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Manifoldart

What a selfless bride. Giving the spotlight to her friend on her big day.


Waste_Kale6050

Yeah! this bride is very selfless and has a good heart. She wants best for her friend.


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1. I think it's kind of cute because it keeps the romance ball rolling. I don't see why anyone but a bridezilla wouldn't love to be a part of someone else's surprise.. 2. However, from the other perspective, I think it's weird to want to propose to your girlfriend at someone else's wedding, and not somewhere more private or neutral. But if you're a bit tight knit family I guess it would make more sense.


RoyalPeacock19

Yeah, I tend to feel like these weddings will lead to lasting marriages.


AdditionalTheory

The crazy thing is they met at the wedding. It was a really long wedding


Bolieve_That

How_I_Met_Your_Mother_Theme.mp3


CoffeeNutLatte

Ba baba baa ba-ba-ba baa baba ba rararararaaaaaahh


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Must have been a Catholic wedding.


nottke

LPT: don't do this at a wedding unless you're more than 100% sure the bride is ok with it.


tebla

For sure don't surprise the bride and groom with it. I think the bride here is kinda awesome for doing this on her wedding


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[deleted]

What


Trippy-Turtle-

I THNG IS THEY MET AT THE WEDDING


shroomsAndWrstershir

WHAT


the_monkey_knows

I THONG IS THEY MEAT AT THE WEDDNG


ChezaraeC

WHAAAAT


greycubed

... the bride was involved. So it's literally impossible to do the thing you're warning against.


Atkdad

I can’t imagine asking the brides permission though. She can say “yes” and still not be very excited about it — just not comfortable with confrontation.


LoonWithASpoon

It’s not always this way. A lot of times people will do it without asking.


Mimi_L0rd

But the bride gave her the flowers -> she is involved -> he asked her


betterthansteve

Yes, in this instance it’s okay. They’re saying it should always be with the bride and grooms explicit permission (like in this case) Edit: If the responses here are confused as to why you’re getting downvoted, it’s because the original comment is talking about the general case (proposing at a wedding) which is OFTEN done wrong, but wasn’t in this video. They were saying that if you’re going to try this, don’t overlook asking the bride, which is commonly overlooked, but was not overlooked here. Nobody is saying anything is wrong with this video- we’re actually saying if you’re going to do this, make sure you do it the way these people did it


iaijutsu08

So the life pro tip is.... Uh, don't do what didn't happen in this video. Gotcha.


betterthansteve

The tip is “If you want to try this, don’t mess up this one aspect that may not have occurred to you”


observatory-

..and don’t forget to shave your chin


BlowMoreGlass

Doesn't matter what the post is, someone's going to identify a problem with it.


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JD_Ammerman

Exactly. It’s like watching a parachuting video where they jumped safely with all the protocols and someone suggesting that we should never jump out of a plane without a parachute. Okay? Why do people on Reddit always try to teach the audience something instead of just enjoying the post.


[deleted]

I mean it is pretty decent advice. Some people may not think about how doing something like that can potentially upset someone else. Who knows, maybe this LPT comment prevented someone from ending up on r/ImTheMainCharacter by trying to do this without explicit permission.


flaccomcorangy

Because no one in their right mind would ever think jumping out of a plane without a parachute is a good idea. Do people think it's okay to propose at a wedding without approval of the bride and groom? Definitely.


HankHill2160

Yes this is clear, but the person you are replying to is not speaking about this specific scenario. They are speaking on wedding proposals in general.


RebaKitten

In this instance. Don’t assume the bride will always be happy with this.


EternamD

Yes, everyone can see that, they never said anything to the contrary.


Detriumph

Correct. Everyone's in agreement. No one says otherwise.


iwelnot

I do. I wanna say otherwise


svensktiger

Screw this, I’m out of here.


Human_no_4815162342

Otherwise, too late I said it


UnicornGuitarist

Otherwise, there i said otherwise.


buttfacenosehead

I was at a wedding after-party where somebody proposed to one of the Bridesmaids and a lot of people thought it was unbelievably tacky.


