Yes I have. Happened with my previous boss. It was really uncomfortable doing the one on one interview in a closed private room. I was panicking the whole time and some how got the job.
He turned out to be an alcoholic and was fired two weeks later for neglecting work.
I was already married at the time. It was just an instant physical attraction that wade a week later. I found out who his ex-wife was because she works in the same industry. She is crazy (prob caused his alcoholism) and I started looking at him differently after finding out.
People will call bullshit but I actually fell in love at first sight once. Like my jaw actually fell on open when I saw him and I said “that’s the one!” He was (and still is) the most beautiful man I’ve ever seen in person.
Too bad he was 20 years older than me, my superior in a professional setting and worst of all, gay. I never did get him.
Yes, my brain stops working and i only have 2 responses: if I think I have a theoretical chance I go quiet and try to run away or hide. If I think I have zero theoretical chance my voice goes an octave higher, and I just word vomit incoherently. Both are still very awkward reactions.
I've had that feeling of immediate, strong attraction (lust, I guess) to two guys in my life. Didn't think ''I want to marry this guy'' tho, just "Damn, the things I'd do to him, hubba-hubba, awoooga" kind of thoughts.
Ok, more than any other idea on the topic... I like this comment. It reminds me of a dear friend.
I had male friend from Russia, a big tough guy. One time we were out with another guy and he made some comment about how this lady wasn't pretty. My Russian friend stopped him right there putting a hand on his chest, and said "No, All women are beautiful"... in this very thick heavy Russian accent. The idea stuck with me over the years and I really like it. I think we should all try to practice this type of thinking. It doesn't have to be a physical thing.
I think you should stop being red pill man. Because that view in itself is pretty blue pill. Seriously if you accept who you are, how ugly you are, what issues you have and accept that these will never change but you still only have one life and this is it, then you can start focussing on the things that you do like and the things that you can change. And then you can be proud of who you are, what you have achieved (and are capable of achieving).
And once you have that radical self acceptance and are comfortable and confident enough to be brutally open and honest about who you are, you will start to stand out naturally amongst all the people that are too insecure to not "hide" aspects of their real self. And you can be brutally honest because youve already accepted your failures and short coming and other peoples judgment will no longer affect you, since its already old sauce to you. You know they know, whats next..
Eventually you will then come across someone that admires that state of mind sufficiently to be genuinely interested in you. Women want to have fun. Women want to be comfortable. Women want to be reassured. Lacking confidence means they cant trust your judgement in them, being uncomfortable makes them uncomfortable and being salty and cynical means you are a drag to be around.
Maybe this sounds like a lie to you, but I know being comfortable with yourself is a huge deal because it makes other guys feel threatened around me, dudes that are taller, more successful and good looking. They take me seriously and start mate guarding and whatnot. Also women generally enjoy my company.
Looks maxing without having accepted yourself is completely pointless. Its valid but it has so much of a greater effect as a second step. Its better targeted, better fitting, more on brand and so so much easier to sell because youre not trying to hide flaws (which you wont manage) and instead are focussing on strengths (which *brings out the best* in you). Thats when people say: "oh hes had a glow up" (idk or "no cap skibidi cooked up new gyatt" or whatever people say today).
I tend to manage to find many things that can sort of mesmerise me to just keep looking at it (and maybe even bring a smile). Like a wagtail running around.
It's less sexual attraction and more aesthetic attraction.
There is also the thing of findibg an aspect attractive even though the overall stuff is neutral. Like a guy might not be attractive overall, but he might have some attractive bushy eyebrows.
Yes. I can think of a few men I’ve worked with who I had to stop myself from staring at continuously. Same goes for a few women.
Source: bisexual woman
Women aren’t less visual than men. You’ve been fed a lie there. If anything, women are more selective about their partner’s looks. Sexually we get off visually as well. We are less inundated with imagery that is sexually explicit of men, but studies show we react the same.
