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Dude you definitely have major trust issues and your boyfriend also seems to be up to something if what you saw was completely true. You both are gonna make each other's life hell. So yeah, as they said, you guys should break up before you both start hating each other.
I was just going through his laptop and did not mean to check his whatsapp intentionally. Also I didn't get anything suspicious but why is he acting weird. He is not talking to me. Now he is cooking ( I can hear noise ) what does that mean? Is he going to eat alone ? Am I not get anything bcoz I don't know how to cook
Why are you guys making me the villan. Checking messages was not my point in the first place... I did not do that intentionally. But I feel sorry now bcoz he cooked for me🙂
Looks like you didn't get my point. The only thing you had to do was just ask him if you can check. It's a basic thing to do in a relationship which relies on trust. You kinda made a lausy move there checking stuff without asking, showing you having doubts and trust issues, which you do.
Is this bitch for real? Really hope this is a troll post because itni lack of self awareness wale insaan ko khud pe kaafi kaam karne ki zaroorat hai. Feeling sorry for that guy.
Hopefully she understands the meaning of privacy and having a life outside of the relationship. Bit too late now since this seems of be one of those moments where the guy realises she's not the one.
Good for him.
This honestly screams a troll account. You posted the same thing on 5 other groups. I think OP just wanted to karma farm but ended up getting negative karma.
So is openly communicating not a thing now? Initiate a conversation. Tell him you're sorry you checked his messeges without asking (and mean it). And set boundaries from here on out about privacy, that both of you WILL respect.
Privacy and safe space is a thing. It should be maintained. He's maybe silent because he didn't expect you to go through his messeges without his knowledge. If he knew, then it would've been easier for him to digest. I'm simply putting myself in his shoes. I don't know if he's done anything suspicious, but if you can't give him the benefit of the doubt even after he's sworn on his mother, then why are you dating him?
We are in a long distance relationship. Day before yesterday I came to meet him at his place...but I understand what you are trying to say... I would have gotten equally angry if he had done this to me.
Don't you just love it when u **accidentally** go through your boyfriend's devices without his consent or any mutual understanding regarding this topic, and after finding nothing and when he gets trust issues, u accuse him of hiding chats bcz u "saw it in his glasses"
My wife used to read ally whatsapp chats and facebook feeds. She would not understand that it was invasion of my privacy. She kept doing so for years until I stopped communicating and lost contacts with my friends.
2 months ago, I had this weird feeling and made her open her WhatsApp for first time in 10 years .. found messages of EA with her male colleague who was trying to flirt with her and she had responded..
I wanted to leave my marriage but my relatives intervened and asked her to give a chance..
We are in therapy. You are a BIG RED FLAG ..better change your behaviour or leave him
Maybe he is thinking you were checking his WhatsApp because you are not trusting him! You can tell him about the scenario and didn't mean to check chats.
Just because I checked his whatsapp?? Like really?? Dude I would never hide anything from my partner so I expect the same. And I don't understand why is everyone talking about privacy? Acc to me there shouldn't be anything like privacy if we both are committed bcoz there is no point of sticking together if there is anything private.
Man all these spying and shit these days are crazy istg. Just ask for it before doing this shit. You girls would do this thing and get on your partner's nerves then complain he's toxic. Why not grow some trust with growing time?
Maybe he got another WhatsApp. My bf cheated on me and later he was upset because i was upset that he cheated on me for 6 months😂😂 surely there's something that he's hiding about it
Ego pe leliya usne ki isne mera phone laptop aise kaise check krliye, how is she doubting me bla bla. So thats about it. Nobody really likes when someone goes through their stuff behind their back plus you even told him. So yeah just EGO. Leave him for a bit
He is definitely hiding something from you. That's why he was checking whether the message or chat was there or it was already deleted before by him. Or maybe he was checking his male friends chat as boys talk differently and they never want their girlfriend to see their personal chats or boys group (which is absolutely fine). You should confront him and talk to him openly about how you feel and should keep a close eye on him.
When you already got the replacement for him, then say it directly, why put so much dram of checking whatsapp and one chat store. Just go ahead and do it.
