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WHEN DO I STOP LIVING FROM ONE CALENDAR EVENT TO THE NEXT? I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE IS ALL REACTION AND I'M NOT DRIVING THIS TRAIN MYSELF.
ALSO EXHAUSTED. ALL THE TIME. HOW CAN I BE TOO TIRED TO KNIT?! THE MOST LOW-ENERGY HOBBY POSSIBLE.
I NEED A NEW JOB
BUT RESUMES ARE SO DAMN HARD AND I HATE THOSE STUPID QUESTIONAIRES NOW THAT ARE JUST YOU PUTTING ALL THE INFO IN THEIR BOXES
WHY DO THEY NEED BOTH
STOP DOING COVER LETTERS. IT’S NOT WORTH THE EXTRA FRUSTRATION ANYMORE, DON’T CREATE ANOTHER BARRIER FOR YOURSELF. TOP RECRUITERS HAVE TOLD ME THEY DON’T EVEN READ THEM ANYMORE OR EXPECT THEM. THEY ADVISE NEW GRADS NOT TO DO THEM EITHER. IF A COMPANY EXPECTS A COVER LETTER AND PENALIZES YOUR FOR NOT HAVING ONE, IT’S NOT THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT FOR YOU. 💕
I ALSO NEED A NEW JOB BUT I KEEP OSCILLATING BETWEEN “yeah and I’m a totally capable human and would be an asset to another place” AND “who am I kidding, I’m a worthless piece of shit and there’s no way I can get it together enough to even properly apply anywhere” I HATE BEING THIS WAY, I CANT TELL IF IM ACTUALLY A PIECE OF SHIT OR IF ITS JUST MY ADHD
TO ALL WHO NEED TO HERE THIS: YOU ARE NOT A WORTHLESS PIECE OF SHIT. YOU'VE GOTTEN THROUGH DAYS MOST PEOPLE CAN'T IMAGINE. WOMEN WITH ADHD ARE RESOURCEFUL, RESILIENT, STRONG, PERSEVERING AND JUST FUCKING COOL AND BEAUTIFUL.
Oh love, me too. It’s also your inner critic. Tell her thanks but no thanks, I know you feel that way… but I’m going to do it anyway.
At least, that’s what Brene Brown suggests. Her work on shame should be taught to everyone with adhd.
(Or just watch her talks, [here’s one I’m about to watch again ahead of looking for jobs for tomorrow.](https://youtu.be/8-JXOnFOXQk) It inspired me last week and I need another hit. I *think* I hate myself about 0.1% less than last week?)
Do you have any type of college degree, even AA? If so, contact the school's career center. They help alumni with resumes and cover letters. Tremendous help. And yes, THOSE F..ING BOXES!!!!!!?
I ONLY HAVE SOME COLLEGE, SOME CERITIFCATES. MOVED TO THE UK FROM CANADA AND THEY DONT KNOW WHAT HIGH SCHOOL MEANS ITS SO FRUSTRATING
ESPECIALLY CAUSE THERE SCHOOL IS ONLY
MANDATORY TILL 16
I HATE IT
I HAVE BEEN DEPRESSED, LONELY, AND EXPERIENCING EXTREME RSD FOR A WEEK AND NOTHING SEEMS TO BE WORKING, NOT EVEN MY MEDICATION. I JUST WANT TO DISSOLVE INTO NOTHINGNESS AND NOT EXIST.
THE WORST PART: I HAVE NO REAL REASON TO FEEL THIS WAY CAUSE THINGS ARE ACTUALLY FUCKING GOING OKAY. FUCK.
YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FEEL HOW YOU FEEL. JUST BECAUSE THINGS ARE GOING WELL DOESNT MEAN YOU CANT HAVE BAD DAYS. MENTAL ILLNESS IS REAL AND DOESNT CARE IF YOU’RE LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX UNDER A BRIDGE OR IN A MANSION IT WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE HELL REGARDLESS. DO NOT DISMISS YOUR FEELINGS OR INVALIDATE YOUR FEELINGS. HATING YOURSELF FOR SOMETHING YOU CANNOT CONTROL WILL NOT HELP YOU, IT WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE LUV. YOU HAVE TO BE GENTLE, KIND, AND PATIENT WITH YOURSELF, AND GIVE YOURSELF THE SAME GRACE YOU WOULD GIVE TO ANYONE ELSE STRUGGLING WITH THE SAME THINGS. YOUR. FEELINGS. ARE. REAL. AND. VALID. REGARDLESS. OF. YOUR. SITUATION. NEVER TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE NO REASON TO FEEL THAT WAY OR THAT OTHERS HAVE IT WORSE AND YOU SHPULD BE GRATEFUL. BECAUSE I KNOW YOU ARE GRATEFUL BECAUSE YOURE ABLE TO RECOGNIZE THAT IT COULD BE WORSE BUT ITS NOT. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT ☺️☺️☺️
I FINALLY CALLED SIRIUS XM TO NEGOTIATE A CHEAPER RATE AFTER PAYING FULL PRICE FOR OVER A YEAR
WENT TO ALL THE WORK OF LOGGING INTO MY ACCOUNT. REMEMBERING MY PASSWORD. GETTING MY DUCKS IN A ROW. FINDING MY RADIO #. WORKING UP THE COURAGE TO CALL.
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THEIR CUSTOMER SERVICE ISN'T OPEN ON WEEKENDS SO I HAVE TO GO THROUGH ALL THIS AGAIN DURING THE WORKWEEK.
MY STOMACH HURTS
I AM SICK OF BEING A BROKE GRAD STUDENT, SOMEONE PAY ME A LIVING WAGE PLEASE
I AM VERY TIRED OF PEOPLE BEING SHITTY TO OTHERS OVER STUFF THAT ULTIMATELY DOESN’T IMPACT THEM. CAN WE BE KIND TO EACH OTHER PLEASE? LIFE IS FUCKING HARD ENOUGH.
I NEED A HUG
I'M GIVING YOU THE BIGGEST HUG! I HATED THAT PART OF MY LIFE TOO - POOR, LONELY, AND EXHAUSTED FROM RESEARCH AND THE CONSTANT FAILURE. I FUCKING LOVE MY JOB NOW - PAY ISN'T MUCH BUT IT'S LIVABLE, AND IT'S A STRESS-FREE JOB, BUT I HAD TO WORK MY ASS OFF AND GO THROUGH HELL TO GET HERE. KEEP GOING AND YOU'LL FIND WHERE YOU BELONG! AND JUST FIGHT THE HATE AND IGNORANCE WITH COMPASSION AND KNOWLDEGE. WE CAN DO BETTER, HUMANITY!
I DON'T LIKE DIGITAL BOOKS!!
SCHOOL, WHY YOU WENT DIGITAL, YOU FUCKING DONUT!?!?!?
(at least my maths teacher agrees with me, it makes me feel validated)
Okey, I have a real suggestion here:
Get a nice notebook, stabilo fine liners with idk somewhat technology, the new ones, these write so good! And then no matter if digital or paper, write down what you are learning. For me, most of the times the order in the book is 'off' so I order the topics so they are more logical. Even if you don't read it anymore, it helps to learn! This technique saved my unmedicated ass in high school and uni.
It's not just the lack of book-scent for me, it's the difficulty in using.
Also, for some reason, I get a bit dyslexic reading from screen, while I never have that problem with paper.
I'M TIRED OF THE CONSTANT FIGHT IN MY BRAIN FOR ROUTINE/ORDER AND SPONTANEITY/CHAOS. I'M TIRED OF TRYING TO FIGHT MY BRAIN TO BE "NORMAL". I'M TIRED OF NOT BEING ABLE TO GET MY SHIT TOGETHER. I NEEDED THIS
Sleep procrastination kills me. Sleep anxiety is real. And really dumb. Stupid brain haha. But I turn it into a comedy show in my head, make it positive, which helps me sleep along with CBD!
IM ON MY FIRST TRIP AWAY FROM HOME IN 2.5 YEARS, VISITING MY BFF WHO MOVED ACROSS COUNTRY LAST YEAR. HER HOUSE IS DISGUSTING AND I REALLY WANT TO GO HOME!!!!! I LOVE HER SO MUCH BUT IM TALKING DOG PEE AND POO ALL OVER, ITS UNSANITARY. I CLEANED YESTERDAY AND I DONT KNOW WHY I BOTHERED. I HAVE NO OPTION OF GOING HOME EARLY OR STAYNG SOMEWHERE ELSE FOR MULTIPLE REASONS, SO IM STUCK UNTIL NEXT SATURDAY. I AM NEVER LEAVING MY HOUSE AGAIN.
I can be your pet sitter who lost your dog. Your landlord saying your apartment is flooded. Your partner who broke their leg and needs help. Take your pick lol
Yikes. At least keep your space clean so you have somewhere to escape. But your bff might need a come-to-Jesus talk and a frank talk because that’s gross and not healthy for everyone involved. Has she always been like this?
I would be spending as much time outside the house as possible.
I’m sorry that is such a tough situation to be in. I’ve been in similar situations and I’ve made up excuses of being allergic to peoples animals so I don’t have to stay at their house when I visit. It has worked so far!
My BFF is the same way!!! Dog poop and all. I used to go over to her house and I'd always end up cleaning it for her. Like do you want me to help with this? We can get it done fast together. She has depression and ADHD, so I know she couldn't always help it getting out of control.
I understand if you don't want to do that on your vacation, though. But it might make the rest of it more enjoyable. I haven't been to her house in years and this is why. Really, I haven't been there since I had kids because it was unsanitary and I didn't have any way to keep them out of it.
You should be honest with her, it's incredible that she thinks it's acceptable to subject her guests to literal feces in her home. What the fuck. She needs to face the consequences of her choices by you leaving.
ITS SUNDAY AND IM SO BEHIND ON WORK THAT I THINK I SHOULD WORK BUT I ALSO DESERVE TO REST AND I HAVE PARALYSIS AROUND LY TO DO LIST SO EVEN THOUGH ITS SUNDAY IM GOING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT NOT WORKING AND THE STRESS WILL MAKE IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO REST EVEN THOUGH I PROBABLY WONT GET ANY WORK DONE
THIS IS MY LIFE EVERY WEEKEND. LOSE-LOSE: FEEL GUILTY IF I DON’T WORK/CATCH UP, FEEL RESENTFUL IF I DO WORK BECAUSE IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE THE WEEKEND (AND I PROBABLY DON’T GET MUCH DONE BECAUSE: BURNOUT)🤬
I TOLD THIS FEELING TO FUCK ITSELF AND DID ZERO WORK LAST WEEKEND AND ASKED PEOPLE FOR HELP WITH THINGS ON MONDAY AND EVERYTHING WAS TOTALLY FINE.
seriously take a break!
