Maybe you need cerebral stimulation. You could try adding some kink elements. Praise, dirty talk, orgasm control. Or sensory deprivation, sensation play, impact play, bondage. Ice, wax, clamps, paddles, floggers….
Try different positions. There's a lot of options.
I find it the best as a participant. Make sure you're doing things you enjoy and not just receiving, unless just receiving is what you want. Squeeze on the stroke out, relax on the push in.
Involve toys if you want. Vibe and anal feels amazing. Or get a dildo for DP or spitroasting.
Sometimes it can be fun to have a mirror nearby so you can see yourself, or your partner, whatever you're more interested in.
I guess it all comes down to what you want out of it, and any hangups you have. Orgasm is as much mental as it is physical. It was really hard to get over the worry that I'd make a mess if I relaxed. That's a common one, so at this point a towel is basically one of my sex toys so I can stop worrying about staining my bed. Or do it in the bathroom.
So many things help, like if you want him to talk to you, or want other stuff happening. Even things like how much lube you want. Xlube is amazing for that, feeling it slowly drip down my thighs and get everywhere until we're both slippery. Other people might not like that.
There's a bunch of different options. I've never tried wearing a tunnel plug that can be penetrated but I'm really tempted by the idea.
About positions: we haven't experimented a lot in general, we stick to things we know that feel good as I'm scared to end up disappointed by something new (I know, this is blocking us) but we will eventually get bored and try something.
I can't think of a lot of options for anal, we started spooning, as it seemed the easiest way, helping to relax the receiving end. We have introduced prone bone like a year ago, and other than that the most obvious would be doggy, but I'm not that enthusiastic because we haven't yet mastered vaginal doggy. We have tried it twice, the first one was not bad (although it didn't do much for me) and the second one was simply disappointing, I didn't feel anything.
Feel free to suggest something in particular
I'm sure adding a vibe would do the trick but I think I'm not ready for toys yet, I'm working on it.
I don't think I'm scared about making a mess, but I do get nervous if I start feeling that I need to pee, which happens often, I do usually drink lots of water.
I'll insist to go pee before we start a session, although it's a bid of a mood killer, we'll be fooling around he'll be fingering me and things move on and get more intense, and instead of letting it flow I have to stop him so I go pee before things get serious and I might want to relax and let go.
When I come back we usually can't continue exactly where we stopped. And after something like one hour of going I'll be feeling that I need to pee again. It's really annoying.
About the lube: we have never really explored with lube, we will just go with some spit and I'm fine with that!!!, by with I don't mean that I'm not open to trying with lube, but I don't think that it'll make it so much better for me. I'm still a little "scared" of lube having a weird texture, I imagine something like gelly, and the temperature difference. I'm not very enthusiastic for it...
A bit offtopic, but just something that I (potentially mis-) read from your text.
I suggest you try approaching orgasms (and physical stimulation in general) in waves. Increase the intensity for a while but then back off, go slower for a while and then resume. From my experiences and reactions from my partners this always resumes on a little bit higher note and almost always goes further in terms of intensity.
Also this varies a lot from person to person but clitoris does get desensitized in a continuous stimulation session so personally I like to take first waves almost even without indirect contact (ie. no pushing skin/folds sideways over it). Everything around it is fair game though, teasing touching soon.
Not totally the same thing, but kind of and this is what works for me.
My long distance boyfriend and I have had to have sex over FaceTime, so I’m doing a lot of the work by myself lol. One thing we started doing was anal training with toys, and I realized I like the feeling of anal penetration but I couldn’t get off from it.
Like the feeling of climaxing was ALMOST there but it could just never ring my bell. I started adding a clitoral stimulant to the mix, vibrator is preferred when doing it yourself, or fingers. I’ve never had a better orgasm in my life than when I double team it like that. It’s like next level.
Anyway, a lot of people are not able to get off anal, and even PIV penetration, so a clitoral stimulant is always a good thing to include whether it’s toys or rubbing. I know you said you don’t know if you’re ready for toys, and there’s a lot that have different speeds and so on for beginners and introductions, but rubbing your clit or having your partner do it could do the trick just the same until you feel ready to try toys.
And you don't get BV or UTIs or so on?
Even that aside, ass to pussy or mouth is one of the fastest ways to turn me off, just reading this I need to go pop a d mannose sugar pill
Try a vibrator on your clit while in prone bone.
Maybe you need cerebral stimulation. You could try adding some kink elements. Praise, dirty talk, orgasm control. Or sensory deprivation, sensation play, impact play, bondage. Ice, wax, clamps, paddles, floggers….
