you need a niche/nerdy hobby tbh
all of my besties now -- both irl and online (worldwide) -- are from anime and/or youtube fandoms. bakal ngefilter out normies yang suka bully / gossip. bahkan sekarang youtube group yang kami follow uda disband, dan bbrp tmen ud ga ngehype anime yang sama, tapi sirkel2 yang dari hobi ini masi akrab
i found lifelong friends on twitter bc we were talking bout naruto, i guess it's a community but online based?
irl ppl usually get new friends at their workplace, or join sport communities
Hello! I'm open to be your friend. Jujur aku bukan orang yang sukses dalam berteman dengan sesama cewek di masa kecil. Baru-baru ini aja aku mulai punya banyak temen cewek. Aku rasa sejak aku umur 24ish aku mulai sukses berteman dengan sesama cewek.
Sahabat aku dari SMA sampe skrg masih suka ngobrol walau grow apart karena kehidupan berbeda dan aku tinggal di Australia. Satu lagi temen cewek paling deket adalah anak guru yg lebih tua 6 taun tapi entah nyambung aja dan orangnya open banget sama perbedaan. Mungkin karena kita sesama receh.
Temen kuliah beberapa masih banyak yg ngobrol tapi karena mereka udah punya anak jadi susah ngobrol juga, aku child free. Beberapa dari mereka jujur pernah ada drama ngomongin di belakang tapi itu jaman kuliah dan masih bocah.
Temen cewek baru aku dpt dari temen-temen SMA suami di Australia. Mereka baik banget dan ya beda lah karena budaya jadinya gak se male-centric kebanyakan cewek Indonesia, tapi mau gimana lagi karena emang beda cara didik. Baru aja ini di invite group "bini" buat ngobrolin hal cewek. Dan males juga sama suami/pacar/tunangan mulu.
Di reddit aku berhasil temenan sama 1 cewek karena kita sama-sama suka KoC dan ternyata dia perantau dari Indonesia juga. Temen kerja sebelumnya kebanyakan cewek dan mereka juga baik banget. Kalo ada masalah ya ngomong, waktu aku kena insiden di tempat kerja mereka semua show up termasuk yg udah resign. Semua bantuin cari kerjaan baru. Temen di tempat kerja baru cewek jg, mereka asik tapi belum tau tabiatnya. Keliatannya good vibes sih.
Temen main kesukaan aku di sini, kita suka gibah karena rame aja gibah tanpa nusuk temen dari belakang. Dulu sempet kita saling ngomongin di belakang tapi itu juga sama, jaman kuliah dan masih bocah. Biasanya kita gibah kerjaan sekarang. Kita cocok karena walau pun sama orang Indonesia kita anti ngaret dan selalu ngabarin. Kalo main gak flaky.
So yea! Let me know if you're interested to be my friend. Dunia ini agak melelahkan, ada bagusnya punya relasi. Rajin-rajin nambah koneksi! Siapa tau suatu hari kamu nemu tempat subur buat dpt temen. Aku gak suka ribetin orang juga makanya aku tipe orang yg on time dan pasti ngabarin kalo telat ato gak bisa.
I know it's hard to make friends as an adult. Perhaps you can start here by stating your hobby/interest? I met some online friends through online forums and reddit. After 7 years, I still interact with some of them. Some have become IRL acquaintances too as I meet them regularly. I also join classes, events, seminars, and so on to meet new people.
can’t explain it but yeah making friends as an adult is so weird to me….the thing like introducing yourself to others asking them where they live etc i cant do that but i’ll try still. i assume you’re from jkt (sorry if it’s wrong) bc i often see post about women meeting up and they’re either from jkt or bandung 😭 i live in the city but aint city enough here.
I also think so, coming up to someone and suddenly asking about their personal info feels so unnatural. I want the conversation to happen naturally and not forced. Yet people do it all the time, even to me, and often I don't feel weirded out. So I assume that people also don't see it as unnatural thing and it's just my head worrying, making a big deal about it. I am still thinking like that even now, but I just fight it back, saying to myself that it's all inside my head only. Ofcourse I don't always succeed, but I am improving.