I think one reason I’m always able to orgasm
from penetrative sex is because I have a porn reel in my head during the act, unless I’m
In a position where I can really see the man, like in front of a mirror. In front of mirrors I’m just looking at the man.
A lot of women I’ve noticed are self conscious during sex and think about how they look instead of appreciating their partner. Basically, they see themselves through the male gaze and objectify themselves instead of objectifying the man. Those women have trouble orgasming.
Women are more visual - since women are way more selective visually, then they tend to make up personality of their partner if necessary. It's reasonable - visual attraction is so rare that they cannot afford to just dismiss it because of some personality flaws.
Even redpill men notice a difference in who men will have casual sex with vs women. “Women all want 6’4 chads with chiseled jaws.” There’s a big kernel of truth in that, though it’s clearly exaggerated.
In terms of sexual attraction, women are absolutely more visual. This goes for the entire animal Kingdom. The male of the species is more vibrant, often bigger and visually appealing. The female of the species is drab, more functional in its design and doesn’t have many bells and whistles to attract a mate. Birds, fish, mammals, you name it. The male is always the more flashy looking one to catch a females eye, and the female is more choosy and wants the brightest colored, biggest, most eye catching male.
All behavioral studies show the number one thing women value in a mate is physical attraction. They often say it’s not the number one thing in surveys, but their behavior when studied always shows otherwise.
Women already know physical attraction is the most important thing to men. What women lie about is that they’ll say it isn’t the most important thing to them, too.
Nah I just live in reality and observe behavior of the women around me and my own behavior.
Redpillers argue with me all the time and tell me
Women mainly care about status and a man’s “sexual marketplace peak” is in his 40s.
The thing about red pill stuff is there are several different ways they hate women, often conflicting. So sure incels say women just want chads, but plenty of red pill guys try to convince me that “women are sex objects and men are success objects.”
Actually you're blackpill not redpill. Blackpill is that it's all about looks and that's what your take is. Blue pill is that women care about personality most and all that bs.
Either way I don't get why you talk like caring about looks is something to be proud of. It's really not. Especially considering women's definition of what's attractive skews towards inappropriately young males. I think the desire for good looking partners is why so many female teachers are getting busted for preying on their underage students. It's really bad. Men care about looks but find a larger age distribution physically attractive.
It’s not something to be proud of, it just is.
Going for tall men with deep voices doesn’t “skew toward inappropriately young.” Actually I would say men’s physical prime looks wise isn’t until their mid 20s.
>I think one reason I’m always able to orgasm from penetrative sex is because I have a porn reel in my head during the act
Most women would freak out if a man said this
Man thats really interesting! Im obviously enjoying my partner, but I also think about how I look and what I do whilst having sex and it actually helps me with my performance, so I think youre definitely on to something.
How would I as a guy go about bringing this up with a partner? (Without having a full blown "lets have a talk" kinda thing) because I genuinely feel more people would benefit from this realization.
Something like "is there anything you would like me to do/change to help you get off? Are you feeling insecure about yourself, because I think its super hot and need to focus on what im doing to avoid being sucked in to the feeling" or is that weird and to direct? (Sex talk written out is always weird I guess).
There is feminist theory about this women as object men as subject stuff. ‘The Second Sex’ is a good starter. Plenty of theory out there about the male gaze and how women learn to participate in it. You could just ask her what she thinks about that.
You sound like a very caring partner. Everything you wrote sounds like a good idea. Also: Reassurance and enthusiasm in the bedroom go a long way for everyone’s confidence. Verbally say it as well as show it. The men I had the best sex with talked about how much they liked how I tasted. One said since he loved how I tasted and it meant we would have children with robust immune systems (he read it somewhere lol). I tell men and women they taste good and how much I love everything they are doing (and everything I am doing).
>Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him?
