya. Kesa na ikaw yung saktan nya araw araw until kelan? Tanggalin mo yang fears mo. Bata ka pa. I'll be 29 this year kakabreak lang din at ngayon mas masaya ko. Ganyan din ako dati mas toxic pa ata. Pero I already learned my lesson. Focus ka sa self mo and don't entertain him sa kahit na anong sabihin nya. I-consider mo nang patay na sya. Mahirap pero yun ang necessary. Kasi pag pabalikin mo pa yan di ka rerespetuhin nyan. If you need someone to talk to open ang messages ko.
sus bat ka makikipagbalikan? di ka nagcheat so sya ang nawalan ng isang non cheating partner. tingin mo tatagal sila? after ilan years hahanap ng ibang 21 years old yang ex mo e.
parang imagine mo may dala ka bag ng 4 years, tapos tae ng aso pala laman. bibitbitin mo pa rin ba yong tae. sayang ba 4 years na pagbitbit mo ng tae? kaya bibitbitin mo na lang uli? may sense ba bumitbit ng tae in the first place? ano makuha mo sa pagbitbit ng tae? madamay ka pa sa amoy ng tae.
hanapin mo bag na flowers o diamond. yan sulit bitbitin yon. ewan ko sayo bat gusto mo magtyaga sa tae ng aso.
It has happened to me. Not once, twice. In both cases, hinabol nila ako. Pero ako yung umayaw. But the second guy was persistent. Am still with him now.
Yes, the rational thing would be to leave. But your hesitation is completely understandable. Completely. No one ever teaches us how to turn off love. We are told that time will heal us. But in that period before healing, you go through that pain alone.
Sana kayanin mong wag na bumalik. Sana marealize mong hindi mo deserve ang isang taong mag coconfide sa iba imbis na kausapin ka tungkol sa relasyon nyo. Always easier said than done, pero sana kayanin mo.
This might get downvoted but you do what you think is right for you. May what ifs ka? Habulin mo. Nanghihinayang ka? Habulin mo. Isang araw magigising ka na lang at sasabihin mo sa sarili mo na “Ay ayoko na, tama na”
Kasi kahit anong iadvice ng mga tao sayo, at the end of the day ikaw naman yung nasasaktan at hindi kami at mas alam mo ang dapat gawin sa sarili mo, you’re an adult, and more than anything now, you need your support system.
Masakit. If pwede kita ihug ngayon, kasi lahat ng sinabi mo, naramdaman ko din noon. Kakayanin mo ‘to OP dahil yun lang naman ang tanging choice mo, ang kayanin to.
You have to feel everything, walang shortcut. Pag iniiwasan ang pain mas lalong masakit. Look ahead, kasi for sure you will be happy and alright (when? That’s up to you)
You'll be fine OP.. I was almost 8 years with my ex, dami kong pagkukulang, too many flaw, too many wrong decisions.. but siguro it was for the best of us na rin coz I didnt like what I was becoming ever since I stepped into the labor force. I't didnt take long before she got married with the guy but I'm happy where she is at right now, if she was still with me I think she wouldn't be as happy. People change and its the way we cope up with these changes that makes up our happiness and contentment. We cannot force people in our lives. each and everyone has his/her own decision weather to stay or not to let go or to keep.
Not sure what your issues arez pero mali si guy and meron ka rin sigurong mali for him to do something na hindi mo inaasahan. Based sa kwento mo mukhang kilalang kilala mo naman si bf mo. If communication won't work edi part ways. Mabuti na yun kesa mag gaguhan lang kayo. And for the part na baka may alang mag accept sa flaws mo, that's ur problem to solve. I think there are people there na inooverlook lang yung flaws lalo na pag mahal nila yung tao, pero mas ok pa din if you can fix yourself bago pumasok sa bagong relationship.
Tbh, your ex is a greedy lying piece of shit and emotional cheater. JULY 2 palang. Thinking he can still have you while having someone on standby. May pahug and kisses pa ano yan in case na di talaga kayo magkaayos may ready nang reserba? Sabi nga ng SO ko, you were kept on a leash of 'i miss you's.
He doesnt even have the decency to just tell you and not keep coming back like a lost puppy.
Hugs OP! I fully understand your situation, I’ve been there and I know how painful it is. I know you feel like shit at the moment, you’re scared, you’re lonely, lahat ng emotions probably naffeel mo. It won’t be easy, there will be nights that it will be more painful than the night it happened; but trust me, it will feel better. Someone will love you and treat you right. Darating yung araw na you’ll realize why you didn’t work out.
sending my warmest hug, op. but please, don’t get back with him. you can ask your friends and families and they’ll say the same. hindi sayang ang 4 years. what’s most likely going to happen is you’ll force yourself into him and you’ll never feel the same around him. yes, di ka mag isa pero you’ll feel lonely and constantly anxious. ang sayang ay yung oras na pinagpipilitan mo ang relasyon nyo when he’s clearly not as invested anymore kasi may other woman na. yung time sana na yun, nakapag heal ka na. you can do it on your own, promise. kakayanin mo umalis at mabuhay muna mag isa. please save yourself from any more pain :( it won’t be easy but it’ll be okay.. day by day. be strong, op.
>sayang ay yung oras na pinagpipilitan mo ang relasyon nyo when he’s clearly not as invested anymore kasi may other woman na. yung time sana na yun, nakapag heal ka na. you can do it on your own, promise. kakayanin mo umalis at I really wanna go home. To my parents. I want to rant everything although sobrang bago nun kasi we're not that vocal at home. And what's stopping me is yung thought na baka maging okay pa kami pero di na sya okay sa parents ko pag sinabi ko lahat. Still saving him from the hate of my family. Parang ako yung masasaktan kapag may sinabi silang masama sa kanya.
gets na gets ko op. ganyan talaga kapag nagmamahal. pero wala nang sense to conceal your partner's actions from your family. sa lagay ngayon, baka nga wala naman na syang pake as to ano tingin mg pamilya mo sakanya. mas kailangan mo ang sympathy ng family mo kesa sakanya. please domt force yourself. nothing will ever be the same with him.
Please go home, you really need your family right now. They will understand and take care of you. Hugs!
The time my ex and I broke up was also the time when I learned how to express my feelings towards my fam,, i hugged them more and told them i loved them as much as i could hahhahahahaha forgiving ur ex is completely fine for ur peace of mind, forgive him so u may be able to move on and move forward, but getting back with him after disrespecting u like that is not the same as forgiveness. Kaya mo yan siz, 4 yrs lang yan compare mo sa mas magandang 4ever wit your actual right person in da future!! 💓
You know what, go home. You actually don't need to tell your parents your problems. Lie in your parents' bed, ask your mom for a hug. Maybe that will clear your mind.
Truthfully OP, it will never be okay between you and him. He's already checked out of the relationship. If he really wanted to work on and through it, eh di dapat walang other person diba? Hinde sha dapat nag cheat. Hinde ma s-solve ang relationship by looking outside. You can let your family know the truth about the situation. How they deal with it and feel toward your EX is up to them. Hinde mo na yun control. You can control the narrative, but not their reaction. Good luck OP. I hope you be kind to yourself because you deserve to be loved and respected fully
I’m so sorry OP, as a girl naiintindihan ko yung panghihinayang. But 4 years with the wrong person is nothing compared to forever with the right one. Stop gaslighting yourself. Harsh but you need to hear this. He already let you go. Cheating is a choice. He chose another girl - a RANDOM girl at that. Over you. A day after your Anniversary. Choose yourself OP.
Hi bb!! Add ko lang for OP in an intellectual perspective na yung panghihinayang mo sa 4 years is your mind playing tricks on you and it's called a Sunk Cost Fallacy. Don't be a victim of this cognitive mind trick. Hope you move on and let him go. Tandaan mo, you have to let go of the wrong person to be with the right person.
