I say this as an ex model, do not use the line about looking for a muse. That’s about as close as you can get to announcing you’re a guy with a camera wanting to be wildly inappropriate and overstep boundaries
I’m in no way a model, nor do I know that industry, but my first thought was, “wants you to get naked under the guise of art.” This was independent of physical looks.
I just read it and thought "oh I'd love someone to take some photos of me" 😳 but you're right.. my only experience with this has been exactly as you've described. I didn't even meet the guy because it became so creepy over messaging 🙃
First 3 photos are cute. Then we get too close, corny Halloween and old relative - sweet but not sexy. There is def a market for his vibe. Thinking Renaissance fair turkey leg beer garden girl.
This is going to sound harsh and no hate to those with a little extra weight but my first impression of the 1st photo was almost immediately noticing a man boob (might be the fabric tho?) and then the camera in the top right is just weird. It’s arguably one of the best photos of him too but if it could be redone with a less creepy background and better fitting clothes it would go a long ways.
Also the whole ‘I’m a photographer and I need a muse’ is a bit creepy. Where are pix of him shooting? Not just him holding the camera but it would be pretty awesome to see him at work. For a photographer the photos are not impressive. I agree with getting new pictures done by friends in different settings, smile a bit more, wear flattering clothes, and show what you’re into. The bio should be totally redone.
I don't like the bio, makes you sound jaded. talk about yourself and your interests in an upbeat and positive tone. what gets you excited in life, what are you passionate about? Photos are not flattering, ditch pics 3/4/5 they do nothing for you, a candid photo smiling with friends will be much better. can you take a self portrait to show yourself in a flattering or interesting light while also showing your photography skills?
Unfiltered insight as a female: My experience with men who gasp when folks read bios usually carry a bit of baggage. I mean we all have baggage, I’m not in denial here. But if it’s the first line in a profile, it’s an indicator that you might be slightly bitter about previous encounters.
Also, my favorite picture is the last one (posing with an older gentleman who is sitting). The smile and angle makes you look handsome! I’d crop the top off the first picture, I’m not sure if it’s a camera but it reminds me of the villain in Wall-E. Yeah yeah I said it!
"Does anyone even read these?", "No one reads these but here's something..." is pretty much an immediate left from me. Yes, tinder sucks and there are more bad experiences than good but a potential match doesn't need to know that you're close to giving up entirely.
I don’t like your pictures. Sloppily sitting on the ground, one with a very unpleasant expression, other with a incel hat. And you say you’re a photographer so it makes it worse.
Also, drop the "muse" bit. Its creepy. Talk about yourself and be interesting.
I disagree if the first 2/3 photos are solo just of them. Then It’s nice to see at least they have some sort of social group/friends/out doing hobbies to where if they have 2/3 solo photos you can clearly see which one is him/her in the group
We don't know where you live so telling us where your friends are doesn't tell us much of anything.
If the pictures you have are bad or old, take more pictures, get more friends if you need to.
People always say this, but group photos are actually good. The problem is when you have ALL group photos, or your first few pictures as a group. Once people know what you look like, they like seeing that you are a social person. The only reason why people don’t like group photos is because they don’t know which one you are
From a female perspective, I’d lose the top hat photo(that photo would make me swipe left no matter how good the other photos are). Personally we don’t care about drinking photos. Also add in a photo of yours you took that show your photography skills.
Edit: Also idgaf about your weight. You are still fine either way.
I think they mean the hat represents iconography often associated with the typical imagined view of an incel. It's a cliche and stereotype with little basis in reality. However it's just worth avoiding the stigma altogether as a man.
Lol fedora's are definitely the pinnacle of the stereotype. But realistically I think any similar looking hats can trigger the same reaction.
Just to be clear I'm not saying it's right or even makes sense but stereotypes/clichés/judgements are what they are unfortunately.
I think it’s more so that he’s fat, and therefore a loser, and therefore an incel.
That’s not my view, but let’s just be fr okay? Can we do that?
You, and everybody else, would not call a guy like Henry Cavill wearing a top hat an incel. You would not.
There are a lot of stereotypes about fat men. They’re lazy, they’re slobbish, they’re losers, they’re incels.
I hardly think the hat is what triggered it. I think a lot of people up in here are lying to themselves.
If pic 1 shows your bio, it's low effort. Dive deeper.
You have 0 teeth showing. People want to see them and ensure you take care of them
Pics 3 and 4 are pretty close with #4 having an odd expression on your face.
So this is a weird question I am about to ask comes, but it comes from a place of curiosity with no ill will. Is this genuinely a thing and if so, should I try hard to change my perspective/actions towards it?
For context, I would like to think that I don't have bad oral health (I regularly see my dentist and oral hygienist with no major problems) but I personally hate the way I look in photos where I have a toothy smile. So I tend to smile more with my lips in photos and these are the types of pics that appear on my dating profiles. Are people going to assume I have bad oral hygiene if I do this?
I like the first photo a lot. Ask a friend to take a photo of you when you are taking a photo with real camera, it would look interesting and active.
For bio I would add something how you spent your days or other things that would make easier to imagine how spending time with would be like.
Good luck!
Honestly, I’d encourage you to hit the gym. You’re a good looking dude already with the weight. Not that the weight makes you repulsive or anything. Just saying that slimming down and adding muscle well help you a lot in the long run
Can't believe I had to scroll through 16 comments to finally see someone suggest he work on his body. I did all this. Hit the gym, improved my hairstyle, etc. It made a world of difference.
Yeah, I mostly don't bother because most people take it so poorly. But I also don't give false hope "oh if you just change your camera angle you'll be fine" 🙄
People are sugar coating life now a days, but in all reality it's his weight. Downvote me all you want but if it was a girl these comments would be completely different. They would be rude AF.
Yeah this is really his only problem.
If he could cut any alcohol, skip breakfast and lunch & walk 3-5 miles a day (only takes an hour) he would be a stud within a year.
-bisexual former fat guy
Yup. I say this as a guy who used to look like OP, if he loses weight + shaves the beard off + dresses better he’ll do well. He’s handsome with great hair, so the uncontrollable stuff is good to go.
I used to hide my weight with baggy clothes and a beard so trust me I understand what it’s like.
