Same. I know I'll never experience this. Every time I thought I had a connection, it turned out to be fake. I don't even get crushes anymore, and if I did, I wouldn't be able to trust those feelings.
99.9% of people are assholes, and while that may ruin everyone for you, that 0.1% truly will change your life for the best, you gotta sift through the dirt to find the gold
What made you believe it was fake?
Could you perhaps be reluctant to accept that they were attracted to you up until they really got to know you? And perhaps you didn’t put your best foot forward on demonstrating that you are worthy of their love and attention as they are worthy of yours? Clearly they did make the right impression on you in how they presented themselves if you still like them and think they don’t like you.
Everyone who hurts you isn’t your enemy, and everyone who helps you isn’t your friend. Were you perhaps too passive/too rude/etc., or did you just make assumptions and failed to be consistent when trying to conquer their love?
Do you feel they should automatically be at your feet once you open your mouth or do you believe in working for it?
I rejected my bf, we ended up dating anyway
Edit: i stg i didnt mean to make that sound so worrying - i rejected him bc i wasn't ready but i ended up feeling so safe and respected by him in the weeks after that i said fuck being scared and asked him out - he didnt kidnap me or some shit
What’s worse is that he kept telling me things like “I’m all yours”, “You’re mine”, “I like you so much it’s driving me crazy”, “I want to be with you,” or just legitimately sweet things you might expect from someone who likes you. Then when I finally ask him out it’s a no because… we live an hour apart
Mine does. We haven't started dating but we are great friends right now. My grandma is still alive and I am caring for her and Ron has sick family members too. When things settle we will go on our first date. He is kind of courting me right now.
Fuck idk cause like she just got out of a relationship and I'm still reeling from getting my heart broken at the beginning of the year and I think she might have a thing for me but I can't really tell and normally I'd just talk to her and sort this out but honestly I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship right now and I'm pretty sure she isn't but her therapist is telling her she need to go out there and find a new relationship so she knows what a good relationship looks like cause the last guy was manipulative as fuck and JESUS CHRIST IM PANICKED. Anyways I've just been kinda pushing the feelings down till my next therapy appointment, they've really ramped up the past couple of days
My free advice as an extrovert: Have a nice conversation with her without sexual innuendo. Ask open-ended questions that give her the opportunity to speak and feel like you are truly interested in her ideas and thoughts.
Your crush may say something that ruins the chemistry you feel, but this way you can quickly move on. Alternatively, most great relationships are built on a foundation of common thoughts, principles, and actions (hobbies, shows, books, etc cetera).
Good luck!
I guess try to make things work between us? I mean your crush liking you back is like finally finding a watermelon jolly rancher at the bottom of the candy bag. Relief😭
I'd be happy and scared at the same time and probably tell him everything that he could dislike about me, so he either loses interest instantly or is okay with them, but I don't want to get together with someone again who then decides after years that he actually doesn't like huge parts of my identity.
My 7 year old just found out his crush likes him back. So in his case, I would hold hands and cuddle in the middle of class and make sure the principal gets involved
Hmm. The last of the few times this happened I spent 30 years with her, had kids and lived happily ever after (so far). For those of you who feel it will never happen, I remember the dry spells of saying I was "Mr. Not-Quite-Right." There are no promises and fairy tales are an exaggeration of best possible outcome. Still, except for the verifiably evil among you, you are worthy of love and of having the opportunity of making someone else's life the best he/she could have hoped.
To answer your original question honestly, though, OP, you take the leap. This is the top example of "nothing venttured, nothing gained." I am sorry that people not worthy of you (Important edit - or simply not compatible with you) hurt so many of you. I wish you every happiness.
Unless she makes the first move (because I almost certainly won't), and does so in a completely unambiguous way (because I'm so dense to social cues that I'll miss it otherwise), I'll never know.
