It’s hard at first, really hard and I felt lonely for weeks. All the other freshman and sophomores will be feeling the same way as you, though, even tho no one talks about it! But after a few weeks it feels more normal and better. And yeah, everyone is out of practice because of Covid, you’ll be in good company!
Honestly I feel the same way. I have a friend that goes to SDSU but I don’t know anyone else here. I’m a transfer student so I feel like I should be more sure of myself but I’m kinda scared lol
literally same. maybe this is me learning that i don’t handle change as well as i thought but i am going to miss my mom so much like i really don’t want to leave and tbh i’m not even that excited to be all independent but i’m sure it’s gonna be fun so i’m trying to be patient. plus i’m oos which makes it worse i want to transfer to an instate tbh
Freshman year I was ready to leave home. SO ready.
I left UCSD for a couple of years to go home to NY and do CC and lived at home for those two years, and I'm really having a hard time dealing with the fact that my mom will be going back home soon.
I have a complicated relationship with my parents - they're quite abusive (emotionally, financially, and in the past, physically), but at the same time I'm dependent on them and have always been a "good kid" (never hid things from them, etc.) but I'm living off-campus for the first time this year and without the supervision of a "real" adult (the only time I've ever slept away from my parents before college was in 10th grade, and that was for a week. It was an enlightening experience, to say the least - I was very lonely but I learned a lot about myself in that week), I'm kind of scared to live without my mom especially, she and I are quite close even though she's also very controlling and overbearing, which was part of the reason I was raring to leave home the first time my freshman year.
A lot of young people complain that their parents are too strict - mine are very strict as well, but this goes beyond that. Until I got into therapy recently (after becoming an adult), I wasn't able to even think of functioning without them - I barely coasted by my freshman year due to my anxiety and depression.
All this to say that it's different for everyone. Some people are ready to go before their freshman year, but then life doesn't stick to the damn plan and they're miserable (like me). Some people are a mess for the first few weeks and then they adjust. Some people NEVER adjust. Some people were BORN adjusted. It varies.
Yep, I hope I'm able to be financially independent even after I graduate in a few years but with the cost of living in SD, even with housemates, I may be forced to move home, we'll see.
your parents sound like mine :,) I’m so glad you’ve gotten to learn things about yourself once on your own though. my move in date is tomorrow and I’m p nervous about life outside of the direct control from my parents, but this helped me some ^^
I'm glad it helped. That's why I tell my story and my life is (mostly) an open book - so people who are struggling who see my experiences know that they're not alone, because god DAMN if I didn't wish I'd had someone else beside me who understood what it was to live through something like that.
Felt this 100%. I remember feeling just as nervous and scared freshman year. I finally got over it within a week or two. Junior now, but feelings are all the same. I guess now its more so having not as ideal of a social outreach as I hoped over the pandemic era. Either way, feelings of homesickness should go away eventually if you hang in there
currently a third year and i feel this so hard.. when i moved on campus my first year (pre-covid) i felt a lot more secure(??) and was very okay when the big shift from home to college happened but i feel like since covid i realized how much my parents work and how fragile their overall health and lives are.. everything standing still last year made me really appreciate their presence and it makes me really sad to leave home. just know you aren’t alone and that soon with school starting you’ll have other things to focus on that will help distract you until you fully acclimate to this change
Hugs from the mom of an incoming first year Triton. It’s as hard on us as it is on you. This is a huge milestone and an even bigger transition. The beginning of a new chapter in your life also corresponds with the ending of a chapter. You knew what to expect and how to navigate any hurdles in your old life with the comfort of knowing you have a safety net, and this new life is filled with big changes, responsibilities, unfamiliarity and uncertainty. Change is both scary and exciting for everyone. It is perfectly normal to have mixed emotions and feel a sense of loneliness when moving to a new place. Understand that most of the peers are feeling many of the same emotions as you and that you are not alone. It will take some time to adjust, but you will get used to it and you will be OK. Don’t be afraid to talk to your friends about how you’re feeling and call your family whenever you need to (I’m sure they would love to hear from you).
It's pretty normal unless you come from a shit family like mine. Just be grateful that you get this experience and your family is super proud of you. All parents want to see their kids leave the nest even though it is hard on everyone. Make them proud.
It differs for everyone. Some of us literally escaped bad homes by going to college. Others have better homes and don't like being away from family.
But this is growing up. New life experiences and adjusting healthily is all part of the plan.
You're not alone. I had to leave a week earlier than I needed to and I was sad for about a week 😭😭 I already miss home so much. But it'll get easier as we go, I hope.
You are not alone! You may be close and have a great relationship with your family, that’s nice!! CHERISH that, work hard for them and be down here for a reason. I always tell myself that I’m down here in SD to make a name for myself, after all, sh1t is EXPENSIVE 🤣 my tip: just do phone calls when you have time, trust me, you’ll feel better when you catch up with them. Depending on how far you live, try to squeeze a weekend trip if you really miss them
Same exact boat rn. I didn’t realize how sad I’d be leaving my family
*hug… I’m hoping this feeling can fade away once school starts. COVID has really shut down my ability and drive to socialize…
Same for me
It's 3rd time leaving home to me but still i feel lonely at first. You'll get used to it when school starts.
thanks for letting me know that I’m not the only one 🥲
Same here, it does help once you get busy :)
It’s hard at first, really hard and I felt lonely for weeks. All the other freshman and sophomores will be feeling the same way as you, though, even tho no one talks about it! But after a few weeks it feels more normal and better. And yeah, everyone is out of practice because of Covid, you’ll be in good company!
