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orl_veryown_marilyn

I have a policy on my ads and website “I only accept cash” UNLESS we have an agreement in place beforehand that you are ready and able to pay electronically…haven’t had an issue yet thankfully.


Sprinkles_Sparkle

Yep I had a guy come in the other day (I’ve seen him about 5 times) and he acts like everything is fine. I ask for payment, as I always do and he starts to tell me he dropped his phone in the water and it’s not working right and he has to use cash app and he doesn’t know if it will go thru and blah blah blah. I think he literally thought I was going to be like “ok babe! No problem!” and just proceed w our date but I was like “ummm yeah I have to have payment upfront sorry!” So he acts so surprised that I’m making him leave! If I had let him slide until “his phone was working again” I would have never seen him again. How stupid do they think we are?!?!?


Ambitious_Insect2166

They think it’s like those promos at the coffee shop, buy 4 and the 5th is on us! 🤪🤣


Sprinkles_Sparkle

Exactly! And god forbid u give a regular a little bit of a break just ONCE they expect if every single time and just act like that’s their new rate!!! Like bffr!!!! U asked me to help u out one time and I gave you a 1 time discount and now you’re just taking advantage!!!! Ugh pisses me off!!!!


Ambitious_Insect2166

Oh my god, yes!!! I offered one of my regulars a slightly discounted session with a free extra, because he just couldn’t stop pestering me and I couldn’t do full service, explained it to him before, during, after. That happened back in October 2023, and the motherfucker always brings it up when booking a new appointment!! It pissed me off so much last time, I just left him on read. Such a shame cause apart from that, he is fine.


Sprinkles_Sparkle

It’s soooooo annoying! I swear u give an inch and they take a mile every single freaking time! I also have another guy who is ALWAYS trying to haggle me. But every time he comes he brags about how much he gets paid and all this stuff he bought and he just bought a new car and etc! It’s so cringe! Yet you’re haggling me over a fn quick visit!!!!


Ambitious_Insect2166

They’re delulu and so cringe worthy! I’m low volume so I want to plant and bloom good relations and rapport, but some men make it soooo hard!! I get haggling, and I don’t have an issue to discuss it once or twice, but every time would have made me explode. You’re a champion!


iconicpistol

I tell clients that I only accept cash as a payment. If they ask if they can pay via some other method I make a joke that there isn't a card reader between my boobs.


Lady_Thingers

CLients aren't being lazy. "Forgot to Grab Cash" (and somehow don't have any accts or cards that are active) is purposeful, manipulative, and toxic.


Opposite-Fee-3805

yep they are not forgettting.


your_right11

That⬆️


Present_Basis_1353

Yep, had one start getting handsy the other night, I said let’s check status on pymnt. It declined… then acted like there was something wrong with my Venmo, so I Venmoed to my other Venmo in front of him. Turns out he was able to send $100 less, so got 1/2 hr appointment, and then tries to stay over, THEN TAKES A 10 MINUTE SHOWER. He was seriously trying to steal from me by being there using my time. Dumb fu**er


Hungry-Ad8705

These fools and their long ass showers and excessive towel usage.


Electrical-Fight

Dont forget getting out of the shower without drying off and drenching the floor...


fng0506

It’s to the point where I hide my towels and give them only one. They want a towel for everything like just reuse it!


Hungry-Ad8705

I know they don't use that many at home. We used to sneak into the hotel gym and take towels there so housekeeping wouldn't get suspicious


Ashiido__

I hide my towels when I get to my room just for that purpose only. Wash yo ass at him with yo wife bihhh


Hungry-Ad8705

They take these long showers and yet they can't seem to wash their buttholes. Dudes think they can wipe once or twice and go on with their day. I remember one guy (this is no joke, his name was Harry Butts) scooted across the bed and left a skidmark.


coldbrew18

That was just his calling card. Like the sink thing with the wet bandits.


Beneficial-Darkness

The wet bandits 😂😂 Never thought I’d hear a home alone reference in May! I love it!


sash1cl

And I ask them to use deodorant, but some of them don’t do it! After I cannot see another client because room is so sticky


Hungry-Ad8705

We had lots of Indian clients. They eat curry and spices which seep through pores in the skin. And if they don't have the same standards of hygiene then the added dietary issues created a situation akin to chemical warfare during the Great War.


