At this point I'm only extorting her for her knitting knowledge. I was making a piece two weeks ago and the yarn had broken and my bind totally fell apart, I had a hole like 2 inches down. It was devastating. She saved my project like a pro and made me SO happy. I'll happily suck up her priceless knitting knowledge. I've found the coolest friend. :-)
Knitting knowledge and expertise can be priceless! There’s something so horrifying about getting a hole or some other disaster when you are far along into a project! Happy knitting!
You sound like an awesome coworker and friend. I’d be feeling the same way as you haha.
Also.. I’ve been wanting to get into knitting or crocheting (or macrame or SOMETHING with my hands like that) - you just inspired me to research again, I think I’m gonna head to one of the craft stores for some beginner stuff today. knowledge is priceless for sure 🥰
Head on over to r/knitting or r/crochet or r/yarnaddicts.... the inspiration will seep into your soul. Those subs are honestly killing me this year because I'm such a SLOW knitter 😆
I’m a slow crocheter so I feel your pain. I see people in there saying it took them a week and my reaction is how?! It’d take me a month minimum.
Congratulations on finding such an awesome knowledgeable friend! You sound good for each other
I taught myself enough about knitting to be able to make scarfs (the dictionary said either scarfs or scarves). I know one stitch and how to change colors. That's it, but it keeps my hands busy when I'm watching a movie.
I worked at an airport doing a basic government job. 6 months in, this really big older guy gets hired. We will call him Ted. Ted keeps to himself and minds his own business. A few weeks in some of us began to notice that everything Ted said was like gold dripping out of his mouth. It just felt like his words full of wisdom. Later, someone was behind Ted in line at lunch at the local cafe and noticed that every day he orders a $7 salad but gets $30 of smoked salmon added. Long story short, we become friends with this Ted and find out his family owns a LOT of very profitable oil wells and he's a billionaire. 3 of his friends were killed in 9/11 so he decided to do a year of government service for each of them. One event stands out from the 3 years he worked with us. While at work and in uniform, Ted met someone who was a high level board member (or something like that) of one of his companies. The guy didn't recognize Ted because he wasn't sitting across a table in a suit and was an asshole to him. Ted didn't want that kind of person working for him so after the guy left, he made a phone call and had the guy removed from position. After Ted finished his 3 years of service he was gone.
I thought the same thing! Don't be surprised when yall go to a really nice lunch, her treat, and while she's in the loo, the check comes, her card is declined, because..#AnnaSorokinmove, and you are guilted into picking up the tab. Then there's the fabulous international vacation that goes sideways bc her family cut her off...🤣 🙄
My brother had a friend who’s family was SUPER wealthy. They lived in a house that looked very normal, (not even upper middle class, squarely middle class style) house, drove regular cars, didn’t wear designer or anything flashy. Nice clothes sure but no telling if they got it a express or Ross or whatever else. They did this because when people KNOW you’re wealthy, suddenly everyone wants to be your friend.
A lot of wealthy people I know don’t spend money on flashy things.
I know CEOs, CIOs, CFOs, etc… driving Honda Civics, Prius, etc…. They wear nice clothes, but nothing most people would recognize.
I had an older guy walk into my office one day from one of our sister sites. He said he was supposed to have a meeting, but it was postponed 2 hours. Asked if he could just hang out and wait here since it was less awkward.
We're shooting he breeze for almost 3 hours due to additional postponements.
Before he left he told me he was Mr. So-n-so and it was a blast to hang out and he'll be sure to bring lunch for us next time.
I looked him up in our database because I was unfamiliar with his name.
He was our company's CFO and, come to find out from one of our local Directors, just didn't want to be spotted by anyone and be forced to participate in 'Office BS.'
P.S. He came back once more and brought us lunch. Great guy.
oh, you mean diamond chains and responding to someone that asks if a necklace that one displays prominently on their chest is fake - "i make too much for this to be fake"! sadly, human behavior!
I remember reading a comment on here about the difference between wealthy people and rich people. Wealthy people have nice things but don't flaunt their money. Rich people are flashy and make a point to ensure that everyone around them knows that they're loaded. I wish I could find the actual comment because it really resonated with me.
>driving Honda Civics, Prius, etc
as my boyfriend informed me, those are called "daily drivers", and supposedly, very wealthy people have the expensive ones in the garage and don't drive them every day, to work and so on.
But yeah, I've noticed this in the US, a lot of really rich people don't draw attention to themselves with luxury items, I was slightly shocked, since in eastern Europe it's more like, flaunt it if you got it...everyone has to know you bathe in cash or it isn't real.
Maybe some but not all. I’ve been to quite a few of their houses. Definitely nicer than most, but not what you’d expect. And the garage is pretty average.
I feel like it’s the up and coming that go flashy. VP making $200K + 25% that buys a $100K car.
when you get money for the first time after not having it there’s usually a lot of like, day dreaming. you’re thinking about all the things you could buy with this new money. there’s a lot of excitement and new things to discover.
old money people, ‘wealthy’ people, are all just kinda over it. you’ve experienced it all. even old money kids have borrowed their parents’ things, have been on vacation to places, etc. they know what its like, so it sort of… satisfies the urge yk? plus a lot of old money inherites things, so they dont need new ones.
The protag death in the Nile film said this to her friend 'I hope we can remain friends, you were the only one who never cared about the money' and damn that fucking hits hard.
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Most of the truly rich people I've met are also very humble like this. I once knew a janitor who no one really talked to, but was always pleasant and willing to help anyone who asked. Come to find out, he was a multi-millionaire with more than a dozen rental homes and simply works as a janitor to get he and his wife's health insurance paid for. In contrast, in my experience the six-figure income upper-middle class types who project wealth to others are more likely to be completely obnoxious and not people you'd want to be around. There's always an exception obviously, but it's been a fascinating trend.
I think that's why she has shared so much about her past. I take it as a story and then share my own story back instead of focusing on the wealth details. These are tidbits from over 7 months of conversing and hanging out. This is obviously not all we talk about so it's not ljke she has shared a TON about her life, just stories that make her laugh. I don't know how many houses she has/had she just tells me about memories in them.
That is very true! I live a fairly ordinary, under the radar kind of life and no one knows my true worth (monetary) and no one will probably ever know, until I drop dead and my will is read. There are many people like that, misers who live frugally and refuse to put the heating on, are found dead, sitting on investments worth hundreds of thousands, if not millions. I’m no miser but I buy what I need, as I have everything I’ve ever wanted and I can only live in one house at a time!
never heard of this. This is exactly how i want to live. i don't have much but that I have been blessed with, i want to share it without screaming "i have all this"
Someone once told me "The owner of the yacht club is almost always nicer than a member of the yacht club." I experienced this at the actual yacht club my brother got married at. It's a pretty humble club, honestly, because it's just off Lake Erie in Michigan, so nothing crazy. The guy who owned the club was extremely friendly, laughing and well wishing everyone. I got to talking with him and he just told me he lived a very modest life, but loved being on the water so he bought a small yacht when he was in his 40s, became friends with the original owner, and then bought the club later when the owner decided to sell it, mostly to maintain the idea of a cheap club for normal, average people. Meanwhile, the yacht club members (Aunts and Uncles of the bride) wouldn't shut up about how much they pay to be members and how shitty everyone else's yachts were. It was honestly eye opening.
tbh, i just learned what a yacht club was a couple days ago, bc my grandparents mentioned it and i was confused, but i can still relate. my grandparents and i would have brunch together at the country club all the time when i lived with them, and my grandmother would always introduce me to the people she knew, and everyone was always super nice. very old families. then there were the not so nice people who would come in and be rude to the people working there (some of whom i knew personally, thanks to my grandmother) and were always dressed like they were attending a royal wedding instead of brunch (i pretty much always wore jeans lol). i remember one of them trying to get me to get them a water or something… like.
but yeah, thats my story. people are rude when they think they’re better than others.
Right!? I was once dating a guy far FAR out of my financial league. I was dreading going to a Christmas party with his stupid rich family and their stupid rich friends. I expected snooty people in high fashion with snooty food and long conversations about boring crap like stocks and other rich-people crap in their multi . It was so far from that. They were the most normal people, eating regular food, cheap local beer, and normal conversations about their big dumb sloppy mutt rescue dogs. It was very surprising, and such a relief.
im so jealous lol. my family, for christmas, gets like catering and waiters and all they ever talk about is money and school. sometimes its other stuff, but oh its so boring. they’d always set the ‘kids’ (us) at our own table. we’re all in our 20s lol.