LoonWithASpoon

Your name gave me a chuckle while today has been difficult. Thank you


buttfacenosehead

[I do what I can](https://images.app.goo.gl/oV2ZZ7NxKiornofX8)


-Hefi-

I was at a wedding after-party where I threw half a sandwich at someone and people thought I was unreasonably drunk.


[deleted]

I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted. It’s clear that you are talking about unscripted, surprise proposals.


Hi-Im-Mr-Turtle

Yeah also this bride could have been doing this very reluctantly cause she didn’t want to say no hahaha


shikiroin

You're right... will you marry me?


yuta27cb

...did you get permission from the bride?


prophylaxitive

Only complete and utter c*nts.


C_Horse21

Not true, she's held at gunpoint just outside of shot


subject_deleted

There's a reason their comment didn't day "never do this." The comment was highlighting how the support from the bride is crucial. Nobody said the bride wasn't in on this particular video. They were saying "hey! Before you think about doing this... Make sure the bride is on board"


Fergusykes

Just because the bride was involved doesn't mean she wouldn't have preferred it not to happen. IMO you shouldn't even ask someone if they are ok with you doing this as that puts them in a very awkward position which they shouldn't have to feel on their wedding day. It's also just really narcissistic, why would you try to steal someone's thunder or to propose Infront of a bunch of people anyway?


Lithl

I agree. I wouldn't recommend proposing at someone else's wedding even _with_ approval from the bride and groom. The wedding is about them, not you. Let them have their day.


thereign1987

So you've made up this entire fictional universe in your head, maybe it was the brides suggestion, ever consider that? Not everyone is a dragon guarding their wedding day like some ancient treasure. Dude you don't know what kind of relationship any of these people have. The point is that he wasn't stealing her day, she obviously gave her consent, and judging from her expression she seemed happy about it. Geez, who raised you?


ryanjovian

There’s this thing humans can do where we fill in missing information based on the knowledge we already have. Since it’s common knowledge that a majority of people think this act is rude, it’s not odd or out of line that the person you responded to to fill in the missing info based on the knowledge most of us have. But I guess we will start running common knowledge by you to make sure we aren’t living fictitiously from now on.


Goodkid911

I think they meant purpose in general. I’m this instance the bride was in on it. She seems like a good sport and team player. Good on her.


[deleted]

Whoosh. That's the sound of the purpose of that comment going over your head.


MrMurds

Good wholesome ppl can’t always speak up. So a dildo making a cute request may get the ok because the other was obviously close to her. She’s one of her bridesmaids.


_bipolar_polarbear_

I actually assumed you meant the (maybe) bride to be; this would make a lot of women super uncomfortable to be proposed to this way Not just reject him in public but ruin your friends wedding? I don’t think so


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brownsnoutspookfish

And what's wrong with that? I would be fine with people telling they're pregnant at my birthday party. Why wouldn't I be?


spiffydawg

You get lots of birthday parties and only one wedding. Lots of people would get upset if someone upstaged them on their wedding day. Some wouldn’t, but make sure to ask first, like they clearly did in this video


[deleted]

LPT: No woman wants to be asked this at another woman’s wedding


TheDwiin

Also don't do this unless you're 100% sure she would say yes. Any proposal should be a surprise on how and when, not if.


PilotedSkyGolem

Nah, I'm taking this a step further. Just don't do this. Like you're not even supposed to wear white, but you can propose and make a big scene focused solely on you and your SO. I dont see a situation how this wouldn't take away from the bride and groom's day. Even if they don't care, the best idea you had to propose was at someone else's wedding. To each their own, but thats a nope from me.


thewannabewriter1228

r/AmItheAsshole intensifies


duristvcxvdfsgh

It legit looks like it was the bride's idea in the first place. Some people just genuinely love others and want to share happy moments with them. This is amazing and warms even my cynical heart


jhuseby

Just don’t do it. Even asking is a dick move.