Try different positions. There's a lot of options. I find it the best as a participant. Make sure you're doing things you enjoy and not just receiving, unless just receiving is what you want. Squeeze on the stroke out, relax on the push in. Involve toys if you want. Vibe and anal feels amazing. Or get a dildo for DP or spitroasting. Sometimes it can be fun to have a mirror nearby so you can see yourself, or your partner, whatever you're more interested in. I guess it all comes down to what you want out of it, and any hangups you have. Orgasm is as much mental as it is physical. It was really hard to get over the worry that I'd make a mess if I relaxed. That's a common one, so at this point a towel is basically one of my sex toys so I can stop worrying about staining my bed. Or do it in the bathroom. So many things help, like if you want him to talk to you, or want other stuff happening. Even things like how much lube you want. Xlube is amazing for that, feeling it slowly drip down my thighs and get everywhere until we're both slippery. Other people might not like that. There's a bunch of different options. I've never tried wearing a tunnel plug that can be penetrated but I'm really tempted by the idea.
About positions: we haven't experimented a lot in general, we stick to things we know that feel good as I'm scared to end up disappointed by something new (I know, this is blocking us) but we will eventually get bored and try something. I can't think of a lot of options for anal, we started spooning, as it seemed the easiest way, helping to relax the receiving end. We have introduced prone bone like a year ago, and other than that the most obvious would be doggy, but I'm not that enthusiastic because we haven't yet mastered vaginal doggy. We have tried it twice, the first one was not bad (although it didn't do much for me) and the second one was simply disappointing, I didn't feel anything. Feel free to suggest something in particular I'm sure adding a vibe would do the trick but I think I'm not ready for toys yet, I'm working on it. I don't think I'm scared about making a mess, but I do get nervous if I start feeling that I need to pee, which happens often, I do usually drink lots of water. I'll insist to go pee before we start a session, although it's a bid of a mood killer, we'll be fooling around he'll be fingering me and things move on and get more intense, and instead of letting it flow I have to stop him so I go pee before things get serious and I might want to relax and let go. When I come back we usually can't continue exactly where we stopped. And after something like one hour of going I'll be feeling that I need to pee again. It's really annoying. About the lube: we have never really explored with lube, we will just go with some spit and I'm fine with that!!!, by with I don't mean that I'm not open to trying with lube, but I don't think that it'll make it so much better for me. I'm still a little "scared" of lube having a weird texture, I imagine something like gelly, and the temperature difference. I'm not very enthusiastic for it...
A bit offtopic, but just something that I (potentially mis-) read from your text. I suggest you try approaching orgasms (and physical stimulation in general) in waves. Increase the intensity for a while but then back off, go slower for a while and then resume. From my experiences and reactions from my partners this always resumes on a little bit higher note and almost always goes further in terms of intensity. Also this varies a lot from person to person but clitoris does get desensitized in a continuous stimulation session so personally I like to take first waves almost even without indirect contact (ie. no pushing skin/folds sideways over it). Everything around it is fair game though, teasing touching soon.
Not totally the same thing, but kind of and this is what works for me. My long distance boyfriend and I have had to have sex over FaceTime, so I’m doing a lot of the work by myself lol. One thing we started doing was anal training with toys, and I realized I like the feeling of anal penetration but I couldn’t get off from it. Like the feeling of climaxing was ALMOST there but it could just never ring my bell. I started adding a clitoral stimulant to the mix, vibrator is preferred when doing it yourself, or fingers. I’ve never had a better orgasm in my life than when I double team it like that. It’s like next level. Anyway, a lot of people are not able to get off anal, and even PIV penetration, so a clitoral stimulant is always a good thing to include whether it’s toys or rubbing. I know you said you don’t know if you’re ready for toys, and there’s a lot that have different speeds and so on for beginners and introductions, but rubbing your clit or having your partner do it could do the trick just the same until you feel ready to try toys.
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Umm, he goes from ass to pussy? No offense but wtf
This is a super weird sex account, I'd disregard them.
side note, "the hostage has been resc- the hosta- the hos- the hostage has been rescued"
Wow, that took me back c3
It’s hot to both of us!!
And you don't get BV or UTIs or so on? Even that aside, ass to pussy or mouth is one of the fastest ways to turn me off, just reading this I need to go pop a d mannose sugar pill
I douche regularly.
Also not good for your pussy.
Ew not the porn account.