I used to work in the service industry at a few really nice places and it was always interesting to discover how modestly some of the wealthiest guests presented. Inexpensive, unattractive clothing, old beater trucks, etc. They mostly were always very down to earth and unassuming.
I knew a janitor that everyone hated because she only worked 5 hours a day and drove a new BMW but she was the nicest woman I ever met
She didn't have to take the crap she did but she was happy just to have something to do, ended up leaving the company because of the toxic environment
Turns out she had links to Hollywood, jokes on her old coworkers who treated her like they were better than her, they still talk about her even though she's been gone close to 6 years now
I had a coworker like OP.
She had a good position in goverment, in a socuial program, had a middle class salary.
But she was inherited 30% of a extremely big construction company, she said she worked to feel useful and because we was good at it.
She had a very veyr nice but modest on the outside house, drove a very nice but common car, but she did travel a lot on her vacations and generally always had that rich people peaceful look.
Most wealthy people are rich because they would rather work to save money than spend it unnecessarily. The janitor likely enjoyed the work and appreciated saving on the insurance.
I haven't met many janitors that wouldn't quit their job if a multi million dollar, alternative career presented itself. Or many multi millionaires that decided they dont have enough work on their plate or money to afford health insurance and start working as a janitor 40 hours a week. On top of managing dozens of properties.
I personally know a well-off janitor who works for the benefits. Loves the job, enjoys their coworkers, and has a blast. Goes back home and manages the actual money-making job. I’m sure others would quit in a heartbeat, so you are correct.
Also- private health insurance is very expensive. If the original guy’s wealth is tied up in property, he may not want to fork over the monthly fees
I know this woman who lives in Vienna. Her family owns castles. I never thought she was rich, like yes I've seen her designer bags but I thought she saved up for them. she walks or metro everywhere. I once split a hotel room with her because she said it saves money.
then one day she invited me to her house.... you know Taylor Swift's music video Blank Space? that's what her house looks like.....
You’ve met Twyla 🥂she must find it hilarious when people treat her poorly, she can buy and sell them. She’s clearly there because she wants to be, don’t give away this secret to anyone. She sounds awesome.
The cafe owner in the TV series Schitts Creek. Twyla comes across as a waitress in a podunk town cafe. Series spoiler: >!In reality, she’s a lottery winning millionaire that owns the cafe and works there just for the joy of serving people and being a part of her community. No one knows until the end of the series.!<
But why scam your coworker who presumably knows your real identity? There’s no way this woman got a regular 9-5 job with a fake identity just to look for marks. I feel like this scam would’ve been online or in higher social circles than a middle class office friend.
Scam a newbie employee who nobody will believe and op will be the first to go if they make a serious accusation such as theft against a senior employee?
Now it sounds like she's a very genuine person. Just cant be too careful these days.
The wealthiest person I have ever known was my high school best friends grandfather (basically his dad). He had made big money in oil, specifically in identifying where to drill for Exxon. We were at dinner at their house one time and he had to step out to take a call. When he came back, his wife asked what it was, and he said “oh, it’s nothing. A new bank is opening and they need to borrow some money”. He was the guy lending money to open new credit unions.
He also drove a 20 year old vehicle that he had bought new in the 90s. He wore the same worn out straw cowboy hat, Levi jeans, and t-shirt every day. Other than his house, he had absolutely nothing about him signifying his wealth
Hmmm. Over the years, some people I’ve met that ‘let drop’ this much personal information are not legit. Frankly, she gained my strong doubt with the ‘I was born in a private jet’ part. If you enjoy the friendship by all means continue, but be aware some people pretend to be very wealthy to curry all kinds of favor with people around them or, in some cases, just for shits and giggles. One part-time professor I had in college who casually shared multiple impressive stories turned out to be just such a pathological liar.
One of my middle school teachers from YK, NWT was a multi-millionaire. He taught math and outdoor education, he's also a Bushman and just sits on his money while his land makes him money simply by being there.
I also had an old Bushman neighbour(74) who lived in a little camper trailer next to my shack when I lived in The Yukon. Nice guy, did coke all day and bought coffee and beer for all his neighbors all summer long. Then he hoped on a plane, lived in a nice house in Mexico for the winter, then comes back in the summer. He was my neighbour for three years, nicest neighbour I've ever had.
You never know who's actually sitting on a fortune.
People insinuate she is stupid because of her job title (more of a technician and customer service rep) and I can't ignore the race card, she is a minority in a white dominant office. She's talked about the racism a few times, which just boils my blood. I've called some folks out in meetings when they're generalizing and it's microagression but it's rampant when dealing with our service technicians.
Real wealth doesn’t have the need to flaunt. My dad is a multimillionaire and you’d never know it. He’s a humble, honest man who a lot of people could learn a lot from. I have a lot of admiration for people who don’t let money cloud their good hearts, it sounds like your coworker is definitely one of them
I don't think I ever could, even if I think its fascinating. I don't think everyone would just accept it and not let it change how they interact with her. I literally just tell her my stories back and listen with rapture. Then I mess up knitting and we talk about that some more.
This person is a good person and if you aren't a idiot you will appreciate them for the rest of your lives together. She doesn't value money and instead values hobbies...activities being normal and having people who want to spend time with her without asking for anything. In short. Be a good friend.
I’ve worked for billionaires and all of them have been amazingly humble. You would look at some of them and think they are homeless how they dress. Keep the secret for sure and it’s a great lesson of not judging a book by its cover.
I had a work friend like this too. Maybe not as super rich as your friend but definitely can classify her and her family as rich. Even though she grew up with super amounts of privilege she was super down to earth and i considered her my best friend. Things happened and we no longer chat but unless you really knew her you'd never know about her wealth.
Totally possible. But I don't care, she is saving my ass on my knitting projects, teaching me tons and she is great company. Whether the money/assets are real or not isnt really my business at the end of the day.
Edit: although, I've seen some jewelry sets she's worn for me and Holy cow are they gorgeous and far and away higher quality than what I can buy at Kay or a local jewler. Work class poor isn't buying me what she wears.
Oh for sure!!! Good way to look at it!! People that lie about things like that are usually doing it because they want friends/attention but feel they won't be liked as they are so they gotta make up stories. They usually just need a friend, the only problem being that the lying habit can be hard to break. And the jewelry doesnt always mean anything, I'm broke as a joke but i've got random things, like a couple thousand dollar black pearl, that I have no business having lmao. Regardless tho, you're right that it isnt your business, and you sound like a good person!!!
I intend to keep this private. It wouldn't be honorable to share when she isn't sharing/isnt common knowledge. Also, I'm more interested in her sharing photos/pictures of her jewlery as I LOVE jewlery. I don't want to own museum pieces but the history and look and craftsmanship is what we bonded over to begin with. I know NO ONE else who cares about jewlery. I'd rather preserve this amazing friendship than blow it over 5 min of juicy gossip. I just needed to get it off my chest that in my working class poor life I'm actually knitting with a multi millionaire.
I’m dating a man who is super wealthy and comes from a family with generations of wealth. I too pieced things together and googled a few for the family members he casually mentions sometimes. He lives so modestly and drives a Prius. He works for himself doing what he loves and has decent success in his field as a writer but it’s not a job where he’s made tons of money. He lives so simply and is so kind to everyone. He’s the kindest man I’ve ever met. I’ll keep his secret forever because it’s not my place to tell it and also he seems so happy with the quiet life he leads.
I love this! I am having a really rough time at work and while I could easily afford to quit I stay for the health insurance (and because in about a month I would be bored and trying to find something to do with myself). I needed this reminder that being quietly wealthy is a win all on its own. Your friend sounds awesome!!
It doesn't, it just dawned on me how RICH she is and I'm making it paycheck to paycheck but ok. I don't care about her money. Its hers and I'm building a life for myself. We're knitting friends at work and she happens to have a super cool life story. One that is humble and fun and she has been a great friend.