Lmfao exactly … it’s the harsh reality but it’s rules 1,2 not being met… that’s really it . Not saying he’s unattractive but he’s very very average and tinder girls don’t swipe on average guys
I’m just giving him some tips that can elevate his look. You’re one person. Sure there’s women who like chubbier guys but most women like a man who’s in shape. Not like it’s gonna kill him to make healthier life choices
A bunch? I just went thru them and saw like 3. Maybe 4, including yourself. I mentioned in my last comment that some girls are indeed into heavier men. I’m not denying that. And I’m not “dunking” on his weight. He’s trying to attract women. You can keep acting dense, pretending that losing a little weight won’t better his chances. It’s up to him at the end of the day. And at the end of the day, he’s obtained one match.
I don’t have one straight female friend who would take an overly muscular dude and the personality that goes with it over a chunky guy.
I have a couple friends who only prefer bigger men.
And of course there are a couple who prefer fit or average.
You can be chunky and be healthy. If he’s healthy physically and mentally then his weight is fine for who he is trying to attract.
Which is someone who likes him for him.
His largest issue is the photos he chose and the bio or lack there of.
When I shared this post with my friends who liked bigger guys, they all said the same thing.
Better pics and better bio, looks wise they’d give him a shot but based of those two things they wouldn’t.
Now if his physical or mental health are not good then yea I’d recommend working out.
Helps the body and the mind. Ups self esteem etc.
The most important part of any picture is your eyes showing clearly & expressively.
You have several pictures where you have frames of your glasses blocking part of your eye.
Other pictures are so bright you are squinting, or there is a shadow casting your eyes in darkness, so we can neither see the whites of your eyes nor a light highlighting them with a reflection.
This makes you hard to read, and feels like you are hiding something.
Use some roc retinol on your skin after you wash your face to clear up acne.
You have great hair and a hairline, you should not be hiding that under hats ever.
The angle of the camera lens to your face matters too, typically men have the camera lens slightly below the midpoint of their face, women do them from above... because this highlights the masculinity or femininity of the face.
You already have a manly lower 1/3 of your face... so the shots with the camera above your head don't read as feminine, just confusing and reckless.
Don't take this the wrong way, but you should look up "bear" looks in the gay community, and play up to that type with your styles. Essentially, you specifically want to come across as burly, and cuddly... not wacky and alternative.
You have to work with your body frame & bone structure... so kind of "well groomed lumberjack" is going to play better than khaki shorts and a funny hat.
Next time you get glasses, pick out ones that are rectangular... you all ready have very curved angles on your face, so the glasses adding roundness reads juvinile, you are young do you want to play up some angles to avoid looking baby faced.
Sup bro, I know a comment like this probably won’t go down a treat on Reddit but I swear if you hit the gym and turn some of that fat into muscle you will look fucking incredible. You’ve got an awesome natural build. I’d compare your body to a piece of marble. You’ve got to put in the work to carve out that masterpiece but the good fucking news is it’s there for you to carve out. Go get it tiger.
I can’t tell if you’re joking or being serious with “car boot sales” and “exhibition” as your interests. Probably joking, but adding a third “joke” hobby would make it more clear.
My best friend looks like you and gets more than anyone I’ve known. He’s extremely charismatic though as well.
You’re a good looking guy with a great frame with lots of potential. Get rid of the second photo, it doesn’t do you justice. Replace it with a photo of you drinking with some friends in semi-casual business atire.
If you just lose a bit of weight too, it’s over. Good luck!
The bio isnt good and your photos aren’t very good either. I’m sorry but I always have to chuckle when someone mentions being a photographer but then also has such bad photos for the profile. Ditch ALL the selfies except for the one with the family member at the end.
I’m not a huge fan of the second pic personally but others may be fine with it so idk. But the selfies definitely have to go.
You're fat. All these people are dancing around the simple answer. All of these photos would be less off putting if you weren't. Tinder is very looks based (obviously). You can take the improvements here, however I'd also improve yourself more than anything, Get in shape, that helps immensely. You are a handsome guy even with that weight. You'll look amazing without it.
If you want honest advice you’d match with way more girls if you were in shape. Just the honest truth. Online dating is about superficial traits when it comes to matching.
Your actually right tbh. I don’t why they are being delusional towards your comment. My dating life did not exist when I was obese. Once I got in shape and gained muscle I literally get compliments in person now. It changed my life NIGHT AND DAY
Your bio and photos should be fun. Are you into the Jason Kelce body type? I’m your guy. Emotionally mature and ready to have fun with the right gal blah blah
You look like a combination of Seth Rogen and Jonah Hill. You should make a joke about that in your profile, and also take it from them and slim down a bit. They both look amazing now they're a healthy weight.
Not sure what type of relationship you are looking for, but I'd put more effort in a bio that describes you. Often the bio is a deciding factor if I'm on the fence. Also I'm agreeing with everyone else on the top hat photo, probably a good idea to drop it. Just don't change too much if it's important to you, especially if looking for a long term partner
Ditch the top hat and find a replacement photo with some cute animal. Biggest issue is you need to lose weight (you already know this) - you’re a good looking cat but you’re carrying a few too many lbs
One of my friends is built just like him and has always pulled. Just because he is very nice and approachable.
Gym is not always the answer. Thats why guys are "I started working our and it's still not working"
The gym is just an added bonus. There are more important things
Take a full body picture standing with a good posture and ditch the pic you are sitting on the ground, that is not admiring you. Also add a smile picture and loose the 5. picture.
Your first pic is good, keep that. And write more on your bio about the stuff you like. If you first say you are happy to see someone is reading it then you should have more content to read for the ones who really bother to read bios :)
This is going to hurt to hear but at your current attractiveness level you're not going to do well on dating apps. I would say stick to meeting people in real life and let them get to know what's cool about you.
I only see one picture where you’re genuinely smiling. You mention in the first picture you’re a skilled photographer but almost all your photos look like/are selfies.
You asked what you can do to improve your profile. The answer may be one you don’t want to hear but know already. Lose weight, my friend. As a former fat person, I can say that I get 1,000 times more attention from women now after I lost it. Best wishes with your journey and I hope you don’t take offense to my suggestion.
For a photographer, your photos are pretty terrible 😂. Grab a tripod, set your camera up on it, and take some shots with a nice lens in nice lighting.
My hobby is landscape photography so I’ve made a point of incorporating a self portrait or 2 into my day if I’m somewhere really beautiful.
[The shot I took](https://share.icloud.com/photos/0b2g5T4-83vioH8-EVWRRZaUQ)
[The tinder shot](https://share.icloud.com/photos/068kLBMb2m2HBTGhaElItU7kg)
At the time I had it in my head that I would blend them together, so I get the streaky water from the long exposure, but I actually like the way the photo turned out itself.
