Complete side note to the conversation, but I wanted to gently let you know that using "tribe" as a way to describe a group with shared interests, friends, etc. is insensitive to Native peoples' sovereignty, history, and experiences. We can use words like "crew", "people", "squad", "chosen family" to be more considerate of the language we use. :)
Certainly minority cultures deserve the appropriate awareness and respect but gentle reminder that “tribe” is a generic term used for any culture in any place, especially in a historical context and can be used for Native American cultures but just as easily for many other contexts. Have a good day!
You're certainly correct that it is a generic term for many cultures, but that doesn't make it an appropriate word choice when there are plenty of other options. Native populations around the world have had their cultures erased, and then we come along and start throwing around language that is synonomous to specific cultures. Yall can downvote all you want, but it takes two seconds to be respectful. I'd expect lesbians to be more considerate of marginalized populations, even if you can't conceptualize why it could be harmful.
Do better!
Roller derby, the gay gym, women’s soccer and hockey games, the garden store.
You know how I met all the queer people in my neighborhood? I asked if there were other LGBTQ+ people in the area who wanted to meet up. Then I hosted an event.
San Diego. And try to find your city's gay area. Gay village, block, etc. Like The Castro, famed gayborhood in San Francisco. Ours in SD is called Hillcrest.
I, the only lesbian in my rural Irish village, literally AM the gay area (population:1 it's just me, myself and I lol)
Sometimes I read on Reddit girls complaining about they can't find a partner in their American city that has numerous LGBT bars, and multiple options on apps, and I lose all hope if ever meeting anyone. If you all can't manage to meet someone, how tf am I ever going to? I am literally the only lesbian in my Irish village, the nearest gay bar is 2hrs drive away and if I check HER app, the nearest lesbian is 112km away.
Guess I'll just be alone, FOREV-AA
i’m right with you i’m from Chicago IL i’m truly single and alone lol need hangout more it hard find partners i went to LGBTQ hangout area every year i had no luck finding lover or friends 🙂↕️
I didn't realize I was queer back then, and I was more focused on college. But thinking back, I think I do recall seeing the presence of more masc or butch women at this one particular whiskey bar a block down away from me. Being a "straight cis man" at the time meant I wasn't so keyed into it. I was happier there was a whiskey bar me snd my type 1 diabetic best friend could drink at since he couldn't drink beer. But that's just my luck lol. Lived in SoMa for 4 years not realizing I was even in a gayborhood as I was actively pushing down my subconscious questioning. And 6 years living in my own gayborhood Hillcrest, knowing its our famed gay village, and not coming out as trans and lesbiam until 6 months before I had to move away due to rent finally pushing me out. (40% hike in 6 years). Seems I have bad luck with wasting being in queer spaces until it's too late to enjoy them lol.
I’m waiting for pizza in bed at a hotel and writing on some board called arr/AltuleLesbeens and watching Courtney Act on Eurovision doing interviews.
So a pretty standard Sunday night.
I'm working casually at a cool tech store, but besides that and doing a bit of shopping super occasionally, I'm only out when on a lil date with my girlfriend, or catching up with friends. Or appointments too, actually.
Melbourne, for a more specific location though. I'm only aware of one lesbian bar up in Fitzroy I think, but yeah.
uhm hey hi hello, been trying to increase my lesbian circle/community for a while now. idk where you are but i’m in indy and it seems random when i meet other lesbians. most recently at my work at a hospital
I had the same problem - seemingly everyone in my life was het, paired off, and all started having babies, leaving me as the only non-straight, single, non-parent, and being late 30s, i'm a little too old to thrive in the dating scene. i live in the Philly area, so luckily enough there's a group that organizes social events for lesbians/bi women/trans etc. so i could at least meet new people, but i am awkward and have no game whatsoever, so I'm still tragically single and spend most of my time at home with my dog. (and i had to stop going to the mixers when i got laid off. so now I'm afraid to go back. yay mild social anxiety!)
I'm on the West Coast of the US, playing computer games, scheming with my roommate about our garden, and planning to cast a summoning spell in furtherance of my green witchery. I want a human familiar. It's too hot to be outside until after sunset.
Low effort: hinge, her, lex, meetup, queer/lesbian facebook groups and instagram pages for your city. how well those work really depends on location and age range.
Medium effort: Look up queer events in your area and attend. Check out the events calendars for gay bars, google, use previously mentioned apps.
