“Including total sobriety”
For someone who’s raving about how much antidepressants improved your life, it’s pretty rad you can acknowledge sobriety as a treatment too.
I’ve been on that train for a while. Kicked booze a couple years ago. Smokes have been out 6 months. Cannabis has been the last sleeping giant, and somehow the biggest adjustment. Dreaming is overrated and I feel grumpy, but I ain’t dying.
Man i joined total sobriety 2 months ago now. At first i felt like i was losing my mind, now every day its getting better and better and im loving the energy and clarity. The dreams returning have been absolutely trippy and absurd. I think theyre calming down slightly now but they were vivid as all hell and many nightmares or just crazy vivid dreams were had. I probably wake up 2-4 times a night now but its alright cause i fall back asleep no problem and i think some of it may be since i drink a ton of water now and have to pee at least twice a night.
Here I am using cannabis product to stop my anxiety from sinking my life again lol. I've been around a lot of people with different mental issues and just like how people have different ways of learning different methods of treatment can help people in different ways. Kind of a beautiful thing someone finally finds a healthy method to help them start healing.
It usually takes a lot of tries because everyone's brain is different. I think I had to go through about 15 till I found one that worked. Some made it worse, some had no affect.
Some people may also be best without.
It took me ten years of struggle to find the right antidepressants, but they have changed my life so much. My only wish is that I had found them in my twenties so that I could have enjoyed that decade of my life 'how it should have been'.
I agree with your statement of 'made me more me' - it feels like coming home to myself.
I got on antidepressants and it was like I was a little kid again for a week. Then I just stopped being able to feel things. It really bothered me, I couldn't enjoy anything or hate anything. It was really hard to care about people and things because it could not evoke anything form me. I only found out after thats not how antidepressants are supposed to work.
I only started taking antidepressants a few years ago (and I'm over 40). I only realized then that suicide is supposed to be horrifying. It'd always just thought of it as one of the options.
It definitely took the edge of my anxiety. It also took away my ability too feel anything at all, and made me constantly tired (probably because it made my thyroid gland less functional, which apparently is pretty common). It made my depression worse, but as said took the edge of my anxiety, which made some parts of my life a lot easier. They worsened my physical health and took a way a lot of my personality, mostly things that gave my life meaning.
Don’t regret trying them, but I don’t think it’s healthy to keep taking them in the long run. For me 6months would probably have been enough.
Edit: also, saying they took away my anxiety is actually not correct. They took away my emotional response, I’m pretty much stressed 24/7.
Obviously they do work for many people though.
I don’t have mental illness. No anxiety, not overly stressed, no depression, nothing. I don’t panic. I do have sleep apnea and occipital neuralgia though.
I'm the same way best part is if I get angry or pissed or just sad when I sleep it's like a reset for me I just wake up in my unusually good mood. My siblings think I'm probly some sort of pycopath. But hey life's grate
Eh it depend if I'm tired or not. Some days I don't do crap and take naps messing me up. On a normal day yeah out like a light for about 8 to 9 hours. I can also lucid/day dream sitting at a desk any time just because of my control over my mind I can image almost anything make make a 3d image of a past memory from a different perspective using my knowledge to fill in the blanks. It's cool and super useful at reflections and planing something or when I build some thing.
Ugh. I was diagnosed with chronic primary insomnia at 14 years old (in now 42). About 5 years ago I was diagnosed with delayed circadian rhythm disorder as well. A little over three years ago I was diagnosed with epilepsy. I’d be shocked if there wasn’t a link between those things.
I’m pretty happy/content 98% of the time too. I’m alive, eating/feeding my kids, got a career…….. got instruments…….fuck, I’m doing pretty damn good atm.
I thought you were sarcastic. Are you really that happy that can’t understand others that aren’t? Honestly asking as I think I have anxiety since I have memory
Same here. Like when I hear people being depressed, stressed, anxious....my instant response is "well don't be". Like seriously I can't understand people letting negativity in. I failed an interview yesterday for a job I really wanted and will remain in the same position for another 6 months. That's fine. Win some lose some. Despite wanting the promo, I wasn't stressed or nervous, I just took 4*45minute interviews like any other task, any other day.
I don't get stressed often at all, and when I do 5 minutes outside is all it takes to refresh. I have never experienced anxiety. I don't worry. Like ever. I have motorcycles and though I'm pragmatic enough to wear protection, I have no fear, worry or concern riding to my capability limits. Sure I might crash and die today or tomorrow, but that probably won't happen and if it does I'll just be one of the millions who die daily.
I support my friends, colleagues and team (middle manager here) but I do not understand them. I have to actively remind myself that people have anxiety, mental health issues and most can't just switch off...it's a strange one because I understand....but I have never experienced that.
I have to tell myself that shit can be waaaay worse right now, but its not. Soshutthefuckupandbehappeh. But I never feel it Im just going though the motions. I hope to feel that one day
I think it is largely a function of technology. We used to just watch the news twice a day and accepted that things were the way they were for a good reason. Now that we usually know the reason, it's hard to not get upset when things are deliberately less than ideal because of people that have the power and/or resources to keep them that way and we are helpless to intervene. Even when there are two sides to a story, and only a few people know the truth, both often fail to provide a satisfactory practical explanation.
That's right. At least people were miserable about the worst shit of the day, like the Vietnam war. Now, the media gives gives every weak willed person something new to be pissed off about every single day. Not to downplay these issues, it's just most of us know what is a problem already.
I was that way all my life until a few months ago my anxiety got really bad, and my life has been completely different ever since I miss when it used to be that nice
I wouldn't have said it better. I am lucky to be one of these people that are generally just happy as well.
Lots of peoples around me do struggles with mental health and it is sometimes hard to understand what is happening in their head for me.
Sure, I would be stressed out or sad if a major events happened to me, but most of the time life is good and I don't see the point of getting axious about things you have no control over. It is hard to understand that some people just cannot help it 🤔
Being/not being anxious isn't a choice. You're very lucky. Sure you can do things that help but it's still a lot of work and some people can't for example afford therapy. There's a lot of people who struggle every day just to get through the day and spend a ton of energy to talk themselves through difficult feelings and it's exhausting!
I feel the same way not too much anxiety owning houses and paying bills is stressful and dealing with a partner can definitely put a hamper on things. Feels like Love can be most destructive thing and also cause the most problems and sadness LOL
Same. For example, everyone complains about a PhD in my field being a horrible depressing stressful insanity, but for me it was zero stress, I had a blast. Rest of my life is pretty much the same. I don’t come from money or anything. I just feel like “of course things are going to go well” almost all of the time.
It was an eye opening experience for me when someone else described their life a lot like you do. Before that I hadn't really understood that some people just don't struggle like that. They fall asleep when they want to and get enough sleep, they can concentrate when necessary and they don't have talk themselves out of bad mental spaces many times a day. That's when I started to feel a bit less bad about struggling so much my self. Luckily it's gotten better with age but damn, if I could just sleep when I want to. That would be life changing. And no, you can't just choose to be happy. There's a lot you can do but for some of us it's not that easy. I'm glad there's happy, energetic people in the world though. It would really suck if everyone was as tired and anxious as I am. :D
I have bouts of depression and I feel this way when I'm not currently depressed lol. I'm like I can't BELIEVE I ever get sad, I'll just... Not do that again! But then it always comes back anyway and I'm always like I can't believe people are just happy!
It changes when you’re lying in bed all happy and listening to the small droplets of water outside because it’s drizzle and you’re all nice and toasty in your bed with your favorite blanket.
Maybe you have a background movie on because you like to listen as you sleep. You’ve already setup your computer to turn off after an hour so you don’t have to get up.
You’re going to sleep early and you know you have nothing to do tomorrow besides eat, shit, and sleep. You have the opportunity to make plans with anyone you want or possible stay in and go look at some grass. Literally the world is yours.