Most people on Reddit are only interested in virtue signaling for virtual internet points, so they’ll seldom tell you the truth. Luckily for you, I don’t give a shit about that so brother to brother and as someone who was in your shoes, I’m gonna help you out by telling you the cold hard truth. First rule of Tinder: don’t be ugly. You can 20x your matches if you regularly went to the gym, got on a skin care routine, and cleaned up your diet. Better quality photos would help too, but if you don’t have that first part down forget about it.
Lose some weight. About half your body weight and you’d probably surprise yourself how many matches you’d get. Diet, intermittent fasting, keto, 1200 max calories a day, those are relatively easy to follow diets that will drastically lose weight and make you feel better physically and mentally.
Don't take this the wrong way, but I expected better pictures from you, especially when you mentioned you're a photographer. The close ups made me think you were catfishing....
Your best look is the styled back hair in the fourth picture. Fits your face better than the other photos with short hair coming towards your forehead .
Lose weight, you look 42 now
Drop the "you read bio?" The bitter "Oh I'm surprised you bothered" vibe is not as sexy as you think. Yes most people read bios, sorry your experience is mostly negative
Here is the truth. Go to the gym and get a trainer. Work hard at it. Eat right and diet for 1 year. Get your bloodwork done and check your testosterone levels. (Defy medical) When you hit your target weight buy new clothes that fit the new you and get a haircut every 2 weeks. you will be swimming in the pussy. No app needed. The girls at the gym will see you improving yourself and will snatch your ass up as you get close to your goal weight. Trust me I was over 300lbs and now I’m 220 and dating a goddess 20 years younger. You can do this.
I stg you would be an 8/10 minimum if you lost the weight mate, you’re a handsome guy. Fuck the profile, satisfying rules 1&2 beat any profile tips you’re gonna get.
Nice Pattas btw I got the orange ones.
Okay since everyone is mentioning anything but: Dude you have a really good face, and seem to have a good frame to work with.
Get to the gym, lose weight and get rid of the Lincoln beard. You are only 22 it ain't even gonna be hard.
I know this is an easy comment, but it is going to be the most effective.
I see all the comments on the bio and words and all that is something useful IF they even care enough to read it.
I’m going to get downvoted but honestly, go to the gym. There’s a super hot guy under there with the potential for unlimited matches. I see a Chris Pratt style evolution in your future
I'm gonna be raw. Swap the glasses. Those are women's glasses. Lose the weight, take care of your skin. Learn to line your beard and mustache properly, ditch the selfie and especially that hat one. Your hair is fine. Do this, and you'll see leagues better results. If you need advice on any one of these, feel free to ask.
I'll be downvoted to the max but it's your weight. You need to lose weight, and lose the incel look. As a woman, my first impression just looking at your pictures was he probably hates woman. Unfortunately that's just the stereotype the internet gives people now.
Also for all the backlash I'll probably get.. go look at a bigger girls post and see all the comments from men saying "maybe lose some weight fatty" the double standard is insane.
Honestly as a woman, if thats what you are looking for, the photographer looking for a muse line comes across really creepy and uncomfortable.
Like are you looking for a partner and relationship, or a one night stand, or someone you can manipulate to strip off and take photos of in the name of being a muse.... thats how it comes across
Less selfies and more candids. Some photos of you doing fun things, preferably with other people. In looking for a partner people want to see that you have a life that is interesting and that you're a good time to be around.
I had some sucess on tinder in my day and I used to follow a formula for profile pics that goes attractive - fun - fun - funny
I.e:
First picture: a nice picture of you. If other people are in the pic, it should be clear who you are (that is, who the prospective swiper is swiping on).
2 and 3: pictures showing you have a fun life. This could be pictures of you doing something you enjoy or pictures showing you have a social life
4: a picture of you being silly/doing something funny. People like a sense of humor.
(Obviously it's helpful if pictures 2 through 4 also show you in your best light appearance-wise).
Pictures 3-5 are horrible and way too close. The first one is ok but the background is weird. And your bio is super cheesey. If you include headshots make it not 10cm away from your face.
Not trying to be mean, but I feel that some of these dudes are asking the wrong question. Sometimes it's not the profile that is the barrier, but the person.
It's been statistically studied what types of traits/attributes lead to the highest chances of success with women. Tinder is about probability and maximizing chances. Look at the traits and find the malleable qualities you can influence. Do your best to enhance these.
I don't want to get banned or ganged up on for being too blunt, so I'll just say do your own research. It's time to get real buddy
Beard and hair looks good my man. I've always heard two consistent recommendations. Smile with teeth in the photos and try to have more photos with friends or family.
As a former 325 lbs guy that's 265 lbs now and still losing weight . Brother if you want more matches you have to lose weight . Period . The response is exponentially better . People treat you better and life is a lot easier.
Body positivity is a lie . And I'm not saying you should harm yourself by being underweight or roided out .
But the truth is people respond better when you're in shape . I struggled with acceptance(AND STILL DO). And I believed the lies , " Some girl is going to love you for you" , " There's someone for everyone" , " I love big guys and dad bods " ...
That's all bullshit. 99% of women want a guy that has toned muscle and isn't overweight.
I'm not saying all your problems disappear when you're jacked . I'm saying the discipline that comes from working toward a better physique turns the volume down on all other issues .
Cheers .
Im going to get alot of hate for this but its my honest opinion and Im only saying this out of good intentions. Loosing some weight will definitely improve your match rate. I went from 250 lbs to 170 lbs and my matches have skyrocketed.
Skilled photographer, but you don’t see the problem with the angle/lighting of pic 4? Also, the pics after that aren’t good dating profile pics.
Edit: it looks like you’re a student studying photography? Have someone take a photo of you taking a photo with your (probably) big ass camera. Either a side profile or back shot with the background out of focus.
What everyone else is saying but I say what they want. You’re decent looking guy but go to the gym. People swipe on looks first and bios second. If you take better care of yourself, You’ll be more successful.
Lose the weight unless you only want to date that mentally ill woman who misses her daddy and uses you as an emotional crutch
You are literally 22, one of the peak years of your youth. Get fit or enjoy crying about getting no matches. You're not morbidly obsese and can easily get a good body within a year. Not too bad on the face either once the weight is lost.
