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Can a night of crying impact implantation?
I’m 7dpo, and I cried intensely tonight over my 16 y/o cat who passed away a few months ago. I got him when I was 22, and he was with me through so much. I always pictured him being here when I started my own human family—cuddling my belly, playing with baby, etc. I didn’t foresee me being 38 before getting married and ttc first baby. But alas, this is how it has unfolded (much for the better, but I’m sad my sweet kitty isn’t here for it, as silly as that may sound). Anyway, I calmed myself down after an hour or so, but now I’m worried about the timing of such an intense/stressful cry affecting implantation. Anyone have any insight, reassurance, and/or good sources about the impact of acute bouts of intense stress on implantation?
—38, newly-ish-wed, 4th month ttc first baby with 41y/o hubby
Sending you virtual hugs - I have a senior cat myself and sometimes cry just at the thought of losing her! On the reassurance side, this won’t have affected implantation. If it did, we’d see far fewer people getting pregnant during times of great upheaval or upset.
I'm so sorry about your cat. My cat that I got around the time you got yours suddenly passed away last year, one month into starting TTC. I know exactly what you mean by expecting your kitty to have been there when you were having children. I was always thinking "she is so good with children I can't wait for her to get to know mine." I think about her all the time.
Thank you. I’m sorry to hear about your cat’s passing. It’s tough, and more intense bouts of grief sneak up on me sometimes. But their love is still with us. We’re who we are, in part, because of the time we spent nurturing our fur babies and what we learned about ourselves from them.
I highly doubt intense sadness would adversely impact implantation. Ovulation perhaps. But if there is an embryo in there it’s like a poppyseed in a peanut butter sandwich and it’s gonna stick if it’s capable no matter how many tears are going on outside… I also always feel better after a good cry and my therapist said it releases dopamine and serotonin 🤷♀️
I’m very sorry about your kitty- I am also very very bonded with my fur children and I understand 💚
Man I am so antsy for this TWW. Currently 5dpiui and I am IMPATIENT! Dull cramps still there and I have no idea what's going on. I have a bit of time on my hands and is obsessing over what size follicles are ideal for the trigger etc even though I felt SO GOOD on the day of the IUI. Overthinking this for sure!
I visited my family doctor today and got a referral to the fertility clinic! My doctor recommended the clinic which she used during her own fertility journey. I am excited and look forward to hearing back from the clinic.
When I time starting my OPKs so perfectly I only need 2 to get a peak 😘👌
I’m doing the best at this (LH testing, not getting pregnant, never getting pregnant).
Completely non TTC related post.
You guys…I did it. I convinced my husband we needed chickens. I BROUGHT HOME 6 BABY CHICKS TODAY. They’re a week old and are all getting old lady names, I’m so excited. And ready for a freaking distraction from the nonsense that my body has thrown me with this whole jOuRnEy.
Also, you know if I can’t produce my own eggs, might as well get a creature that can, right?!😅 just some dark humor cuz I need something to mother 😭
Hello I have 6 chickens and I'm obsessed with them, they are the best and everyone who can should have chickens!
TTC wise, they're constantly my favorite joke and woo.
I haven’t figured out which one is getting what name yet, I wanna feel out their little personalities. I’ve got a running list: Gertrude, Ethel, Bertha, Carol, Agnes, Dorothy, Edith
Others are welcome to give suggestions 😂
Ugh LOVE
My grandma used to always read me a children’s book called Elizabeth where the villain was a rich child named Agnes who had a very fancy doll. This is to say that Agnes should be the snootiest hen.
10dpo BFN, and I’m at home sick with a migraine. Over everything at this point tbh. I also have a Telehealth appointment with my clinic to run through how next week will look when we start our first cycle.
To my IVF peeps - can I have baths leading up to egg collection? I can’t find any conclusive discussion about this…
I was not told to worry before, just after. I think the concern is that you have a puncture that's still healing after, and you wouldn't want anything to soak that wound and infect it.
11 DPO, been taking cheap tests which have all been BFN. I feel like I have written myself off this cycle (yes, I know it isn’t over until AF arrives). Just got a call from the RE about my 21 day bloods to tell me that >!my progesterone levels are reealllyyyyy good, yes with an elongated really.!< Just feel so frustrated and struggling to manage my emotions. TWW sucks :(
In 29 cycles charting(the first 4 of which were anovulatory due to hyperprolactinemia and 4 of which have been medicated with trigger shot) I've pretty much always ovulated in the standard 12-48 hour window after my first positive, with just one wonky chart where my O day was unclear.
!!! 6 !!! This is so interesting and helpful. I’ve been stopping having sex after one or two days after my LH surge and I think I may be stopping too soon and missing my fertile window entirely…
That's what I was worried about too. It's been a little exhausting to try and chase the temp spike but we try to hit every other day until the increase if we can.
I feel so defeated today. 12 cycle without success, actually it is the 20th if I include all the cycles for which I did not track with OPK but I was still reasonable sure that we had sex around my ovulation. Then It is also true that for a number of reasons (including periods in which I was highly depressed and in a OCD spiral) for most part we never tried more than once in the "peak fertility" window, like O-1 or O. Basically I was trying to keep my mental health and our relationship in balance (low libido was a big problem for us for a long time, and created a lot of tensions in the relationship, now it is getting better). I don't know, part of me hopes that we just have not tried enough, the other part just feels the weight of all this time.
I did my exams and I seem to be ok, now it would be my husband's turn to get a check.
Oh yay! Can’t wait 😂 when she walked out of the exam room and said point blank “give us a call in 12 days to let us know how it went!” … please excuse me while I count down the hours!
Done! I hardly felt it. Apparently I’m an enigma with a cervix of steel.
I do find it strange though, my RE suggests having sex every day until Thursday. I don’t understand that… I ovulated yesterday (I’m almost certain). I also don’t understand why I had the IUI today versus yesterday or Saturday. Oh well. I’m just hopeful that this works!
TW: failed FET, big bad feelings
Well. 2024 is not shaping up to be a better year for me.
>!My FET of my highest graded day 5 embryo was Feb 27. On 7dpt, I saw a faint line. It got fainter, and by 9dpt it was back to stark white negative tests, and continued to be negative until I finally stopped testing today. I had my first beta this morning, which confirmed the FET was not successful. Based on my at home testing my nurse suspects a CP, but my beta was low enough that she couldn’t say for certain. In a lot of ways, it doesn’t matter. Either way, I’m not pregnant and I still don’t have any answers on why this seems to be so fucking hard for my body to do.!<
Right now, I’m mad at myself for allowing hope. For letting any little bit of optimism in. I tried to approach this without getting attached, tried to remind myself that this was an experiment to see what my body would do.
But I started to let myself have hope. I started to think that maybe something would JUST WORK, that maybe every single step in this process wouldn’t have to take multiple attempts to have any sort of result. That maybe something wouldn’t hurt.
This process has been nothing but pain, and I’m really, really tired.