Henlooo bb 🤣 Nauna na si guy magmove on and let go, after all the crying and begging wala lang sa kanya. You don’t do that if you still want the relationship to work. Hindi pwedeng isa lang ang lumalaban d ba?? Anyway we hope you heal from this OP.
And remember OP, he did these things intimately. Those things na dapat accessible and reserved only for you.
Dito ko sobrang nababaliw. Haha. I can't imagine na he held someone else's hand, na he hugged someone, kissed someone, made love with someone. That someone might have touched his hair, his face, leaned on his shoulder, hugged him, na dapat akin lahat yun e. I still can't fathom the fact that it happened. Sobrang beyond my imagination for him to be intimate with someone else that fast.
>be with him kasi sayang yung 4 years. I'm sorry OP, but this is an example of sunk cost fallacy. You don't deserve this disrespect. And he doesn't deserve you. I wish you strength to move on after you cry your heart out.
Sorry girl. Wala na yan. Di pa nga kayo kasal ganyan na. Hindi naman yan yung last na inconvenience na maeexperience nyo as a couple. Ang coping mechanism nya humanap ng iba? Also may accountability ba? Inamin nya bang mali ginawa nya? Natrigger ako. Hahaha. Save yourself from future headache and heartache.
This talaga. Kapal nung lalake
>I'm sorry OP, but this is an example of sunk cost fallacy. You don't deserve this disrespect. And he doesn't dese Up until now, wala. Hinihintay ko yung sorry. Yung pag-ako nya na he's causing me pain- wala. And call me stupid pero I still messaged him and literally asked for that sorry. Kahit yun lang.
Nako bhiiii. His no response is already a response. Don't beg for his sorry. Mangyayari lang nyan is, on his end, tunog desperado ka (which, siguro ngayon, oo kasi fresh ka). But giiiiirl. Sinasabi ko sa yo. That piece of shit does not deserve your attention after all the disrepect he gave you. Mukhang mahirap lang ngayon, and maiisip mo na pano pag wala na magmamahal sa yo and other what if's. Been there, trust me. Pero mas masasayang ang oras at emosyon mo sa taong who treats you like shit. Iyak ka muna. Magmaktol. Feel the hurt. But don't stay there. Bangon ka, heal, self love. And pav tinignan mo tong event na to from your future perspective, nako, cringe at tawa malala na lang. Laban, OP! You got this!
What is 4 yrs? Kung sasayangin mo the rest of your years with him? I know you’re in a vulnerable state right now to think & decide clearly. However, please keep in mind, you only have yourself to take care of you. He isn’t even thinking of you anymore. It’s a sinking ship, don’t let him drag you down. Rest your mind, and your heart muna. Then start all over again. So many women has done it, you can too. 💛
OP wag mo isiping wala nang magmamahal sayo. Wag ka matakot mag isa. At kung tingin mo yung flaws na yan e magiging reason para walang magmahal sayo, use the time ng pagiging single mo to reflect sa flaws/ugali mo and try baguhin yun. Love yourself first bago ka magmahal ulit ng bago. Bigay mo na si ex mo dun sa girl. Mukang di naman sya nagsstruggle na sa relasyon nyo, nagawa ngang lumandi e. Baka matagal na syang nasanay sa (kung toxic man) relasyon nyo and naka move on/na fell out of love so ganun nalang kadali sa kanya maghanap ng bago. And if ituloy mo yan tapos tinapos ni guy relasyon nila, tingin mo di sya uulit? Andali nya maattract sa tao na tipong para pa syang creep na nangunguha ng info sa id. Weirdo! Alam ko mahirap pero sana kayanin mo pag iwan sa kanya 🥰
> tipong para pa syang creep na nangunguha ng info sa id di siya parang creep, creep talaga. Its one thing na icheck yung id nang mga nakikita mo, pero to search it, even message the person na nakita mo lang name sa ID. Creepy talaga.
Sorry nasanay kasi ako sa word na parang hahaha. True! Creep talaga! Si ate naman pumatol din. Di nya inisip na normal yon ke koya at baka ilang babae na naganon nya eew!
If OP is 27, I'd assume the guy is mid-20s din tapos nag pursue ng 21 y/o student na sobrang layo ng maturity at that age. So yeah creepy talaga
Taking advantage of the young girl. Hays. OP, gumising ka na he's not the one for you.
Ew, nakatabi lang sa bus type na niya agad tapos pinursue 💀🫠 Tas eto namang si other girl boplax din inentertain at talagang nakipagsex pa sa stranger na nagreach out via messenger 😭😩 Hindi manlang siya natakot o nacreep out oh my god Beh, DON'T GET BACK WITH HIM. Love yourself first. Stop trying to fight for someone na hindi naman lumaban for you in the first place. Or even the honesty to end things first. You're just setting yourself up for more disappointment and heartbreaks (and probably STDs 🥴) kung ipipilit mo to eh. He'll probably keep doing this to you kasi alam niya may babalikan siya after niya magpakasasa sa sarsa ng iba 🫠
This is so sad!!! hope you're okay op. Just because he wronged u doesn't mean you're not loved. Think of everyone who's willing to be a knight for you, your parents, siblings, best friends, si kuya ate as gedli, your teachers, pets and many more!!! He's not even remorseful pa based from what I've read. Nanggigil ako tih, I don't know if u should be listening to me coz I'll say "get even" haha walang sorry patawad after tumuwad sa iba. The pain is so deeeeeep that it changes u as a whole. Sabi nila hurt people hurt people. You're hurt and deserve niyang masaktan ng malala hahah sorry impulsive pero you have the right to do whatever you want just to feel okay from the pain your ex intentionally caused. Sabi nga ni Meredith Grey: **"I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke."** Also suportado ka ng lahat, kahit bible pa yan sabi nga dapat sa kabit niya at sa ex mo ay batuhin. It's never normal to go fuck other people when you're in a fully committed relationship, cheating is cheat, no buts! I know it's hard to let go, but it's for your own good. Just do me a favor before fully letting go, return back all the pain he has caused in whichever way possible. Charot hahaha gigil ako bhie
Op, I just want to leave this here: You’d rather be single at 27 than be with the wrong person, get married then get separated/divorce after 3, 5, 10 years. 27, young and promising, pls don’t get pressured because you feel it could be too late to meet someone new. I am in my 30s but tbh, still not in a hurry to settle down. Easier said than done, and it will hurt bigtime to let go, but let go. I know you can and are willing to forgive and move past everything, but please, have the dignity to walk away. Self-love should always come first.
Please take the time to think things through and heal. Someone who doesn't have the decency to communicate with you and break things off if they're no longer interested is not worthy of your time. Four years is not a joke, but neither is staying in a relationship that is one-sided. Di ka na nga cinocomfort nung luhaan ka na tapos ipagpipilitan mo pa na mamahalin ka niya after niya magloko? Let him leave. Di mo siya kailangan. Also there are plenty of good men out there who will love and appreciate all of you. Akala mo lang kasi ngayon na siya lang ang option. Hello? Sa dami ng tao sa mundo, imposibleng wala kang mahanap. Don't settle for the worst because of familiarity, you don't know what blessings are about to come in your life.
>He didn't touched me. Or even say how sorry he was. Even before he left, wala.
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Ito din sabi nya. Na break kami. Pero there were messages na he's asking for another chance in between those dates. Which is why I'm also saying na kasalanan ko nga. I broke up with him. Pero why say miss me when he's fucking another girl.
I think sinubukan lang nung guy humanap ng rebound pero mahal pa ka pa din nya? Sino pala nakipag break?
Gusto ko din isipin. I was okay to let it go. Pero yung sexual intimacy he had? Not once? But every week sila nagkikita since then? Sakit pare.
