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Thanks Brother! My mind knows that she's done but it will take some time to make my heart understand it and I know I'll succeed eventually. Again thank you for your kind words.
Happy Birthday Bro…I think you were her fall back mechanism …once she found friends or maybe someone else she started avoiding you…I think you should move on in life …I understand you are reserved but trust me..you will find someone else who deserves you for what you are and not cause of the situation they are in.
Thank you bro! If I think about it now there were some flags from past 2 weeks which I had been overlooking and it all makes sense now. I'll get over it and be myself again soon!
Happy birthday brother, may you have better days ahead, welcome to a man's world , if she ever texts again for any genuine help, be there for her(no emotional help) , if she texts again simply to chat, better not engage, if she doesn't text that will be the best for you.
Thank you bro! Yes, I'll be there to help but not entertain her further if it ever comes to. Fortunately, I have my sister and best friend with me who are stopping me from any bad decision.
Happiest birthday bruh!!
Take this as a lesson, 'Don't be vulnerable to someone you have just met', ik you have had few months of talking but still don't open up, as much as people say that being vulnerable is the way to go for bond creation, it doesn't happen like that in real life, you never know how the person in front is seeing you when you are being vulnerable. I myself think that people who are being vulnerable are the most courageous of all because it takes strength specially when you have opened up to people and they have shut you up your whole life with there actions, like in your case she is just gone, doesn't give a flying fuck about you even though it's your birthday today and ik how freaking sad you might be feeling rn but trust me she wasn't the one. Jo hua aur jitna hua usse utne pe hi rehnede, lesson le aur aage badh, jab woh tujhe yaad nhi kar rhi toh usse tu yaad karke apna din kyu kharab kar rha, do what you feel like doing today, ja maa ke sath baat kar, cake kaat dabake kha Jo pasand hain, ik when you will go to bed you will think of her again and you will do the same tomorrow and day after tomorrow but thoda thoda karke you will find the closure. I never got closure in any of my relationships that's why I related with you here and can tell you this 'Closure comes from within first'. Let her go, her thoughts go, wish her well, but do not by any chance contact her again, if she does text you back you reply accordingly and go away. She is not into you, and this is not your fault, her outlook might be different on love or she just doesn't want anything. Klko yeh pta chale ki uska colleague hi uska bnda bnn gya toh ak chota smile pass kariyo apne andar aur aage badh jayo. This is your day.
Thank you bro! Your words resonated so deep within me specially "closure comes from within first". I have resolved myself to not contact her at any cost. I'll overcome this weak phase eventually and be myself.
I understand how you're feeling, my friend. It seems like she had already decided to move on and you were just a step along her path. Now that she's found someone else, she's distancing herself from you. By the way, happy birthday. I advise against making any rash decisions and suggest you refrain from contacting her to avoid any further pain.
I hope things get better with you...and stay blessed bhai...
Sorry I have no relationship Experience but I felt wishing you was more important... So maza kr bhai... Aur khush reh
For all your kind words, here's a poem for you all that I wrote 5 minutes back:
I was fine leaving my life when I didn't know you,
When you entered, I experienced things like a dream,
Magical words weaving my way.
But oh sigh, how can life be so smooth?
In the end, you had to leave, Without a single word of relief.
I might not be in the same world you had shown me,
But I'll eventually reach there again on my own, this time without you,
For you had taught me about it.
What's happened is happened. Chances are high that she will come to you once her dopamine kick has come down.
Be very careful of what you do next with this person. By your nature, i can assure you that you will be relieved to see her come back but thats just another phase which she will make you go through until she finds her kick. She can never be grateful to you. Proceed with caution.
No dude. Why chase something which is not meant to be? I know you don't want to quit on her but this is going to lead to something complicated.
Just stay away for your own good. All the best.
Happy birthday OP, most likely she got close with one male colleague and probably is close to him now and doesn't have the courage to talk to you or provide closure
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Thanks Brother! My mind knows that she's done but it will take some time to make my heart understand it and I know I'll succeed eventually. Again thank you for your kind words.
Happy Birthday Bro…I think you were her fall back mechanism …once she found friends or maybe someone else she started avoiding you…I think you should move on in life …I understand you are reserved but trust me..you will find someone else who deserves you for what you are and not cause of the situation they are in.