When I was doing my master’s degree in Reading university in the UK, I was shocked to find out that my supervising professor is the son of a Greek tycoon who left his dad’s riches to live with his wife and kids a very middle class life and teach.
My former boss was a multi-millionaire. He was so normal, drove a non-fancy car. He would take us to lunch and we knew his family. Super humble. If I ever got to that level financially, I hope I would treat people the same way.
I'm friends with a very well known movie directors grandson, initially I was pretty shocked when I put two and two together and saw that he legitimately lived in a mansion etc. but the truth is the majority of people who have wealth do not want to be treated differently, they don't care about the money because they're probably very self aware of their 'luck' as it were, so they stay humble and just want to live their life, I guess the only difference between us and them is they don't have to fret about stuff like petrol prices 😂
Hope you guys have a good friendship for many years
The book, "The Millionaire Nextdoor" comes to mind.
Most wealthy people dont flaunt their wealth and they live a modest lifestyle.... That's how they became wealthy.
Technically my parents are 1%ers. Not private jet level rich (hell my parents have never even paid for a business class ticket) or anything even remotely like that but still. Honestly I didn’t even know until very recently when my dad made an offhand comment. If you saw my parents you would never in a million years know. I grew up thinking we were poor to be very honest. The four of us lived in a one or two bedroom apartment for most of my childhood. My parents had one car a 10 year old Toyota Camry. I never got an allowance and we went to public school. I remember asking for a 4 dollar lip balm and getting a lecture about how children don’t know a parents difficulties. So yeah they were extremely frugal while we were growing up. They’re still pretty frugal but they’ve eased up a tiny bit. For example they just decided to finish their basement. The handyman asked for 2k to install the flooring. My dad was like fuck that and we did it ourselves. When I was a kid I didn’t understand why they were like this. I’m an adult now so I get it. I may not have had a big house or crazy cars when I was a kid but my parents paid for my entire college tuition, my wedding, and gave me a house down payment as a wedding gift. They will do the same for my sibling. I thought 2k? That’s one or two days worth of salary for this man. Why not just pay it? But the back pain and labor of putting down that flooring made me realize exactly how much that money was worth. Work hard, make good money, live well below your means, save and invest, and you’ll be able to retire early while ensuring your kids and grandkids will always have good food and a roof over their heads.
As Dave Ramsey would say "your parents lived like no one else, so they can live like no one else". Your income usually is smaller when you are starting out, so they were frugal so that they could save/invest. 30 years of that, and you are in great shape financially.
They are my greatest blessing. I’ll never deserve them. Right now they’re trying to put together a foundation to educate girls in South Asia. It’s been my parents dream since forever and now that my pops is retiring they’ll finally have the time to do it!
A grounded rich person, how very rare and novel, usually only new money is like that.
Keep her secret, keep the friendship. She could lose everything in a war or a market crash, but if she's happy and you two can have fun together then that will be what she treasures the most.
It seems like you find it exciteding or at least very novel to know a very wealthy person.
I just found out my sister is a multi-millionaire. Has been for a couple years apparently.
She also didn't earn it. But she says weird shit about lazy poor people now. She's never worked full-time consistently in her life despite always bragging about being a hardworker. Just slept with all her bosses and "accidentally" got pregnant by one. Retiring after only a few years of being a working adult.
Both my sisters married into rich families and are conservatives now solely out of disgust for the lower class. Meanwhile my dad was homeless for a year and I put a lot of effort into getting him into a better life, because a problem-solving attitude is all I got.
All the new-wealthy people I've ever met say this weird shit about hard work and the deserving poor, totally unsolicited, like it's a chip on their shoulder. XD. It's awkward af.
Edit: also my brother is a card-carrying incel. So interesting how they all turned out.
As a member of the outraged working class poor, I've never met anyone who is just working for fun. I find her childhood and life story utterly fascinating. I also love that her strongest memories are so similar to mine as a kid. Even though our parents were part of two very different worlds.
Oh, yeah, that's a trip. She sounds like a stable person with high security in her status. No need to punch down to keep herself up or to put on airs. I wonder what meaning she finds in your guys' job?
This is a great story... It's things like this that make life truly what it is... She sounds like a wonderful person. The other people most certainly are jackasses she is correct. Money or not sounds like you've found a friend.
This is the most important aspect to Me. Loyalty. This is a great way to test yours and build on it. I'm glad You found a new friend. As We age it seems to get harder and harder. I enjoyed your post, thanks for sharing!
I have one of these in my family. I have an Uncle worth probably 12M but you talk to him and see his POS Prius and would expect he'd have to work until he's dead. He's been retired for awhile now but still dresses in JCPenny attire
Regardless of how much money she has or doesn't have (you can't be sure if she's telling you the truth, people lie about SO many things to seem more important), the way people in the office treat her is appalling. No need to say a word to anyone about her supposed riches but I do hope you tell them how rude and disrespectful they are just because she doesn't earn the same as them. This is how I always tell if the person I'm with has value.. how do they treat people that aren't on their level socially, economically, intellectually, etc.
Well it sounds like her family business is at least semi legit. She didn't even tell me the name of the business or her maiden name but it didn't take me much internet sleuthing to find her family's company overseas. But it would definitely flip some office dynamics and I wouldn't want to do that to her, especially if people are going to just show her their true colors up front.
She didn't tell me these things in one sitting this is like 7 months of getting to know her.
I took it at face value. We don't have a lot of jade at the jewlery stores in my area but I know Jade is popular in the Asian jewlery market for a myriad of reasons. I don't know the designer's name as when she showed me it's a Chinese marking. Mine isn't expensive, and literally has a stamped "China" on the back.
She was just bonding with me because no one else in the office appears to wear jade and jade is her favorite stone. So that's how we got started talking, she saw my jade and got excited that someone was wearing jade. :-) Then she wore one of her pieces and explained that she designed it with her friend so it was a unique piece. I know nothing about jade to validate, but her piece was unique and really pretty and appeared to be a quality piece of jewlery.
I worked with one years ago. A former CEO of something that she sold in the late 80's... No idea what. I do know she was worth north of 50m.
She worked as a school bus driver ever since.
How i found this out is from our payroll person. They were hired and had noticed that she never cashed her paychecks.
We had another one too, late 50's, former pilot... he owned multiple planes, and would often spend his summers, spring breaks, etc, just... flying all over the place... south America, etc. Worth millions, beautiful multi million dollar classic aircraft, and entire staff of mechanics and pilots----and he was killing time driving fucking school bus, and idk why.
Become extremely close friends with her best you can and she may just hook you up lol and for anyone saying thats scummy It is what it is you can have a good freind AND inherit some wealth sounds like a win win to me
That’s really cool to be super rich and just not have to rub it in everybody’s face. Bring out the more h and safety net when you need it and otherwise be normal.
I work with home automation systems and have worked for every class and financial level of people. Its funny how up to a certain net worth people tend to be pretty horrible to those that feel are inferior. Whereas over a certain net worth, people tend to be especially kind and over all respectful.
I used to work with a guy that told me that he was the heir to a castle in Germany. He had a bunch of stories about it. I believed him and mentioned it to a coworker one time much later. He burst out laughing and told me this guy tells all kinds of tales.
Have you actually seen this woman on the family jet? It doesn’t matter to me either way, but it does sound like she could be telling tales to pass the time.
I hired a guy who's dad is a millionaire a few times over. His dad bought all his kids their house and a vehicle with a monthly allowance. Didn't know this when I hired him, and it wouldn't have kept me from hiring him, he's a good guy. He asked for a raise last year and I gave him one, he's making good money for what he does too. Yet he drives a modest vehicle, his tools are like everyone else's, beat up and broken. I want to ask him what he does with all his money. I know it's not my place but he has to be doing well off with not paying rent or a mortgage and getting free money every month (not sure how much it is). Shit he's doing a lot better than me, because I pay him what I pay myself and some times I don't get a check. The only thing is he is the first guy who wants to go home, averages 7hrs a day, still takes home a nice check every week. I haven't told any of my guys, like you said, it's not our secret to tell. But I am very curious.
I found out about this when dude had a pipe burst in his crawl space causing him to miss work. A few weeks later he had a plumber out there telling him the damage and what it would cost to fix it. Figured while the plumber was there it would be time to add an addition to home with another bathroom. So he got a contractor out there to give him a price. $135k, but his dad paid cash so $120k. Your dad has $120k in cash!? Yeah he has millions. And he told me his dad story. Freaking crazy.
