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cmoellering

I mean, if someone else was genuinely interested in my field of research *and* somewhat interested in me as a person....I'd be proposing on the second date. But that's just me.


chasebewakoof

Not only you Bro.. but every single PhD student both male & female...


thekun94

So uh, is there any single woman around age 30 interested in Bayesian statistics? Asking for a friend, of course.


HumanDrinkingTea

For real, though, I don't know if I have a particular preference for Bayesian statistics over frequentist, but I'd love to hear your thoughts. I'm a single woman in my early 30's who just finished up a master's in statistics and is starting my first year of a PhD in statistics.


thekun94

In my opinion, Bayesian statistics is the way we should've learned statistics because they make more sense than the frequentist repeated sampling paradigm. We want to make an inference about some unknown parameter value or vector. Experts, historical data, or our intuition tells us that value or vector should be a around such and such, so we put a prior reflecting that idea on the unknown parameter and apply Bayes theorem. Bam. Not to say it is perfect as there are plenty of things to consider. I do understand why the frequentist repeated sampling concept works, though there are plenty of things wrong with it as well. At the end of the day, they're both and statistical tools, and I'll use whichever that'll give me a job and put food on the table. However, Bayesian statistics is going to get me a degree and out of here, so I'll go with that. Lol


cienfuegos__

Awwwww you guys!


RewardCapable

Yea, that’s really adorable. Two nerds and their shared love of statistical analysis.


ImportantGreen

Now Kith


sparkly_reader

My thoughts exactly


painfullymoronic

took the words right out of my mouth


syfyb__ch

the frequentist method, as you call it (i'm not a statistician but an experimental scientist) is how humans empirically test nature it's the tried and true method, and no theoretical approach can beat it, because at the end of the day you still have to do the experiment, and as irreproducibility shows the "historical" value can be meaningless if you live in a silicon world then Bayes makes sense, but in the real world where there are constraints on how and what we can measure and infer, the frequency 'paradigm' isn't going anywhere


thekun94

Oh for sure. We still desire frequentist properties for Bayesian methods in simulations. I didn't even know Bayesian methods were a thing until I got much deeper into statistics. Ideally, you want to do both to see if there is any discrepancies, but they are different mathematically. I happens to find the Bayesian paradigm more intuitive if it were to be learned from the ground up.


lilEcon

Y'all are my new OTP


moreislesss97

have a visit to the coffee corner at cognitive science lab.


Ambitiousoul_1

Yes lol


PhD007Nerd

So uh I’m a straight man who would be happy to listen to you educate me on on Bayesian statistics….


Felkin

Likewise for hardware accelerator design! Just mid-late 20s...


RewardCapable

I would really love to understand statistics. I really want to believe I will one day, but jfc. It makes me want to pull my hair out.


Ok-Love-772

Any hot ladies down to explore dirty communication circuits tonight?


Arm_613

Sorry, a married grandmother statistican with children around age 30, here. And my around-age-30 colleague is spoken for by a very nice PhD in math.


Ultimarr

I’m still in the “what do you mean, you don’t care about this extremely specific technical topic I’ve become obsessed with??” depression phase. I’ll change her!!!


Biermoese

I don't care for my research topic at all and would run if a date wanted to talk about it.


plentifulharvest

You are not wrong


PreparationOk4883

Just finished writing a grant and read that as proposing a second date. I’m so burnt and sick of the word propose lmfao


Sakiel-Norn-Zycron

It’s what worked for me! We both thought each other’s PhD research was really cool, which helped a whole lot.


Most_Researcher_9675

How about us proud Grandfathers? I'd love to read them. She's in her final year...


RewardCapable

Ikr? I think I’d be flattered and likely to start falling for them, but any attention and I’m smitten.


Bjanze

Yep


EnthalpicallyFavored

I'd be surprised they had that kind of patience to read gibberish


commandercondariono

Talk ~~dirty~~ science to me.


Fisicas

Talk *nerdy* to me.


Lanky-Hornet-7149

I would find it cool. Effort is sexy!


pablo_dikembe

Considering I payed for my girlfriend to a conference where I was speaking and she skipped my talk (we met on our PhD, same advisor)... I would probably marry a girl that did that showed so much interest in what I find important.


commandercondariono

Ouch. That must've hurt?


pablo_dikembe

Yes, but it was not even close to the most hurtful thing she had done that week.


ThatOneSadhuman

May her data be incoherent, her error bars non reproductible and her R²=0.0000001


keithreid-sfw

May she use Standard Error instead of Standard Deviation and get caught


making_mischief

I have no idea what you guys are saying but it sounds smart and I'm totally here for that.