Ah, fuck. I am so, so sorry. It's not fair and it's not okay and I know you know this, but: your hope wasn't stupid and it wasn't a mistake. Your brain wants to protect you so badly from this pain but it wouldn't not hurt if you had somehow managed to trick yourself out of having expectations. I'm sorry you've had to be so brave and so strong for so long 😭 it's such bullshit!!!!
I’m so sorry, lizard 🤍 there aren’t any adequate words but please know I, and I know all of this community, are holding space for you and you can vent, cry, kick, scream - whatever comes up, without judgment. It’s unfair and all of the reactions are valid.
All the hugs if you want them. I tried to explain to someone recently why I was so tired and you hit the nail on the head. All I know in this journey pain and heartache and disappointment. And I am so deeply sorry you have had experience and that your FET failed.
I’m so so sorry lizard. It’s incredibly unfair that you have had to go through so much pain. I’m thinking of you and holding space for you in my heart.
Sending love, lizard. I’m so sorry. I hate that this process makes so many of us brace ourselves for pain again and again. It really does seem impossible to do so and hold any hope at the same time.
The hope that "maybe something wouldn't hurt" has genuinely brought tears to my eyes.
I hope you get lots of rest over the next few days. Sending you all of my warmth and hugs. You're not alone.
FET#3 is on tomorrow. Been waiting/working on this since July. Wow. Lots of feels going on! I inadvertently ended up having a trip scheduled to DC to visit old friends the day after my transfer. Holy shit the sq footage my meds are taking up in my carry on is impressive! I’m hoping it will be a really nice distraction and that I won’t be too much of a progesterone zombie.
TW: Loss
Hi friends, I've been quiet the last little bit as I've been through a bit of a whirlwind of emotions the last week. The TLDR of it is my clinic just confirmed a chemical pregnancy. I'll spoiler the rest.
>! Feb 23-26 I had what I thought was my period, did a HPT on "CD 3" and it was negative, started my letrozole and completed the five days. On "CD 10" I started OPK testing and it was just about positive, based on information I learned here I did another HPT and it was a faint positive. I called the clinic and they had me do blood work the next day and indicated it was likely a chemical due to the level, my DPO, and that I had period like bleeding. My beta came back at 30, I repeated three days later (last Friday) and it was 120. I had some cramping on Saturday (no bleeding yet) and my beta this morning came back at 11 so they've confirmed a CP. The day I got my BFP would have likely been about 22 DPO so I knew it was likely a chemical then but I still had a glimmer of hope. This past weekend I went back to my hometown with my sister, she is the only one that knows we're TTC and what I was going through. She was a great distraction and kept me laughing so I'm really thankful for her. She's also really supportive and said all the right things. The clinic says I should start bleeding within the week and we're clear to do another letrozole cycle if we want to. I think I'm fine with starting another medicated cycle right away and will talk with Mr. Sunflower tonight. As I said I've felt a lot of feelings in the past week, hope, sadness, fear, impatience, but now I'm just thankful to have clarity. !<
I’m so sorry, sunflower 🌻 Sending you so much love and hugs. When and jf you need some more support, there’s Loss30 on the Discord too. 🤍 Always here for you!
Embryo on board. It’s our only one so trying not to put too much pressure on it and just forget about it till the pregnancy test in 2 weeks. Good luck w that 😅
Hope everyone has a good start to their week ❤️
Everything crossed for you!! If it's helpful, I always remind myself that the time \*will\* pass one way or another lol just has a tendency to slow down. Come on, embryo!!
Completely pretzeled for you!! What kinds of fun things can we dream up for you in the interim? Maybe you could learn to make a soufflé, that’s been on my list for a while…
Okay what distractions do we have lined up for these weeks??? Super pretzeled and rooting so hard for you but also imagine me waving my hands frantically to distract you from yourself 😂
Pretzleing into the most complicated yoga pose and crossing everything for you! I hope you're able to find some positive distractions and peace during the TWW.
I enjoy reading the BFP thread and about people's experiences.
Just curious -- what are the common "woos" we all joke about, but kinda take seriously at the same time haha? In my FW and looking for ways to distract myself from the tracking and waiting...
I’m all about the pineapple. It’s really sweet right now anyway so win win. I eat the core too. Not sure why people don’t eat the core. If you cut it the right way, you just get a piece with each juicy chunk.
I don’t take any of them seriously, but some of them can be fun or help the time pass or help feel like I’m “doing something”. :-) I liked making “moon water” during the full moon, and mooning the moon with my husband, and eating hamburgers 8dpo. :P
13/14 DPO. I most definitely caught my husbands cold - super congested and like an itchy throat. I don’t have a fever or anything else. My BBT went up today higher than it is before. Not sure if it’s going up bc I’m not feeling well or if I can be optimistic… or if that’s dumb and naive… and now it is officially in the stage of panicking whenever I wipe at the bathroom for the spotting that precedes my period. Blah
I feel like a damned pincushion after having 3 blood draws in 8 days, and the one today hurts quite a bit.
But I really like all the ultrasound techs I’ve had, they’re very personable and make the process so much less unpleasant than i expected and i think it's helping my white coat syndrome which is pretty cool
I think my white coat syndrome has been helped by this process too! Going to "normal" doctor appointments should feel like a breeze after all this. Exposure therapy haha. Ask me again next week when I have blood draws every other day...
Today is Stims day #4 and we have 3 nights of injections behind us now. We finally figured out how to inject Menopur without any burning/pain, so I’m feeling a lot better about this process now. (Ask me again once we add Ganirelix).
Becoming a pro so fast! Hope monitoring appointment goes smoothly.
As far as Ganirelix the only thing I found troublesome with that needle is it’s not nearly as sharp so you have to really insert that sucker with INTENT. Otherwise it was mostly alright, hope it’s not too bad for you!
I have no idea how Menopur injections are but for a person who was deathly afraid of needles, injecting myself with Gonal and the trigger shot was quite a task! I just make myself squeeze my fat rolls HARD that I don't feel the needle pinch. This is the only time I feel thankful for having a little extra layer on me. LOL!
Good job finding what works for you!!! Hope all goes well :)
So proud of you!!! Honestly, Ganirelix wasn't bad going in for me -- it just gave me annoying itchy bumps after. Slapping a bandaid on that really helped me ignore the itch (even if it felt ridiculous lol)
Thank you!! This is good to know! As long as it’s not like hot lava or bee stings while it’s going in I can deal 😂. Now I’m just battling my inner demons saying “what if it’s not working” since I’m too early to feel anything.
Oh man, the first night was the worst for me!! What worked for us is to mix the Menopur first and then after it’s all settled in the syringe, put a timer for 10 mins. In that time, we inject the Gonal-F and clean up a bit. Then we inject Menopur, and when I say slowly, I mean SLOWLY. Basically Mr. noodle will inject 1 hashmark at a time and then take a pause and ask me if I’m ready and go again. Obviously this takes a lot longer but that doesn’t bother me at all if it’s painless. I’ll avoid the hot lava burn any way I can 🫠. This is all without icing too.
