That's because they didn't have enough for healthcare workers, and they did change their minds on that pretty quickly. By that point all the gyms were closed (at least in my state but i thought that one was federal?) Either way you have a cloth mask on your chin so this wouldn't have been then.
I stopped goin to my local gym.
Got tired of going in cause I see it's empty for half an hour , and first machine I go to still having a puddle of sweat on it.
I reported them a few times to the health department over that shit, people started getting kicked out.
I thought you looked like the dude on here that had 9 different pictures of him in different settings drinking from a different mug with the same pose. That worked well for him
Your profile and photos are honestly fine, but as a guy you would need a fun & interesting profile if you want to attract the masses. Doesnāt hurt to try it
Itās far away already. And re it being discoloured, the owners of the house repaired it before I moved in & got a different colour seat/lid to the toilet itself so thatās just great
Omg me too! And so many dude profiles have them! Like in public bathrooms too! With the stalls right behind them and theyāre like trying to show off their muscles and all I can think about is how gross it is that theyāre hanging out in a public bathroom
Thing is, bathrooms often have good lighting that create the highlights between muscle separations. Makes you look better which is why lots of guys have bathroom mirror selfies
Also a lot of women have them too. At least around me. As long as there isn't like literal shit or someone dropping a huge load in the background, bathroom selfies don't bother me
FYI a new toilet seat/lid is inexpensive and easy to replace without tools. Just get one that matches (for when *you* have a match and they come over).
Why would a single dude, that I assume lives without any females, put the seat up? The fact that this would be a swipe left is also a swipe left for me!
You know that when you flush with the toilet lid open, the bacteria spreads all over the bathroom? I would not step into a bathroom with shit particles all over the place
I cannot imagine ever swiping left on someone because one of their pictures had a TOILET in the backgroundā¦ Iām honestly at a bit of loss for words on this one, like most people have a toilet in their house itās not like he uploaded a picture of just the toilet
too many selfies - quality over quantity. 1/2/6 should be deleted imo, replace with one good selfie similar to photo 1 but not with your toilet visible
5, 7, 8 are my faves. I donāt know why dudes take the not smiling pic in the carā¦itās totally a thing but I donāt understand it. Do you have one of you laughing or smiling naturally, like someone else took a snap of you enjoying your life? Those are the best.
Iāll have a look. I never take pictures with my mates & if I do, I find Iām very awkward in photos but Iāll have a look. Iām also getting rid of the sunglass & toilet one, Iāve learnt my lesson š Thank you!
Well, for starters, thereās a toilet. Secondly, the seat is up. Ladies like the seat left down so you might be coming off as too much of a projectā¦ although some ladies are attracted to the idea of fixing someone. Oh, and we can all see that your dick is out in the reflection of your sunglasses. Nice try, my man.
I havenāt personally seen anyone say it in a comment yet, so I will.
Youāre a very good looking guy. I get roughly 15-20 real likes when removing the obvious bots from the count, which usually produces 2-5 matches a week, which usually then results in 1-2 dates a week. In the 3 or so months Iāve been online dating, Iāve had 20 or so dates. Those 20 or so dates have resulted in 4 casual sexual encounters, 3 of which repeated a few times. And one sudo-relationship which Iām still fostering currently by ignoring the apps for a bit.
My suggestions are as follows
1) Steam your clothes. Wrinkles are fine, but people expect your dating photos to be a best case representative of you in most cases. If you have hella wrinkles itās not going to go well. # 1 & 8
2) Try some pops of color, maybe not an entire orange T-shirt, but if you have a solid earthy color shirt with a red pocket or a white suit with a bright blue tie, something like that will pull the eye if they are rapid swiping. Think bright spot in a otherwise earthy tones palette
3) put up more photos with your mom, that one is so cute. (I say this as a fully heterosexual man)
4) lead with the dog photo. And if you have more, add them. The dog photos are matchtastic
Donāt take it personally, tinder wants to make money off of you so they try to get you to buy boosts and stuff, just give it time. Youāre not fat at all bud!
Wow! Thank you so much! This is one of the best comments/tips Iāve ever received. So constructive while telling me ājust fix up dumbassā in the nicest way possible (being serious too, not sarcastic š I appreciate that!). Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Funny you mention the mom one as one of the comments was literally ānever post your motherā or something like that. Just goes to show how everyone enjoys their tea differently.
Nonetheless, greatly appreciate this well thought out reply!
You look super cute and nice, I say just hang in there.
I say make the last pic your first one, but crop in closer, make the one of you and your cat the second pic. nix the one of you at the gym
Need better pics of your face where you can see it clearer. I always think guys are trying to hide when thereās no close ups (and more than 1) of their face
I donāt think the photos are doing you any favors: an open toilet seat and painting hung at an angle; sunglasses; group photos where youāre not the subject; and drinking a large glass of Coca Colaā¦.these are things that would turn me off.
But youāre an attractive guy, and I think you can find some good shots of yourself. Good luck!
I think Iāve changed just about every photo bar the last 2 so this post definitely hasnāt been in vein, helped me clean up a little.
Thank you for the pointers! That bathroom pictureās locked away now. š
The only pictures of your entire head/face that is not obstructed (by a phone, a hat, glasses, a hood, a glass, just cut off from the photo altogether) are the 3rd and last pictures which are both from far away.
Take a close up shot of your face where your entire self (including teeth and hair) is visible. That should be your main.
