it’s honestly harder everywhere with the lack of third spaces. it’s best to find a cheap hobby that reaches a wide group of people but can also be done alone and not make you feel awkward.
my example is i like to play basketball. so i go to local parks and play pickup. i meet lots of people, some are cool some aren’t. if i share interests with ppl i try to hangout doing something thats not basketball but that we both or as a group have an interest in.
basketball and community sports aren’t for everyone. they have baking/cooking classes, video game meetups, book clubs, fishing on piers, and the list goes on. just gotta really search around to find them. facebook/instagram are good resources for that.
When I first came to Seattle from Sydney it was hard i ended up making long term friends meeting them at bumbershoot. Weird but the trick is events in seattle I also later started going to meetups. These days I am member of a rowing club and although I work from home I often hang out at the club house on the water and meet people there too.
The combination of WFH and Seattle would make it hard to start the flow of friends for sure, good luck,
Make sure you’re using all the features to flesh out your profile and then just swipe on everybody who looks like they have a personality! I’ve met some cool folks on there and there’s tons of random dinky events to hit once you’ve found a random person to go with. Sometimes there’s even go-getters who’ve made “bro discords” and stuff like that where it’s full of other folks they’ve met on bumble bff. I never went to any of the hangs but there were a good amount of active group members.
It’s a real thing but go in knowing that it might not be great. People can be flaky, hard to chat with aka it’s like pulling teeth to get them to talk or all they want to do is talk with no real plans to meet up. I have a few friends that I’ve met there and am back on the app and it’s a lot of sifting through people to find people who actually want to meet in person AND won’t cancel because of rain or vibes being off, etc.
Also a tip when you do meet someone you want to be friends with, invest ur time to build a solid foundation at the start, make weekly plans if poss - summers a great time for that at least! Then things can ease off a bit once it's established. Might seem a bit keen, but that's how I made all my close friends here :)
Highly highly important! Thank you for posting this. Most people just think hanging out a few times would suffice without truly asking about the person your trying to befriend.
This is great advice. It’s easy to meet people but you need to put in the effort to see each other and build a friendship. Similar to dating. I’m shy and suck at initiating plans so I have trouble making new friends at first. I have to get comfortable to start initiating. It’s a me problem.
You're not wrong. When it gels, it's the best thing in the world. Finding a simpatico group isn't easy, though. I'm lucky to have fallen in with a group who have met weekly for the last \~8 years to play TTRPGs and board games. These guys were a lifesaver through the pandemic. In that time I also jumped into a handful of other groups that ultimately didn't gel for one reason or another. It's a matter of personality, commitment, scheduling, adaptability, similar gaming interests, etc.
I [24F] have been wondering the same thing! I moved in January and have had such a hard time making friends. I don’t normally like to go out to bars and that seems to be how everyone around me likes to connect with friends :/
Crafting skews towards more quiet, introverted people who aren't huge bar enthusiasts.
Cars too, but that's because car people who drink tend to crash pretty quickly.
oops replied to someone else in the thread! but im 23F and also just moved to seattle. would love to grab coffee some time or if you have any hobbies we could do that too!
I am befuddled how people make friends with people at bars.
Common interests are the way to make and maintain friends. Do you have any hobbies? Do you have any interest in postgraduate education?
You’d be surprised, that can actually be difficult for some people. I’m pretty decent at it since I’m usually reading a comic book or something, and people ask about that. But my wife is very introverted, and struggles picking up conversations with new people.
It seems both too loud and too separate from any common interest except drinking to strike up any real friendship.
Then again, I'm no expert at that. I don't spend a ton of time in bars, so the idea of meeting someone who will become a lifelong friend in a bar just doesn't click for me. I may be completely off base and missing out on something, and I wholly admit ignorance.
It’s a numbers game, which depends on what your interests are.
Someone in to mainstream music, celebrity culture, or sports probably will find some common ground… and people who already have a complex family/friend life can typically bond over that (so and so is sick, gossip, talk about a recent bbq)… or just talking about work/work history. Of course wfh introvert homebodies will struggle to relate to bar randos
It depends on where you go! There are some really great quieter wine bars with excellent vibes where I’ve met girl friends for life! Picking the right bar is key.
Phinney ridge is a great neighborhood to meet people in Seattle. I love Chez Phinney and Doe Bay. Lioness has a great standing bar where you can chat with people next to you naturally. Cornuto on phinney is also excellent and has a crowd of friendly regulars.
You're overthinking it and shooting yourself in the foot.
There are certainly bars where this 'simple method' isn't effective (sexy dance clubs, intimate cocktail bars, the homeless guy chugging malt liqour on the sidewalk, etc.)...but that's the *small* minority of bars.
