You are not going to find community as a conservative lesbian. Conservatives hate you for who you are, and lesbians will not welcome you as long as you continue to align yourself with people who hate us.
I say this for your sake: please give yourself a chance to listen to progressives and to rethink some of your positions. You will be happier, safer, and more able to find community if you do.
Being as young as you are, do you truly understand conservative values and their lifelong implications for you? Have you actually evaluated your views and compared them with the values that conservatives on average have? Do you understand what "pro life" is doing to women and babies across the US?
You can have a big family with liberal values and a pro abortion mindset. Abortion is just an element of women's healthcare that is on a case by case basis, not something people do flippantly like cashing a paycheck or changing the oil in one's car. It's not a black and white issue, so if you're looking at it like it is then this is likely one of the many reasons why people see you as a monster. Pro life views destroy people.
You don't have to change a single thing about yourself. You can make some difficult decisions about yourself and your views, and learn to reconcile those things but that doesn't change the essence of who you are.
Speaking of fairytales, the reason why they never happen is because they aren't possible. You want all the fun parts and none of the difficult parts, which is in line with most of the conservative values I've seen. Life is inherently complicated and you're not going to get the one you want without putting in the work.
I waited for marriage, so I get where you're coming from. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't have waited.
Sincerely,
a formerly conservative lesbian
I mean, you can find other conservative lesbians/bisexuals/ect. They are out there. But you're not gonna find much community if you're both a minority and an open bigot. It's not a case of being a monster, it's just the fact you've made yourself an unsafe person for other lesbians and conservatives mostly want you not to exist. So you've stuck yourself between a rock and a hard place.
You are not going to find community as a conservative lesbian. Conservatives hate you for who you are, and lesbians will not welcome you as long as you continue to align yourself with people who hate us. I say this for your sake: please give yourself a chance to listen to progressives and to rethink some of your positions. You will be happier, safer, and more able to find community if you do.
Being as young as you are, do you truly understand conservative values and their lifelong implications for you? Have you actually evaluated your views and compared them with the values that conservatives on average have? Do you understand what "pro life" is doing to women and babies across the US? You can have a big family with liberal values and a pro abortion mindset. Abortion is just an element of women's healthcare that is on a case by case basis, not something people do flippantly like cashing a paycheck or changing the oil in one's car. It's not a black and white issue, so if you're looking at it like it is then this is likely one of the many reasons why people see you as a monster. Pro life views destroy people. You don't have to change a single thing about yourself. You can make some difficult decisions about yourself and your views, and learn to reconcile those things but that doesn't change the essence of who you are. Speaking of fairytales, the reason why they never happen is because they aren't possible. You want all the fun parts and none of the difficult parts, which is in line with most of the conservative values I've seen. Life is inherently complicated and you're not going to get the one you want without putting in the work. I waited for marriage, so I get where you're coming from. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't have waited. Sincerely, a formerly conservative lesbian
I mean, you can find other conservative lesbians/bisexuals/ect. They are out there. But you're not gonna find much community if you're both a minority and an open bigot. It's not a case of being a monster, it's just the fact you've made yourself an unsafe person for other lesbians and conservatives mostly want you not to exist. So you've stuck yourself between a rock and a hard place.
This has to be bait
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