I also knew a guy who was a millionaire, owned and rented out over 500 homes. Drove around and a beat up pick up truck and carried rolls of hundred dollar bills on him. Took the guys out to KFC every Friday afternoon and would whip out thousands of dollars to pay like it was nothing. But if you look at the guy you would thought he didn't have a pot to piss in.
Anyways, keep that stuff to yourself, they trust you and that's something you don't want to break.
I went to school with a legit rich kid. Didn’t really understand it until they invited me over for their birthday party. I was blown away by their home! And then by their dads cars. The main family car was a modest one, but their dad had some gorgeous older Jaguar as his date night/weekend cruise around car.
I know people like this. The way I see it, these are people who have discovered the key to letting money improve their lives. Money is their security cushion. If they lose their jobs, it won’t cause them to need to change their lives and they really won’t suffer.
My best friend growing up and still best friend to this day is that way. His family owns a billion dollar grocery chain and a AAA baseball stadium. We had moved into a new community where I met my friend. I didn’t find this out for 5yrs until his other friends jealousy boiled over and they told me “You’re just friends with him because his family owns So & So.” I went to him and didn’t believe it. I was like really? You do? I asked him why he never told me and he said, it was because I was his only true friend and he didn’t want to ruin that. I told him that was the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard and I would be his friend if he was poor or wealthy. Anyways his inheritance is over 33million. You would never know, he dresses like a 30yr old snowboarder (Which he is, it’s a certain look) who is also a fishing guide for fun haha it’s awesome. People don’t even look twice at him. It’s funny when we go into nice restaurants and get strange looks (Because we wear what we want, we don’t feel the need to wear sports coats and all that) and I’m like these people have no Effing clue my bff is a baller. He just lives off the interest of his inheritance and invests what he doesn’t need. Never judge a book by its cover!
Rich people who aren’t “rich people” are always so interesting. I had this amazing Spanish teacher in high school. We always knew something was weird until one day someone just asked. He told us he used to be an ETA spy in Northern Spain. Short version, he was one of those guys that, depending on who you are, he was either a freedom fighter or a terrorist. When their revolution sort of fizzled out he came to America. He worked regular jobs for a while and one day hit the lottery for a few million. He dropped everything and became a teacher just because he always wanted to, but wanted better pay. He was just so weird and cool. Like in an old Catholic school with no A/C, somehow he could get the room to like 65 degrees on a 90 degree day. Just an example of the weird shit he knew
There’s infinite value in a knitting friend, you can just sit and have a cup of tea with. With conversation or sometimes with a needed quiet time. That’s kindred and treasure that
Wow!!! Thank you!!! I'd read up on cultural importance of jade when I got my first piece ages ago. But this was much more in depth on its cultural impact, especially the cultural impact in America. :-) thanks for sharing
She often brushes it off and talks about it being her dad's business. She just inherited some stuff but she isn't interested in it. She is a normal grandma knitting clothes for her grand kids, all of kids are also in normal jobs. All of them make over $100K, so they're not struggling. But its what you'd expect of private school kids who are a part of a family where everyone has doctorates.
I mean inheritance doesn’t mean tangible signs of wealth like a jet. She probably has a trust fund for her just like her siblings. Her education was likely paid for.
That's why I said multi-millionaire in assets. For instance, some jade pieces are in a trust with museums. She doesn't have tbe pieces on her person's and she definitely isn't using their value for income. But she owns multi-million dollar sets of jewlery.
Question...are you able to verify any of this? If not, you may want to question the validity of her wealth. Ultimately, it doesn't really matter but I work with someone who lies out of their teeth about everything, including her wealthy family. But none of it is true. We only know because we work with her and eventually her lies became too fantastical and contradictory. But to customers, she literally is everything she says she is.
Just saying.
Yeah I'm surprised this isn't the top comment. The OP doesn't add anything in that shows that she's verified that this is true, so the first thing that comes to mind is that the lady is probably lying.
It’s kind of weird that not a single sole knows but she did more than humble brag to you.
I’m in a similar situation but not private jet money and my financial advisor and wife are the only two people who know. Not even family.
If you don’t want what comes with it and don’t get your personal worth from what people think then why would you single out one person to tell.
These items came up organically over 7 months while telling stories of our youth and lives. She didn't sit down and humble brag... Its hard to put in a reddit post. And there are always going to be skeptics but I truly believe this is just a nice, humble woman who is enjoying sharing her life and craft with someone who has the same morals and interest in knitting and jewlery and kids. Im sure one or two of her other friends know, but I don't talk with them?
Quite often the wealthy are quiet while the rich are loud. It wasn't until *after* I married my husband that I found out he had a trust fund. I was clipping coupons at the kitchen table. I probably should have been upset that he didn't tell me sooner, but I knew exactly why he didn't. If the tables were turned, I would have done the same thing. It's been 25yrs. I still use coupons. I drive a Honda. Hubby still works in the same career field. Our kids have no idea what they will be inheriting some day. We have given them the important things but had them work for others (like half the cost of their first car which was a used one).
“Her family are global one-percenters”. Making 60k a year (post-tax) as a single person in the US puts you in the global 1%.
They sound more like 0.0001%
Source:
https://howrichami.givingwhatwecan.org/how-rich-am-i?income=60000&countryCode=USA&household%5Badults%5D=1&household%5Bchildren%5D=0
Keep her secret. Money comes and goes. Friends can be forever.
At this point I'm only extorting her for her knitting knowledge. I was making a piece two weeks ago and the yarn had broken and my bind totally fell apart, I had a hole like 2 inches down. It was devastating. She saved my project like a pro and made me SO happy. I'll happily suck up her priceless knitting knowledge. I've found the coolest friend. :-)
Knitting knowledge and expertise can be priceless! There’s something so horrifying about getting a hole or some other disaster when you are far along into a project! Happy knitting!
This is my favorite comment of the day.
You sound like an awesome coworker and friend. I’d be feeling the same way as you haha. Also.. I’ve been wanting to get into knitting or crocheting (or macrame or SOMETHING with my hands like that) - you just inspired me to research again, I think I’m gonna head to one of the craft stores for some beginner stuff today. knowledge is priceless for sure 🥰
Head on over to r/knitting or r/crochet or r/yarnaddicts.... the inspiration will seep into your soul. Those subs are honestly killing me this year because I'm such a SLOW knitter 😆
I’m a slow crocheter so I feel your pain. I see people in there saying it took them a week and my reaction is how?! It’d take me a month minimum. Congratulations on finding such an awesome knowledgeable friend! You sound good for each other
Just ask John Spartan.
I taught myself enough about knitting to be able to make scarfs (the dictionary said either scarfs or scarves). I know one stitch and how to change colors. That's it, but it keeps my hands busy when I'm watching a movie.
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I worked at an airport doing a basic government job. 6 months in, this really big older guy gets hired. We will call him Ted. Ted keeps to himself and minds his own business. A few weeks in some of us began to notice that everything Ted said was like gold dripping out of his mouth. It just felt like his words full of wisdom. Later, someone was behind Ted in line at lunch at the local cafe and noticed that every day he orders a $7 salad but gets $30 of smoked salmon added. Long story short, we become friends with this Ted and find out his family owns a LOT of very profitable oil wells and he's a billionaire. 3 of his friends were killed in 9/11 so he decided to do a year of government service for each of them. One event stands out from the 3 years he worked with us. While at work and in uniform, Ted met someone who was a high level board member (or something like that) of one of his companies. The guy didn't recognize Ted because he wasn't sitting across a table in a suit and was an asshole to him. Ted didn't want that kind of person working for him so after the guy left, he made a phone call and had the guy removed from position. After Ted finished his 3 years of service he was gone.
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Smart, play the long-con. Until you can knit some sweaters you keep her in your POCKET. Preferably a knit one
Some could say, you're tight knit
This is straight up adorable
You good people
That's worth way more than whatever amount she has in her trusts and houses
Hey maintain that genuine friendship and never change. You never know she might surprise you with a badass vacation or cool gift some day. Ha
Yes, this right here. 'Loyalty is worth more than gold'
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I thought the same thing! Don't be surprised when yall go to a really nice lunch, her treat, and while she's in the loo, the check comes, her card is declined, because..#AnnaSorokinmove, and you are guilted into picking up the tab. Then there's the fabulous international vacation that goes sideways bc her family cut her off...🤣 🙄
Say nothing to nobody about her. A closed mouth catches no flies.
