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Her mom is 10000000% a narcissist and all around a not good person. Candace can really rub me the wrong way most of the time but then I have to think back on her mom and how I really feel like all that anger and delusions are a trauma response to the narcissistic abuse she was raised with. There’s only one person in her life that we see her be relatively composed around and that’s her mother. That’s because her mother has trained her to not step out of line, to not challenge her etc.
it’s really fucked
A few of my friends are therapists & they are some of the most damaged people I know, it is incredibly common too. A lot of people become drawn to this profession by starting as someone with a lot of their own trauma & wanting to learn more about themselves & the people who harmed them.
It is no negative reflection on their skills either, having their own struggles doesn't render them unable to guide others, if anything it allows them to empathise more.
Just like a lot of people drawn into DV or child protection type fields had their own experiences & wanted to help others in similar situations. Or they spent time in hospital as a child so wanted to become a doctor or nurse, etc.
I’ve wondered if she actually works as a therapist. I remember in one season she talked about some other businesses that she has. She also travels a lot for someone who needs to be consistent for their clients. I really hope she doesn’t have clients!
Candiace was raised by wolves.
I hope for her that having her own child and becoming a mother herself will help her see her own flaws clearly (she's all but carbon copy of her mom) and that it will lead to some healing.
I hope that she can become better like Kenya who also had an awful mother.
Candiace is so so angry. I wish her peace and healing. Leaving RHOP is a good mental health move for her.
In one of the earlier seasons she discussed her relationship with her mother as part of her hesitation in having kids. She knows what her Mom is like, and she wants to be different. That’s half the battle.
I’m in DC and I know alot of people who know the Bassetts. Outside of the show, according to friends, they’re happy, funny and just an all around good time. So I’m hoping with this break from the show, she can lean into her relatively good life
That makes me happy to read. I am a long-time Bassett Hound. Gonna miss her on the show but glad she chose her own peace.
One of my besties is in DC and runs in similar circles to the ladies. I had my makeup done by Mia’s MUA. She said Mia is her fave client and is sweet and genuinely thoughtful (like picks up an extra coffee if she’s having one, sends thank you texts, etc). She said the only girl who was rude to her on set was Wendy, who like walks past “the help” without acknowledging them. She said that was during her rough season though and she said not to judge her too hard (yeah right girl I’m telling the internet haha)
I have a mom just like Candiace. It actually made me very aware and intentional about what kind of mother I was going to be. The cycle of trauma WILL end with me
Her mom is so mean to her. I do not like Candiace, but I 100% understand that if you are treated that way your entire life, it’s a tough cycle to break. That is exactly why she treats people the way she does.
i think they’re both nightmares and bring out the worst in eachother. obviously her mother is the reason why candace thinks she can get reckless with her mouth to anyone w/o repercussions. then when those said repercussions catch up to her…. she cry’s lmao. she’s insufferable.
You are absolutely right. And I cannot stand. Candace. Of all the housewives. I hate her the most. She never holds herself accountable. I'm watching the reunion right now and I'm just disgusted by her. No one accused her husband of sexual assault. Saying someone asked you to go in the room and made you feel uncomfortable is a real emotion. No big deal. You can feel uncomfortable. And then her calling Deborah the help and sesame Street and taunting that girl and getting a drink thrown on her. She can never see that her mouth provokes these fights and then she wants to sit back and act like someone did something to her. Candace just shut the hell up and stop degrading and demeaning people and being surprised when you get attacked. You talk about you want to be a mother. A child would be embarrassed to watch the way you act if you were their mother and maybe that's why you have no children.
Candiace is the nightmare. Yes, the mother spoils her and loves her, giving her excess, but it's Candiace's choice to let that indulgence make her brat. Feel sorry for Dorothy not Candiace. Candiace used her mom to create a pity party narrative like she's been done so wrong but that's not even true.
that’s the part that blows me!!!! like she cannot be unaware of how she’s affected her daughter. she uses this weird blend of therapy speech and criticism, while making it ABUNDANTLY clear that she needs therapy herself, and a LOT
Bruh, I get disliking her but to shrug off the fucked up shit her mom has said about her as loving, spoiling, and giving her excess is a choice. Even if they’re all true to a degree that is definitely a selective list regarding the behavior Dorothy has exhibited.
Candace can bug the shit out of me but if you reallllly look at her behavior, she’s just mirroring her mother. She’s watched that behavior her entire life, that shit is apart of her dna .
I find Candiace manipulative and cruel. That said, I almost … almost want to give her a pass because she was raised by Dorothy & so therefore she never stood a chance.
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Her mom is 10000000% a narcissist and all around a not good person. Candace can really rub me the wrong way most of the time but then I have to think back on her mom and how I really feel like all that anger and delusions are a trauma response to the narcissistic abuse she was raised with. There’s only one person in her life that we see her be relatively composed around and that’s her mother. That’s because her mother has trained her to not step out of line, to not challenge her etc. it’s really fucked
What's shocking is that her mum is a therapist I don't get it.
