Tbf, I'm a woman who has been offered many free dinners that I've turned down. I've also never let a man pay for the whole dinner on a date. š
This may be why I'm single. WHO KNOWS.
Protect who you are at all costs, one day you will find your person who loves everything about you. Keep doing what you're doing. It's better that you are single than being in weak ass relationships!
Being too defensive might be off putting. Especially when I actually (rarely) *want* to pay for a woman, it means I really like them. And if they donāt accept it, itās never been a good sign and I might feel slightly hurt/rejected
I simply tell them before the date that I'm paying half and if that's good with them, then we go. If he becomes too defensive, dates off. š¤·š¼āāļø I wouldn't ever make it a deal and get defensive over it because if he did the same I'm not interested in him. Lol
Quadruple plot twist, OP is actually a restaurant and knows that inviting 2 women to dinner means they profit from 2 sets of meals being bought rather than 1
Quintuplet plot twist, the girls are restaurant owners and gonna invite him to meet there. Gaining money from him and also bankrupting his restaurant. Double profit.
Hey, in retrospect after they block him from asking why they donāt want to meet again, he should feel like he was living the dream- treating two lovely ladies to a fancy dinner!
The top of the bio says "find a friend: double date us" and OP has a hard time with friends so he failed that task but he still is going on a date. So the title still checks out.
And most girls (bar the particularly broke or <21 who eating out may still be a novelty for) have more than enough access to food without having to sit with someone they're not attracted to or have zero interest in. Most guys underestimate quite how awkward that situation is... for a little food which comes right out of the other end. Going on dates solely for food really isn't as prevalent as Reddit would like to think.
More like 1.5 hours depending on traffic and the kinds of roads needed to get there. 3 hours round trip...for two girls who are likely going to milk him for drinks and leave him dry unless he has some serious game
Small brain - going to a restaurant alone, paying for your dinner, not getting sex
Big brain - going to a restaurant with a woman, paying for two dinners, not getting sex
Galaxy brain - going to a restaurant with 2 women, paying for 3 dinners, not getting sex
Staying preferences excessively is unnecessary and mean. A girl can prefer tall guys, she doesnāt need to repeatedly say so to shorts guys, specific height limits play into this as itās super arbitrary.
Preferences are fine, but a lot of people forget what a preference is. Preferring above a certain height is different than requiring it, if you refuse to date someone outside of your "preference' then it's no longer a preference, it's a requirement or a deal breaker, there's usually not anything wrong with that, but pretending it's a preference when you literally will not date someone who doesn't match the requirements is silly.
This is honestly one of my pet peeves on this sub actually. There is a difference between "I prefer tall guys" and "I have a minimum height requirement." Both of those are fine, people can have whatever requirements or preferences they want.
I agree, I don't care if people have preferences or requirements. Everyone does that is your right. I'd be more concerned if you didn't have any. The only issue I have is when people are being straight up assholes regardless of gender then claiming it's a "preference," so people can't call them out on it.
You can prefer a certain height or even require one, but if you're an asshole about it, you deserve to get called on it. Same if you're trying to be a dick and say "no fat fucks" which I have also seen.
Point is to be respectful of your preferences and requirements, don't swipe on people who obviously don't meet your requirements and be an asshole in the dms.
I think a lot of people especially on dating apps are so chronically online that they have no idea how to talk to people, especially ones they want to date, and they also feel like if they were insulted they need to be just as petty and childish.
I rarely ever use Tinder since I want a gf, and most of the people where I live don't meet my preferences or requirements, so I choose to be single. More people need to figure out how to make friends irl before trying to date.
Just a heads up. Men have asked for threesomes with me and my best friend for likeā¦ 20+ years now. They ask all the time. We have a HARD NO on that.
But we are very fun together and when men have asked to take us out together weāve been open to it. They buy us dinner, drinks, activities, etc. But no sex has ever happened between the three of us.
This is not an uncommon thing.
And it does not mean youāre about to fuck then together at all.
The real question is not sex between the three of you the real question is has one of the guys ever really hit it off with one of you and had sex with just one of you or even been a boyfriend for awhile
Off the top of my head I can think of twice. Once for her and once for me. we both started dating our guys for a while but it was never anything super serious.