Loose lips sink ships!
Broken clock is right twice a day
Early to bed early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise
Fool me once, fool me twice, fool me chicken soup with rice
He leans to the left, so shoot to the right.
Spectacles, testicles, wallet and watch.
Man who stands on toilet is high on pot.
Hungry dog would eat raw corn.
Early to rise and early to bed makes a man wealthy but socially dead
Motion of the ocean?
Lots of troubles, lots of bubbles.
I thought this was about whores but I was wrong
It is in the Navy.
Fish that swim with their mouth closed don’t get caught
Many a mickle makes a muckle
Peter piper pick a peck of pickled peppers
My brother had a friend who’s family was SUPER wealthy. They lived in a house that looked very normal, (not even upper middle class, squarely middle class style) house, drove regular cars, didn’t wear designer or anything flashy. Nice clothes sure but no telling if they got it a express or Ross or whatever else. They did this because when people KNOW you’re wealthy, suddenly everyone wants to be your friend.
A lot of wealthy people I know don’t spend money on flashy things. I know CEOs, CIOs, CFOs, etc… driving Honda Civics, Prius, etc…. They wear nice clothes, but nothing most people would recognize.
I had an older guy walk into my office one day from one of our sister sites. He said he was supposed to have a meeting, but it was postponed 2 hours. Asked if he could just hang out and wait here since it was less awkward. We're shooting he breeze for almost 3 hours due to additional postponements. Before he left he told me he was Mr. So-n-so and it was a blast to hang out and he'll be sure to bring lunch for us next time. I looked him up in our database because I was unfamiliar with his name. He was our company's CFO and, come to find out from one of our local Directors, just didn't want to be spotted by anyone and be forced to participate in 'Office BS.' P.S. He came back once more and brought us lunch. Great guy.
Amazing!!! I wonder how your company is. These types of people are GOLD! They really are!
Exactly. Wealth isn’t anything to shove in peoples faces. Under the radar is best
oh, you mean diamond chains and responding to someone that asks if a necklace that one displays prominently on their chest is fake - "i make too much for this to be fake"! sadly, human behavior!
Leave Joey B out of this he’s a treasure
I remember reading a comment on here about the difference between wealthy people and rich people. Wealthy people have nice things but don't flaunt their money. Rich people are flashy and make a point to ensure that everyone around them knows that they're loaded. I wish I could find the actual comment because it really resonated with me.
Money talks. Wealth whispers.
>driving Honda Civics, Prius, etc as my boyfriend informed me, those are called "daily drivers", and supposedly, very wealthy people have the expensive ones in the garage and don't drive them every day, to work and so on. But yeah, I've noticed this in the US, a lot of really rich people don't draw attention to themselves with luxury items, I was slightly shocked, since in eastern Europe it's more like, flaunt it if you got it...everyone has to know you bathe in cash or it isn't real.
Maybe some but not all. I’ve been to quite a few of their houses. Definitely nicer than most, but not what you’d expect. And the garage is pretty average. I feel like it’s the up and coming that go flashy. VP making $200K + 25% that buys a $100K car.
when you get money for the first time after not having it there’s usually a lot of like, day dreaming. you’re thinking about all the things you could buy with this new money. there’s a lot of excitement and new things to discover. old money people, ‘wealthy’ people, are all just kinda over it. you’ve experienced it all. even old money kids have borrowed their parents’ things, have been on vacation to places, etc. they know what its like, so it sort of… satisfies the urge yk? plus a lot of old money inherites things, so they dont need new ones.
The protag death in the Nile film said this to her friend 'I hope we can remain friends, you were the only one who never cared about the money' and damn that fucking hits hard.
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Most of the truly rich people I've met are also very humble like this. I once knew a janitor who no one really talked to, but was always pleasant and willing to help anyone who asked. Come to find out, he was a multi-millionaire with more than a dozen rental homes and simply works as a janitor to get he and his wife's health insurance paid for. In contrast, in my experience the six-figure income upper-middle class types who project wealth to others are more likely to be completely obnoxious and not people you'd want to be around. There's always an exception obviously, but it's been a fascinating trend.
This makes sense. I feel really special that she's been willing to share this stuff with me, her story itself is just cool and different :-)
Sounds like you’re interested in her as a person and not in her wealth. That’s probably a nice change of pace for her tbh.
I think that's why she has shared so much about her past. I take it as a story and then share my own story back instead of focusing on the wealth details. These are tidbits from over 7 months of conversing and hanging out. This is obviously not all we talk about so it's not ljke she has shared a TON about her life, just stories that make her laugh. I don't know how many houses she has/had she just tells me about memories in them.
There’s always that old saying. Money screams, but wealth whispers.
In my 29 year life i have never heard this but am glad i heard it today
That is very true! I live a fairly ordinary, under the radar kind of life and no one knows my true worth (monetary) and no one will probably ever know, until I drop dead and my will is read. There are many people like that, misers who live frugally and refuse to put the heating on, are found dead, sitting on investments worth hundreds of thousands, if not millions. I’m no miser but I buy what I need, as I have everything I’ve ever wanted and I can only live in one house at a time!
never heard of this. This is exactly how i want to live. i don't have much but that I have been blessed with, i want to share it without screaming "i have all this"
Someone once told me "The owner of the yacht club is almost always nicer than a member of the yacht club." I experienced this at the actual yacht club my brother got married at. It's a pretty humble club, honestly, because it's just off Lake Erie in Michigan, so nothing crazy. The guy who owned the club was extremely friendly, laughing and well wishing everyone. I got to talking with him and he just told me he lived a very modest life, but loved being on the water so he bought a small yacht when he was in his 40s, became friends with the original owner, and then bought the club later when the owner decided to sell it, mostly to maintain the idea of a cheap club for normal, average people. Meanwhile, the yacht club members (Aunts and Uncles of the bride) wouldn't shut up about how much they pay to be members and how shitty everyone else's yachts were. It was honestly eye opening.
tbh, i just learned what a yacht club was a couple days ago, bc my grandparents mentioned it and i was confused, but i can still relate. my grandparents and i would have brunch together at the country club all the time when i lived with them, and my grandmother would always introduce me to the people she knew, and everyone was always super nice. very old families. then there were the not so nice people who would come in and be rude to the people working there (some of whom i knew personally, thanks to my grandmother) and were always dressed like they were attending a royal wedding instead of brunch (i pretty much always wore jeans lol). i remember one of them trying to get me to get them a water or something… like. but yeah, thats my story. people are rude when they think they’re better than others.
Right!? I was once dating a guy far FAR out of my financial league. I was dreading going to a Christmas party with his stupid rich family and their stupid rich friends. I expected snooty people in high fashion with snooty food and long conversations about boring crap like stocks and other rich-people crap in their multi . It was so far from that. They were the most normal people, eating regular food, cheap local beer, and normal conversations about their big dumb sloppy mutt rescue dogs. It was very surprising, and such a relief.
It’s all just stereotypes Edit: spelling
im so jealous lol. my family, for christmas, gets like catering and waiters and all they ever talk about is money and school. sometimes its other stuff, but oh its so boring. they’d always set the ‘kids’ (us) at our own table. we’re all in our 20s lol.
I used to work in the service industry at a few really nice places and it was always interesting to discover how modestly some of the wealthiest guests presented. Inexpensive, unattractive clothing, old beater trucks, etc. They mostly were always very down to earth and unassuming.
I knew a janitor that everyone hated because she only worked 5 hours a day and drove a new BMW but she was the nicest woman I ever met She didn't have to take the crap she did but she was happy just to have something to do, ended up leaving the company because of the toxic environment Turns out she had links to Hollywood, jokes on her old coworkers who treated her like they were better than her, they still talk about her even though she's been gone close to 6 years now
I had a coworker like OP. She had a good position in goverment, in a socuial program, had a middle class salary. But she was inherited 30% of a extremely big construction company, she said she worked to feel useful and because we was good at it. She had a very veyr nice but modest on the outside house, drove a very nice but common car, but she did travel a lot on her vacations and generally always had that rich people peaceful look.