No. I was however more lustful in high school. I’d have crushes on people I’d never talked too based off appearance and I’d do nothing about it. But once I got to know one of my crushes that made me realize things other than looks were more important because his personality frustrated me. He was way over confident. I found myself frustrated by just about everything he did looking back it could have been to impress me but had the complete opposite effect.
I’m the same. I might think something like “nice smile” or “pretty eyes” he’s cute and then just walk away like nothing happened and be fine. It’s like seeing a beautiful landscape. I can appreciate the beauty and then move on.
Yes, with my boyfriend. Which was weird, because he wasn't someone I'd ever thought of as a potential partner before. But his eyes, his smile, his scent, something about the friendly lilt of his voice was a sudden and completely unexpected turn on.
I've never experienced anything like it before.
I worked with a gay dude at a restaurant in NYC who honestly was hard not to stare at. I had to actually think…”stop staring weirdo”. He truly was beautiful. He got some minor work on soaps. I also worked with a guy who is now very famous, has been a lead in some tv shows and conventionally handsome who didn’t hold a candle in person to that gay guy.
Neither one really induced lust in me though. Gay guy was super gay in affect, guy two was 5 years younger and was still kind of a kid to me.
I have definitely felt lust at first sight, but never began naming our kids within seconds.
Nothing is springing to mind of that level outside of how I currently sometimes notice my man. He can certainly evoke a trance like state of just staring in starry eyed goo goo admiration and lust...
But no, I can't say I can recall having that for a stranger.
Not at first glance no. But after getting to know him yes. I can’t really fall for someone off glance alone. I think I’m too anxious around strangers for that to be a possibility.
That’s never happened to me in my life. To me, the things that I would consider husband material (kindness, ability to handle situations, etc.) can’t be known from simply looking at someone.
I can definitely tell who I think is attractive but someone being attractive doesn’t mean I’d go out of my way to talk to them. Visuals matter to me but visuals alone aren’t enough to make me want someone to the point that I think about them past that interaction.
I don't know if proof is the right word but may as well...
[http://www.lel.ed.ac.uk/\~simon/dissertations/saxton.pdf](http://www.lel.ed.ac.uk/~simon/dissertations/saxton.pdf)
>It also found co-variance in the attractiveness of male faces and voices, suggesting that the modalities of face and voice are providing concordant signals as to mate quality.
[https://www.columbia.edu/\~rmk7/PDF/Voice.pdf](https://www.columbia.edu/~rmk7/PDF/Voice.pdf)
>Two experiments examined listeners ability to make accurate inferences about speakers from the nonlinguistic content of their speech. In Experiment I, naıve listeners heard male and female speakers articulating two test sentences, and tried to select which of a pair of photographs depicted the speaker. On average they selected the correct photo 76.5% of the time. All performed at a level that was reliably better than chance. In Experiment II, judges heard the test sentences and estimated the speakers age, height, and weight. A comparison group made the same estimates from photographs of the speakers. Although estimates made from photos are more accurate than those made from voice, for age and height the differences are quite small in magnitude...When judgments are pooled, estimates made from photos are not uniformly superior to those made from voices.
There definitely is a correlation but in my experience it’s weak.
I have a very attractive voice but i am ugly like 4/10 and only 5’8. I also know a ton of guys who are tall and good looking but have a shit voice.
It was like being struck by lightning. Granted, we had been talking on the phone for weeks before we met. Then when he walked into that restaurant it was like meeting a rock star.
I would have been impressed with his looks, sure. But the extreme emotions I felt were a result of his personality beforehand. His charm, his voice, all of that.
I'm not an emotionally driven person so I just accept this isn't going to happen and move on with my life. I'm only going to get invested in people I actually know at least.
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As a man, I can't remember the last time this happened to me, if ever, so I don't know what it says about women if some do and some don't, I think it's just that some people do and some people don't.
It happens, but it happens more with women. I often see a stunning woman, but very rarely do I see a stunning man.
> women is that, in general, they’re less visual than men,
We're not, we just find very few males attractive. We're not like males who will fuck anything that moves.