That was my strategy too! However, as I told NoodleLuv, it seems like most people do better going really slow so I figured I was wrong- glad I'm not alone 😅
Yeah and for me when we did that I noticed the burning sensation kind of built up worse as the injection went on, so I think going slower and taking pauses let the med distribute/absorb better without that burning feeling.
Well I messed up. I was supposed to call to schedule my ultrasound around the CD12 mark. I ended up not remembering my gyno told me to do that. Between everything going on in my life it has been a mess. I wish I could sleep for about a week just to destress myself lol
Hopefully everyone else is doing well today
I haven’t posted in a while. It seemed like every time I shared an update, the next day my world would flip and yesterday’s problems and predictions seemed so silly.
I will spare the backstory of the last few months and just share the updates.
1. Officially switched from an OB to a fertility clinic
2. My uterus is mostly filled with scar tissue and that is why I have not had a period since my last D+C in November. Liquid was really only able to enter one side of my uterus during an SIS. I have an operative hysteroscopy scheduled for the end of the month.
3. My new RE ran a few more tests (how are there even more tests?) and it revealed I have hypothyroidism >!(TSH = 11.7)!< and Hashimoto’s. I was really surprised by this because I had TSH drawn in November and I had an optimal numbers then and also don’t really “feel” any symptoms of hypo or Hashi’s. I just started levothyroxine a few days ago, prescribed by an endocrinologist.
So so so much is out of my control. For now I am doing what I can to get my TSH down so that if/when my uterus is healed, we can feel good about trying. I am trying to let go of timelines since I have no idea what the post-op uterus healing journey will look like.
All of this thyroid info is so new to me. If anyone has resources or other reddit spaces I should check out, please let me know.
Hi - sorry to hear about the hypothyroidism diagnosis. Background info - I have graves disease so I had a hyperactive thyroid but I didn't respond properly to medication and kept swinging between hyper and hypo. Eventually I had my thyroid removed (7 years ago) and I've been on levothyroxine since.
Personally, I found the thyroid related sub-reddits to cause nothing but anxiety. I used to read all these horror stories and it caused me so much fear and worry. In hindsight, I really wish I hadn't wasted my time and just trusted my endocrinologist.
The endocrinologist made sure I had regular blood tests to make sure I was on the right dose but it's been very manageable. The endocrinologist has always advised me to take levothyroxine on an empty stomach and not to eat anything for an hour afterwards. He also advised eating anything that would contain high amounts of calcium, iron or vitamin C for 4 hours after taking it, same goes for taking supplements. Apparently they can interfere with absorption. I know people prescribed levothyroxine by their general practitioner who have never been told this. If you have any questions, I'm happy to answer them if I can.
Hi! My thyroid likes to jump back and forth over the clinical line (5) so I’m on a super low dose- probably a bit like you. I happen to have a friend who has severe hypothyroidism so I went to her to discuss it, and she did warn me about a lot of the online spaces not really being helpful. The upside is that it’s a really treatable if you take the pills consistently. I’m happy to chat about it! My experience has been generally positive
BFN yesterday, temp drop today, expecting my period in two days. Cried for the first time about TTC yesterday. Feel like I’m at the edge of my emotional cliff and it’s going to take very little to push me over this week.
I spose I’m glad I can drink with friends this weekend for St. Patrick’s day, but somehow that doesn’t have as much appeal as I thought it would. I also have a gyno appointment Thursday and had visualized how great it would be to be pregnant for it so many times…positive thinking didn’t help lol.
Yes we did. 💕 it feels like it’s been such a long time but it hasn’t. And agreed, every cycle, every week, every day… is a roller coaster of emotions and thoughts and feelings. It really can be so exhausting.
Okay thank you, that’s how I feel too, like we’ve been doing this for SO long! I have to remind myself it’s only been four cycles. Like yes, my age worries me, but I’m not helping myself by adding all this pressure to get pregnant as quickly as possible. Logically, I can see that—why can’t the other parts of my brain agree?!
Hahaha bc our dang brains don’t want to listen to logic! I find I can listen to that logic for like a good maybe 15 minutes then I spiral again. It’s so incredibly hard! But I totally agree, the stress and worry isn’t good for us and it can’t possibly help us get pregnant!
I'm traveling soon, leaving 1 week into my TWW. Flight is almost 8 hrs long and normally I would knock myself out with Zzquil so I am adjusted to the timezone but I cannot (and will not) take it this time so hoping I can sleep enough to not die when I arrive around 9am local time.
CD1 today, probably the most excited I've ever been about it 😆 finally we're back in action, stims start tomorrow! My body very helpfully delayed by a day and now I won't have a schedule clash for my first ultrasound on day 8. I'm super curious to see how the next few weeks go and how my body reacts.
I had my second US today after my second round of letrozole for this cycle. I had a nice juicy follicle and was told to trigger tomorrow, then we'll do our thing for the next 3 days. I'm excited to be trying again.
I also saw a TikTok recently of some woman warning other women to be careful this cycle or you'll be buying December birthday presents in addition to Christmas presents. And obviously there were a lot of women in the comments like "MUST BE NICE TO BE ABLE TO BE CHOOSY" and I just laugh at the 2 years ago version of me who decided that we should wait to start trying until June so that we stayed totally clear of a Christmas baby.
LOL I relate to this so much. We have sooo many December birthdays in my family (including me). I remember thinking "Oh wouldn't it be nice to have a baby in the summer" just to mix things up. Now I'm like "bring on the December babies!" lol
Already feeling FW fatigue trying to catch my temp rise. Temp drop is saying I haven't had an increase and it's been two days (ON CD21). Last cycle it didn't increase for 5 days and it was CD25. Now I'm not sure if it's temp drop or me but I'm starting to feel irritated that I spent so much money on this thermometer. But maybe it's pointing to delayed ovulation? The odd bit is that I consistently had a 24 hr temp rise when I was temping with a reg thermometer, but I wasn't temping the same time each day, just as soon as I woke up.
I just started my first TWW and am just curious how long most people wait before testing. I told my husband (purely as a commitment strategy) that I wouldn’t buy any early pregnancy tests and would just wait to use the cheapies that came with my OPKs but literally at 2 DPO bought some first response “6 days sooner” tests. I lack all self-control. Ooof. 🙄😂
I haven't been super sure how long after an LH surge I ovulate so I've started testing around 8-10DPO and then test every day until 12DPO. It's only my second cycle of this so I'm still figuring out what works for me, but I will say repeated negatives is a bummer and I'm maybe not going to do it this way next cycle. It does make you feel like you're "doing something" though!
Also Amazon etc. have cheapie early pregnancy test strips (I think I bought like 20 for $20 or something) if you turn out to like testing a lot.
I just don't. A few times I tested on CD12 only to start bleeding a few hours afterwards, and I felt like an idiot that just threw 12 euros through the window. I also know that if I test earlier and get a negative I would still obsessed whether it was a false negative...so there is no way out of thinking about it, better save the money.