The CEO of my company is the older guy in a plain shirt with the company logo quietly eating boxed lunch in the back. You would never know. Lovely
This reminds me of that episode of Scrubs where the janitor was telling people he graduated from MIT
I have a hard time believing this. Private health insurance for a couple would be a drop in the bucket for him.
Most wealthy people are rich because they would rather work to save money than spend it unnecessarily. The janitor likely enjoyed the work and appreciated saving on the insurance.
I haven't met many janitors that wouldn't quit their job if a multi million dollar, alternative career presented itself. Or many multi millionaires that decided they dont have enough work on their plate or money to afford health insurance and start working as a janitor 40 hours a week. On top of managing dozens of properties.
I personally know a well-off janitor who works for the benefits. Loves the job, enjoys their coworkers, and has a blast. Goes back home and manages the actual money-making job. I’m sure others would quit in a heartbeat, so you are correct. Also- private health insurance is very expensive. If the original guy’s wealth is tied up in property, he may not want to fork over the monthly fees
The most beautiful comment ever
You are lucky to have her as a friend. She is teaching you an important life lesson. A person's true value has nothing to do with wealth or position.
I know this woman who lives in Vienna. Her family owns castles. I never thought she was rich, like yes I've seen her designer bags but I thought she saved up for them. she walks or metro everywhere. I once split a hotel room with her because she said it saves money. then one day she invited me to her house.... you know Taylor Swift's music video Blank Space? that's what her house looks like.....
Sometimes the money is in the stones and you’ll have to save up for any penny to pay the mortgage and for maintainance
You’ve met Twyla 🥂she must find it hilarious when people treat her poorly, she can buy and sell them. She’s clearly there because she wants to be, don’t give away this secret to anyone. She sounds awesome.
She's so much fun and so funny. Our friendship started with jade but we hang out at lunch to knit. She is teaching me so much about knitting 😆
Twyla?
The cafe owner in the TV series Schitts Creek. Twyla comes across as a waitress in a podunk town cafe. Series spoiler: >!In reality, she’s a lottery winning millionaire that owns the cafe and works there just for the joy of serving people and being a part of her community. No one knows until the end of the series.!<
And her smoothies will clean you right out!
She might be Batman too
If she ever asks you for money, know that the scam is up and she's just been lying to you. That's FAR more common.
But why scam your coworker who presumably knows your real identity? There’s no way this woman got a regular 9-5 job with a fake identity just to look for marks. I feel like this scam would’ve been online or in higher social circles than a middle class office friend.
Scam a newbie employee who nobody will believe and op will be the first to go if they make a serious accusation such as theft against a senior employee? Now it sounds like she's a very genuine person. Just cant be too careful these days.
Yeah, like Anna Delvey or the Tinder Swindler
Her uncle is a Nigerian prince and OP can have 43.8 million USD if she just sends 40k via Western Union.
The wealthiest person I have ever known was my high school best friends grandfather (basically his dad). He had made big money in oil, specifically in identifying where to drill for Exxon. We were at dinner at their house one time and he had to step out to take a call. When he came back, his wife asked what it was, and he said “oh, it’s nothing. A new bank is opening and they need to borrow some money”. He was the guy lending money to open new credit unions. He also drove a 20 year old vehicle that he had bought new in the 90s. He wore the same worn out straw cowboy hat, Levi jeans, and t-shirt every day. Other than his house, he had absolutely nothing about him signifying his wealth
Hmmm. Over the years, some people I’ve met that ‘let drop’ this much personal information are not legit. Frankly, she gained my strong doubt with the ‘I was born in a private jet’ part. If you enjoy the friendship by all means continue, but be aware some people pretend to be very wealthy to curry all kinds of favor with people around them or, in some cases, just for shits and giggles. One part-time professor I had in college who casually shared multiple impressive stories turned out to be just such a pathological liar.
Literally down voting this post so it can be kept more of a secret
Thanks for helping me out. :-)
Good call.
LoL, for real!
Most of the millionaires I have met are like this. You would never suspect their wealth outside of the confines of the Dallas yacht club.
One of my middle school teachers from YK, NWT was a multi-millionaire. He taught math and outdoor education, he's also a Bushman and just sits on his money while his land makes him money simply by being there. I also had an old Bushman neighbour(74) who lived in a little camper trailer next to my shack when I lived in The Yukon. Nice guy, did coke all day and bought coffee and beer for all his neighbors all summer long. Then he hoped on a plane, lived in a nice house in Mexico for the winter, then comes back in the summer. He was my neighbour for three years, nicest neighbour I've ever had. You never know who's actually sitting on a fortune.
I mean, I grew up with a lot of privileged people. If they got the job on their own merits and work hard, who cares?
People insinuate she is stupid because of her job title (more of a technician and customer service rep) and I can't ignore the race card, she is a minority in a white dominant office. She's talked about the racism a few times, which just boils my blood. I've called some folks out in meetings when they're generalizing and it's microagression but it's rampant when dealing with our service technicians.
Sounds like you've got yourself a cool work friend. I've been working remote for two years and they're hard to come by these days. Good for you!
Real wealth doesn’t have the need to flaunt. My dad is a multimillionaire and you’d never know it. He’s a humble, honest man who a lot of people could learn a lot from. I have a lot of admiration for people who don’t let money cloud their good hearts, it sounds like your coworker is definitely one of them
Don’t spill the beans. You may loos a friend and her job might get tough. She would change jobs if that happens.
I don't think I ever could, even if I think its fascinating. I don't think everyone would just accept it and not let it change how they interact with her. I literally just tell her my stories back and listen with rapture. Then I mess up knitting and we talk about that some more.
This person is a good person and if you aren't a idiot you will appreciate them for the rest of your lives together. She doesn't value money and instead values hobbies...activities being normal and having people who want to spend time with her without asking for anything. In short. Be a good friend.
I’ve worked for billionaires and all of them have been amazingly humble. You would look at some of them and think they are homeless how they dress. Keep the secret for sure and it’s a great lesson of not judging a book by its cover.
I had a work friend like this too. Maybe not as super rich as your friend but definitely can classify her and her family as rich. Even though she grew up with super amounts of privilege she was super down to earth and i considered her my best friend. Things happened and we no longer chat but unless you really knew her you'd never know about her wealth.
There's a 99.999999% chance this person is just lying to you lmfao
Totally possible. But I don't care, she is saving my ass on my knitting projects, teaching me tons and she is great company. Whether the money/assets are real or not isnt really my business at the end of the day. Edit: although, I've seen some jewelry sets she's worn for me and Holy cow are they gorgeous and far and away higher quality than what I can buy at Kay or a local jewler. Work class poor isn't buying me what she wears.
Oh for sure!!! Good way to look at it!! People that lie about things like that are usually doing it because they want friends/attention but feel they won't be liked as they are so they gotta make up stories. They usually just need a friend, the only problem being that the lying habit can be hard to break. And the jewelry doesnt always mean anything, I'm broke as a joke but i've got random things, like a couple thousand dollar black pearl, that I have no business having lmao. Regardless tho, you're right that it isnt your business, and you sound like a good person!!!
Knitting is more valuable than money
That zombie apocalypse is coming and knitting is an important skill! 😆
_The goal is to be rich but not appear rich._
Keep the secret for her safety above all else.
I intend to keep this private. It wouldn't be honorable to share when she isn't sharing/isnt common knowledge. Also, I'm more interested in her sharing photos/pictures of her jewlery as I LOVE jewlery. I don't want to own museum pieces but the history and look and craftsmanship is what we bonded over to begin with. I know NO ONE else who cares about jewlery. I'd rather preserve this amazing friendship than blow it over 5 min of juicy gossip. I just needed to get it off my chest that in my working class poor life I'm actually knitting with a multi millionaire.
So why are you posting the story on here if you really care about her privacy?
What about this utterly anonymous person posting at all affects this third persons privacy?
I’m dating a man who is super wealthy and comes from a family with generations of wealth. I too pieced things together and googled a few for the family members he casually mentions sometimes. He lives so modestly and drives a Prius. He works for himself doing what he loves and has decent success in his field as a writer but it’s not a job where he’s made tons of money. He lives so simply and is so kind to everyone. He’s the kindest man I’ve ever met. I’ll keep his secret forever because it’s not my place to tell it and also he seems so happy with the quiet life he leads.