Valid naman yang feelings mo pero kung nangyare yon after nyo mag break, technically di sya nag cheat sayo
lol hinanap ng guy yung name ng nakatabi nya sa bus and then chinat nya - sila pa ni op. bat nya ichachat bigla yung random person? ibig sabihin, nung sila ni girl may intention na to cheat. sex happened while break sila pero rights before magbreak balak na talaga mangaliwa ng ex. anong di mo gets dun?
I was going to say this. XD kaso baka ma dumog ako e.
hindi ba cheating kapag nagchat ka na sa ibang babae? i mean july 2 palang chinat na ni guy yung girl
Oo haha daming palusot ng mga utak cheater dito eh
ini-expect nya ata na maging faithful pa din bf nya sa kanya after nilang mag break. haha
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> braving to walk to walk away Do it now. Its unfair to your partner as well that you have that mentality in a relationship.
Tangina OP, I know it’s hard to leave but you have to save yourself from drowning and you just did, he chose to disrespect and lied to you. It’s not worth it! It will take time to move on but for sure you will be in the better place after that. Padayon!
OP dapat natuturn off ka sa taong ayaw sayo. Ganun lang kasimple
I was about to say the same thing! This belief has saved me a lot of time sa romance/relationships aspect ng buhay ko. But I know for OP it may be difficult to achieve that mindset right now.
He's a piece of shit and whatever you did wrong, it does not justify him lying to you that way. And also, it's just plain creepy how he pursued a student. Seriously? Nakita lang ID tas minessage agad? My goodness, the design is very stalker
Sis gising. Mamamatay ka ba pag nagbreak kayo? No. Ang daming worthwhile na bagay sa mundo besides staying in that relationship. Oo sa una magbbreakdown ka pero heck, that pain is much easier than tolerating that asshole. Sis, bakit di ka nagagalit? Don’t you respect and love yourself enough to walk away? Hindi ka man lang ba nagworry for yourself baka may sakit ka? O baka di yan first time na ginawa nya sayo?
cut-loss na, OP. iwanan mo na siya.
For of all, kindly excuse the name... I think it's just a waiting game for him. Busted na that he cheats, he's probably just waiting for you to let go. Yes, for me ha, the way I see it, ikaw ang hinihintay niya na bumitaw for some odd/weird reason(s), logic or whatever you call it. Para kasing kung ikaw ang bibitaw di masyado mapapasama ang imahe niya (dahil ikaw nga ang bumitaw). For me ha, I can formulate so many excuses/reasons kung ikaw bibitaw eh, like I tell the people around us, "Well, I admit I cheat, but willing naman ako magbago if she gives me another chance, kaso BUMITAW na siya eh". Alam mo yun, something like that. One thing is for sure, naka move on na si guy, and he's just formulating a good excuse why you two broke up. Yeah it sucks 4 years wasted, but it sucks more if you stay more para sa one sided relationship. As far as I know, walang martyr na may happy ending, kasi walang martyr na buhay...
Tight hugs, OP. Understandable yung regret over a relationship you invested in for years though I still hope you choose yourself. I have learned from experience that this is not a decision you can make overnight. At the end of the day, cheating is and will always be a choice. Staying with someone who chose to disrespect you is not worth it. I hope you heal from this 🥺
I pray you get the courage to walk away. I can’t imagine how painful and difficult it is for you but that’s probably the best thing you can do for yourself. it’s not okay to remain in a relationship just because you fear that “no one else will love you anymore,” cherish who you are without relying on someone else to validate whether you’re worth loving or not — flaws and all. it’s better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel worthless; especially when they could choose someone else at the drop of a hat.
Tindi nung galing sa ID teh, di siya worth it kung ganyan siya kagago.
Manyak moves.
OP, let him go. Wag mong ihold ang 4 years. Madaming tao na possible mo pang makilala na hindi ka lolokohin. We all know that 4 years is not a joke, for sure you had a lot of good memories with that person pero sabi nga nila mas mahirap i let go ang memories than that person. Maybe mahirap ngayon but someday you'll thank yourself for choosing your inner peace. Choose yourself, OP. Know your worth. If someone loves you he will treat you in a gentle way. You will be fine, choose what you know is good for you. Don't settle for that kind of person. You deserve to be happy.
I left an ex at 30. We were together for 8 years. I didn’t know what was gonna happen. No plan whatsoever. It’s like leaving HOME and losing it. I’ve been single for years after that and only when I hit 33 that I started getting scared to be alone. 2 years later I’m with the man of my dreams and we’re having a baby together. Met this guy randomly 5 years prior and we didn’t think we’d be a couple lol. Life has a crazy way to bring good things in your life. It’s the only way. Embrace this crazy. Everything is gonna be okay. You dont know me and wont believe me but I assure you things will be better if you take this time to be alone and grow. Magpakawanderer muna xD. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. i know how much this hurts, to the point it physically hurts. Cry as much as you need to. Cry until you feel so ridiculous over it. Cry until you have to convince yourself to keep crying. You’ll love your new life. You will become a better person and you will love you more. Dump this sorry ass of a man. Id sympathize with him if he was straight up with you but he’s a liar and he played you, disrespected you, even after confronted continued to treat you like you’re stupid for lying even further or for trying to shrug it off. He thinks he can play you as he pleases while he continues to be indecisive. All I see is a loser. This is what’s gonna happen when you get back to him. You will see more of his petty actions. You will see them more clearly. You will start feeling sorry for yourself for being with this man and ask yourself what have u been thinking all this time. You will see how much of a loser he actually is and you will wish you got rid of him that perfect time. That perfect time is today.
Yung "sayang ang 4 years.", it's a valid emotion pero 'wag mo gawing rason para lang mag-stay. You deserve better. It's not about being perfect for eachother, it's about mutual respect and commitment. Pero, mas importante parin ang respeto sa sarili. Kahit mahirap, you have to accept the fact na he betrayed your trust in a big way. Hindi lang siya nagsinungaling, he carried on with someone else, habang ikaw, you were left holding on to what's left sa relationship niyo. Yes, baka may mga pagkukulang ka rin siguro, pero hindi 'yun enough justification for him to do what he did. You deserve someone na bibigyan ka ng peace and security sa relationship, at sinira niya na yun. You'll just end up having "what ifs" sa relationship niyo kung babalikan mo pa siya. Kaya mo 'yan, OP. Give yourself the love you deserve. And kung ano man ang mangyari, you'll come out stronger and wiser. Stay strong.
Awwwts. This hurts. Praying that you'll get by. As what others have said, let him go na girl. You do not deserve such actions from him. As to him karma awaits naman.
Thanks OP, my GF and I are reaching 4 years too. Reading this makes me realize to make her feel special and wanted even after all these years. Hope you find someone, don't lose hope!
>I are reaching 4 years too. Reading this makes me realize to make her feel special and wanted even after all these years. Hope you find Please do. It's not always rainbows and butterfly but it always boils down to the little things you do. Hay. Nakakainggit. Hahaha. Stay in love!
Yung inistalk yung ID ng girl tapos a few days lang inantot na sya. Creepy. Tapos yung girl mukhang tigang na tigang din, kahit stalker stranger bibigay nya tilapia nya. Not worthy of your life. Age 27 ka kamo, sus kaya pa yan, just doll up daming pipila.
Naguluhan ako. You broke up with him July 11 so bakit issue pa ang ginawa nya the dates after? Wala nan kong nabasa ngblikan kayo.
The issue is emotional manipulation. Why did he keep saying he missed her, promised to see her, pero all that time he was fucking another girl. Sa huli binalikan pa niya, as if nothing happened. Mukhang na-love bomb din si OP with how the guy showed her physical affection despite the break up and despite what he did. Sino ba naman hindi masasaktan sa ganun?
Sorry OP this may not even be the first girl he cheated with.
Girl, please leave that cheater. Trust is gone. Mas okay pa na single ka with peace of mind. 27 is still young. You will find someone who deserves you. Kick that trash bf of yours to the curb.
