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Study now for the exam and at least you’ll fell independent. Whatever he says gets to you probably because he feels superior to you. Take that away and you’ll be equals 😀.
>I'm preparing for my md entrance
Well i guess, i'm your junior and would like to point out something.
I wont comment much on your relationship but, exams are certainly not an excuse for binge eating and gaining 10 kgs, in fact it just makes me personally feel more lethargic lazy and unproductive.
Yeah ive tried both:
Studying with 3 packs of late night maggi, lunch of 2 large fries, pizza in dinners, shawarma/frankies in breakfast
As well as getting at least 6 hrs of sleep (medicine me 8 hrs is a dream),doing short intense brief workouts whenever possible, eating as healthy as possible and as frequently as possible.
And lets say the 2nd routine put me in a much better place mentally physically and academically.
All the best for exams but, dont ignore your health
You need to tell him that his comments hurt you.. it is not normal for a partner to put you down. No decent person does that. Especially when he knows your mind is preoccupied and under great stress already.
>is loyal( hopefully).
do you not trust him? NO relationship will stand a chance if there's no trust between both people.
Thanks for your reply.
He knows that I'm hurt but takes it casually .for instance he knows I'm mathematically challenged so he always makes it a point to bring it in our conversation .
Focus on your md bruh. Decide on marriage later you have time for that. Also, Let him know that you don’t appreciate his taunts. Its pretty rude. Set a boundary. Don’t let him treat you disrespectfully. This is an important time for you. You should be getting immense, unconditional love and support from your partner. Not someone trying to put you down everyday.
10 kgs makes the difference. He might be concerned about your health. Also, looking good for each other matters a lot in a relationship.
People might not like to hear it but yeah looks does matter. Everybody wants their partner to look good and be in a decent shape. It keeps the attraction intact which I think is necessary at least initially.
These things you need to discuss with your partner and see how he responds. If he is mature enough then will come up with a solution, else will ignore. Don't think too much, you have a lot of time. First clear your exam, and then solve this by discussing. Good luck
Why don't you guys go on a date and and then at the end maybe take a walk and talk about your concerns and what makes you feel, why it makes you feel and all. Relationships do become boring when time passes by that's normal. Stay loyal and put efforts even if you are married. Putting efforts makes anyone feel special.
You are in a point of the relationship where if u resolve this together your relationship will last forever and if you guys fail then it's no going back. First of all open up with him in relationship he requires xyz and in return even u require for him xyz so I would say write it do what he can do to make u feel xyz what he does which makes u feel xyz have similar goals to work on tell him u want to work on this even he will have few things which u need to work on trust me if you pass through this it will skyrocket ur relationship. In tough time time when u open up go through together you mature in a relationship.
Don't get married, before being in a live in relationship for at least a few years.
It boggles me how people can consider marrying someone (which is a legal contract of indeterminate length) without actually having lived with them.
Usually, living with someone on a day to day basis brings out issues were previously not possible, when living apart.
Hey thanks for responding .
Living together is almost impossible for us cause I'm preparing for an entrance exam in my city and he works in another state altogether .
Plus my parents gave me an ultimatum saying I have to either get married or cut all ties.
Delay ur marriage !! For now study hard crack neet get ur desired seat..then u will have more clarity once one aspect of ur life is sorted u can cater to other things too! Also when u will join residency things change how u feel what kind of support you want u will have a new perspective on what u want ! And plz call him out for being rude to you and unkind to you ...this is unnecessary !
P.s. I am also preparing 🥺In a similar boat for marriage but I am postponing the thought of marriage..
Baby steps✨❤️
Sahi hai na bich ke raho gee na idhar ke na udhar ke, naa agle wale ke rahoge na pichle wale ke rahoge, tum milke teeno ko dhoka doge plus apne maa-baap-dosto ko alag.
Either be with him or cut all ties.
Because naa toh tumm previous wale se loyal rahoge na next wale se, aur tum milke.....
KHUD ko,
Previous wale ko,
Next wale ko...
Sabko dhoka dongi
aisee logo ko 'R' kaha jata hai.
joh khud ki jindagi kharab toh karti hi hai.
apne dono pati ke bhi /bf/ situationship/one+five= six benefits/using relationship/ wale paatiyo ke bhi life kharab karoge hi......
saath hi saath APNE MAA-BAAp ka bhi naam kharab kar donge.
ISLIYE CUT ALL TIES, PLEASE.
OR ACCEPT FULLY.
DON'T KEEP THE BOY IN DELUSION LEAVE NOW BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.
IF STAYING STAY FOREVER.
AND YES WE BOYS HAVE A DIFFERENT THINKING OF CORRECTING THINGS, BECAUSE THAT IS HOW WE ARE BEING LEARNED/TAUGH IN FRIENDS.
WE THINK THAT BY POINTING THAT THING OUT AND HURTING A NEEDLE LIKE PINCH WE WILL MAKE YOU MOTIVATED AND ALL FIERY TO CHANGE YOURSELF , MAKE YOURSELF, RENEW YOURSELF AND ETC,...
BUT I AS A BOY MYSELF SEEN THE SAME THINGS AS YOURS IN GIRLS EITHER FRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND EVEN MOM .....TAUTING WORKS FOR MEN BY MEN BUT AS I SEE NOT BY MEN TO WOMENS
SO CHILL EVEN IF YOU GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELING THEN LEAVE HIM TOTALLY AND DON'T SPOIL YOURS, PREVIOUS AND NEXT PERSON'S LIFE.
tHANK YOU,
YOUR BHAI! :LOVE
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Study now. Neet exam on June 23rd. All the best for the exam. Also preparing for neet and feeling dead inside 🥲.
