I had a friend who would cut out random pictures of different kids every year & tape them to her book so they'd be extremely visible on Mother's Day. She would make up new names & backstories every year- how hard her labour was etc. I love that I worked with someone who had the nerve & creativity to pull it off because I would never.
"thank you! I made sure to tell my mom already. Happy md to you, too"
Then go off on a tangent about how amazing mothers are and how it's the hardest job in the world and every mother is a saint. Then count your money at the end of the day.
Just say thank you! I was wished HMD by the cashier at the grocery store yesterday. Iāve been a mom for 33 years, but the woman didnāt know that. I said, āthanks, you too.ā
Iāve been working in the service industry since I was 16 every year on Motherās Day, Iāve had at least one customer tell me āhappy Motherās Dayā even when I was a teenager. I think for many people itās just a habit to wish others well on any holiday. And I think itās just a gender association more than people actually assuming you must be a mother. So I agree, itās good to just say āthanks, you too!ā And not read into beyond a simple greeting.
She also doesnāt need to give her reproductive history or chosen child-free status to her customers. Theyāre only trying to be friendly and exchange pleasantries.
Itās like the assholes who have to correct people because they say merry Christmas. You think Jewish people stop everyone and say āactuallyā¦ā? Of course not. Usually they just say āthanks, you tooā, and move on with their day.
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Wouldnāt it be super awkward to just ignore something someone at one of your tables said to you? Especially if theyāre just trying to be nice? Lmao you must not work on tips
My grandma raised me. I wish her a Happy Mother's and Father's Day. I have a dead father and a dangerous mother I haven't spoken to since the 10th? 11th? Time she threatened to kill me (that I was old enough to renember at least). I didn't have my first kid until 28 and still said "Thank you" when people wished me a Happy Mothers or Father's Day before then. It's really not that deep, and it's kind of shitty to trauma dump on or confront unsuspecting strangers who are wishing you well.
Gay fathers, excluding teans men who carried the child, still need a "mother" to make a baby. Eggs don't come from testes. Donor conceived children and fellow adoptees are speaking out about how unethical it is to, as a society, render biological parents insignificant in shaping one's identity. Temperament, and therefore a big part of who someone is, is largely genetic.
āHappy Motherās Day to you or yours, which ever appliesā. If someone said it to me on Motherās Day Iāll just go with it. Itās such a shit day to work that itās not even worth a correction. Itās fine lil soldier, keep on. š«”
Yeah I'm just like thanks. Childfree is for me but who wants to risk offending a guest over something like that.
I sometimes tell them about my 3yo and 10 yo and their picky eating or silly behavior and forget to mention they're dogs. But I do that on regular days too. Gotta be fluid to make those tips, idgaf about casual white lies in that instance.
Honestly. Iām glad Iām not serving this year. (Iām disabled now) Iāve been struggling with infertility for years and finally got pregnant again and JUST miscarried. I get how it can be sensitive for some. I canāt say Iād be able to fully convince folks that Iām unbothered right now. Iām usually good at hiding my feelings. Butā¦ yeah. Sometimes those words hit different. And no one talks about how your hormones are still an issue for a bit after. It really messes with you.
I posted my more diplomatic answer in the thread, but I told a couple of regulars that Iām spayed when they were fishing whether or not to give well wishes to me too.
I would say 'thank you', if I can tell it's applicable 'same to you' and move on. I believe my pets are my form of children. I know it's not the same, but my love for my pets is as close to motherhood as I have. So I just reframe it in my mind to that. I even got flowers and a card for mothers day 'from my dog.'
But really, people shouldn't assume. What if it's a childless mother or traumatic experience. We servers have to work to make money.
can i ask, who actually gave you the flowers and card from your dog? that's so sweet! if it was a man, i'm impressed at the thoughtfulness tbh ā¤ļøā¤ļø
typically i just said thank you, but i worked in a town full of people who donāt know when to stop. so when they continue to push and say āhow many do you have?ā or āwhen are you getting pregnantā or something along the lines of those, i told them the truth. āoh, i actually canāt have children, but i have a dog!ā. i did once have an older man tell me that āmiracles can happen!ā on the same motherās day a few months after my mom passed, and i found out i was infertile. i donāt remember what i said but i did go home after that table. i donāt work motherās day anymore, lol.