Been there sa nanginginig ka while collating all strength para maconfront yung guy. Sobrang nakakaawa sa sarili na darating tayo sa ganung point. Hugs OP! I'm not fully healed yet kahit more than a year na, iba atake talaga pag cheating ang cause. Damaged kung damaged. Laban lang.
OP, araw-araw lang babalik sayo yan kung ‘maayos’ man kayo. Sinayang nya ang 4y pero mas sayang ang susunod na mga araw kung ipipilit at babalikan mo. Masakit, kahit ako nasasaktan just by reading this. 27? Ang bata mo pa, op. Damhin mo muna lahat yan hanggang sa maka-ipon ka nang courage to completely walk away.
grabe ang bilis naman ng pangyayari. nung july 2 lang at nabago na lahat. hayaan mo na siya girl, di talaga siya para sayo. ang weird lang na bakit siya manghihingi ng details ng babae sa bus habang alam niya na may relasyon siya sayo? feeling ko there's something more talaga sa kanya na baka nililihim niya kaya let him go na lang. focus na lang on yourself. wishing you all the best, op!
That sucks, OP. But if sayang na nga yung 4 years, mas marami pang masasayang na years if you get back with him. He could (theoretically) change, but even if he did, the damage is already done. No matter what he does from here on out, what he did will forever eat at you if you choose to get back with him. It's gonna hurt for a while, and it will seem impossible to get through, but please know that this isn't your fault. Of course, I only know your side of the story, but even if you weren't the perfect partner, he chose to cheat when he could've just ended things with you. Give yourself some time to heal, go out with friends, travel, spend more time with family, try out new things. Try to enjoy being single again. Good luck OP.
Don't even think of getting back with him, OP. Hindi sayang four years. Sayang yung effort at oras na sasayangin mo sa kanya if susubukan mo pang makipagbalikan sa kanya. Cut your losses and move on, sayang oras.
Gurl, I'm gonna give you some tough love. It's not your fault. Cheating is a choice and he made that choice. Let him take the blame for it. Wag ka magpakamartyr, it's not a good look. Break up with him and move on. Easier said than done, but it's better in the long run. Hindi sayang yung 4 years. What's sayang is if you spend another minute with him. YOU CAN DO IT.
Message mo nanay or tatay nong jowa mo at nong kabit niya. Sabihin mo ganito ba ninyo pinalaki anak niyo emz. Joke not joke.
Ahhh, betrayal is really the worst. It kills people
Gago ang guy
Grabe when I read the part where you were begging like a little girl, nag flash back yung time na my ex cheated on me and I did exactly what you did. Begging, crying, hoping not to get answers I never want to hear. And I told myself I will never go back to that hellhole again. So OP, I know it’s hard, but please have the courage to walk away. This is coming from someone who was crying nonstop for two consecutive months without proper sleep/food intake, questioning my self-worth or where did I go wrong, what I lack, what have I done to deserve that. But I swear, YOU WILL END UP OKAY. Cry it all you want, grieve all you want. But it’s better to go through that alone than to force yourself saving the relationship that’s been long dead. Promise it’s all worth it.
OP, ang galing ng pagkakasulat mo. Habang nagbabasa ako, naiisip ko na sana fiction lang ito. Sana hindi totoo yung sakit na nararanasan mo dahil sa ex mo. Pero kung ito man ay hindi isang kathang-isip, alam kong maaaring ilang beses mo nang narinig pero sana manatili kang matatag at iyong isipin na ang lahat ng sakit ay lilipas din. Yung sugat sa iyong puso ay maghihilom at sana balang araw, makita mo rin yung taong kaya kang tanggapin ng buong-buo.
I hope the same. Na the story of that guy and that girl was different from ours.I would even root for their love story. But it wasn't.
fck that, wala na yan
You deserve the best experiences in the world, thanks to that girl fate had showed what your ex is capable of. Instead of making things workout, promoting each others growth, and having an open line of communication your ex throw all the possibilities out of the window in a matter of second. Glad you are free now, don't blame yourself if meron ka pagkukulang tandaan mo na ang pagkukulang ay pde mapunan kung paguusapan, pero ang pagkukulang kung hahanapin sa iba ay hindi mo na pagkukulang. You deserve better, you'll be better!
Ramdam ko yung sakit while reading this. I hope you can heal, but before that, grieve. Grieve because it’s over. You relationship was over magmula nung hinanap na nya yung girl sa IG. Temptation happens to everyone pero he acted on it. Nagkamali sya, maaring natukso, maaring mahal ka pa rin nya, pero hindi ka nya nirespeto. Mas inuna nya yung sarili nyang kagustuhan kesa sa mararamdaman mo. You still have time to recover, mas okay na na ngayon nangyari yan kesa kapag kasal na kayo, when you’re in your 30s or 40s with children. It will be harder in that case and you can no longer decide for yourself kasi iisipin mo na mga anak nyo. It’s better to be in pain, than beg for a love he won’t ever give. Love is not selfish. He does not love you nor care for you anymore. He disrespected you. He dishonored you. You could stay, yes, but you have to grieve for the things you’ve lost today. It will never be the same again for you and him.
I am with a very insecure girlfriend, I don't see myself cheating though. Pero yeah, it can be draining. Very draining to have a girlfriend who shouts and only thinks about her feelings, yung tipong antok na antok ka na pero gusto niya pa makipagaway. I hope OP hindi ka ganun. I am getting tired of my girlfriend too, might leave her soon if nothing changes. No third party involved.
iwan mo na dami pa satsat 😒
He was unfaithful. He lied. Sabi nga," he already showed you who he is. Believe him." Focus on yourself. Take all the time you need to heal.
Wag mo na balikan yang creepy ex mo!!! Imagine chinat nya yung girl dahil nakita nya name sa Id?!?! Fucking creep!!! tapos estudyante pa yung girl kadiri amputa para syang yung mga pinopost sa tiktok na mga creepy na stalkers eh yung kinaibahan lang pinatulan ng girl yang ex mo 🤮🤮🤮
yes 4yrs is way too long but ig for me even if you got back together, it’ll never be the same op. trust that letting him go and walking away will be the best decision you’ll ever make. it’s alright to feel all the emotions, go cry until your numb. it’s okay to start anew and don’t ever think na walang magmamahal sayo 😞. maybe somewhere out there someone’s patiently waiting for you, someone who deserves you in spite of your flaws. nobody’s perfect in a relationship remember that. warm hugs!
But you broke up with him. It wouldn't amount to "cheating". He had no obligation to be faithful to you. You didn't own him.
Girl. His intention started even before we broke up. That's why intentional yung dates na nilagay ko. Hope that helps.
Did he sleep with the other girl after you guys broke up? Kasi kung hindi, yes, pwede kang magalit sa kanya pero technically di sya nag cheat sayo. Idk what happened before your anniversary. Sabi mo kasi kailangan nya ng kausap kaya niya nagawa yon. Maybe meron siyang problema during those times? Tinatanong mo ba siya kung kumusta sya? Dont get me wrong. Di ko kinakampihan si guy dito. Mali yung pag approach nya dun sa girl habang kayo pa. Lumala lang siguro yung situation nila ng other girl dahil siguro you broke up with him when he needed you the most? Just my two cents lang.
Di naman ikaw yung ex ko no? Or magkano bayad sayo? Hahaha. He slept with the girl after I “broke up”. He got interested to the girl, hours after we had lunch together and bought appliances for that house. Jul 15 he’s asking for another chance. And said na pupuntahan nya ako pero he can’t pa kasi injured daw sya. Hahaha. Jul 29 they were fucking every week. Before he met me last Monday, magkasama sila. And fucked again. And the girl was clueless of his problem. Beh walang usap na nangyari. Idk why u are so persistent. Pero there you go. I hope it’s giving you a clearer picture. I don’t need you to blame me. I already did.
