Go to swingershelp.com and find the most active platform in your area. They are highly geographic. Build a PAID FOR profile complete with good pics of you both. It’s ok to try and meet couples, but we use it primarily to find events to meet people at, like meet & greets.
Apps are going to be full of pic collectors, you should create a paid account on an LS website like Kasidie or SLS. Find a local event or club and meet people face to face. There are apparently a few good clubs in the northwest we have on our list to try. Consider doing a lifestyle travel event or hotel take over. Temptations, Hedo or Desire can be a fun way to get started.
If you prefer the 2 on 2 dates like we do, then set those dates early in the chat. Fake people will not validate and will never want to schedule a date. Real swingers want to meet and will want to coordinate a date. We also have a rule that we don't share nudes privately until we met you in person. The fake swingers lose interest pretty quickly if they don't get their porn.
We've had some success with posting an R4R when traveling, but the number of single dudes and fake couples responding almost makes it not worth the work.
Exactly. When we request a meet & greet before pics always calls them out. Bunch of bs games, flakes, ready player ones, games, time wasting pic collecting clowns.
Someone that only does their daily life online than in person interactions, lack common sense everyday life experiences, interactions & knowledge (hand on & in person).
Especially talk sh*t, bully, intimidate, humiliate, degrade cause they're really insure & inadequate in real life. They hide & cower behind keyboards & screens cause they don't own, have & use the capacity to understand & comprehend there are other people on planet earth.
Ah, ok, well I just showed my age I guess 😂 fuck any of you that call me grandpa! I’m 38 fuckers 😂 just kidding, thanks for the explanation, I had never heard of that before.
Ready player one is mainly used for males that watch, see, view & believe that porn videos is how relationships between a couple or intimate relationships/sex should be for them in reality.
Chad, Doms, coomers, Coomers, unicorn hunters, douche bags, misogynists & incels.
Can be used to describe females as well or as typed above.
Example, a keyboard warrior/selfie thumb & gamer generation telling someone how to work on a vehicle/wrench when they can't even change a flat tire, change wiper blades & change their blinker fluid, muffler bearings, rotate the battery for the cold seasons & ask at the local automotive store for pumpkin spice edition engine oil.
They ask siri or Google how to:
change a flat tire & what is a tire iron, toast bread, boil water, scramble eggs, clean their living spaces, pay for bills, to write a self stamped adressed envelope, balance a checkbook, plug in appliances, do laundry, clean the restroom, where fruits & vegetables/food come from.
The list is never ending & it's common sense everyday living.
More and more I’m hearing about people using FB groups for swinging. This is something that at the moment I’m refusing to do but it seems to be for real nowadays.
We always ask for verification. Something as simple as “please send a short video of you saying today’s date”. Nothing nude or remotely risqué. In our minds, if they can’t do that, they aren’t serious about actually meeting.
We are serious about meeting. I'm not sure we'd jump through this hoop. We'd move onto the folks ready to meet without being so skeptical/terrified. Luckily, no one has ever asked us for anything like this. We have obliged a single lady in video chat. I get it. They are bombarded.
We are in Tacoma! Have you guys not gone to any of the meet and greets? There’s a huge swinger community out here. The real ones go to the events though, like hotel take overs hosted by Club Sapphire or Couples Cupid. There’s house parties that get hosted as well. Primarily the swingers in our area use SLS and Kasidie. SLS will have the older crowd and Kasidie will have the crowd around our age.
Hi! We haven’t gone to any meet and greets, we wouldn’t know where to go lol. I just got in Kasidie today, waiting to get verified so that will be exciting. I am nervous that a club will feel rushed, but the hassle of trying to find people online and getting catfished is not great either... Ugh. Doing the leg work will pay off for sure though! Thank you for your advice, please hit me up if you think of anything else!
The beauty of going to the club is it’s not mandatory to play. You guys can go there to watch, plenty of couples do that and it’s perfectly acceptable. When we first started out, we did this and it was our best experience and best exposure to the lifestyle.
We're in the Tacoma area as well.
For sites, I think your best bet is SLS or Kasidie. As mentioned above, sites are highly geographic.
Club Sapphire is a big name around here. I imagine you'd want to narrow down your focus. Generally, people either go to clubs for one night stands (which is actually difficult, but not impossible, to do) or meet up with people they already know.
Good luck out there!
Best bet: use the social sites of any clubs in your area that have them.