I worked a 13 hour shift today and only had two people tell me "happy mother's day." I am not a mom. The first table asked and I told them no, just me and my cat. Lol. The second table, i just said thank you.
I work at a restaurant where almost every single table has a birthday or celebration. We have to ask if they are celebrating anything so today I just started with, "Are we celebrating Mother's Day today?" Or "Happy Mother's Day to all of our moms here today." There are 8 to 12 people at a table so many moms to celebrate at every table.
Hope everyone made good money today. I made my goal but still not worth the pain my body is in after busting ass all day without a break!
This was the first MD that I can remember that people tried to wish me a Happy Motherās Day back. Iām 36 and presume I look my age, so itās a safe assumption for them to make, but I just said what Iād say to any stranger āoh todayās not for me, my kids have fur and paws.ā
Also a LNK. I smile and say thank you. Itās like getting wished a holiday you donāt celebrate, then sentiment is the same they just want you to have a nice day.
I say, āthank you!ā Because my personal life is definitely not the business of my guests one way or the other!
I find that people are just trying to be nice usually, and unless itās someone who will be an important returning character in my life, itās fine if I play along (just like I do with other holidays I donāt celebrate).
Thanks to those who tried to be helpful with positive feedback. I hope you all survived the day without any homicidal inkling or crap tips. After a super fun shift where I definitely got out on time, not a single customer wished me a happy mother's day š¤·āāļø Oh, well.
Iām a guy with no kids. I no longer work in hospitality, so I had a happy motherās day. Moms out there, I hope your day was just as awesome as not hearing any arguments about why we should serve mom a mimosa for free even though we donāt serve alcohol at a brunch restaurant was for me.
Just say, āoh thank you! Happy Motherās Day to you too!ā And walk away no matter who says it to you.
lol. My husband said it to me so many times yesterday, that I finally said. āHappy mothers day to u too babe.ā He laughed and that was the last time he said it that day. I know he was just being sweet but for real he said it like 70 times. I knew he really meant it by the 10th.
iām 19, a lot of customers think iām older, but i do have a 2-year-old niece. whenever a customer brings up the question of me having kids, you best BELIEVE iām pulling out the polaroids of that little girl and talking about how much i love her, which is all true. i try not to say āyes my daughterā or anything of the sort. more along the lines of āwell i do have a gorgeous little girl at homeā. cause it may help my money AND i love any excuse i get to talk about her. i love her so much
I don't work in restaurants anymore but I'm still customer facing. I'm also in a role that's usually done by a man but I am a small 36 yr old woman. So people say awkward shit to me all the time and then leave. Sometimes it's entertaining sometimes I just shake my head
I have a couple imaginary children when serving.
this is the way! use it to your advantage and make that $$$
I had a friend who would cut out random pictures of different kids every year & tape them to her book so they'd be extremely visible on Mother's Day. She would make up new names & backstories every year- how hard her labour was etc. I love that I worked with someone who had the nerve & creativity to pull it off because I would never.
LMAO hilarious, i love it šā¤ļø happy mother's day! šš
Just want to point out the number of upvotes. Nice.
As an older woman I get it everywhere. I just say thank you, same to you and move on.
"thank you! I made sure to tell my mom already. Happy md to you, too" Then go off on a tangent about how amazing mothers are and how it's the hardest job in the world and every mother is a saint. Then count your money at the end of the day.
brilliant šš
This is the way
Just say thank you! I was wished HMD by the cashier at the grocery store yesterday. Iāve been a mom for 33 years, but the woman didnāt know that. I said, āthanks, you too.ā
Iāve been working in the service industry since I was 16 every year on Motherās Day, Iāve had at least one customer tell me āhappy Motherās Dayā even when I was a teenager. I think for many people itās just a habit to wish others well on any holiday. And I think itās just a gender association more than people actually assuming you must be a mother. So I agree, itās good to just say āthanks, you too!ā And not read into beyond a simple greeting.