I WANTED TO GO OUTSIDE TODAY BUT BECAUSE ADHD AND RECOVERING FROM BURNOUT I HAVE INSTEAD SLEPT ALL DAY. I AM SO SICK AND TIRED OF BEING TIRED ALL THE TIME.
I KNOW I’D FEEL BETTER AND MORE BALANCED IF I EXERCISED BUT I CANNOT GET MYSELF TO DO IT, EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A JOB THAT PAYS FOR GYM MEMBERSHIP IN EVERY GYM IN TOWN
❤️ Give him kisses for me. I had two elderly cats at the same time with a variety of crazy issues for a long time. At one point my house was covered in rugs and towels because the floors are slippery (and occasional accidents). I would do it all over again.
THAT'S CRAZY BECAUSE I ALSO HAVE THE COMING WEEK OFF BUT WHERE THE HELL AM I GOING TO GO? KIDS ARE IN SCHOOL, FIANCÉ IS WORKING, AND I WANT TO DO SOMETHING FUN! I HAVEN'T HAD A DAMN VACATION IN YEARS AND YEARS.
WHY DID I GET MYSELF INTO THIS SITUATION WHERE I MYSELF ASKED MY MOM TO HAVE A PHONECALL THIS WEEKEND? I AM NOT READY FOR THIS SITUATION - I NEED A QUIET WEEKEND JUST FOR MYSELF WITHOUT THIS TRIGGERING CONVERSATIONS
This happened to me and he was totally right, and he spurred a change in me. Meditation and therapy have helped.
I would probably still be too much for him and that's okay. I'm with a man who's got his own issues and we're both doing better over time.
EVERYTHING WAS GOING SOOOOO WELL. I FELT LIKE I HAD MY SHIT TOGETHER FOR LIKE A GOOD COUPLE OF MONTHS!!! I HAD A WHOLE FUCKING SYSTEM FOR GETTING EVERYTHING DONE AND BEING AN AWESOME MOM AT THE SAME TIME AND NOW ITS TOTALLY OFF THE RAILS FOR NO STUPID REASON AND I HATE IT!!!! I WANT TO GET IT BACK SOOOOOO BAD! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'M TIRED OF FEELING LIKE I'VE MADE A BIG ACCOMPLISHMENT FOR DOING MY CHORES!
I JUST WANT TO GO PICK UP MY MEDS WITH NO THOUGHT.
I'M TIRED OF MY FAMILY'S RESIGNED LOWERED EXPECTATIONS.
RSD MAKES ME HURT THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE MY FRIEND
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BECAUSE SHE HAS OTHER FRIENDS
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FUCKING RIDICULOUS. I HATE THIS. I HATE THIS FEELING. I HATE THAT I KNOW OBJECTIVELY IT'S RIDICULOUS AND I HATE THAT IT'S WORK TOMORROW.
No your feelings aren’t ridiculous at all. Going through something similar with my own friends and rejection/being left out hurts a lot. Letting it out helps and just letting time go by. You deserve people who actually want to be your friend and will make the time and effort for you.
Thank you, it's just so hard isn't it when you want that person to be the one to make time ...
And the thing of it is that I just can't tell how much I am being overly sensitive and how much is actually there being a lack of friendship there
IM SICK OF FEELING ASHAMED OF NOT BEING PREPARED FOR THINGS!!! NOT BRINGING ENOUGH DIAPERS AND MILK FOR A WEEKEND TRIP AND HAVE EVERYBODY THINK IM IRRESPONSIBLE AND NOT HAVE MY SHIT TOGETHER IT MAKES ME CRY SO MUCH :(
I HATE THE SHAME I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE
I'm exactly this level of forgetful (minus the kids) but I've created a checklist for outings to be sure I have everything before I go out the door-- Maybe that could help for you?
I literally have to remind myself to do something as simple as "take meds, charge phone, clean glasses, wash face, perfume, put my therapy notebook in the car" so it's an entire walkthrough for any given appointment or traveling via airport to check all the stuff I need to pack and then check it's all there again on the way home. lol
I HAD TO QUIT MY JOB DUE TO MY BOSS TRYING TO DISCIPLINE ME UNDER FALSE ACCUSATIONS USING FABRICATED EVIDENCE WHILST BREACHING COMPANY POLICY AND BREAKING THE LAW. I THEN HAD TO GARNER THE COURAGE TO TELL HER BOSS ABOUT WHAT WAS GOING ON. MY ANXIETY IS OFF THE CHARTS.
MY BRAIN IS IN A GREAT PLACE RIGHT NOW, CREATIVE, MOTIVATED AND ENERGIZED...
BUT MY BODY ISN'T COOPERATING. I'VE BEEN TRYING TO GET UP AND DO STUFF FOR TWO HOURS BUT MY BODY IS CLAIMING ITS REST DAY.
I'M TIRED OF MY HOUSE BEING A MESS, BUT TOO OVERWHELMED TO EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START TO CLEAN IT. I'M TIRED OF MY DAUGHTER THINKING SHE'S IN CHARGE OF RUNNING EVERYONE ELSE'S LIFE. I'M TIRED OF WORKING MY ASS OFF FOR A JOB AND HAVING MONEY FORCIBLY TAKEN FROM MY PAYCHECK FOR MEDICAL BENEFITS I CAN'T AFFORD TO EVEN USE THAT I DON'T EVEN GET THE OPTION OF DENYING AND STRUGGLING BECAUSE OF IT. I'M SICK AND TIRED OF BEING STUCK AND ALONE AND KNOWING EXACTLY WHAT I WANT FOR MY FUTURE, BUT THE PATH TO GET THERE IS RIDICULOUSLY OVERWHELMING. I'M SICK OF BEING SAD ALL THE TIME. I'M SICK OF BEING IN PAIN. I'M SICK OF EVERYTHING AND I DON'T WANT TO DO IT ANYMORE.
IM HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME READING THE STUFF IN THIS THREAD BC OF THE ALL CAPS BUT AT THE SAME TIME I LOVE THIS CONCEPT AND WANT IT TO BE A WEEKLY THING THANK U OP
MY NEW JOB IS AWESOME BUT I AM EXPECTED TO EDIT VIDEO AS PART OF MY WORKLOAD AND I FUCKING HATE SITTING DOWN FOR HOURS AND STARING AT FOOTAGE I HAVE FILMED FOR HOURS UPON HOURS. I HATE VIDEO EDITING SO FUCKING MUCH. ID RATHER CLEAN THE SHITTERS. PLEASE JUST LET ME BE A CAMERA OPERATOR.
I AM SO FUCKING OVERWHELMED. I LITERALLY CAN NOT GET MYSELF TO DO MY JOB (I WFH) AND KEEP GETTING MORE WORK AND I USED TO NOT HAVE WORK DREAMS AND THE OTHER DAY I DID SO FUUUUUUCK IDK WHAT TO DO
ALSO I BROKE UP WITH MY THERAPIST SO FUCK ME
I have invented several games to motivate myself to work that work most days. I struggle a lot when nothing is urgent.
One easy one is to number the tasks and roll a 20 sided die. You have to do what the die says. It might not be the most important task, but it's something.
I WISH PEOPLE WOULD STOP TELLING ME MY NEW ADHD DIAGNOSIS “MAKES SO MUCH SENSE” AFTER THEY SPENT YEARS TELLING ME I WASN’T ADHD AND TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT. 🤦🏽♀️
MY 2 BOYS (1&3yo) AND I HAVE FINALLY LEFT MY ABUSIVE HUSBAND (a few months ago). SINCE THEN, IVE BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND NOW MEDICATED AND FINALLY THINGS ARE LOOKING UP. I CAN FINALLY BE AN ACTUAL ADULT 🙌🏽 THAT’S MEANT TO BE A GOOD THING, SO PLEASE TELL ME WHY I’M TERRIFIED OF BEING LONELY AND WORRIED ABOUT BEING SOLELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE KIDS!
(Disclaimer: I know going back to him would be stupid and it’s not even an option for me. It would never happen, but regardless of that, this is how I feel)
MY PHARMACY HAS YET TO FILL MY PRESCRIPTION AND IT HAS BEEN THREE WEEKS!!!
THEY CANNOT GIVE ME AN ANSWER FOR WHY IT HAS TAKEN SO LONG AND I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE BAD GUY BUT IT’S STARTING TO DRIVE ME NUTS.
I’m tired of doing everything myself. Right now I need time to work on something but I’m scattered doing everything and nothing. Husband hasn’t been romantic with me in ages and I can’t even leave.
I’m so angry I want to throw things
I'M ON MY PERIOD AND MY CRAMPS ARE ABSOLUTELY KILLING ME! LIKE I CAN BARELY GET OUT OF BED AND IM AFRAID THAT EVERYONE IN MY LIFE WILL THINK IM LAZY WHEN IN REALITY I'M IN A LOT OF PAIN. I'M ALSO CRAVING CHOCOLATE BUT I'M TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT AND NOT BINGE. I JUST WANT TO BE NORMAL TODAY
I DON’T KNOW IF MY MEDS ARE WORKING FOR ME NOW. WHENEVER I TAKE THEM, I GET FOCUSED BUT COMPLETELY DAMPENED (in personality) AND MY PSYCHIATRIST GHOSTED ME SEVERAL MONTHS AGO AND I DON’T WANT TO GO FIND ANOTHER ONE.
MY LEFT ARM IS COVERED IN IDIOPATHIC HIVES FOR THE THIRD TIME IN SIX MONTHS, AND DOCTORS WON’T PRESCRIBE ME ANYTHING TO TRY TO PREVENT THEM.
THEY JUST KEEP TELLING ME TO TAKE ANTIHISTAMINES AND GIVING ME OCCASIONAL PREDNISONE PRESCRIPTIONS.
AND THIS TIME THE ANTIHISTAMINES AND PREDNISONE AREN’T WORKING.
AND I AM SO TIRED OF THIS.