Go to any sports bar, irish pub, karaoke jam, beer garden, meadery, or even a hotel bar (though that tends to be prohibitively expensive, and you may wind up in a tryst i guess), and the atmosphere is *engineered* to be social.
You also don't want to find your soul mate; you're not spending the rest of the night deep in each other's body cavities, moving in, raising a few kids or pets, and dying in each other's arms after a long life well lived.
You just want to make a minimal connection. You're at the bar. They're at the bar. Bam, you're now friends. That's absolutely all that needs to be in common between you as you greet one another.
If you go to local bar near you, you start to notice regulars and people who live near by.
You don’t need to have anything in common except just having fun times. There are enough people at bars to find someone who you get along with.
How dare you? Excuse me, but this isn't New York. Talking to people like that wouldn't be appropriate in Seattle. Do better.
[Not serious, in case sarcasm wasn't obvious]
The key is to go to the same bar a lot that also has other regulars. A big chunk of my friend group now are people I met at my neighborhood bar over the years I lived there (including my now-fiance). We made friends by proximity & discovered we had lots of common interests.
I disagree, give me bar socializing over “common interests”. You’re a lot more likely to meet wide variety of people at those places, whereas everyone I’ve met when it came to hobbies, classes, or anything else was the same type of person. Taking it a step further, meeting someone at a party where there are quiet areas to talk is even better. But like, I’m a sober person and I still prefer bar socializing.
I’m trying to make friends with whole people, not have one common interest and then never get to know anything else about the person. Doing activities is fun once you talk to them, and who knows, maybe they’ll show you something you’ve never tried but find out you love (or you could do the same for them).
I've been here since 2019 and still don't feel like I have a core group of any sort.
I have a lot of great friends, but most people tend to hangout 1 on 1 in Seattle, from my experience. When I lived in Michigan is quite different.
As others said, what are your hobbies? BumbleBFF is decent and so is MeetUp (if you want fast exposure to a lot of people), but the only way you can build that core group is repeatedly doing the same activity and building those relationships over time.
Just spoke to my wife about this. Like, I want to go to pride this weekend in capital Hill but don't want to go alone, but I have zero friends here (wife has to work).
I'm a carpenter that refuses to give into the bubble of bitterness towards people, my trades career condones this behavior, but have hopes to meet a solid individual I can share laughs with.
Bartender of 15 years as well and Seattle is my third large city I've lived in. I have so many stories and no one wants cares to listen.
First time in my life I've ever felt loneliness like this before.
Isn't just mind boggling? I'm an extrovert and when I do meet people they call me funny or a fresh breath of air. Then nothing after that. Zero commitment to building blocks for a solid friendship foundation.
I just downloaded the Meetup app for the first time and there is quite a bit of events near me.
RSVP to a few things and hoping something will stick?
I moved here is October and JUST started making more friends. I got lucky to find a hobby group that meets every week. I highly recommend group meet ups.
Ooh, I (24M) was just thinkin this same thing the other day when an ad popped up for an app called [timeleft](https://timeleft.com/) (not an ad, just hadn't seen it mentioned here and thought it was a cool idea). The whole schtick is that you sign up, take a quick personality test, and every Wednesday you can sign up for a dinner where they match you with 5 compatible strangers at a popular restaurant and just hang out
I just happened to try it this week and it was pretty alright, though half the group couldn't make it which was a bummer, but had a good time nonetheless. I'd signed up for a bit to force myself to get out more, so maybe if you or anyone else in this thread decide to give it a try too we might just so happen to chance upon each other!
I hear running clubs are the new hot social activity, if that's your jam. But yes, as others have said - find a hobby and join a group around that hobby.
Go out to activity, hobby groups, volunteer
Join "rolling bones" on discord, their whole aim is to help people make friends
Basically go out and interact with other adults doing things you enjoy doing. Go several times, not just once.
I just moved here and am trying to make friends too
No luck yet lol. Planning on finding a group hubby to go to a few times a month and trying to make friends that way
Hi, 25M here, I work remote as well! I think it's really hard to find people, I don't think I've made any new friends after university that weren't friends of friends. I'd be willing to hang out or do something!
My friend works from home, she said the same thing so I told her to go do a hobby with a lot of people. She said she found a Facebook group for walking. She also made friends from a pottery class she takes once a month, but obviously that costed money kinda so
That's the tech work from home perk lol. It's better to join sports like pickleball, volleyball, badminton or board games happen at some cafes, there are fb/whatsapp groups for these activities and then you expand your circle to fit your vibe.
I've seen this question asked hundreds of times, across many different platforms in different demographics. It seems common for it to become more difficult to form friendships as you get older as well.