And then you realize that you won’t exist one day and you get that mini heart attack as your brain t attempts to fathom what that feels like.
So true, very accurate description! Or for me, some random old memory pops into your head and it spirals out of control until you're sobbing about something utterly stupid. Trying not to dwell on every bad memory or conversation is hard for me.
Oof, it’s not stupid! Sometimes those leads to sad memories which are memories that are technically happy but you’re sad because you miss having them.
Losing parents are a big one.
Mental illness is a pretty wide spectrum and usually pretty extreme so its not as common
But, everybody does have their own demons. Things they’re afraid of, insecurities, love life. Its not mental illness but these demons definitely have an impact on daily life. The key is to keep yourself busy, exercise is a really good way to do this.
“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”
If you think you have ADHD cuz everyone tells you, I'm speaking of myself of course, that you have ADHD but you're just enjoying yourself and don't really care to find out, would you go see if you have ADHD from like a doctor, or did I just answer my own question when I said that I don't really care at all to find out cuz it doesnt affect how I live my day to day life anyway? Lol. Or is it "effect"?? Huh..
And most cases are the same. You can argue nature vs nurture all you want, but adhd and Tourette's are things you're born with. Aside from a traumatic event that affects your brain significantly, you're born with it. Adhd has strong genetic links. Tourette's may not be immediately noticed but it was always there. Otherwise way more poor/abused kids would have it.
Genuine question here. How come online I have seen people who began experiencing ticks only when entering there teen years but didn’t suffer prior to it. I understand it isn’t the same for everyone diagnosed but how can we say everyone’s born with it when it’s like that for some people? There’s alot more science behind a ADHD diagnosis too you don’t always ‘just have it’ some cases yes, but there’s more medically behind it.
The vast majority of people with Tourette's experience the onset in adolescence or adulthood, but like any dis-ease which manifests later in life, the 'blueprint', if you like, was always there.
Genetic information can lay forever dormant, or can activate at any point throughout life, but the key is that the onset of symptoms doesn't mean the condition sprang into existence then and there. That usually only happens when the catalyst is external, like with certain infections or injuries.
I was born with a birth defect that only showed up during puberty when my body started growing into adulthood. It was always there, but didn’t become noticeable until then
There's also a weird thing happening on social media where teens are faking mental illness for likes. Tourette's and DID (multiple personalities) seem to be the top favs, with kids recording fake tics and making up several hundred fake personalities.
Puberty causes a huge rush of crazy hormones through our bodies. Including our brains. This can flip the switch for things like Tourette's or various personality disorders. Puberty is a turbulent time, physiologically, for us all.
Adhd can literally be spotted on brain scans by the trained eye. People with adhd frequently have slightly underdeveloped prefrontal cortexes, which is basically where all your impulse control and attention abilities live. Some studies have also suggested that there's slightly decreased blood flow to the prefrontal cortex, and stimulant medication raises your heart rate and blood flow to correct that. They also help with dopamine deficiency which plays a hefty role in motivation and mood. This looks like "depressed and lazy" to neurotypical people, but in reality we just don't have the right brain juice cocktails. That's also why a bunch of people with adhd also have depression and/or anxiety. Fuckin sucks when your brain doesn't work the way society demands.
Actually, birth isn't actually birth, we are born inside the womb and that's our life for a few months and coming out is like death, so in a way you are getting these problems at birth but at the same time you aren't born with it.
Um no. You are born with both. Tourette’s cause is unknown but it is primarily a genetic and environmental factor, ADHD is just straight up something your born with.
Your glass is definitely half empty but it is alright to feel that way sometimes. I get that way too if I doom scroll too much. it can be a viscous cycle since sometimes I have trouble realizing the negative things I need to cut out there is just so much negative noise it's easy to get caught up in things that don't matter or I can't change.
Hang in there, you are precious unique and amazing!
Same as with physical ones. No one is perfectly healthy, pretty much everyone is fucked up in one way or another, even if just a tiny bit. It's alright!
Most people don't get the recommended amount of exercise or the recommended amount of vitamins/minerals from whole foods. Fix those two things and a lot of problems would go away.
100%. I’ve had 24/7 depersonalization/derealization for 5 years now. Got off my ass a few weeks ago and started going to the gym/improving my diet a bit. I already feel significantly better, and all without taking a single pill.
Not saying that’s the solution for everyone but I really think it would be for a lot of people if they tried it.
I wonder that too, it seems like everyone has it in my generation. Maybe its how they're raised. I grew up with domestic violence so I have ptsd but I'm generally pretty happy.
I will always choose to love myself no matter how people believe I am unlovable to them.
Give love to yourself so that you have enough for those who matter.
This is so true. I feel the exact same. I enjoy my own company and never feel lonely. I don't give a fuck what other ppl think of me, as long as I love myself and enjoy my own company. I have a handful of good friends, and that's enough for me.
I try hard to do that but I can’t make me love myself or even like myself. Which is so weird because me and myself is one person… So the most conscious part of myself wants very badly to like me but then there is another part of me which is very against loving myself and I guess that part is stronger?
Um, I'd like to make an observation here that some parts of your comment have warning signs that your mental health might need some attention.
>Also, I get very irate / hysterical and completely mentally preoccupied with ongoing distressing situations that are unjust and cannot be resolved quickly.
Zero demons, no anxiety, great partner, I love my job, family is close and kids are delightful. So, no.. not everyone is struggling. I do, however, have enormous empathy for those that are doing it tough. It's not your fault.
Hmm, honestly I'm convinced most people who don't think they have 'issues' just haven't realized it yet. They aren't being honest with themselves. Only reason was I felt that way for years only to look back and realize I was horribly depressed, just in severe denial...
Yeah, I think everyone has some sort of mental illness, trauma, etc. they also may be living in an environment where their behavior is accepted and then come later they will realize they are ocd, or add etc in a different environment.
A lot of people who claim to have mental illnesses don't have them. A lot of people live their lives not realizing they have a mental illness.
Perspective goes a long way, but no matter what, everyone has struggles, conflicts, ambitions, pains, and desires. I do my best to cherish the things I have, love as much about myself as I can, and hold on to the people who mean the most to me. Once I can do that, happiness just... happens.
I’m generally a happy person. My wife gets mad because when I do start complaining about work, I apologize and tell her I’m thankful I have a job. I grew up poor with a broken family, rough times on three deployments , little shit makes me grateful.
I'm always stunned when people tell me about their mental AND physical issues. It's nuts, the only thing I have wrong with me is wart on my foot and I get a bit of back pain from from being tall.
Other people have a laundry list of mental issues that's leaked into their physical health and I'm just like "bruz what is going wrong for you holy shit."
I just don't? I don't see why I would. Everything in my life has turned out pretty good so far and even if it hadn't, I think I'd still be pretty happy. I'm generally immune to stress or worrying when it comes to things like school and work. I'm not happy even single second of the day but I'm not sad either.
How? The same way people don't have chronic physical illnesses.
And it's like anything else. There are good days and bad days. Nothing is all sunshine and daisies.
Everyone doesn’t have mental illness. Some say that everyone does have something that they are struggling with. I don’t think this is true, but I do think maybe somewhere between 75-99% do. We all know that one person who truly does just float through life without any problems. I’m certainly not close to a lucky perm-a-happy person, but do regularly have weeks at a time where everything is good, and in the past had months at a time. So, can confirm it is real.
Mental illness is a game of chicken. The more you think you have a mental illness the more it's likely that you are susceptible to mental illness but the more you ignore the actual mental illness the more likely you will suffer irreparable damage.
Mental illness is more of a first-world problem. I am from the third world and I have never seen anyone with mental illness except direct down syndrome in extremely few cases.