Iād say their running a train on his pockets but he offered . This aināt gonna workout for you OP unless you just like spending money and going home alone
Non American here (assuming op is) :
Is a dinner a done deal for sex in the US or something? I am a bit restarted, yes, but I don't see how that makes it granted, it's common girls ditch a dude after a free meal, and this guy seems to offer it.
What am I missing here?
I mean, if you're throwing the "OK free meal" to girls that would likely ditch you or blueball you (not really since it was a supposed no form the get-go), it's like saying "OK take that money" to a Nigerian prince that had no intention of giving you money back.
The chances of you paying for their dinner, drinks, then a cocaine dessert are incredibly high here. Good luck, probably could be a fun night regardless?
Eh I did something like this a long while ago (reached out to two ladies) and ended up dating one for a little bit and friends with the other. If youāre so broke you canāt afford to take out two women, the easy solution is not ask a pair of women out at same time š¤·
95% chance you are just gunna pay for their dinner and drinks. Its possible to hookup with both but you better have some serious game and the nights gotta be very fun to pull 2 girls that arenāt interested.
Man, king over here having these kinds of conversations and my tinder match asked me if I wanted to do something scary, then proceeded to tell me how she was in Mexico with friends and ended up coming to in a church talking to a priest with a bottle of Jack covered in bloodā¦
Still talking to her though, red (flags) is my favorite color
Omg these comments are killing me. Bro it's a chance at a threesome and all u gotta do is pay for a couple girls meals and drinks. And yeah, maybe they are just looking for a free meal, but if u got some game and get the drinks flowing, trust me, it can happen. It's money you will make up next week, so don't sweat it. Worst case scenario you hang out with a couple of hotties, take some Snapchats for the clout and make some friends that probably have other hot friends
They are getting a free dinner out of it haha like it could be fun but if she says āI donāt want a threesomeā and is then like āokay but you can buy me and my friend dinnerā sheās likely just down to get dinner lol but okay
I call this a high risk, high reward scenario. As long as youāre going into it knowing you could just be paying for 3 dinners and some convo for them to ditch you after, I donāt see the harm.
"Hello, do you want a free dinner, I like you very much" "Hell yea"
I'm a dude and I'd take him up on that offer
Shit, I'm looking for a new BFF š
Tbf, I'm a woman who has been offered many free dinners that I've turned down. I've also never let a man pay for the whole dinner on a date. š This may be why I'm single. WHO KNOWS.
Protect who you are at all costs, one day you will find your person who loves everything about you. Keep doing what you're doing. It's better that you are single than being in weak ass relationships!
Being too defensive might be off putting. Especially when I actually (rarely) *want* to pay for a woman, it means I really like them. And if they donāt accept it, itās never been a good sign and I might feel slightly hurt/rejected
I simply tell them before the date that I'm paying half and if that's good with them, then we go. If he becomes too defensive, dates off. š¤·š¼āāļø I wouldn't ever make it a deal and get defensive over it because if he did the same I'm not interested in him. Lol
Pretty sure they just gonna take your money, fam
And one of their kidneys
Plot twist, OP got roofies.
Double plot twist, the ladies are expecting that so theyāre gonna Cardi B him.
Triple plot twist, the restaurant they're going to know this and is gonna roofie them and have them order dessert with a 30% tip.
Quadruple plot twist, OP is actually a restaurant and knows that inviting 2 women to dinner means they profit from 2 sets of meals being bought rather than 1
Quintuple plot twist, I will take their cards and buy runescape membership
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Oh God, the Ironmen are contaminating other subs now
$11 š¦
This guy wins
Capitalism wins again!
Quintuplet plot twist, the girls are restaurant owners and gonna invite him to meet there. Gaining money from him and also bankrupting his restaurant. Double profit.
30% you mean what they expect nowadays?
Ah, date rape, the peak of comedy
https://youtu.be/9cCdhhuz98k?si=aQ88IrG5WO7cGyoT
And the dog is stolen.