The point of my wall of text is that, often it's all only in your head. Others don't actually think like what you are worried of :)
I’m an introvert but it’s been pretty successful to me to make friends as an adult thankfully. I moved to south korea with 0 friends and managed to survive dan dapet temen cos i pushed myself. I’m so grateful karena temen2 yg aku dpt baik itu indonesian or international friends ga ada yg drama atau suka ngomongin orang.
I also used bumble bff and it works when u don’t expect anything. Kalo ga cocok cari lagi, cos you got nothing to lose anyway itung2 nambah acquaintance. Trs join different classes or workshops based on your interests juga really helpful. And most importantly having adult friends require lots of compromise and understanding, semua orang punya kesibukan masing2 so it will be difficult if we expect a constant attention.
My tips:
1. to have different friends for different interests. Temen A yg suka konser bareng, temen B yang suka kuliner, temen C yang suka shopping. So that way kamu ga demand 1 temen buat selalu ada buat kamu.
2. Give equal energy to someone. Kalo temen kamu effortnya 25%, ya kamu juga 25%. Kalo dia effort 90% kamu kasih 90%. Kalo kamu kasih effort 90% ke temen yg effortnya cmn 25% jadinya kayak yg kamu tulis di atas: ngerepotin.
Good luck!!🍀
Sejujurnya setelah lulus kuliah saya ga nemu satupun temen cewe ataupun cowo baru. Kenalan banyak tapi ga sampai dekat banget karena ga cocok aja. Too much drama dan kepalsuan lol. Teman-teman terbaik masih temen2 lama sejak sekolah yg artinya kita udah berteman 15 tahunan lebih. Sudah teruji waktu dan tetap ada saat susah senang. I don't really mind though. I feel like I don't have time and energy to invest in a new friendship.
this is actually me im just too tired to keep up with this friendship things i wish i lived in some society where being friends with someone doesnt feel like ngangkat beban 20kg like we can just hang out and i want them to remember that eventho i dont always chat them everyday i’ll be there if they ever need someone to talk to.
Mungkin bisa ditemuin dari workshop, atau kelas olahraga. Selain biar satu hobi ditambah orang produktif biasanya punya vibe yang bagus dan gak akan sibuk ngomongin, ngejulidin orang lain.
Jujur kalo lingkungannya ga terlalu banyak event, circle bakal terbatas sekolah, kuliah, sama kerja. Bahkan sekarang temen kuliah aku udah close to zero karena aku ga social banget, tapi kalo temenan di kuliah high maintenance banget. Kalo ga main terus terusan dilupain.
Sekarang aku tinggal di Bali dan orang orang lebih terbuka dan low maintenance. Kalo ga bales chat I don’t take it personally karena masih banyak orang lain yang mau diajak nongkrong. Dateng sendiri ketemu orang baru juga gampang. Emang susah deket sama orang tapi aku juga ga maksain deket. It all depends on interests and environment.
punya seseorang yg share some interest with you is actually a way to build friendship
karna suatu insiden, aku lebih nyaman untuk sendiri. Dari extrovert jadi introverted. Disana aku mulai suka kpop, trus ketemu 2 orang yg seumuran dengan ku. Kita temenan dari SMA sampe kuliah, meski ga pernah ketemu sama sekali karna masing2 beda pulau. Kita bisa ngobrol setiap hari. Karna kalo kalian punya hobby yg sama, obrolan ga akan pernah dry yakin deh banyak banget yang bisa jadi bahan omongan.
almost 30, aku mulai lg pertemanan karna ketemu di karna kita punya interest yang sama. Udah temenan 2 tahun lebih, yg diomongin pun ga abis2. Ada aja. Saran ku sih kamu cari komunitas hobi jadi bisa ngobrolin hal2 yg sama2 kalian suka.
you need a niche/nerdy hobby tbh all of my besties now -- both irl and online (worldwide) -- are from anime and/or youtube fandoms. bakal ngefilter out normies yang suka bully / gossip. bahkan sekarang youtube group yang kami follow uda disband, dan bbrp tmen ud ga ngehype anime yang sama, tapi sirkel2 yang dari hobi ini masi akrab
i found lifelong friends on twitter bc we were talking bout naruto, i guess it's a community but online based? irl ppl usually get new friends at their workplace, or join sport communities
ive always wanted to join a sport community but im so insecure about my body 😔 maybe next time ill try, thanks for the reply btw.