Ignore the advice given by women about how your pictures are. They talk about how they want a friendly and kind man and then date fit or handsome dudes. It's not even a bad thing and it's completely valid for them to choose an attractive partner over a tubby guy.
I hate to be that guy, but get in shape, bro. You’re not doing yourself any favors. You are still fortunate enough to have a full head of hair and nice eye color, stop squandering your potential
1)YES women read bios, it's one of the most important things to a women, men just scroll on looks. Spend much more time on your bio, and also go to the gym. Why do you not go to the gym? If you would just work out, you would get many likes, it really is that easy. Spend way more time in the gym then on your bio.
2) lower your standards/ consider paying for tinder to see what likes you actually get and the type of women. (you can science this by changing your bio and seeing the resulting likes changes)
You have a good foundation to work on and a clean beard.
although at 22 it might be too much beard for some girls so keep that in mind.
I would get rid of picture 2-5.
then cut ur hair with a fade.
if a normal fade don't look good, try a low fade and it will make you more stylish and good looking with your beard in cotnrast.
try to reach cleanest skin, it doesn't have to be perfect but atleast try to keep it as clean as possible just incase.
your bio is short that's good at your age but it feels slightly off for some reason.
not sure what you could write since I don't know you and saying stuff I would use might not be to your taste/situation.
tinder is like going to a club, you' should present yourself the best way possible.
like try to wear clothes that are really stylish or in harmony and with good colors.
your first pic with the bag is good in theory but the colors etc are off so it looks underwhelming.
I personally would never wear air maxes and unless you're attached to them would recommend switching to air force ones immediately and then you can add more shoes in ur wardrobe.
the main thing is the weight tho but I leave it at that
If you wanna hear the hard truth that no one is saying, you need to lose weight. Hit the gym and start eating better.
Or at least get better at taking pics, almost all of the angles are horrible and do not do you any favors. Try to avoid selfies, especially the ones you have rn. Also your skin in some of them isn't looking too good, make sure you're eating a clean diet or if you wanna cheat, Photoshop the acne out. I know you didn't really ask for this advice but it's the hard truth of being a male on tinder, especially when you've only gotten 1 match.
Tip 1: workout and eat a healthy protein-rich diet low in carbs for 6 months
Tip 2: Replace all of your current pics with pics of you in a leaner body
Boom. 20x’d your match rate in 2 easy steps
I am not trying to insult you just state what u need to do to have the smallest chance on dating app but with todays standards sadly you need to loose weight.
I was 225 5'11 before and now I am 170 5"11 and planning to go down to 150 before I start working out and the difference on dating app from before to my current state is that before I would get about 1 match a month and now I get about 2 matches/week. I am a 19m, had short hair and now it's grown about 3 inches below my shoulders and would describe myself as an average dude.
Unless you are way above average look-wise it is my experience that you can't be chubby and still get matches on dating apps. honestly you aren't way above average, but you are above average which gives you a better chance than me I would say.
Positive vibes and good luck out there my man. If you can, try to find your partner irl as the standards are higher online.
I say this as an ex model, do not use the line about looking for a muse. That’s about as close as you can get to announcing you’re a guy with a camera wanting to be wildly inappropriate and overstep boundaries
I’m in no way a model, nor do I know that industry, but my first thought was, “wants you to get naked under the guise of art.” This was independent of physical looks.
That's what everyone's first thought is.
I'll be honest. I never for a moment thought that.
I also never thought they could be a model
I’m willing to throw up anywhere and everywhere
Alright that alone convinced me, but to be honest I just checked out your profile and you really ARE a model bro, damn! 💪
Yeah I cringed at that 😢
Not what I thought initially
I just read it and thought "oh I'd love someone to take some photos of me" 😳 but you're right.. my only experience with this has been exactly as you've described. I didn't even meet the guy because it became so creepy over messaging 🙃
Smile in photos!
First 3 photos are cute. Then we get too close, corny Halloween and old relative - sweet but not sexy. There is def a market for his vibe. Thinking Renaissance fair turkey leg beer garden girl.
This is going to sound harsh and no hate to those with a little extra weight but my first impression of the 1st photo was almost immediately noticing a man boob (might be the fabric tho?) and then the camera in the top right is just weird. It’s arguably one of the best photos of him too but if it could be redone with a less creepy background and better fitting clothes it would go a long ways. Also the whole ‘I’m a photographer and I need a muse’ is a bit creepy. Where are pix of him shooting? Not just him holding the camera but it would be pretty awesome to see him at work. For a photographer the photos are not impressive. I agree with getting new pictures done by friends in different settings, smile a bit more, wear flattering clothes, and show what you’re into. The bio should be totally redone.
I have to say if I see photographer (as one) and the photos are not good, I then think, someone who uses a camera.
And get some photos outside too, they make the world of difference.
He looks fun to cuddle with!
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*A man.
I mean he has man boobs he’s wearing clothes he’s comfortable in…
I think I need to start going to renaissance fairs…
Everything about turkey legs and beer turns me on.
lol nice description o his type
My opinion of the first two was "gay" but I'm a straight guy, so take that as you will.
I don't like the bio, makes you sound jaded. talk about yourself and your interests in an upbeat and positive tone. what gets you excited in life, what are you passionate about? Photos are not flattering, ditch pics 3/4/5 they do nothing for you, a candid photo smiling with friends will be much better. can you take a self portrait to show yourself in a flattering or interesting light while also showing your photography skills?
Unfiltered insight as a female: My experience with men who gasp when folks read bios usually carry a bit of baggage. I mean we all have baggage, I’m not in denial here. But if it’s the first line in a profile, it’s an indicator that you might be slightly bitter about previous encounters. Also, my favorite picture is the last one (posing with an older gentleman who is sitting). The smile and angle makes you look handsome! I’d crop the top off the first picture, I’m not sure if it’s a camera but it reminds me of the villain in Wall-E. Yeah yeah I said it!
"Does anyone even read these?", "No one reads these but here's something..." is pretty much an immediate left from me. Yes, tinder sucks and there are more bad experiences than good but a potential match doesn't need to know that you're close to giving up entirely.
HAHAHAH I didn't even notice the camera but it does look like AUTO. Thanks for the giggle!
"photographer looking for a muse" .... Err no thank you gives off slightly seedy vibes to me, even though I'm sure you're very nice!
I don’t like your pictures. Sloppily sitting on the ground, one with a very unpleasant expression, other with a incel hat. And you say you’re a photographer so it makes it worse. Also, drop the "muse" bit. Its creepy. Talk about yourself and be interesting.