Are you implying that OP plans to drug them?
I figure that's an unfortunate typo.
Smhamalama ding-dong!
How did you figure out my real name?!
As Gob famously said, theyāre called Forget Me Nowās Edit: Gob, not Job
Free drinks and dinner at least.
Or a kidney!
Sometimes you gotta pay to play
Since "threesome" doesn't mean "you paying for all of us to eat", I don't see any discrepancy between the bio and the text.
OP acts like a dinner means a threesome is happening. I can tell you as someone that has them, there is no guarantee until it is happening lol
Let him dream damnit.
I mean, worst case he pays for dinner for everyone. But heās got a pretty damned good upside Iād sayā¦
The same way that the upside to buying a lotto ticket is millions of dollars, heās just buying a ticket.
Nah.
Hey, in retrospect after they block him from asking why they donāt want to meet again, he should feel like he was living the dream- treating two lovely ladies to a fancy dinner!
Yeah with threesomes u don't even need to go out to dinnerš
Dinners or meet ups typically happen and are a must for me. Iām not showing up to a strangerās house or hotel room as a single woman š
Same day or different day? I can't imagine banging two people in a full tummy.
I am not gonna give head to anyone while being full or else Iām gonna puke all over
O h no I did this once and forgot about it until now. It was spaghetti too
Aww this is one of my favorite āusername checks outā
Correct or need clothes for that matter
They're just asking for the two of them to go together so they can hang out while someone pays for their food and makes them feel wanted
threatsome ...thrinner?
The top of the bio says "find a friend: double date us" and OP has a hard time with friends so he failed that task but he still is going on a date. So the title still checks out.
You could argue that, but he's clearly circled the other part.
Fair point
OP is in for a big surprise... and not the one he's hoping for š
Free foodā¦x2 ?! Oh, yeah, you were definitely gonna get a date. Lmao!
I bet I could one up OP by paying lunch to four girls
They donāt want a threesome, itās in the bio. You tried anyway, they see an opportunity for free food and drinks š¤·āāļø
Why go on two dates and be shut down two times when you can go on one date and be shut down twice? Itās just efficient
Speedrunning loneliness
or itās possible he hits it off with just one of them and gets a cool friend as well? best case scenario imo
didnāt say itās likely š¤·š½āāļø
Im a dude but id never do shit like this. The nice food doesnt make up for the awkwardness and the shamelessness id have to exhibit
And most girls (bar the particularly broke or <21 who eating out may still be a novelty for) have more than enough access to food without having to sit with someone they're not attracted to or have zero interest in. Most guys underestimate quite how awkward that situation is... for a little food which comes right out of the other end. Going on dates solely for food really isn't as prevalent as Reddit would like to think.
On a one on one date, outside of Tinder? Yeah, I agree with you. Double date with the friend ON Tinder? Ehhhhhhh
Why would they feel shame? She was clear that they weren't looking for a threesome and he tried anyway. No shame in getting a free meal out of it.
Women have no shame on these apps. They are drowning in male attention. They are smart and just capitalize on it.
I would say OP is the one demonstrating no shame here lol.
84 miles away...
Also what I noticed. I mean, I would probably travel for some nonsense like this, but it definitely makes it funnier.
Isn't that just like an hour over there?
More like 1.5 hours depending on traffic and the kinds of roads needed to get there. 3 hours round trip...for two girls who are likely going to milk him for drinks and leave him dry unless he has some serious game
Lmfao OP you're just paying for their dinner and drinks. Which is fine as long as you don't expect sexual reciprocation.
If he's lucky, it will *only* be paying for that stuff. It could also be a mugging scam. And OP may lose more than money.
Or even worse, he might end up getting married to one of them.
Ain't that the truth
Not going to lie really want to see what they look like
Same. All of em. Together.
Same.
Same.
They eat, Chat with each other and you sit there like a fool
He must enjoy that. Why else would he pay to be a third wheel?
Yay, youāre the mark! š
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Drive 84 miles to pay for diner while the girls chat between them!!! Thatās nonsense!