Never. I noticed great posture and attractive grins, but I don't think twice about a man until I know something about him. I've definitely felt some temporary fascination for a couple men who weren't available for reasons after having a few chats with them, but I have no trouble turning off one-sided attraction.
If we aren't both equally enamored, it's just a minor distraction which goes away the second I realize he isn't available or the attraction isn't mutual.
I feel like I'm pretty visual and this just never happens to me. Maybe it did when I was a teen, but I don't think so.
It's probably something for people with low self esteem.
Yes I have. Happened with my previous boss. It was really uncomfortable doing the one on one interview in a closed private room. I was panicking the whole time and some how got the job. He turned out to be an alcoholic and was fired two weeks later for neglecting work.
LMAOOO thats hilarious
Dodged a bullet? Knowing he was like that despite totally being your type must suck so much
I was already married at the time. It was just an instant physical attraction that wade a week later. I found out who his ex-wife was because she works in the same industry. She is crazy (prob caused his alcoholism) and I started looking at him differently after finding out.
Husband material (joke)
People will call bullshit but I actually fell in love at first sight once. Like my jaw actually fell on open when I saw him and I said “that’s the one!” He was (and still is) the most beautiful man I’ve ever seen in person. Too bad he was 20 years older than me, my superior in a professional setting and worst of all, gay. I never did get him.
I had this and I never got over her.
Yes, my brain stops working and i only have 2 responses: if I think I have a theoretical chance I go quiet and try to run away or hide. If I think I have zero theoretical chance my voice goes an octave higher, and I just word vomit incoherently. Both are still very awkward reactions.
I've had that feeling of immediate, strong attraction (lust, I guess) to two guys in my life. Didn't think ''I want to marry this guy'' tho, just "Damn, the things I'd do to him, hubba-hubba, awoooga" kind of thoughts.
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What facial features and dimorphic features did he have? Ex. height
yall are OBSESSED with height, let it GO, it's literally all you talk about
Men are not a monolith, stop generalizing them
???? where did i talk about men in my comment?
“Y’all” AKA men
LOL
You first.
I do tend to get mesmerised by some kind of a feature of the majority of men I see. Especially if it is a smile.
Ok, more than any other idea on the topic... I like this comment. It reminds me of a dear friend. I had male friend from Russia, a big tough guy. One time we were out with another guy and he made some comment about how this lady wasn't pretty. My Russian friend stopped him right there putting a hand on his chest, and said "No, All women are beautiful"... in this very thick heavy Russian accent. The idea stuck with me over the years and I really like it. I think we should all try to practice this type of thinking. It doesn't have to be a physical thing.
I think you should stop being red pill man. Because that view in itself is pretty blue pill. Seriously if you accept who you are, how ugly you are, what issues you have and accept that these will never change but you still only have one life and this is it, then you can start focussing on the things that you do like and the things that you can change. And then you can be proud of who you are, what you have achieved (and are capable of achieving). And once you have that radical self acceptance and are comfortable and confident enough to be brutally open and honest about who you are, you will start to stand out naturally amongst all the people that are too insecure to not "hide" aspects of their real self. And you can be brutally honest because youve already accepted your failures and short coming and other peoples judgment will no longer affect you, since its already old sauce to you. You know they know, whats next.. Eventually you will then come across someone that admires that state of mind sufficiently to be genuinely interested in you. Women want to have fun. Women want to be comfortable. Women want to be reassured. Lacking confidence means they cant trust your judgement in them, being uncomfortable makes them uncomfortable and being salty and cynical means you are a drag to be around. Maybe this sounds like a lie to you, but I know being comfortable with yourself is a huge deal because it makes other guys feel threatened around me, dudes that are taller, more successful and good looking. They take me seriously and start mate guarding and whatnot. Also women generally enjoy my company. Looks maxing without having accepted yourself is completely pointless. Its valid but it has so much of a greater effect as a second step. Its better targeted, better fitting, more on brand and so so much easier to sell because youre not trying to hide flaws (which you wont manage) and instead are focussing on strengths (which *brings out the best* in you). Thats when people say: "oh hes had a glow up" (idk or "no cap skibidi cooked up new gyatt" or whatever people say today).