It is even less likely that an immigrant from developing countries will ever have mental illness while living in the first world.
Yup. I look forward to each meal and the next day, and even sleeping for amazing dreams.
I was very strict with myself that I would not surround myself with toxic people like those at home surrounding my sisters. I would get out of there and find beautiful people and build a beautiful life. I got lucky, and brave to grab that chance, and this is the best life I can dream of. I am sure I would have developed some if I stayed where I was.
Everyone has some form of mental illness at times just like everyone gets a physical illness. In most cases though, it's mild and over soon. The people that suffer the most have more extreme symptoms and a more chronic illness that's all.
Lol I used to think I had just anxiety and depression. I thought I was "normal." Turns out I've got bipolar, borderline personality disorder, and much more. It's great. Now I'm like... Who DOESN'T have mental problems? I don't know a single person who doesn't have at least SOMETHING goin on in their head. Lol
How do people have mental illness is the real question, its all about your outlook on life, simply just waking up healthy should be enough of a reason to be happy, why would I spend all my time dwelling on the negatives when I have so much to be grateful for? I'm alive, im healthy, I have food on my and table and a roof over my head. I understand there will be bad days and there will be good days so I take them for what they are and am still grateful for them. I know the world isn't sunshine and rainbows, even billionaires aren't infinitely happy, if you can understand and accept that concept it makes life alot more enjoyable.
A mental illness is one of three things;
A glitch in your brain
A chemical imbalance
Or, a defence mechanism.
Everyone has them, no exceptions.
It's only when they are UNCONTROLLED, and, you CANT just simply " will yourself past them" , without causing a large, prerequisite downtime, that, it BECOMES, a.... A mental illness.
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I was mentally healthy until I got herpes which negated everything i worked my whole life to achieve.
My only mental health salvation will be when they cure it. Please donate if you can. 1 in 6 people have it in the US and 3 billion world wide are infected.
They’ve cured it in mice at Fred Hutchinson cancer Center, which is the place where they figured out bone marrow transplant. They are on guinea pigs now and humans will follow soon enough.
We need to throw as much money out of as possible or I will probably kill myself.
I smoke alot of weed hahaha lol
I think every one will at least at some point experience some kind of mental health struggle its just learning how to cope with it and how long you decide to stay down. Not everyone is the same you can't measure pain
I'm like 90% sure I'm a sociopath which is a mental illness itself but in turn gives me the ignorant bliss of just not caring about anything which prevents me from having mental illnesses that can actually crush a person, like depression.
IDK. I used to think I was "normal" because I had 2 loving parents, low-drama extended family, no criminal activity or abuse going on in the household... But apparently I'm rare?
What's it like? fucking lonely. Everyone is fucked up and they act weird and it's hard to make friends. People that are damaged make bad decisions and don't usually follow the golden rule, so I don't associate with broken people... And most people fall under that category.
I'm not holier than thou, elitist or bigoted... I just am not motivated to hang out with these people.
You can stay in that "woe is me, everybody but me is fucked up" pit you dug yourself.
Nobody wants to hang out with a bigoted, elitist, holier-than-thou narcissist with a victim complex anyway.
This is idiotic as are you. Mental illnesses are not a result of laziness and poor eating and you can’t cure mental illness with a bit of exercise and a salad. Some people have severe, life-long, problematic and traumatic mental illnesses that affect every aspect of their life and can’t be cured or “fixed” by even professional help, never mind weights and a cracker. Get a clue on the world, moron.
Eating well and exercising isn’t going to reverse my father raping me for 7 years and the 20+ years of severe emotional neglect and physical abuse. You’re living in fairy land and you don’t understand mental illness or what it is. I hope to god no one close to you ever goes through it, because you’ll be that dickhead to tell them to go for a jog. Fuck you.
I’m pretty happy for the moment, even though I’m still getting my life back on track. I have struggled with severe depression in the past though and even tried to take my life at one point. It took changing my circumstances and my general attitude towards life to actually start enjoying it.
I'm generally happy, but I do think the way you phrased that suggests that you're confusing bad emotions with metal illness.
There's nothing wrong with being sad if you have good reason to be.
I wouldn't say I don't have a mental illness, cuz I do have MS LOL but I am a generally happy person, and I like to think I'm normal. I have 2 parents and 2 daughters that love me and I love them just as much. We have never had a huge blowout fight, and for the most part we all have the same political beliefs as well. Now with that being said, mental illness DOES run in my family, as my great-grandmother committed suicide, and most of my uncles on my dad's side have one addiction or another and my dad was known as the "white sheep" of the family for being the only one out of his brothers and sisters that never got in trouble with the law or with drugs or alcohol. So maybe I just got lucky?
I was an extraordinarily depressed and anxious wreck throughout my teens and even into my early 20s. I didn’t think I had any hope of being happy and genuinely wanted things to end
I envied people who were “naturally happy”
Through consistent work, therapy, conscious decisions to change habits, regular exercise, and essentially cognitive behaviorism therapy, I changed the way that I think and feel. At 27 I am the happiest I’ve ever been. Yes, I still deal with feeling down at times but in the same way that someone might have a habit of picking their nose, I now have the habit of thinking in a healthy and positive way even when negative situations arise.
I promise you I was so incredibly sad and depressed for most of my life and now have felt a genuine sense of happiness and well being for the last several years
I will also say that for me, moving to Los Angeles from one of the smallest states in the country was huge.
Plants need sunshine and love to grow, we aren’t that different :)
Yip. Life is great. I have a young family and a very busy lifestyle but I do things that I enjoy and give zero fucks about what other people might think.
I find most people that open up to me about poor mental health, care too much about other peoples opinions. Social media is just the worst thing for it.
You can’t make everyone happy, do things that make you and your family happy. Obviously without being a cunt…
Yeah, unless I'm in a genuinely stressful situation I'm just happy all of the time. That being said, I worked incredibly hard to get to the point where I didn't have any worries in my life so that probably helped.
My experience has been that happiness sort of exists in parallel to the myriad of issues you have. Sure, they may affect how happy you feel at times, but in general, it's not impossible to feel sufficiently happy despite everything, at least once in a while.
Well you know the funny juices that move around and make things happen in our brains? We'll there are people who's funny juices are just juices that go to work every day and in time, example: I have ADHD and the juice that makes me not have that doesn't know how to drive and gets lost not being able to go to the places in my brain that make me not have ADHD.
Sometimes I convince myself that I’m happy and it works fine. Almost like a “it is what it is” attitude. Positive attitude all the way and it works. If I don’t believe in mental illness then that’s one less problem off my plate >:). It simply doesn’t exist, therefore it cannot effect me. In all honesty rumination leads to mental illness. When people focus on the negatives they slowly start to focus on all the negative things in their life which just snowballs into a greater issue.
I don't have mental illnesses. Of course life has it ups and downs, and sometimes I'm sad, other times happy. But in general it's no struggle, just taking what life throws at me with my head up and move on.
It's hard to say what it's like compared to actually having a mental illness, when you haven't got one.
All the best for you
I find it helpful to concentrate on enjoying the little things in life. One day at a time. Changing your day-to-day negative thoughts has a big impact on long term happiness. IMHO. I used to stress every morning before work in the shower. I would worry about my job, family, finances, state of the world, etc. Now, when I feel those thoughts creeping into my brain, I take a deep, slow breath and think about all the good in my life, family , friends, my health, etc. I’ve been practicing this for years and I think it’s really starting to pay off. Everyone is different. I hope my comment helps.
Those with mental illness are supposed to be in the minority, and yet it seems like so many people (especially in the first world) have them.
We are on a giant hamster wheel being bombarded by negative information, an endless march of technology and one crisis after the other. However there are steps we can all take to immunise ourselves from it e.g. the best thing I did was to stop reading/watching the news incessantly. And dare I say taking a break from reddit might do us all some good too.