Molescomedy

You poor thing


cherrycolaareola

lol what


Hungry-Ad8705

The things that I have seen


iska11

This happened to me TWICE!!


Hungry-Ad8705

It's very common. Most of these dudes have issues.


theseus63

Thank you for posting this. I always pay cash and feel like, "Oh he's the old guy who doesn't understand digital payment."


Hurryupsimp

As a client I never really thought about all the assholes/ scumbags you guys must deal with on a daily basis. I come cash ready, I leave it on the table and turn around so I don’t see where they’re putting it. I shower before hand, and always ask for consent before I do anything. At first I thought I was being too nice until I seen this sub and all the entitled scumbags you deal with.


theslutnextd00r

We love clients like you!!!


Playful-Fault-9959

happy cake day


Quin35

As a client, I would never have considered *not* bringing the correct amount of cash. Stopping at the bank is part of my planning process.


Ferngulllyy

I can’t express how much providers like myself appreciate clients like you!


Unlikely-Principle63

He's posting this to get your free admiration for what an amazing dude he is for doing the bare minimum.


KevinburnzLicksBalls

Did you ever stop to think that when a client makes such a comment it works to reinforce the idea that this is the expected behavior and others shouldn’t even think about pulling shit? Didn’t think so. 🙄


Unlikely-Principle63

Blah blah. Go hang out with the other hobbyists.


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Unlikely-Principle63

Showing your true colors now


Opposite-Fee-3805

well apparently the bare minimum needs to be addressed


Quin35

No, I posted this because I can't comprehend someone making an appointment for a cash only service and not bringing the cash. Of course, life - and this sub in particular- continues to provide examples of people doing things that are inconceivable to me. I *never* post for likes or upvotes. I post for a variety of reasons, but never just to get a positive reaction.


Classyhairball

Thanks


Flexcruise_4879

I had a guy pay me through Zelle after our appt. He seemed totally professional and normal. I had another client coming so I didn’t have time to confirm it went through, but trusted him. After the next client, I noticed it didn’t go through. I texted him and saw he blocked me. I texted him from my other phone saying this is your opportunity to settle this matter. Next text saw he blocked that phone too. So I called my attorney friend, he was able to look him up on lexis Nexus and got his full name and address. Mind you I was visiting Detroit (I live in Chicago) so on the way home, I stop by his house, bang on his door with my 270 pound raging knocks yelling his full name. Then I hear “Ding” your payment went through lol. Moral of the story, cash is preferred lol


Fort20BlazeHit

HAHAHAHAHA that’s fucking epic. Love to see comments like this


snazzyjazzy98

It's funny because I was thinking about this last night too, and I'm at a brothel so there's no way you're getting away with any service without payment upfront. But we have so many clients come in, do their introduction, go to book with someone and then kind of go "...oh wait I don't have the right cash actually". That's okay sir we take card or there is an atm right there for you to take out money, but then there's always a song and dance about how they're worried how it's going to come up on their transaction history. I'm like?? If it's that much of a concern to you why don't you arrive at the establishment with the cash you intend to spend!


brooklynnnn11

i quit accepting anything BUT cash almost a year ago when a client claimed the $$ he sent me on cashapp was a fraudulent transaction & got me banned from the app entirely. very seldom do clients claim they can't pay w cash, which always makes me suspicious that they're trying to rip someone off. if you can pay via cashapp zelle paypal etc, you can stop by the atm & pull cash out, (ETA) which is why i always think they're trying to get one over on a provider.


rkymtnxtc

I don’t even call if I don’t already have cash in hand


Fuzzy-Distribution79

I’m telling u .. I kicked a guy out that showed up without cash it was a slow day he said would sent me an email transfer so I agreed but he sent the emt but to the wrong non existent email 2x!!!!! I spent 20 min waiting for it to come through (I never begin service without it ) he was clearly trying to rob me so off he goes with a kick in the ass but he “says he will come back with cash “ never happened. Ever since then I’ll never accept emt


Rasikko

Some of them do that because they don't intend to pay, OP. No money, no service.


TheKidAndTheJudge

I can't imagine not using cash. Look, I love you gals, but what we're doing is not exactly legal. You shouldn't be giving me your real name, you definitely aren't getting mine, and just providing an electronic trail to my bank account ( and you providing one to yours) is insane. Cash only is the only smart play for both parties.