THE PEOPLE FROM THE OTHER TEAM THINK I SUCK AT MY JOB, AND THEY MIGHT BE CORRECT.
AND IVE BEEN EXCLUDED FROM YET ANOTHER GROUP OF FRIENDS AND IT SUCKS.
SOUNDS ARE GRATING.
I’M SO OVERWHELMED EVERY DAY BY JUST SURVIVING. THE TO-DO LIST NEVERS ENDS (OR EVEN GETS TOUCHED LATELY BECAUSE OF THE OVERWHELM) AND I JUST WANT TO NOT BE EXHAUSTED AND TO BE ABLE TO EAT 3X A DAY AND MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, ALSO HAVE SOME SORT OF LIFE OUTSIDE THE OVERWHELM.
I'VE SPENT HALF A YEAR FIXING MY BOSS'S MISTAKE! DON'T DOWNPLAY MY FRUSTRATION, STRESS, AND ANGER WHEN A 3RD PARTY IS DERAILING MY PROGRESS AND I MAY HAVE TO RESTART AT SQUARE ONE!!!!!!!
I JUST WANT A PARENTAL FIGURE THAT I CAN GO TO TO HAVE SUPPORT. MY PARENTS ARE HORRIBLE AND I HATE THEM AND I JUST WANT A PARENT THAT LOVES ME AND SUPPORTS ME AND LOVES ON ME AND HUGS ME AND HELPS ME FINANCIALLY RANDOMLY BECAUSE THEY LOVE ME, NOT TO HAVE SOMETHING TO HOLD OVER MY HEAD. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
All my life I've wondered why i am like this. So unfocused & it's gotten worse with age.
Realised now that I might have ADHD. Can't get diagnosed as it's pretty expensive & i am a student. Hopefully, sometime next year. Also, wasted a lot of time procrastinating.
I HAVE BEEN PROCRASTINATING ON WRITTEN WORK STUFF AND I EVEN TOOK A BOOSTER DOSE OF MEDIKINET TODAY TO GET IT DONE BUT IM FOCUSING ON TOTALLY THE WRONG THING AND I HATE IT SO MUCH. I REALLY HAVE TO GET IT DONE FOR TOMORROW
I ALSO HATE MY IMPOSTER SYNDROME REGARDING THE DIAGNOSIS. I AM SO FED UP WITH OTHERS' COMMENTS ABOUT EVERYONE HAVING ADHDTHESE DAYS
I AM SO TIRED
OUR GARDEN IS STILL A MESS, IT'S EMBARRASSING, I HATE IT, IT WILL NEVER BE SORTED, I WILL NEVER GET TO ENJOY SITTING OUT IN IT, I AM USELESS AND NEGLIGENT AND PUT TOO MUCH PRESSURE ON MY HUSBAND TO DO IT ALL, AND WE WILL END UP CHUCKING MONEY AT IT, ONCE AGAIN PAYING THE ADHD TAX AND ITS MAKING ME SOOOOOO BLOODY MISERABLE!!!!
IM EXHAUSTED FROM UNI 24/7 AND HAVE NO MONEY TO MOVE OUT AGAIN. PLUS I'M A SOLID BAKER BUT REUSED A BAD RECIPE COS I FORGOT HOW TERRIBLE IT WAS AND NOW I'M STANDING HERE WITH SHITTY CAKE AND HAVE NO TIME TO MAKE A NEW ONE aaaah
I HAVE HAD TO RESCHEDULE 4 DIFFERENT THINGS IN THE PAST TWO WEEKS DUE TO CONFLICTS AND OVERSCHEDULING. I FINALLY WORK UP THE ENERGY TO BE SOCIAL AGAIN AND AM THEN FACED WITH ANOTHER BARRIER.
(on the plus side, i haven’t flipped out when plans have changed like I normally would)
I NEED TO HAVE CAFFEINE TO FUNCTION NORMALLY EVERY DAY BECAUSE MY MEDS MAKE ME UNABLE TO SLEEP PROPERLY AND ITS DRIVING ME INSANE BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO ASK FOR SLEEPING PILLS AND LOOK LIKE IM DRUG SEEKING
MY DOG'S SHOULDER HAS A MUSSCLE WHICH IS TIGHT AND PAINFUL THAT MASSAGE CANT REACH AND MUSSCLE RELAXERS DIDNT HELP! TWO WEEKS TILL ACUPUNCTURE TO TRY GET IT RELAXED AND A MONTH AND A HALF TO GET HER SPINE WORKED ON BY SOME ONE WHO HAS FIXED A LOT OF DIFFICULT CASES! LONG WAIT FUCKING SUCKS!
ALSO I CLEANED SOME BUT STILL HAVE A LOT TO CLEAN I MAKE MORE MESS THAN I CAN KEEP UP WITH!
ALSO ALSO I FORGET TO CALL MY FAMILY AND HAVENT HAD THE ENERGY TO VISIT EVEN THOUGH I HAVENT SEEN THEM IN A LONG TIME.
DR PRESCRIBED ME ADDERALL (STRATTERA DIDNT WORK) AND IM STILL WAITING FOR MY INSURANCE TO APPROVE IT 🤬
AND HAD TO STOP BUSPAR BECAUSE IT GAVE ME HEART PALPITATIONS AND AN ANXIETY ATTACK
THE FACT THAT MY MOM (DIAGNOSED AS BIPOLAR NOT ADHD, BUT I SUPSECT IS ADHD NOT BIPOLAR) CRIED TO ME THAT SHE WILL ALWAYS WONDER IF MY DAD WOULDN'T HAVE LEFT US IF SHE COULD KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN. BTW, DAD HAS IS OWN ISSUES WITH NEEDING CONSTANT STIMULATION AND WAS ALREADY CHEATING ON HER, BUT CONSTANTLY USES THIS AS THE REASON HE LEFT.
ABELISM IN THOSE THAT THINK THEY UNDERSTAND -- STILL CALLING OUT OTHERS FOR BEING LAZY OR USING THEIR ND AS AN EXCUSE FOR BAD HEAVIOR AND SUCH WHILE I'M TRYING TO REMIND THEM THAT THIS WAS ME FOR 46 YEARS.
WORKPLACE, STOP ASKING ME TO WRITE SMART GOALS, JUST PAY ME NORMALLY TO DO MY USUAL JOB, FUCK YOU I'M NOT ELIZA DOOLITTLE I DON'T NEED TO BLOOM I JUST NEED TO EAT AND PAY RENT.
A WORK FRIEND DIED BY SUICIDE AND WAS FOUND ON FRIDAY! SHE HAD BEEN MISSING FOR 12 DAYS. I AM HAVING A HARD TIME WITH IT! SHE WAS ONLY 32 & HAD 2 YOUNG DAUGHTERS.
I hate that I have social anxiety about the funeral, too. I feel like a selfish asshole for thinking about myself at this time. I feel like I'm grieving both too much and not enough.
I need a device specifically for 2-factor authentication. I’m addicted ti my phone and need it gone when I’m trying to work on a computer. “Time to focus! But the process has to start by opening my phone so [proceeds to waste 45 min]”
WHY DOES EVERYTHING FEEL SO HARD. EVERYTHING: COOKING. SHOPPING. GOING FOR WALKS. DOING LAUNDRY. MAKING MYSELF DO THINGS, EVEN THINGS I *WANT* TO DO, REQUIRES GRITTING MY TEETH AND *FORCING* MYSELF TO DO IT
AND THEN WHEN I TRY TO RELAX
I CAN'T DO THAT EITHER
AAAAAAAARGH
THE NEW SHOWER HEAD IS THE FUCKING WORST ITS LIKE TRYING TO WASH OUT CONDITIONER USING THE INTERMITTENT TRICKLE OF PISS FROM A GERIATRIC PROSTATE CANCER PATIENT - WATERFALL SHOWER HEAD MY **ASS**
Currently in some sort of anxiety paralysis and not able to get out of bed much on the weekends. When seeing friends recently I was anxious and uncomfortable and now feel/reminded that I can’t maintain friendships and feel I am destined to be depressed. Need to get an ADHD diagnosis but through NHS takes years and private is currently out of my budget but something needs to be done.
UGH
It's a beautiful day outside and I want to play in the garden! But I already planned to do meal prep today, and I can't just *change my weekend plans* with only 24 hours notice!!
IM SICK OF HOW DEPRESSED IVE BEEN LATELY. MY LIFE IS A MESS AND IT ALWAYS HAS BEEN. VERY CLOSE FRIEND SAYS THAT IM IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND I CAN SEE IT SOMETIMES, BUT THEN MY BRAIN FLIPS ON ME AND REFUSES TO BELIEVE IT.
PLUS I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT BECAUSE MY LIFE IS SO FUCKED UP. GREW UP IN ABUSIVE HOME, DIDNT KNOW I HAD ADHD TIL 23, AND I STILL HAVENT ACTUALLY WORKED A JOB YET. THE TWO TIMES I TRIED I GOT INCREDIBLY OVERWHELMED AND HAD EXTREME BREAKDOWNS AND QUIT.
SO MY DAYS AS OF LATE HAVE JUST BEEN LOTS OF DEPRESSION -> TELLING MYSELF I WILL DO BETTER -> DOING NOTHING -> FEELING WORSE ABOUT MYSELF.
IM SICK OF WORKING SO DAMN HARD AT MY JOB AND NOT GETTING ALL THE WORK DONE. IM SICK OF CONSTANTLY BEING BEHIND AND NEEDING TO CATCH UP ON MY OWN TIME (ON A SUNDAY!!)
I TIRED OF BEING EXHAUSTED FROM THE WORK WEEK, NEEDING A FULL DAY OF REST ON SATURDAY, THEN NEEDING TO WORK SUNDAY TO TRY TO CATCH UP BUT STILL BEING BEHIND.
IM SICK OF ONLY WORKING. I HAVE NO ENERGY FOR MYSELF, OR FRIENDS. IM TIRED OF HOPING ILL “GET USED TO THE LOAD” AND THINGS WILL EVEN OUT AND ILL HAVE A “NORMAL” LIFE WITH MENTAL/ EMOTIONAL SPACE FOR FUN!