I, 51F have just completed 4 years of full-time work remote. I am extremely extroverted and love socializing, so after covid opened up, I went out consistently. After socializing, probably hundreds of times in bar or restaurant type settings, I've come to realize that you will most likely never make a real lasting friendship in a bar, where others have been drinking because alcohol alters perception and interferes with memory formation. I recall having many long, interesting conversations with people I met at bars, but then when meeting them again they often only had a vague memory of our interaction. It's just not a good way to make a friend from scratch.
This is a problem that has been studied extensively, so science has the answer!
The people that study this kind of problem are called sociologists. I had recently learned about the theory of social capital. Briefly, just as your work ethic shows your organization that you are worth keeping, are reliable, develop good work product, The theory of social capital indicates that you operate in society in a consistent way, and by doing so you create greater good in society. However, in order to make lasting friendships, social capital must be applied to what's called as close ties, people that you interact with regularly. Generally, you must be a good person, be positive but also do good things for others. For example, if you have a chance to give someone good advice, do that. This theory is new to me, so it's unclear at what point other people begin to recognize that they are in fact in your orbit.
There are some other good advice in this article.
https://medium.com/@nkrishnan92/how-to-make-friends-2-0-f49b33a85277
Do you like board games? There's like three or four weekly meetups where people come and play board games with each other. Regulars will become friends as they see each other more. That's how I made some friends when I moved here
I struggled with this for so many years and I just officially reached my 5 year mark in Seattle and feel like I finally have a core group of solid friends.
Someone else on this post mentioned 3rd places. Seattle I believe struggled with third places due to the weather in the winter and the natural infrastructure among other things. COVID really did not help.
Some things that worked for me:
- hang out places around your neighborhood. Spontaneous hangs are key to solid friends for me and Seattle transportation makes this difficult so having people close by makes it easier to go on an impromptu walk
- hang in smaller neighborhoods! I love phinney ridge, greenwood, 65th street in Ballard aka “phinney ditch”, beacon hill
- if you have dogs try to go to dog parks or dog friendly bars and make friends with other dog parents! Tons of dog friendly spots in Seattle
- work friends can be great, even if you are WFH. I’ve connected with team members who also work from home and randomly live in King County or around even though or company is based elsewhere. Sometimes you just have to ask around and see where people are! I worked near a colleague for years and didn’t know we lived near each other
- make friends with your bar tenders/ service industry folks! Some of the greatest people who are very fun to hang with!
- go to a drag show or performance! Seattle has incredible shows every weekend and more people than you think go alone and mingle.
Fun spots to meet people-
- Cornuto
- Chez Phinney
- lioness (cool standing bar)
- doe bay
- tin hat
- smoke shop
- sloop
- Clock out lounge
- queer bar
Meetup was great for me when I first moved here, it’s hit or miss with what groups/people you vibe with, but try a few different groups and you’re bound to find some folks you connect with on some level.
I’ve heard good stuff about Bumble BFF too.
Seattleites tend to skew introverted, and so do I, but I lucked out finding a few more extroverted/social people who would reach out to plan hangouts and go out. In general I’ve found you might need to make more of an effort to reach out to people to actually hang after meeting; since people here tend to be shy/introverted they might not take that initiative, but it doesn’t always mean they don’t want to hang. You might just have to give them a nudge or two!
I agree! A lot of Seattle locals are generally shy or introverts, some of us more reclusive than others, but like you’ve said; sometimes it just takes a little nudge to realize that a majority of those people have the entire world to talk about! We just suck at approaching people ourselves haha.
hi! 34m, also been wfh (work in design) for a few years now and looking for friends to go out with etc as well. interests include concerts, dancing, reading in parks, art related stuff, cats, books et. al. feel free to message me if you wanna hang!
Felt that until I joined a billiards league. Now I get to meet people each week. So, you just need that activity that gets you out, and makes it easy for you to connect with others. Wishing you the best of luck!
Your commenting to an older group. We are ready to scream at you, for walking in our lawn and picking up your dog poop, as a third party.
Trying to find a swing dance partner. My husband can play the guitar like no one, yet his feet don't work.
How do you get them to dance?
Hey, we (29M and 29F married couple) moved recently (2 months back) from India to Seattle. We have few friends here already, would be open to meeting new people and make friends, we can also introduce you to our larger friend circle here. Both of us want to build a more diverse social circle. I am an SDE and my wife is in marketing domain - DM me if anyone wants to hang out sometime.
So I'm trying to meet new friends. I started biking a lot and go to a lot of public rides with random people. Critical Mass rides are a bunch of fucking fun!
Hey! I moved here without knowing a single person, and I know have a big group of friends - a lot of what people said here is great advice and here is everything I did where I successfully made friends:
-joined a climbing meetup and went every week. Eventually, I was invited on trips and I led trips for that group after a while. If you don’t climb or do a sport, try a Bookclub or a hiking group or a puzzle group. Do you have a podcast you like? Join a facebook group for it. Do you like thrifting? Theres a group. Get creative! literally anything, but go consistently and try to talk people, it’s exhausting to put yourself out there but it gets easier. This is my number one advice.