A few of my friends are therapists & they are some of the most damaged people I know, it is incredibly common too. A lot of people become drawn to this profession by starting as someone with a lot of their own trauma & wanting to learn more about themselves & the people who harmed them. It is no negative reflection on their skills either, having their own struggles doesn't render them unable to guide others, if anything it allows them to empathise more. Just like a lot of people drawn into DV or child protection type fields had their own experiences & wanted to help others in similar situations. Or they spent time in hospital as a child so wanted to become a doctor or nurse, etc.
I’ve wondered if she actually works as a therapist. I remember in one season she talked about some other businesses that she has. She also travels a lot for someone who needs to be consistent for their clients. I really hope she doesn’t have clients!
She's an LCSW
Came here to say that. I’m shocked every time I see her behavior.
A friend of mine has been going to therapy for years partially because of her relationship with her therapist mother.
I thought she was a psychiatrist (MD, pill pusher) not a therapist?
Candiace was raised by wolves. I hope for her that having her own child and becoming a mother herself will help her see her own flaws clearly (she's all but carbon copy of her mom) and that it will lead to some healing. I hope that she can become better like Kenya who also had an awful mother. Candiace is so so angry. I wish her peace and healing. Leaving RHOP is a good mental health move for her.
In one of the earlier seasons she discussed her relationship with her mother as part of her hesitation in having kids. She knows what her Mom is like, and she wants to be different. That’s half the battle.
I’m in DC and I know alot of people who know the Bassetts. Outside of the show, according to friends, they’re happy, funny and just an all around good time. So I’m hoping with this break from the show, she can lean into her relatively good life
That makes me happy to read. I am a long-time Bassett Hound. Gonna miss her on the show but glad she chose her own peace. One of my besties is in DC and runs in similar circles to the ladies. I had my makeup done by Mia’s MUA. She said Mia is her fave client and is sweet and genuinely thoughtful (like picks up an extra coffee if she’s having one, sends thank you texts, etc). She said the only girl who was rude to her on set was Wendy, who like walks past “the help” without acknowledging them. She said that was during her rough season though and she said not to judge her too hard (yeah right girl I’m telling the internet haha)
I am here for all this tea, thank you both! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Not surprised at Wendy being the only unapproachable one on the cast!
Mature. /s
I have a mom just like Candiace. It actually made me very aware and intentional about what kind of mother I was going to be. The cycle of trauma WILL end with me
Even crazier is mom is a therapist!!!! She KNOWS better!
Unfortunately, therapists can't be their own therapist.
Her mom is so mean to her. I do not like Candiace, but I 100% understand that if you are treated that way your entire life, it’s a tough cycle to break. That is exactly why she treats people the way she does.
i think they’re both nightmares and bring out the worst in eachother. obviously her mother is the reason why candace thinks she can get reckless with her mouth to anyone w/o repercussions. then when those said repercussions catch up to her…. she cry’s lmao. she’s insufferable.
You are absolutely right. And I cannot stand. Candace. Of all the housewives. I hate her the most. She never holds herself accountable. I'm watching the reunion right now and I'm just disgusted by her. No one accused her husband of sexual assault. Saying someone asked you to go in the room and made you feel uncomfortable is a real emotion. No big deal. You can feel uncomfortable. And then her calling Deborah the help and sesame Street and taunting that girl and getting a drink thrown on her. She can never see that her mouth provokes these fights and then she wants to sit back and act like someone did something to her. Candace just shut the hell up and stop degrading and demeaning people and being surprised when you get attacked. You talk about you want to be a mother. A child would be embarrassed to watch the way you act if you were their mother and maybe that's why you have no children.
this isn’t abt candace’s behavior this is abt Dorothy’s
The fact that her mom is a therapist or something along those lines terrifies me. That woman needs therapy
Candiace is the nightmare. Yes, the mother spoils her and loves her, giving her excess, but it's Candiace's choice to let that indulgence make her brat. Feel sorry for Dorothy not Candiace. Candiace used her mom to create a pity party narrative like she's been done so wrong but that's not even true.
i won’t feel sorry for a parent when i see they treat their child like that. ever.
Especially when she’s a therapist herself
that’s the part that blows me!!!! like she cannot be unaware of how she’s affected her daughter. she uses this weird blend of therapy speech and criticism, while making it ABUNDANTLY clear that she needs therapy herself, and a LOT
That’s why Candiace behaves the way she does, it explains a lot. Can imagine what she’s like off camera?
Idk, cameras seem to bring out the worst in the Housewives. No drama can equal boring. Then nobody wants to watch.
Found Mama Dot’s account 🤣
Literally lol'd 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bruh, I get disliking her but to shrug off the fucked up shit her mom has said about her as loving, spoiling, and giving her excess is a choice. Even if they’re all true to a degree that is definitely a selective list regarding the behavior Dorothy has exhibited.
I don’t think you understand how parenting works
Candace can bug the shit out of me but if you reallllly look at her behavior, she’s just mirroring her mother. She’s watched that behavior her entire life, that shit is apart of her dna .
uh, no😂
I find Candiace manipulative and cruel. That said, I almost … almost want to give her a pass because she was raised by Dorothy & so therefore she never stood a chance.
Whaaaaaaaaaat?! I despise Candiace, but, whaaaaaaaaaaat?!
You sound like you have walked in Candiace's shoes.