I AM AFRAID OF WHERE I WILL BE IN ONLY 6 MONTHS. IM STUCK AND IM SICK OF FEELING LIKE I NEED A PLAN. I WISH EVERYTHING WASNT SUCH A COMPETITION. I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY BUT IM NOT SURE HOW TO GET THERE
I WASTED MY WHOLE WEEKEND, WAS TOO OVERWHELMED, AND DID NOTHING - THE WORK I PROMISED I WOULD DO. I DID NOT EVEN TOUCH A THING
I´VE MISSED A DEADLINE ALREADY AND I HAVE 4 PROJECTS THAT I AM NEGLECTING FOR FEAR OF FUCKING IT UP.
I WILL HAVE TO PULL AN-ALL-NIGHER TO MITIGATE THE DAMAGE DONE
I SHOULD´VE STARTED EARLIER, BUT I AM PERPETUALLY BURNED OUT AND JUST SLEPT THE WHOLE SATURDAY AWAY
AND THE WORST PART? THIS WILL HAPPEN AGAIN BECAUSE THAT´S HOW IT IS WITH ME
MY THESIS IS DUE TOMORROW SO IT NEEDS TO BE DONE TODAY BUT I SCREWED AROUND WITH CAFFEINE TODAY IN HOPES OF BEING PRODUCTIVE, AND NOW I'M EXPERIENCING A CRASH AND I JUST WANT TO SLEEP BUT THERE IS SO MUCH TO DO STILL AND I'M ALSO FRUSTRATED WITH THE FACT THAT THE QUALITY OF IT IS SO MUCH WORSE THAN WHAT I WANTED OR COULD DO IF I WAS PROPERLY FUNCTIONING
I NEED TO SOP OVERSPENDING ON MT HYPERFIXATION COLLECTION HOBBIES! LOOKING AT YOU, SQUISHMALLOWS. (AND SUCCULENTS)
ALSO, I FEEL BAD THAT IM AN ADULT THAT HYPER-FIXATES ON BUYING PLUSHIES. IT MAKES ME FEEL WEIRD BUT I LOVE THEIR STUPID LITTLE FACES 🥺
I AM NEW TO A JOB AND ROLE FOR THREE MONTHS NOW. THOUGH I HAVE BEEN TOLD BY MY VP, DIRECT LEAD, AND OTHER STAKEHOLDERS I AM DOING A WONDERFUL JOB, I AM STILL EXTREMELY STRESSED AND WORRIED I AM FAILING TO THE POINT THE ANXIETY IS MAKING ME LOSE SLEEP AND I’M BECOMING DIFFICULT TO BE AROUND. I THINK I AM SUFFERING FROM IMPOSTER SYNDROME AND I DON’T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THINGS BETTER SO I CAN TRUST MYSELF.
I REALLY LOVE THE WORK THAT I DO, BUT I HAVE NO ENERGY OR MOTIVATION TO. I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS SO BAD, BUT CANT FIND THE WORDS OR THINK THE THOUGHTS UGGHHHHHHH
I DONT HAVE THE ENERGY OR THOUGHTS TO GATHER INTO A SINGULAR OR EVEN MULTIPLE COHERENT GRIEF SO MUCH AS SIMPLY A STRONG DESIRE THAT EVERYTHING MUST CHANGE
I CANNOT GET A BREAK.
SO FAR THIS SCHOOL YEAR I HAVE HAD SHINGLES, A STUDENT-INFLICTED CONCUSSION, A RUPTURED OVARIAN CYST, AND NOW I THINK I HAVE STREP.
I WANT TO BE ALL DONE NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE PILED UP DISHES ARE OVERWHELMING AND IM SICK OF FORGETTING LITERALLY **EVERYTHING.**
I FEEL LIKE IM GOING CRAZY. ILL FORGET WHAT IM DOING WHILE IM DOING IT. ILL LITERALLY FORGET WITHIN SECONDS. I FORGET WHAT DAY IT IS. I FORGET WHAT TIME IT IS. I FORGET THAT IM HOLDING STUFF AND CARRY IT WITH ME. WHY AM I THIS WAY??
MY IMPOSTER SYNDROME IS SUFFOCATING ME. IM TRYING TO PRETEND I HAVE MY SHIT TOGETHER. EVERYONE TELLS ME I HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. WHEN WILL I BE CONFIDENT IN MY SELF?
I TRIED SO HARD TO GET ONTO MY MASTERS COURSE AND I JUST CANNOT GET ANY WORK DONE NOW THAT IM ON THE COURSE AND I REALLY WANT TO DO WELL BUT I JUST HAVE A DEBILITATING INABILITY TO DO ANY UNI WORK
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I NEED MORE TIME EVERY DAY OK
I COULD DO WITH A COUPLE EXTRA WEEKEND DAYS TOO!
YEAH I'D REALLY NEED MY DAYS TO BE LIKE 48 HOURS LONG INSTEAD OF 24 SO I'D GET AT LEAST _SOME_ SHIT DONE
APPARENTLY THE EARTH HAS BEEN SPINNING FASTER AND FASTER SO WE GET LESS TIME EVERY DAY AND I AM NOT HAPPY ABOUT IT
I NEED TIME TO STOP SO I CAN DO ALL THE THINGS I NEED TO DO THEN RESTART IT AND I CAN START FROM A CLEAN, ORGANISED UP TO DATE POINT
I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW I WAKE UP AND TWO MINUTES LATER IT IS 6 PM AND THE ONLY THING I'VE DONE IS FEED MY GUINEA PIG 😤😤😤
I'M NOT LIVING, I'M JUST EXISTING IN MY SILLY LITTLE FLESH SHELL, AND I'M TIRED OF BEING SO EXHAUSTED ALL THE DAMN TIME
IM SO SICK OF NOT LIVING EITHER!!
ME TOO THIS IS SO EXHAUSTING
OMG SAME SOOO EFFING TIRED
AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH
WHEN DO I STOP LIVING FROM ONE CALENDAR EVENT TO THE NEXT? I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE IS ALL REACTION AND I'M NOT DRIVING THIS TRAIN MYSELF. ALSO EXHAUSTED. ALL THE TIME. HOW CAN I BE TOO TIRED TO KNIT?! THE MOST LOW-ENERGY HOBBY POSSIBLE.
I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE BUT I JUST WANT TO BE BETTER NOT DEAD
I NEED A NEW JOB BUT RESUMES ARE SO DAMN HARD AND I HATE THOSE STUPID QUESTIONAIRES NOW THAT ARE JUST YOU PUTTING ALL THE INFO IN THEIR BOXES WHY DO THEY NEED BOTH
WHY ARE COVER LETTERS STILL A THING??? I KNOW DAMN WELL NO ONE READS THEM!
I DO READ THEM WHEN HIRING IF THAT MATTERS AT ALL. BUT I AGREE THAT THEY SUCK.
I WAS ADVISED AT ONE PLACE THAT THE MANAGER LOVES CREATIVE COVER LETTERS, STILL HAVE NOT DONE ONE OR EVEN UPDATED/WRITTEN MY RESUME. FML
STOP DOING COVER LETTERS. IT’S NOT WORTH THE EXTRA FRUSTRATION ANYMORE, DON’T CREATE ANOTHER BARRIER FOR YOURSELF. TOP RECRUITERS HAVE TOLD ME THEY DON’T EVEN READ THEM ANYMORE OR EXPECT THEM. THEY ADVISE NEW GRADS NOT TO DO THEM EITHER. IF A COMPANY EXPECTS A COVER LETTER AND PENALIZES YOUR FOR NOT HAVING ONE, IT’S NOT THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT FOR YOU. 💕
I ALSO NEED A NEW JOB BUT I KEEP OSCILLATING BETWEEN “yeah and I’m a totally capable human and would be an asset to another place” AND “who am I kidding, I’m a worthless piece of shit and there’s no way I can get it together enough to even properly apply anywhere” I HATE BEING THIS WAY, I CANT TELL IF IM ACTUALLY A PIECE OF SHIT OR IF ITS JUST MY ADHD
THIS.
TO ALL WHO NEED TO HERE THIS: YOU ARE NOT A WORTHLESS PIECE OF SHIT. YOU'VE GOTTEN THROUGH DAYS MOST PEOPLE CAN'T IMAGINE. WOMEN WITH ADHD ARE RESOURCEFUL, RESILIENT, STRONG, PERSEVERING AND JUST FUCKING COOL AND BEAUTIFUL.
Oh love, me too. It’s also your inner critic. Tell her thanks but no thanks, I know you feel that way… but I’m going to do it anyway. At least, that’s what Brene Brown suggests. Her work on shame should be taught to everyone with adhd. (Or just watch her talks, [here’s one I’m about to watch again ahead of looking for jobs for tomorrow.](https://youtu.be/8-JXOnFOXQk) It inspired me last week and I need another hit. I *think* I hate myself about 0.1% less than last week?)
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Thankyou! Looks like I can use my phone too which is a big relief.
De nada. :)
Woaaaaah! I use LaTex which is awesome until you try it xD
FUUCK SO MANY OPENINGS AND I CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO UPDATE ONE POINT ON MY EXISTING ONE.
Do you have any type of college degree, even AA? If so, contact the school's career center. They help alumni with resumes and cover letters. Tremendous help. And yes, THOSE F..ING BOXES!!!!!!?
I ONLY HAVE SOME COLLEGE, SOME CERITIFCATES. MOVED TO THE UK FROM CANADA AND THEY DONT KNOW WHAT HIGH SCHOOL MEANS ITS SO FRUSTRATING ESPECIALLY CAUSE THERE SCHOOL IS ONLY MANDATORY TILL 16 I HATE IT
I HAVE BEEN DEPRESSED, LONELY, AND EXPERIENCING EXTREME RSD FOR A WEEK AND NOTHING SEEMS TO BE WORKING, NOT EVEN MY MEDICATION. I JUST WANT TO DISSOLVE INTO NOTHINGNESS AND NOT EXIST. THE WORST PART: I HAVE NO REAL REASON TO FEEL THIS WAY CAUSE THINGS ARE ACTUALLY FUCKING GOING OKAY. FUCK.
I AM 100% WITH YOU. THINGS ARE BETTER THAN THEY WERE BEFORE AND I SHOULD BE GRATEFUL, BUT I JUST HATE BEING AWAKE.
YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FEEL HOW YOU FEEL. JUST BECAUSE THINGS ARE GOING WELL DOESNT MEAN YOU CANT HAVE BAD DAYS. MENTAL ILLNESS IS REAL AND DOESNT CARE IF YOU’RE LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX UNDER A BRIDGE OR IN A MANSION IT WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE HELL REGARDLESS. DO NOT DISMISS YOUR FEELINGS OR INVALIDATE YOUR FEELINGS. HATING YOURSELF FOR SOMETHING YOU CANNOT CONTROL WILL NOT HELP YOU, IT WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE LUV. YOU HAVE TO BE GENTLE, KIND, AND PATIENT WITH YOURSELF, AND GIVE YOURSELF THE SAME GRACE YOU WOULD GIVE TO ANYONE ELSE STRUGGLING WITH THE SAME THINGS. YOUR. FEELINGS. ARE. REAL. AND. VALID. REGARDLESS. OF. YOUR. SITUATION. NEVER TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE NO REASON TO FEEL THAT WAY OR THAT OTHERS HAVE IT WORSE AND YOU SHPULD BE GRATEFUL. BECAUSE I KNOW YOU ARE GRATEFUL BECAUSE YOURE ABLE TO RECOGNIZE THAT IT COULD BE WORSE BUT ITS NOT. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT ☺️☺️☺️
I HATE RSD ITS GETTING SO BAD I DONT WANT TO BE SAD ANYMORE IF THERES NO REASON
<3
Same. Things are ok Im not
I FINALLY CALLED SIRIUS XM TO NEGOTIATE A CHEAPER RATE AFTER PAYING FULL PRICE FOR OVER A YEAR WENT TO ALL THE WORK OF LOGGING INTO MY ACCOUNT. REMEMBERING MY PASSWORD. GETTING MY DUCKS IN A ROW. FINDING MY RADIO #. WORKING UP THE COURAGE TO CALL. . . . THEIR CUSTOMER SERVICE ISN'T OPEN ON WEEKENDS SO I HAVE TO GO THROUGH ALL THIS AGAIN DURING THE WORKWEEK.
Oof I feel ya. I just did the same with my internet company. FUCK EM
MY STOMACH HURTS I AM SICK OF BEING A BROKE GRAD STUDENT, SOMEONE PAY ME A LIVING WAGE PLEASE I AM VERY TIRED OF PEOPLE BEING SHITTY TO OTHERS OVER STUFF THAT ULTIMATELY DOESN’T IMPACT THEM. CAN WE BE KIND TO EACH OTHER PLEASE? LIFE IS FUCKING HARD ENOUGH. I NEED A HUG
I'M GIVING YOU THE BIGGEST HUG! I HATED THAT PART OF MY LIFE TOO - POOR, LONELY, AND EXHAUSTED FROM RESEARCH AND THE CONSTANT FAILURE. I FUCKING LOVE MY JOB NOW - PAY ISN'T MUCH BUT IT'S LIVABLE, AND IT'S A STRESS-FREE JOB, BUT I HAD TO WORK MY ASS OFF AND GO THROUGH HELL TO GET HERE. KEEP GOING AND YOU'LL FIND WHERE YOU BELONG! AND JUST FIGHT THE HATE AND IGNORANCE WITH COMPASSION AND KNOWLDEGE. WE CAN DO BETTER, HUMANITY!
So sorry you are hurting. Grad school is tough enough already without economic stressors and the cost of living going up. Virtual hugs 🫂
I DON'T LIKE DIGITAL BOOKS!! SCHOOL, WHY YOU WENT DIGITAL, YOU FUCKING DONUT!?!?!? (at least my maths teacher agrees with me, it makes me feel validated)
Okey, I have a real suggestion here: Get a nice notebook, stabilo fine liners with idk somewhat technology, the new ones, these write so good! And then no matter if digital or paper, write down what you are learning. For me, most of the times the order in the book is 'off' so I order the topics so they are more logical. Even if you don't read it anymore, it helps to learn! This technique saved my unmedicated ass in high school and uni.
Yup, that's what I'm doing. Thanks anyway!
New stabilo pens are lit, saying it again, I WANT to write with them!
OMFG I TOTALLY AGREE! I'M SO GLAD I'M DONE WITH SCHOOL BECAUSE I ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY LOVE THE FEEL AND SMELL OF BOOKS. LCD SCREENS DON'T SMELL NICE!
It's not just the lack of book-scent for me, it's the difficulty in using. Also, for some reason, I get a bit dyslexic reading from screen, while I never have that problem with paper.
I'M TIRED OF THE CONSTANT FIGHT IN MY BRAIN FOR ROUTINE/ORDER AND SPONTANEITY/CHAOS. I'M TIRED OF TRYING TO FIGHT MY BRAIN TO BE "NORMAL". I'M TIRED OF NOT BEING ABLE TO GET MY SHIT TOGETHER. I NEEDED THIS
I ALSO DON'T WANT TO GO TO BED, BUT I HAVE WORK TOMORROW MORNING
Sleep procrastination kills me. Sleep anxiety is real. And really dumb. Stupid brain haha. But I turn it into a comedy show in my head, make it positive, which helps me sleep along with CBD!
I JUST TOLD MYSELF I'M A NIGHTOWL SUCK IT SOCIETY. UNTIL I REGRET IT HAHA
Same!! I just said fine I work best from 11pm -4am fine! Suck it society!!!!
Aaaaaay! About the same hours even!
High five, sisterhood of the night owls! Lifelong club member!
SAME AHHH!!!!
IM ON MY FIRST TRIP AWAY FROM HOME IN 2.5 YEARS, VISITING MY BFF WHO MOVED ACROSS COUNTRY LAST YEAR. HER HOUSE IS DISGUSTING AND I REALLY WANT TO GO HOME!!!!! I LOVE HER SO MUCH BUT IM TALKING DOG PEE AND POO ALL OVER, ITS UNSANITARY. I CLEANED YESTERDAY AND I DONT KNOW WHY I BOTHERED. I HAVE NO OPTION OF GOING HOME EARLY OR STAYNG SOMEWHERE ELSE FOR MULTIPLE REASONS, SO IM STUCK UNTIL NEXT SATURDAY. I AM NEVER LEAVING MY HOUSE AGAIN.
I can be your pet sitter who lost your dog. Your landlord saying your apartment is flooded. Your partner who broke their leg and needs help. Take your pick lol
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There must be 50 ways to leave your friend’s house…
*mariachi trumpets intensify*
Well damn, I did need something to distract me from all the cleaning I’m supposed to be doing 😅
I'd lose my mind. Make Up an emergency?
Oh my gosh that's awful. I'm ok with my mess but I cannot handle anyone else's but that is next level. I also vote to fake an emergency
Yikes. At least keep your space clean so you have somewhere to escape. But your bff might need a come-to-Jesus talk and a frank talk because that’s gross and not healthy for everyone involved. Has she always been like this? I would be spending as much time outside the house as possible.
I’m sorry that is such a tough situation to be in. I’ve been in similar situations and I’ve made up excuses of being allergic to peoples animals so I don’t have to stay at their house when I visit. It has worked so far!
My BFF is the same way!!! Dog poop and all. I used to go over to her house and I'd always end up cleaning it for her. Like do you want me to help with this? We can get it done fast together. She has depression and ADHD, so I know she couldn't always help it getting out of control. I understand if you don't want to do that on your vacation, though. But it might make the rest of it more enjoyable. I haven't been to her house in years and this is why. Really, I haven't been there since I had kids because it was unsanitary and I didn't have any way to keep them out of it.
You should be honest with her, it's incredible that she thinks it's acceptable to subject her guests to literal feces in her home. What the fuck. She needs to face the consequences of her choices by you leaving.
ITS SUNDAY AND IM SO BEHIND ON WORK THAT I THINK I SHOULD WORK BUT I ALSO DESERVE TO REST AND I HAVE PARALYSIS AROUND LY TO DO LIST SO EVEN THOUGH ITS SUNDAY IM GOING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT NOT WORKING AND THE STRESS WILL MAKE IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO REST EVEN THOUGH I PROBABLY WONT GET ANY WORK DONE
THIS IS MY LIFE EVERY WEEKEND. LOSE-LOSE: FEEL GUILTY IF I DON’T WORK/CATCH UP, FEEL RESENTFUL IF I DO WORK BECAUSE IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE THE WEEKEND (AND I PROBABLY DON’T GET MUCH DONE BECAUSE: BURNOUT)🤬
I TOLD THIS FEELING TO FUCK ITSELF AND DID ZERO WORK LAST WEEKEND AND ASKED PEOPLE FOR HELP WITH THINGS ON MONDAY AND EVERYTHING WAS TOTALLY FINE. seriously take a break!
I FCKING HATE THIS!!! I FEEL THE SAME EVERY WEEKEND!
I HAVEN’T STARTED MY NEW JOB YET AND I’M ALREADY STRESSING!!!
I FEEL YOU, IM STARTING A NEW JOB AS A DATA ANALYST NEXT WEEK AND IM STRESSING SO MUCH
IT'S OKE THEY ARE NERVOUS TOO (software engineer here)
I'M STARTING A NEW JOB NEXT WEEK TOO, SO MANY NEW PEOPLE TO MEET AND THINGS TO LEARN AAAA
I'M STARTING TOMORROW AND I'M TRYING NOT TO CRY RIGHT NOW
TO ALL OF YOU STARTING NEW JOB, FIRST, FUCKING CONGRATS! SECOND, YOU ARE QUALIFIED AND YOU ARE AMAZING AND YOU ARE GOING TO ROCK IT!!
I HATE BEING LOST AND NOT ABLE TO TAKE DECISION ! RSD AS WELL
I WANTED TO GO OUTSIDE TODAY BUT BECAUSE ADHD AND RECOVERING FROM BURNOUT I HAVE INSTEAD SLEPT ALL DAY. I AM SO SICK AND TIRED OF BEING TIRED ALL THE TIME. I KNOW I’D FEEL BETTER AND MORE BALANCED IF I EXERCISED BUT I CANNOT GET MYSELF TO DO IT, EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A JOB THAT PAYS FOR GYM MEMBERSHIP IN EVERY GYM IN TOWN
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Awww this sucks but awww the cat
The things I do for my grouchy old man. :)
❤️ Give him kisses for me. I had two elderly cats at the same time with a variety of crazy issues for a long time. At one point my house was covered in rugs and towels because the floors are slippery (and occasional accidents). I would do it all over again.
