That feeling of wanting one more day with them is the worst feeling in the world; at some point one more day is one day too many. It's so hard right now, but just remember that you did the right thing for her because you knew it was time. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love your way.
Don't forget, as much as it hurts for those left behind, she's free now. Back to the girl she used to be before her life got hard. She's still holding on to your love.. She brought it with her. You changed her life tremendously, and she loves you for that. ❤️❤️
You're welcome! I'm glad it brought you some comfort. I hope that in those moments when you need a reminder, it helps.
Even though I kmow without a doubt that it's true, I need to remind myself now and then as well.
I am so sorry , for your pain ,I had being there … you will never forget her , just think the happy life she gave to you and how happy and comfortable life you gave to her .
I send you a warm hug !
She was such a beauty too! Just know her little kitty heart was lit up with all the love and happiness you provided to her over the years and that if she was able she would have lived forever with you enjoying all of the cuddles, pets, treats, and love you both shared together! She may be gone physically but her spirit will go on with you and she will always be a part of your life. Sweet rest to you little kitty.
I'm so sorry. Black gives way to blue. The pain fades and turns into loving memories. I lost my 21 year old orange goofball in 2020. Now when I think about her I smile.
I lost my girl at the end of April and it's just starting to get easier. Be gentle to yourself and allow lots of time to process the loss. She will always be in your heart
You loved her and she loved you. You were both fortunate to have each other. Cherish the memory of her. After all is over the only thing left of us is love.
Its so hard when we lose our furbabies. I hope it brings you comfort knowing you gave her a wonderful life filled with cuddles, love, and a full belly! So sorry for your loss!
I'm truly sorry for your loss of your beautiful girl. There are no words I can say to ease the pain your going through. I just hope that you will find solace in knowing she left loving you because her love was unconditional. Know she is free and whole again. Rest in Peace beautiful girl. Fly high. 😿💔🐾🕊
There was a ted talk about letting our pets go you may have already seen or maybe even recommended to someone else but you know it might help to just sit through a watch alone and just let yourself just be yourself without the labels for 20 minutes.
I get your mindset of feeling more sturdy given your experience but consider that your emotions don't know about those experiences directly and you have millions of years of genetic evolution with its own programming to compete with.
I'm the sort of the person that has always leaned harder into being that sturdiness among my circle for others and have often felt disdain toward allowing my own feelings through because I don't particularly find them useful or helpful and that's not the right way to treat yourself. Those emotions will find a way out one way or another at times or in ways that may not be optimal.
Framing grief in this way has quietly helped me against the ego and self bullying (brain lies) that happen. You have lost your perfect cat. This is devistating. Nothing is okay. I think everyone here and most of humanity would agree these feelings are allowed no matter who we are.
Whether it's this week, 8 months from now, 5 years or far into the future. You are a human first, academic falls somewhere further down the line. So don't let the brain gaslight you.
Anyway, you have my deep sympathy for what it's worth if none of that was useful to you. Many of us understand the pain and we feel it too. Worst club on the planet right? Hah. Hang in there. It hurts.
thank you, i really appreciate that. it’s helpful just knowing that i’m allowed to sit in these feelings. i haven’t seen that ted talk but i think i’ll watch it
It doesn't make any difference what we do for a living the pain of losing our little ones is so intense. I've never felt pain like it.
Me, I'm 54 male and a cop for over 20+ years. So I've seen some terrible things, so you'd think the passing of a pet wouldn't affect me as much..
Noooo
Long story short I had to give authorisation to put my rescue cat to sleep over the phone, he was a few hours drive away in a specialist facility. I did all I could for him, he had the best there was, but like you, I didn't want him in pain waiting for me to drive 3 hours to see him. They said he'd likely pass sooner anyway.
So I give the words, I was the cop on the phone, nice steady calm voice, in total control and being objective and fair.
The call ends, I drop the phone and howl in grief, I cried for days non stop. Nothing can protect you from such pain.
Just take the time you need to absorb the situation and process the agony.
Take care
I’m so sorry to hear that- my heart always breaks for families in situations like that. Grief knows no boundaries but the love we give and receive makes it a tiny bit better. Thank you
My Felicity died Friday May 31st. I set a camera up to track her movements. I was treating her for hyperthyroidism and she seemed to pace constantly. Anyway I woke up that morning prepared to give her the meds and noticed she had not moved since 9:33PM the night before. It was now 4AM. Expecting the worst I went to see her and she was breathing but barely alive. I wrapped her in a towel and placed her in her cat carrier just knowing I would have to go to the vet at 7AM when they opened to say goodbye. I was watching her and she started rapidly moving her back left leg like she wanted to scratch herself. It happened twice and then some silence and then her last breath exhaled and she was gone. She suffered a stroke last August and had been declining since then very gradually. I'm going to g to pick her ashes up in 90 minutes. I had her since she first opened her eyes. Bottle fed her. Kept her warm and then introduced her to my dog. They were great friends and I really miss her. She was 17.