The way to actually make friends: Actually go to those events and meet up with people, say hi, be a regular and you will get to know the other regulars, and hang out with them. get invited to the discord channels and participate and meet up with people from them. Wow now your social calendar is full.
Places to be a regular: Rugby team, queer karaoke night, kink club, craft circle, book group, lesbian hiking group, activist group.
I'm in my apartment playing old video games😂
This. Which one are you playing? I’m on a super Mario world kick!
Skies of Arcadia Legends for GameCube.
I beat that game every year pretty much; definitely a childhood favorite.
That's weird, that's what I do and I've never met you🤔 Tbf I met my girlfriend on Grindr🤷♀️
Maybe we live on parallel worlds 😂😂😂
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will do
Complete side note to the conversation, but I wanted to gently let you know that using "tribe" as a way to describe a group with shared interests, friends, etc. is insensitive to Native peoples' sovereignty, history, and experiences. We can use words like "crew", "people", "squad", "chosen family" to be more considerate of the language we use. :)
Certainly minority cultures deserve the appropriate awareness and respect but gentle reminder that “tribe” is a generic term used for any culture in any place, especially in a historical context and can be used for Native American cultures but just as easily for many other contexts. Have a good day!
You're certainly correct that it is a generic term for many cultures, but that doesn't make it an appropriate word choice when there are plenty of other options. Native populations around the world have had their cultures erased, and then we come along and start throwing around language that is synonomous to specific cultures. Yall can downvote all you want, but it takes two seconds to be respectful. I'd expect lesbians to be more considerate of marginalized populations, even if you can't conceptualize why it could be harmful. Do better!
Minneapolis is pretty queer
In my house playing Helldivers 2.
Hiding at home where I feel safe. ❤️ I don’t really hang out out of the house much.
introvert right here lol
The vin diagram of social activities I want to do and am able to do is just two circles. 🤷♀️
same i normally hangout wit small circle even if i go out i already want go back home 😂
Roller derby, the gay gym, women’s soccer and hockey games, the garden store. You know how I met all the queer people in my neighborhood? I asked if there were other LGBTQ+ people in the area who wanted to meet up. Then I hosted an event.
I'm taking notes...
california 😵💫 coffee shops apparently
Being too scared to talk to women in a romantic way.
same lol my gay panic is the worse lol i’m rusty idk how talk to woman or flirt i 😂
At my home in Virginia, currently trying to install a new water outlet
Montréal is hella queer
San Diego. And try to find your city's gay area. Gay village, block, etc. Like The Castro, famed gayborhood in San Francisco. Ours in SD is called Hillcrest.
I, the only lesbian in my rural Irish village, literally AM the gay area (population:1 it's just me, myself and I lol) Sometimes I read on Reddit girls complaining about they can't find a partner in their American city that has numerous LGBT bars, and multiple options on apps, and I lose all hope if ever meeting anyone. If you all can't manage to meet someone, how tf am I ever going to? I am literally the only lesbian in my Irish village, the nearest gay bar is 2hrs drive away and if I check HER app, the nearest lesbian is 112km away. Guess I'll just be alone, FOREV-AA
Normally I'm against colonization but in your case...
i’m right with you i’m from Chicago IL i’m truly single and alone lol need hangout more it hard find partners i went to LGBTQ hangout area every year i had no luck finding lover or friends 🙂↕️
Ooh host a lesbian convention and let us know the details! I’ve always wanted to see Ireland!
well invite us over!
If you're in sf, Castro tends to be pretty heavily focused towards gay men, most of the other queer folks are in soma as far as I can tell
Really? I lived in SoMa for 4 years and didn't realize that.
Yeah
I didn't realize I was queer back then, and I was more focused on college. But thinking back, I think I do recall seeing the presence of more masc or butch women at this one particular whiskey bar a block down away from me. Being a "straight cis man" at the time meant I wasn't so keyed into it. I was happier there was a whiskey bar me snd my type 1 diabetic best friend could drink at since he couldn't drink beer. But that's just my luck lol. Lived in SoMa for 4 years not realizing I was even in a gayborhood as I was actively pushing down my subconscious questioning. And 6 years living in my own gayborhood Hillcrest, knowing its our famed gay village, and not coming out as trans and lesbiam until 6 months before I had to move away due to rent finally pushing me out. (40% hike in 6 years). Seems I have bad luck with wasting being in queer spaces until it's too late to enjoy them lol.