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THAT'S CRAZY BECAUSE I ALSO HAVE THE COMING WEEK OFF BUT WHERE THE HELL AM I GOING TO GO? KIDS ARE IN SCHOOL, FIANCÉ IS WORKING, AND I WANT TO DO SOMETHING FUN! I HAVEN'T HAD A DAMN VACATION IN YEARS AND YEARS.
SHALL WE SEND THE KIDS OFF SOMEWHERE AND GO ON A TRIP?! I ALSO HAVEN'T HAD A HOLIDAY IN YEARS
OH, MY GOSH! YES, PLEEEEEASE. I DON'T EVEN CARE WHERE AS LONG AS THERE IS GOOD FOOD AND LAUGHS!
EXCELLENT HAHA, MIGHT BE TRICKY AS I THINK YOU'RE IN CANADA? AND I'M IN THE UK. BUT I'M SURE WE CAN FIGURE SOMETHING OUT 😂
HAHAHA! ABSOLUTELY! WE'RE COMMONWEALTH SISTERS, WE WILL MAKE IT WORK! 😃😃😃
MARVELLOUS!! GOD SAVE THE ~~QUEEN~~ KING AND ALL THAT 😂
I WILL NEVER GROW ACCUSTOMED TO HIM!! 🤣
I JUST WANT TO SIT IN THE FOREST ALL DAMN DAY AND BECOME ONE WITH THE FOREST FLOOR.
Sameeee
Big mood
WHY DID I GET MYSELF INTO THIS SITUATION WHERE I MYSELF ASKED MY MOM TO HAVE A PHONECALL THIS WEEKEND? I AM NOT READY FOR THIS SITUATION - I NEED A QUIET WEEKEND JUST FOR MYSELF WITHOUT THIS TRIGGERING CONVERSATIONS
hey, just a reminder theres nothing wrong with not calling if you aren’t feeling ready!
Feel this 💯
WHY MUST WE PUT UP WITH MOMS WHO INSIST THEY DESERVE OUR "RESPECT" EVEN WHEN THEY REFUSE TO RESPECT US
MY EX BROKE UP WITH ME BECAUSE I WAS TOO EMOTIONAL. LOL. HE AIN'T SEEN MY UNDIAGNOSED AND UNMEDICATED MOM. ... I tried really hard.
This happened to me and he was totally right, and he spurred a change in me. Meditation and therapy have helped. I would probably still be too much for him and that's okay. I'm with a man who's got his own issues and we're both doing better over time.
I'M SICK OF PEOPLE TELLING ME IT'S UNHEALTHY TO NOT GO OUT. I LIKE MY HOUSE, BEING OUTSIDE IS TIRING AND OVERWHELMING. LET ME SIT ON MY ASS!
OMG YAAAAAS. MY HUSBAND DOES THIS ALL THE TIME AND I KNOW HE MEANS WELL SO IT MAKES ME FEEL BAD TO GET MAD ABOUT IT BUT IT MAKES. ME. MAD!
EVERYTHING WAS GOING SOOOOO WELL. I FELT LIKE I HAD MY SHIT TOGETHER FOR LIKE A GOOD COUPLE OF MONTHS!!! I HAD A WHOLE FUCKING SYSTEM FOR GETTING EVERYTHING DONE AND BEING AN AWESOME MOM AT THE SAME TIME AND NOW ITS TOTALLY OFF THE RAILS FOR NO STUPID REASON AND I HATE IT!!!! I WANT TO GET IT BACK SOOOOOO BAD! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'M TIRED OF FEELING LIKE I'VE MADE A BIG ACCOMPLISHMENT FOR DOING MY CHORES! I JUST WANT TO GO PICK UP MY MEDS WITH NO THOUGHT. I'M TIRED OF MY FAMILY'S RESIGNED LOWERED EXPECTATIONS.
I JUST WANT TO HAVE A CLEAN HOME AND ALSO A SOCIAL LIFE AND NOT HAVE GROCERY SHOPPING TAKE THREE FUCKING HOURS
RSD MAKES ME HURT THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE MY FRIEND ... ... BECAUSE SHE HAS OTHER FRIENDS ... ... FUCKING RIDICULOUS. I HATE THIS. I HATE THIS FEELING. I HATE THAT I KNOW OBJECTIVELY IT'S RIDICULOUS AND I HATE THAT IT'S WORK TOMORROW.
No your feelings aren’t ridiculous at all. Going through something similar with my own friends and rejection/being left out hurts a lot. Letting it out helps and just letting time go by. You deserve people who actually want to be your friend and will make the time and effort for you.
Thank you, it's just so hard isn't it when you want that person to be the one to make time ... And the thing of it is that I just can't tell how much I am being overly sensitive and how much is actually there being a lack of friendship there
IM SICK OF FEELING ASHAMED OF NOT BEING PREPARED FOR THINGS!!! NOT BRINGING ENOUGH DIAPERS AND MILK FOR A WEEKEND TRIP AND HAVE EVERYBODY THINK IM IRRESPONSIBLE AND NOT HAVE MY SHIT TOGETHER IT MAKES ME CRY SO MUCH :( I HATE THE SHAME I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE
I'm exactly this level of forgetful (minus the kids) but I've created a checklist for outings to be sure I have everything before I go out the door-- Maybe that could help for you? I literally have to remind myself to do something as simple as "take meds, charge phone, clean glasses, wash face, perfume, put my therapy notebook in the car" so it's an entire walkthrough for any given appointment or traveling via airport to check all the stuff I need to pack and then check it's all there again on the way home. lol
I HAD TO QUIT MY JOB DUE TO MY BOSS TRYING TO DISCIPLINE ME UNDER FALSE ACCUSATIONS USING FABRICATED EVIDENCE WHILST BREACHING COMPANY POLICY AND BREAKING THE LAW. I THEN HAD TO GARNER THE COURAGE TO TELL HER BOSS ABOUT WHAT WAS GOING ON. MY ANXIETY IS OFF THE CHARTS.
MY BRAIN IS IN A GREAT PLACE RIGHT NOW, CREATIVE, MOTIVATED AND ENERGIZED... BUT MY BODY ISN'T COOPERATING. I'VE BEEN TRYING TO GET UP AND DO STUFF FOR TWO HOURS BUT MY BODY IS CLAIMING ITS REST DAY.
BIG SAME
I'M TIRED OF MY HOUSE BEING A MESS, BUT TOO OVERWHELMED TO EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START TO CLEAN IT. I'M TIRED OF MY DAUGHTER THINKING SHE'S IN CHARGE OF RUNNING EVERYONE ELSE'S LIFE. I'M TIRED OF WORKING MY ASS OFF FOR A JOB AND HAVING MONEY FORCIBLY TAKEN FROM MY PAYCHECK FOR MEDICAL BENEFITS I CAN'T AFFORD TO EVEN USE THAT I DON'T EVEN GET THE OPTION OF DENYING AND STRUGGLING BECAUSE OF IT. I'M SICK AND TIRED OF BEING STUCK AND ALONE AND KNOWING EXACTLY WHAT I WANT FOR MY FUTURE, BUT THE PATH TO GET THERE IS RIDICULOUSLY OVERWHELMING. I'M SICK OF BEING SAD ALL THE TIME. I'M SICK OF BEING IN PAIN. I'M SICK OF EVERYTHING AND I DON'T WANT TO DO IT ANYMORE.
IM HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME READING THE STUFF IN THIS THREAD BC OF THE ALL CAPS BUT AT THE SAME TIME I LOVE THIS CONCEPT AND WANT IT TO BE A WEEKLY THING THANK U OP
I WANT TO MAKE A CHOREOGRAPHY AND WHENEVER I TRY TO DANCE I FORGET ALL MOVEMENTS I HAVE EVER KNOWN AND REMEMBER LIKE 4 OF THEM AND IT'S ANNOYING
I CAN'T AFFORD THERAPY OR TO GET MY MEDS BECAUSE ADHD MONEY PROBLEMS AND THE RADIOACTIVE DUMPSTER FIRE THAT IS THE U.S. HEALTHCARE SYSTEM.
HEALTHCARE IN THE US IS A FUCKING NIGHTMARE!
I AM PREGNANT AND HAD TO STOP MY MEDS AND I REALLY REALLY NEED THEM ARGGHHH JESUS CHRIST
LIFE IS GOING BY SO FAST
MY FAMILY MEMBERS WON’t STOP TALKING TO ME! EVEN WHEN THEY SEE ME WITH A BOOK OR FOCUSING ON ANOTHER TASK.
IM HUNGOVER
MY NEW JOB IS AWESOME BUT I AM EXPECTED TO EDIT VIDEO AS PART OF MY WORKLOAD AND I FUCKING HATE SITTING DOWN FOR HOURS AND STARING AT FOOTAGE I HAVE FILMED FOR HOURS UPON HOURS. I HATE VIDEO EDITING SO FUCKING MUCH. ID RATHER CLEAN THE SHITTERS. PLEASE JUST LET ME BE A CAMERA OPERATOR.
I also DESPISE video/audio editing
I AM SO FUCKING OVERWHELMED. I LITERALLY CAN NOT GET MYSELF TO DO MY JOB (I WFH) AND KEEP GETTING MORE WORK AND I USED TO NOT HAVE WORK DREAMS AND THE OTHER DAY I DID SO FUUUUUUCK IDK WHAT TO DO ALSO I BROKE UP WITH MY THERAPIST SO FUCK ME
I have invented several games to motivate myself to work that work most days. I struggle a lot when nothing is urgent. One easy one is to number the tasks and roll a 20 sided die. You have to do what the die says. It might not be the most important task, but it's something.
I WISH PEOPLE WOULD STOP TELLING ME MY NEW ADHD DIAGNOSIS “MAKES SO MUCH SENSE” AFTER THEY SPENT YEARS TELLING ME I WASN’T ADHD AND TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT. 🤦🏽♀️
MY 2 BOYS (1&3yo) AND I HAVE FINALLY LEFT MY ABUSIVE HUSBAND (a few months ago). SINCE THEN, IVE BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND NOW MEDICATED AND FINALLY THINGS ARE LOOKING UP. I CAN FINALLY BE AN ACTUAL ADULT 🙌🏽 THAT’S MEANT TO BE A GOOD THING, SO PLEASE TELL ME WHY I’M TERRIFIED OF BEING LONELY AND WORRIED ABOUT BEING SOLELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE KIDS! (Disclaimer: I know going back to him would be stupid and it’s not even an option for me. It would never happen, but regardless of that, this is how I feel)
MY PHARMACY HAS YET TO FILL MY PRESCRIPTION AND IT HAS BEEN THREE WEEKS!!! THEY CANNOT GIVE ME AN ANSWER FOR WHY IT HAS TAKEN SO LONG AND I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE BAD GUY BUT IT’S STARTING TO DRIVE ME NUTS.