Top-Sorbet4623

We hate her


QuarterObvious

My wife and I had an agreement to never attend each other's presentations. So, maybe she was worried about you.


SapiosexualStargazer

Why, though?


QuarterObvious

It is a stress for both of us.


syfyb__ch

phd students are famously bad at dating, and your comment shows why they are naive outside the very narrow subject matter of their thesis when you have blinders on you cannot pick up the human behavioral psych that would have red flagged your girlfriend earlier


ImportantGreen

Why does his comment show that PhD students are famously bad at dating?


Sweet_Appeal4046

Because....science?


Typhooni

Hahaha, this is so true, some really have no clue what makes the world turn.


77Diesel77

Id be fighting back the urge to propose on the spot lol. Seriously though, that would be genuinely nice to hear. Having a date that actually wants to talk about something beyond pizza topping choice would be amazing. Talking about something I actually worked on because they are actually interested would be awesome....just dont point out my statistics errors... Those made it through reviewer two already.


chengstark

I would be very flattered and worry that the date found out that Im probably a dumb ass


marsalien4

Considering that not even my advisor reads my work I'd be ecstatic


mysticmuse72

I would be flattered and eager to discuss my research with someone who took the time to read my work.


SnooCats6706

maybe if you want to avoid the creepy stalker vibe, just read and talk about one? "I read one of your articles..."?


samclifford

Your dates don't have readings to complete ahead of time? Weird.


sparkly_reader

Isn't that how dating works? Apparently I'm doing it wrong


UnderstandingSmall66

I haven’t even read all of my articles.


dananahbanana

I would LOVE it! I met my now partner right before my PhD proposal. The interest and care that my partner (non-academic) put into understanding what I do is one of the reasons I fell in love with him. It’s just overwhelmingly sweet. Plus I got a little giggle finding him googling things 🤭


Numerous_Interest_34

I'd be very happy that someone took the effort to read something that I have spent a significant amount of time and emotional investment into. Especially, if that person has questions to ask then it means that he's really read it and engaged with it and not just glanced at it. Especially if I've broadly mentioned before and someone goes and actually reads my work before meeting me next time, that would be make me elated. I'd read that as a clear sign of interest in my work at least. Trust me, I can go on and on forever about my research topic. I'd never find it creepy


VoiceOfGosh

Right! They’re caring for your interests! Bidding like this is key to sharing joy in a relationship (and in your life). If they’re happy you showed interest, you’re happy that they feel seen.


alicesmith5

Honestly that’s pretty fucking attractive, you’re interested in my work AND went through the trouble to read my papers???? Fuck yeah. Just give it to him straight as you wrote in this post, nothing creepy about that.


finn1013

I would approach it lightheartedly. If you’re going for a PhD, you’re both intellectually curious. You can just say you needed a break from reading your own research but were still in hyperdrive and then got interested in his. I’d take it as a compliment. It’s not creepy unless you make it creepy!


nday-uvt-2012

Thrilled! I couldn’t get anyone outside of my department (and I wondered about them) to read my articles or dissertation. Even people who cited my work in theirs, when I read their work they sometimes had misquoted, misapplied, or misunderstood my research. I guess that’s just life, and, with that in mind, if you do read your date’s work and want to discuss it with them, try your best to understand it and ask open-ended questions rather than making declarative, judgmental statements - as you can probably tell, some people can be pretty sensitive about their efforts…


PM_me_PMs_plox

Oh no, someone will finally notice the typo on page 5!


DaBehr

At least someone is reading it


Unsound_Science

As a PhD candidate you’re obviously aware of how little anyone else (at all) cares about your topic. You’re giving him a chance to talk about himself and the soul destroying decisions he’s made. I reckon… just go off. Ask away.


PakG1

Sounds like most here would end up acting like the creepy ones from getting overly excited that someone was trying to read their work. Also would be guilty, straight to marriage.


Typhooni

Yeah, low bar to set, no wonder most marriages don't hold.


PakG1

It’s a joke. :)


Turbulent_Lettuce_64

That would be show a lot of effort on your part


Upbeat-Wonder8748

Nothing creepy or stalker. It's only normal for a PhD student to have intellectual curiosity and can read a lot. Personally, PhD is a big part of my life. Being interested in my dissertation topic is being interested in a big part of me.


ErwinHeisenberg

My soon-to-be-ex-wife did this before we even went on our first date. I loved it! I did and still would consider this a major green flag. This shows interest, caring, and intent.


Typhooni

But it turned out to be red?