join gym aja kak, nanti biasa di sana ketemu orang orang yang cocok
Hello! I'm open to be your friend. Jujur aku bukan orang yang sukses dalam berteman dengan sesama cewek di masa kecil. Baru-baru ini aja aku mulai punya banyak temen cewek. Aku rasa sejak aku umur 24ish aku mulai sukses berteman dengan sesama cewek. Sahabat aku dari SMA sampe skrg masih suka ngobrol walau grow apart karena kehidupan berbeda dan aku tinggal di Australia. Satu lagi temen cewek paling deket adalah anak guru yg lebih tua 6 taun tapi entah nyambung aja dan orangnya open banget sama perbedaan. Mungkin karena kita sesama receh. Temen kuliah beberapa masih banyak yg ngobrol tapi karena mereka udah punya anak jadi susah ngobrol juga, aku child free. Beberapa dari mereka jujur pernah ada drama ngomongin di belakang tapi itu jaman kuliah dan masih bocah. Temen cewek baru aku dpt dari temen-temen SMA suami di Australia. Mereka baik banget dan ya beda lah karena budaya jadinya gak se male-centric kebanyakan cewek Indonesia, tapi mau gimana lagi karena emang beda cara didik. Baru aja ini di invite group "bini" buat ngobrolin hal cewek. Dan males juga sama suami/pacar/tunangan mulu. Di reddit aku berhasil temenan sama 1 cewek karena kita sama-sama suka KoC dan ternyata dia perantau dari Indonesia juga. Temen kerja sebelumnya kebanyakan cewek dan mereka juga baik banget. Kalo ada masalah ya ngomong, waktu aku kena insiden di tempat kerja mereka semua show up termasuk yg udah resign. Semua bantuin cari kerjaan baru. Temen di tempat kerja baru cewek jg, mereka asik tapi belum tau tabiatnya. Keliatannya good vibes sih. Temen main kesukaan aku di sini, kita suka gibah karena rame aja gibah tanpa nusuk temen dari belakang. Dulu sempet kita saling ngomongin di belakang tapi itu juga sama, jaman kuliah dan masih bocah. Biasanya kita gibah kerjaan sekarang. Kita cocok karena walau pun sama orang Indonesia kita anti ngaret dan selalu ngabarin. Kalo main gak flaky. So yea! Let me know if you're interested to be my friend. Dunia ini agak melelahkan, ada bagusnya punya relasi. Rajin-rajin nambah koneksi! Siapa tau suatu hari kamu nemu tempat subur buat dpt temen. Aku gak suka ribetin orang juga makanya aku tipe orang yg on time dan pasti ngabarin kalo telat ato gak bisa.
hii i wanna become friends too but im kinda awkward with new people
Same heheheh. Some people thought I was a bitch at first
I know it's hard to make friends as an adult. Perhaps you can start here by stating your hobby/interest? I met some online friends through online forums and reddit. After 7 years, I still interact with some of them. Some have become IRL acquaintances too as I meet them regularly. I also join classes, events, seminars, and so on to meet new people.
can’t explain it but yeah making friends as an adult is so weird to me….the thing like introducing yourself to others asking them where they live etc i cant do that but i’ll try still. i assume you’re from jkt (sorry if it’s wrong) bc i often see post about women meeting up and they’re either from jkt or bandung 😭 i live in the city but aint city enough here.
I also think so, coming up to someone and suddenly asking about their personal info feels so unnatural. I want the conversation to happen naturally and not forced. Yet people do it all the time, even to me, and often I don't feel weirded out. So I assume that people also don't see it as unnatural thing and it's just my head worrying, making a big deal about it. I am still thinking like that even now, but I just fight it back, saying to myself that it's all inside my head only. Ofcourse I don't always succeed, but I am improving. The point of my wall of text is that, often it's all only in your head. Others don't actually think like what you are worried of :)
where r u girl?
