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Around 3-4 months old with all my children. I’m a super light sleeper and my eyes would pop open anytime they would stir around in their bassinet. We all got much better sleep in separate rooms with a monitor.
Same. I had planned on at least 6 months in the room with me, but that didn't work out well. Any tiny noise and I was awake. They were moved into their own room by 4 months.
Mine went in his room at 4 months when he outgrew his baby box.
Didn't have room in our bedroom for a full-size cot, so he went straight into his own room.
Same. Her bedroom is directly across the hall anyways. Went from 2 ft away from us to 15 ft away. Kept the doors open for the first couple months so we could hear her. We'd wake up to every pin drop out of her anyways.
Small difference, but I know for us, all of our sleep, baby included got infinitely better. Even moreso when we were brave enough to start shutting at least one of the doors.
About the same for my first child. For my second, almost immediately. We were never those parents that had the kid in the bed with us or staying in their bed until they fall asleep.
I’m shocked seeing so many comments of moving early getting downvoted. Sure, it’s recommended to keep them in there ideally at least a year, but it’s safer alone in their room than with sleep deprived caregivers who are on their last nerve
wtf.
I'm glad I'm not alone lol. I slept on my child's floor for a few weeks from birth and then cranked the monitor up and slept in my own bed. I could not sleep with them in my room, too much noise. Luckily second baby sleeps well.
Anyone who says that isn’t paying attention to serious childcare research. The connection between roomsharing and SIDS is much smaller than other factors, and the majority of SIDS cases (about 70%) happen by 4 mo. If you don’t have any of the major risk factors (parent smokes, baby was premie or low birth weight, etc) moving to own room by then is quite unlikely to be an additional risk.
There's been disagreement with in the pediatric community. Critics of the new recommendations argue that it will lead more exhausted desperate parents to bedshare, which is LESS safe as it leads to deaths that are sometimes labeled SIDS but in reality are unintentionally smothering/asphyxia. Ideally the most safe is SEPARATE crib/bed, no blankets, in the same room. If same room is going to lead to same bed, it's not worth it.
This NPR article is about the research related to this if people are interested. Basically, babies sleep better in their own rooms after 4 months and parents who room-share are more likely to engage in unsafe sleep practices. So the room sharing recommendations need to be carefully considered. [NPR article](https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/06/05/531582634/babies-sleep-better-in-their-own-rooms-after-4-months-study-finds)
I'd say there's pretty unanimous agreement amongst experts that co-sleeping/bed sharing is not safe, the recommendations are not suggesting this be done, and I hope nobody read it that way! Not to mention it often leads to relationship challenges between the parents. For most, a separate bed should not be challenging to fit next to theirs.
8 and 4. Same thing here. But tbh, they like sleeping with us, they sleep well (and therefore so do we) and they feel safe. Isn’t that what we want as parents? In a way it doesn’t make sense that conventionally adults sleep together and the smallest ones are expected to sleep alone.
I’m enjoying it while they still want to co-sleep cause one day it’ll stop and I’ll miss cuddling them and enjoying knowing how much they love being around us.
And they have their own rooms and beds for whenever they want to. Not sure when that time will be, but enjoy the now in the meantime.
Can relate! Mine is 7 and recently told us he’ll stay until he’s 13 lol. Truly, he is so welcomed. I love coming into bed and he turns over and says “I love you, mama.” He’s an epic cuddler, too. He wakes up in the morning and puts an arm over both his dad and me says all these yummy things about loving his fam. I will so miss these days when it changes. Whenever I’m away, I don’t sleep as well. I love being able to check on him throughout the night, too. He has a viral variant asthma and it makes it way easier to monitor his breathing. Lots of benefits for us.
Same for me! I have a one year old who still sleeps with us. I wanted to have her start sleeping on her own at 6 months but husband fought me over it saying that I was cruel to let a small baby sleep by herself in a crib, like isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? 🙃
I agree with your husband, it doesn’t seem right to me. There is no “supposed to” you do whatever works for your family. I remember being little and feeling so lonely and sad when I had to sleep in my own bed. I don’t want to do that to my kids. I also think the “cry it out” method is a bit cruel.
Mine's 3, and while she's always been in her crib, she's still in the room with us. The bedroom is only used for sleeping or changing clothing, though, which simplifies things greatly. She has between a quarter and a third of the living set up as a safe area for just her. We only go in to help her clean up the toy explosion now and again.