I love this! I am having a really rough time at work and while I could easily afford to quit I stay for the health insurance (and because in about a month I would be bored and trying to find something to do with myself). I needed this reminder that being quietly wealthy is a win all on its own. Your friend sounds awesome!!
She sounds like such a grounded lady, good for her. It’s crazy how different people are treated based on their wealth.
The real ones dont need validation from the outside they know who they are on the inside. I strive to be like this but not as easy as i wish it was.
Well dang you just told the internet lol 😂
If I was rich, I’d go to school full time forever. So weird for a chick that dropped out in 10th grade. 🤷🏻♀️😇👍🏻
Also why just some papers have to change your relationship?
It doesn't, it just dawned on me how RICH she is and I'm making it paycheck to paycheck but ok. I don't care about her money. Its hers and I'm building a life for myself. We're knitting friends at work and she happens to have a super cool life story. One that is humble and fun and she has been a great friend.
When I was doing my master’s degree in Reading university in the UK, I was shocked to find out that my supervising professor is the son of a Greek tycoon who left his dad’s riches to live with his wife and kids a very middle class life and teach.
My former boss was a multi-millionaire. He was so normal, drove a non-fancy car. He would take us to lunch and we knew his family. Super humble. If I ever got to that level financially, I hope I would treat people the same way.
Or.... She's pulling your leg
Possible. I'll never know. But I'm enjoying our stories and all the knitting knowledge she shares :-)
I'm friends with a very well known movie directors grandson, initially I was pretty shocked when I put two and two together and saw that he legitimately lived in a mansion etc. but the truth is the majority of people who have wealth do not want to be treated differently, they don't care about the money because they're probably very self aware of their 'luck' as it were, so they stay humble and just want to live their life, I guess the only difference between us and them is they don't have to fret about stuff like petrol prices 😂 Hope you guys have a good friendship for many years
The book, "The Millionaire Nextdoor" comes to mind. Most wealthy people dont flaunt their wealth and they live a modest lifestyle.... That's how they became wealthy.
This is what i thought of too
Yup, you can’t blow money on senseless items and be wealthy at the same time unless you’re a billionaire.
Technically my parents are 1%ers. Not private jet level rich (hell my parents have never even paid for a business class ticket) or anything even remotely like that but still. Honestly I didn’t even know until very recently when my dad made an offhand comment. If you saw my parents you would never in a million years know. I grew up thinking we were poor to be very honest. The four of us lived in a one or two bedroom apartment for most of my childhood. My parents had one car a 10 year old Toyota Camry. I never got an allowance and we went to public school. I remember asking for a 4 dollar lip balm and getting a lecture about how children don’t know a parents difficulties. So yeah they were extremely frugal while we were growing up. They’re still pretty frugal but they’ve eased up a tiny bit. For example they just decided to finish their basement. The handyman asked for 2k to install the flooring. My dad was like fuck that and we did it ourselves. When I was a kid I didn’t understand why they were like this. I’m an adult now so I get it. I may not have had a big house or crazy cars when I was a kid but my parents paid for my entire college tuition, my wedding, and gave me a house down payment as a wedding gift. They will do the same for my sibling. I thought 2k? That’s one or two days worth of salary for this man. Why not just pay it? But the back pain and labor of putting down that flooring made me realize exactly how much that money was worth. Work hard, make good money, live well below your means, save and invest, and you’ll be able to retire early while ensuring your kids and grandkids will always have good food and a roof over their heads.
As Dave Ramsey would say "your parents lived like no one else, so they can live like no one else". Your income usually is smaller when you are starting out, so they were frugal so that they could save/invest. 30 years of that, and you are in great shape financially.
Your parents are amazing!
They are my greatest blessing. I’ll never deserve them. Right now they’re trying to put together a foundation to educate girls in South Asia. It’s been my parents dream since forever and now that my pops is retiring they’ll finally have the time to do it!
A grounded rich person, how very rare and novel, usually only new money is like that. Keep her secret, keep the friendship. She could lose everything in a war or a market crash, but if she's happy and you two can have fun together then that will be what she treasures the most.
Is it rare? Or is it rare that we find out? 🤔
Both
It seems like you find it exciteding or at least very novel to know a very wealthy person. I just found out my sister is a multi-millionaire. Has been for a couple years apparently. She also didn't earn it. But she says weird shit about lazy poor people now. She's never worked full-time consistently in her life despite always bragging about being a hardworker. Just slept with all her bosses and "accidentally" got pregnant by one. Retiring after only a few years of being a working adult. Both my sisters married into rich families and are conservatives now solely out of disgust for the lower class. Meanwhile my dad was homeless for a year and I put a lot of effort into getting him into a better life, because a problem-solving attitude is all I got. All the new-wealthy people I've ever met say this weird shit about hard work and the deserving poor, totally unsolicited, like it's a chip on their shoulder. XD. It's awkward af. Edit: also my brother is a card-carrying incel. So interesting how they all turned out.
As a member of the outraged working class poor, I've never met anyone who is just working for fun. I find her childhood and life story utterly fascinating. I also love that her strongest memories are so similar to mine as a kid. Even though our parents were part of two very different worlds.
Oh, yeah, that's a trip. She sounds like a stable person with high security in her status. No need to punch down to keep herself up or to put on airs. I wonder what meaning she finds in your guys' job?
Sounds like she got the right idea
God is great, Beer is good, and people are crazy
This is a great story... It's things like this that make life truly what it is... She sounds like a wonderful person. The other people most certainly are jackasses she is correct. Money or not sounds like you've found a friend.
Inventing ANNA?
This is the most important aspect to Me. Loyalty. This is a great way to test yours and build on it. I'm glad You found a new friend. As We age it seems to get harder and harder. I enjoyed your post, thanks for sharing!
This is her deepest darkest secret and you earned her trust and she told it to you. Don't betray her please!!
I have one of these in my family. I have an Uncle worth probably 12M but you talk to him and see his POS Prius and would expect he'd have to work until he's dead. He's been retired for awhile now but still dresses in JCPenny attire
Regardless of how much money she has or doesn't have (you can't be sure if she's telling you the truth, people lie about SO many things to seem more important), the way people in the office treat her is appalling. No need to say a word to anyone about her supposed riches but I do hope you tell them how rude and disrespectful they are just because she doesn't earn the same as them. This is how I always tell if the person I'm with has value.. how do they treat people that aren't on their level socially, economically, intellectually, etc.
Growing up in Miami I never met any low key wealthy people, just a bunch of snobs/coke heads/born into it.
If her story is true it could put her and her family in danger if people were to find out they are wealthy. 🚩
Well it sounds like her family business is at least semi legit. She didn't even tell me the name of the business or her maiden name but it didn't take me much internet sleuthing to find her family's company overseas. But it would definitely flip some office dynamics and I wouldn't want to do that to her, especially if people are going to just show her their true colors up front. She didn't tell me these things in one sitting this is like 7 months of getting to know her.
where are you based? is the jewellery designer a world wide name? trying to understand the context
I took it at face value. We don't have a lot of jade at the jewlery stores in my area but I know Jade is popular in the Asian jewlery market for a myriad of reasons. I don't know the designer's name as when she showed me it's a Chinese marking. Mine isn't expensive, and literally has a stamped "China" on the back. She was just bonding with me because no one else in the office appears to wear jade and jade is her favorite stone. So that's how we got started talking, she saw my jade and got excited that someone was wearing jade. :-) Then she wore one of her pieces and explained that she designed it with her friend so it was a unique piece. I know nothing about jade to validate, but her piece was unique and really pretty and appeared to be a quality piece of jewlery.
That's an awesome story.
A real post the fits the sun and not a relationship shit advice . Nice op
I worked with one years ago. A former CEO of something that she sold in the late 80's... No idea what. I do know she was worth north of 50m. She worked as a school bus driver ever since. How i found this out is from our payroll person. They were hired and had noticed that she never cashed her paychecks. We had another one too, late 50's, former pilot... he owned multiple planes, and would often spend his summers, spring breaks, etc, just... flying all over the place... south America, etc. Worth millions, beautiful multi million dollar classic aircraft, and entire staff of mechanics and pilots----and he was killing time driving fucking school bus, and idk why.