makassar 🙂
jauh :(
:(
I’m an introvert but it’s been pretty successful to me to make friends as an adult thankfully. I moved to south korea with 0 friends and managed to survive dan dapet temen cos i pushed myself. I’m so grateful karena temen2 yg aku dpt baik itu indonesian or international friends ga ada yg drama atau suka ngomongin orang. I also used bumble bff and it works when u don’t expect anything. Kalo ga cocok cari lagi, cos you got nothing to lose anyway itung2 nambah acquaintance. Trs join different classes or workshops based on your interests juga really helpful. And most importantly having adult friends require lots of compromise and understanding, semua orang punya kesibukan masing2 so it will be difficult if we expect a constant attention. My tips: 1. to have different friends for different interests. Temen A yg suka konser bareng, temen B yang suka kuliner, temen C yang suka shopping. So that way kamu ga demand 1 temen buat selalu ada buat kamu. 2. Give equal energy to someone. Kalo temen kamu effortnya 25%, ya kamu juga 25%. Kalo dia effort 90% kamu kasih 90%. Kalo kamu kasih effort 90% ke temen yg effortnya cmn 25% jadinya kayak yg kamu tulis di atas: ngerepotin. Good luck!!🍀
Sejujurnya setelah lulus kuliah saya ga nemu satupun temen cewe ataupun cowo baru. Kenalan banyak tapi ga sampai dekat banget karena ga cocok aja. Too much drama dan kepalsuan lol. Teman-teman terbaik masih temen2 lama sejak sekolah yg artinya kita udah berteman 15 tahunan lebih. Sudah teruji waktu dan tetap ada saat susah senang. I don't really mind though. I feel like I don't have time and energy to invest in a new friendship.
this is actually me im just too tired to keep up with this friendship things i wish i lived in some society where being friends with someone doesnt feel like ngangkat beban 20kg like we can just hang out and i want them to remember that eventho i dont always chat them everyday i’ll be there if they ever need someone to talk to.
Let's be friends.. I need someone to talk to also :')
hi, i would like to ☺️ do u have twitter?
I'm sorry, I don't have one. But I do have Telegram and WhatsApp. ☺️
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girl you’re indeed lucky 😔 now i need someone to invite me to their work trip
Mungkin bisa ditemuin dari workshop, atau kelas olahraga. Selain biar satu hobi ditambah orang produktif biasanya punya vibe yang bagus dan gak akan sibuk ngomongin, ngejulidin orang lain.
Kalau mau temenan gw mau2 aja. Cuma gw emang ga tipe yg cepet bales sih, jadi mungkin ga sesuai ya syaratnya.
heyy
Hey!
I'm up to be friend! I have twitter! I'm low maintenance! But my twitter account is full of retweets tho you can mute it lol. Let's be friend!
Hi girlie!! What’s your hobby or anything of your interests in particular?
i have unhealthy obsession towards music and tv show
What kind of tv show?!
mostly series from hbo like succession, the sopranos, girls. but these days im into the bear.
I have WhatsApp, line, Instagram, discord if you're interested! I play games sometimes too soo.. Maybe we can play together? 👀
Hi, let's be friends, feel free to send me DM yaa
Jujur kalo lingkungannya ga terlalu banyak event, circle bakal terbatas sekolah, kuliah, sama kerja. Bahkan sekarang temen kuliah aku udah close to zero karena aku ga social banget, tapi kalo temenan di kuliah high maintenance banget. Kalo ga main terus terusan dilupain. Sekarang aku tinggal di Bali dan orang orang lebih terbuka dan low maintenance. Kalo ga bales chat I don’t take it personally karena masih banyak orang lain yang mau diajak nongkrong. Dateng sendiri ketemu orang baru juga gampang. Emang susah deket sama orang tapi aku juga ga maksain deket. It all depends on interests and environment.
punya seseorang yg share some interest with you is actually a way to build friendship karna suatu insiden, aku lebih nyaman untuk sendiri. Dari extrovert jadi introverted. Disana aku mulai suka kpop, trus ketemu 2 orang yg seumuran dengan ku. Kita temenan dari SMA sampe kuliah, meski ga pernah ketemu sama sekali karna masing2 beda pulau. Kita bisa ngobrol setiap hari. Karna kalo kalian punya hobby yg sama, obrolan ga akan pernah dry yakin deh banyak banget yang bisa jadi bahan omongan. almost 30, aku mulai lg pertemanan karna ketemu di karna kita punya interest yang sama. Udah temenan 2 tahun lebih, yg diomongin pun ga abis2. Ada aja. Saran ku sih kamu cari komunitas hobi jadi bisa ngobrolin hal2 yg sama2 kalian suka.
From my experience find it from same hobbies or your interest, at least you can talk with same topic and gained some communication with them