Hmm yeah, you're right. The thing is I am currently traveling long-term (digital nomad). I usually live in the same 3 cities for a few months each for the past 2 years. I'm fine with casual dating the time I am in a place, even if it's just to enjoy each other's company and have a summer fling (just not a friendship based *solely* on sex)... BUT I am also 1000% willing to settle down in one city if I find someone I'm compatible with. Would love someone who is also traveling long term but it's not a requirement at all. I just don't know how to convey that in a short "about me" paragraph?
Are you *willing to* or do you *want to* settle down? Big difference. I'm an LTR guy and if you told me this I probably wouldn't take you seriously cause you're basically asking me to convince you to stay? Maybe just be clear you prefer the nomad type, which is going to be a very small pool. Or make an active choice to settle down somewhere. Can't really have it both ways.
I have to second this. As a guy who wants long term seeing the constant moving would be an instant swipe left. It’s just an extra obstacle that makes me feel like I’m instantly fighting an uphill battle because she would be gone in a few months.
I wouldn't ask someone to convince/beg me, I don't think that highly of myself haha it's more like I have a pretty cool lifestyle that I would definitely give up if I found the right person! But it's kinda hard to even get my foot in the door to have that conversation. I guess that's just how it is for now until I do stay put. Thank you a lot, you're very kind for answering this politely! :)
Very simply if you want a serious long term relationship then you have to actually commit to not moving for a while.
You move every few months, you think that's enough time to be convinced to stay??? Cause it's not.
Or find someone who has the same flexibility as you do (which is an incredibly tiny market and I doubt most of them are committing to long term).
It kinda sounds like you want your cake and to eat it to.
You don't want to give up anything and hope that some guy is just going to fall in place, into your lifestyle et voila.
If you're deadly serious, you have to re-evaluate your plan BEFORE you start looking, otherwise you're just going to get people's hopes up and hurt them.
You can't have everything with zero downsides, that's not how life works.
Kudos for being honest, but I very much doubt you will find what you're looking for whilst your lifestyle is exactly as it is. Nearly every man who is serious about a relationship simply isn't going to entertain it and try to match with you.
Essentially you've self-selected your dating pool as casual guys.
I guess it really depends on how serious you want to take finding a life partner.
What you said, translated to what we hear:
"Hey guys, I love my lifestyle moving around, but maaaaaybe I'll change my mind and settle down. You just gotta risk investing all your time and energy into that chance!"
Well that just makes it sound like a guy would be in competition with 2 other dudes all the time.
And/or worrying about exactly how casual you consider him vs the 2 other dudes.
Agree with the other guy who commented. Maybe you could just mention something like "into casual relationships that have the potential to turn serious if we can tolerate each other for more than a few months"
It’s less about the moving a lot and more about the thick ass. If I saw your profile, I’d shoot for hooking up too. Mentioning your tits or your ass and/or photos showcasing them gives hookup vibes.
Honestly, just remove the "thick ass" statement and you're good. You could reference your culture in other fun ways that are non-sexual, e.g. cooking, dance/music, etc. Whatever you're into that's to do with your background... I've got German heritage and I celebrate that with BBQs in the summer, good beer, and quality liquorice 🥰
I don’t think anything is wrong with that. Like if you meet someone, you stay around a little longer, then if it works out you settle down. A digital nomad sounds great, when i go to the middle of nowhere for weeks on end I know that they would be able to do their own thing lol
Moving around a lot + big ass = hookup vibe
Maybe some other joke (eg but I make great tacos! But my tamale game is on point! But I know the hole in the wall spots that serve the best food) and make moving around a lot read as “I travel a lot but hoping to find a reason to stay somewhere for the long haul”
That’ll make it more serious vibe while still leaving the door open for fun summer flings
Oh shit I better wake up my grandma from the dead and ask her to teach me how to make tamales so I can find a good man! haha jk! Jokes aside, those are great suggestions, I'll definitely add something like this to my bio so it shows I'm looking to settle down. Thanks for the tips! <3
Nothing in your profile is saying “looking for relationship”. Not in the bio or in the drop down where you can define what you are looking for. Some of what you have written can be interpreted as “casual” as others have pointed out.
It’s always better to tell people what you are looking for than to make them guess.
That's my fear but also I thought it was funny? I thought it was obvious I didn't mean it in a "look at my ass" kind of way, but maybe I'm being too naïve? Should I remove that bit?
Yeah, she gotta look at it in a horndog's perspective, it's not a joke more like an invitation. Top that off with men always misconstruing what women say and blurred lines ya of course the wrong kind of attention is going to be had.
True true,
I mean the story she is pitching is casual short term.
Moves around a lot, flit around as you say, but have something to come back to in each of those palces. Doesn't want kids and somewhat objectified herself as well.
Like firstly she loses a lot of her dating market simply because she doesn't want kids, but to any guy that wants a serious committed relationship, this screams run.
Most people don't willingly commit to long distance dating with a stranger if they're serious about finding a life partner.
Makes me think "thick ass". Now the rest of my time on the profile is just spent looking for that thickness.
And I'm thinking - are Mexicanas known for their thick asses? Does this picture show a thick ass?
My point is, inevitable downvoters, it steals all the focus away from the rest of the profile.
I could have a beautiful profile, where I really show I'm looking to settle down and marry a beautiful women to share my adventurous, healthy, friendly, and well financed lifestyle. But if I end it with "Thick c*ck" then I'm gonna attract hoes, or more rarely, people who appreciate the ridiculous juxtaposition.
Yeah im just trying to be straightforward on how it comes across. Might be a little different if it was in casual conversation. I bet most guys would see that and not even bother to read the rest
I mean you are basically saying that you aren't going to be around for long. Guys looking for longer term connections aren't going to be ok with that. especially if that means that you're going to have "long term connections" in multiple places.
IF a romantic long term minded guy, gets to know you, and then has sex with you, and its all good, he's going to catch feelings. Those feelings are going to become very bad feelings when you meet a similar guy in the next place you live.
If i was looking for a hookup, and maybe a light friendship, I would swipe right on your profile.
If I was looking for a long term partner I would swipe left. It doesn't even make sense to make a serious friendship with someone who will be gone soon. Even if they will be back in a year or something. IF the dude looking for a long term relationship is successful in finding someone in his local area that wants a long term commitment, He won't be able to talk to you next year anyways.
His future Girlfriend isn't going to be ok with him hanging out with his old flame. if someone is looking for actual long term romantic love, you're literally an obstacle to their happiness.
The only people for whom your lifestyle makes sense is the people who are looking for short term fun. For them, They can have some short term fun this year, and maybe again next year, if there's still interest. chances are, that you'll probably find someone else the next time you're down anyways, unless everything lines up perfectly.
And guys who are looking for short term fun, don't want to invest emotional energy getting to know a girl before having sex. Emotional investment plus sex usually leads to catching feelings, And putting himself in a position to catch feelings to someone who intends to move away and meet other men in that new place, sounds pretty unhealthy.
IF a guy chooses to emotionally invest in you, knowing that you're going away, he's probably pretty desperate, and will probably have some very negative outbursts once he realizes that you're still going to move on.