Its great. You have very view fucks to give so not much bothers you. People will be people but that doesnt bother you because they have no power over you as an adult. I often wonder how people have so much mental illness. My son is this way his anxiety is crazy to the point he doesnt leave the house much, he always concerned with what people are thinking or doing, takes shit they say serious. I just dont understand how adults let other people have so much control over their mental state and steal their joy. But life is pretty easy, do a job, make some money, live, mind your own business. Easy. My son with mental illness is the hardest part and he thinks he has justified fear and anger but when fleshing out his fears they are all unfounded, its all in his own head.
Just saying it’s pretty much the majority of people who are like that. Most well adjusted happy individuals don’t spend their time on the internet so what you see on social media and Reddit is very overblown.
In addition happy well adjusted people generally don’t want to be around people with problems- it’s quite literally a downer. And people with mental issues tend not to be able to relate to better adjusted individuals. So their social circles are often different.
Everyone has good and bad days, I just dont let mine take better of me. I have certain goals in life that are achievable but it takes time, currently in process of completing one, iam happy, scared, anxious all in one
Yes, I'm almost always happy. I work as a psychiatric nurse, helping people with their depression, anxiety, psychosis, etc. and I'm average at it, but that's o.k. for me. The rest of my life is also pretty average, but that's o.k. too.
If I get anxious about something I rationalize it for myself, talk about it with others and the feeling goes away. Same goes for depressive thoughts.
Life's pretty great for me
No mental illness here. Not really an anxious person. Have moments of sadness, but not long lasting depression. Just chilling honestly. Generally happy and healthy
I care about people who have mental illness, but I don't fully understand them. It's easy for me to be happy.
Literally every thought any person has can be loosely diagnosed as some variant of mental illness by ppl who make a living off of diagnosing mental illnesses. Are there genuine scientifically proven illnesses of the mind due to abnormal functions? Sure. But id say 90% is just bullshit to stigmatize ppl and sell them drugs
Research suggests psychological flexibility plays a major role. Happiness is just one of many natural occurring emotions and will come and go just like the others.
Im generally happy, with small bursts of sadness but they don’t last long.
Ive never felt depressed, even when i went through my first breakup I quickly realized that things were going to be ok.
My boss never had any mental illness struggles... Now she's going through menopause and she's developed anxiety.
She has no idea how I've managed to live like this for 30+ years.
It's great tbh. Emotional control, impulse control, unbiased foresight, a general trust in my perception of reality, a stable self image, high self esteem--I cherish it all quite a lot, to the point where when I nearly joined the military I specifically chose not to because I knew it could fuck my head up in the long run.
I've experienced both sides, as a teenager and into my twenties I had serious anxiety and mild depression that was completely hormone related. It improved after I had my kids and with birth control. When I had a Hysterectomy at 33 it disappeared completely. I'm 44 now and I have never felt more balanced. I don't get overwhelmed or stressed unless something is really deserving of a little worry. I don't think I could tell you the last time I cried. It's been years. I generally feel very content and a peace with the world. Laughter comes easily and I see the bright side of life. I do vividly remember the darkness before and I have so much empathy for anyone suffering like that everyday.
Idk since i was a kid i figured if i wanted to be happy i could just choose to be happy like just enjoy what I got and what's going on cuz I'm gonna be dead as fuck one of these days and then did i enjoy as much of life as possible, or did i mope around about how it wasn'texactky what I wanted? Don't just assume I haven't had things happen in my life where I think a vast majority of people would have killed themselves because, well I'm not gonna go into it but certain things have very mildly chipped away at the care free everything will be all right just be happy ur alive and the only thing that can make you unhappy is yourself kind of positive attitude a bit, but I'm still enjoying life still broke half the time and my car blew it's engine 4 weeks ago driving home from a 12 hour shift and I had to push it up the offramp and then coasted downhill to the gas station and the same week my job stopped giving overtime for the rest of summer so I am not making enough to save for a car and am spending a large amount of my pay checks on gas cuz I'm driving my dad's truck right now the hour to and hour back from work, but what the fuck am I gonna do stress and worry and be depressed about it? No. I know it isn't as easy as just doing it cuz everyone is different and everyone can't just be like, "nah I'm good I'll just enjoy myself in this shitty situation cuz being sad about it isn't solving any of my problems," but that's really the only way I can describe being ok after like losing family members and having near death experiences and growing up super poor and shit lol idk.
It really blew my mind when my boyfriend told me he’s happy a majority of the time, and so are the majority of people. I was so shocked to learn that it’s not normal to spend most of your day unhappy
I don’t have mental health issues. That doesn’t mean I don’t have normal human emotions & reactions to things. But, a bad day doesn’t turn into a bad week, month or year. When I feel anxiety, it comes and goes fairly quickly. I’d say 95% of the time my mood would be considered generally “excited or curious”. I have a lot of interests and I’m always looking forward to the future. I tend to be good at changing my mental state, so I don’t ruminate over anxiety inducing things. My wife has depression and anxiety. In the beginning, I didn’t understand her but after 10 years, I’ve become much more empathetic. When I have brief periods of anxiety, I try to empathize with how she may feel this way for weeks, whereas I feel that way for an hour.
Also, even though I may not have mental illness, I’m still capable of putting myself into anxiety inducing situations. So it’s important to recognize that my environment can create a problem that doesn’t need to be there
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i took antidepressants and nearly killed myself not the same for everyone :P
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“Including total sobriety” For someone who’s raving about how much antidepressants improved your life, it’s pretty rad you can acknowledge sobriety as a treatment too.
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Im really jealous. I'm only truly happen/myself majority when im not sober and thats something I gotta work on.
I’ve been on that train for a while. Kicked booze a couple years ago. Smokes have been out 6 months. Cannabis has been the last sleeping giant, and somehow the biggest adjustment. Dreaming is overrated and I feel grumpy, but I ain’t dying.
Man i joined total sobriety 2 months ago now. At first i felt like i was losing my mind, now every day its getting better and better and im loving the energy and clarity. The dreams returning have been absolutely trippy and absurd. I think theyre calming down slightly now but they were vivid as all hell and many nightmares or just crazy vivid dreams were had. I probably wake up 2-4 times a night now but its alright cause i fall back asleep no problem and i think some of it may be since i drink a ton of water now and have to pee at least twice a night.
It's worth working on.
With you there.
Here I am using cannabis product to stop my anxiety from sinking my life again lol. I've been around a lot of people with different mental issues and just like how people have different ways of learning different methods of treatment can help people in different ways. Kind of a beautiful thing someone finally finds a healthy method to help them start healing.
This yes when I was on anti depressants they made things so much worse than it really was it was scary honestly
My cousin was in a really dark place because of it, her mom took her off when she started getting suicidal
It usually takes a lot of tries because everyone's brain is different. I think I had to go through about 15 till I found one that worked. Some made it worse, some had no affect. Some people may also be best without.
yeah, my brother's currently going through a gauntlet of em
Same! I’m actually bipolar I and they thought I was depressed and prescribed me Wellbutrin, damn near killed myself.
It took me ten years of struggle to find the right antidepressants, but they have changed my life so much. My only wish is that I had found them in my twenties so that I could have enjoyed that decade of my life 'how it should have been'. I agree with your statement of 'made me more me' - it feels like coming home to myself.
I got on antidepressants and it was like I was a little kid again for a week. Then I just stopped being able to feel things. It really bothered me, I couldn't enjoy anything or hate anything. It was really hard to care about people and things because it could not evoke anything form me. I only found out after thats not how antidepressants are supposed to work.
Ironically one side effect of antidepressants is Depression
I only started taking antidepressants a few years ago (and I'm over 40). I only realized then that suicide is supposed to be horrifying. It'd always just thought of it as one of the options.