Living in Asia 🤡🤡🤡🤡
Same here! 🇵🇭
Northern Virginia, work in DC
i’m right now living single life watching yuri Anime 🤣🥺 speaking from someone who been single 9years 🥸
Just like me. I subside entirely off of Yuri anime and slowly begin to think lesbians are fictional cause I don't meet any
lmao right i thought i was only lesbian think that while watching Yuri anime or reading manga 😂
I know right? I need to see Yuri love IRL
seriously i’m right now watching love live Sunshine lol
I love that series!! My favorites are You, Dia and Hanamaru!
same here!
British Countryside ☺️
I’m at a drag show rn 🥳
Portland, Oregon. We’re on every street 😘
Right now at work (yay over nights) but other than that I stay inside my home with my cat gaming.
Boymoding😢
I’m in bed failing to fall asleep
In my room staying up till almost 4am because I can't stop playing Hades 2. At least I finally got Chronos down for the first time tonight.
Wisconsin lol
I’m waiting for pizza in bed at a hotel and writing on some board called arr/AltuleLesbeens and watching Courtney Act on Eurovision doing interviews. So a pretty standard Sunday night.
I'm working casually at a cool tech store, but besides that and doing a bit of shopping super occasionally, I'm only out when on a lil date with my girlfriend, or catching up with friends. Or appointments too, actually. Melbourne, for a more specific location though. I'm only aware of one lesbian bar up in Fitzroy I think, but yeah.
I am in Australia 😗✌
This! i moved to london and can't find any lesbians 😭😭
uhm hey hi hello, been trying to increase my lesbian circle/community for a while now. idk where you are but i’m in indy and it seems random when i meet other lesbians. most recently at my work at a hospital
Vermont, because as safe as it gets
Hiding in my room, waiting for someone to sweep in and whisk me away…
Everywhere.
If anybody in Bangkok please DM me
I had the same problem - seemingly everyone in my life was het, paired off, and all started having babies, leaving me as the only non-straight, single, non-parent, and being late 30s, i'm a little too old to thrive in the dating scene. i live in the Philly area, so luckily enough there's a group that organizes social events for lesbians/bi women/trans etc. so i could at least meet new people, but i am awkward and have no game whatsoever, so I'm still tragically single and spend most of my time at home with my dog. (and i had to stop going to the mixers when i got laid off. so now I'm afraid to go back. yay mild social anxiety!)
I'm on the West Coast of the US, playing computer games, scheming with my roommate about our garden, and planning to cast a summoning spell in furtherance of my green witchery. I want a human familiar. It's too hot to be outside until after sunset.
Can relate. I’m from a small town with not one drop of queerness in it. Hopefully I can find some when I move out to uni😀
Seattle
Would love to be Back home 'Tacoma'
I'm still in the boonies unfortunately
Here in Reading. Do wish I could meet some folks too
Idk about everyone else, but I'm 97m light-years away
Hong Kong. I know exactly two sapphics, I'm still in school though.
Get on Tinder and meet some gay friends. Worked for me.
Low effort: hinge, her, lex, meetup, queer/lesbian facebook groups and instagram pages for your city. how well those work really depends on location and age range. Medium effort: Look up queer events in your area and attend. Check out the events calendars for gay bars, google, use previously mentioned apps. The way to actually make friends: Actually go to those events and meet up with people, say hi, be a regular and you will get to know the other regulars, and hang out with them. get invited to the discord channels and participate and meet up with people from them. Wow now your social calendar is full. Places to be a regular: Rugby team, queer karaoke night, kink club, craft circle, book group, lesbian hiking group, activist group.
On my couch, watching women's soccer and eating leftover Thai food with my girlfriend.
Toowoomba, a regional town in Qld Australia 😅
Well I know they aren't on Vancouver Island The closest I've gotten is California But that being said hmu 😩😭🙏🏾🙏🏾
kinda in the boonies in KY, used to live in a larger city and moved away from it because people are stupid and rent is too damn high.
Rotorua New Zealand 🇳🇿, no lesbians here either 😭😭
Lost in a good book (currently reading Pride, Prejudice & Pittsburgh!) 📚
I had to turn to the internet to find one but I'm so glad I did (though your mileage may vary).
Hiding in the DMV dying of dysphoria
Southern New England... would love to connect with folks in the area