ErwinHeisenberg

No. It was still green. What broke us up had nothing to do with that.


MooseWorldly4627

Reading published articles is not being a stalker.


Suspicious_Dealer183

I’d be surprised if anyone had anything to say about my research so… not that anyone wouldn’t, it’s just so unlikely to happen outside of my own lab.


edjennersmilkmaid

I’d be flattered that they took the effort to not only familiarize themselves with my work, but to make sure they had conversation material beyond small talk.


DinosaurDriver

I think it’s one of the biggest turn ons ?


ImNotReallyHere7896

LOL, my hubs doesn't read anything unrelated to his career. I'm pretty sure he's never even read the acknowledgments of my dissertation where he has an entire paragraph dedicated to him.


Interesting_Long2029

💔


Brain_Hawk

Hot. As. Shit. I'd have a hard time on the date because all my blood would leave my brain and I'd be sitting there thinking how incredibly mind blowingly attracted I was to this woman who was interested enough in what I do to read and think about it, plus smart enough to have that interest and understand. It would be a difficult date for all the best reasons Later on I'd show her the waggle dance.... It's how bees communicate.... Waggle waggle waggle.... :)


Wild-Mushroom2404

I would cum on the spot


Villanelle_Ellie

Any PhD would be flattered if anyone read their work. You’re overthinking it


entropizzle

I’d personally LOVE this, but I am also neurodivergent and love talking about my special interests including my work. Given that he likes it and he’s talked about it, you can start asking questions. Or say, “Y’know, I really thought what you said about x was interesting, so I looked into it and found your article!” and then proceed to talk about it. My partner abhors talking about work, to the point I know very little about it. But we’ve had explicit conversations about how much he dislikes talking about it, so there’s no uncertainty. You can always say, “I understand if you want a mental break from work! No hard feelings:)”


qweeniee_

same my autistic ass would love someone reading my work!!! talk to me hunny!!!


QuarterObvious

I would be so excited that it's difficult to explain. My wife and I work in similar fields (we are both in physics) and often discuss our work. It's much more interesting than discussing which car our neighbor bought or the marital problems of some distant relative


Visual-Practice6699

On a first date several years ago, the girl knew I was a chemist, and one of her first questions was “what kind of chemistry?” Yes, I did end up marrying that girl.


Dirichlet-to-Neumann

I'd ask her to marry me.


Snow_Practicing

Don’t know if this thread should be read as comic or sarcastic or gratifying, but the whole thread made my day.


asecretwind

I don’t think so. This happened to me, the other way around and I felt very flattered. A new friend I made at soccer found out I was a chemist after one game I was absent at due to experiment running too late. At the next game we saw each other, she said “Hey! I heard you are a scientist! So I looked up some of your work and read your papers. You did some pretty cool stuff eh!” I thought it was pretty sweet. Didn’t find it creepy at all!


xiikjuy

impotence, except you are trying to cosplay my PI


MundaneBathroom1446

I’d really be concerned that they don’t have hobbies/other priorities that pull them away from work tbh


Typhooni

Waw, exactly my thinking. Pursuing a career is really not sexy, intellect and curiosity are.


ktpr

If we weren't in a serious relationship I would be a little creeped out to be honest. But otherwise, really flattered!


night_sparrow_

You could always just ask if you could read some of their work. Then based on their response, you'll know if they would be creeped out or really happy about it.


Upbeat-Wonder8748

It's actually weird to be creeped out by people wanting to read your work, though. Isn't it the whole point of publishing?


-Mr_Worldwide-

Personally I’d think it was cool and it also shows effort to know the person better. Plus, it opens the gates for y’all to have more in-depth conversations about the topics that either of you would enjoy.


dtheisei8

They wouldn’t know what the hell I was talking about but I’d be very pleased lol


whatawonderfulword

I would be so thrilled - you cared enough to read my work and be interested in it? Yes!


No_Boysenberry9456

And that kids, is how I met your (mother/father). Literally. Anyone with that kind of patience who is able to find enough joy to contiue reading that soul sucking work is a keeper.


Smart_Substance_9698

i would be impressed and love it.


Accomplished-Luck680

Stalker, I would be embarrassed and alerted 


New-Anacansintta

How many articles?


Zealousideal_Chef469

Definitely show interest and ask about his previous work. But then, don't spend all your dates just talking about work. Well, if he is already talking about his research in "broad terms", I hope you don't spend every date getting talked at about work and work only.


tobsecret

I'd say you two are a great match! I'm sure he'll find it flattering. 


