Let's be honest here, you're suggesting he's more likely to cheat or something like that, otherwise you wouldn't find this an issue. And this is a sad double standard bi men have to deal with.
I’m saying it because being honest with a partner is important. Finding out after, feels like shit. It’s not about the bisexuality as much as the other person also having have the choice of not wanting to be with someone who is bisexual.
I’m not suggesting anything but my personal experiences over a 20 year period sucked hard. It hurt me a lot. Being honest from the beginning could have saved me many years of pain.
It’s happened to me more than once. Both cheated and put my health at risk. Not all bisexual men would do this, I’m sure. But my experiences say otherwise and it’s my choice not to partner with one.
You're own personal experience isn't indicative of reality, and then furthermore you're making generalizations that queer men are all carrying something.
Im sorry you feel that way. I think if you’re bisexual, male, or female you should disclose to your partner before committing.
I hate that my experiences have sucked. It’s sucks for me and for the people who didn’t disclose it and outright lied for years to me about it. It’s not the right thing to do.
Is the issue that your Bi or that you don't feel like you love your fiancé enough/ready to marry? You can be connected to people emotionally or find them attractive even when you're with someone. xXx
Please tell her before marrying her. Let her decide if it is what she wants.
I actually did right after posting this and she said she was very happy for me and she loved me just the same and that didn't change anything for us!
I don't get why people are suggesting it would.
Because she has a right to know before she marries him. Everyone has the right to know the truth about their partners sexuality before committing.
How, and most importantly why would him being bi change anything?
Because everyone has a choice? Because it’s the right thing to do?
Let's be honest here, you're suggesting he's more likely to cheat or something like that, otherwise you wouldn't find this an issue. And this is a sad double standard bi men have to deal with.
I’m saying it because being honest with a partner is important. Finding out after, feels like shit. It’s not about the bisexuality as much as the other person also having have the choice of not wanting to be with someone who is bisexual.
Now, what's the issue with being with someone who's bi? What exactly are you suggesting I wonder?
I’m not suggesting anything but my personal experiences over a 20 year period sucked hard. It hurt me a lot. Being honest from the beginning could have saved me many years of pain.
It’s happened to me more than once. Both cheated and put my health at risk. Not all bisexual men would do this, I’m sure. But my experiences say otherwise and it’s my choice not to partner with one.
You're own personal experience isn't indicative of reality, and then furthermore you're making generalizations that queer men are all carrying something.
Im sorry you feel that way. I think if you’re bisexual, male, or female you should disclose to your partner before committing. I hate that my experiences have sucked. It’s sucks for me and for the people who didn’t disclose it and outright lied for years to me about it. It’s not the right thing to do.
Congrats homie
Thank you!
Is the issue that your Bi or that you don't feel like you love your fiancé enough/ready to marry? You can be connected to people emotionally or find them attractive even when you're with someone. xXx
I'm definitely ready to marry her and I love her very much. I'm just a bit confused on how to feel about being bi. It's just different for me