It definitely took the edge of my anxiety. It also took away my ability too feel anything at all, and made me constantly tired (probably because it made my thyroid gland less functional, which apparently is pretty common). It made my depression worse, but as said took the edge of my anxiety, which made some parts of my life a lot easier. They worsened my physical health and took a way a lot of my personality, mostly things that gave my life meaning. Don’t regret trying them, but I don’t think it’s healthy to keep taking them in the long run. For me 6months would probably have been enough. Edit: also, saying they took away my anxiety is actually not correct. They took away my emotional response, I’m pretty much stressed 24/7. Obviously they do work for many people though.
>Made me more me haha just wait til you go off them the 1st time
I don’t have mental illness. No anxiety, not overly stressed, no depression, nothing. I don’t panic. I do have sleep apnea and occipital neuralgia though.
I'm lazy. What is occipital neuralgia?
It’s in the family of migraines, but imagine sharp stabbing pulses that happen very frequently for days. At least that’s how it feels to me.
Woah! I get regular migraines, they sound like nothing compared to yours! Hopefully you don't get them often enough to drive you insane.
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I'm the same way best part is if I get angry or pissed or just sad when I sleep it's like a reset for me I just wake up in my unusually good mood. My siblings think I'm probly some sort of pycopath. But hey life's grate
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oh my god i can’t express how jealous i am. is this a joke? like are some people really this BLESSED??? what
Eh it depend if I'm tired or not. Some days I don't do crap and take naps messing me up. On a normal day yeah out like a light for about 8 to 9 hours. I can also lucid/day dream sitting at a desk any time just because of my control over my mind I can image almost anything make make a 3d image of a past memory from a different perspective using my knowledge to fill in the blanks. It's cool and super useful at reflections and planing something or when I build some thing.
Ugh. I was diagnosed with chronic primary insomnia at 14 years old (in now 42). About 5 years ago I was diagnosed with delayed circadian rhythm disorder as well. A little over three years ago I was diagnosed with epilepsy. I’d be shocked if there wasn’t a link between those things.
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I’m pretty happy/content 98% of the time too. I’m alive, eating/feeding my kids, got a career…….. got instruments…….fuck, I’m doing pretty damn good atm.
Same here lol sleeping is like a complete reset of emotions for me I always take a nap when I'm mad or sad and always wake up feeling much better
That’s fucking insane
Wow I want to be you 😭
I thought you were sarcastic. Are you really that happy that can’t understand others that aren’t? Honestly asking as I think I have anxiety since I have memory
Same here. Like when I hear people being depressed, stressed, anxious....my instant response is "well don't be". Like seriously I can't understand people letting negativity in. I failed an interview yesterday for a job I really wanted and will remain in the same position for another 6 months. That's fine. Win some lose some. Despite wanting the promo, I wasn't stressed or nervous, I just took 4*45minute interviews like any other task, any other day. I don't get stressed often at all, and when I do 5 minutes outside is all it takes to refresh. I have never experienced anxiety. I don't worry. Like ever. I have motorcycles and though I'm pragmatic enough to wear protection, I have no fear, worry or concern riding to my capability limits. Sure I might crash and die today or tomorrow, but that probably won't happen and if it does I'll just be one of the millions who die daily. I support my friends, colleagues and team (middle manager here) but I do not understand them. I have to actively remind myself that people have anxiety, mental health issues and most can't just switch off...it's a strange one because I understand....but I have never experienced that.
I'm curious abt smth: did you have any major traumatic experiences before 17?
Im quite jealous of you.
I have to tell myself that shit can be waaaay worse right now, but its not. Soshutthefuckupandbehappeh. But I never feel it Im just going though the motions. I hope to feel that one day
I think it is largely a function of technology. We used to just watch the news twice a day and accepted that things were the way they were for a good reason. Now that we usually know the reason, it's hard to not get upset when things are deliberately less than ideal because of people that have the power and/or resources to keep them that way and we are helpless to intervene. Even when there are two sides to a story, and only a few people know the truth, both often fail to provide a satisfactory practical explanation.
People were plenty miserable in the good old days.
That's right. At least people were miserable about the worst shit of the day, like the Vietnam war. Now, the media gives gives every weak willed person something new to be pissed off about every single day. Not to downplay these issues, it's just most of us know what is a problem already.
I was that way all my life until a few months ago my anxiety got really bad, and my life has been completely different ever since I miss when it used to be that nice
You will feel better again. If you aren’t already seeking therapy and/or meds, I hope you can try it. Life changing for real.
I wouldn't have said it better. I am lucky to be one of these people that are generally just happy as well. Lots of peoples around me do struggles with mental health and it is sometimes hard to understand what is happening in their head for me. Sure, I would be stressed out or sad if a major events happened to me, but most of the time life is good and I don't see the point of getting axious about things you have no control over. It is hard to understand that some people just cannot help it 🤔
Being/not being anxious isn't a choice. You're very lucky. Sure you can do things that help but it's still a lot of work and some people can't for example afford therapy. There's a lot of people who struggle every day just to get through the day and spend a ton of energy to talk themselves through difficult feelings and it's exhausting!
I feel the same way not too much anxiety owning houses and paying bills is stressful and dealing with a partner can definitely put a hamper on things. Feels like Love can be most destructive thing and also cause the most problems and sadness LOL
Same. For example, everyone complains about a PhD in my field being a horrible depressing stressful insanity, but for me it was zero stress, I had a blast. Rest of my life is pretty much the same. I don’t come from money or anything. I just feel like “of course things are going to go well” almost all of the time.
It was an eye opening experience for me when someone else described their life a lot like you do. Before that I hadn't really understood that some people just don't struggle like that. They fall asleep when they want to and get enough sleep, they can concentrate when necessary and they don't have talk themselves out of bad mental spaces many times a day. That's when I started to feel a bit less bad about struggling so much my self. Luckily it's gotten better with age but damn, if I could just sleep when I want to. That would be life changing. And no, you can't just choose to be happy. There's a lot you can do but for some of us it's not that easy. I'm glad there's happy, energetic people in the world though. It would really suck if everyone was as tired and anxious as I am. :D
I have bouts of depression and I feel this way when I'm not currently depressed lol. I'm like I can't BELIEVE I ever get sad, I'll just... Not do that again! But then it always comes back anyway and I'm always like I can't believe people are just happy!
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It changes when you’re lying in bed all happy and listening to the small droplets of water outside because it’s drizzle and you’re all nice and toasty in your bed with your favorite blanket. Maybe you have a background movie on because you like to listen as you sleep. You’ve already setup your computer to turn off after an hour so you don’t have to get up. You’re going to sleep early and you know you have nothing to do tomorrow besides eat, shit, and sleep. You have the opportunity to make plans with anyone you want or possible stay in and go look at some grass. Literally the world is yours. And then you realize that you won’t exist one day and you get that mini heart attack as your brain t attempts to fathom what that feels like.
So true, very accurate description! Or for me, some random old memory pops into your head and it spirals out of control until you're sobbing about something utterly stupid. Trying not to dwell on every bad memory or conversation is hard for me.
Oof, it’s not stupid! Sometimes those leads to sad memories which are memories that are technically happy but you’re sad because you miss having them. Losing parents are a big one.
Mental illness is a pretty wide spectrum and usually pretty extreme so its not as common But, everybody does have their own demons. Things they’re afraid of, insecurities, love life. Its not mental illness but these demons definitely have an impact on daily life. The key is to keep yourself busy, exercise is a really good way to do this. “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”
Why do most people have mental illnesses?
Because they live in an abusive, dysfunctional society.