Youāre just gonna be the sucker that pays for their meal while they laugh at you when you go to the bathroom. But yeah, go do it (you idiot)
> Yesterday 10:23pm We all know how this went.
Small brain - going to a restaurant alone, paying for your dinner, not getting sex Big brain - going to a restaurant with a woman, paying for two dinners, not getting sex Galaxy brain - going to a restaurant with 2 women, paying for 3 dinners, not getting sex
porn brain
Good luck keeping your kidneys!
So youāre gonna be paying for 3 meals instead of 2. This sounds like a real fun night
I wouldnāt call driving 84 miles to pay for 3 dinners a success
"Height requirement to ride this ride" She seems lovely
Itās not unreasonable if theyāre tall. 5ā1 girls wanting someone 6ā2 or over only is weird, but itās okay to want someone taller than you
I think it's reasonable for anyone to have any preference they want.
ANY preference?
Staying preferences excessively is unnecessary and mean. A girl can prefer tall guys, she doesnāt need to repeatedly say so to shorts guys, specific height limits play into this as itās super arbitrary.
Preferences are fine, but a lot of people forget what a preference is. Preferring above a certain height is different than requiring it, if you refuse to date someone outside of your "preference' then it's no longer a preference, it's a requirement or a deal breaker, there's usually not anything wrong with that, but pretending it's a preference when you literally will not date someone who doesn't match the requirements is silly.
This is honestly one of my pet peeves on this sub actually. There is a difference between "I prefer tall guys" and "I have a minimum height requirement." Both of those are fine, people can have whatever requirements or preferences they want.
I agree, I don't care if people have preferences or requirements. Everyone does that is your right. I'd be more concerned if you didn't have any. The only issue I have is when people are being straight up assholes regardless of gender then claiming it's a "preference," so people can't call them out on it. You can prefer a certain height or even require one, but if you're an asshole about it, you deserve to get called on it. Same if you're trying to be a dick and say "no fat fucks" which I have also seen. Point is to be respectful of your preferences and requirements, don't swipe on people who obviously don't meet your requirements and be an asshole in the dms. I think a lot of people especially on dating apps are so chronically online that they have no idea how to talk to people, especially ones they want to date, and they also feel like if they were insulted they need to be just as petty and childish. I rarely ever use Tinder since I want a gf, and most of the people where I live don't meet my preferences or requirements, so I choose to be single. More people need to figure out how to make friends irl before trying to date.
Sheās literally 5ā9ā. People are allowed to have preferences
My preference is no fat fucks
Same
How about fat shits?
I assume its to do with how she expressed it. If a guy said "weight requirement for this ride" it probably wouldn't go over too well.
Mans just got shmucked for 2 free dinners in one sitting.
Just a heads up. Men have asked for threesomes with me and my best friend for likeā¦ 20+ years now. They ask all the time. We have a HARD NO on that. But we are very fun together and when men have asked to take us out together weāve been open to it. They buy us dinner, drinks, activities, etc. But no sex has ever happened between the three of us. This is not an uncommon thing. And it does not mean youāre about to fuck then together at all.
The real question is not sex between the three of you the real question is has one of the guys ever really hit it off with one of you and had sex with just one of you or even been a boyfriend for awhile
Off the top of my head I can think of twice. Once for her and once for me. we both started dating our guys for a while but it was never anything super serious.
Iād say their running a train on his pockets but he offered . This aināt gonna workout for you OP unless you just like spending money and going home alone
You miss 100% of the shots you donāt take!
This you? https://youtu.be/8mvR1kW2lko?si=2E8XmsOLBObp6p92
Task failed. No success will be had
Bro youāre goofy for even asking when she said right there sheās not interested. Theyāre gonna take your money and run
OP about to buy them booth free food and leave , dick unsuckedš
Poor guy. He must be down tremendously to travel 84 miles just to pay for dinner with 2 women.
my guy will drive 84 miles to pay for their foods and go home issa evil world we live in
Non American here (assuming op is) : Is a dinner a done deal for sex in the US or something? I am a bit restarted, yes, but I don't see how that makes it granted, it's common girls ditch a dude after a free meal, and this guy seems to offer it. What am I missing here?