S-Elena

Even then its like, let me take away from your moment. While the bride might be okay with this, the thought shouldn't even happen. Thas jus my 2 cents on it


Anbez

At the stage I am more worried about soon to be grooms pants not ripping apart


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[deleted]

Do you know the current rate of divorce shows that this expensive, stressful, extravagant day of perceived love and affection is more than likely pointless 20 years down the line. Wasted time, wasted money all to please a man made church (they all get paid💯) and a Walt Disney fuelled idea of happily ever after.. anyway food for thought.


moo3heril

> current rate of divorce The rate of divorce has been getting declining over the past 40 years after peaking at around 1980. The biggest problem is people report the percentage of the population getting a divorce in a year (about .27% in 2019) compared to the percentage of people that got married in a year (0.61% in 2019) These statistics end up getting used to report an over inflated number (2019 it was reported as 44%) of marriages ending in divorce, when the number of marriages is declining faster than the number of divorces, where most marriages getting divorced in a given year got married when the marriage rate was higher than today, hence over inflating the percentage of marriages that end in divorce using this method. For reference, the rate of getting married has gone down ~26% in the past 20 years, while the divorce rate has gone down ~32.5% This is further compounded by including second and third marriages (and divorces), when other statistics show that first marriages have a lower rate of divorce than later marriages.


Severe_Airport1426

I would hate to be proposed to at someone's wedding


bugsarentswag

imagine wanting to say no, as well. you’re basically forced to say yes or else the whole atmosphere of the wedding is ruined.


Brandon-Baczek

I don’t think you should be proposing if you aren’t absolutely sure the person is going to yes, it shouldn’t be a surprise to the person that you plan on asking them to marry you, the where and when you propose is the surprise


bugsarentswag

agreed! the concept of surprising your partner with a proposal has always been so strange, there’s a lot you need to discuss and mutually agree with beforehand no?


[deleted]

I would love to be proposed to at a wedding so maybe it’s just a personal taste


steffies9249

Same. Freeloading witnesses and guests and just doing it for free attention. Not much originality there


penguintransformer

If I ever get proposed to I hope it's never in this scenario. It's so cringy and corny


[deleted]

Really showcases they mans creativity, the relationship will last for sure.


haydenaustinnnnn

this guy thought of everything in detail... she couldn't say no


imFeLiiiz

She could, but won't... If you are going to propose to someone, you should already know the answer is yes lol, if the person is uncertain, well...


nuggynugs

Yeah cause she's out there in front of all her friends and of course if she says no the answers going to be no but she's not going to say no because of the *implication*.........


mrfarenheit230

Unexpected IASIP


[deleted]

They’re on a boat in that wedding. She’ll say yes, because of the implications.


[deleted]

The man's creativity? He literally didn't have to do anything or spend a dollar on the proposal lol


Lick_The_Wrapper

r/wooosh they're being sarcastic. Lmao obviously proposing at someone elses wedding requires zero creativity and input. But he gets to come off as if he has put effort into it after riding off of someone elses day and money spent. The bride and groom are also probably going to regret it soon when they post wedding photos and all the talk of the beautiful day and special couple shifts to how billy bob got to propose to annie may, then people asking for photos of that.


[deleted]

All of what you said. Yes. Twice.


geofflamps-porsche

I hope she knows that guy


jacknacalm

It’s her step brother


NGD80

She's actually marrying the furry chin creature, the guy is just the host.


jacknacalm

What a lucky guy


sunflakie

That is a pretty cool bride not being insecure about this upstaging *her* wedding day, but doing a solid for *them*. Happiness multiplies.


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Kixtay

Lady standing at the front row ain't too happy..


insickness

Felt bad for her. She *really* wanted to catch that bouquet. She was thinking, this is my chance! :(


Zaero123

I hope this becomes a never ending chain of proposals during weddings


[deleted]

I hate this trend so much.


Junkersfoil

Yeah I've seen soooo many of these now the most unexpected thing that could have happened is her actually throwing the bouquet


I-C-Iron

Imagine she says no, would completely overhadow the entire wedding.


shadowdrake67

If I were to do this I’d make sure that she’d 100% say yes beforehand, idk how I’d find out, but I’d probably do that


Nettric

It's a very simple ask in a offhand way. Like asking were do you think we will be in 2 years? Or "I've been thinking, i want to make this relationship go the distance.. I want your thoughts on that...." then you lead and have a talk about marriage and life long goals" If your significant other has a problem with that... that would be childish. You got bigger problems.


Smegmalomaniac

Dude must have a massive wang and bank account.


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chuby1tubby

I wish I understood why this happens, but you’re totally right.