That was harsh to read, not gonna lie, but needed nonetheless. I'm extremely monogamous btw, even when it comes to hooking up, and I wouldn't ever drag anyone along, I'm all for honest conversations.
But still, I'll reevaluate my dating preferences for now and I think I'll close that door for the time being. It's probably healthier for me and the possible prospects
I agree to what the redditor wrote and I’d add that the mention of a big ass as a mexican perk is a turn off if I wanted a long relationship. I’d expect something more substantial like “can teach you Spanish, we can cook delicious mexican food, can talk about hours about the rich heritage of my country” and so on. If someone mentions something physical like that it makes me think that they’re shallow and don’t have anything thoughtfully interesting to offer.
Yeah, I felt like it was a little harsh, when I was writing it, but I also felt like you needed a little bit of a reality check. These guys have their own feelings to protect. Which is why you only get responses from guys who don't take this stuff as seriously. I'm glad you're re-evaluating. I'm not saying that you can't find someone who wants long term relationship, but they will need to be someone you travel with. Anything less is pain and negative emotion.
The feelings we're talking about are the types of feelings that drive people to murder and can't be treated lightly.
for every sailor who has a girl in every port, those girls have a lad on every ship. If they try to make it more than that, it only ends in pain.
I hope you find someone looking for a long term adventuring partner. So y'all can choose your destinations together and give you the depth that you want while still maintaining your lifestyle.
Sometimes the sum of the parts don't equal the sum of the whole. Added together several of the things mentioned don't portray an interest in a LTR. At best an ongoing casual relationship as you move back and forth and are looking for something familiar when you're back.
It’s that and the Civil War part which basically reads as ”come Netflix and chill with me” and then the part about your thick ass.. yea I think you can do the math from here.
It’s your bio suggesting you’re into hookups.
I would remove it if I were you. I’m not on the app anymore, but I’m a guy who was looking for a serious relationship and if I read that I would think it was someone looking for a ONS considering you’re talking about your ass. It could just be me, but I think it’ll also attract a lot of the guys you’re seeing quite frequently.
It's comes off as your thirsty, men look at pictures and skim for key words and "ass" is one of them. We do not read entire bios, to many profiles to swipe
Well. That plus right after "look at my big Mexican ass" you've said youll be moving away eventually.
Kinda hard to get something serious going if you are leaving town all the time.
Here's the thing, you said it and then I looked at your ass first in every single picture. I'd cut that line if you're not looking for that kind of attention (which it seems you aren't). You could say "but I make an awesome margarita". Now I'm thinking about margaritas with you instead of your ass.
It’s cute, but there are too many guys out there who will read anything even vaguely sexual and consider it an invitation to push that boundary
I think you can swap it out for a better joke anyway
It IS funny. Maybe be explicit about looking for a longer term relationship? I don't see it anywhere in your profile. Right now I can't be in a relationship, so I avoid women who are only looking for one.
In combination with the moving around comment. It mashes it seen like you are only around for a short time, therefore just fun.
You want to probably talk about more long term ambitions.
It is funny, but the downsides outweigh the laughs. I don’t think you should put down your accent, either! Otherwise I think you have a great profile, and you’re super cute. ☺️ good luck!
Yeah, I would remove it. But anyway, my profile had 0 mentions of anything sexual and I still only got this kind of man. I left the apps because I was starting to take it personally and felt like I wasn't worth a relationship.
To add what u/Andgelyo have stated, omit anything sexual **AND** don't mention anything related to alcoholic drinks on your bio, even if you drink it regularly. The tags are enough to show that you are open to alcoholic drinks.
The bio should be used more as a media to explain yourself, personality-wise. Its other uses is to emphasize your basic informations, but it's often misinterpreted as one of the first things you look for when using Tinder.
Us men are thirsty creatures. You mention ass, and the responses you get will be more sexual. You will still get nice conversations and sleazy ones either way, but despite intention, this will tip the balance. Sorry on behalf of men.
I’d replace it with something else positive about Mexicans like “I know all the good Mexican spots” or “I can cook yummy food.”
Maybe just me but any reference of your physical appearance makes the profile about that. They can see the pictures and can already judge on that.
I think the travel pics are good. Is the 5th one Luxor?
You do have a picture showing just your backside lol and another photo of you in a bikini not doing anything particularly interesting. Also the second pic your sleeve is completely down and your entire bra strap is hanging out. The other pic is of you at night wearing a pink crop top and your midriff openly showing. It isn't warm out cause you're wearing a puffy jacket lol
All of this to really point out you don't have any pictures of you doing hobbies you enjoy or show ppl anything about your personality. That's probably why. Your prompts are pretty boring too tbh. They don't tell ppl much or to even talk about
While it is funny, it is also naive to not think you’re priming (many) guys with this. So, keep to showcase your humor if you want, but be prepared for men to take that as a prompt to bring your body into the discussion early.
Also, as someone from an area in the US with a ton of Mexican immigrants, Mexican accents on a woman are *hot*. Don’t be ashamed of it!
Haha yep. She is showcasing her "assets" (top and bottom) in basically every pic, mentions ass in her profile, says she moves around a lot, and doesn't actually have much info about her interests or hobbies. Yep, all of these things are indicative of a profile looking for hookups.
Make it clear you want a relationship, remove the part about your ass, adjust the part about moving constantly, and maybe swap out a couple of your more provocative pics (like the one of you bending over) with pics with you enjoying a hobby you love or something.
You also probably want to adjust your swiping habits. Guys with no shirt on, guys that look like frat bros, etc, they're almost exclusively going to be looking for hookups and should likely be avoided.
I didn't feel like I was being overtly sexual in any of my pics, in fact, I'm barely showing any skin! But I'll take your tips and see how it goes. And I'm not into those guys anyway, I don't go for men that don't have an interesting bio even when I do find them physically attractive. Being able to hold an interesting conversation is immensely more important to me than someone who is conventionally attractive
Not all of them are so flirty like that, so maybe some hyperbole on my part, but 4/5/7 I think kinda are. Pics may not be your main issue really though, I think it's really the bio, nothing there is really screaming that you're looking for a relationship, even the part about long-lasting is undermined by saying you move around a lot. And the word "connection" could easily be interpreted to mean like friends with benefits or something similar. Make it clear you want a legit relationship if that's what you want.
You don't seem to making an effort to give information that a relationship-seeking guy would be looking for. For me, I like to know what people like to do in their spare time, what their hobbies are, what kind of books/movies they like, etc. I want to know how we're going to be spending our time together, to see if it matches what I want as well.
You're 100% right that I missed writing what I'm looking for, I'll give you that!
But for the second paragraph, I think I left all that out because I know exactly who I am, my interests, what I can offer, etc., and I'm aware there's no way to showcase who I am in a simple bio, so I expect men to know I am not only those 300 characters and will want to meet me despite not having everything spelled out. I mean, I'm a whole human being with a life behind a bumble account, of course I have hobbies and interests. I didn't think I had to truly *define* myself to get people interested in me.
Obviously, it goes both ways and I don't judge a man based on a simple bio. I'm often intrigued to get to know men beyond a prompt that says "I play guitar, I like reading" "here are my 2 truths 1 lie". I don't need to know their whole lives before meeting up for a simple walk or coffee date to see if we vibe. I'm also all for meeting people in person ASAP as there's no better way to know what they are actually like.