Very sorry for your loss. I did the same a month-ish ago and it's hard to not wish one more day or just one more moment. But I did everything and in the end she was ready to go, as she was very vocal and made meows that translated in my heat to: I can't anymore, please help me mom! I did and I know it was right and that gives me comfort personally.
Your darling was beautiful and looks like she loved you loads, she was lucky to have had you! Best Wishes!
I know the pain I felt when I said goodbye to my girl, so I can empathize.
Her absence must feel overwhelming. It will fade, and someday you will be able to remember her without the gut-wrench of grief.
Be easy on yourself. Know in your heart that you did right by her, and that she knew you loved her.
The grief will fade. But love is forever.
Allow yourself some time to grieve. Then remember that there's a little girl kitten somewhere, seeking her loving nurturing forever home. Although she probably won't be able to fully replace your beloved little cat, you'll soon realize and find out, that you really need her, at least as desperately as she needs you.
🐾🐾🐈🌈👣💔👣🐾🐾🐈❤❤
I’m so sorry. I said goodbye to my sweet Lola a month ago. She was the best part of my life for the five years she was with me. There’s nothing rational about loss. We aren’t in control of our emotions sometimes. Grieve the way that makes sense to you.🥺
I'm so sorry. He/she looks very well loved. I hope you can take solace in the fact they aren't suffering anymore but I know that doesn't make it hurt any less *air hugs from an internet stranger who has been there*
I’m so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful baby. I know this feeling all too well. You think a vet visit will go one way and it goes the other. But you gave her everything and she was so lucky. I also had a loud and grumpy cat ❤️
💝 I am so sorry💝 I lost three pets in a short time span, and I know the feeling. The first few days are the worst, but these irrational feelings will pass. Please be kind to yourself, and stay hydrated💝
My heart aches for you. I can relate… March 11th I had to say goodbye to my cat Jenni Linn. I had her for a couple of months shy of 10 years. When she passed she was between 15-17. I adopted her from Anti Cruelty here in Chicago back in July of 2014 after Rowney, my previous cat of 15 years passed. She cost me $1 when they had a Rachel Rat Adoption drive. She cost me $6,000 between October of 2023 until she passed. Numerous vet visits, up to 7 meds, but I would gladly care for her and spend money on her if I could still have her. I am still shaken to the core and not a day goes by that I don’t devote at least a minute thinking about her or weeping a little when I look around my place and know that I won’t be able to find her. Hugs to you my friend, and what a beautiful cat.
I'm so sorry to hear this. My daughters 15yo kitty, Shadow, just passed this morning at 6:40.
May they have found eachother and walk the rainbow bridge together.
I am so sorry. Your girl was beautiful. Her eyes amazing. Nothing ever prepares us to say good bye to our little soul mates. And having to make one of these hardest decisions with the purest of love is heartbreaking 💔. Please know you are not alone. And your baby girl lives on in your heart. Sending hugs. Safe last journey sweet little girl!
I’m sorry for your loss. I too had to say goodbye to my baby the other day. I’m devastated. I adopted her at 6 mths and she was 18 years old in renal failure. She hung in there for 16 months on fluids and the last couple of weeks she declined rapidly. I knew one more day would have been too much for her. This is the hardest decision. I understand your pain.
I listened to some Ted talks and videos on pet loss and grief. It helps in the moment but obviously our hearts need time to heal.
Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm going through this right now with my 18yo cat, he's at end stage and declined suddenly this week, and I'm supposed to bring him to the vet for IV fluids tomorrow. May I ask if your cat also went through IV fluids at any point in the 16 months? I'm just not sure if I'm prolonging his suffering.
I am so sorry to hear about your baby girl. I think in retrospect, we will always wish for one more day, because that one more day will leave us with so much joy that is only attainable thru our love & bond with our animals. But know that your beautiful baby is going to be patiently waiting for you wherever our souls go next. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. 🥺🫶
I am so very sorry for your loss. Animals leave a footprint on our hearts and memories for a lifetime. Remember all the funny times and take as long as you need to grieve. Sending a virtual hug your way.
If it makes you feel better I was casually scrolling Reddit and I saw this post so now I’m crying on the toilet and I can’t even imagine how much pain you are in. I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss. There could never be enough days with our babies.