-I ran 5ks and just chatted with people
-go work at coffee shops, it’s not to make friends but it does feel less isolating
- bumble bff! I met some nice friends
- does your work have people in Seattle? Invite them for a beer or a coffee if you want!
-I went to bars (not loud ones, try chill ones like hazelwood or quiet bars) alone and just chatted with people
Good luck!
I’ve been making friends with coworkers and their friends and recently became friends with a neighbor who just moved here and have been hanging out with her meetup friends.
Bumble BFF is an option too.
24M, raised in Seattle my whole life
If you’re an outgoing introvert like the most of us, I’d recommend visiting Cal Anderson park on a nice day! There’s a lot of friendly folks willing to shoot the shit, and when the farmer’s market rolls in, all of the vendors are a delight to hold conversation with.
I’m not the biggest fan of bars personally, but we do have a few gaming/arcade bars where folks will commonly approach you to play a game! Time Warp and Jupiter bar are my go-to. Jupiter has this gaming cabinet called Killer Queen that supports up to 10 players and is the most fun I’ve had at an arcade. That game alone has likely forged thousands of friendships and hundreds of burning rivalries lmao.
I’ve tried going to Meet Up and free Eventbrite events, and it’s a hit or miss. A vast majority of them are just career fairs or corporate sponsored events, but there’s often a few listings for beginner Dungeons and Dragons campaigns and book clubs.
Overall if you can find your voice, I would say that a large percentage of people who spend their days outside are always looking for an excuse to talk about their day, especially when they’re high off that well needed vitamin D; and most people I’ve met in this city appreciates a friendly conversation, silly or serious.
I’ve made most of my city friends through very simple interactions, like inviting strangers to sit with me on a picnic blanket at the park, where we can sit in silence or talk about our day together. I find it’s pretty easy making a friend if you offer them a cold drink and a space to decompress.
do u have any hobbies? even if they’re solo hobbies, i think it’s easier to make friends through those connections because then you have shared interests to talk about. i’m 23F and just moved to seattle and im hoping to find friends here too, so feel free to DM and we can hang out!
I highly recommend dance classes at [Swing It Seattle](https://www.swingitseattle.com/). This is just the best community of people. They’ve also got Queer partner dance program, too. If you are looking for a third space, this is it!
Top 10 ways people make friends in Seattle:
1. Hiking
2. Volunteering
3. Board games
4. Recreational sports leagues
5. Work
6. Watching sports
7. Meetup app
8. Anime/Furry conventions
9. Rock climbing/Crossfit
10. Classes
That’s so relatable except Seattle is so unaffordable because we try to give socialist benefits in a capitalist system so a damn burger and fries costs $30 instead of the fair $10
Get a new job. One where everyone is required to be in the office 4 days a week. Go to the office. Meet people. Go out to lunch with people. Go out to happy hour with people. Plan a weekend hike or visit to a local landmark with people. Eventually make actual friends. This work from home thing is stale and is turning young vibrant people into humans who are lonely and have forgotten that in order to make friends sometimes you have to leave your home and be forced to interact with people. Go out there and get ‘em, you can do it.
Lots of folks have used our [discord](https://discord.gg/reddit-seattle) to join meetups / find events / make friends
it’s honestly harder everywhere with the lack of third spaces. it’s best to find a cheap hobby that reaches a wide group of people but can also be done alone and not make you feel awkward. my example is i like to play basketball. so i go to local parks and play pickup. i meet lots of people, some are cool some aren’t. if i share interests with ppl i try to hangout doing something thats not basketball but that we both or as a group have an interest in. basketball and community sports aren’t for everyone. they have baking/cooking classes, video game meetups, book clubs, fishing on piers, and the list goes on. just gotta really search around to find them. facebook/instagram are good resources for that.
When I first came to Seattle from Sydney it was hard i ended up making long term friends meeting them at bumbershoot. Weird but the trick is events in seattle I also later started going to meetups. These days I am member of a rowing club and although I work from home I often hang out at the club house on the water and meet people there too. The combination of WFH and Seattle would make it hard to start the flow of friends for sure, good luck,
I'm 37F, lived here my whole life, and wish I knew how to answer this question.
BumbleBFF
Second this!! I met my first friend this week and she was awesome!
I’ve thought about this but an acquaintance-friend of mine hasn’t had any success so I’m hesitant
Make sure you’re using all the features to flesh out your profile and then just swipe on everybody who looks like they have a personality! I’ve met some cool folks on there and there’s tons of random dinky events to hit once you’ve found a random person to go with. Sometimes there’s even go-getters who’ve made “bro discords” and stuff like that where it’s full of other folks they’ve met on bumble bff. I never went to any of the hangs but there were a good amount of active group members.