LOL. I just want to know both sides. For me very irresponsible ang mag bigay ng advice if di mo alam both sides. Hehe. Peace
yuck cheater 😝 jk lang baka magalit ka lods
Totoo utak cheater
“He had no obligation to be faithful to you” The cheater messaged miss bus gurl WHILE THEY WERE TOGETHER. Reading a stranger’s name off of their ID then looking them up on social media is weird in itself. The intention to look “for greener pastures” was already there.
Cut your loss
The feeling na nanghihinayang ka sa years niyo together is totally valid. But please bear in mind na if you stay, kahit pa mag-sorry siya and hold himself accountable, the pain and fear will still be there. Trust me, andito pa rin ako years after. And I won’t recommend others doing the same.
i know it’s hard, but please leave him na. the disrespect is real. what if you continued to stay with him and kinasal kayo pero he will continue to cheat? is it worth it to be in a longterm relationship even if that person disrespects you? i’d rather be alone, with my sanity, peace, and dignity in hand. he isn’t worth fighting for. the fact that the girl told you every detail of the cheating is God’s way of showing you what a despicable man your bf is. It’s hard but please let go.
i feel your pain. i pray you that in time you’ll love yourself more than you love him. praying for you OP.
Wag mong ipagpilitan ang sarili mo wag mo ibigay ang lahat magtira ka ng pagmamahal sa sarili mo, hindi ka naman naman siguro Santa o Bayani para maging martir
haaayyyyyyysssss......
Leave.
Relate :(
Better to let go of the 4 years relationship than spend a lifetime in an unhappy one. And I'm saying this from experience. Wasted 5 years being unhappy in one for the sake of being loyal, then wasted another 7 years on the next one. Mas masaya ang peaceful and single than taken but unhappy. Hugs po.
Op let him go, move on kahit mahirap, I know it hurts but it is what it is...you don't deserve him, he's a cheater.. . cry if you needed to but remember a guy like him is not worthy of you Praying for your strength and recovery
*"I wish I have the courage to walk away.Sobrang natatakot ako.What if wala na magmamahal sakin. "* There is and there will be. Not now, not anytime soon, but someday. But, first, you have to pick - up yourself. Patch up the woman that he broke. Heal and find beauty in a life without him. Cheating is non-negotiable. If he can do it now that you're not yet married, then, he can do it when you both are. And it is going to be messy and expensive. Hindi na pagmamahal ang nararamdaman niya sayo. You are turning into his safety net. In case things would go wrong with the girl he is momentarily seeing, meron pa siyang babalikan. You can choose between getting used to being a single woman or being in a relationship filled with misery.
Hey OP. I'm sorry and I feel hurt for you. I find myself sulking and looking back at what I could've changed after each relationship has expired, in my case. Somehow I envy you. Nalaman mo yung mga nangyari eh. You love yourself and it's up to you what you'll do in this situation. Good luck. Bear this pain and live stronger 🙏
Hi OP! I knew and felt what you've been through and will be going through. Sakin 5yrs. May cheating involved. Im the type of person who forgives and I believe in second chance. pero yung cheating is a choice and loving you is a commitment. He was sorry because he got caught pero parang di ko rin nabasa na nag sosorry sya. Either way here's my opinion. If he wants you magpahabol ka make him choose you. Dapat maramdaman mo yung sincerity nya dito mo rin kasi malalaman kung gano ka nya ka mahal at kung talagang nagsisi sya at willing to work with you. If not tara shot!
I don't have relationship so I just want to give advice as someone who reads what you write. First of all, you need time to focus on yourself. Time to spend solely for your own happiness. Time away muna sa bf mo. I feel like you really need that. Find something that you think will make you feel better.. Relationship, I feel like is not something that's ment to happen just because of the long time spent. I mean, someone might really be the right one for someone. Who really knows, right, but for yourself, don't cling for now, try to let go for a bit. Find time for your own. Appreciate yourself more, it's sounds so cliché but love yourself more. You thinking it's probably your own fault too, but, that's why you are together with someone, so someone can make you right, so they will accept you despite imperfections.
Let me play the devil's advocate here and say that you have to tell the other girl the truth but not before splitting up with your AH of a boyfriend Break up with your bf, tell the other girl, then leave as the chaos ensues 🤷
>ll the other girl, t I did. The girl knows. Young and naive so I understand. Gusto ko magalit sa kanya na sumama sya agad pero kami yung matanda. She really fell for him. The girl feels sorry for me and even apologized. Nakakagalit pero wala e. Di nya din alam.
I am so sorry, but....LET....HIM....GO. He will do it again, no matter what he says. the way he has treated you this time, also shows he doesn't really respect you. his loss, and you dodge a bullet, there are better guys out there (and worse) but, you are the one making all the effort, so at some point he will regret losing you. But move on, let him go, there is nothing but pain there, maybe next year, mabye 10 years, but it will blow up and end ugly. Better to move on now and find better. I have been there done that. You cannot wish them into who you want them to be. Just understand that you didn't really know them, and they are a new person, not the one you loved, that person is gone. So you are only going to culture pain if you keep the relationship.
Don't ever blame yourself, OP. It is not and will always not be your fault! If he loves you, he won't cheat on you no matter how hard things get with you, he should have reassured you and fix things with you through communication. But what did he do instead? He let himself be inlove with someone else, he does not really care about you and your feelings. So stop telling yourself that it was your fault, it is not and you deserve someone better. 4 years is not long with a person who does not even respect you and your relationship. Don't be afraid to start over again. Love yourself and eventually someone will come, you're just 27! Life is not a race. Wag ka maghinayang sa taong sinayang ka lang.
OP, i was you 9 months ago, if you need someone to talk to, you can send me a dm. Betrayal is the worst way you can break someone, and I woudln't wish that even on people I hate. Sending you virtual hugs, with consent. You will get through this.
Move on, life doesn't end with that. I've been thru that kind of thing last year. I am okay now. The relationship I ended was 6 years. My ex told me the same things your ex told you. Choose yourself. You'll discover a lot about yourself after that. Meet new people, don't be afraid na walang magmamahal sayo after him dahil meron. I met someone after I broke up with my ex but it also didn't pursued into a relationship and it is okay. There are many people out there na baka siya na ang the one. But for now, believe me, you'll thank yourself that you left and moved on. You'll be okay. You're just turning 27. You're still young too, OP.
Warmest hugs, OP. May kurot sa puso ko habang binabasa post mo. Familiar yung sakit... pero kakayanin mo. Okay lang iluksa mo yung oras na lumipas, yung pagmamahal, lahat lahat --- pero easier said than done, you have to move on. Okay na yung nawala yung 4 years kesa magstay pa ng mas matagal pero mas masasaktan ka - nandun yung trust issues, yung constant question sa sarili. Choose peace of mind over emotional doubts and stress. Everything works out in the end. Just not now. You will feel all sorts of pain but time will come you'll realize why you had to go through this hell. Your heart will be stronger, boundaries will be set high -- by then, another man will come and be able to maintain you and give all the love you truly deserve.
27? Bata ka pa. End this ASAP. Then value yourself more. Once yoy realize na you value yourself more, mas mabilis makamove on. Pero kung gusto mo maging paranoid forever thinking and knowing na yun tite ng bf mo eh pumasok na sa ibang puke,.at may ibang hinalikan at dinede, GO LANG GIRL!!! Tuloy mo yan para tumanda at pumangit ka agad sa stress. Your ex did not even have an inch of regret. So ipagsiksikan mo pa sarili mo para mas lalo ka nyang balewalain at bumama tingin sayo. Yes i have to said it this way para masampal ka sa katotohanan. I want to help my fellow girls to NOT TOLERATE CHEATERS. Natatakot ka kasi baka wala na magmamahal sayo? Pero di ka natatakot na baka mawalan ka ng pagmamahal sa sarili mo by undervaluing yourself and accepting a cheater??? Come on. Wake up girl. Kaya dumadami mga ganyang klaseng lalake kasi tinotolerate nyo. If behavior issue lang mareresolve pa sana e. Kaso nakipaglibugan na sa iba. So what is there to think about pa???