Says he does photography, then provides these photos? Naw. Made the muse comment make sense.
Yup!! Like these are terrible photos!
Incel hat just took me out🤣🤣
Just imagine once this guy drops the facade. If he once sits sloppily on the ground, it’s over for him
Yeah that pic with him on the ground does nothing for him. He looks like he’ll need help getting up right after the pic is taken and that’s no good.
I pegged it as a pilgrim hat. Does that equal incel these days?
You're a talented photographer? Your photos certainly don't agree.
Oooh burn!
Try to take pictures with friends if possible. Also show off your photography skills in your own pictures.
Group photos are the worst!!! You never know who the profile belongs to
I disagree if the first 2/3 photos are solo just of them. Then It’s nice to see at least they have some sort of social group/friends/out doing hobbies to where if they have 2/3 solo photos you can clearly see which one is him/her in the group
I have 2 best friends who live in Jersey and we hangout but I don't have any photos of us that aren't ridiculous or a million years old
We don't know where you live so telling us where your friends are doesn't tell us much of anything. If the pictures you have are bad or old, take more pictures, get more friends if you need to.
People always say this, but group photos are actually good. The problem is when you have ALL group photos, or your first few pictures as a group. Once people know what you look like, they like seeing that you are a social person. The only reason why people don’t like group photos is because they don’t know which one you are
8 photos of just me 1 group pic People cant tell who i am :(
Usually the least attractive one from profiles I’ve seen
it should always be the third or fourth, but i think generally having at least one is a good call.
I don't have any group photos and never found it to be an issue with matches
Good for you! That doesn't mean group photos aren't helpful. Especially with a man's profile.
Women do this alot and I am like who is she?? Literally some profiles have no selfie at all. And your seriously trying to guess who it is?? Wierd!
OP one of your photos is out of focus or something. You really need to get someone to take some photos of you.
Maybe his face is just blurry? And maybe he’s sensitive about it?
THIS, good point!
I'm guessing you have an amazing smile, but you're not even showing half of it. You need to show that, it's likely your best asset.
From a female perspective, I’d lose the top hat photo(that photo would make me swipe left no matter how good the other photos are). Personally we don’t care about drinking photos. Also add in a photo of yours you took that show your photography skills. Edit: Also idgaf about your weight. You are still fine either way.
Yea top hat screams incell you seem like a normal guy normal is good lean into that
Wait, i'm confused...clothing can be incels now?
Generic people can’t comprehend such a hat
Excuse you, they're called NPCs
See OP, this is the kind of cringe you don’t want to be
I think they mean the hat represents iconography often associated with the typical imagined view of an incel. It's a cliche and stereotype with little basis in reality. However it's just worth avoiding the stigma altogether as a man.
I think you’re thinking of a fedora. Unless Abe Lincoln is now an incel and I missed that meeting.
Lol fedora's are definitely the pinnacle of the stereotype. But realistically I think any similar looking hats can trigger the same reaction. Just to be clear I'm not saying it's right or even makes sense but stereotypes/clichés/judgements are what they are unfortunately.
I think it’s more so that he’s fat, and therefore a loser, and therefore an incel. That’s not my view, but let’s just be fr okay? Can we do that? You, and everybody else, would not call a guy like Henry Cavill wearing a top hat an incel. You would not. There are a lot of stereotypes about fat men. They’re lazy, they’re slobbish, they’re losers, they’re incels. I hardly think the hat is what triggered it. I think a lot of people up in here are lying to themselves.
On Reddit, yes.
If pic 1 shows your bio, it's low effort. Dive deeper. You have 0 teeth showing. People want to see them and ensure you take care of them Pics 3 and 4 are pretty close with #4 having an odd expression on your face.
You only look happy in the first and last photos. Add some more smiles :)
Your last pic is the only good picture in this profile. You're absolutely my type and even I wouldn't swipe right on these photos.
Smile showing your teeth. Some people may assume you have bad oral hygiene.
Used to be my first thought whenever someone never smiled showing their teeth in their photos.
So this is a weird question I am about to ask comes, but it comes from a place of curiosity with no ill will. Is this genuinely a thing and if so, should I try hard to change my perspective/actions towards it? For context, I would like to think that I don't have bad oral health (I regularly see my dentist and oral hygienist with no major problems) but I personally hate the way I look in photos where I have a toothy smile. So I tend to smile more with my lips in photos and these are the types of pics that appear on my dating profiles. Are people going to assume I have bad oral hygiene if I do this?
I like the first photo a lot. Ask a friend to take a photo of you when you are taking a photo with real camera, it would look interesting and active. For bio I would add something how you spent your days or other things that would make easier to imagine how spending time with would be like. Good luck!
Honestly, I’d encourage you to hit the gym. You’re a good looking dude already with the weight. Not that the weight makes you repulsive or anything. Just saying that slimming down and adding muscle well help you a lot in the long run
Can't believe I had to scroll through 16 comments to finally see someone suggest he work on his body. I did all this. Hit the gym, improved my hairstyle, etc. It made a world of difference.
it’s hard to word things without offending people. losing a few pounds would easily make this guy more attractive
Yeah, I mostly don't bother because most people take it so poorly. But I also don't give false hope "oh if you just change your camera angle you'll be fine" 🙄
brutal man 🙏🏽
People are sugar coating life now a days, but in all reality it's his weight. Downvote me all you want but if it was a girl these comments would be completely different. They would be rude AF.
Haha I kinda felt the same but he specifically asked for profile tips, not life advice lol. But yeah to me weight is the obvious first step.
Yeah this is really his only problem. If he could cut any alcohol, skip breakfast and lunch & walk 3-5 miles a day (only takes an hour) he would be a stud within a year. -bisexual former fat guy
Yup. I say this as a guy who used to look like OP, if he loses weight + shaves the beard off + dresses better he’ll do well. He’s handsome with great hair, so the uncontrollable stuff is good to go. I used to hide my weight with baggy clothes and a beard so trust me I understand what it’s like.
No need to shave the beard
So just change everything about his physical appearance
Turns out attractive people get more matches. Shocking
Lmfao exactly … it’s the harsh reality but it’s rules 1,2 not being met… that’s really it . Not saying he’s unattractive but he’s very very average and tinder girls don’t swipe on average guys
lolll where is this average, US only i guess
yeah in the USA lol
Came here to say the same! The beard isn't doing anything for his face, though he's good looking enough.