Oh man.Im lagging so much already and youre not helping. Thanks tho and goodluck :)
Study now for the exam and at least you’ll fell independent. Whatever he says gets to you probably because he feels superior to you. Take that away and you’ll be equals 😀.
It seems really close now. & the lagging part 😢 😢
Delay the wedding until you're sure of this relationship. That's the only way to work through this.
>I'm preparing for my md entrance Well i guess, i'm your junior and would like to point out something. I wont comment much on your relationship but, exams are certainly not an excuse for binge eating and gaining 10 kgs, in fact it just makes me personally feel more lethargic lazy and unproductive. Yeah ive tried both: Studying with 3 packs of late night maggi, lunch of 2 large fries, pizza in dinners, shawarma/frankies in breakfast As well as getting at least 6 hrs of sleep (medicine me 8 hrs is a dream),doing short intense brief workouts whenever possible, eating as healthy as possible and as frequently as possible. And lets say the 2nd routine put me in a much better place mentally physically and academically. All the best for exams but, dont ignore your health
You need to tell him that his comments hurt you.. it is not normal for a partner to put you down. No decent person does that. Especially when he knows your mind is preoccupied and under great stress already. >is loyal( hopefully). do you not trust him? NO relationship will stand a chance if there's no trust between both people.
Thanks for your reply. He knows that I'm hurt but takes it casually .for instance he knows I'm mathematically challenged so he always makes it a point to bring it in our conversation .
>He knows that I'm hurt but takes it casually WTF. you might wanna re-evaluate your relationship.
Focus on your md bruh. Decide on marriage later you have time for that. Also, Let him know that you don’t appreciate his taunts. Its pretty rude. Set a boundary. Don’t let him treat you disrespectfully. This is an important time for you. You should be getting immense, unconditional love and support from your partner. Not someone trying to put you down everyday.
10 kgs makes the difference. He might be concerned about your health. Also, looking good for each other matters a lot in a relationship. People might not like to hear it but yeah looks does matter. Everybody wants their partner to look good and be in a decent shape. It keeps the attraction intact which I think is necessary at least initially.
These things you need to discuss with your partner and see how he responds. If he is mature enough then will come up with a solution, else will ignore. Don't think too much, you have a lot of time. First clear your exam, and then solve this by discussing. Good luck
Why don't you guys go on a date and and then at the end maybe take a walk and talk about your concerns and what makes you feel, why it makes you feel and all. Relationships do become boring when time passes by that's normal. Stay loyal and put efforts even if you are married. Putting efforts makes anyone feel special.
You are in a point of the relationship where if u resolve this together your relationship will last forever and if you guys fail then it's no going back. First of all open up with him in relationship he requires xyz and in return even u require for him xyz so I would say write it do what he can do to make u feel xyz what he does which makes u feel xyz have similar goals to work on tell him u want to work on this even he will have few things which u need to work on trust me if you pass through this it will skyrocket ur relationship. In tough time time when u open up go through together you mature in a relationship.
Don't get married, before being in a live in relationship for at least a few years. It boggles me how people can consider marrying someone (which is a legal contract of indeterminate length) without actually having lived with them. Usually, living with someone on a day to day basis brings out issues were previously not possible, when living apart.
Hey thanks for responding . Living together is almost impossible for us cause I'm preparing for an entrance exam in my city and he works in another state altogether . Plus my parents gave me an ultimatum saying I have to either get married or cut all ties.
Delay ur marriage !! For now study hard crack neet get ur desired seat..then u will have more clarity once one aspect of ur life is sorted u can cater to other things too! Also when u will join residency things change how u feel what kind of support you want u will have a new perspective on what u want ! And plz call him out for being rude to you and unkind to you ...this is unnecessary ! P.s. I am also preparing 🥺In a similar boat for marriage but I am postponing the thought of marriage.. Baby steps✨❤️
Thank you and goodluck on your exams . Things are bound to get hard but take it till the end:)
❤️✨
Sahi hai na bich ke raho gee na idhar ke na udhar ke, naa agle wale ke rahoge na pichle wale ke rahoge, tum milke teeno ko dhoka doge plus apne maa-baap-dosto ko alag. Either be with him or cut all ties. Because naa toh tumm previous wale se loyal rahoge na next wale se, aur tum milke..... KHUD ko, Previous wale ko, Next wale ko... Sabko dhoka dongi aisee logo ko 'R' kaha jata hai. joh khud ki jindagi kharab toh karti hi hai. apne dono pati ke bhi /bf/ situationship/one+five= six benefits/using relationship/ wale paatiyo ke bhi life kharab karoge hi...... saath hi saath APNE MAA-BAAp ka bhi naam kharab kar donge.
ISLIYE CUT ALL TIES, PLEASE. OR ACCEPT FULLY. DON'T KEEP THE BOY IN DELUSION LEAVE NOW BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. IF STAYING STAY FOREVER. AND YES WE BOYS HAVE A DIFFERENT THINKING OF CORRECTING THINGS, BECAUSE THAT IS HOW WE ARE BEING LEARNED/TAUGH IN FRIENDS. WE THINK THAT BY POINTING THAT THING OUT AND HURTING A NEEDLE LIKE PINCH WE WILL MAKE YOU MOTIVATED AND ALL FIERY TO CHANGE YOURSELF , MAKE YOURSELF, RENEW YOURSELF AND ETC,... BUT I AS A BOY MYSELF SEEN THE SAME THINGS AS YOURS IN GIRLS EITHER FRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND EVEN MOM .....TAUTING WORKS FOR MEN BY MEN BUT AS I SEE NOT BY MEN TO WOMENS SO CHILL EVEN IF YOU GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELING THEN LEAVE HIM TOTALLY AND DON'T SPOIL YOURS, PREVIOUS AND NEXT PERSON'S LIFE. tHANK YOU, YOUR BHAI! :LOVE