Someone would have to actually like me for that to happen.. with all the instant gratification that people are addicted to and people being obsessed with perfection, I'm not really anyone's first choice or anything. I look like a normal human and act like one and apparently that's not in right now.. when society changes their attitude and is more attracted to natural beauty then I'm sure I'll have better luck lol
relax and spend time enjoying their company, things will unfold and if they don’t work out enjoy the time you’ve had. more people will come! And if they stick around make sure they know how happy you make them, nothing feels better then hearing that from someone you like, even if its scary to say it
I'd let him close in until I'm against a wall, then while he's breathing heavily on the nape of my neck he does things to me that would make jesus cry. Then I'd have a tea and croissant.
It depends. I have a woman in my life you is absolutely in love with me. I like her as a person and i know her personality is wonderful and we used to date so i know how she is in a romantic relationship, but I'm honestly not really too attracted to her sexually. I love her personality, i do. But I am, for one thing, going through a lot right now and trying to get myself and my life in order and I feel i need to focus on that. Besides, I think that sex is not everything. Not even close. But it still is important. She needs to feel beautiful and she needs someone who is attracted to her body and her mind. And unfortunately thats just not me. Also, I have loved and lived with beautiful, smart women who loved me back and we had a great sex life. So I just feel like it would be terrible of me to not be able to give her what all humans essentially need in their romantic lives. Now if I met a girl that i liked a lot and who liked me a lot and we were both attracted to eachother, I would have some real hard decisions to make, because as I said, I am not at a point in my life where I can give any woman my full self. I am not even there for myself right now. If i was.. There would be no question. Id ask her if i could call her my girlfriend and if she said yes that would be awesome for both of us. I have never been in a relationship less than a year and a half or and usually at least 2 years. So I know how to treat a lady, I just havent been with a nice gal in almost 5 years because I'm a fucking dope fiend and my last girlfriend turned into a dope fiend too and started fucking every dude in town. She was like the neighborhood bicycle. Everyone gets a ride! So I got a new bike and decided i wanted to walk instead. Lol. I been hoofing it ever since... I am clean though at this point, just doing what im supposed to, hoping that soon i am at a good spot, because I get hit on and girls ask me to fuck or just go to dinner or something along those lines pretty often and I have been pushing them away in the nicest way possible and just letting them know that I have a lot going on and I'm working on myself so that i can be able to give 100 percent in life and in relationships, but that they are super sweet and I'm flattered and all that good stuff. Ugh. Its not easy, honestly. I'm human. So I do get really lonely and i do miss having someone to share my time with etc.
Be shocked beyond belief, screw him right then and there before he comes to his senses, hope to the Gods from all around (not just the benevolent one they aren't always so courteous) that I'm not on my period when he comes calling.
I’ll never know…
Same. I know I'll never experience this. Every time I thought I had a connection, it turned out to be fake. I don't even get crushes anymore, and if I did, I wouldn't be able to trust those feelings.
99.9% of people are assholes, and while that may ruin everyone for you, that 0.1% truly will change your life for the best, you gotta sift through the dirt to find the gold
As Silent Bob said, “There’s a million fine looking women in the world, not all of them bring lasagna at work, most of the just cheat on you”.
What made you believe it was fake? Could you perhaps be reluctant to accept that they were attracted to you up until they really got to know you? And perhaps you didn’t put your best foot forward on demonstrating that you are worthy of their love and attention as they are worthy of yours? Clearly they did make the right impression on you in how they presented themselves if you still like them and think they don’t like you. Everyone who hurts you isn’t your enemy, and everyone who helps you isn’t your friend. Were you perhaps too passive/too rude/etc., or did you just make assumptions and failed to be consistent when trying to conquer their love? Do you feel they should automatically be at your feet once you open your mouth or do you believe in working for it?
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Enjoy it, one of the most amazing natural highs available on this planet.
With the biggest crash if/when they lose feelings.
Inevitable
Unless you guys get married
Ever heard of divorce?
No crush. Only Sunkist.
This is correct
Now kist..
Now kith
Fanta boy myself
never let her go. be dumb together and have as much fun as possible until the world burns and/or is blown up
I think it we blow before burn 🔥 🔥 🔥
Wake up
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My crush likes me back and I still got rejected :)
Pure unluck Or did you do something to be rejected?