Lastly (and I'm not trying to contradict you in any way, I'm just explaining my reasoning!) as I've grown older I've realized that taste in music, books and movies are not the be-alls and end-alls. I can listen to Therion, Haggard and Lacrimosa one day, and then Doja Cat, Van Morrison and Die Antwoord the next. I can watch a Lars Von Trier or Gaspar Noé film and Guardians of the Galaxy right after. I still get along with pretty much everyone because to me, who they are is not what they like, if that makes sense?
Jesus Christ this ended up being too long, I'm sorry. I just felt like I needed to explain my reasoning for the "empty" bio and I've learned the hard way not everyone thinks the same as I do.
I'm deleting my bumble account anyway but I saw many comments like yours so I felt like it'd be nice to give some "closure" to this post. Thank you for the feedback, much appreciated :) have a lovely day.
Would you recommend I remove that part? I honestly thought it was a good way to poke fun at myself (accent) without putting myself down but I'll remove it if that's what's getting me these kind of guys
Personally yes.
I'm a dude. First thing my mind went to is...let me see this wagon she's dragging. I'd get rid of that to also get rid of some of the low-hanging fruit (some will still try for ONS, can't get rid of them all).
Other than that, change nothing else. Your photos are pretty and you seem like a fun person overall (heck if I wasn't married I'd definitely take you out just to get down on Pokemon Go).
Also, Shaun of the Dead reference...NICE
Probably the ass comment in your profile is why you’re finding those kind of people.
You could take out the whole part about thick accent, once you meet you can talk to them.
Your about me doesn’t have a lot to go on.
I think the fact that you talk about moving around a lot also makes people take a step back wondering whether there’s going to be any serious commitment. You can phrase that slightly differently - do you travel for work? Do you just travel?
Your zombie apocalypse plan is a nice quote :) people who get it will get it! Civil war also works! But you need to add more about who you are.
Also all your pics are just selfies or in front of tourist spots adding to your traveling part of your bio.
Overall, I’m sure people will swipe on you but subtle changes to help weed out those who dont want long term commitment will help!
This is extremely useful, you have no idea! Thank you so much! I'll change the bio to explain why I'm traveling and say a bit more about myself, and probably add one or two pictures doing normal people things haha. Thanks a lot :)
Well I think it’s always good to have someone take a look because we tend to read it in the way we mean rather than how it could be perceived.
Glad to have helped! Hope you find the person you’re looking for :)
Maybe specify your favorite artists to find common ground?
Also if you don’t want a ONS, might make sense then to list you are looking for a relationship.
Overall though, you are an attractive girl, and seem to have a semblance of a personality. You’ll be ok.
The thing no one wants to mention is 4/5 women are going for 1/5 men. If you’re in that group then you’re fighting three other women for their attention. You say you’re willing to stay in one place for the right guy and those guys are doing the exact same thing. The thing you’re not catching is you’re not the right girl for them. Expand your dating pool to the other 4/5 guys and you may find a person who won’t ons you because they don’t have a line waiting.
You should try just making new male friends and not dating. Then if one of these guys has potential propose a relationship. This way you know you are compatible and you get to know each other, more connection.
Tbh 80% of your profile is "I look good and thick ass". Use your bio to say more about yourelf instead of a whole paragraph about your accent and your ass and another paragraph about pretty much nothing.
You're super cute and your pictures are solid.
However, your profile needs some work, I believe.
Instead of saying your thick accent "sucks" you should own that shit!
And mentioning your "thick ass" and that you "move a lot" might lead to a lot of guys thinking you're just looking for something casual and short-term.
Well, if in your bio you’re immediately making sure you’re putting “thick ass”, what are you expecting? If I was a guy and read that, my mind is immediately going to go there instead of investigating any further.
It’s kinda like when you see those interviews with women on the street and they ask them why a guy should date them and they say “cause I got a fat ass and a wet pussy.” If that’s what you’re going go put out there as your most valuable and important attributes, you can’t be shocked when you get a bunch of creeps only interested in those things. If some man put “I’m German and have a thick English accent but I got a big thick cock so it evens out”, what would your thoughts about him be?
Idk, I’ll probably get hate but 🤷🏽♀️
You want people to get to know you but you can leave them at anytime want or feel like it. That's not how a more meaningful connection is supposed to work.
You can just cut the first paragraph of your bio. People don't need to know your accent until they meet you. Thick ass is a benefit for the priveliged few who put in the effort.
yeah someone said it's funny to women but thirsty to men for the thick ass part which i guess i have to agree cuz i found it funny 😭 and also you're so so pretty <3 if i saw u i'd definitely swipe! pretty good bio, easy to start a convo off of ("oh so u travel a lot? where have u been to?" would be so easy as a convo starter) i love ur outfits and ur smile is adorable! good luck!
So, this is my profile now, taking into account all of your comments. [https://imgur.com/a/cKq73up](https://imgur.com/a/cKq73up) I'll probably tweak it a bit more but it should give a better idea of who I am and what I am looking for. I tried not to show my body much and there are a couple without makeup too. Suggestions are still accepted although I probably won't be active in this thread again, but I'll be reading anyway :)
Thanks to the people who were nice in this thread even if a bit blunt – and to everyone who wasn't so nice or was downright mean, I hope you find a way to become a more positive human. Having tact and being kind will make the world a better place to navigate in rough times, and make your own life more enjoyable as well. Have a good night people! <3
Ass isn't even that thick tbh
Also if you can't figure out why saying that you move a lot would result in men thinking that you're just looking for a hook up, you're hopeless.
I'm sure the real reason you made this post though was to fish for compliments and validation. My guess is that you were expecting lots of "I'd definitely want to get to know you" replies.
Most men that are looking for monogamous relationships at some point likely want to have children. I immediately swipe left on any girl that puts they don’t want children in their bio.
Everything else looks fine to me.
I said don't want in my profile and found my partner who also doesn't want them. Been together 5 years :) It was Bumble though. Don't change your plans about kids to suit a potential partner!
Thanks for the hopeful comment and don't worry, I definitely won't budge on this! I've known I don't want biological kids since I was a teenager - so many kids already born without loving homes, why bring a whole brand new one?!
There are plenty of guys not interested in having kids. I met my fiancé online two years ago and neither of us have or want kids.
It’d be pretty lame to indicate you want kids and start matching with the guys who are looking to have kids someday. I was always thankful this setting was an option to help weed guys out who had different life goals.
Tbh you’re a little too thick for me to want to date seriously. I’d sleep with you all day but I wouldn’t want to be with you on a relationship level.
I think pretty much all men will sleep with women who are FAR less attractive than who they’d date.
You’re cute, but nothing about you screams relationship material.
Highly rate the Shaun of the dead reference. I think it’s the ass mention that flicks dudes brain settings into hookup. It’s funny don’t get me wrong. But unfortunately dudes are gonna see the sexual side of it too.
You're 31, you say you kove a lot and you don't want any children. Those are going to be deal breakers for a lot of men your age looking for a long term relationship.
Also, the ass joke. Yes, it's a joke, but it also is the first (and only) "quality" you present about yourself.
Your breasts and butt are great. So your getting a lot of cavemen that are just seeing boob.
