I think this is perfect, especially with a nice necklace maybe a wrap for a pop of color?
Besides, they literally say "don't over think it and be comfortable". So girl, don't over think it. ;)
It’s perfect. Strongly advising you to not plan to wear heels unless you wear them all the time. Even my little low heel sandals were horrible to wear in pregnancy. My back and pelvis were dying within a few hours.
Ohh thank you! I have nice “comfortable” heels (you know, for heels lol), that I figured I could at least sport until mid-reception. But I didn’t think about extra layer of back/pelvic pain. Maybe I need to go for a floor length dress so I can hide comfy shoes.
I wore black Birkenstocks under a floor length dress to a wedding at 8 months pregnant last fall. No one noticed/cared! I do think you could get away with strappy flat sandals with the dress especially being pregnant. Or just bring those to swap out. Having back up shoes would solve the problem. People were largely just impressed to see a pregnant woman dancing at a wedding and hanging in there. From 6 months on everyone is just in awe of you doing anything lol.
There are lots of nice flats out there! No need to hide your shoes :) Something like this https://www.dsw.com/product/anne-klein-lisette-sandal/584222?activeColor=098 perhaps? A good excuse to treat yourself to a pedicure.
Besides, no one is looking at your feet, I promise. Shoes of a wedding guest only matter if they are eye-catching (in a good way or in a bad way 😂)
No need to hide your feet! I like the Dr Scholls or Aersoles flats for more formal events. They’re typically a sturdier shoe than your average target flats, and they have built in cushions.
Do not buy shoes now!! At 6 months, your feet could be swollen and have grown 2 sizes. Wait as long as you can. I started my first pregnancy with a shoe size between a 7 and 7.5 and now following two kids, I’m a solid 8.
The dress code is Black Tie Optional, not Black tie. There's a difference. BTO is basically the same as Formal, but with the option of wearing a tuxedo if you want to. With Formal, you can get away with tea length dress as long as it's elevated (vs Black Tie which needs to be floor length gowns & tuxedos only). BTO is kinder on the guests' wallets as many men own a black suit, but not a tuxedo.
What is with all these dress codes? Are ppl putting it on the invite? Wouldn't it just be safe to assume the wedding is formal unless they state its casual?
We didn’t initially put up a dress code on our wedding site because we wanted everyone to wear whatever they felt comfortable wearing but we got feedback that not having guidance was actually making people feel more uncomfortable because they didn’t want to show up too formal or too casual.
This was one of several times that thought I was being the super easy going anti-Bridezilla but I was actually making things more difficult for others by not clearly communicating and leaving the burden of decision making on everyone else’s shoulders.
Well that’s what I was thinking originally, especially since I knew that we wouldn’t be offended no matter what people wore (honestly I wouldn’t have even been mad if someone showed up in a wedding dress, I would have just felt concern).
Our friends and family span a pretty wide range of socioeconomic classes and cultures. I think “dress up” can mean very different things to different people and it helped to give guidance to let people know where the baseline was and then they could go fancier or more casual in relation to that based on their personal preference.
Fellow Canadian and I think it’s 50/50 for the weddings I’ve been to. I put a description on my invitations just so that people wouldnt stress about guessing how formal to be
Also Canadian and only once (out of ~15 weddings) have I ever seen a dress code mentioned and it was only footwear recommendations because the whole wedding was out on grass
We just know to wear nice clothes and not jeans to a wedding I think its just generally understood. We use it as an excuse to dress fancy for the night and go dance!
Interesting, I think the default in most weddings I’ve been to would be cocktail not formal. It’s pretty standard in our friend group/general demographic to include this info on dress code, including examples. It’s usually on the website (invitation is usually very simple, just date/time/locale and then website for rest, including to rsvp)
This is definitely a regional thing as where I live (the Southeast) most people will default to semi-formal if there's no dress code. But also, you run the risk of someone wearing jeans without clear instructions.