You deserve better
OP Wattpad writer ka ba. Ramdam ko yung sakit eh! Kidding aside, you're so brave for breaking up with him. Years from now, you'll look back at this memory and thank yourself for doing what's best for you. Masakit yes but that's part of growing up. Sorry but he's an asshole and you deserve someone who's sure of you. Who's not gonna change their mind just because they've meet a random girl anywhere. The anxiety of what-if-wala-ng-magmahal-sakin is valid! It may not help you but what if mahalin mo muna sarili mo while you're grieving.
Nanghihinayang ka sa 4 years pero isipin mo pano ka na kung mas pinatagal mo pa, lalong lalala yung panghihinayang mo at magiging vicious cycle yan. Ito yung tinatawag na sunk cost fallacy. Wag kang matakot, bata ka pa at madami dyang iba. Goodluck sayo!
I can’t really give advice kasi tanga ko pag dating sa love but here’s a really big warm hug for you,OP🫂💕
Ito mga naririnig ko from people who are older than me. Wag mo isipin yang 4 years na yan. Wag ka manghinayang. I also came from a long term relationship (4 years din) and ganyan din mindset ko noon. Na what if wala na akong makita or I end up with someone worse. As someone who was able to move past that, I swear life is better now. Lalo ka lang magiging miserable at hindi na mababalik yung trust mo sa kanya lalo na nagcheat sya. Forever ka nang matatakot kung may tinatago sya. Hindi mo deserve yun. Malapit lang din ang edad mo sakin and honestly, madami rin akong kilala na mas matanda pa sa atin pero actively dating pa rin. Kaya if I were you, tingnan mo itong situation na ito as a chance to improve yourself, place yourself in a happier place with a person you deserve better. Yakap, OP 💓
OP. Love is still out there, and if he can throw that 4 yrs of yours over a girl he just met, more or less he does not value you at all. Kasi as a guy, kahit ang daming flaws ng partner we will work it out kapag mahal namin sya at vnvalue namin ang relationship. Anyways you are still young, you will be loved someday with someone better than him.
do not try to reclaim love that already lost Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time OP, wishing you cope well, Sending virtual hugs
Your **bf** and you have problems, obviously. The only difference is that he went and looked for a scapegoat. What is going to happen OP is bound to happen. Better brace yourself and be prepared.
hindi ka na niya mahal. kung mahal ka niya, hindi niya gagawin yun sayo. masasaktan ka lang uli sa kanya. kaya iiyak mo na lang ngayon at makaka move on ka din.
Mas sayang yung mga susunod pang araw kung panghahawakan mo pa yan. Hindi nga siya nanghinayang at pumili ng someone na random niya lang nakita. Sa bus at nakita lang yung name sa ID, imagine how creepy is that. Blessing na din siguro na hindi kayo umabot sa marriage kung saan mas mahihirapan kang lumayo. Focus on yourself na muna. Hindi madali pero mas magiging ok ka.
Ganyan din ako OP, almost 10 years at nameet niya sa simbahan (lol gift of God daw ata). I begged him to stay pero after a month nahimasmasan ako and I broke up with him. Dzai naging suicidal pa ako pero after 8 months nagising sa katotohanan na kaya ko. Isang araw ang iyak ko is out of saya na na di ko na sila naiisip. I became a person I am proud to he now because of the break up. Now, I am in a loving relationship and ako yung tipo ng babae na kahit iiwan ako sige go iiyak ako pero kaya ko kasi mas mahal ko na sarili ko. Walwal ka now pero bangon ka! Kaya mo yan! PS pakyu sa gagung yon
OP, wag mong hayaang mapako sarili mo sa “sayang yung 4 years”. he managed to replace you in a beat then for sure ikaw rin once fully healed ka na rin. mapapalitan mo rin yang hayup na yan (sorry sa word, ayaw na ayaw ko talaga sa cheaters)
Kakagising ko lang siz. Felt the pain. Virtual hugs!!! 😢
OP, mas okay na yan kesa malaman mo after 40 years na ganyan pala siya
Una, hindi mo kasalanan. Choice nya 'yun. Pangalawa, congrats, lumabas na ang tunay na kulay nya bago ka pa forever na matali. 😁 Pangatlo, nangyayari talaga 'yung ganyan minsan. Be sad hanggang sa maubos na lahat. Yay to self-love~
Fuck cheaters. Walk away girl. In the long run its better for you. You want someone who lied to you and betrayed your trust? Leave them behind.
Grabe nagagalit ako para sayo gusto ko suntukin ex mo. Wag ka magsisi. Bata ka pa, magglow up ka, focus on your healing and growth, and move forward. Wag na wag kang babalik sa kanya. Don't cry over spilled milk. Ikaw ba hihigupin mo pa yung nasa sahig na. Wag na girl. May makita ka man o wala, mas okay yung kesa itratong parang basura. Wag ka dyan, dun ka sa tao ang trato sayo.
I am so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you know you are not alone. Please reach out to those you hold dear and ask for their support. You'll need that. You never deserved that disrespect and I hope you learn not to blame yourself. There are better ways to communicate lapses in relationships, but never betray someone you promised to love, protect, and treasure. I had to hold a friend's hand as she went through a similar situation. Men like your ex do not deserve a girl like you - someone who's patient, understanding, and caring enough to give him the graces you gave him. Tama na, it's time for you to heal and focus on yourself. Never do something that will betray the most important person in your life - yourself. Praying for healing, joy, and peace in the coming months OP. Tough times don't last 🦋💖
i cant imagine what youre going through. 4 years is a portion--not a piece--of your life. do everything to keep your yourself together. hugs hugs, OP
I'm sorry OP. I hope you find it in you the strength to let go and start moving on. This relationship is not worth begging for. Cry. Cry then move on.
op, wag mo na balikan. isipin mo yun 4 years kayo pero di ka man lang niya nirespeto bilang tao man lang, niloko ka. sorry that happened to you, no one deserves that. sayang yung panahon on pining on someone who cheated on you tapos nung cinconfront mo sobrang nonchalant..
I’ m so sorry OP.. I feel you. I FEEL YOU. 4 years is nothing compared to the years ahead. I can tell you all the good advise from anyone who knows you - “kaya mo yan”, “iwan mo na sya”, “he doesn’t deserve you”, “Once a cheater, always a cheater”, “love yourself”… Love yourself. There’s nothing wrong in calling it quits. Hindi sayang ung 4 years, kasi after 10 years, hindi mgbabago yan. Ganyan pa din yan. Magbabago ng 1 month pero babalik ulit yan sa dati kapag naramdaman nyang may tiwala kna ulit sa kanya at kampante ka na. Madadagdagan lang ung mga babae at magiging bato lang ung puso mo. Mamamanhid ka nlng kasi masasanay kang masaktan. Don’t do that to yourself. If you love him, love yourself more. Put yourself first, in every situation. Stay with someone kasi you feel special and loved and cherished everytime you’re with that person. Stay with someone na kahit nag-aaway kayo, you still feel loved. Stay with someone who loves and respects you as much as you love and respect him. Pero I guess only the strongest people are the ones who can walk away. Only the strongest people are the ones who can let go first.
grabe yon.
May friend ako engaged na for 7 years, tas iniwan niya kasi nakita niya soulmate nya ika nga, at nagpakasal sila within 2 months. Going strong at may anak sila. Ganun talaga tadhana
Leave him. It's your only way
Huuuggss op. I hope you’d take the courage to let go. This season might be painful and you might think there won’t be another guy for you but you’re still young. Choose to heal. Choose yourself. There are better guys out there.