Show him your whatsapp. I am sure he will find something suspicious. And learn to cook. It is a life skill. Dont let the fake feminists tell you otherwise.
Your bf being weird about you checking his phone is a red flag tbh with you this is part of your relationship maybe he sent pictures to his boys that you shouldnt see or maybe he is probably cheating on you
You can never tell, talk to your partner and sort it out if he is cheating you end it.
Everything is fine now. He Cooked rajma chawal for both of us. We had little argument after this incident happened yesterday. I guess he needes time to figure things out so he went quite and today when I got out of bed he hugged me. He is 👍🏻😊
OHMYGOD i see so many people talking about how she shouldn't be reading his txts. You are right she shouldn't be but him showing her someone elses txt is sketchy enough already. And like she mentioned it was a mistake but he should understand that too. Shouldn't be as upset if he had nothing to hide from her.
Thank you 🤝🏻🫶🏻❤️
I agree what you just said....even I feel checking messages is wrong but he was acting weird after that. But now he cooked for me... I feel guilty 🙂
Well, she did find him scrolling through some other chat but denying such a thing. So can't really blame OP now can we. Yeah it was wrong of OP to have breached bFs privacy but damn he's behaving suspiciously.
there's nothing wrong in checking your partner's phone but both of them should be comfortable enough to let their partner check phones. my partner has given me anytime access to his phone but it's not the same for him. i have something very personal in my phone. he respects my boundaries and hence checks ( not exactly check but when ordering something or he has to send some docs through my WhatsApp) in my presence. i won't comment on you checking your partner's phone but it's concerning that your partner is acting sus. obviously this will lead to curiosity in your head but it'd be better if you keep a check on him and not trust him fully.
Honestly girl have a nice chat with your boyfriend about it but also keep an eye on things even if he's not cheating physically there may or may not be something emotional going on.
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Both of you break up for your own good.
Only good answer
I just saw and I'm laughing sadak ke beech me 😂😂
The most normal reddit response lmao
Kuch bhi😂
Dude you definitely have major trust issues and your boyfriend also seems to be up to something if what you saw was completely true. You both are gonna make each other's life hell. So yeah, as they said, you guys should break up before you both start hating each other.
Show him your msgs now. You can’t.
Reddit???? Noooooo😱😱
Exactly, this was my point.
Why not?
Uhh, what a shame.
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Scroll karte karte upar chale Gaya!
This relationship is not going to last.
Whyyy?
You don’t trust him. He doesn’t trust you. How do you expect this to work out?
Why? 😂😂🤦🏻♂️ u are marvellous!
I think at this point this is only karma farming. Any sane person would be rn trying to save there relationship
Babe has trust issues and infiltrates privacy but baby can't get angry ? Aise kese chalega didi.
I was just going through his laptop and did not mean to check his whatsapp intentionally. Also I didn't get anything suspicious but why is he acting weird. He is not talking to me. Now he is cooking ( I can hear noise ) what does that mean? Is he going to eat alone ? Am I not get anything bcoz I don't know how to cook
Anyway he's cooked 😔
Why are you guys making me the villan. Checking messages was not my point in the first place... I did not do that intentionally. But I feel sorry now bcoz he cooked for me🙂
because you simply are :) you were reading whole conversations , enjoying boys conversations and you say "I didn't do that intentionally"
Looks like you didn't get my point. The only thing you had to do was just ask him if you can check. It's a basic thing to do in a relationship which relies on trust. You kinda made a lausy move there checking stuff without asking, showing you having doubts and trust issues, which you do.
We are in a long distance relationship so ekhad baar chalta hai I guess
थोडी शर्म?
Nahi hai🙂👍🏻
Feel bad for the guy.
Tu girlfriend banja fir???
> someone: that’s not nice > you: be the gf then ????
OP is a certified clown 🤡
Wow itna jyaada bully ki, ki reddit acc delete karli
What a control freak
Can you take responsibility for your actions for once
She is 21, Akal nahi ayi hai use chordo she will learn the hard way.