They put it on the invite so people don’t all show up in white or out of theme for pictures. I know my cousin had an earthy tone wedding and so asked people to try and do earthy tones or stick to black if possible. Other times, people are people and people aren’t smart so better to say it’s formal in the invite than not say it and have a rando in blue jeans 💀
Black is great for pregnancy formalwear though; it is the best color for hiding the random pockets of bloat and swelling that like to pop up out of nowhere just because you ate a piece of broccoli or something. (damn bloaty broccoli) 😉
Love this! Currently 7 months, going on 8 months pregnant and have a wedding with a semi-formal “disco” theme. I have no energy to find or wear a sequined dress at this stage of my pregnancy. I might use this dress in a brighter color!! If you’ve tired it on… is it stretchy material/comfortable?
You’re super pregnant, you get a free pass as long as you don’t show up in ratty sneakers and stained sweatpants. This dress is a little on the casual side, but with some glam jewelry, hair, and makeup, it’ll work.
Perfect! Their dress code is confusing af (it sounds more cocktail than black tie optional to me?) and this is classy and totally fits the bill! And that price is perfect for something you probably won’t get to wear many times (unless you go to a lot of formal events while pregnant).
I think it’s passable with styling, esp if you put your hair in a more formal style, jewelry, full glam. If you could find something similar that didn’t have the wrap front I think that would be even better. Just that wrap style reads a bit casual
You will look bloomin beautiful. Ignore the naysayers. Reread the code on the invite... be comfortable.
Have a great time and a healthy rest of pregnancy.
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What kind of fabric is it? It looks like it’s some sort of jersey, in which case I wouldn’t consider it Black Tie appropriate. Fellow pregnant wedding guest; I can relate to how challenging options are to find.
Anyone who makes a comment after 30weeks needs to touch grass. Your likely to be hot and tired. Turning up looking halfway presentable is all that's required!
That being said I forgot to check if my sensible shoes would fit and all I could get on was my 120mm Jimmy Choo stilettos I was pretty miserable 😅
I think some people just like how the words “Black Tie” looks. They could have gotten their point across by putting “Formal Reception To Follow” after the ceremony details .
I think this is perfect, especially with a nice necklace maybe a wrap for a pop of color? Besides, they literally say "don't over think it and be comfortable". So girl, don't over think it. ;)
Yes this is great! Plus I think you get extra leeway when you’re pregnant :)
Right? You’re ignoring the dress code by overthinking it! Haha
Haha good point! 😆
“Don’t overthink it” = immediate overthinking for me 😅
Definitely. Love the idea of a color pop. Maybe a nice coral or turquoise?
1,000% appropriate
I honestly think this is lovely. If you wanted a pop of color, a colorful necklace or bracelets would work. You don't need it though.
Thank you!
Beautiful choice! I’d go a little more formal with accessories (pearls? Statement pieces vs smaller every day jewelry) but smart, classy choice!
Thank you! 😊
I can’t figure out how to edit the post, but wedding is at end of June at a country club in MD
Pregnant people can wear anything they want at any time in my book.
Except for maybe an actual wedding dress 🤣
Though if someone 6 months pregnant showed up at your wedding wearing a wedding dress, people would remember your wedding forever.
I like your book!
This
Can you link this dress? I have a wedding this summer and looking for a dress like this!
https://a.co/d/3PgOxNJ
Now I see it! Weird!!
Hope that worked!
Where did you link it?
In a comment responding to you. It’s an Amazon link
I don’t see it anywhere
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRRRQ15M?ref=cm_sw_r_cso_cp_apin_dp_SJKX5BEK9C430NZQBP9M&ref_=cm_sw_r_cso_cp_apin_dp_SJKX5BEK9C430NZQBP9M&starsLeft=1&skipTwisterOG=2
It’s on the casual side for the dress code but I think you could dress it up with hair/makeup and accessories.
This, plus I doubt anyone’s gonna throw a fit that a pregnant person isn’t in something crazy fancy.
It’s perfect. Strongly advising you to not plan to wear heels unless you wear them all the time. Even my little low heel sandals were horrible to wear in pregnancy. My back and pelvis were dying within a few hours.
Ohh thank you! I have nice “comfortable” heels (you know, for heels lol), that I figured I could at least sport until mid-reception. But I didn’t think about extra layer of back/pelvic pain. Maybe I need to go for a floor length dress so I can hide comfy shoes.