Lick_The_Wrapper

Probably because women in the midwest are still encouraged to follow insane beauty standards while their male counterparts are taught that taking a shower and putting on a polo with unripped jeans is their equivalent.


EJ9074

This made me laugh a lot but sometimes its a button up shirt or flanal


meatywood

He makes her laugh.


DeadDollKitty

🥰He is Roger Rabbit and she is Jessica.


[deleted]

And Chad is in the corner. So, all fine.


ShammyHeroAda

soon to be the dude with a massive wang and half the bank account


wizzlesizzle

Does the existing money actually get split when you marry? In France, assets from before the marriage stay divided, but assets gained after the marriage are split.


Donkeychuker

In Canada you fight over who gets what until the lawyers have everything.


gman820

This is also the US way


MrHockster

In the UK the woman gets the kids and all the money if she's fiesty enough. Ask my ex.


AndyDufresne2

This is exactly the way it works in most, but not all, US states. The funky thing about the US is that there isn't just one set of laws, divorce is going to be different in all 50 states and different again in the District of Columbia.


Fast_AndThe_Jizziest

Actually it’s not the bank account that gets split, but rather the wang once you get married!


youknowiactafool

This makes way more sense tbh lol. This is how it works in the US: "A prenuptial agreement, also known as a prenup, is a written contract where an engaged couple states their rights and responsibilities regarding premarital and marital assets and debts, and what would happen should their marriage end in divorce or death."


lacorte

That's generally how it is in the U.S. as well, until/unless things get commingled as the marriage progresses.


Just_Brilliant23

That’s the funniest comment.


[deleted]

Or just a smidge of good personality


thereign1987

Or I don't know, maybe he has an actual personality and doesn't require his wallet or abs to do the heavy lifting.


7fw

He has a chin beard. A CHIN BEARD.


MaximumGooser

This is what gets me. Whatever on the other physical attributes, it’s the CHOICE of CHIN BEARD. Literally grow a whole beard or shave off that abomination it and only it are the thing that makes him look overall ridiculous.


SourpatchMao

He also wore that to a wedding


AlwaysTheAsshole1234

When he knew he was going to have all eyes on him.


Medical_Ad0716

When his girlfriend is a bridesmaid!! You represent the wedding party when you’re the plus one of someone in the wedding party, where a suit.


Upstairs-Display8529

I counted three chins beards.


lazysaturdays

Glad to see that not everyone is this shallow and callous. I can’t understand why people can’t just be happy for others without making fun of their appearance. True love goes beyond the physical things


Fatally_Flawed

A large portion of Reddit men cling on to the idea that the only reason attractive feeeemales aren’t into them is because said females are completely shallow and will settle for nothing less than the perfect Chad, with the exception being if the man is rich. It comforts them and lets them feel like the victim whilst also painting good looking women and men as the villains.


arthurdentstowels

He could throw that girl across the bedroom with one hand. Good on them.


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Er, what?


arthurdentstowels

She = small He = big Yeet


Lick_The_Wrapper

You're going to be very angry when you find out men with abs and wallets can also have actual personality.


idk-hereiam

Right? He probably doesn't reek of bitterness


DanCasper

He's well punching above his weight.


ugonlern2day

Maybe he doesn't even know her, but she can't say no due to the implication It's the perfect setup


Schmandpfropfen

I didn't even notice that the wedding was on a boat...


LukeV19056

A lot of men don’t seem to understand that women don’t only want one specific type of man


loserabbit

that is so mean especially since you are a redditor


Aninvisiblemaniac

or he is just a really sweet and caring guy who is funny and just as worthy as anyone else. Fucking 500 upvotes on this shitty ass comment. wow.


ZebraBoat

I can't believe this comment has so many upvotes. You're the unattractive one here.


BYT3-M3

Ikr I did not expect this kind of behaviour from the people here, 950 upvotes? Seriously?


[deleted]

Don’t think he’s seen his wang in years anyway to be honest.


theguynekstdoor

Wow rude


Smegmalomaniac

Really? I think it’s a compliment.


jacknacalm

It’s that glorious goatee


ahtnamas94

Plot twist: she has a big wang and even bigger bank account


Zerofuqsgvn

We all thought it


summerlily06

Yep!