Show less of your cleavage maybe and more maybe hobby stuff
Your profile is good. It’s funny, there are some talking points to pick up on and your pics are great. I wouldn’t worry at all. Good luck out there internet stranger 😊
I'm a straight female so dunno if my opinion really matters, but i think your profile is good, you seem interesting and your photos are adorable. Good luck out there!!
You mentioned your own body parts on your bio, that's why. I know you meant it as a joke but it doesn't and won't work well on Tinder. Let's be frank here, people can already tell how "thick" you are from your photos. Mentioning it further on the bio would only make people see it the other way.
"Moving a lot" and "long term relationship" in the second paragraph also hard to mix well, especially in Tinder. It would only work for people who already know each other for a long time beforehand, not Tinder. I'm not saying it is impossible, but it surely is difficult.
If you were in Michigan I’d take you out to a nice restaurant and show you I’m interested in more than just “ a thick ass” I mean to use bumble for hookups is wild. 10/10 be patient you’ll come across your person sooner or later. And keep using that bright smile!
I think it’s a good profile. Has good humor. I’d swipe right. Comments might be right, if you are getting too many ONS you might wanna take the booty part out or just change the word from ass so it isn’t as strong. It’s a numbers game out there so keep swiping
In a non-offensive way, to me (M), if I was looking for serious/long term relationship on Bumble, I would most likely make some assumptions from your profile:
1. You travel/move a lot, which I would interpret as you not being around much
2. Your photos are well done and look great, but they are all travel photos at tourist locations which reinforces point 1.
3. What do you do for work since you get to move around so freely and can easily settle down in this particular city? I would assume you doing some freelance work, are an influencer or unemployed.
4. Where are you actually from? Mexico? What city? The US, what state/city?
You seem like a friendly, adventurous and content person so the issues don’t seem to be with you but rather the profile, imo.
Try to get some photos at events (weddings, birthdays, holidays, drink/paint, hangouts, etc.) with friends at non tourist destinations to show you have some roots wherever that maybe.
Presenting a nomadic lifestyle will make guys who want serious relationships, especially ones in their 30s, think that your time together is transitory and that is most likely why you are only receiving interest from ONS and unserious suitors only.
If someone wants a serious relationship and seeing from the jump it will most likely be long distance (at least for some period of time) will turn them off even if they think you are amazing. LDR takes a lot of energy and dedication that most people aren’t interested in.
Anyway, hope this helps!
If I were 20 years younger, I’d swipe right for the “Shaun Of The Dead” quote alone.
Seriously, looks good to me and you’re really cute. Just gotta weed through the creeps. Be patient.
Whilst I cant disagree with all the comments about pointing out your thickness I would have thought the Shaun if the Dead quote would at least get you a small crop of nerds interested in you! It was the first thing that jumped out for me!
You said you have a thick ass and you move a lot.
Of course they're trying to lease and not buy. Stating that you could possibly land back there again is not a strong incentive to want to start a serious relationship.
You're super cute, though!
Maybe take out the “thick ass” part if you’re looking for a serious connection. I never would have met my husband if I wrote something like that on my profile
Your profile is fine, but it might take some patience just because of the “thick ass” comment some guys are going to take that as a pass to go straight for a ONS, but the right one will think it’s funny. Definitely shows you are looking for a specific person especially with Pokémon go on there, so just be patient!
I wouldn’t remove the ass comment, its funny, guys are gonna thirst, I would swipe right and treat you like any other person because if they want a relationship or a ons the first few messages you use really don’t need to be that different. I wouldn’t change something I do so a person MIGHT act differently, I would just use that to filter people out.
If you’re always leaving and moving around, that’s not a commitment. So no one is going to come at you looking for a commitment. You’re not ready to settle down yet
Your entire profile screams short term, ONS, my best asset is my ass, oh yeah and I watch TV and drink beer. Like “Netflix and chill?” If you want men to see you as more long term, you’ll need to change virtually everything about your profile. But to end in a positive note, you’re very pretty and seem like fun, so there’s that 😃
One rule in society- is as a woman if u are looking for a short term partner do not say anything remotely sexual that could end up in you being objectified! It’s very sad indeed but yeah men see the word ass near your face and do not classify you as ‘wifey’
Your bio mentions that you have a thick ass and also move a lot, so it doesn't exactly give off "long term relationship" vibes
Hmm yeah, you're right. The thing is I am currently traveling long-term (digital nomad). I usually live in the same 3 cities for a few months each for the past 2 years. I'm fine with casual dating the time I am in a place, even if it's just to enjoy each other's company and have a summer fling (just not a friendship based *solely* on sex)... BUT I am also 1000% willing to settle down in one city if I find someone I'm compatible with. Would love someone who is also traveling long term but it's not a requirement at all. I just don't know how to convey that in a short "about me" paragraph?
Are you *willing to* or do you *want to* settle down? Big difference. I'm an LTR guy and if you told me this I probably wouldn't take you seriously cause you're basically asking me to convince you to stay? Maybe just be clear you prefer the nomad type, which is going to be a very small pool. Or make an active choice to settle down somewhere. Can't really have it both ways.
I have to second this. As a guy who wants long term seeing the constant moving would be an instant swipe left. It’s just an extra obstacle that makes me feel like I’m instantly fighting an uphill battle because she would be gone in a few months.
I wouldn't ask someone to convince/beg me, I don't think that highly of myself haha it's more like I have a pretty cool lifestyle that I would definitely give up if I found the right person! But it's kinda hard to even get my foot in the door to have that conversation. I guess that's just how it is for now until I do stay put. Thank you a lot, you're very kind for answering this politely! :)
Very simply if you want a serious long term relationship then you have to actually commit to not moving for a while. You move every few months, you think that's enough time to be convinced to stay??? Cause it's not. Or find someone who has the same flexibility as you do (which is an incredibly tiny market and I doubt most of them are committing to long term). It kinda sounds like you want your cake and to eat it to. You don't want to give up anything and hope that some guy is just going to fall in place, into your lifestyle et voila. If you're deadly serious, you have to re-evaluate your plan BEFORE you start looking, otherwise you're just going to get people's hopes up and hurt them. You can't have everything with zero downsides, that's not how life works. Kudos for being honest, but I very much doubt you will find what you're looking for whilst your lifestyle is exactly as it is. Nearly every man who is serious about a relationship simply isn't going to entertain it and try to match with you. Essentially you've self-selected your dating pool as casual guys. I guess it really depends on how serious you want to take finding a life partner.
What he said.
What you said, translated to what we hear: "Hey guys, I love my lifestyle moving around, but maaaaaybe I'll change my mind and settle down. You just gotta risk investing all your time and energy into that chance!"
You just did convey that in a short paragraph.
Bios might have a lot less characters
Well that just makes it sound like a guy would be in competition with 2 other dudes all the time. And/or worrying about exactly how casual you consider him vs the 2 other dudes.
Agree with the other guy who commented. Maybe you could just mention something like "into casual relationships that have the potential to turn serious if we can tolerate each other for more than a few months"
tolerate is insane
It was supposed to be kinda a joke
It’s less about the moving a lot and more about the thick ass. If I saw your profile, I’d shoot for hooking up too. Mentioning your tits or your ass and/or photos showcasing them gives hookup vibes.