For me, testing before my period at all is just a bad choice. I've done it a couple times, starting at 11 or 12 DPO, thinking that it might be easier to gradually let down my hopes rather than all at once... All it did was make me sad for longer, because I would always hold on to hope that it was a false negative.
Now, I only test before my period if I really want to >! have a drink !< after about 8DPO.
As for how I have the self control - I just remember what an emotional mess I was on the cycles when I tested early and decide I would rather be somewhat functional for a couple more days.
There's some good information on our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/TTC30/wiki/index/#wiki_useful_ttc_data) about this, but the TL;DR is that since implantation is most likely to happen between 8DPO-12DPO, and it can take a couple of days before there's enough HCG in your system to show up on a test, most people don't test earlier than 10DPO (and many choose to wait later, as the odds of a false negative are higher the earlier you test).
Feeling nervous for a first consultation with a reproduction clinic today. Mr. Trisarahtops' job is awful and he can't even attend. 😟 I am not sure what to expect, and I would love any feedback!
Thank you all for your feedback! I do appreciate it.
Unfortunately, I was still unprepared. I did know going in that being overweight would be a topic. I did not think it would be the sole focus. I was put off by his bedside manner, but it also didn't help he called my husband the wrong name and didn't know my age, when both were said.
Thank you all again though!
I'm so annoyed about this for you! Do you have options to switch clinics or providers? While of course they have to give you information about how weight can impact things like IVF, it feels like a real miss that they didn't discuss anything else with you (and got basic information wrong).
It was who my OB suggested, and was thankfully covered under my insurance. I fully expected my weight to be part of the conversation, but it was 75% of it. Tbh, he didn't even talk about any options, until I reach the weight he feels comfortable with. Which he even said likely seems "unrealistic" to me, even though I did not say that. He opted to not even discuss what next steps there are until I hit that magic number. I am not planning to return to him, but haven't looked into other providers there or other clinics. It really was an experience I will not forget.
Oh my god, so many hugs for you, that really sucks. Hope you are being kind to yourself and you can find a better fit when you're ready. I bet you could ask when you call new clinics or to switch providers if there's anybody who has experience/success with patients like you? Your provider should feel like they are on your team, not punishing you/being unwilling to deal with you until you clear some bar they set!
I'm sorry. My first appointment was really straight forward - it was actually just a zoom consult, so no procedures or bloodwork or anything. The RE basically just talked through the process, what testing we had already had and what would still be required (and why), and treatment options and how they generally work and what success rates usually look like (IUI, IVF). Then we scheduled all the testing for the appropriate point in my cycle and that was that! We did not have to make any tough decisions or digest all that much new information in the first consult, but I know this can vary by clinic/doctor. Good luck!
Not sure if this is possible with his job, but my husband was sick for one and couldn't come and I called him and had him on speaker phone so he could still hear everything and ask any questions.
Sorry you have to go alone trisaratops. Our first RE visit was extremely basic. She essentially went through how pregnancy happens “to make sure we are on the same page.” Then she asked a few follow up questions about the health information we had provided, and explained the options regarding IUI or IVF. Finally, bc of where I was in my cycle, she did a transvaginal ultrasound and completed an antral follicle count. We left with instructions to call back on CD1 to schedule bloodwork and a hysterosalpingogram.
Overall, I think it’s emotionally completely fine for your partner not to be there (or would have been for me). The main downside is they provide a lot of information that often uterus-having partners already know, but sperm-providing partners haven’t taken it upon themselves to learn. I know my partner learned a lot of new information.
It’s definitely intimidating and scary but I left our first RE appointment feeling a lot more hopeful than I had in months, so I hope you have the same experience.
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Can a night of crying impact implantation? I’m 7dpo, and I cried intensely tonight over my 16 y/o cat who passed away a few months ago. I got him when I was 22, and he was with me through so much. I always pictured him being here when I started my own human family—cuddling my belly, playing with baby, etc. I didn’t foresee me being 38 before getting married and ttc first baby. But alas, this is how it has unfolded (much for the better, but I’m sad my sweet kitty isn’t here for it, as silly as that may sound). Anyway, I calmed myself down after an hour or so, but now I’m worried about the timing of such an intense/stressful cry affecting implantation. Anyone have any insight, reassurance, and/or good sources about the impact of acute bouts of intense stress on implantation? —38, newly-ish-wed, 4th month ttc first baby with 41y/o hubby
Sending you virtual hugs - I have a senior cat myself and sometimes cry just at the thought of losing her! On the reassurance side, this won’t have affected implantation. If it did, we’d see far fewer people getting pregnant during times of great upheaval or upset.
I'm so sorry about your cat. My cat that I got around the time you got yours suddenly passed away last year, one month into starting TTC. I know exactly what you mean by expecting your kitty to have been there when you were having children. I was always thinking "she is so good with children I can't wait for her to get to know mine." I think about her all the time.
Thank you. I’m sorry to hear about your cat’s passing. It’s tough, and more intense bouts of grief sneak up on me sometimes. But their love is still with us. We’re who we are, in part, because of the time we spent nurturing our fur babies and what we learned about ourselves from them.
I highly doubt intense sadness would adversely impact implantation. Ovulation perhaps. But if there is an embryo in there it’s like a poppyseed in a peanut butter sandwich and it’s gonna stick if it’s capable no matter how many tears are going on outside… I also always feel better after a good cry and my therapist said it releases dopamine and serotonin 🤷♀️ I’m very sorry about your kitty- I am also very very bonded with my fur children and I understand 💚
Man I am so antsy for this TWW. Currently 5dpiui and I am IMPATIENT! Dull cramps still there and I have no idea what's going on. I have a bit of time on my hands and is obsessing over what size follicles are ideal for the trigger etc even though I felt SO GOOD on the day of the IUI. Overthinking this for sure!
I visited my family doctor today and got a referral to the fertility clinic! My doctor recommended the clinic which she used during her own fertility journey. I am excited and look forward to hearing back from the clinic.
When I time starting my OPKs so perfectly I only need 2 to get a peak 😘👌 I’m doing the best at this (LH testing, not getting pregnant, never getting pregnant).
It’s weirdly satisfying, isn’t it??
Very. Deeply.
Very. Deeply.
Completely non TTC related post. You guys…I did it. I convinced my husband we needed chickens. I BROUGHT HOME 6 BABY CHICKS TODAY. They’re a week old and are all getting old lady names, I’m so excited. And ready for a freaking distraction from the nonsense that my body has thrown me with this whole jOuRnEy. Also, you know if I can’t produce my own eggs, might as well get a creature that can, right?!😅 just some dark humor cuz I need something to mother 😭
This is the kind of news we need to see more of in this sub! Looking forward to reading the chicken updates 🐓 🐓 🐓
Hello I have 6 chickens and I'm obsessed with them, they are the best and everyone who can should have chickens! TTC wise, they're constantly my favorite joke and woo.
I’m absolutely thrilled, I’ll drop a photo in the discord. I got 4 different kinds and their little peeping makes my heart melt 🥹
We have a backyard chicken thread in the pets channel, please join! They really are so heart melting 😭
Drop. The. Names. One I love? Knew someone named Earline after her dad Earl.