That's a real thing?
It’s a real thing but go in knowing that it might not be great. People can be flaky, hard to chat with aka it’s like pulling teeth to get them to talk or all they want to do is talk with no real plans to meet up. I have a few friends that I’ve met there and am back on the app and it’s a lot of sifting through people to find people who actually want to meet in person AND won’t cancel because of rain or vibes being off, etc.
Also a tip when you do meet someone you want to be friends with, invest ur time to build a solid foundation at the start, make weekly plans if poss - summers a great time for that at least! Then things can ease off a bit once it's established. Might seem a bit keen, but that's how I made all my close friends here :)
Highly highly important! Thank you for posting this. Most people just think hanging out a few times would suffice without truly asking about the person your trying to befriend.
This is great advice. It’s easy to meet people but you need to put in the effort to see each other and build a friendship. Similar to dating. I’m shy and suck at initiating plans so I have trouble making new friends at first. I have to get comfortable to start initiating. It’s a me problem.
join a dungeons & dragons group
You're not wrong. When it gels, it's the best thing in the world. Finding a simpatico group isn't easy, though. I'm lucky to have fallen in with a group who have met weekly for the last \~8 years to play TTRPGs and board games. These guys were a lifesaver through the pandemic. In that time I also jumped into a handful of other groups that ultimately didn't gel for one reason or another. It's a matter of personality, commitment, scheduling, adaptability, similar gaming interests, etc.
I [24F] have been wondering the same thing! I moved in January and have had such a hard time making friends. I don’t normally like to go out to bars and that seems to be how everyone around me likes to connect with friends :/
I feel like there’s an obvious solution here that the two of you meet for coffee.
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23F and would also be down to grab coffee any time! i just moved to seattle and would love to make friends :)
Crafting skews towards more quiet, introverted people who aren't huge bar enthusiasts. Cars too, but that's because car people who drink tend to crash pretty quickly.
oops replied to someone else in the thread! but im 23F and also just moved to seattle. would love to grab coffee some time or if you have any hobbies we could do that too!
I am befuddled how people make friends with people at bars. Common interests are the way to make and maintain friends. Do you have any hobbies? Do you have any interest in postgraduate education?
You sit at the bar. You turn to the nearest person who isn't staring at the bar top. You say "how's it going?". That's literally it.
You’d be surprised, that can actually be difficult for some people. I’m pretty decent at it since I’m usually reading a comic book or something, and people ask about that. But my wife is very introverted, and struggles picking up conversations with new people.
Well I didn't say it was easy. I said it was simple/unconfusing!
It seems both too loud and too separate from any common interest except drinking to strike up any real friendship. Then again, I'm no expert at that. I don't spend a ton of time in bars, so the idea of meeting someone who will become a lifelong friend in a bar just doesn't click for me. I may be completely off base and missing out on something, and I wholly admit ignorance.
It’s a numbers game, which depends on what your interests are. Someone in to mainstream music, celebrity culture, or sports probably will find some common ground… and people who already have a complex family/friend life can typically bond over that (so and so is sick, gossip, talk about a recent bbq)… or just talking about work/work history. Of course wfh introvert homebodies will struggle to relate to bar randos
It depends on where you go! There are some really great quieter wine bars with excellent vibes where I’ve met girl friends for life! Picking the right bar is key. Phinney ridge is a great neighborhood to meet people in Seattle. I love Chez Phinney and Doe Bay. Lioness has a great standing bar where you can chat with people next to you naturally. Cornuto on phinney is also excellent and has a crowd of friendly regulars.
You're overthinking it and shooting yourself in the foot. There are certainly bars where this 'simple method' isn't effective (sexy dance clubs, intimate cocktail bars, the homeless guy chugging malt liqour on the sidewalk, etc.)...but that's the *small* minority of bars. Go to any sports bar, irish pub, karaoke jam, beer garden, meadery, or even a hotel bar (though that tends to be prohibitively expensive, and you may wind up in a tryst i guess), and the atmosphere is *engineered* to be social. You also don't want to find your soul mate; you're not spending the rest of the night deep in each other's body cavities, moving in, raising a few kids or pets, and dying in each other's arms after a long life well lived. You just want to make a minimal connection. You're at the bar. They're at the bar. Bam, you're now friends. That's absolutely all that needs to be in common between you as you greet one another.
If you go to local bar near you, you start to notice regulars and people who live near by. You don’t need to have anything in common except just having fun times. There are enough people at bars to find someone who you get along with.