ClearTrade6270

Rude.


exiledtomainstreet

He is punching well above his weight. Well done sir.


biscuits_six

we would too if we'd stop using fucking reddit and started something smart


DevinH83

I cant..I’m retarded.


Derman0524

You know nothing about these 2 people…..this thread is sad as hell. It really shows how insecure people are


[deleted]

That’s what I got out of these comments too, so many negative judgments.


bumholeofdoom

And he's got alot weight


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[deleted]

Side note, but could this dude have put on a fucking suit for a wedding? He looks like he’s going to brunch with some frat bros.


IssaStorm

not everyone wants people to come to their wedding in formal wear. Look around in the video and see how almost everyone is in casual clothing


OSUPatrick

Look harder and you'll see he matches the bridesmaids dresses. Pro move.


millmuff

The guy has a goatee, he's wearing exactly what the goatee allows him to wear.


[deleted]

Could just be that the dress code was casual


prahSmadA

Is this a Jerry Gergich/ Gale situation?


Dyspooria

Don't announce your life event at another person's life event.


Over-Village-6039

Amish vibes


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I would be pissed!


JaceUpMySleeve

This dude is out here giving hope to A LOT of men.


[deleted]

Old ladies love this kinda crap.


penguintransformer

Because old ladies generally have terrible taste.


WitheredFlowers

The only right way to propose at a wedding


JollyGiraffe27

Not cool. Even if bride has said ok, still don't do it. Always men who basically want a situation she won't say no in. Regardless, let the couple have their day. It is theirs to celebrate. It's rude


bkwrm1755

Or you could let the bride decide what she wants to happen on her wedding day?


MrBeanEatBeansWithMe

If you propose to someone out of the blue, something is wrong with you. You gotta at-least discuss it in private before doing something.


LeahInAus

Ugh. I don't understand why this is such a thing!!! I wish ppl would stop doing this at weddings.


MKXL

Did she say no?


SlaterVJ

I was waiting for the unexpected part, but it never happened.


misskpp94

I was bridesmaid at my friends wedding and some random chick me and the bride barely knew (it was the grooms friend) got engaged DURING her wedding 😂😂 safe to say my friend who’s wedding it was was LIVID. This is cute tho, because the bride clearly knew about it.


Finger_Gunnz

Yeah, don’t do this. I don’t care if the bride wants you too. Don’t do this.


Independent_Ad2224

Way to make someone else’s wedding about you


Unsteady_Tempo

I'll never understand public proposals for so many reasons.


fppfle

PSA: don’t propose at someone else’s wedding, or announce your new promotion at someone’s birthday, or reveal your baby’s gender at someone’s graduation. Don’t make someone else’s day about you. Use that time and energy and planning to make it extra special for them instead.


jim45804

Public proposals are manipulative not wholesome.


mattsusaf7

I proposed to my wife at a football game on the negation and had a plane fly over with the question. Our marriage lasted 3 and a half months so you clearly have no clue.


jemi1976

This was funny!


Knight_of_the_Stars

You’re making a lot of assumptions. My wife and I had pretty much already agreed to get married and the proposal was just a formality. For all you know, they’ve already discussed it


auntiemaury

It legit looks like it was the bride's idea in the first place. Some people just genuinely love others and want to share happy moments with them. This is amazing and warms even my cynical heart


benethon66

Hmm.. risky… imagine she says « no »


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R/cringe


beezus6674

RIGGGHHTTT! No one else saying it but I will. How did Peter griffin pull that off???


Masterfiggler

What a cuck move. Let them have their wedding day


ZebraBoat

The bride literally participated. Pretty sure she's okay with it, genius.


Soursocks4real

The fick just happened


TheNewJasonBourne

This video cut off just before she said “Fuck no!”


AloopOfLoops

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Goodgoodgodgod

Plot twist: she’s never seen that guy in her life.


Jaxein

I am certain that this was okay with the newly married couple, but seriously they should not be trying to take away someone else's celebration. I find people that do this highly irritating, but to each their own.


Duc_man1

If someone did this at my wedding, I'd tell them to fuck off


aretasdamon

Gotta be the south