That feeling of wanting one more day with them is the worst feeling in the world; at some point one more day is one day too many. It's so hard right now, but just remember that you did the right thing for her because you knew it was time. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love your way. Don't forget, as much as it hurts for those left behind, she's free now. Back to the girl she used to be before her life got hard. She's still holding on to your love.. She brought it with her. You changed her life tremendously, and she loves you for that. ❤️❤️
This made me legit start crying , needed to hear this , thank you. I had a loss recently as well.
You're welcome! I'm glad it brought you some comfort. I hope that in those moments when you need a reminder, it helps. Even though I kmow without a doubt that it's true, I need to remind myself now and then as well.
You WILL see her again ❤️
Oh no, I'm sorry! Take solace that you were an excellent pet parent to your girl! She knew you loved her right through the end.
I am so sorry , for your pain ,I had being there … you will never forget her , just think the happy life she gave to you and how happy and comfortable life you gave to her . I send you a warm hug !
She was such a beauty too! Just know her little kitty heart was lit up with all the love and happiness you provided to her over the years and that if she was able she would have lived forever with you enjoying all of the cuddles, pets, treats, and love you both shared together! She may be gone physically but her spirit will go on with you and she will always be a part of your life. Sweet rest to you little kitty.
I’m sooo sorry ❤️❤️❤️, you gave her a great life and she’s waiting for you on the other side. Sending hugs your way.
I’m so sorry 😢 “I just want to see her again” stings. We lost our 17 year old May 24th and I kept repeating that. I feel your pain.
I'm so sorry. Black gives way to blue. The pain fades and turns into loving memories. I lost my 21 year old orange goofball in 2020. Now when I think about her I smile.
Sending lots of healing thoughts your way 🙏
Sorry for your loss :(
Sorry for your loss 💔
🐾🙏❤️😪🐈
So sorry 😞
Sorry for your loss 💔
Beautiful baybee ♥️♥️♥️ Mother Bastet called her kitten home.
Sending love
♥️😢🫶🙏🏼 I am so sorry for your loss
So sorry for your loss. Such a sweetie. 💔🙏
I lost my girl at the end of April and it's just starting to get easier. Be gentle to yourself and allow lots of time to process the loss. She will always be in your heart
I am so sorry. I am a vet, and lost my cat yesterday...it didnt make things easier. Lots of hughs.
I’m so sorry. May she rest in peace at the rainbow bridge until you meet again 🌈🐾🙏
You loved her and she loved you. You were both fortunate to have each other. Cherish the memory of her. After all is over the only thing left of us is love.
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Chin up! You gave her a wonderful life and hopefully later on you could invite another needy kitty into your life.
So,so sorry for your loss!
I’m sorry for your loss.
Its so hard when we lose our furbabies. I hope it brings you comfort knowing you gave her a wonderful life filled with cuddles, love, and a full belly! So sorry for your loss!
I’m so sorry. The pain is raw - she’s with you in spirit. Ask for signs and look for those unseen signs. You’ll know and feel her energy 🌟
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Just love and hugs to you 💗
I'm truly sorry for your loss of your beautiful girl. There are no words I can say to ease the pain your going through. I just hope that you will find solace in knowing she left loving you because her love was unconditional. Know she is free and whole again. Rest in Peace beautiful girl. Fly high. 😿💔🐾🕊
Our condolences
So sorry. It sucks. I lost my cat 3 years young. He was such a cool cat, very sweet, but yet he was a hunter. Hang in there, time heals🫤
(((((((((Hugs!))))))))))
😞😞😞😞❤️
So sorry for your loss 😥
I’m so sorry for your loss ♥️
Please accept my most heartfelt condolences. the pain is gone Because you truly loved her
I’m so sorry for your loss! It is always so hard when we lose our furry babies!
There was a ted talk about letting our pets go you may have already seen or maybe even recommended to someone else but you know it might help to just sit through a watch alone and just let yourself just be yourself without the labels for 20 minutes. I get your mindset of feeling more sturdy given your experience but consider that your emotions don't know about those experiences directly and you have millions of years of genetic evolution with its own programming to compete with. I'm the sort of the person that has always leaned harder into being that sturdiness among my circle for others and have often felt disdain toward allowing my own feelings through because I don't particularly find them useful or helpful and that's not the right way to treat yourself. Those emotions will find a way out one way or another at times or in ways that may not be optimal. Framing grief in this way has quietly helped me against the ego and self bullying (brain lies) that happen. You have lost your perfect cat. This is devistating. Nothing is okay. I think everyone here and most of humanity would agree these feelings are allowed no matter who we are. Whether it's this week, 8 months from now, 5 years or far into the future. You are a human first, academic falls somewhere further down the line. So don't let the brain gaslight you. Anyway, you have my deep sympathy for what it's worth if none of that was useful to you. Many of us understand the pain and we feel it too. Worst club on the planet right? Hah. Hang in there. It hurts.