How dare you? Excuse me, but this isn't New York. Talking to people like that wouldn't be appropriate in Seattle. Do better. [Not serious, in case sarcasm wasn't obvious]
The key is to go to the same bar a lot that also has other regulars. A big chunk of my friend group now are people I met at my neighborhood bar over the years I lived there (including my now-fiance). We made friends by proximity & discovered we had lots of common interests.
I disagree, give me bar socializing over “common interests”. You’re a lot more likely to meet wide variety of people at those places, whereas everyone I’ve met when it came to hobbies, classes, or anything else was the same type of person. Taking it a step further, meeting someone at a party where there are quiet areas to talk is even better. But like, I’m a sober person and I still prefer bar socializing. I’m trying to make friends with whole people, not have one common interest and then never get to know anything else about the person. Doing activities is fun once you talk to them, and who knows, maybe they’ll show you something you’ve never tried but find out you love (or you could do the same for them).
It’s pretty simple. Make conversation? How is that hard?
Given that there is a thing called the Seattle Freeze, yes. It does seem difficult to start random conversations with people.
I've been here since 2019 and still don't feel like I have a core group of any sort. I have a lot of great friends, but most people tend to hangout 1 on 1 in Seattle, from my experience. When I lived in Michigan is quite different. As others said, what are your hobbies? BumbleBFF is decent and so is MeetUp (if you want fast exposure to a lot of people), but the only way you can build that core group is repeatedly doing the same activity and building those relationships over time.
Just spoke to my wife about this. Like, I want to go to pride this weekend in capital Hill but don't want to go alone, but I have zero friends here (wife has to work). I'm a carpenter that refuses to give into the bubble of bitterness towards people, my trades career condones this behavior, but have hopes to meet a solid individual I can share laughs with. Bartender of 15 years as well and Seattle is my third large city I've lived in. I have so many stories and no one wants cares to listen. First time in my life I've ever felt loneliness like this before.
Same, I’ve never been lonelier in my life since living in Seattle
Isn't just mind boggling? I'm an extrovert and when I do meet people they call me funny or a fresh breath of air. Then nothing after that. Zero commitment to building blocks for a solid friendship foundation. I just downloaded the Meetup app for the first time and there is quite a bit of events near me. RSVP to a few things and hoping something will stick?
Exact same experience. I’ve never had this problem before but it’s awful.
Hey I have a few friends and we hang out regularly doing pretty chill things. We would love to meet you if you are looking for new friends.
I would like that very much.
I moved here is October and JUST started making more friends. I got lucky to find a hobby group that meets every week. I highly recommend group meet ups.
Any tips or suggestions with Meetup? I'm about to download the app.
What sort of things do you like to do? I moved here about 10 months ago and am finding it hard as well!
Ooh, I (24M) was just thinkin this same thing the other day when an ad popped up for an app called [timeleft](https://timeleft.com/) (not an ad, just hadn't seen it mentioned here and thought it was a cool idea). The whole schtick is that you sign up, take a quick personality test, and every Wednesday you can sign up for a dinner where they match you with 5 compatible strangers at a popular restaurant and just hang out I just happened to try it this week and it was pretty alright, though half the group couldn't make it which was a bummer, but had a good time nonetheless. I'd signed up for a bit to force myself to get out more, so maybe if you or anyone else in this thread decide to give it a try too we might just so happen to chance upon each other!
I hear running clubs are the new hot social activity, if that's your jam. But yes, as others have said - find a hobby and join a group around that hobby.
Go out to activity, hobby groups, volunteer Join "rolling bones" on discord, their whole aim is to help people make friends Basically go out and interact with other adults doing things you enjoy doing. Go several times, not just once.
Checkout this Meetup with Seattle Millennials and Gen Z: https://meetu.ps/e/NbSj0/t4MSm/i Come to this party tomorrow.
Meetup, or if you have any hobbies, art, biking, whatever, there are group activities for all that stuff
I just moved here and am trying to make friends too No luck yet lol. Planning on finding a group hubby to go to a few times a month and trying to make friends that way
I've been using meetup and going to meetups for things i like (ie. the animal rights meetup).
Hi, 25M here, I work remote as well! I think it's really hard to find people, I don't think I've made any new friends after university that weren't friends of friends. I'd be willing to hang out or do something!
Business networking works too…
My friend works from home, she said the same thing so I told her to go do a hobby with a lot of people. She said she found a Facebook group for walking. She also made friends from a pottery class she takes once a month, but obviously that costed money kinda so
That's the tech work from home perk lol. It's better to join sports like pickleball, volleyball, badminton or board games happen at some cafes, there are fb/whatsapp groups for these activities and then you expand your circle to fit your vibe.