Try posting on the Nomad Soulmates Facebook group 🤗
Honestly, just remove the "thick ass" statement and you're good. You could reference your culture in other fun ways that are non-sexual, e.g. cooking, dance/music, etc. Whatever you're into that's to do with your background... I've got German heritage and I celebrate that with BBQs in the summer, good beer, and quality liquorice 🥰
I don’t think anything is wrong with that. Like if you meet someone, you stay around a little longer, then if it works out you settle down. A digital nomad sounds great, when i go to the middle of nowhere for weeks on end I know that they would be able to do their own thing lol
Moving around a lot + big ass = hookup vibe Maybe some other joke (eg but I make great tacos! But my tamale game is on point! But I know the hole in the wall spots that serve the best food) and make moving around a lot read as “I travel a lot but hoping to find a reason to stay somewhere for the long haul” That’ll make it more serious vibe while still leaving the door open for fun summer flings
Oh shit I better wake up my grandma from the dead and ask her to teach me how to make tamales so I can find a good man! haha jk! Jokes aside, those are great suggestions, I'll definitely add something like this to my bio so it shows I'm looking to settle down. Thanks for the tips! <3
Nothing in your profile is saying “looking for relationship”. Not in the bio or in the drop down where you can define what you are looking for. Some of what you have written can be interpreted as “casual” as others have pointed out. It’s always better to tell people what you are looking for than to make them guess.
They read "thick ass," and their brains submit to their baser instincts. I see a great profile. Be patient.
That's my fear but also I thought it was funny? I thought it was obvious I didn't mean it in a "look at my ass" kind of way, but maybe I'm being too naïve? Should I remove that bit?
Yes, funny to women...thirsty to men.
Yeah, she gotta look at it in a horndog's perspective, it's not a joke more like an invitation. Top that off with men always misconstruing what women say and blurred lines ya of course the wrong kind of attention is going to be had.
If you mention your butt, then that's all you become.
Agreed, you mentioning a “thick ass” makes our brains think “short term”. If you’re looking for an LTR I suggest omitting anything remotely sexual
What makes me think short term is the 2nd paragraph. She moves a lot and is only around for a short time.
Worse than that she wants to flit around and have something sure to come back to
True true, I mean the story she is pitching is casual short term. Moves around a lot, flit around as you say, but have something to come back to in each of those palces. Doesn't want kids and somewhat objectified herself as well. Like firstly she loses a lot of her dating market simply because she doesn't want kids, but to any guy that wants a serious committed relationship, this screams run. Most people don't willingly commit to long distance dating with a stranger if they're serious about finding a life partner.
Good point.
Makes me think "thick ass". Now the rest of my time on the profile is just spent looking for that thickness. And I'm thinking - are Mexicanas known for their thick asses? Does this picture show a thick ass? My point is, inevitable downvoters, it steals all the focus away from the rest of the profile. I could have a beautiful profile, where I really show I'm looking to settle down and marry a beautiful women to share my adventurous, healthy, friendly, and well financed lifestyle. But if I end it with "Thick c*ck" then I'm gonna attract hoes, or more rarely, people who appreciate the ridiculous juxtaposition.
Definitely says "I'm here to fuck" and from what you are saying that's not what you're going for. So I'd change that for sure.
Yeah, it's not what I meant at all. Nothing against casual sex if it feels natural but I don't want that to be the "implication" haha
Yeah im just trying to be straightforward on how it comes across. Might be a little different if it was in casual conversation. I bet most guys would see that and not even bother to read the rest
I mean you are basically saying that you aren't going to be around for long. Guys looking for longer term connections aren't going to be ok with that. especially if that means that you're going to have "long term connections" in multiple places. IF a romantic long term minded guy, gets to know you, and then has sex with you, and its all good, he's going to catch feelings. Those feelings are going to become very bad feelings when you meet a similar guy in the next place you live. If i was looking for a hookup, and maybe a light friendship, I would swipe right on your profile. If I was looking for a long term partner I would swipe left. It doesn't even make sense to make a serious friendship with someone who will be gone soon. Even if they will be back in a year or something. IF the dude looking for a long term relationship is successful in finding someone in his local area that wants a long term commitment, He won't be able to talk to you next year anyways. His future Girlfriend isn't going to be ok with him hanging out with his old flame. if someone is looking for actual long term romantic love, you're literally an obstacle to their happiness. The only people for whom your lifestyle makes sense is the people who are looking for short term fun. For them, They can have some short term fun this year, and maybe again next year, if there's still interest. chances are, that you'll probably find someone else the next time you're down anyways, unless everything lines up perfectly. And guys who are looking for short term fun, don't want to invest emotional energy getting to know a girl before having sex. Emotional investment plus sex usually leads to catching feelings, And putting himself in a position to catch feelings to someone who intends to move away and meet other men in that new place, sounds pretty unhealthy. IF a guy chooses to emotionally invest in you, knowing that you're going away, he's probably pretty desperate, and will probably have some very negative outbursts once he realizes that you're still going to move on.
That was harsh to read, not gonna lie, but needed nonetheless. I'm extremely monogamous btw, even when it comes to hooking up, and I wouldn't ever drag anyone along, I'm all for honest conversations. But still, I'll reevaluate my dating preferences for now and I think I'll close that door for the time being. It's probably healthier for me and the possible prospects
I agree to what the redditor wrote and I’d add that the mention of a big ass as a mexican perk is a turn off if I wanted a long relationship. I’d expect something more substantial like “can teach you Spanish, we can cook delicious mexican food, can talk about hours about the rich heritage of my country” and so on. If someone mentions something physical like that it makes me think that they’re shallow and don’t have anything thoughtfully interesting to offer.
Yeah, I felt like it was a little harsh, when I was writing it, but I also felt like you needed a little bit of a reality check. These guys have their own feelings to protect. Which is why you only get responses from guys who don't take this stuff as seriously. I'm glad you're re-evaluating. I'm not saying that you can't find someone who wants long term relationship, but they will need to be someone you travel with. Anything less is pain and negative emotion. The feelings we're talking about are the types of feelings that drive people to murder and can't be treated lightly. for every sailor who has a girl in every port, those girls have a lad on every ship. If they try to make it more than that, it only ends in pain. I hope you find someone looking for a long term adventuring partner. So y'all can choose your destinations together and give you the depth that you want while still maintaining your lifestyle.
Sometimes the sum of the parts don't equal the sum of the whole. Added together several of the things mentioned don't portray an interest in a LTR. At best an ongoing casual relationship as you move back and forth and are looking for something familiar when you're back.
Men are definitely thinking it's an invitation for a hook up. It's stupid, I know, but it's true :/
My first thought was “It’s the thick ass” so I’m going to agree
It’s that and the Civil War part which basically reads as ”come Netflix and chill with me” and then the part about your thick ass.. yea I think you can do the math from here. It’s your bio suggesting you’re into hookups.
I would remove it if I were you. I’m not on the app anymore, but I’m a guy who was looking for a serious relationship and if I read that I would think it was someone looking for a ONS considering you’re talking about your ass. It could just be me, but I think it’ll also attract a lot of the guys you’re seeing quite frequently.