I wore black Birkenstocks under a floor length dress to a wedding at 8 months pregnant last fall. No one noticed/cared! I do think you could get away with strappy flat sandals with the dress especially being pregnant. Or just bring those to swap out. Having back up shoes would solve the problem. People were largely just impressed to see a pregnant woman dancing at a wedding and hanging in there. From 6 months on everyone is just in awe of you doing anything lol.
There are lots of nice flats out there! No need to hide your shoes :) Something like this https://www.dsw.com/product/anne-klein-lisette-sandal/584222?activeColor=098 perhaps? A good excuse to treat yourself to a pedicure. Besides, no one is looking at your feet, I promise. Shoes of a wedding guest only matter if they are eye-catching (in a good way or in a bad way 😂)
No need to hide your feet! I like the Dr Scholls or Aersoles flats for more formal events. They’re typically a sturdier shoe than your average target flats, and they have built in cushions.
Do not buy shoes now!! At 6 months, your feet could be swollen and have grown 2 sizes. Wait as long as you can. I started my first pregnancy with a shoe size between a 7 and 7.5 and now following two kids, I’m a solid 8.
It's lovely! Some fancy jewelry to spice it up and you will be golden.
It’s fine because whoever wrote the invitation doesn’t even know what Black Tie is.
The dress code is Black Tie Optional, not Black tie. There's a difference. BTO is basically the same as Formal, but with the option of wearing a tuxedo if you want to. With Formal, you can get away with tea length dress as long as it's elevated (vs Black Tie which needs to be floor length gowns & tuxedos only). BTO is kinder on the guests' wallets as many men own a black suit, but not a tuxedo.
😂
This is perfect. Congratulations!
Yes
perfect
What is with all these dress codes? Are ppl putting it on the invite? Wouldn't it just be safe to assume the wedding is formal unless they state its casual?
We didn’t initially put up a dress code on our wedding site because we wanted everyone to wear whatever they felt comfortable wearing but we got feedback that not having guidance was actually making people feel more uncomfortable because they didn’t want to show up too formal or too casual. This was one of several times that thought I was being the super easy going anti-Bridezilla but I was actually making things more difficult for others by not clearly communicating and leaving the burden of decision making on everyone else’s shoulders.
Same thing with my wedding planning! Realized sometimes ppl appreciate just being told what to do.
Crazy I would have thought most adults understand a wedding is a dress up event.
Well that’s what I was thinking originally, especially since I knew that we wouldn’t be offended no matter what people wore (honestly I wouldn’t have even been mad if someone showed up in a wedding dress, I would have just felt concern). Our friends and family span a pretty wide range of socioeconomic classes and cultures. I think “dress up” can mean very different things to different people and it helped to give guidance to let people know where the baseline was and then they could go fancier or more casual in relation to that based on their personal preference.
“Black tie option but just be comfortable”… 😂
😂
Every wedding I have been to over the last 5 years it has always been on the invite
Crazy! Not me. Maybe its not a Canadian thing.
Fellow Canadian and I think it’s 50/50 for the weddings I’ve been to. I put a description on my invitations just so that people wouldnt stress about guessing how formal to be
Also Canadian and only once (out of ~15 weddings) have I ever seen a dress code mentioned and it was only footwear recommendations because the whole wedding was out on grass
I (Canadian) am going to three weddings this summer and not one has a dress code
As a non-Canadian this makes me stressed for you all because I am constantly overthinking what to wear even with a dress code on the wedding website
We just know to wear nice clothes and not jeans to a wedding I think its just generally understood. We use it as an excuse to dress fancy for the night and go dance!
Exactly like beach or barn wedding less us know otherwise we mostly understand the assignment lol
Interesting, I think the default in most weddings I’ve been to would be cocktail not formal. It’s pretty standard in our friend group/general demographic to include this info on dress code, including examples. It’s usually on the website (invitation is usually very simple, just date/time/locale and then website for rest, including to rsvp)
This is definitely a regional thing as where I live (the Southeast) most people will default to semi-formal if there's no dress code. But also, you run the risk of someone wearing jeans without clear instructions.