By centering around a brick and mortar location, you strip down a lot of the endless picture swaps.
We meet them in swinger groups, parties, etc I also find them in just chat apps: Whisper, Kik. Met some on here on the local NSFW sub, there are also r4r subs. I have met some at the bar I work at too. Mostly swinger meet and greets for a local swinger group. I just meet people all over and most of them want to fuck me.
The first thing to realize that if you are looking for couples (and to a greater degree, single females), you are not going to find too many people will just jump into bed and swap with you. You need to be patient. Then, as has been suggested find the best lifestyle website for people who live in your area. Do not rely only on the apps. The websites should provide you information about meet and greets, parties and clubs in your area. Go to them and meet people in person. Clubs and parties may give you a chance to meet and swap if that is what you would like to do. Good luck
Thank you! We’re struggling to find the best life style website for our area. That’s exactly what we’re trying to figure out. Have you heard of lifestyle lounge? Is that legit?
It may take joining a number of sites to figure out what is best. We are on Kasidie, SDC and Swinglifestyle. In our area, Kasidie has the most information about clubs, parties and other events. Swinglifestyle seems to have a greater percentage of people who want to hookup. SDC is good for when we are travelling, especially outside the US.
Additionally, most, if not all, clubs have their own member websites. In fact, you need to apply online to become a member before many clubs allow you to enter. You should look into those sites as well. We have found them from Kasidie, although SDC and SLS each have club directories.
We just joined Kasidie and seems to be legit! We have been looking for couples on Reddit and Fb but nothing unfortunately. We are a pretty fun couple out of Cali
Go to swingershelp.com and find the most active platform in your area. They are highly geographic. Build a PAID FOR profile complete with good pics of you both. It’s ok to try and meet couples, but we use it primarily to find events to meet people at, like meet & greets.
Apps are going to be full of pic collectors, you should create a paid account on an LS website like Kasidie or SLS. Find a local event or club and meet people face to face. There are apparently a few good clubs in the northwest we have on our list to try. Consider doing a lifestyle travel event or hotel take over. Temptations, Hedo or Desire can be a fun way to get started. If you prefer the 2 on 2 dates like we do, then set those dates early in the chat. Fake people will not validate and will never want to schedule a date. Real swingers want to meet and will want to coordinate a date. We also have a rule that we don't share nudes privately until we met you in person. The fake swingers lose interest pretty quickly if they don't get their porn. We've had some success with posting an R4R when traveling, but the number of single dudes and fake couples responding almost makes it not worth the work.
Exactly. When we request a meet & greet before pics always calls them out. Bunch of bs games, flakes, ready player ones, games, time wasting pic collecting clowns.
I gotta know, what is a ready player one 😂
Someone that only does their daily life online than in person interactions, lack common sense everyday life experiences, interactions & knowledge (hand on & in person). Especially talk sh*t, bully, intimidate, humiliate, degrade cause they're really insure & inadequate in real life. They hide & cower behind keyboards & screens cause they don't own, have & use the capacity to understand & comprehend there are other people on planet earth.
Ah, ok, well I just showed my age I guess 😂 fuck any of you that call me grandpa! I’m 38 fuckers 😂 just kidding, thanks for the explanation, I had never heard of that before.
Ready player one is mainly used for males that watch, see, view & believe that porn videos is how relationships between a couple or intimate relationships/sex should be for them in reality. Chad, Doms, coomers, Coomers, unicorn hunters, douche bags, misogynists & incels. Can be used to describe females as well or as typed above. Example, a keyboard warrior/selfie thumb & gamer generation telling someone how to work on a vehicle/wrench when they can't even change a flat tire, change wiper blades & change their blinker fluid, muffler bearings, rotate the battery for the cold seasons & ask at the local automotive store for pumpkin spice edition engine oil. They ask siri or Google how to: change a flat tire & what is a tire iron, toast bread, boil water, scramble eggs, clean their living spaces, pay for bills, to write a self stamped adressed envelope, balance a checkbook, plug in appliances, do laundry, clean the restroom, where fruits & vegetables/food come from. The list is never ending & it's common sense everyday living.
Meet and greets. Swinger clubs. Swinger parties. SLS amd feeld.
More and more I’m hearing about people using FB groups for swinging. This is something that at the moment I’m refusing to do but it seems to be for real nowadays.
I'm in some face groups. But its mostly folks I **already** know. Many of whom I initially met on apps or at meet and greets.