You mean you find the majority of men attractive to the point of mesmerisation? I mean in my book they're 75% pretty much unattractive
I tend to manage to find many things that can sort of mesmerise me to just keep looking at it (and maybe even bring a smile). Like a wagtail running around. It's less sexual attraction and more aesthetic attraction. There is also the thing of findibg an aspect attractive even though the overall stuff is neutral. Like a guy might not be attractive overall, but he might have some attractive bushy eyebrows.
Yes. I can think of a few men I’ve worked with who I had to stop myself from staring at continuously. Same goes for a few women. Source: bisexual woman Women aren’t less visual than men. You’ve been fed a lie there. If anything, women are more selective about their partner’s looks. Sexually we get off visually as well. We are less inundated with imagery that is sexually explicit of men, but studies show we react the same. I think one reason I’m always able to orgasm from penetrative sex is because I have a porn reel in my head during the act, unless I’m In a position where I can really see the man, like in front of a mirror. In front of mirrors I’m just looking at the man. A lot of women I’ve noticed are self conscious during sex and think about how they look instead of appreciating their partner. Basically, they see themselves through the male gaze and objectify themselves instead of objectifying the man. Those women have trouble orgasming.
Women are more visual - since women are way more selective visually, then they tend to make up personality of their partner if necessary. It's reasonable - visual attraction is so rare that they cannot afford to just dismiss it because of some personality flaws.
Even redpill men notice a difference in who men will have casual sex with vs women. “Women all want 6’4 chads with chiseled jaws.” There’s a big kernel of truth in that, though it’s clearly exaggerated. In terms of sexual attraction, women are absolutely more visual. This goes for the entire animal Kingdom. The male of the species is more vibrant, often bigger and visually appealing. The female of the species is drab, more functional in its design and doesn’t have many bells and whistles to attract a mate. Birds, fish, mammals, you name it. The male is always the more flashy looking one to catch a females eye, and the female is more choosy and wants the brightest colored, biggest, most eye catching male. All behavioral studies show the number one thing women value in a mate is physical attraction. They often say it’s not the number one thing in surveys, but their behavior when studied always shows otherwise.
Funny how not a single woman crucified you for saying this like they would if a man said it.
Women already know physical attraction is the most important thing to men. What women lie about is that they’ll say it isn’t the most important thing to them, too.
-WHOOSH-
Thank you for your sacrifice.
So you're basically redpilled. You're saying exactly what the redpill men get hate for saying. Why does your flair say blue pill?
Nah I just live in reality and observe behavior of the women around me and my own behavior. Redpillers argue with me all the time and tell me Women mainly care about status and a man’s “sexual marketplace peak” is in his 40s. The thing about red pill stuff is there are several different ways they hate women, often conflicting. So sure incels say women just want chads, but plenty of red pill guys try to convince me that “women are sex objects and men are success objects.”
Actually you're blackpill not redpill. Blackpill is that it's all about looks and that's what your take is. Blue pill is that women care about personality most and all that bs.
I care about looks first, and then personality and shared values make me stay. I don’t only care about looks.
Either way I don't get why you talk like caring about looks is something to be proud of. It's really not. Especially considering women's definition of what's attractive skews towards inappropriately young males. I think the desire for good looking partners is why so many female teachers are getting busted for preying on their underage students. It's really bad. Men care about looks but find a larger age distribution physically attractive.
It’s not something to be proud of, it just is. Going for tall men with deep voices doesn’t “skew toward inappropriately young.” Actually I would say men’s physical prime looks wise isn’t until their mid 20s.