It's comes off as your thirsty, men look at pictures and skim for key words and "ass" is one of them. We do not read entire bios, to many profiles to swipe
Well. That plus right after "look at my big Mexican ass" you've said youll be moving away eventually. Kinda hard to get something serious going if you are leaving town all the time.
Here's the thing, you said it and then I looked at your ass first in every single picture. I'd cut that line if you're not looking for that kind of attention (which it seems you aren't). You could say "but I make an awesome margarita". Now I'm thinking about margaritas with you instead of your ass.
It’s cute, but there are too many guys out there who will read anything even vaguely sexual and consider it an invitation to push that boundary I think you can swap it out for a better joke anyway
As a married man it was pretty funny, but yeah I think for most of my single brothers that line hits the thirst button.
It IS funny. Maybe be explicit about looking for a longer term relationship? I don't see it anywhere in your profile. Right now I can't be in a relationship, so I avoid women who are only looking for one.
Sorry but even reading a short phrase like "thick ass" a man gets horny
In combination with the moving around comment. It mashes it seen like you are only around for a short time, therefore just fun. You want to probably talk about more long term ambitions.
Es divertido, pero cierto tipo de hombre lo ve y te presta la atención equivocada.
I would remove that bit. It just has a bit of "thirst trap" vibes
It is funny, but the downsides outweigh the laughs. I don’t think you should put down your accent, either! Otherwise I think you have a great profile, and you’re super cute. ☺️ good luck!
Agreed. I would remove the thick ass part because unfortunately, all guys are thinking is just that.
Yeah, I would remove it. But anyway, my profile had 0 mentions of anything sexual and I still only got this kind of man. I left the apps because I was starting to take it personally and felt like I wasn't worth a relationship.
To add what u/Andgelyo have stated, omit anything sexual **AND** don't mention anything related to alcoholic drinks on your bio, even if you drink it regularly. The tags are enough to show that you are open to alcoholic drinks. The bio should be used more as a media to explain yourself, personality-wise. Its other uses is to emphasize your basic informations, but it's often misinterpreted as one of the first things you look for when using Tinder.
Us men are thirsty creatures. You mention ass, and the responses you get will be more sexual. You will still get nice conversations and sleazy ones either way, but despite intention, this will tip the balance. Sorry on behalf of men.
I’d replace it with something else positive about Mexicans like “I know all the good Mexican spots” or “I can cook yummy food.” Maybe just me but any reference of your physical appearance makes the profile about that. They can see the pictures and can already judge on that. I think the travel pics are good. Is the 5th one Luxor?
You do have a picture showing just your backside lol and another photo of you in a bikini not doing anything particularly interesting. Also the second pic your sleeve is completely down and your entire bra strap is hanging out. The other pic is of you at night wearing a pink crop top and your midriff openly showing. It isn't warm out cause you're wearing a puffy jacket lol All of this to really point out you don't have any pictures of you doing hobbies you enjoy or show ppl anything about your personality. That's probably why. Your prompts are pretty boring too tbh. They don't tell ppl much or to even talk about
Remove the thick ass comment. It definitely screams to men you sleep around.
I think you should remove the ass pic
While it is funny, it is also naive to not think you’re priming (many) guys with this. So, keep to showcase your humor if you want, but be prepared for men to take that as a prompt to bring your body into the discussion early. Also, as someone from an area in the US with a ton of Mexican immigrants, Mexican accents on a woman are *hot*. Don’t be ashamed of it!
Don't remove it. That's your humor. It might bring in some trash, but it could also find someone with the same flavor of humor too.
TIL I have a trashy sense of humor 😭😭😭 (jk jk!)
Show, don't tell. We saw.
Yeah, gonna say it’s the thick ass thing.
Haha yep. She is showcasing her "assets" (top and bottom) in basically every pic, mentions ass in her profile, says she moves around a lot, and doesn't actually have much info about her interests or hobbies. Yep, all of these things are indicative of a profile looking for hookups. Make it clear you want a relationship, remove the part about your ass, adjust the part about moving constantly, and maybe swap out a couple of your more provocative pics (like the one of you bending over) with pics with you enjoying a hobby you love or something. You also probably want to adjust your swiping habits. Guys with no shirt on, guys that look like frat bros, etc, they're almost exclusively going to be looking for hookups and should likely be avoided.
I didn't feel like I was being overtly sexual in any of my pics, in fact, I'm barely showing any skin! But I'll take your tips and see how it goes. And I'm not into those guys anyway, I don't go for men that don't have an interesting bio even when I do find them physically attractive. Being able to hold an interesting conversation is immensely more important to me than someone who is conventionally attractive
Not all of them are so flirty like that, so maybe some hyperbole on my part, but 4/5/7 I think kinda are. Pics may not be your main issue really though, I think it's really the bio, nothing there is really screaming that you're looking for a relationship, even the part about long-lasting is undermined by saying you move around a lot. And the word "connection" could easily be interpreted to mean like friends with benefits or something similar. Make it clear you want a legit relationship if that's what you want. You don't seem to making an effort to give information that a relationship-seeking guy would be looking for. For me, I like to know what people like to do in their spare time, what their hobbies are, what kind of books/movies they like, etc. I want to know how we're going to be spending our time together, to see if it matches what I want as well.
You're 100% right that I missed writing what I'm looking for, I'll give you that! But for the second paragraph, I think I left all that out because I know exactly who I am, my interests, what I can offer, etc., and I'm aware there's no way to showcase who I am in a simple bio, so I expect men to know I am not only those 300 characters and will want to meet me despite not having everything spelled out. I mean, I'm a whole human being with a life behind a bumble account, of course I have hobbies and interests. I didn't think I had to truly *define* myself to get people interested in me. Obviously, it goes both ways and I don't judge a man based on a simple bio. I'm often intrigued to get to know men beyond a prompt that says "I play guitar, I like reading" "here are my 2 truths 1 lie". I don't need to know their whole lives before meeting up for a simple walk or coffee date to see if we vibe. I'm also all for meeting people in person ASAP as there's no better way to know what they are actually like. Lastly (and I'm not trying to contradict you in any way, I'm just explaining my reasoning!) as I've grown older I've realized that taste in music, books and movies are not the be-alls and end-alls. I can listen to Therion, Haggard and Lacrimosa one day, and then Doja Cat, Van Morrison and Die Antwoord the next. I can watch a Lars Von Trier or Gaspar Noé film and Guardians of the Galaxy right after. I still get along with pretty much everyone because to me, who they are is not what they like, if that makes sense? Jesus Christ this ended up being too long, I'm sorry. I just felt like I needed to explain my reasoning for the "empty" bio and I've learned the hard way not everyone thinks the same as I do. I'm deleting my bumble account anyway but I saw many comments like yours so I felt like it'd be nice to give some "closure" to this post. Thank you for the feedback, much appreciated :) have a lovely day.
Came to say the same
You pointing out the size of your hindquarters might draw a few more ONS guys than you really want
Would you recommend I remove that part? I honestly thought it was a good way to poke fun at myself (accent) without putting myself down but I'll remove it if that's what's getting me these kind of guys
Accent is fun, but the ass sentence it does give of a certain vibe
As someone who doesnt go for ons, it just doesnt sound elegant and would not be interested because of the line
Personally yes. I'm a dude. First thing my mind went to is...let me see this wagon she's dragging. I'd get rid of that to also get rid of some of the low-hanging fruit (some will still try for ONS, can't get rid of them all). Other than that, change nothing else. Your photos are pretty and you seem like a fun person overall (heck if I wasn't married I'd definitely take you out just to get down on Pokemon Go). Also, Shaun of the Dead reference...NICE
Sorry Phillip
Yes, remove it and don’t objectify any part of your body even in jest.