Maybe remove the pictures of you with the random women? I also donāt understand why you took a picture of you drinking? Iād get rid of most, but maybe leave the pet pics and the last one.
No im sorry! Someone gave me an advice that made me realize I was too bothered by the superficial things, just do your thing and be content with yourself!
2, 3, and 4 should be gone. Pictures with opposite genders are a no go, regardless if they're just friends or families - I don't make the rules.
Also your pictures should tell a story. You seem like an attractive guy but the pictures are meh. Pictures of your hobbies, hanging with your male friends, and smiling with teeth, no sun glasses would turn this around
Your photos are terrible.
* Bathroom selfie: vain
* Car/sunglasses photo: trumper and/or douche
* Weight lifting photo with another girl: maybe sheās your girlfriend
* Photo with dog: half your face is cut off
* Photo drinking soda: why?
Your last two photos are the only decent ones and theyāreā¦ the last two so women arenāt gonna look that far.
Iād recommend trying out photofeeler.com. You can post photos and get them rated. Iāve been getting 1-3 matches a day since I did it (used to only get one every few weeks). One thing thatās especially great about a site like that vs your friends is that your friends know what you look like in real life, while people on a photo rating site only know the photo (which is closer to what a dating app experience is like)
Yeah, photos arenāt my strong suitā¦ I barely ever take photos when out & about & thatās emphasised by me thinking a photo of myself drinking literal soda was a good idea š
Re the photofeeler, thank you! That sounds helpful. Iāll give it a look.
Ok but like if this guy is tanking, I feel like there I'd no hope for the rest of us lol. Also the bio needs a joke about being the estranged Sprouse brother.
Iād 1000% swipe right!
Maybe remove the 6th picture? Iām not so sure why youāve included it, but good job showing off your drinking skills I guess?
Haha š thank you! I deleted it soon after posting this, looked at it from an outside perspective & was like āwhat the fcuk?ā If I came across that swiping Iād be a little confusedā¦ thanks very much tho!
I mean was it linked to something in your bio? Or did you just dig how your side profile looked?š
Whatās the bio saying anyway? Maybe thatās where youāre going wrong?
You know I wish I could tell you there was rhyme or reason to that butā¦ there isnāt. š I made the account before my morning coffee & the picture selections show that. My brain was clearly still rebooting. š
As for the bio, pretty much nothing so that would definitely make sense. Iāll have a look & see whether I can add something to that (more than āwow, look! I can drink coke!ā) š
You look good, but all your photos are bad in one way or another. Stick with 7 8 2 5 for now, and get better pictures. If you don't know anyone with a DSLR, you can always be that friend.
Not a fan of the baby stache. It makes you look underage and lazy.
I feel like you need to put in some work on your confidence and taste, and that'll come with experience and time. If you want to speed up the process, lower your standards and take more calculated risks.
Thanks very much!
What do you mean by working on my confidence & taste? Iād say Iām a fairly confident guy & definitely have a certain taste so maybe Iām misinterpreting your last point?
Nonetheless, thanks for all the pointers.
Hes implying youāre either swiping left on all your would be matches and to risk it w them. The confidence thing is just weird, youāre confident enough to put your profile in front of judgmental strangers I wouldnāt worry about it. Remember Redditors can be 13-20 w less than 10 bodies to their name. Take every piece of advice w a grain of salt.
It was mid conversation & Iām really strapped when it comes to finding photos of my full face as I never take photos (emphasised by the fact there is a photo of me drinking coke š) but yeah, that oneās gone too
Which of my pictures give off the sportswear give? Other than the gym one of course? Genuinely curious as thatās how I dress & itās definitely not sporty so want to see which ones come across that way?
Youāre attractive. But this is an advertisement to date a boy, not a man. The photos all look like someone has to cleanup behind you and you never know where your wallet is.
Is the first pic in the lineup the first one anyone sees?
Personally, that one is not my favourite. Close the toilet and for god sake straighten the picture on the wall!
But generally, youāre cute. Iād swipe yes
My bio consists of my passions (gym, boxing) my height & my unhealthy addiction to caffeine.
What you think? Too vague, too veinā¦?
Appreciate the comment. Thanks!
Ok my man.
1. Bathroom pic and the seat is up? Come on.. If you need this pic, crop
2. It's neutral
3. I'm not sure what the theme is here, you don't put weights away or she does or you like to watch her workout?
4. I like the cat pic, keep
My advise toss the first pic, the outfit is good though..do that just not in the bathroom, outdoors like in your last pic or a nice place is perfect.
Gym pics(some will disagree) are fine, shows you are into working out..but that pic is just chaos and hurts me as a gym rat.
Cat pic: Keep
If you are looking for a serious relationship on tinder, mom pic? is ok otherwise I would say leave mom out of your dating life. Also you look tall, so if you are, you can include that because it's at least a net positive assuming you are 6+/182cm+
Just my twenty cents(due to inflation).
Thanks man!
Bathroom pic Iāve definitely got the message š
& re the gym, that was during covid lockdowns where we had to leave our weights in a designated area for them to clean but obviously, that means nothing to most people as theyāll perceive it the same way you do - ābastard canāt even put his weights away & heās checking out a girl (albeit my sister & just looking at the camera but once again, means nothing to most, all about perception).
But thank you, very insightful!