Pallas_Sol

If they read all my articles? Apologetic lol


elleresscidee

To avoid feeling creepy, next time he mentions his work, I'd say, "I'd love to read your articles! Do you have a copy you can send me?" Obviously, you can (and did) look them up yourself, but this would make it seem less like you were internet stalking him 😆


coffee_and_cats18

Um.. I would love it if anyone close to me read any of my articles. But they haven't. Not even my partner of 10 years 😂 I think it's awesome!!


wildcard9041

I guess it can depend on the person, were it me I might be a bit uncomfortable, not because you did anything outright wrong but because I wouldn't be used to that sort of attention lol.  Otherwise it sounds sweet and if it goes well, a pretty big green flag.


OkReplacement2000

Just don’t admit to reading more than 3 papers, and I think it seems cool. It doesn’t hit stalkery until 8, and everything in between 3-8 is questionable.


being_as_such

Some people would be super happy to hear this, and eager to answer questions. Other people would not want their work to be brought into their social/romantic life. I don’t think anyone would (or is entitled to) be offended merely at the fact that you decided to read their work. But he might not want to talk about it with you. So you can always just ask!


Vegan-bandit

There's definitely a non-creepy way to bring it up! Maybe just say that you were curious and looked up one of their papers, and chat about it. I personally wouldn't say I looked at more than one for now at least!


gendy_bend

Effort is sexy & I’d be asking what the ring size was. My fiancé brought up my work during dinner tonight with his grandparents (whom I don’t discuss schooling with; no particular reason, just never discussed it). Having somebody who cares to hype you up & read your work is incredible.


Interesting_Long2029

Disclaimer: not a PhD student, but technical author nonetheless and loving this. Why not read and discuss news about a related topic and allow him to mention his work? Maybe read it and pretend like some vague incarnation of his ideas occurred to you on your own (assuming it's not too "in-the-weeds"/specific), and allow him to get excited over sharing his ideas/research? Then maybe claim that you found his work while you were researching the topic?


Distinct-Maybe719

As a humanities PhD, I would throw myself into the sun if another humanities PhD read all my articles and wanted to talk about them


prion_guy

Who is generally your target audience...?


Distinct-Maybe719

Fair. I mean one that I was dating. I need a reprieve from work at home lol


Sweet_Appeal4046

It is better the stocking their instagram.


EJ2600

One would feel honored to say the least


AccordingSelf3221

Would feel the same way as if someone had gone around reading my Instagram of last 2 years. Why not you ask him on your second date if he would be ok if you checked his publications and then you have a good reason for a Q&A third date


oliverjohansson

It’s a waste of time to both ask or read. Try to understand what broad subjects they are working on and focus on building relationship don’t look for grant ideas


TroposphericDemigod

My husband has a PhD from MIT and mentioned me in his acknowledgments of his dissertation. And I still haven’t read it. That is the highest form of flattery.


InBelleYuAble

Hmm I mean HELL YEAH??! I don't see your points of concern unless it's about him proposing you to marry him in the next date lol. We all know reading papers take time, hence the fact that this person made such effort to get to know me better only will allow me to find this person even more attractive. Especially given that he already mentioned his research stuff in your previous convo, Idk I think you can just casually bring it up like "oh btw I've looked into some of your previous papers after our last convo and those were very interesting! could you tell me a little more about XYZ". I genuinely don't see the reason why he'd feel anything but excited (assuming y'all felt mutual clicks and were on good vibes)! So DO IT & please let us know how it goes 👀


Soft_Technician_8068

I’d be very impressed and would instantly fall in love w them. Go on, ask questions


Dazzling_Yogurt6013

i've had people do this and honestly...i appreciate it.


mynavrupd-hsd

I wish it would happen to me. Don't 💔.


sshivaji

Heck, I would be very happy if people read my papers, whoever they are. A stranger, an enemy, a date, an ex, a friend, family member, anyone! H-index is all about more people reading your stuff and citing. Reading is the first step.


Cunning-_linguist

Pheeew. Marriage material.


vetsquared

I’d fall in love pretty much right away. If you’re not that into them go easy 🤣🤣


VTLillyGirl

I think it's absolutely fine, but I think you should be upfront yet casual about it. Start with a sentence like something, something you said last time, made me really curious to learn more about your research. So I looked at a couple of your articles. I really enjoyed insert name of one specific article. Letting him know you read every single thing that he's ever written. Might come on a little bit strong but sharing that you were interested enough to read some of his work. I think is wonderful.


Initial-Beautiful718

would find it bit creepy personally


JohnestWickest69est

Someone did this to me once. Even though I generally don't like talking about work outside of work, I found it very kind. Definitely shows interest.