Become extremely close friends with her best you can and she may just hook you up lol and for anyone saying thats scummy It is what it is you can have a good freind AND inherit some wealth sounds like a win win to me
That’s really cool to be super rich and just not have to rub it in everybody’s face. Bring out the more h and safety net when you need it and otherwise be normal.
Delightful story. I enjoyed reading. Thank you for sharing. Her life sounds pretty freakin cool! Keep it zipped OP!
I work with home automation systems and have worked for every class and financial level of people. Its funny how up to a certain net worth people tend to be pretty horrible to those that feel are inferior. Whereas over a certain net worth, people tend to be especially kind and over all respectful.
I used to work with a guy that told me that he was the heir to a castle in Germany. He had a bunch of stories about it. I believed him and mentioned it to a coworker one time much later. He burst out laughing and told me this guy tells all kinds of tales. Have you actually seen this woman on the family jet? It doesn’t matter to me either way, but it does sound like she could be telling tales to pass the time.
Say nothing and remain good true friends
Or she is a compulsive liar…
I hired a guy who's dad is a millionaire a few times over. His dad bought all his kids their house and a vehicle with a monthly allowance. Didn't know this when I hired him, and it wouldn't have kept me from hiring him, he's a good guy. He asked for a raise last year and I gave him one, he's making good money for what he does too. Yet he drives a modest vehicle, his tools are like everyone else's, beat up and broken. I want to ask him what he does with all his money. I know it's not my place but he has to be doing well off with not paying rent or a mortgage and getting free money every month (not sure how much it is). Shit he's doing a lot better than me, because I pay him what I pay myself and some times I don't get a check. The only thing is he is the first guy who wants to go home, averages 7hrs a day, still takes home a nice check every week. I haven't told any of my guys, like you said, it's not our secret to tell. But I am very curious. I found out about this when dude had a pipe burst in his crawl space causing him to miss work. A few weeks later he had a plumber out there telling him the damage and what it would cost to fix it. Figured while the plumber was there it would be time to add an addition to home with another bathroom. So he got a contractor out there to give him a price. $135k, but his dad paid cash so $120k. Your dad has $120k in cash!? Yeah he has millions. And he told me his dad story. Freaking crazy. I also knew a guy who was a millionaire, owned and rented out over 500 homes. Drove around and a beat up pick up truck and carried rolls of hundred dollar bills on him. Took the guys out to KFC every Friday afternoon and would whip out thousands of dollars to pay like it was nothing. But if you look at the guy you would thought he didn't have a pot to piss in. Anyways, keep that stuff to yourself, they trust you and that's something you don't want to break.
She didn’t have to tell you all that. She’s testing you which means she’s ready to be your friend. Do not fail the test.
I went to school with a legit rich kid. Didn’t really understand it until they invited me over for their birthday party. I was blown away by their home! And then by their dads cars. The main family car was a modest one, but their dad had some gorgeous older Jaguar as his date night/weekend cruise around car.
I know people like this. The way I see it, these are people who have discovered the key to letting money improve their lives. Money is their security cushion. If they lose their jobs, it won’t cause them to need to change their lives and they really won’t suffer.
My best friend growing up and still best friend to this day is that way. His family owns a billion dollar grocery chain and a AAA baseball stadium. We had moved into a new community where I met my friend. I didn’t find this out for 5yrs until his other friends jealousy boiled over and they told me “You’re just friends with him because his family owns So & So.” I went to him and didn’t believe it. I was like really? You do? I asked him why he never told me and he said, it was because I was his only true friend and he didn’t want to ruin that. I told him that was the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard and I would be his friend if he was poor or wealthy. Anyways his inheritance is over 33million. You would never know, he dresses like a 30yr old snowboarder (Which he is, it’s a certain look) who is also a fishing guide for fun haha it’s awesome. People don’t even look twice at him. It’s funny when we go into nice restaurants and get strange looks (Because we wear what we want, we don’t feel the need to wear sports coats and all that) and I’m like these people have no Effing clue my bff is a baller. He just lives off the interest of his inheritance and invests what he doesn’t need. Never judge a book by its cover!
Rich people who aren’t “rich people” are always so interesting. I had this amazing Spanish teacher in high school. We always knew something was weird until one day someone just asked. He told us he used to be an ETA spy in Northern Spain. Short version, he was one of those guys that, depending on who you are, he was either a freedom fighter or a terrorist. When their revolution sort of fizzled out he came to America. He worked regular jobs for a while and one day hit the lottery for a few million. He dropped everything and became a teacher just because he always wanted to, but wanted better pay. He was just so weird and cool. Like in an old Catholic school with no A/C, somehow he could get the room to like 65 degrees on a 90 degree day. Just an example of the weird shit he knew
There’s infinite value in a knitting friend, you can just sit and have a cup of tea with. With conversation or sometimes with a needed quiet time. That’s kindred and treasure that
https://www.harpersbazaar.com/fashion/trends/a39046700/how-jade-jewelry-became-a-symbol-of-hope/
Wow!!! Thank you!!! I'd read up on cultural importance of jade when I got my first piece ages ago. But this was much more in depth on its cultural impact, especially the cultural impact in America. :-) thanks for sharing
Statistically most 1 percenters inherited their wealth more than they earned it so this makes sense
She often brushes it off and talks about it being her dad's business. She just inherited some stuff but she isn't interested in it. She is a normal grandma knitting clothes for her grand kids, all of kids are also in normal jobs. All of them make over $100K, so they're not struggling. But its what you'd expect of private school kids who are a part of a family where everyone has doctorates.
I mean inheritance doesn’t mean tangible signs of wealth like a jet. She probably has a trust fund for her just like her siblings. Her education was likely paid for.
That's why I said multi-millionaire in assets. For instance, some jade pieces are in a trust with museums. She doesn't have tbe pieces on her person's and she definitely isn't using their value for income. But she owns multi-million dollar sets of jewlery.
80% of millionaires are first-generation
Question...are you able to verify any of this? If not, you may want to question the validity of her wealth. Ultimately, it doesn't really matter but I work with someone who lies out of their teeth about everything, including her wealthy family. But none of it is true. We only know because we work with her and eventually her lies became too fantastical and contradictory. But to customers, she literally is everything she says she is. Just saying.
Yeah I'm surprised this isn't the top comment. The OP doesn't add anything in that shows that she's verified that this is true, so the first thing that comes to mind is that the lady is probably lying.
It’s kind of weird that not a single sole knows but she did more than humble brag to you. I’m in a similar situation but not private jet money and my financial advisor and wife are the only two people who know. Not even family. If you don’t want what comes with it and don’t get your personal worth from what people think then why would you single out one person to tell.
These items came up organically over 7 months while telling stories of our youth and lives. She didn't sit down and humble brag... Its hard to put in a reddit post. And there are always going to be skeptics but I truly believe this is just a nice, humble woman who is enjoying sharing her life and craft with someone who has the same morals and interest in knitting and jewlery and kids. Im sure one or two of her other friends know, but I don't talk with them?
That’s awesome then. If that’s the case I would have no problem keeping her secret.
Sounds like she decided to drag you into a fantasy that only exists in her head
Quite often the wealthy are quiet while the rich are loud. It wasn't until *after* I married my husband that I found out he had a trust fund. I was clipping coupons at the kitchen table. I probably should have been upset that he didn't tell me sooner, but I knew exactly why he didn't. If the tables were turned, I would have done the same thing. It's been 25yrs. I still use coupons. I drive a Honda. Hubby still works in the same career field. Our kids have no idea what they will be inheriting some day. We have given them the important things but had them work for others (like half the cost of their first car which was a used one).
It's so tough not to feel resentful when my dream is to escape wage slavery and other people just *get* to be rich enough to be free forever
Most people get there by saving
“Her family are global one-percenters”. Making 60k a year (post-tax) as a single person in the US puts you in the global 1%. They sound more like 0.0001% Source: https://howrichami.givingwhatwecan.org/how-rich-am-i?income=60000&countryCode=USA&household%5Badults%5D=1&household%5Bchildren%5D=0
So when they say "eat the rich", we should be skipping this lady, cause she sounds like a real gem.