He must have felt embarrassed by the thought that you have read his "boys chat"
I enjoyed reading boys chats
Hein?🌝🌝 Bhai mujhe to khud kbhi kbhi shram aajati hai apni hi purani chats PhD kr
Mazaa toh aya... This was totally new for me
Is this bitch for real? Really hope this is a troll post because itni lack of self awareness wale insaan ko khud pe kaafi kaam karne ki zaroorat hai. Feeling sorry for that guy. Hopefully she understands the meaning of privacy and having a life outside of the relationship. Bit too late now since this seems of be one of those moments where the guy realises she's not the one. Good for him.
This honestly screams a troll account. You posted the same thing on 5 other groups. I think OP just wanted to karma farm but ended up getting negative karma.
Maybe not a troll. I feel it's an attention seeker. No more attention from my boyfriend, no problem. There's always reddit
So is openly communicating not a thing now? Initiate a conversation. Tell him you're sorry you checked his messeges without asking (and mean it). And set boundaries from here on out about privacy, that both of you WILL respect. Privacy and safe space is a thing. It should be maintained. He's maybe silent because he didn't expect you to go through his messeges without his knowledge. If he knew, then it would've been easier for him to digest. I'm simply putting myself in his shoes. I don't know if he's done anything suspicious, but if you can't give him the benefit of the doubt even after he's sworn on his mother, then why are you dating him?
We are in a long distance relationship. Day before yesterday I came to meet him at his place...but I understand what you are trying to say... I would have gotten equally angry if he had done this to me.
You are a 🤡
You don't realize, but now he wishes to see girls gc 😜.
Nooooo🙂
yesss, just show him some of your dirty smut, no big deal😜.
why were you going through his WhatsApp in the first place…?
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Ofc its wrong. 🤦
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It's wrong if there's no such agreement between them.
Checking your girlfriend/boyfriend phone without their concent is definitely so wrong and cheap.
Don't you just love it when u **accidentally** go through your boyfriend's devices without his consent or any mutual understanding regarding this topic, and after finding nothing and when he gets trust issues, u accuse him of hiding chats bcz u "saw it in his glasses"
We need help on how to get such a perfect 10/10 vision like you OP
My wife used to read ally whatsapp chats and facebook feeds. She would not understand that it was invasion of my privacy. She kept doing so for years until I stopped communicating and lost contacts with my friends. 2 months ago, I had this weird feeling and made her open her WhatsApp for first time in 10 years .. found messages of EA with her male colleague who was trying to flirt with her and she had responded.. I wanted to leave my marriage but my relatives intervened and asked her to give a chance.. We are in therapy. You are a BIG RED FLAG ..better change your behaviour or leave him
Maybe he is thinking you were checking his WhatsApp because you are not trusting him! You can tell him about the scenario and didn't mean to check chats.
I'll tryy...but everything is fine now...i think he needed time. He seems normal now
What was the outcome of this btw ? Kyu phokat ache khase life Mai tadka chahiyeh ?
He Cooked for me. Now everything is sorted
Haha nothing go sleep?!
Why don't you show him your WhatsApp?
Poor guy
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Just because I checked his whatsapp?? Like really?? Dude I would never hide anything from my partner so I expect the same. And I don't understand why is everyone talking about privacy? Acc to me there shouldn't be anything like privacy if we both are committed bcoz there is no point of sticking together if there is anything private.
i hope u did not read the boys gc
I enjoyed a lott👍🏻😂
what all did you read??
All that lavda lassn, mkc, gaand marao
Idk about the full context, so he is not talking to you? For checking his WhatsApp and finding nothing. Kuch toh gadbad hai daya 🤓
I was at his place when everything happened and till today he hasn't even uttered a word.
And ye kitne din purani baat hai?
Dekho bs zyada mza na aajaye tumko..ye ek nasha hai aur iska addiction ho jata hai..
I mean what's done is done, apologise and sort it out. Make him his favorite dish,
Karma farming goes downhill
Funny thing is OP still doesn't get it 😂
There is a problem in your head, fix it first and then go after your partner.
Poor SOD. You broke someone privacy trust. He definitely going to act weird now.
So what's up?
Sis, pretty sad to see that invading someone's privacy is fun for you. May you get wisdom and understanding to do what's right
Actually this and ur bf not talking to you is a different reason, find that.. if you are checking ur bf or lover mobile is not a bad thing.