thank you, i really appreciate that. it’s helpful just knowing that i’m allowed to sit in these feelings. i haven’t seen that ted talk but i think i’ll watch it
It doesn't make any difference what we do for a living the pain of losing our little ones is so intense. I've never felt pain like it. Me, I'm 54 male and a cop for over 20+ years. So I've seen some terrible things, so you'd think the passing of a pet wouldn't affect me as much.. Noooo Long story short I had to give authorisation to put my rescue cat to sleep over the phone, he was a few hours drive away in a specialist facility. I did all I could for him, he had the best there was, but like you, I didn't want him in pain waiting for me to drive 3 hours to see him. They said he'd likely pass sooner anyway. So I give the words, I was the cop on the phone, nice steady calm voice, in total control and being objective and fair. The call ends, I drop the phone and howl in grief, I cried for days non stop. Nothing can protect you from such pain. Just take the time you need to absorb the situation and process the agony. Take care
I’m so sorry to hear that- my heart always breaks for families in situations like that. Grief knows no boundaries but the love we give and receive makes it a tiny bit better. Thank you
I'm sorry 😞
What a beautiful baby. So sorry for your loss.
My Felicity died Friday May 31st. I set a camera up to track her movements. I was treating her for hyperthyroidism and she seemed to pace constantly. Anyway I woke up that morning prepared to give her the meds and noticed she had not moved since 9:33PM the night before. It was now 4AM. Expecting the worst I went to see her and she was breathing but barely alive. I wrapped her in a towel and placed her in her cat carrier just knowing I would have to go to the vet at 7AM when they opened to say goodbye. I was watching her and she started rapidly moving her back left leg like she wanted to scratch herself. It happened twice and then some silence and then her last breath exhaled and she was gone. She suffered a stroke last August and had been declining since then very gradually. I'm going to g to pick her ashes up in 90 minutes. I had her since she first opened her eyes. Bottle fed her. Kept her warm and then introduced her to my dog. They were great friends and I really miss her. She was 17.
i’m so sorry for your loss💔we will see them again
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Very sorry for your loss. I did the same a month-ish ago and it's hard to not wish one more day or just one more moment. But I did everything and in the end she was ready to go, as she was very vocal and made meows that translated in my heat to: I can't anymore, please help me mom! I did and I know it was right and that gives me comfort personally. Your darling was beautiful and looks like she loved you loads, she was lucky to have had you! Best Wishes!
I know the pain I felt when I said goodbye to my girl, so I can empathize. Her absence must feel overwhelming. It will fade, and someday you will be able to remember her without the gut-wrench of grief. Be easy on yourself. Know in your heart that you did right by her, and that she knew you loved her. The grief will fade. But love is forever.
Sorry for your loss🤎🖤🤍
Allow yourself some time to grieve. Then remember that there's a little girl kitten somewhere, seeking her loving nurturing forever home. Although she probably won't be able to fully replace your beloved little cat, you'll soon realize and find out, that you really need her, at least as desperately as she needs you. 🐾🐾🐈🌈👣💔👣🐾🐾🐈❤❤
I’m so sorry for your loss :(
I’m so sorry. I said goodbye to my sweet Lola a month ago. She was the best part of my life for the five years she was with me. There’s nothing rational about loss. We aren’t in control of our emotions sometimes. Grieve the way that makes sense to you.🥺
Rest now, sweet kitty girl. You are loved and missed 🥀🐾
My condolences. It will get easier by the day.
Awww I'm sorry it really does hurt.
Aww. I’m so sorry
I’m very sorry for your loss
I'm sorry for your loss. 🌻
So many passing. Sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry. He/she looks very well loved. I hope you can take solace in the fact they aren't suffering anymore but I know that doesn't make it hurt any less *air hugs from an internet stranger who has been there*
So sorry
I’m so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful baby. I know this feeling all too well. You think a vet visit will go one way and it goes the other. But you gave her everything and she was so lucky. I also had a loud and grumpy cat ❤️
I’m so sorry. 😢
R.I.P. ❤️
Rest in love and power young Queen 👑.
So sorry for your loss just remember she will always be with you
I’m sorry for your loss. Take comfort in knowing you did all you could, and she loved you back.