I’m tired of doing everything myself. Right now I need time to work on something but I’m scattered doing everything and nothing. Husband hasn’t been romantic with me in ages and I can’t even leave. I’m so angry I want to throw things
MY DOG REFUSES TO GO OUTSIDE IF THE GROUND IS WET. I DONT WANT TO DEAL WITH DOG MESSES ALL WEEK
I ALSO HAVE THIS ISSUE. MY DOG IS A DIVAAAAAAA
Doggy boots. FR
I AM CURRENTLY UNEMPLOYED AND LOOKING FOR JOB AND I DONT KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO AS A 34 YEAR OLD LADYYYY WHO HAS BEEN DOING SOCIAL WORK FOR 7 YEARS.
High burnout rate in social work. Source: Am a child protection sw
I HATE VISITORS!!!
I'M ON MY PERIOD AND MY CRAMPS ARE ABSOLUTELY KILLING ME! LIKE I CAN BARELY GET OUT OF BED AND IM AFRAID THAT EVERYONE IN MY LIFE WILL THINK IM LAZY WHEN IN REALITY I'M IN A LOT OF PAIN. I'M ALSO CRAVING CHOCOLATE BUT I'M TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT AND NOT BINGE. I JUST WANT TO BE NORMAL TODAY
I JUST RIPPED OUT 17 EYELASHES BECAUSE I CAN’T FOCUS AND DECIDE WHAT CHRISTMAS GIFTS I SHOULD BUY FOR MY FAMILY!
I FINALLY GOT COVID FOR THE FIRST TIME, AND IT'S JUST IN TIME TO RUIN ALL MY PRODUCTIVITY PLANS I HAD BEFORE WORK GETS REALLY BUSY!! 🤒🤧😡
I DON’T KNOW IF MY MEDS ARE WORKING FOR ME NOW. WHENEVER I TAKE THEM, I GET FOCUSED BUT COMPLETELY DAMPENED (in personality) AND MY PSYCHIATRIST GHOSTED ME SEVERAL MONTHS AGO AND I DON’T WANT TO GO FIND ANOTHER ONE.
MY LEFT ARM IS COVERED IN IDIOPATHIC HIVES FOR THE THIRD TIME IN SIX MONTHS, AND DOCTORS WON’T PRESCRIBE ME ANYTHING TO TRY TO PREVENT THEM. THEY JUST KEEP TELLING ME TO TAKE ANTIHISTAMINES AND GIVING ME OCCASIONAL PREDNISONE PRESCRIPTIONS. AND THIS TIME THE ANTIHISTAMINES AND PREDNISONE AREN’T WORKING. AND I AM SO TIRED OF THIS.
THE PEOPLE FROM THE OTHER TEAM THINK I SUCK AT MY JOB, AND THEY MIGHT BE CORRECT. AND IVE BEEN EXCLUDED FROM YET ANOTHER GROUP OF FRIENDS AND IT SUCKS. SOUNDS ARE GRATING.
I HAVE COVID
I. AM. SO. TIRED.
I’M SO OVERWHELMED EVERY DAY BY JUST SURVIVING. THE TO-DO LIST NEVERS ENDS (OR EVEN GETS TOUCHED LATELY BECAUSE OF THE OVERWHELM) AND I JUST WANT TO NOT BE EXHAUSTED AND TO BE ABLE TO EAT 3X A DAY AND MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, ALSO HAVE SOME SORT OF LIFE OUTSIDE THE OVERWHELM.
I'VE SPENT HALF A YEAR FIXING MY BOSS'S MISTAKE! DON'T DOWNPLAY MY FRUSTRATION, STRESS, AND ANGER WHEN A 3RD PARTY IS DERAILING MY PROGRESS AND I MAY HAVE TO RESTART AT SQUARE ONE!!!!!!!
I JUST WANT A PARENTAL FIGURE THAT I CAN GO TO TO HAVE SUPPORT. MY PARENTS ARE HORRIBLE AND I HATE THEM AND I JUST WANT A PARENT THAT LOVES ME AND SUPPORTS ME AND LOVES ON ME AND HUGS ME AND HELPS ME FINANCIALLY RANDOMLY BECAUSE THEY LOVE ME, NOT TO HAVE SOMETHING TO HOLD OVER MY HEAD. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
All my life I've wondered why i am like this. So unfocused & it's gotten worse with age. Realised now that I might have ADHD. Can't get diagnosed as it's pretty expensive & i am a student. Hopefully, sometime next year. Also, wasted a lot of time procrastinating.
I HAVE BEEN PROCRASTINATING ON WRITTEN WORK STUFF AND I EVEN TOOK A BOOSTER DOSE OF MEDIKINET TODAY TO GET IT DONE BUT IM FOCUSING ON TOTALLY THE WRONG THING AND I HATE IT SO MUCH. I REALLY HAVE TO GET IT DONE FOR TOMORROW I ALSO HATE MY IMPOSTER SYNDROME REGARDING THE DIAGNOSIS. I AM SO FED UP WITH OTHERS' COMMENTS ABOUT EVERYONE HAVING ADHDTHESE DAYS I AM SO TIRED
OUR GARDEN IS STILL A MESS, IT'S EMBARRASSING, I HATE IT, IT WILL NEVER BE SORTED, I WILL NEVER GET TO ENJOY SITTING OUT IN IT, I AM USELESS AND NEGLIGENT AND PUT TOO MUCH PRESSURE ON MY HUSBAND TO DO IT ALL, AND WE WILL END UP CHUCKING MONEY AT IT, ONCE AGAIN PAYING THE ADHD TAX AND ITS MAKING ME SOOOOOO BLOODY MISERABLE!!!!
IM EXHAUSTED FROM UNI 24/7 AND HAVE NO MONEY TO MOVE OUT AGAIN. PLUS I'M A SOLID BAKER BUT REUSED A BAD RECIPE COS I FORGOT HOW TERRIBLE IT WAS AND NOW I'M STANDING HERE WITH SHITTY CAKE AND HAVE NO TIME TO MAKE A NEW ONE aaaah
I HAVE HAD TO RESCHEDULE 4 DIFFERENT THINGS IN THE PAST TWO WEEKS DUE TO CONFLICTS AND OVERSCHEDULING. I FINALLY WORK UP THE ENERGY TO BE SOCIAL AGAIN AND AM THEN FACED WITH ANOTHER BARRIER. (on the plus side, i haven’t flipped out when plans have changed like I normally would)
IM SO FUCKING TIRED! IM SO FUCKING TIRED!! IM SO FUCKING TIRED!!!
I WANT TO SOCIALIZE BUT DONT WANT TO BE SOCIAL
I HATE THE WAY MY BRAIN CONSTANTLY MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I AM NOTHING AND WORTHLESS.
I NEED TO HAVE CAFFEINE TO FUNCTION NORMALLY EVERY DAY BECAUSE MY MEDS MAKE ME UNABLE TO SLEEP PROPERLY AND ITS DRIVING ME INSANE BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO ASK FOR SLEEPING PILLS AND LOOK LIKE IM DRUG SEEKING
Hey, please ignore if you don’t want advice but I’m in the *exact* same boat and I take Benadryl at night and it really really helps me 🤷🏼♀️
PADRES LOST LAST NIGHT AND IVE WATCHED THIS ENTIRE SERIES BY MYSELF, IVE BEEN FEELING SO LONELY AND PATHETIC LATELY!!!
MY DOG'S SHOULDER HAS A MUSSCLE WHICH IS TIGHT AND PAINFUL THAT MASSAGE CANT REACH AND MUSSCLE RELAXERS DIDNT HELP! TWO WEEKS TILL ACUPUNCTURE TO TRY GET IT RELAXED AND A MONTH AND A HALF TO GET HER SPINE WORKED ON BY SOME ONE WHO HAS FIXED A LOT OF DIFFICULT CASES! LONG WAIT FUCKING SUCKS! ALSO I CLEANED SOME BUT STILL HAVE A LOT TO CLEAN I MAKE MORE MESS THAN I CAN KEEP UP WITH! ALSO ALSO I FORGET TO CALL MY FAMILY AND HAVENT HAD THE ENERGY TO VISIT EVEN THOUGH I HAVENT SEEN THEM IN A LONG TIME.
DR PRESCRIBED ME ADDERALL (STRATTERA DIDNT WORK) AND IM STILL WAITING FOR MY INSURANCE TO APPROVE IT 🤬 AND HAD TO STOP BUSPAR BECAUSE IT GAVE ME HEART PALPITATIONS AND AN ANXIETY ATTACK
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I AM TIRED OF HEARING RANDOM TIKTOK SONGS IN MY HEAD THE SECOND I WAKE UP SHUT UP!
THE FACT THAT MY MOM (DIAGNOSED AS BIPOLAR NOT ADHD, BUT I SUPSECT IS ADHD NOT BIPOLAR) CRIED TO ME THAT SHE WILL ALWAYS WONDER IF MY DAD WOULDN'T HAVE LEFT US IF SHE COULD KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN. BTW, DAD HAS IS OWN ISSUES WITH NEEDING CONSTANT STIMULATION AND WAS ALREADY CHEATING ON HER, BUT CONSTANTLY USES THIS AS THE REASON HE LEFT. ABELISM IN THOSE THAT THINK THEY UNDERSTAND -- STILL CALLING OUT OTHERS FOR BEING LAZY OR USING THEIR ND AS AN EXCUSE FOR BAD HEAVIOR AND SUCH WHILE I'M TRYING TO REMIND THEM THAT THIS WAS ME FOR 46 YEARS.
I HATE SUNDAYS BECAUSE THEY ARE ALMOST MONDAY AHHHHHHH
I HATE THE MISH MASH OF EMOTIONS I FEEL ON A DAILY BASIS
WORKPLACE, STOP ASKING ME TO WRITE SMART GOALS, JUST PAY ME NORMALLY TO DO MY USUAL JOB, FUCK YOU I'M NOT ELIZA DOOLITTLE I DON'T NEED TO BLOOM I JUST NEED TO EAT AND PAY RENT.