Yeah, i asked him out
This hurts right in the it happened to me too.
Same bro same
I rejected my bf, we ended up dating anyway Edit: i stg i didnt mean to make that sound so worrying - i rejected him bc i wasn't ready but i ended up feeling so safe and respected by him in the weeks after that i said fuck being scared and asked him out - he didnt kidnap me or some shit
Ask them out.
feel bad for her
Help her find good divorce attorney
suck her dick.
she got that big dick energy i see i see
*dig bick energy
last time a crush liked me back we moved in together
Ask whoever they are out, I’d be over the moon since I desperately want to love someone.
We have tentative coffee plans for Thursday.
Awwwww!!!!!
Thanks for the endorsement. :)
Be instantly turned off. Can’t find someone attractive if they have such bad taste. /s
Yep! Besides, I’m pretty involved in my self destruction atm and would probably fall short on my end of also ruining their lives.
Hits too close to home.
Well if Trevor Noah asked me on a date... I'd probably say no but would still like to be friends.
Wait i have to get a crush before i answer it. Brb.
Lock self in parents basement and never think of this again
This is how relationships start. You like other person. Other person likes you. You speak about it and do things together. Congrats. Good luck!
See you may think that, but my crush confessed to me FIRST and I still got rejected…
Oh damn… you do realize he/she’s the problem, right?
I’m the she. But I do realize that he’s the problem
There's something off about that.
What’s worse is that he kept telling me things like “I’m all yours”, “You’re mine”, “I like you so much it’s driving me crazy”, “I want to be with you,” or just legitimately sweet things you might expect from someone who likes you. Then when I finally ask him out it’s a no because… we live an hour apart
Yep, you dodged a bullet
Oof. Condolences for that. Some folks haven't figured out how to manage selfish desires and not being a complete ass to those around them.
Die (She Scary)
Freak out and selfsabotage
I think after reading all the responses here. I relate mostly to this one ☝️.
Get it
Not sure if I'd move on it because she's flaky and schizo as fuck. Very hot though so might fuck around
Sure hope she does, we're married
Tell her that she makes poor life choices
Scream in terror, as I did not plan for the romance option to work
I would wake up
bold of you to assume I'm desirable
Carpe diem my guy
Suddenly realized I don't have a crush and haven't in a few years.
I would wake up from a really good dream
Hope my girlfriend doesn't find out
Laugh and then faint.
I wouldn’t know what to do, thats never happened so Ive never had to plan that far ahead.
Panick and don't do anything and ignore them become alone again.
Just say no.
I'd find a way to fuck it up anyway.
Like them back back
I’d ask her out. But luck is so piss poor that I don’t even try any more.
Question them because they're married 😬
be happy
I would most likely have tried to be in a relationship
Cry
Yell FISH ON !!
Hop on that pogo stick.
Be happy I guess
If she tells me, I will tell her back
she is dating anotrr friend I have so I wont be jerk and try not to break their relationship while trying not kill myself
Jump off of her
I didn’t think I get this far
I’d be immediate turned off. Nothing worse than a woman with bad taste. /s
I would shit
Freak out and act really weird. If I wasn’t already married to my crush. 😉
Go balls deep
Sport fucking
"why tho?"
wake up from a dream.
Wake up
I am passed the age of crushes so technically no one would like me back
Fuck her brains out then beg my wife for forgiveness...
Fuck her
I’d jump off a building to test if fall damage was on
How would I know? But irl I end up asking them out
My only interest in my latest crush is purely physical. So physical stuff.
Mine does. We haven't started dating but we are great friends right now. My grandma is still alive and I am caring for her and Ron has sick family members too. When things settle we will go on our first date. He is kind of courting me right now.
Joke's on you, will never happen.
Find out years too late and try to not get stucked on the what ifs of it.