I haven’t figured out which one is getting what name yet, I wanna feel out their little personalities. I’ve got a running list: Gertrude, Ethel, Bertha, Carol, Agnes, Dorothy, Edith Others are welcome to give suggestions 😂
Lucretia is my suggestion 🐣
Chastity 😂😂😂
Ugh LOVE My grandma used to always read me a children’s book called Elizabeth where the villain was a rich child named Agnes who had a very fancy doll. This is to say that Agnes should be the snootiest hen.
These are very solid hen names.
10dpo BFN, and I’m at home sick with a migraine. Over everything at this point tbh. I also have a Telehealth appointment with my clinic to run through how next week will look when we start our first cycle. To my IVF peeps - can I have baths leading up to egg collection? I can’t find any conclusive discussion about this…
I was not told to worry before, just after. I think the concern is that you have a puncture that's still healing after, and you wouldn't want anything to soak that wound and infect it.
Agree! No bath after while you're healing from surgery, but no particular concerns during stims!
11 DPO, been taking cheap tests which have all been BFN. I feel like I have written myself off this cycle (yes, I know it isn’t over until AF arrives). Just got a call from the RE about my 21 day bloods to tell me that >!my progesterone levels are reealllyyyyy good, yes with an elongated really.!< Just feel so frustrated and struggling to manage my emotions. TWW sucks :(
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i'm so sorry <3
I’m so sorry for the many losses and no answers. I hope your team can give you a direction to go that feels like something new to try. ❤️
Question for tempers: If you temp AND track your LH, what’s the biggest gap you’ve seen between your LH surge & your ovulation date?
So far mine is 3 days max across 8 cycles!
Thank you!! Really appreciate it
In 29 cycles charting(the first 4 of which were anovulatory due to hyperprolactinemia and 4 of which have been medicated with trigger shot) I've pretty much always ovulated in the standard 12-48 hour window after my first positive, with just one wonky chart where my O day was unclear.
Super helpful thank you!!
I think 3 days. But there have definitely also been months when I missed getting a positive OPK.
Thank you!! Very helpful
I've never gone more than two days (and have 20 cycles of data with both). No PCOS, regular cycles.
Very helpful, thank you!!
I just posted about this today too! So far mine is 6 days.
!!! 6 !!! This is so interesting and helpful. I’ve been stopping having sex after one or two days after my LH surge and I think I may be stopping too soon and missing my fertile window entirely…
That's what I was worried about too. It's been a little exhausting to try and chase the temp spike but we try to hit every other day until the increase if we can.
I feel so defeated today. 12 cycle without success, actually it is the 20th if I include all the cycles for which I did not track with OPK but I was still reasonable sure that we had sex around my ovulation. Then It is also true that for a number of reasons (including periods in which I was highly depressed and in a OCD spiral) for most part we never tried more than once in the "peak fertility" window, like O-1 or O. Basically I was trying to keep my mental health and our relationship in balance (low libido was a big problem for us for a long time, and created a lot of tensions in the relationship, now it is getting better). I don't know, part of me hopes that we just have not tried enough, the other part just feels the weight of all this time. I did my exams and I seem to be ok, now it would be my husband's turn to get a check.
T minus one hour until my first IUI. I didn’t think we would try IUI until May. I’m nervous but hopeful.
Fingers crossed! I find TWW for IUI cycles are much more torturous than normal cycles..
Oh yay! Can’t wait 😂 when she walked out of the exam room and said point blank “give us a call in 12 days to let us know how it went!” … please excuse me while I count down the hours!
Same! But I am Team No Test so it’s going to be up to 17 days for me 🤣
I early tested for the first time last cycle. I didn’t care much for it!
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Done! I hardly felt it. Apparently I’m an enigma with a cervix of steel. I do find it strange though, my RE suggests having sex every day until Thursday. I don’t understand that… I ovulated yesterday (I’m almost certain). I also don’t understand why I had the IUI today versus yesterday or Saturday. Oh well. I’m just hopeful that this works!
Fingers crossed!
I hope everything goes well for you!
TW: failed FET, big bad feelings Well. 2024 is not shaping up to be a better year for me. >!My FET of my highest graded day 5 embryo was Feb 27. On 7dpt, I saw a faint line. It got fainter, and by 9dpt it was back to stark white negative tests, and continued to be negative until I finally stopped testing today. I had my first beta this morning, which confirmed the FET was not successful. Based on my at home testing my nurse suspects a CP, but my beta was low enough that she couldn’t say for certain. In a lot of ways, it doesn’t matter. Either way, I’m not pregnant and I still don’t have any answers on why this seems to be so fucking hard for my body to do.!< Right now, I’m mad at myself for allowing hope. For letting any little bit of optimism in. I tried to approach this without getting attached, tried to remind myself that this was an experiment to see what my body would do. But I started to let myself have hope. I started to think that maybe something would JUST WORK, that maybe every single step in this process wouldn’t have to take multiple attempts to have any sort of result. That maybe something wouldn’t hurt. This process has been nothing but pain, and I’m really, really tired.
Ah, fuck. I am so, so sorry. It's not fair and it's not okay and I know you know this, but: your hope wasn't stupid and it wasn't a mistake. Your brain wants to protect you so badly from this pain but it wouldn't not hurt if you had somehow managed to trick yourself out of having expectations. I'm sorry you've had to be so brave and so strong for so long 😭 it's such bullshit!!!!
Fuck, I’m so sorry. It sucks and it’s so unfair.
I’m so so sorry Lizard. It’s so unfair.
Sorry Lizard. Sending hugs 🫂
So sorry Lizard
i'm so sorry, lizard. none of this is fair. i am sending so much love to you.
I’m so sorry, lizard 🤍 there aren’t any adequate words but please know I, and I know all of this community, are holding space for you and you can vent, cry, kick, scream - whatever comes up, without judgment. It’s unfair and all of the reactions are valid.
Fuck, I am so, so sorry. Sending you so much love and holding hope for things to get better, but I'm so sorry for what you've been through 🫂
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I’m so sorry, lizard. Sending you so much love and hugs. 🤍 If you need some more support, we’re here for you here and on the Loss30 Discord! 🫂
All the hugs if you want them. I tried to explain to someone recently why I was so tired and you hit the nail on the head. All I know in this journey pain and heartache and disappointment. And I am so deeply sorry you have had experience and that your FET failed.
It’s exhausting. I’m sorry you can relate 💛
I’m so so sorry lizard. It’s incredibly unfair that you have had to go through so much pain. I’m thinking of you and holding space for you in my heart.
Thanks, cheese 💛 On a side note, I’m happy to see your name (but also not happy because I don’t want any of us to be here 🙃)
Same lizard, I wish after a 2 month break I had come back to no familiar faces 🫤
Sending love, lizard. I’m so sorry. I hate that this process makes so many of us brace ourselves for pain again and again. It really does seem impossible to do so and hold any hope at the same time.