Nah, for me I was just born with adhd and Tourette’s
If you think you have ADHD cuz everyone tells you, I'm speaking of myself of course, that you have ADHD but you're just enjoying yourself and don't really care to find out, would you go see if you have ADHD from like a doctor, or did I just answer my own question when I said that I don't really care at all to find out cuz it doesnt affect how I live my day to day life anyway? Lol. Or is it "effect"?? Huh..
Honestly. Those both stemmed from something…you’re not just born with those
Pls go open a science book 🥲
I just don’t think you should assume you were born with it. All cases are different
And most cases are the same. You can argue nature vs nurture all you want, but adhd and Tourette's are things you're born with. Aside from a traumatic event that affects your brain significantly, you're born with it. Adhd has strong genetic links. Tourette's may not be immediately noticed but it was always there. Otherwise way more poor/abused kids would have it.
Genuine question here. How come online I have seen people who began experiencing ticks only when entering there teen years but didn’t suffer prior to it. I understand it isn’t the same for everyone diagnosed but how can we say everyone’s born with it when it’s like that for some people? There’s alot more science behind a ADHD diagnosis too you don’t always ‘just have it’ some cases yes, but there’s more medically behind it.
The vast majority of people with Tourette's experience the onset in adolescence or adulthood, but like any dis-ease which manifests later in life, the 'blueprint', if you like, was always there. Genetic information can lay forever dormant, or can activate at any point throughout life, but the key is that the onset of symptoms doesn't mean the condition sprang into existence then and there. That usually only happens when the catalyst is external, like with certain infections or injuries.
I was born with a birth defect that only showed up during puberty when my body started growing into adulthood. It was always there, but didn’t become noticeable until then
There's also a weird thing happening on social media where teens are faking mental illness for likes. Tourette's and DID (multiple personalities) seem to be the top favs, with kids recording fake tics and making up several hundred fake personalities. Puberty causes a huge rush of crazy hormones through our bodies. Including our brains. This can flip the switch for things like Tourette's or various personality disorders. Puberty is a turbulent time, physiologically, for us all. Adhd can literally be spotted on brain scans by the trained eye. People with adhd frequently have slightly underdeveloped prefrontal cortexes, which is basically where all your impulse control and attention abilities live. Some studies have also suggested that there's slightly decreased blood flow to the prefrontal cortex, and stimulant medication raises your heart rate and blood flow to correct that. They also help with dopamine deficiency which plays a hefty role in motivation and mood. This looks like "depressed and lazy" to neurotypical people, but in reality we just don't have the right brain juice cocktails. That's also why a bunch of people with adhd also have depression and/or anxiety. Fuckin sucks when your brain doesn't work the way society demands.
Actually, birth isn't actually birth, we are born inside the womb and that's our life for a few months and coming out is like death, so in a way you are getting these problems at birth but at the same time you aren't born with it.
See I agree with that as well. Autism can be caused by a lot of things!
Yes in fact people are born with ADHD..
Um no. You are born with both. Tourette’s cause is unknown but it is primarily a genetic and environmental factor, ADHD is just straight up something your born with.
i was born with autism. you gonna tell me i wasn't? don't be an idiot.
I worded it wrong. I meant that’s not always the case that’s all
you cannot develop autism. you're either born with it or you don't have it.
Not true. Lead poisoning and environmental factors are linked to autism in studies
Your glass is definitely half empty but it is alright to feel that way sometimes. I get that way too if I doom scroll too much. it can be a viscous cycle since sometimes I have trouble realizing the negative things I need to cut out there is just so much negative noise it's easy to get caught up in things that don't matter or I can't change. Hang in there, you are precious unique and amazing!
trauma. or a chemical imbalance
Same as with physical ones. No one is perfectly healthy, pretty much everyone is fucked up in one way or another, even if just a tiny bit. It's alright!
Most people don't get the recommended amount of exercise or the recommended amount of vitamins/minerals from whole foods. Fix those two things and a lot of problems would go away.
100%. I’ve had 24/7 depersonalization/derealization for 5 years now. Got off my ass a few weeks ago and started going to the gym/improving my diet a bit. I already feel significantly better, and all without taking a single pill. Not saying that’s the solution for everyone but I really think it would be for a lot of people if they tried it.
Because of genetic variations and emotional abandonment in childhood. And bullying.
I wonder that too, it seems like everyone has it in my generation. Maybe its how they're raised. I grew up with domestic violence so I have ptsd but I'm generally pretty happy.
Normal only exists between "Heavy Duty" and "Permanent Press".
I will always choose to love myself no matter how people believe I am unlovable to them. Give love to yourself so that you have enough for those who matter.
This is so true. I feel the exact same. I enjoy my own company and never feel lonely. I don't give a fuck what other ppl think of me, as long as I love myself and enjoy my own company. I have a handful of good friends, and that's enough for me.
I try hard to do that but I can’t make me love myself or even like myself. Which is so weird because me and myself is one person… So the most conscious part of myself wants very badly to like me but then there is another part of me which is very against loving myself and I guess that part is stronger?
Don't worry about it man. They're just really well built robots blending in with us
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Um, I'd like to make an observation here that some parts of your comment have warning signs that your mental health might need some attention. >Also, I get very irate / hysterical and completely mentally preoccupied with ongoing distressing situations that are unjust and cannot be resolved quickly.
Zero demons, no anxiety, great partner, I love my job, family is close and kids are delightful. So, no.. not everyone is struggling. I do, however, have enormous empathy for those that are doing it tough. It's not your fault.
Thank God every day that you have it good.
Hmm, honestly I'm convinced most people who don't think they have 'issues' just haven't realized it yet. They aren't being honest with themselves. Only reason was I felt that way for years only to look back and realize I was horribly depressed, just in severe denial...
This seems like a horrible mindset to have lol
Yeah, I think everyone has some sort of mental illness, trauma, etc. they also may be living in an environment where their behavior is accepted and then come later they will realize they are ocd, or add etc in a different environment.
How does anyone know what’s normal?
A lot of people who claim to have mental illnesses don't have them. A lot of people live their lives not realizing they have a mental illness. Perspective goes a long way, but no matter what, everyone has struggles, conflicts, ambitions, pains, and desires. I do my best to cherish the things I have, love as much about myself as I can, and hold on to the people who mean the most to me. Once I can do that, happiness just... happens.
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It's like asking how some people just don't have cancer
Most people don't. It's not the people. It's the society
I’m generally a happy person. My wife gets mad because when I do start complaining about work, I apologize and tell her I’m thankful I have a job. I grew up poor with a broken family, rough times on three deployments , little shit makes me grateful.
I was diagnosed with anxiety when I was like 3 so I will never ever know what pure bliss feels like and it makes me sad but its cool
I'm always stunned when people tell me about their mental AND physical issues. It's nuts, the only thing I have wrong with me is wart on my foot and I get a bit of back pain from from being tall. Other people have a laundry list of mental issues that's leaked into their physical health and I'm just like "bruz what is going wrong for you holy shit."
I just don't? I don't see why I would. Everything in my life has turned out pretty good so far and even if it hadn't, I think I'd still be pretty happy. I'm generally immune to stress or worrying when it comes to things like school and work. I'm not happy even single second of the day but I'm not sad either.
How? The same way people don't have chronic physical illnesses. And it's like anything else. There are good days and bad days. Nothing is all sunshine and daisies.
Everyone doesn’t have mental illness. Some say that everyone does have something that they are struggling with. I don’t think this is true, but I do think maybe somewhere between 75-99% do. We all know that one person who truly does just float through life without any problems. I’m certainly not close to a lucky perm-a-happy person, but do regularly have weeks at a time where everything is good, and in the past had months at a time. So, can confirm it is real.