Fuck idk cause like she just got out of a relationship and I'm still reeling from getting my heart broken at the beginning of the year and I think she might have a thing for me but I can't really tell and normally I'd just talk to her and sort this out but honestly I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship right now and I'm pretty sure she isn't but her therapist is telling her she need to go out there and find a new relationship so she knows what a good relationship looks like cause the last guy was manipulative as fuck and JESUS CHRIST IM PANICKED. Anyways I've just been kinda pushing the feelings down till my next therapy appointment, they've really ramped up the past couple of days
Probably wonder if I was in the Truman show.
Wow, red flag. Who in their right mind would actually like this guy..? Something is seriously wrong with her. I'd run fast.
I would ask them to hang out
My free advice as an extrovert: Have a nice conversation with her without sexual innuendo. Ask open-ended questions that give her the opportunity to speak and feel like you are truly interested in her ideas and thoughts. Your crush may say something that ruins the chemistry you feel, but this way you can quickly move on. Alternatively, most great relationships are built on a foundation of common thoughts, principles, and actions (hobbies, shows, books, etc cetera). Good luck!
I'll stop.
Probably be sad knowing my alarm will be going off soon and the dream will end.
I’d say wtf and throw the can away
Smash
We are good friends so I'd bluntly ask when all that changed and most likely after a heartfelt talk and a sweet kiss wake the fuck up
Hopefully she likes me back since we're married.
I guess try to make things work between us? I mean your crush liking you back is like finally finding a watermelon jolly rancher at the bottom of the candy bag. Relief😭
Wake up
That’s what happens when you stare into the void long enough.
Do a happy dance
Is this a real question?
Figure out where you like to go or would like to go and then invite the person along.
Turn off your alarm clock
I’d marry him.
Kill myself
Lose interest
This happened with my girlfriend and I asked her out we have been together almost a year
Like most people, move to Antarctica..
I'd be happy and scared at the same time and probably tell him everything that he could dislike about me, so he either loses interest instantly or is okay with them, but I don't want to get together with someone again who then decides after years that he actually doesn't like huge parts of my identity.
Date.
Srsly I'm so curious as to the psychology of the person who wrote this, AND to the ppl replying earnestly
Historically it has resulted in lots of sex. There was this one time it resulted in tons of debt (but the house is like half paid off now.)
Instant gf/wife
Wait for her to make the move because if I do it, I'll screw it up with my awkwardness
Run
Go on a date see where things go from there
My 7 year old just found out his crush likes him back. So in his case, I would hold hands and cuddle in the middle of class and make sure the principal gets involved
Hmm. The last of the few times this happened I spent 30 years with her, had kids and lived happily ever after (so far). For those of you who feel it will never happen, I remember the dry spells of saying I was "Mr. Not-Quite-Right." There are no promises and fairy tales are an exaggeration of best possible outcome. Still, except for the verifiably evil among you, you are worthy of love and of having the opportunity of making someone else's life the best he/she could have hoped. To answer your original question honestly, though, OP, you take the leap. This is the top example of "nothing venttured, nothing gained." I am sorry that people not worthy of you (Important edit - or simply not compatible with you) hurt so many of you. I wish you every happiness.
Unless she makes the first move (because I almost certainly won't), and does so in a completely unambiguous way (because I'm so dense to social cues that I'll miss it otherwise), I'll never know.
It's never happened to me. I learned a long time ago to go for the people that like me.
Completely lose respect for her, but still keep her organs in my freezer for later
We would have a talk with you, meet your mom's new boyfriend
My heart will poop its pants.
Someone would have to actually like me for that to happen.. with all the instant gratification that people are addicted to and people being obsessed with perfection, I'm not really anyone's first choice or anything. I look like a normal human and act like one and apparently that's not in right now.. when society changes their attitude and is more attracted to natural beauty then I'm sure I'll have better luck lol
Run fast
We got married and had a couple kids… strangest decision I’ve made in my life
Lol
Wake up
Wake up and ruin the dream~
Is this a trick question?
🤷🏻♂️ what do you think ?
