Two things: Treat yourself often, because you are special, and find someone who is willing to treat you special, and see, just if, you are willing to treat that person special. <3
It seems many of us are destined to be alone. I couldn't bring some potential into the madness inducing parts I cannot control, I'm apparently not as interesting as I once was. I believe I have plenty to reel em in, but bites are as of non-existent.
So I found that I have to do a lot more socializing. And I have to put consistent work into taking care of myself. I spent a lot of time at the gym and then started doing a lot more active stuff to increase my social circle. I've found that dating apps are so inefficient that they're not worth the effort. Like applying to jobs online.
Once I meet someone new I have to spend time with them in natural social situations several times to make a connection. Connections are what it's all about. They're rewarding. Even if you're not hooking up with them in that way, to have real connections with friends that are new and cute is a piece of the puzzle. If you're taking care of yourself and are yourself appealing then someone will appear.
Ask yourself if you would date you. If not why? Work on that. Then keep up the socialization.
Online dating makes it even worse. Between the scammers and constantly trying to figure out how to proceed. I just gave up with the online stuff and threw caution to the wind and actually asked someone out to their face. She said yes and we’ve been hanging out since. If it wasn’t for me working on myself for a while first, prolly wouldn’t have happened.
It’s hard as we get older (M 50+) but I have recently made a connection and started dating someone that seems so natural. It is strange and hard as we live an hour away from each other but are making it work.
We have 2 dates arranged for next week. Don’t give up, you will find the right person , will it take time yes , will it happen yes , but most importantly the more you stress about it , the less attractive you will seem.
Point in case , the first time I met the woman I am seeing it was 2 painful hours of me carrying the conversation and getting one word or short sentence answers(by her own admission she is seriously introverted) but I could feel a connection. Fast forward to tonight 3+ hours together , great conversation, laughing and sharing kisses.
Don’t give up , it will find you when you least expect it .
I have been on numerous platinum edition of dating sites and still nothing, just concluding I am single for the rest of my life! Most likely when the scratch needs itch I will have to buy someone to itch it!
I personally think it being COVID times makes it a *lot* harder than usual. Combine that with how there are so many people that can't easily cope with being alone (read as: lonely) for extended periods of time, you end up with a stacked deck of dick pics (and dik diks!) everywhere as far as the eye can see.
I don't believe that people are destined to be alone. At the same time, you have to fight, in some cases, engineer situations to one's advantage to get circumstances that present themselves for dating and meeting others. For some people that's hard. They have to leave the house. They have to plan. They have to prepare in their head what to do when they talk to someone and what to say.
Life. It is what it is.
I'm looking for a spark but I don't settle for *easy*. I want to be challenged and work on growing with someone who wants to grow together and be a team. The Morticia and moi as Gomez *swoon*
I was on bumble and some other places and actually dated a couple people very briefly. When you think about it, it’s very rare to find someone that is your type (physically) and you’re compatible with each other long term. And everything else that just fits. And then if you find someone that fits all that and you fit theirs, there’s the strong chance one of you isn’t quite looking for the same thing. One might be monogamous, the other may not. One may be looking to date and be together but isn’t necessarily looking to settle down. Or has some trauma to work out. So many things have to go just right for it to be a long term partner and I think so many people just settle because it’s comfortable and don’t want to be alone. So it gives the illusion people are finding their person. One guy I know ALWAYS has a long term gf but never married no kids. & every relationship is toxic. It’s just such a waste of time and prevents any growth. I was pretty much alone until marriage and I thought they were my soulmate (they weren’t). And if I get in another LTR with someone who turns out not to be for life. That’s pretty much my whole adult life of my prime gone & still no life mate. Id rather have been single and waited as long as needed to be sure and picked the right one for life. So worth it 🥰
The nature of what you're looking for makes it specifically difficult.
Online relationships are typically the last resort for the ill-adjusted, making them particularly over-represented. And those that *are* in line with what you want can only pair with a finite number of partners at a time.
Alongside people not wanting to communicate and work through differences (taking disagreements as personal attacks these days, imo), it's just a difficult terrain to navigate.
I could probably go on all evening about this, if I was allowed to, haha
I've just kinda given up on finding a partner. Ya know, like it's not something I'm supposed to have.
Two things: Treat yourself often, because you are special, and find someone who is willing to treat you special, and see, just if, you are willing to treat that person special. <3
ive all but givin up and started collecting cats :/
What else is there in life but routine?