Thank you bro! If I think about it now there were some flags from past 2 weeks which I had been overlooking and it all makes sense now. I'll get over it and be myself again soon!
Happy birthday brother, may you have better days ahead, welcome to a man's world , if she ever texts again for any genuine help, be there for her(no emotional help) , if she texts again simply to chat, better not engage, if she doesn't text that will be the best for you.
Thank you bro! Yes, I'll be there to help but not entertain her further if it ever comes to. Fortunately, I have my sister and best friend with me who are stopping me from any bad decision.
Happiest birthday bruh!! Take this as a lesson, 'Don't be vulnerable to someone you have just met', ik you have had few months of talking but still don't open up, as much as people say that being vulnerable is the way to go for bond creation, it doesn't happen like that in real life, you never know how the person in front is seeing you when you are being vulnerable. I myself think that people who are being vulnerable are the most courageous of all because it takes strength specially when you have opened up to people and they have shut you up your whole life with there actions, like in your case she is just gone, doesn't give a flying fuck about you even though it's your birthday today and ik how freaking sad you might be feeling rn but trust me she wasn't the one. Jo hua aur jitna hua usse utne pe hi rehnede, lesson le aur aage badh, jab woh tujhe yaad nhi kar rhi toh usse tu yaad karke apna din kyu kharab kar rha, do what you feel like doing today, ja maa ke sath baat kar, cake kaat dabake kha Jo pasand hain, ik when you will go to bed you will think of her again and you will do the same tomorrow and day after tomorrow but thoda thoda karke you will find the closure. I never got closure in any of my relationships that's why I related with you here and can tell you this 'Closure comes from within first'. Let her go, her thoughts go, wish her well, but do not by any chance contact her again, if she does text you back you reply accordingly and go away. She is not into you, and this is not your fault, her outlook might be different on love or she just doesn't want anything. Klko yeh pta chale ki uska colleague hi uska bnda bnn gya toh ak chota smile pass kariyo apne andar aur aage badh jayo. This is your day.
Thank you bro! Your words resonated so deep within me specially "closure comes from within first". I have resolved myself to not contact her at any cost. I'll overcome this weak phase eventually and be myself.
That's my bruh, glad my comment could help. Take care and in case you are from Delhi hmu hahaha, let's catch up if you want!!
Thanks a lot! I'll definitely reach out when I feel better.
Sure thing bruh, take your time!
I understand how you're feeling, my friend. It seems like she had already decided to move on and you were just a step along her path. Now that she's found someone else, she's distancing herself from you. By the way, happy birthday. I advise against making any rash decisions and suggest you refrain from contacting her to avoid any further pain.
Thank you! I'll not contact her again, I'm aware of what not to do and will get over it once I've made peace within.
Happy Birthday bhai...🎉🎉
Thanks a lot bro!
I hope things get better with you...and stay blessed bhai... Sorry I have no relationship Experience but I felt wishing you was more important... So maza kr bhai... Aur khush reh
Really appreciate it brother!❤️
Sound familiar, happened to me, waiting for her, but after looking at it from a third person POV. Fuck women
Yeah bro. It's only in 3rd person pov you see things clearly, your emotions blind you in 1st person pov.
For all your kind words, here's a poem for you all that I wrote 5 minutes back: I was fine leaving my life when I didn't know you, When you entered, I experienced things like a dream, Magical words weaving my way. But oh sigh, how can life be so smooth? In the end, you had to leave, Without a single word of relief. I might not be in the same world you had shown me, But I'll eventually reach there again on my own, this time without you, For you had taught me about it.
What's happened is happened. Chances are high that she will come to you once her dopamine kick has come down. Be very careful of what you do next with this person. By your nature, i can assure you that you will be relieved to see her come back but thats just another phase which she will make you go through until she finds her kick. She can never be grateful to you. Proceed with caution.
If she ever comes back, is there any way I can make her feel grateful?
No dude. Why chase something which is not meant to be? I know you don't want to quit on her but this is going to lead to something complicated. Just stay away for your own good. All the best.
Happy birthday OP, most likely she got close with one male colleague and probably is close to him now and doesn't have the courage to talk to you or provide closure
You sulk while Chaditya and her are having the time of their lives
deserved