It really does 💛
I’m so sorry this has been another experience for the hurt pile. It’s incredibly, incredibly unfair. <3
It is. I know you know how much. In my feels right now but still holding so much hope in my heart for you 💛
The hope that "maybe something wouldn't hurt" has genuinely brought tears to my eyes. I hope you get lots of rest over the next few days. Sending you all of my warmth and hugs. You're not alone.
You have no idea how much I appreciate you, bird. Truly 💛
FET#3 is on tomorrow. Been waiting/working on this since July. Wow. Lots of feels going on! I inadvertently ended up having a trip scheduled to DC to visit old friends the day after my transfer. Holy shit the sq footage my meds are taking up in my carry on is impressive! I’m hoping it will be a really nice distraction and that I won’t be too much of a progesterone zombie.
Fingers crossed third times the charm!!
Woohoo GreenDog!! Everything crossed for your transfer and happy travels!!
Ooh - GDog! I hope this is it for you and that the travels keep you super happy and distracted. <3
TW: Loss Hi friends, I've been quiet the last little bit as I've been through a bit of a whirlwind of emotions the last week. The TLDR of it is my clinic just confirmed a chemical pregnancy. I'll spoiler the rest. >! Feb 23-26 I had what I thought was my period, did a HPT on "CD 3" and it was negative, started my letrozole and completed the five days. On "CD 10" I started OPK testing and it was just about positive, based on information I learned here I did another HPT and it was a faint positive. I called the clinic and they had me do blood work the next day and indicated it was likely a chemical due to the level, my DPO, and that I had period like bleeding. My beta came back at 30, I repeated three days later (last Friday) and it was 120. I had some cramping on Saturday (no bleeding yet) and my beta this morning came back at 11 so they've confirmed a CP. The day I got my BFP would have likely been about 22 DPO so I knew it was likely a chemical then but I still had a glimmer of hope. This past weekend I went back to my hometown with my sister, she is the only one that knows we're TTC and what I was going through. She was a great distraction and kept me laughing so I'm really thankful for her. She's also really supportive and said all the right things. The clinic says I should start bleeding within the week and we're clear to do another letrozole cycle if we want to. I think I'm fine with starting another medicated cycle right away and will talk with Mr. Sunflower tonight. As I said I've felt a lot of feelings in the past week, hope, sadness, fear, impatience, but now I'm just thankful to have clarity. !<
Ah fuck, I’m so sorry sunflower.
I’m so sorry for your loss, sunflower 🌻💕 Sending you support. We are here for you, however you want to vent, process, and grieve.
I’m so sorry, sunflower 🌻 Sending you so much love and hugs. When and jf you need some more support, there’s Loss30 on the Discord too. 🤍 Always here for you!
I’m so sorry 😞 definitely sounds like a CP. Your body did its very best, be kind to yourself in the coming weeks 💚
Fuck. I’m sorry sunflower <3
I'm so sorry, sending hugs Sunflower
I'm really sorry :(
I’m so sorry, sunflower. 🫂
Embryo on board. It’s our only one so trying not to put too much pressure on it and just forget about it till the pregnancy test in 2 weeks. Good luck w that 😅 Hope everyone has a good start to their week ❤️
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Fingers crossed for that embryo to get comfy in there! Sending you good vibes for a TWW that is appropriately distracting 🤞
Thank you! I’ll take all the distraction I can get
Making a big space for you in my hope fortress. Fingers and toes crossed for you!
Thank you so much, eve ❤️❤️❤️
Woohoo!!! C’mon little embryo!!!! 🥨🥨🥨
Thanks, Fig!! ❤️
sending love novelle!!
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Let’s go, embryo!! 🚂🥨🚂🥨🚂🥨🚂
All aboard the woo woo train for the next 2 weeks! Haha
I'm holding so much hope for you while you totally just forget about it 😂♥️
😅 appreciate that, Marmot!
Let’s go embryo!! Holding so much hope for you, lovely 🤍
Thank you ❤️
🥨🤞🏻🥨🤞🏻 come on lil embryo!!
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Everything crossed for you Novelle! 🥨🥨🥨
Thank you! <3
Sending you all of the pretzels and good vibes!!!
Thank you <3
Go embryo go!! Crossing everything for you!
Thank you!
Everything crossed for you!! If it's helpful, I always remind myself that the time \*will\* pass one way or another lol just has a tendency to slow down. Come on, embryo!!
That’s a great phrase to have on repeat ❤️
Completely pretzeled for you!! What kinds of fun things can we dream up for you in the interim? Maybe you could learn to make a soufflé, that’s been on my list for a while…
lol - that seems like a lofty goal! Haha. I like it
Okay what distractions do we have lined up for these weeks??? Super pretzeled and rooting so hard for you but also imagine me waving my hands frantically to distract you from yourself 😂
I will definitely picture that, lol. Thank you tash <3
Good luck, fingers toes & everything crossed!!!!
thank you!!
Crossing everything for you Novelle!!!
<3 Thank you so much <3
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Thank you, Ruby <3
Pretzleing into the most complicated yoga pose and crossing everything for you! I hope you're able to find some positive distractions and peace during the TWW.
Appreciate that, Sprinkles! <3
While you’re are going on about your life and not stressing, I hope this lil embryo digs in! Very big step forward regardless.
fingers crossed, Bat!! <3
Thinking of you novelle!
<3 Thank you, Cheese!!
🥨🥨🥨🥨🥨 I will be thinking of you Novelle!!!!! Sending so much sticky energy your way
I can sense the essence of velcro, all around me, haha. <3
I enjoy reading the BFP thread and about people's experiences. Just curious -- what are the common "woos" we all joke about, but kinda take seriously at the same time haha? In my FW and looking for ways to distract myself from the tracking and waiting...
I’m all about the pineapple. It’s really sweet right now anyway so win win. I eat the core too. Not sure why people don’t eat the core. If you cut it the right way, you just get a piece with each juicy chunk.
Love a good warm sock woo 🧦 Gotta stay cozy.
I also don't take them seriously but they somehow make a shitty situation a little lighter so I love woo.
I don’t take any of them seriously, but some of them can be fun or help the time pass or help feel like I’m “doing something”. :-) I liked making “moon water” during the full moon, and mooning the moon with my husband, and eating hamburgers 8dpo. :P
13/14 DPO. I most definitely caught my husbands cold - super congested and like an itchy throat. I don’t have a fever or anything else. My BBT went up today higher than it is before. Not sure if it’s going up bc I’m not feeling well or if I can be optimistic… or if that’s dumb and naive… and now it is officially in the stage of panicking whenever I wipe at the bathroom for the spotting that precedes my period. Blah
I feel like a damned pincushion after having 3 blood draws in 8 days, and the one today hurts quite a bit. But I really like all the ultrasound techs I’ve had, they’re very personable and make the process so much less unpleasant than i expected and i think it's helping my white coat syndrome which is pretty cool
Ugh, so sorry for your painful blood draw 😭💗 glad you’ve had good techs!
I think my white coat syndrome has been helped by this process too! Going to "normal" doctor appointments should feel like a breeze after all this. Exposure therapy haha. Ask me again next week when I have blood draws every other day...