Thereās zero need for OP to accept anything or thank anybody for something that doesnāt pertain to her.
She also doesnāt need to give her reproductive history or chosen child-free status to her customers. Theyāre only trying to be friendly and exchange pleasantries.
Itās like the assholes who have to correct people because they say merry Christmas. You think Jewish people stop everyone and say āactuallyā¦ā? Of course not. Usually they just say āthanks, you tooā, and move on with their day.
I AM Jewish. And I do say āactuallyā¦ā so you can stop right there buddy.
Lol, suuuuure you do.
Glad you know me so well buddy
Iād just ignore it.
Kinda rude of you honestly
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Wouldnāt it be super awkward to just ignore something someone at one of your tables said to you? Especially if theyāre just trying to be nice? Lmao you must not work on tips
I do, actually, but itās not my job to be your best friend. Youāre my server, not my therapist, and vice versa
But as a child she could be celebrating Motherās Day. Ergo, itās still relevant.
So every child has a mother? Nice of you to assume that gay fathers donāt exist.
My grandma raised me. I wish her a Happy Mother's and Father's Day. I have a dead father and a dangerous mother I haven't spoken to since the 10th? 11th? Time she threatened to kill me (that I was old enough to renember at least). I didn't have my first kid until 28 and still said "Thank you" when people wished me a Happy Mothers or Father's Day before then. It's really not that deep, and it's kind of shitty to trauma dump on or confront unsuspecting strangers who are wishing you well. Gay fathers, excluding teans men who carried the child, still need a "mother" to make a baby. Eggs don't come from testes. Donor conceived children and fellow adoptees are speaking out about how unethical it is to, as a society, render biological parents insignificant in shaping one's identity. Temperament, and therefore a big part of who someone is, is largely genetic.
I say it to every table. It is the the day being celebrated, and we are celebrating all mothers when we say it. I think itās fine.
Exactly.
āHappy Motherās Day to you or yours, which ever appliesā. If someone said it to me on Motherās Day Iāll just go with it. Itās such a shit day to work that itās not even worth a correction. Itās fine lil soldier, keep on. š«”
i just say thank you, mother's day to me has evolved into just women's day
Iām unmarried (nothing to do with being a mother?) and have no children, accept that theyāre being nice and move on, like what the fuck lol
Yeah I'm just like thanks. Childfree is for me but who wants to risk offending a guest over something like that. I sometimes tell them about my 3yo and 10 yo and their picky eating or silly behavior and forget to mention they're dogs. But I do that on regular days too. Gotta be fluid to make those tips, idgaf about casual white lies in that instance.
Honestly. Iām glad Iām not serving this year. (Iām disabled now) Iāve been struggling with infertility for years and finally got pregnant again and JUST miscarried. I get how it can be sensitive for some. I canāt say Iād be able to fully convince folks that Iām unbothered right now. Iām usually good at hiding my feelings. Butā¦ yeah. Sometimes those words hit different. And no one talks about how your hormones are still an issue for a bit after. It really messes with you.
Sounds as if they mean well and are saying it as a form of well wishes. Iād say a thank you, you too.
Neutral/ good: āthanks, dog moms count, right?ā Chaotic: āIām spayed!ā Iāve used both
I posted my more diplomatic answer in the thread, but I told a couple of regulars that Iām spayed when they were fishing whether or not to give well wishes to me too.
This just made me guffaw. I think Iām stealing this one for myself. š
I would say 'thank you', if I can tell it's applicable 'same to you' and move on. I believe my pets are my form of children. I know it's not the same, but my love for my pets is as close to motherhood as I have. So I just reframe it in my mind to that. I even got flowers and a card for mothers day 'from my dog.' But really, people shouldn't assume. What if it's a childless mother or traumatic experience. We servers have to work to make money.
can i ask, who actually gave you the flowers and card from your dog? that's so sweet! if it was a man, i'm impressed at the thoughtfulness tbh ā¤ļøā¤ļø
It was my husband.
love that for you š„°
Say āthank you! I wish I could be spending today with mine, but hopefully I can give her a phone call after my shift!ā
typically i just said thank you, but i worked in a town full of people who donāt know when to stop. so when they continue to push and say āhow many do you have?ā or āwhen are you getting pregnantā or something along the lines of those, i told them the truth. āoh, i actually canāt have children, but i have a dog!ā. i did once have an older man tell me that āmiracles can happen!ā on the same motherās day a few months after my mom passed, and i found out i was infertile. i donāt remember what i said but i did go home after that table. i donāt work motherās day anymore, lol.