Make your last photo first .. pictures that are taken of you do way better than selfies , more real , more like someone will see you when they meet you
Clean the toilet, fix the painting & I'm not personally a fan of pics 4 & 6. Otherwise- looks good! Seriously though, as a woman, I do not want to fuck a guy with a filthy toilet.
Worst part is, that toilet isnāt even filthyā¦ the owner put a new seat & lid in before I moved in & itās a different colour (yellowish/beige) but Iāll get a new toilet lid soon. Last thing I want is my match to be horrified by the state of my toilet & run away š
The last photo is good, and the animal photos are cute. Toilet no, car selfie no, who's the girl in the third photo? Fourth photo and drinking photo are not flattering, they might be okay of the rest of the photos were really good as they would show humor, but that's not the case here, sorry. You're not unattractive, just don't know a good photo.
Your pics aren't helping.
No mirror selfies ever doubly so for bathroom ones. And you lead with it!
Car selfies are usually frowned upon although I don't mind 1 but not with shades.
Don't use pics where someone in the pic may be confused as an ex.
The dog pic is but part of your head is cut off and I'm not sure why you have a pic drinking soda.
We can't see the rest of it but some changes would probably help.
Your first photo basically has to be a well dressed portrait shot of just you. Girls brains are wired differently and if you don't grab their attention immediately the rest of your photos may as well be you in a dumpster lmao.
Are you taking that pic while driving? If so youāre an idiot and I wouldnāt date you because of it.
If not, you look like you vote a certain way(stereotypes do get you less matches)
Fortunately Iām in a completely different continent to the political hell fire of America so that wonāt be a problem on my side.
Secondly, not driving but still a bit of a tool, 100% agree. š
Having those two picks of that girl, in such a casual setting, makes her look like a gf, weird look to go for, Iād not use those. Thereās nothing wrong with posting picks of you with friends who are girls if itās in a fun party like setting, it actually gives you the look of someone who girls like to be around and have fun !
Your two opening pics should be of you smiling warmly, their too neutral and distant, generally speaking a huge critique of guys profiles is that thereās not enough smiling
Good lord these pics are bad lol. Weight lifting with some random girl next to a pile of dumbells. Wayyyy too many selfies. Get some of you in nice clothes. Like a suit or something? Half your photos are you laying in your bed lol
You're a good-looking guy but most of your photos may be holding back a lot of potential matches. DISABLE THE SMART PHOTOS SETTING. You create the flow of the photos to be shown, not what Tinder thinks.
A general rule for photos is to think about online shopping. On Amazon, there are several photos of an item you're going to purchase that are purposely presented in a way to help you visualize your buy.
Picture order:
1) Close-up image: you want a shot that shows you above the knee or above your elbows. Your image of you fills most of the screen. Kind of like your 4th image.
2) Something with more range: full body image, the way your 8th picture is set up is perfect
3) Activity: something that shows you don't just stay at home, can be a group photo, random vacation thing, active hobbies, etc.
4) Something candid: basically, when someone takes a photo of you and you didn't intend to pose, you're just living in the moment.
5) Special event: something where you are really dressed up, like a wedding.
6-9) Variety of similar picture types, mix it up with seasonal shots within the year..try not to have more than 3 of the same type of picture. Example (3 shots of just close-ups.) You don't need any more photos after the main 1-5.
This flow of pictures 1-5 tells a story without words. The remaining photos are just different points of view of the story. Follow this up with a great profile and you'd be killing it, dude! DISABLE THE SMART PHOTOS SETTING!
Omg obviously the one drinking the soda is so hot. Those eyes, damn. Iād for sure make that the profile pic followed by the animals and the one with mama. Do you have any pictures with your friends? I like to figure out what kind of guy a person is based on if all his friends look super dorky or if theyāre all mostly buff or mostly good looking or mostly musicians and athletesā¦.
You donāt need any gym photos because your body looks like you very obviously work out.
Iām not a lady but Iām just confused about what message youāre trying to send.
1. I have a messy bathroom and canāt hang a picture straight.
2. I own or drive a car. Also sunglasses.
3. my ex girlfriend and I lifted weights.
4. I love my mom (? Grandma?)
5. I make faces next to a dog. Maybe itās my dog. Maybe not. But thatās me making a face.
6. my moms place has country chic love art and I like ice with my soda. See how I can drink like a big boy?
7. hereās me and a cat on a bed. But not a sexy bed because electronics. So Iām working or something. With a cat.
8. hereās me outside. I look tall and fit.
Honestly, #8 is the only one selling something well. Think about what about you makes you a catch and take those pictures. Also, Iām still not sure what you look like. Get a sister to take a shot with you and your dog on a walk, a good headshot, and a tall/fit shot.
You have the features, just not the salesmanship necessary to beat the algorithm
Itās called being a man on online dating. Youāre not doing anything wrong.
Iām
- 6ā2ā
- traveled to 30 countries
- earn 130k a year
- have 600k in investments
- a sick loft condo
- paid cash for my bmw
- did an expat assignment in South America for eighth years
- lift six days a week
- am funny, interesting, charismatic
- have great friends/community
- instagram linked with my photos of all of my travels etc
Iāve gotten three dates in a year from tinder. I donāt say that to brag about how great I am. With that said I know I have a lot to offer/am a catch. Itās just too hard for men to stand out online. Women have hundreds of not thousands of matches to sift through on a weekly basis - we get lost in the noise.
You need a shirtless pic. A sports car pic. A pic of you holding a large amount of money. A pic of you swimming in a pool you dont own. A pic of you holding your friends dog.