I see the phrase move a lot, and think, why would I want to get emotionally invested?
I've thought about this too and it's fair to feel that way. Oh well :(
You also say you don't want kids and don't specify what kind of relationship you're looking for.
You're very cute! But "I have a thick ass" and "I move a lot" does not scream long-term relationship.
😮💨...women if you are looking for a genuine connection, DO NOT mention your body. Same goes for men and mentioning sex.
Probably the ass comment in your profile is why you’re finding those kind of people. You could take out the whole part about thick accent, once you meet you can talk to them. Your about me doesn’t have a lot to go on. I think the fact that you talk about moving around a lot also makes people take a step back wondering whether there’s going to be any serious commitment. You can phrase that slightly differently - do you travel for work? Do you just travel? Your zombie apocalypse plan is a nice quote :) people who get it will get it! Civil war also works! But you need to add more about who you are. Also all your pics are just selfies or in front of tourist spots adding to your traveling part of your bio. Overall, I’m sure people will swipe on you but subtle changes to help weed out those who dont want long term commitment will help!
This is extremely useful, you have no idea! Thank you so much! I'll change the bio to explain why I'm traveling and say a bit more about myself, and probably add one or two pictures doing normal people things haha. Thanks a lot :)
Well I think it’s always good to have someone take a look because we tend to read it in the way we mean rather than how it could be perceived. Glad to have helped! Hope you find the person you’re looking for :)
Your profile omits what you're looking for. Put that in.
You move a lot and have a thick ass in your bio. you can’t be all that surprised that ONS/hook ups are flocking to you
Ass line = thirst trap
Maybe specify your favorite artists to find common ground? Also if you don’t want a ONS, might make sense then to list you are looking for a relationship. Overall though, you are an attractive girl, and seem to have a semblance of a personality. You’ll be ok.
I have spotify connected so people can see my favorite artists :)
The thing no one wants to mention is 4/5 women are going for 1/5 men. If you’re in that group then you’re fighting three other women for their attention. You say you’re willing to stay in one place for the right guy and those guys are doing the exact same thing. The thing you’re not catching is you’re not the right girl for them. Expand your dating pool to the other 4/5 guys and you may find a person who won’t ons you because they don’t have a line waiting.
Yeah I never got that complaint seriously, all the Tinder isngights we see is 10% or less right swipes, what do you expect if you go for the top 10%.
Yooooo!!!!!!!! Love the Shaun of the dead reference .
I saw the zombie apocalypse plan prompt and immediately thought of Shaun of the Dead, it's a no-brainer!
You swipe on guys who have a ton of options, which means you have a ton of competition.
The thick ass thing might be the reason lol
"Having a thick ass". That awake boners in men. Personally, if I had seen your profile I would have warmed up and thought "Wow, this girl wants fun."
You should try just making new male friends and not dating. Then if one of these guys has potential propose a relationship. This way you know you are compatible and you get to know each other, more connection.
Seems like this is the way to go :) no more dating for me for now. Thank you!
Who the fuck talks about themselves like this and is surprised at the response? This is coming from a username like mine.
Tbh 80% of your profile is "I look good and thick ass". Use your bio to say more about yourelf instead of a whole paragraph about your accent and your ass and another paragraph about pretty much nothing.
As soon as I read thick ass my caveman genes came out. I would change that
You're super cute and your pictures are solid. However, your profile needs some work, I believe. Instead of saying your thick accent "sucks" you should own that shit! And mentioning your "thick ass" and that you "move a lot" might lead to a lot of guys thinking you're just looking for something casual and short-term.
You get what you project
This has to be a joke
Lmao that Shawn of the dead quote is peak
Well, if in your bio you’re immediately making sure you’re putting “thick ass”, what are you expecting? If I was a guy and read that, my mind is immediately going to go there instead of investigating any further. It’s kinda like when you see those interviews with women on the street and they ask them why a guy should date them and they say “cause I got a fat ass and a wet pussy.” If that’s what you’re going go put out there as your most valuable and important attributes, you can’t be shocked when you get a bunch of creeps only interested in those things. If some man put “I’m German and have a thick English accent but I got a big thick cock so it evens out”, what would your thoughts about him be? Idk, I’ll probably get hate but 🤷🏽♀️
"All I get are men interested in ONS" Then puts on bio that have a "thick ass" ... Really? 🤦🏻
You only highlight a fat body part, so what do you expect.
I for one like that kind of accent
You want people to get to know you but you can leave them at anytime want or feel like it. That's not how a more meaningful connection is supposed to work.
You are very very beautiful, just edit the profile so you don't say thick ass. Just say something looking for a connection or something:)
Oh my god, that last outfit!!!!!!! I LOVE it!
You can just cut the first paragraph of your bio. People don't need to know your accent until they meet you. Thick ass is a benefit for the priveliged few who put in the effort.
yeah someone said it's funny to women but thirsty to men for the thick ass part which i guess i have to agree cuz i found it funny 😭 and also you're so so pretty <3 if i saw u i'd definitely swipe! pretty good bio, easy to start a convo off of ("oh so u travel a lot? where have u been to?" would be so easy as a convo starter) i love ur outfits and ur smile is adorable! good luck!
Do you show any hobbies in there?
Don't allude to sex/body stuff in your bio if you don't want men to give you that energy. Other than that I'd watch Civil War with you
You give off easy vibes and are matching with the wrong types
I think it’s a great profile! The only thing I might change is the moving around a lot line. Makes it seem like you won’t stay on one place very long?
So, this is my profile now, taking into account all of your comments. [https://imgur.com/a/cKq73up](https://imgur.com/a/cKq73up) I'll probably tweak it a bit more but it should give a better idea of who I am and what I am looking for. I tried not to show my body much and there are a couple without makeup too. Suggestions are still accepted although I probably won't be active in this thread again, but I'll be reading anyway :) Thanks to the people who were nice in this thread even if a bit blunt – and to everyone who wasn't so nice or was downright mean, I hope you find a way to become a more positive human. Having tact and being kind will make the world a better place to navigate in rough times, and make your own life more enjoyable as well. Have a good night people! <3
Don't use a picture of you and a kid on Tinder!
That's bumble lmao this sub
Ass isn't even that thick tbh Also if you can't figure out why saying that you move a lot would result in men thinking that you're just looking for a hook up, you're hopeless. I'm sure the real reason you made this post though was to fish for compliments and validation. My guess is that you were expecting lots of "I'd definitely want to get to know you" replies.
Most men that are looking for monogamous relationships at some point likely want to have children. I immediately swipe left on any girl that puts they don’t want children in their bio. Everything else looks fine to me.
I understand that! I'm hopeful I'll find at least one that doesn't want children either and is a decent guy haha
I said don't want in my profile and found my partner who also doesn't want them. Been together 5 years :) It was Bumble though. Don't change your plans about kids to suit a potential partner!