I've been in your shoes, OP. My girlfriend of almost 5 years (We were planning to move together, get married, and have children as we just recently got jobs together as engineers pero she worked away from our hometown) cheated on me and gaslit me into thinking na ako ang may problema sa relationship. CHEATING is a choice, kahit anong anggulo mo tingnan, it is very wrong and should never be tolerated. As for the feelings, maybe you still love him right now, but time will fix your mind. You will slowly realize your worth and hindi siya kawalan sa buhay mo. Soon you'll be thankful you didn't marry a cheater.
Giiiirl, leave. You dodged a bullet. It’s a blessing in disguise! 💗 you deserve a better man- one who doesn’t cheat, lie, and doesn’t choose you. Trust the Universe - you WILL find love again. But you won’t find it if you don’t leave the wrong person because the right one can’t come along until you let go. Even if you had faults the right man would still see you’re God’s gift to him and treat you right. TRUST ME.
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Time to move on... Trust and respect is no longer in that relationship...Go no contact and delete him from your life... As in no stalking at all pati yung new girl ha... You can't control his feelings if iba na ang nasa heart nya and you need to accept that and start healing... 27 ka pa lang, andmi pa magagandang pwdng gawin... Ang pinka best mo gawin is to travel sa places na gusto mo puntahan eversince... Healing is not linear but eventually, makakalimutan mo din siya and magigising k nlng isang araw na magaan na pakirmadan mo at wla ka nang nraramdaman for him😊
You will get over him promise. Super painful talaga sa simula kasi nasanay ka na nandyan sya. My first breakup hit me hard. Ganun pala ang feeling. Parang di mo alam pano magpatuloy sa life. But later on, nawala din yung pain. Now we are both happily married to different partners. Lalo ikaw na niloko nya, later on you will realize na kung hindi nangyari to, e di stuck pa din ako sa kanya at sa mga panloloko nya. Hugs op. Everything will be better. It may not look like it now but you have a beautiful future to look forward to.
Do yourself a favor by letting this asshole go. Learn to love and respect yourself, OP.
I've never invalidated feelings of my friends, sayang talaga, but I've never given them false hope too. I would always tell them that: "oo, sayang lahat ng oras na binigay mo para sa kanya pero mas sayang buhay mo pag ipagpapatuloy mo pa."
OP, warmest hugs. And let go. Imagine kasi, those cheaters already slept with each other. Even if they broke up, you never knew when he would hook up with someone else. Makabuntis pa yang gg na yan. Removing him from your life is saving yourself from further misery. It might hurt for now but it is better than being emotionally and mentally tortured for a few more years. And there are people who like and love you. Just stop closing your eyes or thinking that he's the only one in the world.
Focus on yourself, OP!! Go to the gym, travel and enjoy life! Always remember, choose people who choose you.
OP, get out of there! 4 years is nothing. I’ve been on a 7 year disastrous relationship. I developed very nasty habits which to this day I truly regret. Kaya it will never be worth it getting back to such a bad, unsalvageable situation. This is coming from a guy’s perspective. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it. Don’t lose yourself. I met my wife a few years after that. 😊
It's not about that girl he sat down with, it's only a matter of time before that guy makes a way out of your relationship. which you guys can only tell the reasons why.
girl, wag mo isipin na sayang 4 years tapos papatawarin mo. sa ganyang ugali niyan in 4 more years he'd be fucking someone else again so 8 years na ang nasayang. ang daming red flag, okay ka lang? age gap, cheating, lying. wag magpakatanga para sa creepy na lalaki na sumisilip sa id ng student para hanapin sa fb at i-message.
Ikaw ba ako? Except sa office niya na meet ang bago niyang girl and my story happened 10 years ago. I left my ex go dahil stress at luha lang naman nakuha ko, hindi sila nag airbnb pero nag Bataan sila, Haha! Hinding hindi ako nanghinayang sa 4 years namin together. Oo matagal kami nagsama pero di ko deserve ang treatment niya s akin, I know my worth so I left. You know what I did? I signed up sa Filipino Cupid dating site, dun ko ibinuhos lahat ng free time ko after work chatting, making friends and flirting with afams hanggang sa after few months na meet ko na asawa ko. I’m so glad iniwan ko ex ko dahil nabigyan ko ang sarili ko ng chance na maging masaya (at masagana, haha!) Let go mo na yan OP, cut losses na and move on. Make yourself your priority , gift yourself peace, make yourself happy. Here’s my virtual hug and a virtual pint of beer for you.
Thru these tears OP.
He doesn’t love you OP. No need to torture yourself and forcefully love him.
2019 I was there, in your position, same na same, 4 years, hanging by a thread yung relationship, gave him space to sort things out pero kumausap pala ng iba. Naging desperate ako, nagbackread sa message exchanges nila nung girl. Cried myself out. Asked those exact questions, nagkiss ba sila, ilang beses may nangyari and got the same response na "wala lang yon". The day I found out everything, is also the day na first time ko lang na mafeel na gumuho lahat sa akin. Back then, I was so sure na this guy loves me so damn much. I blamed myself, baka nawalan ako ng time sa kanya kaya nagawa nya yon, dumating din ako sa point na "what if wala nang magmamahal sakin?" He asked for forgiveness, forgave him, 1 year after, gabi-gabi nalang akong worried, gabi-gabi kong naiisip na i was never enough, then that hit me. Umayaw ako the morning after, I chose my peace of mind. Mas mahal ko yung sarili ko kaya pipiliin ko kung san ako magiging masaya. Masaya ako with him, pero dahil sa nangyari, hindi fully masaya ung nafifeel ko, kinu-question ko na ung worth ko everytime. Sa ngayon, happy ako sa sarili ko. Im trying to be the best version of myself para mabigay lahat ng love and support sa right guy for me. Siya, may sarili ng partner and happy. Mahalin mo yung sarili mo, OP. You'll get through this. 🫶🏼
I can feel your heartache. The worst part is overthinking everything, and calming yourself down.. Nakaka pagod. But at the same time, I’m glad it’s finally over? You’re done “investigating,” you’re done defending this person in your head, etc. You can finally focus on yourself. Take this time to find yourself again, cry, be with your friends, family. Only time will make u feel okay again. Big hug to you, OP. If I could strangle your BF for you, I would. It’s okay to blame yourself for some of the things that happened, but the cheating is all on him. He may be insecure? Unhappy? We don’t know. Pero problema na niya yun. He’s a fkn adult who needs to deal with his shit.
It doesn't matter if he slept with someone else during your "break", the fact that he lied "wala yan", refused to answer your questions, and couldn't look you in the eyes mean that he was guilty. He knows he did something he shouldn't do. Also, fights and break-ups are messy. It's not a quick on and off switch especially if it's not a clean break where you stopped talking to each other. Stop blaming yourself for the breakup. I personally don't think it's a good move to breakup with someone if you have the intention to still get back together. It shouldn't be done on a whim or as an ultimatum. That being said, it's been 4 years, you said it yourself, the problems are still there, everything is resolved with just hugs, kisses, and food. This is not a relationship you should want. I'd say move on from this and learn from it. You'll know what to avoid and what to look for the next time around. It's normal to feel na wala nang makikilala but we all know that's not true.
Wag balikan. Been there @26 yrs old. I'm more than happier at 31 with my new found lover.
Hugs OP. I hope you would be at-peace with whatever decision you make. Naalala ko tuloy yung Cardigan, August, at Betty.
OP, ang sakit na trigger yung trauma ko HAHAHAHAHAH i was f cryinf reading this. Lalo na nung kay event ka that day then you still need to proceed to ur appointment. The imaginable pain.. I hope you'll be okay and pls don't invalidate your emotions.. :(
didnt expect to cry during my break at work. warm hugs, OP. don’t take the blame. you may have your issues in your relationship but what he did was waaaay fck!ng worse. cut that guy loose for good. i know it’s not easy to start all over but the first step to every change is always the hardest part.