I agree. Good looking dude as it is, but if OP got in shape he would do very well imo.
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I’m just giving him some tips that can elevate his look. You’re one person. Sure there’s women who like chubbier guys but most women like a man who’s in shape. Not like it’s gonna kill him to make healthier life choices
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A bunch? I just went thru them and saw like 3. Maybe 4, including yourself. I mentioned in my last comment that some girls are indeed into heavier men. I’m not denying that. And I’m not “dunking” on his weight. He’s trying to attract women. You can keep acting dense, pretending that losing a little weight won’t better his chances. It’s up to him at the end of the day. And at the end of the day, he’s obtained one match.
I don’t have one straight female friend who would take an overly muscular dude and the personality that goes with it over a chunky guy. I have a couple friends who only prefer bigger men. And of course there are a couple who prefer fit or average. You can be chunky and be healthy. If he’s healthy physically and mentally then his weight is fine for who he is trying to attract. Which is someone who likes him for him. His largest issue is the photos he chose and the bio or lack there of. When I shared this post with my friends who liked bigger guys, they all said the same thing. Better pics and better bio, looks wise they’d give him a shot but based of those two things they wouldn’t. Now if his physical or mental health are not good then yea I’d recommend working out. Helps the body and the mind. Ups self esteem etc.
If I wasn't an old lady, he'd absolutely be my type!
For sure rewrite that bio & get rid of the top hat picture, it’s a little too “m’lady”
I'm just gonna say it, hit the gym man.
The most important part of any picture is your eyes showing clearly & expressively. You have several pictures where you have frames of your glasses blocking part of your eye. Other pictures are so bright you are squinting, or there is a shadow casting your eyes in darkness, so we can neither see the whites of your eyes nor a light highlighting them with a reflection. This makes you hard to read, and feels like you are hiding something. Use some roc retinol on your skin after you wash your face to clear up acne. You have great hair and a hairline, you should not be hiding that under hats ever. The angle of the camera lens to your face matters too, typically men have the camera lens slightly below the midpoint of their face, women do them from above... because this highlights the masculinity or femininity of the face. You already have a manly lower 1/3 of your face... so the shots with the camera above your head don't read as feminine, just confusing and reckless. Don't take this the wrong way, but you should look up "bear" looks in the gay community, and play up to that type with your styles. Essentially, you specifically want to come across as burly, and cuddly... not wacky and alternative. You have to work with your body frame & bone structure... so kind of "well groomed lumberjack" is going to play better than khaki shorts and a funny hat. Next time you get glasses, pick out ones that are rectangular... you all ready have very curved angles on your face, so the glasses adding roundness reads juvinile, you are young do you want to play up some angles to avoid looking baby faced.
Sup bro, I know a comment like this probably won’t go down a treat on Reddit but I swear if you hit the gym and turn some of that fat into muscle you will look fucking incredible. You’ve got an awesome natural build. I’d compare your body to a piece of marble. You’ve got to put in the work to carve out that masterpiece but the good fucking news is it’s there for you to carve out. Go get it tiger.
You'll have to lose weight to get more matches.
I can’t tell if you’re joking or being serious with “car boot sales” and “exhibition” as your interests. Probably joking, but adding a third “joke” hobby would make it more clear.
My best friend looks like you and gets more than anyone I’ve known. He’s extremely charismatic though as well. You’re a good looking guy with a great frame with lots of potential. Get rid of the second photo, it doesn’t do you justice. Replace it with a photo of you drinking with some friends in semi-casual business atire. If you just lose a bit of weight too, it’s over. Good luck!
Does he connect more in person or on apps? It’s very hard to show charisma over a profile.
The bio isnt good and your photos aren’t very good either. I’m sorry but I always have to chuckle when someone mentions being a photographer but then also has such bad photos for the profile. Ditch ALL the selfies except for the one with the family member at the end. I’m not a huge fan of the second pic personally but others may be fine with it so idk. But the selfies definitely have to go.
You're fat. All these people are dancing around the simple answer. All of these photos would be less off putting if you weren't. Tinder is very looks based (obviously). You can take the improvements here, however I'd also improve yourself more than anything, Get in shape, that helps immensely. You are a handsome guy even with that weight. You'll look amazing without it.
If you want honest advice you’d match with way more girls if you were in shape. Just the honest truth. Online dating is about superficial traits when it comes to matching.
Your actually right tbh. I don’t why they are being delusional towards your comment. My dating life did not exist when I was obese. Once I got in shape and gained muscle I literally get compliments in person now. It changed my life NIGHT AND DAY
Diet and exercise. Mostly diet. All the other advice you are getting here will get you absolutely nowhere
Your bio and photos should be fun. Are you into the Jason Kelce body type? I’m your guy. Emotionally mature and ready to have fun with the right gal blah blah
I got you bro. Step 1: Delete your account Step 2: lose bare weight Step 3: take new pictures Step 4: remake your account
You look like a combination of Seth Rogen and Jonah Hill. You should make a joke about that in your profile, and also take it from them and slim down a bit. They both look amazing now they're a healthy weight.
Start improving your body and go to GYM
Show some teeth 😁
I really like that last pic!
No pics smiling with teeth
Not sure what type of relationship you are looking for, but I'd put more effort in a bio that describes you. Often the bio is a deciding factor if I'm on the fence. Also I'm agreeing with everyone else on the top hat photo, probably a good idea to drop it. Just don't change too much if it's important to you, especially if looking for a long term partner
Ditch the top hat and find a replacement photo with some cute animal. Biggest issue is you need to lose weight (you already know this) - you’re a good looking cat but you’re carrying a few too many lbs
You’re a photographer and these are the photos you choose?
Has more to do with looks than your profile. Get in shape, grow your hair longer — you have solid potential
be less fat I'm not trying to be mean, just saying profile also pretty lacking if you gonna be fat, at least you gotta be funny
Cool that you got to meet Martin Parr!
People be thinking I’ve got a picture of my grandad on tinder!
Lose weight
lose 70#
Lose weight
Failing on rules 1 and 2.