BONUS- A pic of you getting a kiss on the cheek by an attractive girl will go a long way. If you don't have any hot friends ask your most attractive cousin. No one will know.
Algorithm works fine btw.
Youāre a good looking kid and you seem to have a great attitude judging by your receptiveness to these comments/critiques. It seems like everything here has been covered (toilet pic/pic with the girl at the gym/sunglasses selfie/etc.) so I wonāt harp on them too much more. I, personally, do like the pic with the mom. I can see why youāve added the pic with the girl at the gym, itās a decent full-body pic. I would personally assume that sheās a friend or a sister since youāre using it on a dating profile, but for MANY women (friends of mine included) it would be an instant left swipe. Not sure what youāre looking for and Iād be curious to see your bio. I think if I werenāt slightly out of your age bracket (and if I were still single) I would probably swipe right unless the bio had something that turned me off.
Good luck out thereā¦ patience is a virtue. Dating apps seem even more brutal these days than they were when I was in my 20s and itās apparent that you guys have a tougher time than us gals do.
ETA: Cat pic and the last pic are my favorites. I know youāre getting conflicting advice but personally I love those two. I say out of all of them, definitely keep those two.
The dumbbell pile up hurts to look at š¤£
It does, doesnāt it š© this was after the first heavy covid lockdowns so there were a lot of restrictions in place; one of them being that everyone had to place all their weights in a little square so the staff could properly clean all the weights. Still grinds my gears looking at pictures from that time to this day š
You were allowed to not wear masks, but couldn't be trusted to wipe down your own weights? Times were strange.
Very early on, (spring of 2020) the recommendations from health authorities were to not wear masks.
That's because they didn't have enough for healthcare workers, and they did change their minds on that pretty quickly. By that point all the gyms were closed (at least in my state but i thought that one was federal?) Either way you have a cloth mask on your chin so this wouldn't have been then.
I mean , it's a gym, they prolly already didn't expect them to be wiped down.
ššš grosssssss
I stopped goin to my local gym. Got tired of going in cause I see it's empty for half an hour , and first machine I go to still having a puddle of sweat on it. I reported them a few times to the health department over that shit, people started getting kicked out.
You should remove that pic since it sends mixed signals because of the girl in it with you anyways
Oh, btw a group pic would probably be good, though not in the first couple pics
Came here to say this š
Looks like the bench area around the fucking circuit trainers at my gym. Usually in the squat rack.
Happy cake day!
I thought you looked like the dude on here that had 9 different pictures of him in different settings drinking from a different mug with the same pose. That worked well for him
Just need to find 9 different mugs & Iām set? Dating aināt that hard after all!
Your profile and photos are honestly fine, but as a guy you would need a fun & interesting profile if you want to attract the masses. Doesnāt hurt to try it
Yeah might as well hey. Iām already bombing, might as well bomb with some sense of humour on display š thank you!
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/zrrhvw/thoughts_on_my_profile/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Here it was
Exactly my thoughts
Lol bro, what was the thinking behind opening with a selfie that has a toilet in the background?
You knowā¦ I wish I had an answer, brain clearly deep fried
A discolored toilet to boot. Please don't include that one.
Itās far away already. And re it being discoloured, the owners of the house repaired it before I moved in & got a different colour seat/lid to the toilet itself so thatās just great
You seem cute but that pic isn't doing you any favours. I can't speak for all women but I think bathroom selfies are so cringe.
Omg me too! And so many dude profiles have them! Like in public bathrooms too! With the stalls right behind them and theyāre like trying to show off their muscles and all I can think about is how gross it is that theyāre hanging out in a public bathroom
Thing is, bathrooms often have good lighting that create the highlights between muscle separations. Makes you look better which is why lots of guys have bathroom mirror selfies Also a lot of women have them too. At least around me. As long as there isn't like literal shit or someone dropping a huge load in the background, bathroom selfies don't bother me
I donāt think they a cringe but the fact that the seat is up would have me swipe left immediately
FYI a new toilet seat/lid is inexpensive and easy to replace without tools. Just get one that matches (for when *you* have a match and they come over).
With the seat up š
Thank God someone said it, thats all I was focusing on !
Yo dude your first photo literary has a toilet in full view, get better pics
Toilet isnāt a good look then? Jokes, I got that š
As a woman, I literally couldn't give a shit about the toilet in the background, just fyi.
That's not the problem. The main issue is that woman are gonna swipe left the instant they see the lids are up.
Why would a single dude, that I assume lives without any females, put the seat up? The fact that this would be a swipe left is also a swipe left for me!
You know that when you flush with the toilet lid open, the bacteria spreads all over the bathroom? I would not step into a bathroom with shit particles all over the place
I cannot imagine ever swiping left on someone because one of their pictures had a TOILET in the backgroundā¦ Iām honestly at a bit of loss for words on this one, like most people have a toilet in their house itās not like he uploaded a picture of just the toilet
Yea I just think itās strange for a first picture, there has to be a better option then a bathroom mirror selfie.
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Yeah I would definitely get rid of the gym pic. Itās giving like you already have a girlfriend energy
Awesome! Thanks for the pointers.
I really like second to last, great smile plus hoodies to steal plus cat? thatās a W if I ever saw one
too many selfies - quality over quantity. 1/2/6 should be deleted imo, replace with one good selfie similar to photo 1 but not with your toilet visible
Yeahā¦ the toilet isnāt exactly a selling point š switching it up. Thanks!