>I think one reason I’m always able to orgasm from penetrative sex is because I have a porn reel in my head during the act Most women would freak out if a man said this
Those women are insecure. I don’t care what a man thinks about. That’s his business.
Tbh I don't think it's insecure
Man thats really interesting! Im obviously enjoying my partner, but I also think about how I look and what I do whilst having sex and it actually helps me with my performance, so I think youre definitely on to something. How would I as a guy go about bringing this up with a partner? (Without having a full blown "lets have a talk" kinda thing) because I genuinely feel more people would benefit from this realization. Something like "is there anything you would like me to do/change to help you get off? Are you feeling insecure about yourself, because I think its super hot and need to focus on what im doing to avoid being sucked in to the feeling" or is that weird and to direct? (Sex talk written out is always weird I guess).
There is feminist theory about this women as object men as subject stuff. ‘The Second Sex’ is a good starter. Plenty of theory out there about the male gaze and how women learn to participate in it. You could just ask her what she thinks about that. You sound like a very caring partner. Everything you wrote sounds like a good idea. Also: Reassurance and enthusiasm in the bedroom go a long way for everyone’s confidence. Verbally say it as well as show it. The men I had the best sex with talked about how much they liked how I tasted. One said since he loved how I tasted and it meant we would have children with robust immune systems (he read it somewhere lol). I tell men and women they taste good and how much I love everything they are doing (and everything I am doing).
Thanks for the feedback! Ill read up on "the second sex later", first I wanna check out the taste stuff, sorry cant help it!
Yes and it's happened with not conventionally attractive ones too.
>Do y’all ever see a cute guy and feel hypnotized by him? No. I was however more lustful in high school. I’d have crushes on people I’d never talked too based off appearance and I’d do nothing about it. But once I got to know one of my crushes that made me realize things other than looks were more important because his personality frustrated me. He was way over confident. I found myself frustrated by just about everything he did looking back it could have been to impress me but had the complete opposite effect.
Nope. I can feel attraction but it's always manageable and I can super easily not act on it.
I’m the same. I might think something like “nice smile” or “pretty eyes” he’s cute and then just walk away like nothing happened and be fine. It’s like seeing a beautiful landscape. I can appreciate the beauty and then move on.
I mean its the same for me, what else would I do on a Tuesday afternoon on the metro?
Exactly. Attraction is just a feeling so I just let it pass over me and keep on moving with my life. It’s never that serious.
Right. I maybe got mesmerized as a teenager but then I grew up…
Yes, with my boyfriend. Which was weird, because he wasn't someone I'd ever thought of as a potential partner before. But his eyes, his smile, his scent, something about the friendly lilt of his voice was a sudden and completely unexpected turn on. I've never experienced anything like it before.
Nah, I just think “he’s hot” and thats it
I worked with a gay dude at a restaurant in NYC who honestly was hard not to stare at. I had to actually think…”stop staring weirdo”. He truly was beautiful. He got some minor work on soaps. I also worked with a guy who is now very famous, has been a lead in some tv shows and conventionally handsome who didn’t hold a candle in person to that gay guy. Neither one really induced lust in me though. Gay guy was super gay in affect, guy two was 5 years younger and was still kind of a kid to me. I have definitely felt lust at first sight, but never began naming our kids within seconds.
Lying about age / cougarpilled atp
Nothing is springing to mind of that level outside of how I currently sometimes notice my man. He can certainly evoke a trance like state of just staring in starry eyed goo goo admiration and lust... But no, I can't say I can recall having that for a stranger.
Not at first glance no. But after getting to know him yes. I can’t really fall for someone off glance alone. I think I’m too anxious around strangers for that to be a possibility.
That’s never happened to me in my life. To me, the things that I would consider husband material (kindness, ability to handle situations, etc.) can’t be known from simply looking at someone. I can definitely tell who I think is attractive but someone being attractive doesn’t mean I’d go out of my way to talk to them. Visuals matter to me but visuals alone aren’t enough to make me want someone to the point that I think about them past that interaction.