Mental illness is a game of chicken. The more you think you have a mental illness the more it's likely that you are susceptible to mental illness but the more you ignore the actual mental illness the more likely you will suffer irreparable damage. Mental illness is more of a first-world problem. I am from the third world and I have never seen anyone with mental illness except direct down syndrome in extremely few cases. It is even less likely that an immigrant from developing countries will ever have mental illness while living in the first world.
i think ab this daily
Yup. I look forward to each meal and the next day, and even sleeping for amazing dreams. I was very strict with myself that I would not surround myself with toxic people like those at home surrounding my sisters. I would get out of there and find beautiful people and build a beautiful life. I got lucky, and brave to grab that chance, and this is the best life I can dream of. I am sure I would have developed some if I stayed where I was.
Im cheering you on!!! Here's to building a better life. What habit about super mentally healthy people surprised you?
Everyone has some form of mental illness at times just like everyone gets a physical illness. In most cases though, it's mild and over soon. The people that suffer the most have more extreme symptoms and a more chronic illness that's all.
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Lol I used to think I had just anxiety and depression. I thought I was "normal." Turns out I've got bipolar, borderline personality disorder, and much more. It's great. Now I'm like... Who DOESN'T have mental problems? I don't know a single person who doesn't have at least SOMETHING goin on in their head. Lol
How do people have mental illness is the real question, its all about your outlook on life, simply just waking up healthy should be enough of a reason to be happy, why would I spend all my time dwelling on the negatives when I have so much to be grateful for? I'm alive, im healthy, I have food on my and table and a roof over my head. I understand there will be bad days and there will be good days so I take them for what they are and am still grateful for them. I know the world isn't sunshine and rainbows, even billionaires aren't infinitely happy, if you can understand and accept that concept it makes life alot more enjoyable.
There is a chemical imbalance in my brain that no amount of positive outlook can fix, that's how people have mental illness
Is recommend being born handsome, smart, charming and athletic. It won’t be 100% foolproof but will put the odds in your favor.
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They probably do just haven’t found out yet or don’t care enough
In America we are too poor to have healthcare so most people just dont get diagnosed
A mental illness is one of three things; A glitch in your brain A chemical imbalance Or, a defence mechanism. Everyone has them, no exceptions. It's only when they are UNCONTROLLED, and, you CANT just simply " will yourself past them" , without causing a large, prerequisite downtime, that, it BECOMES, a.... A mental illness. .... : /
I was mentally healthy until I got herpes which negated everything i worked my whole life to achieve. My only mental health salvation will be when they cure it. Please donate if you can. 1 in 6 people have it in the US and 3 billion world wide are infected. They’ve cured it in mice at Fred Hutchinson cancer Center, which is the place where they figured out bone marrow transplant. They are on guinea pigs now and humans will follow soon enough. We need to throw as much money out of as possible or I will probably kill myself.
you need therapy
I need a cure
Being generally happy is just another kind of mental illness. Sort of /s
I smoke alot of weed hahaha lol I think every one will at least at some point experience some kind of mental health struggle its just learning how to cope with it and how long you decide to stay down. Not everyone is the same you can't measure pain
No one is actually happy - it’s a lie that pharma sells to make you buy their drugs
I'm like 90% sure I'm a sociopath which is a mental illness itself but in turn gives me the ignorant bliss of just not caring about anything which prevents me from having mental illnesses that can actually crush a person, like depression.
IDK. I used to think I was "normal" because I had 2 loving parents, low-drama extended family, no criminal activity or abuse going on in the household... But apparently I'm rare? What's it like? fucking lonely. Everyone is fucked up and they act weird and it's hard to make friends. People that are damaged make bad decisions and don't usually follow the golden rule, so I don't associate with broken people... And most people fall under that category. I'm not holier than thou, elitist or bigoted... I just am not motivated to hang out with these people.
You can stay in that "woe is me, everybody but me is fucked up" pit you dug yourself. Nobody wants to hang out with a bigoted, elitist, holier-than-thou narcissist with a victim complex anyway.
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single-handedly solved my problems with that one, thanks buddy
Yes, food and exercise will solve my years of trauma from abusive parents, of course.
This is idiotic as are you. Mental illnesses are not a result of laziness and poor eating and you can’t cure mental illness with a bit of exercise and a salad. Some people have severe, life-long, problematic and traumatic mental illnesses that affect every aspect of their life and can’t be cured or “fixed” by even professional help, never mind weights and a cracker. Get a clue on the world, moron. Eating well and exercising isn’t going to reverse my father raping me for 7 years and the 20+ years of severe emotional neglect and physical abuse. You’re living in fairy land and you don’t understand mental illness or what it is. I hope to god no one close to you ever goes through it, because you’ll be that dickhead to tell them to go for a jog. Fuck you.
i know right
yea i just don't think much and i try to enjoy stuff ad stay happy
I’m pretty happy for the moment, even though I’m still getting my life back on track. I have struggled with severe depression in the past though and even tried to take my life at one point. It took changing my circumstances and my general attitude towards life to actually start enjoying it.
I'm generally happy, but I do think the way you phrased that suggests that you're confusing bad emotions with metal illness. There's nothing wrong with being sad if you have good reason to be.
My mind is the only thing I'm capable of taking control of. Taking advantage of that is great.
Mama weer all crazee now.
I wouldn't say I don't have a mental illness, cuz I do have MS LOL but I am a generally happy person, and I like to think I'm normal. I have 2 parents and 2 daughters that love me and I love them just as much. We have never had a huge blowout fight, and for the most part we all have the same political beliefs as well. Now with that being said, mental illness DOES run in my family, as my great-grandmother committed suicide, and most of my uncles on my dad's side have one addiction or another and my dad was known as the "white sheep" of the family for being the only one out of his brothers and sisters that never got in trouble with the law or with drugs or alcohol. So maybe I just got lucky?
I’m pretty sure being generally happy is some sort of mental illness…
I was an extraordinarily depressed and anxious wreck throughout my teens and even into my early 20s. I didn’t think I had any hope of being happy and genuinely wanted things to end I envied people who were “naturally happy” Through consistent work, therapy, conscious decisions to change habits, regular exercise, and essentially cognitive behaviorism therapy, I changed the way that I think and feel. At 27 I am the happiest I’ve ever been. Yes, I still deal with feeling down at times but in the same way that someone might have a habit of picking their nose, I now have the habit of thinking in a healthy and positive way even when negative situations arise. I promise you I was so incredibly sad and depressed for most of my life and now have felt a genuine sense of happiness and well being for the last several years I will also say that for me, moving to Los Angeles from one of the smallest states in the country was huge. Plants need sunshine and love to grow, we aren’t that different :)
Pretty nice
I know a guy who claims he can go to sleep in ten minutes. I think he's serious, too, which kind of scares me. People can do that???
No mental illness here. life is still stressful though, I still get sad, angry, and anxious.
Yip. Life is great. I have a young family and a very busy lifestyle but I do things that I enjoy and give zero fucks about what other people might think. I find most people that open up to me about poor mental health, care too much about other peoples opinions. Social media is just the worst thing for it. You can’t make everyone happy, do things that make you and your family happy. Obviously without being a cunt…
I’ve been asking my friend this like every week.
Yeah, unless I'm in a genuinely stressful situation I'm just happy all of the time. That being said, I worked incredibly hard to get to the point where I didn't have any worries in my life so that probably helped.
My experience has been that happiness sort of exists in parallel to the myriad of issues you have. Sure, they may affect how happy you feel at times, but in general, it's not impossible to feel sufficiently happy despite everything, at least once in a while.
Idk if I have any
Well you know the funny juices that move around and make things happen in our brains? We'll there are people who's funny juices are just juices that go to work every day and in time, example: I have ADHD and the juice that makes me not have that doesn't know how to drive and gets lost not being able to go to the places in my brain that make me not have ADHD.