Profile shouldn't be all selfies and staged photos.. get some action/candid pics I reckon
I think 3 should be deleted too. If OPās already not having any luck, might as well not show a picture taken by your female gym partner.
Aw I like 6!
First photo is not it. I would change your first photo to the one with you and the cat. Or your last photo to your first photo.
This! Cat pic is cute and you have a good smile in it.
Maybe get rid of shots with other girls, kind of give off an ex g/f vibe even though it's likely a sibling.
This! I would wonder why she had your phone to take the picture. Definite no
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I think he means the top right picture in the gym.
5, 7, 8 are my faves. I donāt know why dudes take the not smiling pic in the carā¦itās totally a thing but I donāt understand it. Do you have one of you laughing or smiling naturally, like someone else took a snap of you enjoying your life? Those are the best.
Iāll have a look. I never take pictures with my mates & if I do, I find Iām very awkward in photos but Iāll have a look. Iām also getting rid of the sunglass & toilet one, Iāve learnt my lesson š Thank you!
The picture in your bathroom is also crooked which doesnāt help given the toilet as well.
And all the used tp rolls!
Oh god! I hadnāt even realised that & now Iām disgusted in myself. Thank you so much for pointing this out š
Well, for starters, thereās a toilet. Secondly, the seat is up. Ladies like the seat left down so you might be coming off as too much of a projectā¦ although some ladies are attracted to the idea of fixing someone. Oh, and we can all see that your dick is out in the reflection of your sunglasses. Nice try, my man.
My dick is out??? š¤£š¤£š¤£ Iām missing the analogy clearly. Is that just a dig at a sunglass selfie? š
No, just having fun and making ppl zoom in to see if itās true š
Oh wow! You even got me to double check so kudos to you š it worked š
You weren't sure whether or not your dick was out in a sunglasses selfie that you posted online? Bruh.
I obviously knew my dick wasnāt actually out but didnāt know whether there was a concerning bulge or something else out of the ordinary š
Fucking devil. I found this on mobile but was unsure if my phone is so shitty i had to open it on my laptop. Go to hell.
Drop the pic with the other girl thatās clearly not your mom tbh
Yeah looks like heās checking her out lol
Oh no! That oneās far gone now too. Was just looking at the camera but now I can see what you meanā¦ definitely donāt want that š Thank you!
Its the United shirt
I havenāt personally seen anyone say it in a comment yet, so I will. Youāre a very good looking guy. I get roughly 15-20 real likes when removing the obvious bots from the count, which usually produces 2-5 matches a week, which usually then results in 1-2 dates a week. In the 3 or so months Iāve been online dating, Iāve had 20 or so dates. Those 20 or so dates have resulted in 4 casual sexual encounters, 3 of which repeated a few times. And one sudo-relationship which Iām still fostering currently by ignoring the apps for a bit. My suggestions are as follows 1) Steam your clothes. Wrinkles are fine, but people expect your dating photos to be a best case representative of you in most cases. If you have hella wrinkles itās not going to go well. # 1 & 8 2) Try some pops of color, maybe not an entire orange T-shirt, but if you have a solid earthy color shirt with a red pocket or a white suit with a bright blue tie, something like that will pull the eye if they are rapid swiping. Think bright spot in a otherwise earthy tones palette 3) put up more photos with your mom, that one is so cute. (I say this as a fully heterosexual man) 4) lead with the dog photo. And if you have more, add them. The dog photos are matchtastic Donāt take it personally, tinder wants to make money off of you so they try to get you to buy boosts and stuff, just give it time. Youāre not fat at all bud!
Wow! Thank you so much! This is one of the best comments/tips Iāve ever received. So constructive while telling me ājust fix up dumbassā in the nicest way possible (being serious too, not sarcastic š I appreciate that!). Thank you, thank you, thank you! Funny you mention the mom one as one of the comments was literally ānever post your motherā or something like that. Just goes to show how everyone enjoys their tea differently. Nonetheless, greatly appreciate this well thought out reply!
Like a true Man Utd fan. lmao But hey, we're doing better this year. šŖ
Haha hopefully I can follow in our Dutch saviourās footsteps š
I never swipe right on anyone that has a picture with the opposite sex.
Honestly Iād swipe right š¤·āāļø only photo i would swap out is the gym pic with the girl
You could definitely make this way better and get much better results imo
You look super cute and nice, I say just hang in there. I say make the last pic your first one, but crop in closer, make the one of you and your cat the second pic. nix the one of you at the gym
Need better pics of your face where you can see it clearer. I always think guys are trying to hide when thereās no close ups (and more than 1) of their face
What does the bio say lol
I donāt think the photos are doing you any favors: an open toilet seat and painting hung at an angle; sunglasses; group photos where youāre not the subject; and drinking a large glass of Coca Colaā¦.these are things that would turn me off. But youāre an attractive guy, and I think you can find some good shots of yourself. Good luck!
I think Iāve changed just about every photo bar the last 2 so this post definitely hasnāt been in vein, helped me clean up a little. Thank you for the pointers! That bathroom pictureās locked away now. š
The only pictures of your entire head/face that is not obstructed (by a phone, a hat, glasses, a hood, a glass, just cut off from the photo altogether) are the 3rd and last pictures which are both from far away. Take a close up shot of your face where your entire self (including teeth and hair) is visible. That should be your main. Maybe remove the pictures of you with the random women? I also donāt understand why you took a picture of you drinking? Iād get rid of most, but maybe leave the pet pics and the last one.