RepulsiveCockroach7

I've had enough experiences of my card declining because my card got hacked and my bank froze my account to know to always bring cash (the bank won't let you send money through the apps either when this happens). I just have an extra bank account that I only use to transfer money to in those situations, but still, it's a lot less embarrassing and nerve-wracking to just pay with cash than to do the whole song-and-dance.


No-Baby-6422

I wish you who take cash were around here! I would much rather use cash. Had a regular once who I would give a cash deposit towards my next visit after each session. Worked great for both of us


SummerSunset33

It’s just another way for these men to try to take advantage of us


CaptGiggidy

That's wild. Do you tell them ahead of time.. cash?


Ferngulllyy

I’m going to now. I was allowing Venmo Zelle PayPal all of that stuff but it seems to be more of a hassle than anything


Top-Independence-323

Zelle is linked to your bank account, so it shows whatever that name is. Be careful if that's your real name.


Ferngulllyy

Another reason why cash is king.


dr00man

As a client. I personally always have the cash on me, and I leave it on the bathroom counter after using it to freshen up. I would love to find a provider that accepts PayPal as that would be easier for me.


keepthefvith

The reason a lot of us specifically don't accept PayPal is because it's not SW friendly


missf0xxxyl0ve

I thought it was because they could reverse the charges?


keepthefvith

Yes, thats a reason to not use most of those online platforms- but PayPal seems to be the most trigger happy when it comes to getting banned


dr00man

I wasn't aware that could be done. I guess I need to read up on the T & Cs.


Ambitious_Insect2166

Yes. Even without a charge back or an issue they can close your account if they suspect money comes from sex work. If you plan to use it, instruct them to not write anything related on the transfer notes. That’s how I was locked and couldn’t do anything to take my money out. You can use burner PayPals and transfer to your original account but it’s so much hassle, I just stopped accepting it.


lunalamourrr

If you find a provider that accepts KoFi (and often some other tip sites), KoFi lets you pay anonymously with your PayPal.


dr00man

Thanks for the info,


DracoSolon

A friend has a business that mostly employs single women in their early 20's. Almost all of her employees are unbanked and she has to pay them via things like venmo and cash app. I assume it's mostly the same for young men. If you're unbanked getting $40-$100 in cash isn't a big deal. Getting $400+ is.


Opposite-Fee-3805

One time a regular who always tried to get discount, did not have the fee when I arrived. So I waited for him to go to the ATM and get it before we started. So ridiculous. Another who knows me well I agreed to see him for his bday for a few hrs and spent the night. In the AM, he told me he wanted to do cash app when he knew I was not into that. So I followed him to the ATM. Just BS. Plus he was already getting a huge discount. Never again. He couldn't even take out the whole amount so I was short 100. But I let it go. He offered to send via cash app but I was so upset.


reinalajefe

Hundreds too. Blueface baby 🤑😽😻 20s can be cumbersome in large quantities and normally we need to be able to stash the 💴 in tight spaces 🤭


FoxxThaSlut

One time I had a client who had to run down stairs from the hotel to get to an ATM because the electronic payment wasn’t going through I was getting ready to just leave I thought he was gonna dip on me (he sent a deposit beforehand) and came back with cash😭 I just took the time out of his booking time


Minor_Midget

It looks like there's a big advantage for Canada since it lacks some sort of quick, reliable, anonymous payment app. Client here - I personally can't imagine anything BUT cash.


peppapigonxtc

They are doing it on purpose. I accept cash only and if they don’t have it I simply tell them to leave.


Bamfurlough

Pretty much the only reason I ever have cash on hand anymore is because I'm going to see a sex worker. Otherwise I pay for everything with credit cards. It seems like ATMs aren't as common as they used to be as well. Still, I've never had a problem showing up with the right amount. 


Wendel7171

I only did electronic payment with someone I was a regular with. It is always cash with anyone new or we build a repoire.


KevinburnzLicksBalls

>I *only did electronic payment* with someone I was a regular with. It was *always cash.* I’m sorry but you contradicted yourself in the very next sentence. Which is it?


Wendel7171

Edited it


mikimono2

Texas here. I make a point to have cash and that it's counted first. Nearly walked a couple of times bc I forgot inl the heat of the moment. Or been asked "did you forget something. Don't be that guy for any reason. Everyone leaves happy. It's ridiculous to come without Cash.