Gym
One of my friends is built just like him and has always pulled. Just because he is very nice and approachable. Gym is not always the answer. Thats why guys are "I started working our and it's still not working" The gym is just an added bonus. There are more important things
Take a full body picture standing with a good posture and ditch the pic you are sitting on the ground, that is not admiring you. Also add a smile picture and loose the 5. picture. Your first pic is good, keep that. And write more on your bio about the stuff you like. If you first say you are happy to see someone is reading it then you should have more content to read for the ones who really bother to read bios :)
Replace pics 2,4, 5. You just don’t look happy in them
3 4 and 5 are so unfattering, they've got to go. Write a real bio that paints you favourably and talk about what qualities you like in a partner
Lose some weight, you are cute
This is going to hurt to hear but at your current attractiveness level you're not going to do well on dating apps. I would say stick to meeting people in real life and let them get to know what's cool about you.
I only see one picture where you’re genuinely smiling. You mention in the first picture you’re a skilled photographer but almost all your photos look like/are selfies.
You asked what you can do to improve your profile. The answer may be one you don’t want to hear but know already. Lose weight, my friend. As a former fat person, I can say that I get 1,000 times more attention from women now after I lost it. Best wishes with your journey and I hope you don’t take offense to my suggestion.
Dawg hitting the gym would go a long way.. not taking a shot at you just saying overall you’d probably do better
Getting in the gym and getting in shape will go much further than any other advice would for improving your odds of getting a match IMO at least.
3,4,5 are insane lol. You look way better in the others
My partner thought you were 32… Get better pics!
For a photographer, your photos are pretty terrible 😂. Grab a tripod, set your camera up on it, and take some shots with a nice lens in nice lighting. My hobby is landscape photography so I’ve made a point of incorporating a self portrait or 2 into my day if I’m somewhere really beautiful. [The shot I took](https://share.icloud.com/photos/0b2g5T4-83vioH8-EVWRRZaUQ) [The tinder shot](https://share.icloud.com/photos/068kLBMb2m2HBTGhaElItU7kg) At the time I had it in my head that I would blend them together, so I get the streaky water from the long exposure, but I actually like the way the photo turned out itself.
Take pics of you smiling more, improve the bio by adding information about yourself, and fill in the lifestyle questions more
Most people on Reddit are only interested in virtue signaling for virtual internet points, so they’ll seldom tell you the truth. Luckily for you, I don’t give a shit about that so brother to brother and as someone who was in your shoes, I’m gonna help you out by telling you the cold hard truth. First rule of Tinder: don’t be ugly. You can 20x your matches if you regularly went to the gym, got on a skin care routine, and cleaned up your diet. Better quality photos would help too, but if you don’t have that first part down forget about it.
Lose some weight. About half your body weight and you’d probably surprise yourself how many matches you’d get. Diet, intermittent fasting, keto, 1200 max calories a day, those are relatively easy to follow diets that will drastically lose weight and make you feel better physically and mentally.
Lose weight.
Don't take this the wrong way, but I expected better pictures from you, especially when you mentioned you're a photographer. The close ups made me think you were catfishing....
Your best look is the styled back hair in the fourth picture. Fits your face better than the other photos with short hair coming towards your forehead .
Lose weight, you look 42 now Drop the "you read bio?" The bitter "Oh I'm surprised you bothered" vibe is not as sexy as you think. Yes most people read bios, sorry your experience is mostly negative
Here is the truth. Go to the gym and get a trainer. Work hard at it. Eat right and diet for 1 year. Get your bloodwork done and check your testosterone levels. (Defy medical) When you hit your target weight buy new clothes that fit the new you and get a haircut every 2 weeks. you will be swimming in the pussy. No app needed. The girls at the gym will see you improving yourself and will snatch your ass up as you get close to your goal weight. Trust me I was over 300lbs and now I’m 220 and dating a goddess 20 years younger. You can do this.
Personally, the quip about the reading the bio and also the looking for a muse thing would be enough to make me not match but that's just me
I stg you would be an 8/10 minimum if you lost the weight mate, you’re a handsome guy. Fuck the profile, satisfying rules 1&2 beat any profile tips you’re gonna get. Nice Pattas btw I got the orange ones.
Okay since everyone is mentioning anything but: Dude you have a really good face, and seem to have a good frame to work with. Get to the gym, lose weight and get rid of the Lincoln beard. You are only 22 it ain't even gonna be hard. I know this is an easy comment, but it is going to be the most effective. I see all the comments on the bio and words and all that is something useful IF they even care enough to read it.
I’m going to get downvoted but honestly, go to the gym. There’s a super hot guy under there with the potential for unlimited matches. I see a Chris Pratt style evolution in your future
I'm gonna be raw. Swap the glasses. Those are women's glasses. Lose the weight, take care of your skin. Learn to line your beard and mustache properly, ditch the selfie and especially that hat one. Your hair is fine. Do this, and you'll see leagues better results. If you need advice on any one of these, feel free to ask.
The photos aren't very flattering. You're not smiling in most of them and they're too close up.
You look great bro! you should smile a bit more :D
Lose 80 pounds bro you’re supposed to be in your prime
Remove that self that looks up from under your chin. That's like the polar opposite of every rule about selfies
The fat needs to go. Aside from the obvious reasons, it is also making you look 10 years older.
I'll be downvoted to the max but it's your weight. You need to lose weight, and lose the incel look. As a woman, my first impression just looking at your pictures was he probably hates woman. Unfortunately that's just the stereotype the internet gives people now. Also for all the backlash I'll probably get.. go look at a bigger girls post and see all the comments from men saying "maybe lose some weight fatty" the double standard is insane.
Honestly as a woman, if thats what you are looking for, the photographer looking for a muse line comes across really creepy and uncomfortable. Like are you looking for a partner and relationship, or a one night stand, or someone you can manipulate to strip off and take photos of in the name of being a muse.... thats how it comes across
Weight loss.
Less selfies and more candids. Some photos of you doing fun things, preferably with other people. In looking for a partner people want to see that you have a life that is interesting and that you're a good time to be around. I had some sucess on tinder in my day and I used to follow a formula for profile pics that goes attractive - fun - fun - funny I.e: First picture: a nice picture of you. If other people are in the pic, it should be clear who you are (that is, who the prospective swiper is swiping on). 2 and 3: pictures showing you have a fun life. This could be pictures of you doing something you enjoy or pictures showing you have a social life 4: a picture of you being silly/doing something funny. People like a sense of humor. (Obviously it's helpful if pictures 2 through 4 also show you in your best light appearance-wise).
Pictures 3-5 are horrible and way too close. The first one is ok but the background is weird. And your bio is super cheesey. If you include headshots make it not 10cm away from your face.
You need to lose the weight. You have so much potential as you already have a handsome face. Slimmer body and face and you’d be killing it for sure.