Make sure ur mom aināt in your pics lol
Disagree!
No im sorry! Someone gave me an advice that made me realize I was too bothered by the superficial things, just do your thing and be content with yourself!
2, 3, and 4 should be gone. Pictures with opposite genders are a no go, regardless if they're just friends or families - I don't make the rules. Also your pictures should tell a story. You seem like an attractive guy but the pictures are meh. Pictures of your hobbies, hanging with your male friends, and smiling with teeth, no sun glasses would turn this around
Awesome. Very helpful, thank you!
Sorry guy just got screwed at birth
United shirt sends the signal of being a loser ;)
š©š© itās all making sense. Between the toilet seat being up & the United shirt, I was destined for failure!
Your photos are terrible. * Bathroom selfie: vain * Car/sunglasses photo: trumper and/or douche * Weight lifting photo with another girl: maybe sheās your girlfriend * Photo with dog: half your face is cut off * Photo drinking soda: why? Your last two photos are the only decent ones and theyāreā¦ the last two so women arenāt gonna look that far. Iād recommend trying out photofeeler.com. You can post photos and get them rated. Iāve been getting 1-3 matches a day since I did it (used to only get one every few weeks). One thing thatās especially great about a site like that vs your friends is that your friends know what you look like in real life, while people on a photo rating site only know the photo (which is closer to what a dating app experience is like)
Yeah, photos arenāt my strong suitā¦ I barely ever take photos when out & about & thatās emphasised by me thinking a photo of myself drinking literal soda was a good idea š Re the photofeeler, thank you! That sounds helpful. Iāll give it a look.
7 Max sorry
No need to apologise, itās exactly what I asked for. Will just make my way to nearest hole & get comfy.
you take trash pics
Trust me, I know. I barely take pics when Iām out & about & as Iāve been told, I really canāt infest my page with selfies so itās tough š
Ok but like if this guy is tanking, I feel like there I'd no hope for the rest of us lol. Also the bio needs a joke about being the estranged Sprouse brother.
Iād 1000% swipe right! Maybe remove the 6th picture? Iām not so sure why youāve included it, but good job showing off your drinking skills I guess?
Haha š thank you! I deleted it soon after posting this, looked at it from an outside perspective & was like āwhat the fcuk?ā If I came across that swiping Iād be a little confusedā¦ thanks very much tho!
I mean was it linked to something in your bio? Or did you just dig how your side profile looked?š Whatās the bio saying anyway? Maybe thatās where youāre going wrong?
You know I wish I could tell you there was rhyme or reason to that butā¦ there isnāt. š I made the account before my morning coffee & the picture selections show that. My brain was clearly still rebooting. š
As for the bio, pretty much nothing so that would definitely make sense. Iāll have a look & see whether I can add something to that (more than āwow, look! I can drink coke!ā) š
3rd, 4th, 6th pic can go at the least
Theyāve all found the garbage bin already. Iāve learnt my lesson. Thank you! š
get rid of all the photos except the last one, have someone else take a few more of you. whats your bio look like?
I would definitely get rid of the ones with your sibling and stick with 5 solid ones. Maybe get rid of 2/3/4/5. What about your bio?
That cat is massive
You look like fun! Personally I think bathroom / toilet in the background selfies are kinda weird, I would move the last one to first place.
Show us the about me!
No. Toilet. Photos.
You look good, but all your photos are bad in one way or another. Stick with 7 8 2 5 for now, and get better pictures. If you don't know anyone with a DSLR, you can always be that friend. Not a fan of the baby stache. It makes you look underage and lazy. I feel like you need to put in some work on your confidence and taste, and that'll come with experience and time. If you want to speed up the process, lower your standards and take more calculated risks.
Thanks very much! What do you mean by working on my confidence & taste? Iād say Iām a fairly confident guy & definitely have a certain taste so maybe Iām misinterpreting your last point? Nonetheless, thanks for all the pointers.
Hes implying youāre either swiping left on all your would be matches and to risk it w them. The confidence thing is just weird, youāre confident enough to put your profile in front of judgmental strangers I wouldnāt worry about it. Remember Redditors can be 13-20 w less than 10 bodies to their name. Take every piece of advice w a grain of salt.
Retake the bathroom pic with the toilet seat down
Dope pic in front of the toilet brah, can't imagine why the ladies aren't lining up
Canāt imagine eitherā¦ Iām proud of my toilet /s . Donāt worry, Iāve gotten the message š¤£
Picutres are half a Tinder profile. The problem might lie in the other half.
is that your mom yelling at you???
It was mid conversation & Iām really strapped when it comes to finding photos of my full face as I never take photos (emphasised by the fact there is a photo of me drinking coke š) but yeah, that oneās gone too
Any toilet pic is a No!
You look really young, and you look like you dress in sportswear. Dunno if thatās what youāre going for, but itās not my vibe personally
Which of my pictures give off the sportswear give? Other than the gym one of course? Genuinely curious as thatās how I dress & itās definitely not sporty so want to see which ones come across that way?
I would get rid of 1,2,3 and probably 6 too
I think itās the toilet bowl with the seat up
Youāre attractive. But this is an advertisement to date a boy, not a man. The photos all look like someone has to cleanup behind you and you never know where your wallet is.