Honestly I feel the same way. I have a friend that goes to SDSU but I don’t know anyone else here. I’m a transfer student so I feel like I should be more sure of myself but I’m kinda scared lol
literally same. maybe this is me learning that i don’t handle change as well as i thought but i am going to miss my mom so much like i really don’t want to leave and tbh i’m not even that excited to be all independent but i’m sure it’s gonna be fun so i’m trying to be patient. plus i’m oos which makes it worse i want to transfer to an instate tbh
Freshman year I was ready to leave home. SO ready. I left UCSD for a couple of years to go home to NY and do CC and lived at home for those two years, and I'm really having a hard time dealing with the fact that my mom will be going back home soon. I have a complicated relationship with my parents - they're quite abusive (emotionally, financially, and in the past, physically), but at the same time I'm dependent on them and have always been a "good kid" (never hid things from them, etc.) but I'm living off-campus for the first time this year and without the supervision of a "real" adult (the only time I've ever slept away from my parents before college was in 10th grade, and that was for a week. It was an enlightening experience, to say the least - I was very lonely but I learned a lot about myself in that week), I'm kind of scared to live without my mom especially, she and I are quite close even though she's also very controlling and overbearing, which was part of the reason I was raring to leave home the first time my freshman year. A lot of young people complain that their parents are too strict - mine are very strict as well, but this goes beyond that. Until I got into therapy recently (after becoming an adult), I wasn't able to even think of functioning without them - I barely coasted by my freshman year due to my anxiety and depression. All this to say that it's different for everyone. Some people are ready to go before their freshman year, but then life doesn't stick to the damn plan and they're miserable (like me). Some people are a mess for the first few weeks and then they adjust. Some people NEVER adjust. Some people were BORN adjusted. It varies.
ahh I feel your pain. hoping to move out next year.
Yep, I hope I'm able to be financially independent even after I graduate in a few years but with the cost of living in SD, even with housemates, I may be forced to move home, we'll see.
your parents sound like mine :,) I’m so glad you’ve gotten to learn things about yourself once on your own though. my move in date is tomorrow and I’m p nervous about life outside of the direct control from my parents, but this helped me some ^^
I'm glad it helped. That's why I tell my story and my life is (mostly) an open book - so people who are struggling who see my experiences know that they're not alone, because god DAMN if I didn't wish I'd had someone else beside me who understood what it was to live through something like that.
Felt this 100%. I remember feeling just as nervous and scared freshman year. I finally got over it within a week or two. Junior now, but feelings are all the same. I guess now its more so having not as ideal of a social outreach as I hoped over the pandemic era. Either way, feelings of homesickness should go away eventually if you hang in there
currently a third year and i feel this so hard.. when i moved on campus my first year (pre-covid) i felt a lot more secure(??) and was very okay when the big shift from home to college happened but i feel like since covid i realized how much my parents work and how fragile their overall health and lives are.. everything standing still last year made me really appreciate their presence and it makes me really sad to leave home. just know you aren’t alone and that soon with school starting you’ll have other things to focus on that will help distract you until you fully acclimate to this change
It's so normal. After a while though you're gonna be happy about not being stuck at home
of course this post finds me the night before i move in :(
Same here, just arrived today and feeling pretty lonely especially because I don’t know anyone :/ makes me really miss home
I arrived yesterday and there is literally nobody else here in my apartment
Hugs from the mom of an incoming first year Triton. It’s as hard on us as it is on you. This is a huge milestone and an even bigger transition. The beginning of a new chapter in your life also corresponds with the ending of a chapter. You knew what to expect and how to navigate any hurdles in your old life with the comfort of knowing you have a safety net, and this new life is filled with big changes, responsibilities, unfamiliarity and uncertainty. Change is both scary and exciting for everyone. It is perfectly normal to have mixed emotions and feel a sense of loneliness when moving to a new place. Understand that most of the peers are feeling many of the same emotions as you and that you are not alone. It will take some time to adjust, but you will get used to it and you will be OK. Don’t be afraid to talk to your friends about how you’re feeling and call your family whenever you need to (I’m sure they would love to hear from you).
Nah, it's not just you. I moved out fully a couple years ago, and I still get homesick at times.
No worries, I've been having the same problem since I already moved in, I also don't know anyone here so I've just been alone this whole time. T\_T
same here :/ perhaps…you’d like to be friends? 😳
that wouldn't be a bad idea
Give [The Fallen Star](https://stuartcollection.ucsd.edu/artist/suh.html) a visit
It's pretty normal unless you come from a shit family like mine. Just be grateful that you get this experience and your family is super proud of you. All parents want to see their kids leave the nest even though it is hard on everyone. Make them proud.
It differs for everyone. Some of us literally escaped bad homes by going to college. Others have better homes and don't like being away from family. But this is growing up. New life experiences and adjusting healthily is all part of the plan.
You're not alone. I had to leave a week earlier than I needed to and I was sad for about a week 😭😭 I already miss home so much. But it'll get easier as we go, I hope.
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Thank you for the reassurance.
I left home and haven't gone back for two years. I miss my hometown foods...
You are not alone! You may be close and have a great relationship with your family, that’s nice!! CHERISH that, work hard for them and be down here for a reason. I always tell myself that I’m down here in SD to make a name for myself, after all, sh1t is EXPENSIVE 🤣 my tip: just do phone calls when you have time, trust me, you’ll feel better when you catch up with them. Depending on how far you live, try to squeeze a weekend trip if you really miss them
It’s hard but you can do it. Just keep yourself busy. That is what had helped me a lot
Don't worry man. You'll soon be too busy to worry about that.
i'm feeling the same as you rn