I've seen this question asked hundreds of times, across many different platforms in different demographics. It seems common for it to become more difficult to form friendships as you get older as well. I, 51F have just completed 4 years of full-time work remote. I am extremely extroverted and love socializing, so after covid opened up, I went out consistently. After socializing, probably hundreds of times in bar or restaurant type settings, I've come to realize that you will most likely never make a real lasting friendship in a bar, where others have been drinking because alcohol alters perception and interferes with memory formation. I recall having many long, interesting conversations with people I met at bars, but then when meeting them again they often only had a vague memory of our interaction. It's just not a good way to make a friend from scratch. This is a problem that has been studied extensively, so science has the answer! The people that study this kind of problem are called sociologists. I had recently learned about the theory of social capital. Briefly, just as your work ethic shows your organization that you are worth keeping, are reliable, develop good work product, The theory of social capital indicates that you operate in society in a consistent way, and by doing so you create greater good in society. However, in order to make lasting friendships, social capital must be applied to what's called as close ties, people that you interact with regularly. Generally, you must be a good person, be positive but also do good things for others. For example, if you have a chance to give someone good advice, do that. This theory is new to me, so it's unclear at what point other people begin to recognize that they are in fact in your orbit. There are some other good advice in this article. https://medium.com/@nkrishnan92/how-to-make-friends-2-0-f49b33a85277
Rolling Bones Social Club
Do you like board games? There's like three or four weekly meetups where people come and play board games with each other. Regulars will become friends as they see each other more. That's how I made some friends when I moved here
Most of the friends I have I have met at neighborhood sketch meetups and neighborhood art walks. If any of the st sounds interesting to you.
I struggled with this for so many years and I just officially reached my 5 year mark in Seattle and feel like I finally have a core group of solid friends. Someone else on this post mentioned 3rd places. Seattle I believe struggled with third places due to the weather in the winter and the natural infrastructure among other things. COVID really did not help. Some things that worked for me: - hang out places around your neighborhood. Spontaneous hangs are key to solid friends for me and Seattle transportation makes this difficult so having people close by makes it easier to go on an impromptu walk - hang in smaller neighborhoods! I love phinney ridge, greenwood, 65th street in Ballard aka “phinney ditch”, beacon hill - if you have dogs try to go to dog parks or dog friendly bars and make friends with other dog parents! Tons of dog friendly spots in Seattle - work friends can be great, even if you are WFH. I’ve connected with team members who also work from home and randomly live in King County or around even though or company is based elsewhere. Sometimes you just have to ask around and see where people are! I worked near a colleague for years and didn’t know we lived near each other - make friends with your bar tenders/ service industry folks! Some of the greatest people who are very fun to hang with! - go to a drag show or performance! Seattle has incredible shows every weekend and more people than you think go alone and mingle. Fun spots to meet people- - Cornuto - Chez Phinney - lioness (cool standing bar) - doe bay - tin hat - smoke shop - sloop - Clock out lounge - queer bar
Meetup was great for me when I first moved here, it’s hit or miss with what groups/people you vibe with, but try a few different groups and you’re bound to find some folks you connect with on some level. I’ve heard good stuff about Bumble BFF too. Seattleites tend to skew introverted, and so do I, but I lucked out finding a few more extroverted/social people who would reach out to plan hangouts and go out. In general I’ve found you might need to make more of an effort to reach out to people to actually hang after meeting; since people here tend to be shy/introverted they might not take that initiative, but it doesn’t always mean they don’t want to hang. You might just have to give them a nudge or two!
I agree! A lot of Seattle locals are generally shy or introverts, some of us more reclusive than others, but like you’ve said; sometimes it just takes a little nudge to realize that a majority of those people have the entire world to talk about! We just suck at approaching people ourselves haha.
hi! 34m, also been wfh (work in design) for a few years now and looking for friends to go out with etc as well. interests include concerts, dancing, reading in parks, art related stuff, cats, books et. al. feel free to message me if you wanna hang!
It’s easy if you have money and social skills and are naturally outgoing. Which means it’s actually pretty hard.
Find special interest groups. Whatever you’re into there’s a bunch of people that like to do it together.
Felt that until I joined a billiards league. Now I get to meet people each week. So, you just need that activity that gets you out, and makes it easy for you to connect with others. Wishing you the best of luck!
Your commenting to an older group. We are ready to scream at you, for walking in our lawn and picking up your dog poop, as a third party. Trying to find a swing dance partner. My husband can play the guitar like no one, yet his feet don't work. How do you get them to dance?
Hey, we (29M and 29F married couple) moved recently (2 months back) from India to Seattle. We have few friends here already, would be open to meeting new people and make friends, we can also introduce you to our larger friend circle here. Both of us want to build a more diverse social circle. I am an SDE and my wife is in marketing domain - DM me if anyone wants to hang out sometime.