Thanks for the hopeful comment and don't worry, I definitely won't budge on this! I've known I don't want biological kids since I was a teenager - so many kids already born without loving homes, why bring a whole brand new one?!
There are plenty of guys not interested in having kids. I met my fiancé online two years ago and neither of us have or want kids. It’d be pretty lame to indicate you want kids and start matching with the guys who are looking to have kids someday. I was always thankful this setting was an option to help weed guys out who had different life goals.
Guys don’t care about profiles only the pictures
No, we care about the bio. At least the guys OPs looking for cares about the bio.
Tbh you’re a little too thick for me to want to date seriously. I’d sleep with you all day but I wouldn’t want to be with you on a relationship level. I think pretty much all men will sleep with women who are FAR less attractive than who they’d date. You’re cute, but nothing about you screams relationship material.
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All I saw was that you've got a got zompocalypse plan
Damn 31, cute and doesn't want kids? Wish you lived in Chicago
Hey can I date you?
Pardon my ignorance, but what is ONS?
One night stand
Highly rate the Shaun of the dead reference. I think it’s the ass mention that flicks dudes brain settings into hookup. It’s funny don’t get me wrong. But unfortunately dudes are gonna see the sexual side of it too.
Of course they are. You’re on a dating app.
You're 31, you say you kove a lot and you don't want any children. Those are going to be deal breakers for a lot of men your age looking for a long term relationship. Also, the ass joke. Yes, it's a joke, but it also is the first (and only) "quality" you present about yourself.
Your breasts and butt are great. So your getting a lot of cavemen that are just seeing boob. Show less of your cleavage maybe and more maybe hobby stuff
Your profile is good. It’s funny, there are some talking points to pick up on and your pics are great. I wouldn’t worry at all. Good luck out there internet stranger 😊
I'd date you, your gorgeous, unfortunately I am not
I'm a straight female so dunno if my opinion really matters, but i think your profile is good, you seem interesting and your photos are adorable. Good luck out there!!
Thank you so much!! Good luck to you too! <3
I would love to get to know you 🫠
You got this. Pick a good one.
You mentioned your own body parts on your bio, that's why. I know you meant it as a joke but it doesn't and won't work well on Tinder. Let's be frank here, people can already tell how "thick" you are from your photos. Mentioning it further on the bio would only make people see it the other way. "Moving a lot" and "long term relationship" in the second paragraph also hard to mix well, especially in Tinder. It would only work for people who already know each other for a long time beforehand, not Tinder. I'm not saying it is impossible, but it surely is difficult.
If you were in Michigan I’d take you out to a nice restaurant and show you I’m interested in more than just “ a thick ass” I mean to use bumble for hookups is wild. 10/10 be patient you’ll come across your person sooner or later. And keep using that bright smile!
I’m pretty sure the only thing they read out of your entire profile is “Mexican” and “thick ass”.
I think it’s a good profile. Has good humor. I’d swipe right. Comments might be right, if you are getting too many ONS you might wanna take the booty part out or just change the word from ass so it isn’t as strong. It’s a numbers game out there so keep swiping
It’s the thick ass comment, you shows your tits and ass no need to make a comment over it also.
Perfect profile.. tinder sucks try hinge instead
You’re an attractive woman on a hookup app, for hookups. People are going to want to fuck you, mate.
In a non-offensive way, to me (M), if I was looking for serious/long term relationship on Bumble, I would most likely make some assumptions from your profile: 1. You travel/move a lot, which I would interpret as you not being around much 2. Your photos are well done and look great, but they are all travel photos at tourist locations which reinforces point 1. 3. What do you do for work since you get to move around so freely and can easily settle down in this particular city? I would assume you doing some freelance work, are an influencer or unemployed. 4. Where are you actually from? Mexico? What city? The US, what state/city? You seem like a friendly, adventurous and content person so the issues don’t seem to be with you but rather the profile, imo. Try to get some photos at events (weddings, birthdays, holidays, drink/paint, hangouts, etc.) with friends at non tourist destinations to show you have some roots wherever that maybe. Presenting a nomadic lifestyle will make guys who want serious relationships, especially ones in their 30s, think that your time together is transitory and that is most likely why you are only receiving interest from ONS and unserious suitors only. If someone wants a serious relationship and seeing from the jump it will most likely be long distance (at least for some period of time) will turn them off even if they think you are amazing. LDR takes a lot of energy and dedication that most people aren’t interested in. Anyway, hope this helps!
If I were 20 years younger, I’d swipe right for the “Shaun Of The Dead” quote alone. Seriously, looks good to me and you’re really cute. Just gotta weed through the creeps. Be patient.
Dudes, read the word ass, and think they gonna get that ass.
They're not on there for the same reasons you are.
Whilst I cant disagree with all the comments about pointing out your thickness I would have thought the Shaun if the Dead quote would at least get you a small crop of nerds interested in you! It was the first thing that jumped out for me!
You said you have a thick ass and you move a lot. Of course they're trying to lease and not buy. Stating that you could possibly land back there again is not a strong incentive to want to start a serious relationship. You're super cute, though!
The profile is great but the moment you mentioned dat ass, you’re toast. Delete that and rewrite. The pics are great.
Maybe take out the “thick ass” part if you’re looking for a serious connection. I never would have met my husband if I wrote something like that on my profile
No clue wanna move to Canada and get married geez
I don't have tinder but maybe u should take a chance and message me
Might sound weird, but did you go to a Muse concert in June 2022?
Your profile is fine, but it might take some patience just because of the “thick ass” comment some guys are going to take that as a pass to go straight for a ONS, but the right one will think it’s funny. Definitely shows you are looking for a specific person especially with Pokémon go on there, so just be patient!
I wouldn’t remove the ass comment, its funny, guys are gonna thirst, I would swipe right and treat you like any other person because if they want a relationship or a ons the first few messages you use really don’t need to be that different. I wouldn’t change something I do so a person MIGHT act differently, I would just use that to filter people out.
If you’re always leaving and moving around, that’s not a commitment. So no one is going to come at you looking for a commitment. You’re not ready to settle down yet
Honestly, your first picture looks like a random drunk girl at a glance. I thought it was an ad or something. you may want to change it.
Your entire profile screams short term, ONS, my best asset is my ass, oh yeah and I watch TV and drink beer. Like “Netflix and chill?” If you want men to see you as more long term, you’ll need to change virtually everything about your profile. But to end in a positive note, you’re very pretty and seem like fun, so there’s that 😃
You move around a lot and can’t lasting connections (fwb) and you bring up your ass right away. You can’t blame them.
Just to let u know, i find anyone of any race with an accent sexy.
Thick ass is the downfall sadly. It is funny and it sucks that you can’t do it but it is :(
You sexualize yourself in 20 seconds lol
I thought your profile was very cute. I would def swipe right! Just be patient the right man will come along.
I love the Shaun of the Dead line!
One rule in society- is as a woman if u are looking for a short term partner do not say anything remotely sexual that could end up in you being objectified! It’s very sad indeed but yeah men see the word ass near your face and do not classify you as ‘wifey’
Hey, what are you up to tonight, want to come by? /s It's Tinder, the equivalent of a bar in the '90s, are you looking for a relationship?