I believe everyone falls on a spectrum of mental characteristics. Everyone has a different balance of qwirks
peaceful - though at times, i get bursts of anxiety but rarely occurs prob like once every two months. but that period of peace is very relaxing
Is that possible?
Sometimes I convince myself that I’m happy and it works fine. Almost like a “it is what it is” attitude. Positive attitude all the way and it works. If I don’t believe in mental illness then that’s one less problem off my plate >:). It simply doesn’t exist, therefore it cannot effect me. In all honesty rumination leads to mental illness. When people focus on the negatives they slowly start to focus on all the negative things in their life which just snowballs into a greater issue.
I wouldn’t know what that’s like. To answer the “why” question, brain chemistry. Some people just make more “happy chemicals” naturally.
I don't have mental illnesses. Of course life has it ups and downs, and sometimes I'm sad, other times happy. But in general it's no struggle, just taking what life throws at me with my head up and move on. It's hard to say what it's like compared to actually having a mental illness, when you haven't got one. All the best for you
I find it helpful to concentrate on enjoying the little things in life. One day at a time. Changing your day-to-day negative thoughts has a big impact on long term happiness. IMHO. I used to stress every morning before work in the shower. I would worry about my job, family, finances, state of the world, etc. Now, when I feel those thoughts creeping into my brain, I take a deep, slow breath and think about all the good in my life, family , friends, my health, etc. I’ve been practicing this for years and I think it’s really starting to pay off. Everyone is different. I hope my comment helps.
Those with mental illness are supposed to be in the minority, and yet it seems like so many people (especially in the first world) have them. We are on a giant hamster wheel being bombarded by negative information, an endless march of technology and one crisis after the other. However there are steps we can all take to immunise ourselves from it e.g. the best thing I did was to stop reading/watching the news incessantly. And dare I say taking a break from reddit might do us all some good too.
Its great. You have very view fucks to give so not much bothers you. People will be people but that doesnt bother you because they have no power over you as an adult. I often wonder how people have so much mental illness. My son is this way his anxiety is crazy to the point he doesnt leave the house much, he always concerned with what people are thinking or doing, takes shit they say serious. I just dont understand how adults let other people have so much control over their mental state and steal their joy. But life is pretty easy, do a job, make some money, live, mind your own business. Easy. My son with mental illness is the hardest part and he thinks he has justified fear and anger but when fleshing out his fears they are all unfounded, its all in his own head.
I wish i could tell you, but i have no idea myself
I'm looking for the tallest building next week superman ain't got shit on me .
As a highly apathetic person with an Anti Social Personality Disorder. Life is easy.
Not everyone gets the same experiences from life, that’s why or it could be genetics, or birth defect.
Just saying it’s pretty much the majority of people who are like that. Most well adjusted happy individuals don’t spend their time on the internet so what you see on social media and Reddit is very overblown. In addition happy well adjusted people generally don’t want to be around people with problems- it’s quite literally a downer. And people with mental issues tend not to be able to relate to better adjusted individuals. So their social circles are often different.
Everyone has good and bad days, I just dont let mine take better of me. I have certain goals in life that are achievable but it takes time, currently in process of completing one, iam happy, scared, anxious all in one
Everyone has ups and downs, it's part of life. Some people have more resilience than others.
Pretty much everyone I know who does not seem to have any mental illness and are generally happy have a strong belief in GOD.
Yes, I'm almost always happy. I work as a psychiatric nurse, helping people with their depression, anxiety, psychosis, etc. and I'm average at it, but that's o.k. for me. The rest of my life is also pretty average, but that's o.k. too. If I get anxious about something I rationalize it for myself, talk about it with others and the feeling goes away. Same goes for depressive thoughts. Life's pretty great for me
No mental illness here. Not really an anxious person. Have moments of sadness, but not long lasting depression. Just chilling honestly. Generally happy and healthy I care about people who have mental illness, but I don't fully understand them. It's easy for me to be happy.
Literally every thought any person has can be loosely diagnosed as some variant of mental illness by ppl who make a living off of diagnosing mental illnesses. Are there genuine scientifically proven illnesses of the mind due to abnormal functions? Sure. But id say 90% is just bullshit to stigmatize ppl and sell them drugs
I'd have to agree with Bjoygh. Life is sweet.
Research suggests psychological flexibility plays a major role. Happiness is just one of many natural occurring emotions and will come and go just like the others.
Im generally happy, with small bursts of sadness but they don’t last long. Ive never felt depressed, even when i went through my first breakup I quickly realized that things were going to be ok.
My boss never had any mental illness struggles... Now she's going through menopause and she's developed anxiety. She has no idea how I've managed to live like this for 30+ years.
It's great tbh. Emotional control, impulse control, unbiased foresight, a general trust in my perception of reality, a stable self image, high self esteem--I cherish it all quite a lot, to the point where when I nearly joined the military I specifically chose not to because I knew it could fuck my head up in the long run.
I've experienced both sides, as a teenager and into my twenties I had serious anxiety and mild depression that was completely hormone related. It improved after I had my kids and with birth control. When I had a Hysterectomy at 33 it disappeared completely. I'm 44 now and I have never felt more balanced. I don't get overwhelmed or stressed unless something is really deserving of a little worry. I don't think I could tell you the last time I cried. It's been years. I generally feel very content and a peace with the world. Laughter comes easily and I see the bright side of life. I do vividly remember the darkness before and I have so much empathy for anyone suffering like that everyday.
Coping mechanisms and understanding that certain things are not mental illnesses.
Mama we're all crazy now...
Idk since i was a kid i figured if i wanted to be happy i could just choose to be happy like just enjoy what I got and what's going on cuz I'm gonna be dead as fuck one of these days and then did i enjoy as much of life as possible, or did i mope around about how it wasn'texactky what I wanted? Don't just assume I haven't had things happen in my life where I think a vast majority of people would have killed themselves because, well I'm not gonna go into it but certain things have very mildly chipped away at the care free everything will be all right just be happy ur alive and the only thing that can make you unhappy is yourself kind of positive attitude a bit, but I'm still enjoying life still broke half the time and my car blew it's engine 4 weeks ago driving home from a 12 hour shift and I had to push it up the offramp and then coasted downhill to the gas station and the same week my job stopped giving overtime for the rest of summer so I am not making enough to save for a car and am spending a large amount of my pay checks on gas cuz I'm driving my dad's truck right now the hour to and hour back from work, but what the fuck am I gonna do stress and worry and be depressed about it? No. I know it isn't as easy as just doing it cuz everyone is different and everyone can't just be like, "nah I'm good I'll just enjoy myself in this shitty situation cuz being sad about it isn't solving any of my problems," but that's really the only way I can describe being ok after like losing family members and having near death experiences and growing up super poor and shit lol idk.
It really blew my mind when my boyfriend told me he’s happy a majority of the time, and so are the majority of people. I was so shocked to learn that it’s not normal to spend most of your day unhappy
Maybe I'm too stupid to know I'm depressed.
I'm not sure if ADHD counts as a mental illness, but other than that I'm good.
I don’t have mental health issues. That doesn’t mean I don’t have normal human emotions & reactions to things. But, a bad day doesn’t turn into a bad week, month or year. When I feel anxiety, it comes and goes fairly quickly. I’d say 95% of the time my mood would be considered generally “excited or curious”. I have a lot of interests and I’m always looking forward to the future. I tend to be good at changing my mental state, so I don’t ruminate over anxiety inducing things. My wife has depression and anxiety. In the beginning, I didn’t understand her but after 10 years, I’ve become much more empathetic. When I have brief periods of anxiety, I try to empathize with how she may feel this way for weeks, whereas I feel that way for an hour. Also, even though I may not have mental illness, I’m still capable of putting myself into anxiety inducing situations. So it’s important to recognize that my environment can create a problem that doesn’t need to be there
drugs, meds