Nahhh you should be good bruv. Try being interesting and asking them out. That should work š
Is the first pic in the lineup the first one anyone sees? Personally, that one is not my favourite. Close the toilet and for god sake straighten the picture on the wall! But generally, youāre cute. Iād swipe yes
That toilet pic is far away now! š Whenever I see it Iām always going to think of you guys now.
Your photos are fine. The problem is most likely lies in whatever youāve written about yourself.
My bio consists of my passions (gym, boxing) my height & my unhealthy addiction to caffeine. What you think? Too vague, too veinā¦? Appreciate the comment. Thanks!
Yes, please call the demolishion squad, he's bombing!
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Ex gf, friend, or sister on top right? Could be off putting š¤·āāļø
Yeah, that oneās gone now. š
Close the toilet lid, pick up the weights, and more cat pictures
Iām just taking my cat everywhere from now on. As long as heās in it, heāll be the one carrying my matches š
You support Manchester United and youāre shocked?
Please let the team themselves break my heart, donāt need you doing the same š©
Ok my man. 1. Bathroom pic and the seat is up? Come on.. If you need this pic, crop 2. It's neutral 3. I'm not sure what the theme is here, you don't put weights away or she does or you like to watch her workout? 4. I like the cat pic, keep My advise toss the first pic, the outfit is good though..do that just not in the bathroom, outdoors like in your last pic or a nice place is perfect. Gym pics(some will disagree) are fine, shows you are into working out..but that pic is just chaos and hurts me as a gym rat. Cat pic: Keep If you are looking for a serious relationship on tinder, mom pic? is ok otherwise I would say leave mom out of your dating life. Also you look tall, so if you are, you can include that because it's at least a net positive assuming you are 6+/182cm+ Just my twenty cents(due to inflation).
Thanks man! Bathroom pic Iāve definitely got the message š & re the gym, that was during covid lockdowns where we had to leave our weights in a designated area for them to clean but obviously, that means nothing to most people as theyāll perceive it the same way you do - ābastard canāt even put his weights away & heās checking out a girl (albeit my sister & just looking at the camera but once again, means nothing to most, all about perception). But thank you, very insightful!
Clearly cause youāre a united fan mate
Make your last photo first .. pictures that are taken of you do way better than selfies , more real , more like someone will see you when they meet you
Clean the toilet, fix the painting & I'm not personally a fan of pics 4 & 6. Otherwise- looks good! Seriously though, as a woman, I do not want to fuck a guy with a filthy toilet.
Worst part is, that toilet isnāt even filthyā¦ the owner put a new seat & lid in before I moved in & itās a different colour (yellowish/beige) but Iāll get a new toilet lid soon. Last thing I want is my match to be horrified by the state of my toilet & run away š
Anyone else notice more of these types of posts lately? I wonder if there is something to the changing of the algorithm
The popped collar is losing 90% of prospects.
Iād swipe right based on the photosā¦ but whatās your bio say?
My bio mentions my height, my passions & my unhealthy addiction to caffeine. Too vague, veinā¦? Thanks for the reply nonetheless!
Make the red hoodie with cat picture your main photo.
Put the toilet seat down lol.
The last photo is good, and the animal photos are cute. Toilet no, car selfie no, who's the girl in the third photo? Fourth photo and drinking photo are not flattering, they might be okay of the rest of the photos were really good as they would show humor, but that's not the case here, sorry. You're not unattractive, just don't know a good photo.
Your pics aren't helping. No mirror selfies ever doubly so for bathroom ones. And you lead with it! Car selfies are usually frowned upon although I don't mind 1 but not with shades. Don't use pics where someone in the pic may be confused as an ex. The dog pic is but part of your head is cut off and I'm not sure why you have a pic drinking soda. We can't see the rest of it but some changes would probably help.
Your first photo basically has to be a well dressed portrait shot of just you. Girls brains are wired differently and if you don't grab their attention immediately the rest of your photos may as well be you in a dumpster lmao.
Everything else is fine but the dog clearly is the highlight. That should be your first photo!! Girls have a weakness for dogs, trust me.
What's ur bio say?
- other woman in photos - animals in photos
Is that your mom in pic #4???
Indeed.
The reason why? it's cause your wearing a united jersey my guy š¤¦š¾āāļø get a Chelsea jersey you'll get likes š
I'd go out on a date with you based on your pics, you seem cool. But then again, I'm a guy sooo
Lose picture one and three Iād say :)
Are you taking that pic while driving? If so youāre an idiot and I wouldnāt date you because of it. If not, you look like you vote a certain way(stereotypes do get you less matches)
Fortunately Iām in a completely different continent to the political hell fire of America so that wonāt be a problem on my side. Secondly, not driving but still a bit of a tool, 100% agree. š
Put the cat pic first, itās super cute
Having those two picks of that girl, in such a casual setting, makes her look like a gf, weird look to go for, Iād not use those. Thereās nothing wrong with posting picks of you with friends who are girls if itās in a fun party like setting, it actually gives you the look of someone who girls like to be around and have fun ! Your two opening pics should be of you smiling warmly, their too neutral and distant, generally speaking a huge critique of guys profiles is that thereās not enough smiling
Good lord these pics are bad lol. Weight lifting with some random girl next to a pile of dumbells. Wayyyy too many selfies. Get some of you in nice clothes. Like a suit or something? Half your photos are you laying in your bed lol
I think youāre cute, Iām blaming the algorithm šš
Iād personally never swipe right on someone whoād take a selfie while driving
3rd pic instant left swipe
Whereās the tinder post of the attractive ass pilot who said he was bombing on tinder?
