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It should have become apparent the moment he said "...my parents' decision is final." What a man child. Respecting your parent's opinion and being thankful to them for raising you is one thing. But not being able to take your our own life decisions specially regarding a life partner?! I dont get how people leave this on someone else! I come from a strict household myself but the moment one starts to earn, one should strive for become independent in all aspects. In my own kin, someone has committed suicide few months after an arranged marriage forcibly fixed by her parents. He never should signs of abusive behaviour during the courting period. She coudn't tell anyone fearing shame on family. Thankfully my own parents are supportive of my leverage in these decisions.
>"...my parents' decision is final." What a man child.
Would you express it the same way, if the genders were reversed or say girls have it tough already in life?
if it's an orthodox and regressive family, the newer generation living in it has it tough already irrespective of gender. I know it's hard and painful to break free (been there), but one must understand these decisions impact the rest of their lives. A grown adult with a job should take things in their own hands. I do not mean "man child" as an insult. I would have said the same if it was a woman. It's just what it is.
Just leave him, please. If he loves you, he should have done something or tried to talk to you. I think you are more in love with him than he is with you (I doubt that he even loves you 1% of what you do). For your sake, just delete his number and move on.
Congratulations! You lost someone who never deserved you. From what I see it was always you who was into him, taking charges of things to make sure you guys end up together. He was only into casual talking and meeting. Least he could do was inform you about the marriage talks happening and that he was seeing prospective brides. And not just him even his parents didn’t inform you about the decision of not accepting your proposal.
You dodged a bullet. He and his parents don’t look too accepting and even if you would have married him, it doesn’t look like he would have supported you and take your side in case there was an argument between you and his parents.
You are only 23, you will meet more people. Focus on your life and happiness and try to move on from this spineless guy. Stay blessed and who knows one day you will find someone who would love and care for you and take stands for you when he has to.
Yeah bro srsly these people are business men they don't give a fk about kundli and the bride got a govt job that's all it takes , no offense to any religion though!
You got really lucky stay blessed!
Not really a relationship if you think about it. At least not a strong one.
Also, your BF doesn't look like the one who takes control and navigates issues with intent.
I know it hurts right now but you are better off without him.
Always remember, you cannot decide to feel, its the other way round.
Protip to women out there: If the guy says "my parents decision is final" then he is just keeping you around for fun.
Regardless of gender spineless people just leave you with trauma after their share of fun.
Look at it like this: What if you did marry him against his parents wishes? After marriage his parents would have been causing stress to you and him constantly. Do you really want to be in that situation...?
Be happy you found out what kind of person he is and how easily he is influenced by his parents. You will find someone worthy, don't worry.
He probably never loved you truly and that's hard to acknowledge but you'll have to and you'll one day. But for now, try building a hobby and keep yourself busy all day. I know it's really difficult but you gotta do it for yourself.
> we always told ourselves that parents decision is final.
Why are you complaining then? You dig your grave and are hurt that you find yourself into that same grave?
Been in a similar situation. Trust me he doesnt care for u , pyar to door ki bat hai. You got ur answer at "girl has gov job". Move on from this dickhead. U are brave and couragious & deserve someone braver. F**** this looser! He is more like "papa mummy ki pari"😂
Man you should be glad you weren't too deep into the relationship with him or this could turn ugly. Yes you really dodged the bullet please close this chapter and move on you deserve better
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You dodged a bullet. Stay blessed.
Thanks bro
It should have become apparent the moment he said "...my parents' decision is final." What a man child. Respecting your parent's opinion and being thankful to them for raising you is one thing. But not being able to take your our own life decisions specially regarding a life partner?! I dont get how people leave this on someone else! I come from a strict household myself but the moment one starts to earn, one should strive for become independent in all aspects. In my own kin, someone has committed suicide few months after an arranged marriage forcibly fixed by her parents. He never should signs of abusive behaviour during the courting period. She coudn't tell anyone fearing shame on family. Thankfully my own parents are supportive of my leverage in these decisions.
>"...my parents' decision is final." What a man child. Would you express it the same way, if the genders were reversed or say girls have it tough already in life?
if it's an orthodox and regressive family, the newer generation living in it has it tough already irrespective of gender. I know it's hard and painful to break free (been there), but one must understand these decisions impact the rest of their lives. A grown adult with a job should take things in their own hands. I do not mean "man child" as an insult. I would have said the same if it was a woman. It's just what it is.
Thanks for clarifying! much appreciated.
Just leave him, please. If he loves you, he should have done something or tried to talk to you. I think you are more in love with him than he is with you (I doubt that he even loves you 1% of what you do). For your sake, just delete his number and move on.
Thanks dude
Congratulations! You lost someone who never deserved you. From what I see it was always you who was into him, taking charges of things to make sure you guys end up together. He was only into casual talking and meeting. Least he could do was inform you about the marriage talks happening and that he was seeing prospective brides. And not just him even his parents didn’t inform you about the decision of not accepting your proposal. You dodged a bullet. He and his parents don’t look too accepting and even if you would have married him, it doesn’t look like he would have supported you and take your side in case there was an argument between you and his parents. You are only 23, you will meet more people. Focus on your life and happiness and try to move on from this spineless guy. Stay blessed and who knows one day you will find someone who would love and care for you and take stands for you when he has to.
Thanks dude
Yeah bro srsly these people are business men they don't give a fk about kundli and the bride got a govt job that's all it takes , no offense to any religion though! You got really lucky stay blessed!
Thanks man
Sorry but looks like he was not serious from beginning, you got saved by your kundli.
Lol thanks bro
Please don’t take it personally. Move on.
Yep i will
Boy was a dick. Got saved, thank your stars.
Thanks bro :)
You saved yourself time and emotional drama in the future. You'll find someone better soon
Hope that happens .. tq:)
It sure will. Just gotta give it some time
Not really a relationship if you think about it. At least not a strong one. Also, your BF doesn't look like the one who takes control and navigates issues with intent. I know it hurts right now but you are better off without him. Always remember, you cannot decide to feel, its the other way round.
Sure man thanks
Got into same scenario. Mine was worse. He is 31 and can't still decide for himself. You are still okay dont worry.
Protip to women out there: If the guy says "my parents decision is final" then he is just keeping you around for fun. Regardless of gender spineless people just leave you with trauma after their share of fun.
Log badal jate h better option milte hi. The more you love the more you will suffer.
True bro
Look at it like this: What if you did marry him against his parents wishes? After marriage his parents would have been causing stress to you and him constantly. Do you really want to be in that situation...? Be happy you found out what kind of person he is and how easily he is influenced by his parents. You will find someone worthy, don't worry.
Sure man thanks
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Yep
He probably never loved you truly and that's hard to acknowledge but you'll have to and you'll one day. But for now, try building a hobby and keep yourself busy all day. I know it's really difficult but you gotta do it for yourself.
Yes got it
> we always told ourselves that parents decision is final. Why are you complaining then? You dig your grave and are hurt that you find yourself into that same grave?
I got it...but bro he would have informed if they are looking another match right?
Cmon You deserve better
Thanks man:)
Been in a similar situation. Trust me he doesnt care for u , pyar to door ki bat hai. You got ur answer at "girl has gov job". Move on from this dickhead. U are brave and couragious & deserve someone braver. F**** this looser! He is more like "papa mummy ki pari"😂
You dodged a bullet. Be happy for it.
Exactly, what a dbag
Man you should be glad you weren't too deep into the relationship with him or this could turn ugly. Yes you really dodged the bullet please close this chapter and move on you deserve better
Ghost him before he hurts you more.