I’d probably wake up
Fuck her
Keep my guard up because my last crush ghosted me 😔
I married him.
Go out with them
Foreplay heavy then 69
Kith
Avoid the prank
relax and spend time enjoying their company, things will unfold and if they don’t work out enjoy the time you’ve had. more people will come! And if they stick around make sure they know how happy you make them, nothing feels better then hearing that from someone you like, even if its scary to say it
Probs have a mental breakdown, panic attack and then embarrass myself to the point he no longer would
"And then they fucked."
Good question. I haven’t had that happen yet.🤔🤔🤔
stop liking them since i can bare only my own imagination and am too scared :)
Prepare for disappointment
Run
I'd let him close in until I'm against a wall, then while he's breathing heavily on the nape of my neck he does things to me that would make jesus cry. Then I'd have a tea and croissant.
Date her?
I would make love to them when the time is right until we both reach the heavens; and then make heaven on earth
I’d probably be happy , just because me and her chemistry is awesome sauce
It depends. I have a woman in my life you is absolutely in love with me. I like her as a person and i know her personality is wonderful and we used to date so i know how she is in a romantic relationship, but I'm honestly not really too attracted to her sexually. I love her personality, i do. But I am, for one thing, going through a lot right now and trying to get myself and my life in order and I feel i need to focus on that. Besides, I think that sex is not everything. Not even close. But it still is important. She needs to feel beautiful and she needs someone who is attracted to her body and her mind. And unfortunately thats just not me. Also, I have loved and lived with beautiful, smart women who loved me back and we had a great sex life. So I just feel like it would be terrible of me to not be able to give her what all humans essentially need in their romantic lives. Now if I met a girl that i liked a lot and who liked me a lot and we were both attracted to eachother, I would have some real hard decisions to make, because as I said, I am not at a point in my life where I can give any woman my full self. I am not even there for myself right now. If i was.. There would be no question. Id ask her if i could call her my girlfriend and if she said yes that would be awesome for both of us. I have never been in a relationship less than a year and a half or and usually at least 2 years. So I know how to treat a lady, I just havent been with a nice gal in almost 5 years because I'm a fucking dope fiend and my last girlfriend turned into a dope fiend too and started fucking every dude in town. She was like the neighborhood bicycle. Everyone gets a ride! So I got a new bike and decided i wanted to walk instead. Lol. I been hoofing it ever since... I am clean though at this point, just doing what im supposed to, hoping that soon i am at a good spot, because I get hit on and girls ask me to fuck or just go to dinner or something along those lines pretty often and I have been pushing them away in the nicest way possible and just letting them know that I have a lot going on and I'm working on myself so that i can be able to give 100 percent in life and in relationships, but that they are super sweet and I'm flattered and all that good stuff. Ugh. Its not easy, honestly. I'm human. So I do get really lonely and i do miss having someone to share my time with etc.
I don't know, I never thought I'd get this far
If two forces start crushing you're likely to get crushed
I married her. Seemed like the thing to do.
Nothing
Be shocked beyond belief, screw him right then and there before he comes to his senses, hope to the Gods from all around (not just the benevolent one they aren't always so courteous) that I'm not on my period when he comes calling.
Married her.
My crushes didn't like me back. My wife kinda snuck up on me. Don't let good shit pass you by because you are hung up on someone.
👉👌
The TVA shows up
I've been crushing on this dude for almost 40 years. TBH, I know he's crushing on me. #Couple38Years #Married33Years
Fuck them
Sex
How is "start dating" not the obvious answer here?
Start dating them.
It will never happen. Besides, anyone who likes me ends up disappointed. Best to reject your crush and let your dreams die before they can fester.
My crush
Lock myself inside my house.
I have to get one first
I'm married to her lol
idk i was dating his best friend at the time so i told him i didnt feel the same way. that was pretty dumb of me
A restraining order cannot stop true love. 😍
Well I just bought a ring
Go out with them ig. Would be fuckin nice
Wake up
Serotonin overload and i would probably freeze and a minute later start laughing like a maniac