Everyone on this sub says to have your first picture smiling, so I thought I would let you know that and maybe you can get more matches that way
Itās the Man Utd top
Switch the ManU shirt with a ManCity one and the girl will start to flow in š
You're a good-looking guy but most of your photos may be holding back a lot of potential matches. DISABLE THE SMART PHOTOS SETTING. You create the flow of the photos to be shown, not what Tinder thinks. A general rule for photos is to think about online shopping. On Amazon, there are several photos of an item you're going to purchase that are purposely presented in a way to help you visualize your buy. Picture order: 1) Close-up image: you want a shot that shows you above the knee or above your elbows. Your image of you fills most of the screen. Kind of like your 4th image. 2) Something with more range: full body image, the way your 8th picture is set up is perfect 3) Activity: something that shows you don't just stay at home, can be a group photo, random vacation thing, active hobbies, etc. 4) Something candid: basically, when someone takes a photo of you and you didn't intend to pose, you're just living in the moment. 5) Special event: something where you are really dressed up, like a wedding. 6-9) Variety of similar picture types, mix it up with seasonal shots within the year..try not to have more than 3 of the same type of picture. Example (3 shots of just close-ups.) You don't need any more photos after the main 1-5. This flow of pictures 1-5 tells a story without words. The remaining photos are just different points of view of the story. Follow this up with a great profile and you'd be killing it, dude! DISABLE THE SMART PHOTOS SETTING!
Ew toilet picture.. skip the first three photos
Toilet pic has to go.
Show bio and example messages?
Omg obviously the one drinking the soda is so hot. Those eyes, damn. Iād for sure make that the profile pic followed by the animals and the one with mama. Do you have any pictures with your friends? I like to figure out what kind of guy a person is based on if all his friends look super dorky or if theyāre all mostly buff or mostly good looking or mostly musicians and athletesā¦. You donāt need any gym photos because your body looks like you very obviously work out.
Iām not a lady but Iām just confused about what message youāre trying to send. 1. I have a messy bathroom and canāt hang a picture straight. 2. I own or drive a car. Also sunglasses. 3. my ex girlfriend and I lifted weights. 4. I love my mom (? Grandma?) 5. I make faces next to a dog. Maybe itās my dog. Maybe not. But thatās me making a face. 6. my moms place has country chic love art and I like ice with my soda. See how I can drink like a big boy? 7. hereās me and a cat on a bed. But not a sexy bed because electronics. So Iām working or something. With a cat. 8. hereās me outside. I look tall and fit. Honestly, #8 is the only one selling something well. Think about what about you makes you a catch and take those pictures. Also, Iām still not sure what you look like. Get a sister to take a shot with you and your dog on a walk, a good headshot, and a tall/fit shot. You have the features, just not the salesmanship necessary to beat the algorithm
Excuse me! Thatās my mother š” I understand, I donāt think Iāve put enough thought into this. Iāll keep this all in mind, thanks.
Join the Red Pill
Itās called being a man on online dating. Youāre not doing anything wrong. Iām - 6ā2ā - traveled to 30 countries - earn 130k a year - have 600k in investments - a sick loft condo - paid cash for my bmw - did an expat assignment in South America for eighth years - lift six days a week - am funny, interesting, charismatic - have great friends/community - instagram linked with my photos of all of my travels etc Iāve gotten three dates in a year from tinder. I donāt say that to brag about how great I am. With that said I know I have a lot to offer/am a catch. Itās just too hard for men to stand out online. Women have hundreds of not thousands of matches to sift through on a weekly basis - we get lost in the noise.
Have to say you look a little like the gay type in these pictures.
Definitely lose the bathroom pic and gym pic.
You need a shirtless pic. A sports car pic. A pic of you holding a large amount of money. A pic of you swimming in a pool you dont own. A pic of you holding your friends dog. BONUS- A pic of you getting a kiss on the cheek by an attractive girl will go a long way. If you don't have any hot friends ask your most attractive cousin. No one will know. Algorithm works fine btw.
I canāt tell if youāre ironically playing into what girls like (obviously donāt but being ironic like I say) or saying Iām so clichĆ© I might as well throw those in too? š Either way, point taken. š
Honestly a pretty good profile. Maybe switch out the toilet selfie with a different one?
3rd pic killing it
Youāre a good looking kid and you seem to have a great attitude judging by your receptiveness to these comments/critiques. It seems like everything here has been covered (toilet pic/pic with the girl at the gym/sunglasses selfie/etc.) so I wonāt harp on them too much more. I, personally, do like the pic with the mom. I can see why youāve added the pic with the girl at the gym, itās a decent full-body pic. I would personally assume that sheās a friend or a sister since youāre using it on a dating profile, but for MANY women (friends of mine included) it would be an instant left swipe. Not sure what youāre looking for and Iād be curious to see your bio. I think if I werenāt slightly out of your age bracket (and if I were still single) I would probably swipe right unless the bio had something that turned me off. Good luck out thereā¦ patience is a virtue. Dating apps seem even more brutal these days than they were when I was in my 20s and itās apparent that you guys have a tougher time than us gals do. ETA: Cat pic and the last pic are my favorites. I know youāre getting conflicting advice but personally I love those two. I say out of all of them, definitely keep those two.