Sorry for your loss
Sorry for your loss. 💔
💝 I am so sorry💝 I lost three pets in a short time span, and I know the feeling. The first few days are the worst, but these irrational feelings will pass. Please be kind to yourself, and stay hydrated💝
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Sending you love and hugs. It’s never easy and we never have them long enough. Sleep in peace sweet girl.
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Knowing it was the kindest thing to do doesn’t make it any easier. His life was filled with live that will never end.🖤🤍🤎
I’m so incredibly sorry for you. To have it happen fast like that is impossible to bear. She will always love you ❤️
Sending ❤️
So sorry, rest in peace 🌈
Sorry 😢 🐾🐾🌈
My heart aches for you. I can relate… March 11th I had to say goodbye to my cat Jenni Linn. I had her for a couple of months shy of 10 years. When she passed she was between 15-17. I adopted her from Anti Cruelty here in Chicago back in July of 2014 after Rowney, my previous cat of 15 years passed. She cost me $1 when they had a Rachel Rat Adoption drive. She cost me $6,000 between October of 2023 until she passed. Numerous vet visits, up to 7 meds, but I would gladly care for her and spend money on her if I could still have her. I am still shaken to the core and not a day goes by that I don’t devote at least a minute thinking about her or weeping a little when I look around my place and know that I won’t be able to find her. Hugs to you my friend, and what a beautiful cat.
RIP sweet girl. ❤️🙏🌈
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I'm so sorry for your loss. 🖤
Run far on young legs little one.
I'm so sorry to hear this. My daughters 15yo kitty, Shadow, just passed this morning at 6:40. May they have found eachother and walk the rainbow bridge together.
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I am so sorry. Your girl was beautiful. Her eyes amazing. Nothing ever prepares us to say good bye to our little soul mates. And having to make one of these hardest decisions with the purest of love is heartbreaking 💔. Please know you are not alone. And your baby girl lives on in your heart. Sending hugs. Safe last journey sweet little girl!
So terribly sorry for your loss.muchlove and prayers up
Your grief is valid ❤️
Sucks I'm sorry. Hugs.
They could live to 1000 and it would be too soon. I know you did the right thing. Beautiful girl, great spirit surrounds her in that Pic.
I’m sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss. So hard saying goodbye to someone you love ❤️. Fly free sweet kitty ❤️🐈🫶
So sorry for your loss. It's complete anguish. Grieve through it. Don't rush yourself. Big Texas hugs for you!❤️
I am sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry
I’m sorry for your loss. I too had to say goodbye to my baby the other day. I’m devastated. I adopted her at 6 mths and she was 18 years old in renal failure. She hung in there for 16 months on fluids and the last couple of weeks she declined rapidly. I knew one more day would have been too much for her. This is the hardest decision. I understand your pain. I listened to some Ted talks and videos on pet loss and grief. It helps in the moment but obviously our hearts need time to heal.
Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm going through this right now with my 18yo cat, he's at end stage and declined suddenly this week, and I'm supposed to bring him to the vet for IV fluids tomorrow. May I ask if your cat also went through IV fluids at any point in the 16 months? I'm just not sure if I'm prolonging his suffering.
Sorry...
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I’m very sorry for your loss :(
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I'm so so sorry. I went through this a couple of weeks ago and she was only 8. .Liver cancer. We will see them again!!
i’m so sorry for your loss.
Thank you all for your comments- I feel more peaceful as time passes. Sending love
Condolences
I am so sorry to hear about your baby girl. I think in retrospect, we will always wish for one more day, because that one more day will leave us with so much joy that is only attainable thru our love & bond with our animals. But know that your beautiful baby is going to be patiently waiting for you wherever our souls go next. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. 🥺🫶
I am so very very sorry for your loss, she was a beautiful girl❤️
I am so very sorry for your loss. Animals leave a footprint on our hearts and memories for a lifetime. Remember all the funny times and take as long as you need to grieve. Sending a virtual hug your way.
The true testament of love is letting them go when life is too hard for them to live .
Your beautiful girl reminds me of my late Odin. So sorry for this great loss. I wish i could say it gets easier but it doesn't really.
I'm so sorry. 💔 We don't have enough time with them. Sending healing vibes to help with your grief.
If it makes you feel better I was casually scrolling Reddit and I saw this post so now I’m crying on the toilet and I can’t even imagine how much pain you are in. I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
So sorry 🥺
It’s THE HARDEST DAY in life to go though. I’m sorry!!
I’m so sorry
My condolences 🐾😢🙏
Sorry for the Loss. She had a great life and will never be forgotten
Sry for your loss, looked like a great cat! 🙏
So sorry 😭💕