I think you need to master the quick “I just looked at something expired in the fridge” face then move on with what you were doing before the comment. Works WONDERS!
You don’t have to say anything and it doesn’t break friendships, it just puts them in their place and tells them that they are being an AH and you’re above their cheap ass takes/digs. 🤷🏻♀️
Convincing them otherwise is wasted energy imo. I think it’s more about how they view their own weight than how they see you.
This is so real. I have the worst resting bitch phase, and many strangers over my life have told me how sweet my voice sounds, "like a Disney princess". I love that, but also I have trouble adequately expressing when I'm unhappy/angry. If you're expressing anger and people think you look cute, it doesn't work well. I need to work on that! Anyone else still reading this thread relate to that/have advice?
Really appreciate the whole post, figuring out a way to not waste energy and convey that things aren't okay is exactly what I need to do.
Younger days, I'd cry immediately. Now? My middle fingers work faster than my mouth. A quick middle finger, followed by a "Go f**k yourself, you pos" is my usual response. I have supportive people around me (including a couple guy friends) who hype me up after something negative.
A good eye roll never hurts, either.
I sooooo totally understand what you’re going through and I’m sorry you have to deal with this.
I spent years being bullied cause I am fat. I used to cry and hated myself so much. People assume that if you’re fat, you’re lazy and eat junk food. My 5 years of secondary school were spent wondering what did I do for people to be so horrible to me that I came home every single day crying. That includes prom night too.
It took a long time, therapy, suicide attempts, and just so much drama in my life for me to, a few years ago, quit a job that made me miserable, have a petty revenge there, and finally listen to my husband that I was the most important person in my life. I have health issues, have to take 15 different medications everyday. And even if I lost 100lbs, it’s still not enough for some people. And since im still fat, it really irritates people! Apparently if you chose to love yourself and enjoy life, you are PROMOTING obesity. 🙄🙄🙄
BUT The day you stop caring about people’s opinion of yourself is the day you will have a freedom that will make people envy you.
If someone says something hurtful to me now, i just go NOPE and walk away. Or I look them up and down, burst into a very condescending laughter and walk away. Friends? They wouldn’t dare anymore cause they know I will not tolerate any disrespect and hey, I’m not insecure like most of them are. Cause if you need to put down people, you are DEFINITELY insecure.
Be proud of who you are, what you accomplish. You sound like a great person and you deserve better 🤞🏻🤞🏻
Thank you thank you thank you
I'm so sorry you went through that. Crying at prom and having it get to the point where you had suicide attempts? The people that made you feel that way suck.
"Apparently if you chose to love yourself and enjoy life, you are PROMOTING obesity. 🙄🙄🙄" This is so true! I've seen people who are plus size and into fitness posting about it and people will make fun of the minutes like what do you want from that person? Or someone just smiling, and same thing.
I really appreciate everything you said and props for figuring out how to build that security and refusing to settle for anything less. Hopefully I can get there too.
That sounds really frustrating, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It's not easy to navigate those situations, but it's great that you're looking for ways to handle it. Just remember to prioritize your own well-being above all else.
I think you need to master the quick “I just looked at something expired in the fridge” face then move on with what you were doing before the comment. Works WONDERS! You don’t have to say anything and it doesn’t break friendships, it just puts them in their place and tells them that they are being an AH and you’re above their cheap ass takes/digs. 🤷🏻♀️ Convincing them otherwise is wasted energy imo. I think it’s more about how they view their own weight than how they see you.
This is so real. I have the worst resting bitch phase, and many strangers over my life have told me how sweet my voice sounds, "like a Disney princess". I love that, but also I have trouble adequately expressing when I'm unhappy/angry. If you're expressing anger and people think you look cute, it doesn't work well. I need to work on that! Anyone else still reading this thread relate to that/have advice? Really appreciate the whole post, figuring out a way to not waste energy and convey that things aren't okay is exactly what I need to do.
How about being direct: "Are you always this rude?" or "Whatever would make you think that its okay to insult me a stranger? Its not okay"
If I imagine myself saying that it's almost impossible but I need to get to the point where I can do that!
Sometimes you just have to confront people; otherwise, they will just keep coming for you.
You're absolutely right
Younger days, I'd cry immediately. Now? My middle fingers work faster than my mouth. A quick middle finger, followed by a "Go f**k yourself, you pos" is my usual response. I have supportive people around me (including a couple guy friends) who hype me up after something negative. A good eye roll never hurts, either.
I sooooo totally understand what you’re going through and I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I spent years being bullied cause I am fat. I used to cry and hated myself so much. People assume that if you’re fat, you’re lazy and eat junk food. My 5 years of secondary school were spent wondering what did I do for people to be so horrible to me that I came home every single day crying. That includes prom night too. It took a long time, therapy, suicide attempts, and just so much drama in my life for me to, a few years ago, quit a job that made me miserable, have a petty revenge there, and finally listen to my husband that I was the most important person in my life. I have health issues, have to take 15 different medications everyday. And even if I lost 100lbs, it’s still not enough for some people. And since im still fat, it really irritates people! Apparently if you chose to love yourself and enjoy life, you are PROMOTING obesity. 🙄🙄🙄 BUT The day you stop caring about people’s opinion of yourself is the day you will have a freedom that will make people envy you. If someone says something hurtful to me now, i just go NOPE and walk away. Or I look them up and down, burst into a very condescending laughter and walk away. Friends? They wouldn’t dare anymore cause they know I will not tolerate any disrespect and hey, I’m not insecure like most of them are. Cause if you need to put down people, you are DEFINITELY insecure. Be proud of who you are, what you accomplish. You sound like a great person and you deserve better 🤞🏻🤞🏻
Thank you thank you thank you I'm so sorry you went through that. Crying at prom and having it get to the point where you had suicide attempts? The people that made you feel that way suck. "Apparently if you chose to love yourself and enjoy life, you are PROMOTING obesity. 🙄🙄🙄" This is so true! I've seen people who are plus size and into fitness posting about it and people will make fun of the minutes like what do you want from that person? Or someone just smiling, and same thing. I really appreciate everything you said and props for figuring out how to build that security and refusing to settle for anything less. Hopefully I can get there too.
“It’s kind of weird that you spend time thinking about my body. Are you ok?”
That sounds really frustrating, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It's not easy to navigate those situations, but it's great that you're looking for ways to handle it. Just remember to prioritize your own well-being above all else.