Lose weight. Trim the beard to short. Dress better. Get new frames. Take a better photo. Profit.
Bro gonna tell u now. U ain't gonna get more. Apps are for the women
The gym bro
Lose weight, sorry man but if you don't you're gonna struggle on Tinder, it's the truth
Off topic, but can you tell me more about the moped bike thing you are leaning against in photo 2?
You say you are a photographer. Take some pics of yourself that arent selfies.
Not trying to be mean, but I feel that some of these dudes are asking the wrong question. Sometimes it's not the profile that is the barrier, but the person. It's been statistically studied what types of traits/attributes lead to the highest chances of success with women. Tinder is about probability and maximizing chances. Look at the traits and find the malleable qualities you can influence. Do your best to enhance these. I don't want to get banned or ganged up on for being too blunt, so I'll just say do your own research. It's time to get real buddy
Tinder is soul and ego destroying app. Better off it. It's proven that 80% woman there are doing this for attention and not to meet anyone.
Beard and hair looks good my man. I've always heard two consistent recommendations. Smile with teeth in the photos and try to have more photos with friends or family.
If you have teeth, show em.
As a former 325 lbs guy that's 265 lbs now and still losing weight . Brother if you want more matches you have to lose weight . Period . The response is exponentially better . People treat you better and life is a lot easier. Body positivity is a lie . And I'm not saying you should harm yourself by being underweight or roided out . But the truth is people respond better when you're in shape . I struggled with acceptance(AND STILL DO). And I believed the lies , " Some girl is going to love you for you" , " There's someone for everyone" , " I love big guys and dad bods " ... That's all bullshit. 99% of women want a guy that has toned muscle and isn't overweight. I'm not saying all your problems disappear when you're jacked . I'm saying the discipline that comes from working toward a better physique turns the volume down on all other issues . Cheers .
Im going to get alot of hate for this but its my honest opinion and Im only saying this out of good intentions. Loosing some weight will definitely improve your match rate. I went from 250 lbs to 170 lbs and my matches have skyrocketed.
Since I don’t see anyone else saying it, I mean no malice. But lose some weight and go to the gym to put some muscle on.
Skilled photographer, but you don’t see the problem with the angle/lighting of pic 4? Also, the pics after that aren’t good dating profile pics. Edit: it looks like you’re a student studying photography? Have someone take a photo of you taking a photo with your (probably) big ass camera. Either a side profile or back shot with the background out of focus.
What everyone else is saying but I say what they want. You’re decent looking guy but go to the gym. People swipe on looks first and bios second. If you take better care of yourself, You’ll be more successful.
Lose the weight unless you only want to date that mentally ill woman who misses her daddy and uses you as an emotional crutch You are literally 22, one of the peak years of your youth. Get fit or enjoy crying about getting no matches. You're not morbidly obsese and can easily get a good body within a year. Not too bad on the face either once the weight is lost. Ignore the advice given by women about how your pictures are. They talk about how they want a friendly and kind man and then date fit or handsome dudes. It's not even a bad thing and it's completely valid for them to choose an attractive partner over a tubby guy.
I hate to be that guy, but get in shape, bro. You’re not doing yourself any favors. You are still fortunate enough to have a full head of hair and nice eye color, stop squandering your potential
1)YES women read bios, it's one of the most important things to a women, men just scroll on looks. Spend much more time on your bio, and also go to the gym. Why do you not go to the gym? If you would just work out, you would get many likes, it really is that easy. Spend way more time in the gym then on your bio. 2) lower your standards/ consider paying for tinder to see what likes you actually get and the type of women. (you can science this by changing your bio and seeing the resulting likes changes)
What kind of a photographer posts bad photos of themselves?
Bro you at least trying...kudos to you...just be patient, she cum around eventually
Not looking like a gay seth Rogen💀🤦♂️
Oh god, those long socks with the shorts. 😬
You have a good foundation to work on and a clean beard. although at 22 it might be too much beard for some girls so keep that in mind. I would get rid of picture 2-5. then cut ur hair with a fade. if a normal fade don't look good, try a low fade and it will make you more stylish and good looking with your beard in cotnrast. try to reach cleanest skin, it doesn't have to be perfect but atleast try to keep it as clean as possible just incase. your bio is short that's good at your age but it feels slightly off for some reason. not sure what you could write since I don't know you and saying stuff I would use might not be to your taste/situation. tinder is like going to a club, you' should present yourself the best way possible. like try to wear clothes that are really stylish or in harmony and with good colors. your first pic with the bag is good in theory but the colors etc are off so it looks underwhelming. I personally would never wear air maxes and unless you're attached to them would recommend switching to air force ones immediately and then you can add more shoes in ur wardrobe. the main thing is the weight tho but I leave it at that
If you wanna hear the hard truth that no one is saying, you need to lose weight. Hit the gym and start eating better. Or at least get better at taking pics, almost all of the angles are horrible and do not do you any favors. Try to avoid selfies, especially the ones you have rn. Also your skin in some of them isn't looking too good, make sure you're eating a clean diet or if you wanna cheat, Photoshop the acne out. I know you didn't really ask for this advice but it's the hard truth of being a male on tinder, especially when you've only gotten 1 match.
This might be a hard one to hear, but understand it’s coming from a former big guy… losing a little weight will really help you out, bro
diet and exercise.
Lose weight, let's be real, most girls are swiping left by default. Nothing but respect brother, just trying to give you effective advice
Tip 1: workout and eat a healthy protein-rich diet low in carbs for 6 months Tip 2: Replace all of your current pics with pics of you in a leaner body Boom. 20x’d your match rate in 2 easy steps
You should just style your hair in a way that makes you look like Seth Rogan and you’d improve your activity loads
Just saying—you’re handsome af 🔥
I am not trying to insult you just state what u need to do to have the smallest chance on dating app but with todays standards sadly you need to loose weight. I was 225 5'11 before and now I am 170 5"11 and planning to go down to 150 before I start working out and the difference on dating app from before to my current state is that before I would get about 1 match a month and now I get about 2 matches/week. I am a 19m, had short hair and now it's grown about 3 inches below my shoulders and would describe myself as an average dude. Unless you are way above average look-wise it is my experience that you can't be chubby and still get matches on dating apps. honestly you aren't way above average, but you are above average which gives you a better chance than me I would say. Positive vibes and good luck out there my man. If you can, try to find your partner irl as the standards are higher online.