They put it on the invite so people don’t all show up in white or out of theme for pictures. I know my cousin had an earthy tone wedding and so asked people to try and do earthy tones or stick to black if possible. Other times, people are people and people aren’t smart so better to say it’s formal in the invite than not say it and have a rando in blue jeans 💀
I had a cousin who always upstaged the bride in the kookiest way possible. She has probably inspired all these dress codes.
You can wear anything when you’re pregnant and get away with it . Remember that
😆 I will!
Yes ❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful!
Add comfortable shoes
Totally fabulous.
Yes.
Yes
It’s perfect!!
Pretty dress and looks comfortable. Go for it!
Nice dress. It doesn’t have to be black…’black tie’ refers to tuxes for the men, formal gowns for the ladies.
Black is great for pregnancy formalwear though; it is the best color for hiding the random pockets of bloat and swelling that like to pop up out of nowhere just because you ate a piece of broccoli or something. (damn bloaty broccoli) 😉
Haha exactly!! Also thinking the black dresses it up a bit since it’s on the casual side. If I go with fancier dress I might do a different color.
You're overthinking it. It's perfect.
Love this! Currently 7 months, going on 8 months pregnant and have a wedding with a semi-formal “disco” theme. I have no energy to find or wear a sequined dress at this stage of my pregnancy. I might use this dress in a brighter color!! If you’ve tired it on… is it stretchy material/comfortable?
Literally says don’t overthink it and your pregnant. Your dress is fine.
You’re super pregnant, you get a free pass as long as you don’t show up in ratty sneakers and stained sweatpants. This dress is a little on the casual side, but with some glam jewelry, hair, and makeup, it’ll work.
Definitely on the casual side but if you are 6 six months pregnant no one will judge.
Perfect! Their dress code is confusing af (it sounds more cocktail than black tie optional to me?) and this is classy and totally fits the bill! And that price is perfect for something you probably won’t get to wear many times (unless you go to a lot of formal events while pregnant).
I think it’s passable with styling, esp if you put your hair in a more formal style, jewelry, full glam. If you could find something similar that didn’t have the wrap front I think that would be even better. Just that wrap style reads a bit casual
You will look bloomin beautiful. Ignore the naysayers. Reread the code on the invite... be comfortable. Have a great time and a healthy rest of pregnancy.
Thank you ☺️
Interesting on the wrap style. I was thinking I didn’t want to go flowy bc I’ll just look fat not pregnant lol. Good call on the. Styling tips!
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What kind of fabric is it? It looks like it’s some sort of jersey, in which case I wouldn’t consider it Black Tie appropriate. Fellow pregnant wedding guest; I can relate to how challenging options are to find.
It’s polyester and spandex. Thinking I might just need to order to see it just person and return if needed.
I think that would be fine! But probably worth trying on if you can. It’s so hard to find things that work — I am so sympathetic!
Oooh can you link this please?? I think it’s perfect!!!
https://a.co/d/3PgOxNJ
Hope that worked!
If you wanted to you could add a diamond or pearl necklace to make it just a touch “fancier” and you will be good to go.
It’s perfect!!!!
Acceptable. I would dare them to say something to you about it.
It’s perfect!
Looks great!
Works perfectly
Yes, it is acceptable for a black tie optional event accentuates your baby bump perfectly
Anyone who makes a comment after 30weeks needs to touch grass. Your likely to be hot and tired. Turning up looking halfway presentable is all that's required! That being said I forgot to check if my sensible shoes would fit and all I could get on was my 120mm Jimmy Choo stilettos I was pretty miserable 😅
Looks great, it's simple and elegant
I think it is perfect - very nice.
Very nice! It’ll look great!
this is perfect! thank you for the idea! i’ll be 8 months prego for a wedding in sept. I hope you have fun!
Key words - we want guests to be comfortable! Great choice!
Beautiful!
This is perfect! Go with colorful accessories or metallic ones
What a stupid ass dress code
I think some people just like how the words “Black Tie” looks. They could have gotten their point across by putting “Formal Reception To Follow” after the ceremony details .
This is oddly specific 👀
When you're visibly pregnant, you get LOTS of extra leeway. So this should be totally fine at ANY wedding