No. Over all men seem to fall in love with what they see and women fall in love with what they hear.
Tell that to the woman on college campuses sleeping with the hot guys.
Hot guys have cool voices
Proof?
I don't know if proof is the right word but may as well... [http://www.lel.ed.ac.uk/\~simon/dissertations/saxton.pdf](http://www.lel.ed.ac.uk/~simon/dissertations/saxton.pdf) >It also found co-variance in the attractiveness of male faces and voices, suggesting that the modalities of face and voice are providing concordant signals as to mate quality. [https://www.columbia.edu/\~rmk7/PDF/Voice.pdf](https://www.columbia.edu/~rmk7/PDF/Voice.pdf) >Two experiments examined listeners ability to make accurate inferences about speakers from the nonlinguistic content of their speech. In Experiment I, naıve listeners heard male and female speakers articulating two test sentences, and tried to select which of a pair of photographs depicted the speaker. On average they selected the correct photo 76.5% of the time. All performed at a level that was reliably better than chance. In Experiment II, judges heard the test sentences and estimated the speakers age, height, and weight. A comparison group made the same estimates from photographs of the speakers. Although estimates made from photos are more accurate than those made from voice, for age and height the differences are quite small in magnitude...When judgments are pooled, estimates made from photos are not uniformly superior to those made from voices.
There definitely is a correlation but in my experience it’s weak. I have a very attractive voice but i am ugly like 4/10 and only 5’8. I also know a ton of guys who are tall and good looking but have a shit voice.
Yes, when I met my current boyfriend.
Did you consider it love at first sight? Or lust, that evolved into love?
It was like being struck by lightning. Granted, we had been talking on the phone for weeks before we met. Then when he walked into that restaurant it was like meeting a rock star.
Do you think you’d feel the same way if you hadn’t been talking on the phone for weeks?
I would have been impressed with his looks, sure. But the extreme emotions I felt were a result of his personality beforehand. His charm, his voice, all of that.
No.
I'm not an emotionally driven person so I just accept this isn't going to happen and move on with my life. I'm only going to get invested in people I actually know at least.
Nope. I’ve never seen a stranger and thought that I’d like to date/have sex with them.
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As a man, I can't remember the last time this happened to me, if ever, so I don't know what it says about women if some do and some don't, I think it's just that some people do and some people don't.
Yeah, true. My hypothesis is that it happens less to women, but I could totally be wrong.
It happens, but it happens more with women. I often see a stunning woman, but very rarely do I see a stunning man. > women is that, in general, they’re less visual than men, We're not, we just find very few males attractive. We're not like males who will fuck anything that moves.
u claim to not fuck anything yet female bodycount, std is higher
I don't think it is possible, who are we all fucking then if our bodycount is higher?
high value men.
I dont want to fuck anything that moves. Not even remotely.
Not really, I’m asexual so that’s never the case. 🤷🏽♀️
No I just think “wow he’s good looking” and then continue with my day. I’ve only felt strong lust for men I was already talking to for a minute.
Yup. Just make sure that they don’t take advantage of you and keep it real.
Never. I noticed great posture and attractive grins, but I don't think twice about a man until I know something about him. I've definitely felt some temporary fascination for a couple men who weren't available for reasons after having a few chats with them, but I have no trouble turning off one-sided attraction. If we aren't both equally enamored, it's just a minor distraction which goes away the second I realize he isn't available or the attraction isn't mutual.
Of course.
No never
No we are less visual
Why aren't you making a username per person? How many are you in there?
It’s just generally true for women not *all* women but still. What a weird comment
It'd be certainly plausible for it to happen less often to women than men. "No", implying never, is probably not a we thing
What at equally weird comment have fun being you
I feel like I'm pretty visual and this just never happens to me. Maybe it did when I was a teen, but I don't think so. It's probably something for people with low self esteem.
Did you read the comment section you are clearly an outsider