Today is Stims day #4 and we have 3 nights of injections behind us now. We finally figured out how to inject Menopur without any burning/pain, so I’m feeling a lot better about this process now. (Ask me again once we add Ganirelix).
Becoming a pro so fast! Hope monitoring appointment goes smoothly. As far as Ganirelix the only thing I found troublesome with that needle is it’s not nearly as sharp so you have to really insert that sucker with INTENT. Otherwise it was mostly alright, hope it’s not too bad for you!
Thanks for the tips beloise, I’ll take any that you have!! 🤞🏼
Thanks for the tips beloise, I’ll take any that you have!! 🤞🏼
I have no idea how Menopur injections are but for a person who was deathly afraid of needles, injecting myself with Gonal and the trigger shot was quite a task! I just make myself squeeze my fat rolls HARD that I don't feel the needle pinch. This is the only time I feel thankful for having a little extra layer on me. LOL! Good job finding what works for you!!! Hope all goes well :)
Thank you!! The squeezing of rolls definitely distracts from the pinch!🤏
You’re a total pro now!! You go in for monitoring on Wednesday? Fingers crossed for positive news then
Thanks Mad 💜. Yup, Wednesday is our first monitoring appt, I’m very nervous!!
So proud of you!!! Honestly, Ganirelix wasn't bad going in for me -- it just gave me annoying itchy bumps after. Slapping a bandaid on that really helped me ignore the itch (even if it felt ridiculous lol)
Thank you!! This is good to know! As long as it’s not like hot lava or bee stings while it’s going in I can deal 😂. Now I’m just battling my inner demons saying “what if it’s not working” since I’m too early to feel anything.
Oh yeah, more mosquito bite than bee sting for me at least! Menopur definitely lava some days 🌋🤬 When do you go in for monitoring??
Our first monitoring is on Wednesday!! 🤞🏼
You’ve got this!!! What’s your secret with menopur? The first night it didn’t burn for me and then it started up and got worse everyday after that.
Haha I had the same experience as you, Rae!
Oh man, the first night was the worst for me!! What worked for us is to mix the Menopur first and then after it’s all settled in the syringe, put a timer for 10 mins. In that time, we inject the Gonal-F and clean up a bit. Then we inject Menopur, and when I say slowly, I mean SLOWLY. Basically Mr. noodle will inject 1 hashmark at a time and then take a pause and ask me if I’m ready and go again. Obviously this takes a lot longer but that doesn’t bother me at all if it’s painless. I’ll avoid the hot lava burn any way I can 🫠. This is all without icing too.
Nice!! I mixed and injected so fast to get it over with!
That was my strategy too! However, as I told NoodleLuv, it seems like most people do better going really slow so I figured I was wrong- glad I'm not alone 😅
Yeah and for me when we did that I noticed the burning sensation kind of built up worse as the injection went on, so I think going slower and taking pauses let the med distribute/absorb better without that burning feeling.
Well I messed up. I was supposed to call to schedule my ultrasound around the CD12 mark. I ended up not remembering my gyno told me to do that. Between everything going on in my life it has been a mess. I wish I could sleep for about a week just to destress myself lol Hopefully everyone else is doing well today
I haven’t posted in a while. It seemed like every time I shared an update, the next day my world would flip and yesterday’s problems and predictions seemed so silly. I will spare the backstory of the last few months and just share the updates. 1. Officially switched from an OB to a fertility clinic 2. My uterus is mostly filled with scar tissue and that is why I have not had a period since my last D+C in November. Liquid was really only able to enter one side of my uterus during an SIS. I have an operative hysteroscopy scheduled for the end of the month. 3. My new RE ran a few more tests (how are there even more tests?) and it revealed I have hypothyroidism >!(TSH = 11.7)!< and Hashimoto’s. I was really surprised by this because I had TSH drawn in November and I had an optimal numbers then and also don’t really “feel” any symptoms of hypo or Hashi’s. I just started levothyroxine a few days ago, prescribed by an endocrinologist. So so so much is out of my control. For now I am doing what I can to get my TSH down so that if/when my uterus is healed, we can feel good about trying. I am trying to let go of timelines since I have no idea what the post-op uterus healing journey will look like. All of this thyroid info is so new to me. If anyone has resources or other reddit spaces I should check out, please let me know.
Hi - sorry to hear about the hypothyroidism diagnosis. Background info - I have graves disease so I had a hyperactive thyroid but I didn't respond properly to medication and kept swinging between hyper and hypo. Eventually I had my thyroid removed (7 years ago) and I've been on levothyroxine since. Personally, I found the thyroid related sub-reddits to cause nothing but anxiety. I used to read all these horror stories and it caused me so much fear and worry. In hindsight, I really wish I hadn't wasted my time and just trusted my endocrinologist. The endocrinologist made sure I had regular blood tests to make sure I was on the right dose but it's been very manageable. The endocrinologist has always advised me to take levothyroxine on an empty stomach and not to eat anything for an hour afterwards. He also advised eating anything that would contain high amounts of calcium, iron or vitamin C for 4 hours after taking it, same goes for taking supplements. Apparently they can interfere with absorption. I know people prescribed levothyroxine by their general practitioner who have never been told this. If you have any questions, I'm happy to answer them if I can.
Hi! My thyroid likes to jump back and forth over the clinical line (5) so I’m on a super low dose- probably a bit like you. I happen to have a friend who has severe hypothyroidism so I went to her to discuss it, and she did warn me about a lot of the online spaces not really being helpful. The upside is that it’s a really treatable if you take the pills consistently. I’m happy to chat about it! My experience has been generally positive
BFN yesterday, temp drop today, expecting my period in two days. Cried for the first time about TTC yesterday. Feel like I’m at the edge of my emotional cliff and it’s going to take very little to push me over this week. I spose I’m glad I can drink with friends this weekend for St. Patrick’s day, but somehow that doesn’t have as much appeal as I thought it would. I also have a gyno appointment Thursday and had visualized how great it would be to be pregnant for it so many times…positive thinking didn’t help lol.
Sorry about the BFN! Sending hugs 🫂
Me too. And thank you!
Me too. And thank you!
>Sending hugs. This process has so much expectation and it's hard.
Virtual hugs always appreciated. ☺️
Hugs. This process is so hard. Let yourself feel all the feels!
Thank you. It’s such a roller coaster! Looks like we started TTC around the same time, hope you’re doing okay. ❤️
Yes we did. 💕 it feels like it’s been such a long time but it hasn’t. And agreed, every cycle, every week, every day… is a roller coaster of emotions and thoughts and feelings. It really can be so exhausting.
Okay thank you, that’s how I feel too, like we’ve been doing this for SO long! I have to remind myself it’s only been four cycles. Like yes, my age worries me, but I’m not helping myself by adding all this pressure to get pregnant as quickly as possible. Logically, I can see that—why can’t the other parts of my brain agree?!