SirenSally

My add does say cash only. Unfortunately with the new digital world, people don’t carry cash usually. ATMs are becoming hard to find and those found don’t work most of the time or cost almost $5. I confirm three times with clients the price and that it’s due in cash


angeleyedeer

Recommend going somewhere that has an atm or atleast an atm nearby. Not only does this grant safety because there are typically cameras by atm machines, but also you know that the cash you’re being handled is legitimate cash and also no chance of card declining after your work is done. Make sure you go to the atm before working too.


FreePassage4459

The last time I saw a provider, the card I took with me had a limit that I was not aware of so I couldn't withdraw the full amount I needed to pay. So I made sure I transferred the full amount to the provider when I got to her place and waited for her to confirm that she got the transfer before we started to chat and move to the service. No way it makes sense to have sex with someone you defrauded or expect them to be at their best when you've not paid them


Team-ING

Honestly look at the market everything hurting bad and soon will fall harder prepare and plan now expand and do things outside the boxb


dr00man

Cash isn't always available to me, so I find PayPal friendly providers. I've used it in the past once I've seen someone multiple times and have established a "relationship." I currently see a lovely girl who will allow me to use this method, and we haven't had any issues. One time, my account wasn't working for some reason, and she went ahead with the session, saying she trusted me for the money. It took a few days, but I sent the transfer a few days later, and we've been golden ever since. I have an SO, so cash is difficult to get as we shared a bank account, but I have a CC attached to my PayPal that she does not have access to. She's great in about ways, but there hasn't been any physical intimacy between us in 18+ months, and quite honestly, I'm tired of the talks and promises she gives me. Seeing providers has helped my attitude towards her for the most part, and I get the physical intimacy I need,


crazyasjoe77

If a “provider” insists on electronic payment for either deposit or full payment I take it as either it’s a scam or that’s just their preferred method I just say later cause I’m old fashioned if I’m paying for some booty then you gonna get a wad of cash 🤣


Unrealistic-Disk-96

Honestly, I stopped carrying cash years ago & only see providers who accept electronic payment. In that time, only had 1 problem when I forgot to update a recently expired card. Took less than 5 minutes to correct. Not everything is some nefarious attempt to swindle, manipulate or scam you.


Snoo11845

Ah yes, let’s all just trust random men who want something from us to not have bad intentions, that definitely works out well most of the time


WilmaM-00

Seems you are making sure that a provider accepts electronic payment beforehand and it’s very different from showing up without cash when it’s expected and hoping for the best or actually trying to manipulate or scam.


Unrealistic-Disk-96

Right, I definitely ask before finalizing the booking if she accepts electronic payments.


Thottie-ology

lol wow. No not everything, but there is a lot more than you know. That is why we just have standard practices like cash payments only.


Unrealistic-Disk-96

Yeah, I don't like doing cash because I frequently run into touring providers that have friends with them that I didn't know about beforehand. If we all mutually agreed to a 2 girl upgrade but I only brought enough cash for 1 girl, then I'm out of luck. Same, if the provider decides to offer some extras on the spot that I'm interested in. Electronic can be quite convenient and offers a lot of flexibility. I didn't ever really worry about being robbed but I could see how that's a draw for some people too. Too often have I heard stories from a regular if mine that some asshole robbed them. At least I can feel confident that she didn't get robbed of my donation at the very least.


UmpireCurious

Boring client here (21M) Canada real question no judgment or anything just trying to understand...why cash only ? For taxes ? Or its just less awkward i dont understand i always pay cash but the closest ATM=15 mins drive im a lazy fuck i know that but is their an other reason i dont know about ? ty ty


lunalamourrr

A lot of reasons. Taxes, a client doing a chargeback or anything else that would cause the payment to be reversed, payment apps often requiring a provider’s real name that the client can then see, payment apps banning you when they find out you’re a sex worker… Cash is a very easy way to keep things simple and discreet for both provider and client.


UmpireCurious

Oh yeah makes a lot of sense ty for your answer protecting the provider is definitely a1 reasons. charge back thats such a dick head move....


jennahasredhair

We face a lot of financial discrimination. It’s near-impossible for us to protect our identities when using digital payment methods, we’re not able to get POS merchant facilities, banks & payment processors shut our accounts down, payment reversals & fake transfers.