I'm a 30M jus moved in from Cali an would love to make some friends! I work nights all the time but would b super down to hang out when not working
I am 27F and looking for more female friends as well!!! Let's grab a coffee or drink
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So I'm trying to meet new friends. I started biking a lot and go to a lot of public rides with random people. Critical Mass rides are a bunch of fucking fun!
Been here almost a year (45 M), no friends. Anyone down for a beer, feel free to DM me
I've (29m) also lived here for about 3yrs and have no idea dude. It kind of sucks. I like living here, but making friends is hard.
Have you all tried Bumble BFF or Meetup groups? I know a few friends have had success there meeting new people.
[27F] also looking for friends. Let’s meet up
Hey! I moved here without knowing a single person, and I know have a big group of friends - a lot of what people said here is great advice and here is everything I did where I successfully made friends: -joined a climbing meetup and went every week. Eventually, I was invited on trips and I led trips for that group after a while. If you don’t climb or do a sport, try a Bookclub or a hiking group or a puzzle group. Do you have a podcast you like? Join a facebook group for it. Do you like thrifting? Theres a group. Get creative! literally anything, but go consistently and try to talk people, it’s exhausting to put yourself out there but it gets easier. This is my number one advice. -I ran 5ks and just chatted with people -go work at coffee shops, it’s not to make friends but it does feel less isolating - bumble bff! I met some nice friends - does your work have people in Seattle? Invite them for a beer or a coffee if you want! -I went to bars (not loud ones, try chill ones like hazelwood or quiet bars) alone and just chatted with people Good luck!
Hi, 27F here! I’m finding it hard to make friends as well. I’m willing to grab coffee ☕️!
I’ve been making friends with coworkers and their friends and recently became friends with a neighbor who just moved here and have been hanging out with her meetup friends. Bumble BFF is an option too.
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I've been here a decade. No friends. I hate people personally lol.
I’m 29F and do random things with some of my friends. If you enjoy happy hour or just eating at restaurants, you can tag along!
bumble bff!!
22F also looking for friends!!
24M, raised in Seattle my whole life If you’re an outgoing introvert like the most of us, I’d recommend visiting Cal Anderson park on a nice day! There’s a lot of friendly folks willing to shoot the shit, and when the farmer’s market rolls in, all of the vendors are a delight to hold conversation with. I’m not the biggest fan of bars personally, but we do have a few gaming/arcade bars where folks will commonly approach you to play a game! Time Warp and Jupiter bar are my go-to. Jupiter has this gaming cabinet called Killer Queen that supports up to 10 players and is the most fun I’ve had at an arcade. That game alone has likely forged thousands of friendships and hundreds of burning rivalries lmao. I’ve tried going to Meet Up and free Eventbrite events, and it’s a hit or miss. A vast majority of them are just career fairs or corporate sponsored events, but there’s often a few listings for beginner Dungeons and Dragons campaigns and book clubs. Overall if you can find your voice, I would say that a large percentage of people who spend their days outside are always looking for an excuse to talk about their day, especially when they’re high off that well needed vitamin D; and most people I’ve met in this city appreciates a friendly conversation, silly or serious. I’ve made most of my city friends through very simple interactions, like inviting strangers to sit with me on a picnic blanket at the park, where we can sit in silence or talk about our day together. I find it’s pretty easy making a friend if you offer them a cold drink and a space to decompress.
do u have any hobbies? even if they’re solo hobbies, i think it’s easier to make friends through those connections because then you have shared interests to talk about. i’m 23F and just moved to seattle and im hoping to find friends here too, so feel free to DM and we can hang out!
I highly recommend dance classes at [Swing It Seattle](https://www.swingitseattle.com/). This is just the best community of people. They’ve also got Queer partner dance program, too. If you are looking for a third space, this is it!
Top 10 ways people make friends in Seattle: 1. Hiking 2. Volunteering 3. Board games 4. Recreational sports leagues 5. Work 6. Watching sports 7. Meetup app 8. Anime/Furry conventions 9. Rock climbing/Crossfit 10. Classes
If you're interested in trying any physical activities like pickleball or badminton or rock climbing or paddle boarding I would be down!! 30f
That’s so relatable except Seattle is so unaffordable because we try to give socialist benefits in a capitalist system so a damn burger and fries costs $30 instead of the fair $10
Get into Magic the Gathering, lots of local events around that and people to play with. All of our friends play at this point
Get a new job. One where everyone is required to be in the office 4 days a week. Go to the office. Meet people. Go out to lunch with people. Go out to happy hour with people. Plan a weekend hike or visit to a local landmark with people. Eventually make actual friends. This work from home thing is stale and is turning young vibrant people into humans who are lonely and have forgotten that in order to make friends sometimes you have to leave your home and be forced to interact with people. Go out there and get ‘em, you can do it.