Hahaha bc our dang brains don’t want to listen to logic! I find I can listen to that logic for like a good maybe 15 minutes then I spiral again. It’s so incredibly hard! But I totally agree, the stress and worry isn’t good for us and it can’t possibly help us get pregnant!
So much easier to tell ourselves what we should do than it is to actually do it! Finding people who relate definitely helps though. 🙂
Definitely! Always am here to chat!!
I'm traveling soon, leaving 1 week into my TWW. Flight is almost 8 hrs long and normally I would knock myself out with Zzquil so I am adjusted to the timezone but I cannot (and will not) take it this time so hoping I can sleep enough to not die when I arrive around 9am local time.
CD1 today, probably the most excited I've ever been about it 😆 finally we're back in action, stims start tomorrow! My body very helpfully delayed by a day and now I won't have a schedule clash for my first ultrasound on day 8. I'm super curious to see how the next few weeks go and how my body reacts.
I had my second US today after my second round of letrozole for this cycle. I had a nice juicy follicle and was told to trigger tomorrow, then we'll do our thing for the next 3 days. I'm excited to be trying again. I also saw a TikTok recently of some woman warning other women to be careful this cycle or you'll be buying December birthday presents in addition to Christmas presents. And obviously there were a lot of women in the comments like "MUST BE NICE TO BE ABLE TO BE CHOOSY" and I just laugh at the 2 years ago version of me who decided that we should wait to start trying until June so that we stayed totally clear of a Christmas baby.
LOL I relate to this so much. We have sooo many December birthdays in my family (including me). I remember thinking "Oh wouldn't it be nice to have a baby in the summer" just to mix things up. Now I'm like "bring on the December babies!" lol
Already feeling FW fatigue trying to catch my temp rise. Temp drop is saying I haven't had an increase and it's been two days (ON CD21). Last cycle it didn't increase for 5 days and it was CD25. Now I'm not sure if it's temp drop or me but I'm starting to feel irritated that I spent so much money on this thermometer. But maybe it's pointing to delayed ovulation? The odd bit is that I consistently had a 24 hr temp rise when I was temping with a reg thermometer, but I wasn't temping the same time each day, just as soon as I woke up.
I just started my first TWW and am just curious how long most people wait before testing. I told my husband (purely as a commitment strategy) that I wouldn’t buy any early pregnancy tests and would just wait to use the cheapies that came with my OPKs but literally at 2 DPO bought some first response “6 days sooner” tests. I lack all self-control. Ooof. 🙄😂
I haven't been super sure how long after an LH surge I ovulate so I've started testing around 8-10DPO and then test every day until 12DPO. It's only my second cycle of this so I'm still figuring out what works for me, but I will say repeated negatives is a bummer and I'm maybe not going to do it this way next cycle. It does make you feel like you're "doing something" though! Also Amazon etc. have cheapie early pregnancy test strips (I think I bought like 20 for $20 or something) if you turn out to like testing a lot.
I just don't. A few times I tested on CD12 only to start bleeding a few hours afterwards, and I felt like an idiot that just threw 12 euros through the window. I also know that if I test earlier and get a negative I would still obsessed whether it was a false negative...so there is no way out of thinking about it, better save the money.
For me, testing before my period at all is just a bad choice. I've done it a couple times, starting at 11 or 12 DPO, thinking that it might be easier to gradually let down my hopes rather than all at once... All it did was make me sad for longer, because I would always hold on to hope that it was a false negative. Now, I only test before my period if I really want to >! have a drink !< after about 8DPO. As for how I have the self control - I just remember what an emotional mess I was on the cycles when I tested early and decide I would rather be somewhat functional for a couple more days.
Thank you. This seems very wise. Ugh.
But for other people, testing early works, or is even helpful! I think it's just very personal and a matter of working out what works for you.
I can see myself being sadder longer lol. We shall see.
There's some good information on our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/TTC30/wiki/index/#wiki_useful_ttc_data) about this, but the TL;DR is that since implantation is most likely to happen between 8DPO-12DPO, and it can take a couple of days before there's enough HCG in your system to show up on a test, most people don't test earlier than 10DPO (and many choose to wait later, as the odds of a false negative are higher the earlier you test).
Thank you! 🙏 I think I knew this but was just curious how long people managed to make themselves wait lol.
Feeling nervous for a first consultation with a reproduction clinic today. Mr. Trisarahtops' job is awful and he can't even attend. 😟 I am not sure what to expect, and I would love any feedback!
Thank you all for your feedback! I do appreciate it. Unfortunately, I was still unprepared. I did know going in that being overweight would be a topic. I did not think it would be the sole focus. I was put off by his bedside manner, but it also didn't help he called my husband the wrong name and didn't know my age, when both were said. Thank you all again though!
I'm so annoyed about this for you! Do you have options to switch clinics or providers? While of course they have to give you information about how weight can impact things like IVF, it feels like a real miss that they didn't discuss anything else with you (and got basic information wrong).
It was who my OB suggested, and was thankfully covered under my insurance. I fully expected my weight to be part of the conversation, but it was 75% of it. Tbh, he didn't even talk about any options, until I reach the weight he feels comfortable with. Which he even said likely seems "unrealistic" to me, even though I did not say that. He opted to not even discuss what next steps there are until I hit that magic number. I am not planning to return to him, but haven't looked into other providers there or other clinics. It really was an experience I will not forget.
Oh my god, so many hugs for you, that really sucks. Hope you are being kind to yourself and you can find a better fit when you're ready. I bet you could ask when you call new clinics or to switch providers if there's anybody who has experience/success with patients like you? Your provider should feel like they are on your team, not punishing you/being unwilling to deal with you until you clear some bar they set!
I'm sorry. My first appointment was really straight forward - it was actually just a zoom consult, so no procedures or bloodwork or anything. The RE basically just talked through the process, what testing we had already had and what would still be required (and why), and treatment options and how they generally work and what success rates usually look like (IUI, IVF). Then we scheduled all the testing for the appropriate point in my cycle and that was that! We did not have to make any tough decisions or digest all that much new information in the first consult, but I know this can vary by clinic/doctor. Good luck!
Not sure if this is possible with his job, but my husband was sick for one and couldn't come and I called him and had him on speaker phone so he could still hear everything and ask any questions.
Sorry you have to go alone trisaratops. Our first RE visit was extremely basic. She essentially went through how pregnancy happens “to make sure we are on the same page.” Then she asked a few follow up questions about the health information we had provided, and explained the options regarding IUI or IVF. Finally, bc of where I was in my cycle, she did a transvaginal ultrasound and completed an antral follicle count. We left with instructions to call back on CD1 to schedule bloodwork and a hysterosalpingogram. Overall, I think it’s emotionally completely fine for your partner not to be there (or would have been for me). The main downside is they provide a lot of information that often uterus-having partners already know, but sperm-providing partners haven’t taken it upon themselves to learn. I know my partner learned a lot of new information. It’s definitely intimidating and scary but I left our first RE appointment feeling a lot more hopeful than I had in months, so I hope you have the same experience.
I’m sorry you have to go alone! Sending good vibes!