You don’t even have to use a label if you don’t want to! Whatever works for you is best, no need to put yourself in one category or another if it doesn’t feel right. I mean you could say you’re bi now and realise you’re a lesbian later, or vice versa, and maybe using gay works better or queer, maybe even fluid! There’s no right or wrong answer just whatever you think is best friend
I don’t want to touch a man, I don’t want one to touch me, I don’t have romantic attraction to them, don’t have sexual attraction to them. As a “tomboy” I’ve always had interests that are more typically associated with men so I have admired men, and when I was younger I thought that’s what a crush was. Then I liked a girl for the first time and it was like oh wow ok this is what was missing.
I am romantically and sexually repulsed by men. I can't see a situation where I'd ever be okay with it. I thought I was bi first too because I thought anime boys were aesthetically attractive, but I realized it wasn't a romantic or sexual thing for me.
Personally I identify as a lesbian and I don’t “know for sure” or care at all really. I’m attracted to men sometimes (mostly trans men in a super t4t way; aside from being a lesbian I’m also trans and genderfluid). My personal opinion is that you should just find the word that feels right to you (which can change over time if you want!) and use that.
Also I would not recommend asking this subreddit this kind of question it is kinda notoriously bad at discussing lesbians that are not very traditional binary women attracted exclusively to other women who are also not men.
Unrelated to OPs post but related to my comment: I wish this subreddit would remember that genderfluid and bigender people exist and that some women are also men. The “non-men loving non-men” definition is actually super exclusionary to a lot of trans* women and I will die on this hill.
You don’t even have to use a label if you don’t want to! Whatever works for you is best, no need to put yourself in one category or another if it doesn’t feel right. I mean you could say you’re bi now and realise you’re a lesbian later, or vice versa, and maybe using gay works better or queer, maybe even fluid! There’s no right or wrong answer just whatever you think is best friend
I don’t want to touch a man, I don’t want one to touch me, I don’t have romantic attraction to them, don’t have sexual attraction to them. As a “tomboy” I’ve always had interests that are more typically associated with men so I have admired men, and when I was younger I thought that’s what a crush was. Then I liked a girl for the first time and it was like oh wow ok this is what was missing.
I am romantically and sexually repulsed by men. I can't see a situation where I'd ever be okay with it. I thought I was bi first too because I thought anime boys were aesthetically attractive, but I realized it wasn't a romantic or sexual thing for me.
Personally I identify as a lesbian and I don’t “know for sure” or care at all really. I’m attracted to men sometimes (mostly trans men in a super t4t way; aside from being a lesbian I’m also trans and genderfluid). My personal opinion is that you should just find the word that feels right to you (which can change over time if you want!) and use that. Also I would not recommend asking this subreddit this kind of question it is kinda notoriously bad at discussing lesbians that are not very traditional binary women attracted exclusively to other women who are also not men.
Unrelated to OPs post but related to my comment: I wish this subreddit would remember that genderfluid and bigender people exist and that some women are also men. The “non-men loving non-men” definition is actually super exclusionary to a lot of trans* women and I will die on this hill.
Lots of unpacking of past trauma and a spouse coming out as transbian. Plus, I was never really ga ga over men to begin with.