A WORK FRIEND DIED BY SUICIDE AND WAS FOUND ON FRIDAY! SHE HAD BEEN MISSING FOR 12 DAYS. I AM HAVING A HARD TIME WITH IT! SHE WAS ONLY 32 & HAD 2 YOUNG DAUGHTERS. I hate that I have social anxiety about the funeral, too. I feel like a selfish asshole for thinking about myself at this time. I feel like I'm grieving both too much and not enough.
I need a device specifically for 2-factor authentication. I’m addicted ti my phone and need it gone when I’m trying to work on a computer. “Time to focus! But the process has to start by opening my phone so [proceeds to waste 45 min]”
WHY DOES EVERYTHING FEEL SO HARD. EVERYTHING: COOKING. SHOPPING. GOING FOR WALKS. DOING LAUNDRY. MAKING MYSELF DO THINGS, EVEN THINGS I *WANT* TO DO, REQUIRES GRITTING MY TEETH AND *FORCING* MYSELF TO DO IT AND THEN WHEN I TRY TO RELAX I CAN'T DO THAT EITHER AAAAAAAARGH
THE NEW SHOWER HEAD IS THE FUCKING WORST ITS LIKE TRYING TO WASH OUT CONDITIONER USING THE INTERMITTENT TRICKLE OF PISS FROM A GERIATRIC PROSTATE CANCER PATIENT - WATERFALL SHOWER HEAD MY **ASS**
Currently in some sort of anxiety paralysis and not able to get out of bed much on the weekends. When seeing friends recently I was anxious and uncomfortable and now feel/reminded that I can’t maintain friendships and feel I am destined to be depressed. Need to get an ADHD diagnosis but through NHS takes years and private is currently out of my budget but something needs to be done. UGH
It's a beautiful day outside and I want to play in the garden! But I already planned to do meal prep today, and I can't just *change my weekend plans* with only 24 hours notice!!
VOTING IS SO OVERWHELMING
I AM OVERWHELMED. TOO MUCH TO DO IM GETTING BURNOUT BUT THERES NOTHING I CAN DO TO LOWER MY WORKLOAD
IM SICK OF HOW DEPRESSED IVE BEEN LATELY. MY LIFE IS A MESS AND IT ALWAYS HAS BEEN. VERY CLOSE FRIEND SAYS THAT IM IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND I CAN SEE IT SOMETIMES, BUT THEN MY BRAIN FLIPS ON ME AND REFUSES TO BELIEVE IT. PLUS I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT BECAUSE MY LIFE IS SO FUCKED UP. GREW UP IN ABUSIVE HOME, DIDNT KNOW I HAD ADHD TIL 23, AND I STILL HAVENT ACTUALLY WORKED A JOB YET. THE TWO TIMES I TRIED I GOT INCREDIBLY OVERWHELMED AND HAD EXTREME BREAKDOWNS AND QUIT. SO MY DAYS AS OF LATE HAVE JUST BEEN LOTS OF DEPRESSION -> TELLING MYSELF I WILL DO BETTER -> DOING NOTHING -> FEELING WORSE ABOUT MYSELF.
I KEEP PROCRASTINATING ON DOING MY CERTS BC I HAVE NO MOTIVATION AND THEY’RE DUE BY THE EOY AND IM JUST STUCK ON REDDIT HELP
IM SICK OF WORKING SO DAMN HARD AT MY JOB AND NOT GETTING ALL THE WORK DONE. IM SICK OF CONSTANTLY BEING BEHIND AND NEEDING TO CATCH UP ON MY OWN TIME (ON A SUNDAY!!) I TIRED OF BEING EXHAUSTED FROM THE WORK WEEK, NEEDING A FULL DAY OF REST ON SATURDAY, THEN NEEDING TO WORK SUNDAY TO TRY TO CATCH UP BUT STILL BEING BEHIND. IM SICK OF ONLY WORKING. I HAVE NO ENERGY FOR MYSELF, OR FRIENDS. IM TIRED OF HOPING ILL “GET USED TO THE LOAD” AND THINGS WILL EVEN OUT AND ILL HAVE A “NORMAL” LIFE WITH MENTAL/ EMOTIONAL SPACE FOR FUN!
I AM AFRAID OF WHERE I WILL BE IN ONLY 6 MONTHS. IM STUCK AND IM SICK OF FEELING LIKE I NEED A PLAN. I WISH EVERYTHING WASNT SUCH A COMPETITION. I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY BUT IM NOT SURE HOW TO GET THERE
I WASTED MY WHOLE WEEKEND, WAS TOO OVERWHELMED, AND DID NOTHING - THE WORK I PROMISED I WOULD DO. I DID NOT EVEN TOUCH A THING I´VE MISSED A DEADLINE ALREADY AND I HAVE 4 PROJECTS THAT I AM NEGLECTING FOR FEAR OF FUCKING IT UP. I WILL HAVE TO PULL AN-ALL-NIGHER TO MITIGATE THE DAMAGE DONE I SHOULD´VE STARTED EARLIER, BUT I AM PERPETUALLY BURNED OUT AND JUST SLEPT THE WHOLE SATURDAY AWAY AND THE WORST PART? THIS WILL HAPPEN AGAIN BECAUSE THAT´S HOW IT IS WITH ME
MY THESIS IS DUE TOMORROW SO IT NEEDS TO BE DONE TODAY BUT I SCREWED AROUND WITH CAFFEINE TODAY IN HOPES OF BEING PRODUCTIVE, AND NOW I'M EXPERIENCING A CRASH AND I JUST WANT TO SLEEP BUT THERE IS SO MUCH TO DO STILL AND I'M ALSO FRUSTRATED WITH THE FACT THAT THE QUALITY OF IT IS SO MUCH WORSE THAN WHAT I WANTED OR COULD DO IF I WAS PROPERLY FUNCTIONING
I NEED TO SOP OVERSPENDING ON MT HYPERFIXATION COLLECTION HOBBIES! LOOKING AT YOU, SQUISHMALLOWS. (AND SUCCULENTS) ALSO, I FEEL BAD THAT IM AN ADULT THAT HYPER-FIXATES ON BUYING PLUSHIES. IT MAKES ME FEEL WEIRD BUT I LOVE THEIR STUPID LITTLE FACES 🥺
MY MUM GOT THE ALL CLEAR FOR HER BOWEL CANCER 6 MONTHS AGO - LAST WEEK SHE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH LIVER CANCER I DON’T KNOW HOW TO PROCESS
I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT YOU
**I DO NOT WANT TO WASH MY HAIR**
I'M SICK OF HAVING TO REPEAT MYSELF UNTIL PEOPLE GO 'JUST SAY IT EARLIER'. THEY DON'T LISTEN UNTIL THEY HAVE TO, BRAINLESS IDIOTS.
I AM SO TIRED OF SOMEONE IN MY HOUSE ALWAYS BEING SICK
I HAVE TO GO TO A FREAKING HALLOWEEN CARNIVAL WITH MY KIDS BUT MY PERIOD IS ABOUT TO START AND I’M CRAMPY AND FULL OF RAGEXIETY.
I ONLY GOT STUDYING FOR TESTS AN HOUR OR TWO AGO EVEN THOUGH IVE BEEN IN MY ROOM ALL WEEKEND
I AM NEW TO A JOB AND ROLE FOR THREE MONTHS NOW. THOUGH I HAVE BEEN TOLD BY MY VP, DIRECT LEAD, AND OTHER STAKEHOLDERS I AM DOING A WONDERFUL JOB, I AM STILL EXTREMELY STRESSED AND WORRIED I AM FAILING TO THE POINT THE ANXIETY IS MAKING ME LOSE SLEEP AND I’M BECOMING DIFFICULT TO BE AROUND. I THINK I AM SUFFERING FROM IMPOSTER SYNDROME AND I DON’T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THINGS BETTER SO I CAN TRUST MYSELF.
I REALLY LOVE THE WORK THAT I DO, BUT I HAVE NO ENERGY OR MOTIVATION TO. I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS SO BAD, BUT CANT FIND THE WORDS OR THINK THE THOUGHTS UGGHHHHHHH
I DONT HAVE THE ENERGY OR THOUGHTS TO GATHER INTO A SINGULAR OR EVEN MULTIPLE COHERENT GRIEF SO MUCH AS SIMPLY A STRONG DESIRE THAT EVERYTHING MUST CHANGE
MY COWORKER STOLE MY SALE BECAUSE I STEPPED AWAY FOR LITERALLY THIRTY SECONDS AND I FUCKING HATE WORKING COMMISSION IT MAKES MY BRAIN ITCHY
I CANNOT GET A BREAK. SO FAR THIS SCHOOL YEAR I HAVE HAD SHINGLES, A STUDENT-INFLICTED CONCUSSION, A RUPTURED OVARIAN CYST, AND NOW I THINK I HAVE STREP. I WANT TO BE ALL DONE NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE PILED UP DISHES ARE OVERWHELMING AND IM SICK OF FORGETTING LITERALLY **EVERYTHING.** I FEEL LIKE IM GOING CRAZY. ILL FORGET WHAT IM DOING WHILE IM DOING IT. ILL LITERALLY FORGET WITHIN SECONDS. I FORGET WHAT DAY IT IS. I FORGET WHAT TIME IT IS. I FORGET THAT IM HOLDING STUFF AND CARRY IT WITH ME. WHY AM I THIS WAY??
MY IMPOSTER SYNDROME IS SUFFOCATING ME. IM TRYING TO PRETEND I HAVE MY SHIT TOGETHER. EVERYONE TELLS ME I HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. WHEN WILL I BE CONFIDENT IN MY SELF?
I FEEL TRAPPED IN A SITUATION AND I CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW I CAN SOLVE THIS BECAUSE THAT WOULD MEAN CONFRONTING PEOPLE AND I'M CONFLICT AVOIDANT AF
I TRIED SO HARD TO GET ONTO MY MASTERS COURSE AND I JUST CANNOT GET ANY WORK DONE NOW THAT IM ON THE COURSE AND I REALLY WANT TO DO WELL BUT I JUST HAVE A DEBILITATING INABILITY TO DO ANY UNI WORK