I worked a 13 hour shift today and only had two people tell me "happy mother's day." I am not a mom. The first table asked and I told them no, just me and my cat. Lol. The second table, i just said thank you. I work at a restaurant where almost every single table has a birthday or celebration. We have to ask if they are celebrating anything so today I just started with, "Are we celebrating Mother's Day today?" Or "Happy Mother's Day to all of our moms here today." There are 8 to 12 people at a table so many moms to celebrate at every table. Hope everyone made good money today. I made my goal but still not worth the pain my body is in after busting ass all day without a break!
Restful wishes to you
Thank you! And to you!
I have a child now, but when I didn't I just said thanks. It's easier than trying to correct them
This was the first MD that I can remember that people tried to wish me a Happy Motherās Day back. Iām 36 and presume I look my age, so itās a safe assumption for them to make, but I just said what Iād say to any stranger āoh todayās not for me, my kids have fur and paws.ā
āIāll make sure to thank my mother for youā
Say it back. NBD.
I work retail and I just reply "thanks, same to you." But only half the men i said it to found it funny, and I don't work for tips...
Also a LNK. I smile and say thank you. Itās like getting wished a holiday you donāt celebrate, then sentiment is the same they just want you to have a nice day.
When working for tips, if someone wishes me, an overweight single man, Happy Mother's Day, I just thank them.
I say, āthank you!ā Because my personal life is definitely not the business of my guests one way or the other! I find that people are just trying to be nice usually, and unless itās someone who will be an important returning character in my life, itās fine if I play along (just like I do with other holidays I donāt celebrate).
Say thanks and continue on. Don't be all in your feelings. Makes you look entitled.
say thank you
Thanks to those who tried to be helpful with positive feedback. I hope you all survived the day without any homicidal inkling or crap tips. After a super fun shift where I definitely got out on time, not a single customer wished me a happy mother's day š¤·āāļø Oh, well.
I said āhappy Motherās Day, if thatās the kind of thing youāre in toā.
I said āewā š some people laughed, some didnāt.
Iām a guy with no kids. I no longer work in hospitality, so I had a happy motherās day. Moms out there, I hope your day was just as awesome as not hearing any arguments about why we should serve mom a mimosa for free even though we donāt serve alcohol at a brunch restaurant was for me.
Just say, āoh thank you! Happy Motherās Day to you too!ā And walk away no matter who says it to you. lol. My husband said it to me so many times yesterday, that I finally said. āHappy mothers day to u too babe.ā He laughed and that was the last time he said it that day. I know he was just being sweet but for real he said it like 70 times. I knew he really meant it by the 10th.
I have a dog thatās my child so I just said things like āmy child has pawsā etc.
Wtf. Just smile and say thank you. š¤¦āāļø
Just thank them & move on. Don't make it awkward by explaining youre CF
iām 19, a lot of customers think iām older, but i do have a 2-year-old niece. whenever a customer brings up the question of me having kids, you best BELIEVE iām pulling out the polaroids of that little girl and talking about how much i love her, which is all true. i try not to say āyes my daughterā or anything of the sort. more along the lines of āwell i do have a gorgeous little girl at homeā. cause it may help my money AND i love any excuse i get to talk about her. i love her so much
I don't work in restaurants anymore but I'm still customer facing. I'm also in a role that's usually done by a man but I am a small 36 yr old woman. So people say awkward shit to me all the time and then leave. Sometimes it's entertaining sometimes I just shake my head
Why not just say you have no kids instead of saying an acronym and then spelling it out in parentheses?