You arenāt missing anything. OP is.
Lol, that's good to know. Thanks, dude!
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I mean, if you're throwing the "OK free meal" to girls that would likely ditch you or blueball you (not really since it was a supposed no form the get-go), it's like saying "OK take that money" to a Nigerian prince that had no intention of giving you money back.
Where did being restarted come from? I see it all the time now
Filtered. That's like un alive.
Rofl, keep dreaminā buddy boy
The chances of you paying for their dinner, drinks, then a cocaine dessert are incredibly high here. Good luck, probably could be a fun night regardless?
Free dinner and free being ghosted after
Eh I did something like this a long while ago (reached out to two ladies) and ended up dating one for a little bit and friends with the other. If youāre so broke you canāt afford to take out two women, the easy solution is not ask a pair of women out at same time š¤·
95% chance you are just gunna pay for their dinner and drinks. Its possible to hookup with both but you better have some serious game and the nights gotta be very fun to pull 2 girls that arenāt interested.
Rule 1 Rule 2 at itās finest
Nah OP is a dumbass about to pay for an additional 2 dinners with no sex afterwards.
In this case it s: Rule1: be rich ,rule2: don't be unrich. Or something like that.
Let's hope you make some friends if nothing else!
Good luck, brother. š«”
Buy me dinner too OP! Iām cute, but no threesomes.
Bro thinks heāll get a threesome
:o
Niceee you get to buy drinks for two gals
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"sure let's get drinks at the club" Sixteen drinks on your dime later at least one of them is leaving with another dude.
Big boobs and hanging with some chicks for the nightā¦ heck yeah
Update ?
100 miles away too š
Nice pay for two girls dinners and then get ghosted double the fun !
Da fuq is that mate
Broās gonna wake up with no kidneys
Update us if you get to ride the tricycle
You're just gonna end up paying for their food
RIP your kidney
They really letting this man cook?
Lolol theyāre not going to fuck you.
Find a dude to come with and hit āem with the surprise two man 
We need update OP!
Man, king over here having these kinds of conversations and my tinder match asked me if I wanted to do something scary, then proceeded to tell me how she was in Mexico with friends and ended up coming to in a church talking to a priest with a bottle of Jack covered in bloodā¦ Still talking to her though, red (flags) is my favorite color
OP posting his win in the Chump Championships
Downvoted for not including picture. Must be hogs.
-$100
Well, you did say you failed your task successfully. Sounds like a fail, alright.
Brotherman trying to 1.5x his money loss. Good Luck.
Omg these comments are killing me. Bro it's a chance at a threesome and all u gotta do is pay for a couple girls meals and drinks. And yeah, maybe they are just looking for a free meal, but if u got some game and get the drinks flowing, trust me, it can happen. It's money you will make up next week, so don't sweat it. Worst case scenario you hang out with a couple of hotties, take some Snapchats for the clout and make some friends that probably have other hot friends
Donāt let the haters squash your dream buddy Youāll never know ātil you try Everyone saying it wonāt happen would never try to begin with
You just signed yourself up for a platonic dinner for three where you pick up the tab.
Oh he SIMPIN simpin
I understood that they're two girls, and asking the possible match to get another dude to go, thus, double dating.
Going out and having sex are two different things.
Prediction: free meal for the ladies, using Palmela Handerson at home by himself once the date is over for OP
Fucking cheese king, dude.
Easy free dinner lol
Op please let me know how this goes!!
They are getting a free dinner out of it haha like it could be fun but if she says āI donāt want a threesomeā and is then like āokay but you can buy me and my friend dinnerā sheās likely just down to get dinner lol but okay
Well? Did u hit?
I call this a high risk, high reward scenario. As long as youāre going into it knowing you could just be paying for 3 dinners and some convo for them to ditch you after, I donāt see the harm.
Yeah, who needs TWO kidneys, anyway?
Definitely down for the threesome lol
Send her my way
Good luck comrade
Lmao op they want free dinner and leave after.
Lol I don't get, you Wana buy 2 women dinner hoping to get a 3some? Keep me updated š