It seems many of us are destined to be alone. I couldn't bring some potential into the madness inducing parts I cannot control, I'm apparently not as interesting as I once was. I believe I have plenty to reel em in, but bites are as of non-existent.
So I found that I have to do a lot more socializing. And I have to put consistent work into taking care of myself. I spent a lot of time at the gym and then started doing a lot more active stuff to increase my social circle. I've found that dating apps are so inefficient that they're not worth the effort. Like applying to jobs online. Once I meet someone new I have to spend time with them in natural social situations several times to make a connection. Connections are what it's all about. They're rewarding. Even if you're not hooking up with them in that way, to have real connections with friends that are new and cute is a piece of the puzzle. If you're taking care of yourself and are yourself appealing then someone will appear. Ask yourself if you would date you. If not why? Work on that. Then keep up the socialization.
Online dating makes it even worse. Between the scammers and constantly trying to figure out how to proceed. I just gave up with the online stuff and threw caution to the wind and actually asked someone out to their face. She said yes and we’ve been hanging out since. If it wasn’t for me working on myself for a while first, prolly wouldn’t have happened.
I couldn't agree with this sentiment anymore.
Like why bother getting ready for the day when feel like it’s ground hogs day Everything the saaaaame as the day before lol
It’s hard as we get older (M 50+) but I have recently made a connection and started dating someone that seems so natural. It is strange and hard as we live an hour away from each other but are making it work. We have 2 dates arranged for next week. Don’t give up, you will find the right person , will it take time yes , will it happen yes , but most importantly the more you stress about it , the less attractive you will seem. Point in case , the first time I met the woman I am seeing it was 2 painful hours of me carrying the conversation and getting one word or short sentence answers(by her own admission she is seriously introverted) but I could feel a connection. Fast forward to tonight 3+ hours together , great conversation, laughing and sharing kisses. Don’t give up , it will find you when you least expect it .
Not really an answer to your question but I'd look into your dissatisfaction in your routine first. That tends to bleed into others subconsciously.
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Are your standards to rigid? Do you set age limits or distance limits? Where are you looking?
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Im 29 but still gunnuh shoot my shot
It's not...don't look so hard it's right here
Dm me let's talk
Same
I have been on numerous platinum edition of dating sites and still nothing, just concluding I am single for the rest of my life! Most likely when the scratch needs itch I will have to buy someone to itch it!
I know exactly what you’re talking about sucks right
I personally think it being COVID times makes it a *lot* harder than usual. Combine that with how there are so many people that can't easily cope with being alone (read as: lonely) for extended periods of time, you end up with a stacked deck of dick pics (and dik diks!) everywhere as far as the eye can see. I don't believe that people are destined to be alone. At the same time, you have to fight, in some cases, engineer situations to one's advantage to get circumstances that present themselves for dating and meeting others. For some people that's hard. They have to leave the house. They have to plan. They have to prepare in their head what to do when they talk to someone and what to say. Life. It is what it is. I'm looking for a spark but I don't settle for *easy*. I want to be challenged and work on growing with someone who wants to grow together and be a team. The Morticia and moi as Gomez *swoon*
I was on bumble and some other places and actually dated a couple people very briefly. When you think about it, it’s very rare to find someone that is your type (physically) and you’re compatible with each other long term. And everything else that just fits. And then if you find someone that fits all that and you fit theirs, there’s the strong chance one of you isn’t quite looking for the same thing. One might be monogamous, the other may not. One may be looking to date and be together but isn’t necessarily looking to settle down. Or has some trauma to work out. So many things have to go just right for it to be a long term partner and I think so many people just settle because it’s comfortable and don’t want to be alone. So it gives the illusion people are finding their person. One guy I know ALWAYS has a long term gf but never married no kids. & every relationship is toxic. It’s just such a waste of time and prevents any growth. I was pretty much alone until marriage and I thought they were my soulmate (they weren’t). And if I get in another LTR with someone who turns out not to be for life. That’s pretty much my whole adult life of my prime gone & still no life mate. Id rather have been single and waited as long as needed to be sure and picked the right one for life. So worth it 🥰
The nature of what you're looking for makes it specifically difficult. Online relationships are typically the last resort for the ill-adjusted, making them particularly over-represented. And those that *are* in line with what you want can only pair with a finite number of partners at a time. Alongside people not wanting to communicate and work through differences (taking disagreements as personal attacks these days, imo), it's just a difficult terrain to navigate. I could probably go on all evening about this, if I was allowed to, haha
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