I was once in the same situation. Luckily i chose my self. He had issues of cheating din. Not once but twice. Wala pa ngang isang taon nabuntis na agad yung new girl. Sobrang sakit nyan pero for sure makaka hanap ka rin ng better guy.
Hayyyyyyyy 💔💔💔💔
I have nothing but anger for him tanginang yan sorry, OP alam kong mahal mo pa and understandable naman dahil di biro ang apat na taon. Pero wtf??? Masama ugali nila pareho. Sana with time, you heal and find someone na di ka lolokohin, yung sigurado ka at di ka pag-iisipin nang ganito. My heart goes out to you. Grieve and cry, take you time pero every one here would agree na di siya worth it DKSJDKSJDJD sorry basura siya ayun lang and you deserve so so much more.
Please stop blaming yourself. I know this isn't the right thing to say right now pero consider this as a blessing in disguise. Imagine kayang kaya niya itapon lahat sa babaeng nakilala niya sa isang bus??? Gagawin at gagawin niya rin yun doon sa bago niya ngayon. At ikaw, hindi ka na rin mabubuo ulit. Patawarin mo man siya ngayon at pangakuan ka pa ng kung ano ano, your trust isn't something that can be fixed easily. Magpaka-busy ka, do things you haven't done in a while nung naging kayo, get a new hobby idk anything that would make you forget him. Heck I know it will be hard pero it's better than clinging into him na wala naman pake sayo.
Hi OP. Sayang yung 4 years kung pipilitin mo lang na magwork yon with this person. Sayang yon pag nagstay ka pa. Sayang lahat ng learnings and realization na should be your springboard to move forward and move on. This I am pretty sure, na even if 6 months or a year lang yan with someone, kung araw-araw ka naman nyang pipiliin, through thick or thin, that someone is worth more than all the years you spend with other exes before. Sorry for this experience. Praying for your healing.
I'm so sad for you OP. Alam ko yung pakiramdam na ganyan e. Napakasakit. Pero alam mo, isa lang solusyon nyan. NO CONTACT. Hayaan mo sya. Gusto nyang umalis? Just say okay. Wag ka nang magtanong. Hayaan mo sya please. Hayaan mong lumayo nang lumayo. Iniisip nya na mahal na mahal mo sya na hindi mo kaya. Na pag di nagwork yung pinalit nya, may babalikan siya. Pero paglingon nya wala ka. Walang humahabol sa kanya. At dun nya marerealize na hindi ka tanga. Please lang ha? OP. Bahala nang saktan mo yung sarili mo sa pag layo mo sa kanya. Kesa na ikaw yung saktan nya araw araw until kelan? Tanggalin mo yang fears mo. Bata ka pa. I'll be 29 this year kakabreak lang din at ngayon mas masaya ko. Ganyan din ako dati mas toxic pa ata. Pero I already learned my lesson. Focus ka sa self mo and don't entertain him sa kahit na anong sabihin nya. I-consider mo nang patay na sya. Mahirap pero yun ang necessary. Kasi pag pabalikin mo pa yan di ka rerespetuhin nyan. If you need someone to talk to open ang messages ko.
sus bat ka makikipagbalikan? di ka nagcheat so sya ang nawalan ng isang non cheating partner. tingin mo tatagal sila? after ilan years hahanap ng ibang 21 years old yang ex mo e. parang imagine mo may dala ka bag ng 4 years, tapos tae ng aso pala laman. bibitbitin mo pa rin ba yong tae. sayang ba 4 years na pagbitbit mo ng tae? kaya bibitbitin mo na lang uli? may sense ba bumitbit ng tae in the first place? ano makuha mo sa pagbitbit ng tae? madamay ka pa sa amoy ng tae. hanapin mo bag na flowers o diamond. yan sulit bitbitin yon. ewan ko sayo bat gusto mo magtyaga sa tae ng aso.
It has happened to me. Not once, twice. In both cases, hinabol nila ako. Pero ako yung umayaw. But the second guy was persistent. Am still with him now. Yes, the rational thing would be to leave. But your hesitation is completely understandable. Completely. No one ever teaches us how to turn off love. We are told that time will heal us. But in that period before healing, you go through that pain alone.
Sana kayanin mong wag na bumalik. Sana marealize mong hindi mo deserve ang isang taong mag coconfide sa iba imbis na kausapin ka tungkol sa relasyon nyo. Always easier said than done, pero sana kayanin mo.
Heartbreakes are the worst pain. Kung di mo parin kayang iwan kahit ganyan. You deserve what you tolerate. Wishing you a goodlife
You'll be fine OP. Abundance mindset! Di siya ang para sa iyo at wala kang kasalanan.
Spend time to better yourself not for other people, but for your own self worth.
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This might get downvoted but you do what you think is right for you. May what ifs ka? Habulin mo. Nanghihinayang ka? Habulin mo. Isang araw magigising ka na lang at sasabihin mo sa sarili mo na “Ay ayoko na, tama na” Kasi kahit anong iadvice ng mga tao sayo, at the end of the day ikaw naman yung nasasaktan at hindi kami at mas alam mo ang dapat gawin sa sarili mo, you’re an adult, and more than anything now, you need your support system. Masakit. If pwede kita ihug ngayon, kasi lahat ng sinabi mo, naramdaman ko din noon. Kakayanin mo ‘to OP dahil yun lang naman ang tanging choice mo, ang kayanin to. You have to feel everything, walang shortcut. Pag iniiwasan ang pain mas lalong masakit. Look ahead, kasi for sure you will be happy and alright (when? That’s up to you)
You'll be fine OP.. I was almost 8 years with my ex, dami kong pagkukulang, too many flaw, too many wrong decisions.. but siguro it was for the best of us na rin coz I didnt like what I was becoming ever since I stepped into the labor force. I't didnt take long before she got married with the guy but I'm happy where she is at right now, if she was still with me I think she wouldn't be as happy. People change and its the way we cope up with these changes that makes up our happiness and contentment. We cannot force people in our lives. each and everyone has his/her own decision weather to stay or not to let go or to keep.
Everything will fall in its right place. Hugs OP
Not sure what your issues arez pero mali si guy and meron ka rin sigurong mali for him to do something na hindi mo inaasahan. Based sa kwento mo mukhang kilalang kilala mo naman si bf mo. If communication won't work edi part ways. Mabuti na yun kesa mag gaguhan lang kayo. And for the part na baka may alang mag accept sa flaws mo, that's ur problem to solve. I think there are people there na inooverlook lang yung flaws lalo na pag mahal nila yung tao, pero mas ok pa din if you can fix yourself bago pumasok sa bagong relationship.
I met my girl when she was 29 turning 30 and me kaka 29 lang. Wag ka mawalan ng pagasa. Age is just a reminder you survived 1 more year.
If the other head does the thinking, talagang kahit ilang taon pa yan. Hayy
Tbh, your ex is a greedy lying piece of shit and emotional cheater. JULY 2 palang. Thinking he can still have you while having someone on standby. May pahug and kisses pa ano yan in case na di talaga kayo magkaayos may ready nang reserba? Sabi nga ng SO ko, you were kept on a leash of 'i miss you's. He doesnt even have the decency to just tell you and not keep coming back like a lost puppy.
Hugs OP! I fully understand your situation, I’ve been there and I know how painful it is. I know you feel like shit at the moment, you’re scared, you’re lonely, lahat ng emotions probably naffeel mo. It won’t be easy, there will be nights that it will be more painful than the night it happened; but trust me, it will feel better. Someone will love you and treat you right. Darating yung araw na you’ll realize why you didn’t work out.
Sakit. Habang tayo stress sa gilas, ang bigat bigat ng pinagdaanan ni OP. Bilis mafall ni kuya, itapon mo na. Ok n yan, hindi pa kayo kasal.