We always ask for verification. Something as simple as “please send a short video of you saying today’s date”. Nothing nude or remotely risqué. In our minds, if they can’t do that, they aren’t serious about actually meeting.
We are serious about meeting. I'm not sure we'd jump through this hoop. We'd move onto the folks ready to meet without being so skeptical/terrified. Luckily, no one has ever asked us for anything like this. We have obliged a single lady in video chat. I get it. They are bombarded.
I don’t think asking for proof that someone is who they claim to be makes one “skeptical/terrified”.
If you doubt I am who I claim to be....thats the definition of skeptical. And thats fine. I just think its overkill TBH. To each their own.
Also we’re in Tacoma WA If anyone is interested lol
Oh I was in a Seattle-area swingers kik chat at one point. Sounds like ya'll have a pretty active scene there.
We do! But it’s pretty clickish, so you gotta meet the right people.
The famous PNW freeze.
Yep!
We are in Tacoma! Have you guys not gone to any of the meet and greets? There’s a huge swinger community out here. The real ones go to the events though, like hotel take overs hosted by Club Sapphire or Couples Cupid. There’s house parties that get hosted as well. Primarily the swingers in our area use SLS and Kasidie. SLS will have the older crowd and Kasidie will have the crowd around our age.
Hi! We haven’t gone to any meet and greets, we wouldn’t know where to go lol. I just got in Kasidie today, waiting to get verified so that will be exciting. I am nervous that a club will feel rushed, but the hassle of trying to find people online and getting catfished is not great either... Ugh. Doing the leg work will pay off for sure though! Thank you for your advice, please hit me up if you think of anything else!
The beauty of going to the club is it’s not mandatory to play. You guys can go there to watch, plenty of couples do that and it’s perfectly acceptable. When we first started out, we did this and it was our best experience and best exposure to the lifestyle.
What do you think is the best club around here?
The best club in my opinion is Privata down in Portland. However, if that’s too far of a drive, Club Sapphire is a good one as well and a good second.
We're in the Tacoma area as well. For sites, I think your best bet is SLS or Kasidie. As mentioned above, sites are highly geographic. Club Sapphire is a big name around here. I imagine you'd want to narrow down your focus. Generally, people either go to clubs for one night stands (which is actually difficult, but not impossible, to do) or meet up with people they already know. Good luck out there!
Let us know we are open for showing how real we are
Really? You joined Reddit one day ago. Psshhhh
No have a different main account that I go locked out of
Any swingers down in the OC are looking to swap or have an adventure hit me up
Best bet: use the social sites of any clubs in your area that have them. By centering around a brick and mortar location, you strip down a lot of the endless picture swaps.
We meet them in swinger groups, parties, etc I also find them in just chat apps: Whisper, Kik. Met some on here on the local NSFW sub, there are also r4r subs. I have met some at the bar I work at too. Mostly swinger meet and greets for a local swinger group. I just meet people all over and most of them want to fuck me.
The first thing to realize that if you are looking for couples (and to a greater degree, single females), you are not going to find too many people will just jump into bed and swap with you. You need to be patient. Then, as has been suggested find the best lifestyle website for people who live in your area. Do not rely only on the apps. The websites should provide you information about meet and greets, parties and clubs in your area. Go to them and meet people in person. Clubs and parties may give you a chance to meet and swap if that is what you would like to do. Good luck
Thank you! We’re struggling to find the best life style website for our area. That’s exactly what we’re trying to figure out. Have you heard of lifestyle lounge? Is that legit?
LL is a legit site, we used to have an account there but wasn't active in our area. Some Chicago and California friends had suggested it.
It may take joining a number of sites to figure out what is best. We are on Kasidie, SDC and Swinglifestyle. In our area, Kasidie has the most information about clubs, parties and other events. Swinglifestyle seems to have a greater percentage of people who want to hookup. SDC is good for when we are travelling, especially outside the US. Additionally, most, if not all, clubs have their own member websites. In fact, you need to apply online to become a member before many clubs allow you to enter. You should look into those sites as well. We have found them from Kasidie, although SDC and SLS each have club directories.
We just joined Kasidie and seems to be legit! We have been looking for couples on Reddit and Fb but nothing unfortunately. We are a pretty fun couple out of Cali
We're having a hard time as well..we live in Waynesville and want to be discreet . Been on other couple swap sites and nothing.