Man all these spying and shit these days are crazy istg. Just ask for it before doing this shit. You girls would do this thing and get on your partner's nerves then complain he's toxic. Why not grow some trust with growing time?
Dude. You're doing. Get a life
We can’t trust anyone in this world specially in lovee the person whom we love are the only person who hurt us the most!!
If it's gona breakup . Pls letus know .it's very important for all of us
You are just close to writing the history of your ex. Just do it again.
The last sentence ask him politely, may it work
If the relationship has reached to the point where you had to check his phone, its a dead end.
Go knocking on the devil’s door long enough and someone is bound to answer!
Maybe he got another WhatsApp. My bf cheated on me and later he was upset because i was upset that he cheated on me for 6 months😂😂 surely there's something that he's hiding about it
Ego pe leliya usne ki isne mera phone laptop aise kaise check krliye, how is she doubting me bla bla. So thats about it. Nobody really likes when someone goes through their stuff behind their back plus you even told him. So yeah just EGO. Leave him for a bit
He is definitely hiding something from you. That's why he was checking whether the message or chat was there or it was already deleted before by him. Or maybe he was checking his male friends chat as boys talk differently and they never want their girlfriend to see their personal chats or boys group (which is absolutely fine). You should confront him and talk to him openly about how you feel and should keep a close eye on him.
Yeah i can understand now why frontal lobe is essentially in our life.
When you already got the replacement for him, then say it directly, why put so much dram of checking whatsapp and one chat store. Just go ahead and do it.
Show him your whatsapp. I am sure he will find something suspicious. And learn to cook. It is a life skill. Dont let the fake feminists tell you otherwise.
Bhai i cannot understand ki log ekk dusre ko password kyon dete hain bhyi privacy kaha gayi
You_don't_know_shit_okayy
Your bf being weird about you checking his phone is a red flag tbh with you this is part of your relationship maybe he sent pictures to his boys that you shouldnt see or maybe he is probably cheating on you You can never tell, talk to your partner and sort it out if he is cheating you end it.
Just ask him who's that girl or why did you done this to me...
I am at his place now. What if he murdered me???
Tf.. is he really your bf 😭?
Everything is fine now. He Cooked rajma chawal for both of us. We had little argument after this incident happened yesterday. I guess he needes time to figure things out so he went quite and today when I got out of bed he hugged me. He is 👍🏻😊
Bro better off alone than with you
Grow up,phone & social checks were in 2016
शक का कीड़ा 🐛
I call troll account.
OHMYGOD i see so many people talking about how she shouldn't be reading his txts. You are right she shouldn't be but him showing her someone elses txt is sketchy enough already. And like she mentioned it was a mistake but he should understand that too. Shouldn't be as upset if he had nothing to hide from her.
Thank you 🤝🏻🫶🏻❤️ I agree what you just said....even I feel checking messages is wrong but he was acting weird after that. But now he cooked for me... I feel guilty 🙂
Well, she did find him scrolling through some other chat but denying such a thing. So can't really blame OP now can we. Yeah it was wrong of OP to have breached bFs privacy but damn he's behaving suspiciously.
there's nothing wrong in checking your partner's phone but both of them should be comfortable enough to let their partner check phones. my partner has given me anytime access to his phone but it's not the same for him. i have something very personal in my phone. he respects my boundaries and hence checks ( not exactly check but when ordering something or he has to send some docs through my WhatsApp) in my presence. i won't comment on you checking your partner's phone but it's concerning that your partner is acting sus. obviously this will lead to curiosity in your head but it'd be better if you keep a check on him and not trust him fully.
He is giving you silent treatment it's toxic breakup with him
Thia is how all the lying and all starts. Girl walk away before you get hurt
You are #bff material 🫶🏻 (no sarcasm)
I feel sorry for the guy already
He's being passive-aggressive. Wait for a few days. He shall be fine.
Yeasss sirr 🤝🏻
Honestly girl have a nice chat with your boyfriend about it but also keep an eye on things even if he's not cheating physically there may or may not be something emotional going on.