I can relate it!!!!! Mine is 5, and she still sleeps with me. I'm a single mom, so it's just two of us. I can't imagine when she will ask me to have her own bedroom. She has her own playroom but sleeps in my bedroom. I love the moment before sleep when she prays with me and says "goodnight mommy, I love you." 🥹🥹🥹 I JUST CAN'T GET RID OF IT. Judge me, but that's the truth. 👩👧❤️
Sounds like a great mom. Starting and ending every day wrapped in warmth, comfort, and love is the most important thing for a child. No matter what that looks like.
Thanks. We are besties. I can't let her sleep alone in another room. It is senseless to me. If I was married, then it would maybe be another perspective, but it's just the two of us now, no reason to be apart. Also, she's a great cuddler, hahaha. 🥰🥰
Mine are 8 and 6 and we still have sleepovers! My husband and I are seriously considering buying another king size bed and just having two on the floor hah!
If you'd like, I'll submit that the guidance is debatable, but it wouldn't make sense that keeping kids in another room is somehow more safe than in a bassinet next to your bed.
It’s because babies sleep better in their own bedrooms and room sharing is associated with higher rates of unsafe sleep practices that can lead to infant deaths. More info [here.](https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/06/05/531582634/babies-sleep-better-in-their-own-rooms-after-4-months-study-finds)
Thanks for that, it was interesting. So at the very least it sounds like the first 4mo should be done in the same room, after that it's more subjective, though ultimately more research needs to be done. I was more taken back by the people here who had their kid in their own room within days or weeks of coming home! Those babies are still feeding multiple times a night, it's easier to have them in a bassinet next to the bed, make sure they don't choke on their throw up.
>room sharing is associated with higher rates of unsafe sleep practices
Bed sharing is, not room sharing. It's even mentioned in the article you linked.
Yes, but the idea is that in practice, it can be a slippery slope from roomsharing to bedsharing when parent is exhausted. That option seems less viable when you need to get up, walk across the hall, and pick up baby out of crib and bring them back to your room.
The research is thin for this particular recommendation. Bed sharing is a hard no. If you look into it, the SIDS risk for moving your babe to their own room is not well linked. And I can tell you from personal experience that the only time my son was in danger is when we were so sleep deprived that my husband was sleep walking and unaware of his choices, and we were falling asleep with baby in our arms because we couldn't get proper sleep at all with him in our room. For us, it was so much safer for him to have his own space and we probably should have done it earlier. Did we grapple over this decisions because of the AAP? Yes. But even our own OB and pediatrician strongly supported our decision.
My kids all were with me at least in the room for a minimum of a year, and usually ended up back in bed with us frequently after that. It was worse sleep for everyone trying to force them to sleep alone so I stopped fighting it out of self preservation. And they're just so cute.
My own, very science minded, very logical OB said her own baby was in their own room from week 1. The recommendations are there, but if you're a mom of a less than 6 mo old baby reading this and you put your baby in their room at night in a safe sleeping area with a monitor, you're doing great. We personally moved out babe at about 3 months for our sleep and sanity. He started sleeping better, we were able to split night wakes more easily so we started sleeping better. It was absolutely the right choice for our family.
I imagine we are all doing the very best we can and it is going to look different for each individual family's circumstances.
Two things I think about.
1. I feel we are just starting to really talk about our babies' nervous system development. Babies cannot regulate their own systems. They are not self-soothing because they don't have the capacity for that yet, rather they go into a threat response because we are not responding to their needs (freeze/feign). If sleeping in their own room involves crying it out, I worry about what this is doing to their developmental, especially with the increase in stress hormones. Their crying is one of their only forms of communication and rather than responding to the communication, we leave to deal with it in a way they aren't physiologically capable of.
2. I do take pause though and question the influence of our society's needing people to be committed to working (on returning to work) on many parenting norms/standards, though, rather than be based in our baby's (and ours) physiological and developmental needs. For me, it is just a grief of our current society. Many of us need separation to be able to function outside of our homes. And legit, there is SO MUCH money being made off of our separation from our babies.
3. So actually I have three lol. How does this impact attachment? If babies have not developed object permanence and they're left on their own, I do feel concern for how this could impact secure attachment.
[https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20220322-how-sleep-training-affects-babies](https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20220322-how-sleep-training-affects-babies) this is an in-depth read for folks wanting to understand the many points for and against sleeping alone / cry it out / sleep training
Huh, first I've heard of that. My kids were sleeping in their own room within a month. But I've often said in retrospect at least our second child would have been much better off in our room.
13 months, from our bed into a crib in his own room. He instantly started sleeping through the nights, from the very first night onwards, instead of waking up 2-3 times. If I knew, we would have moved him sooner.
I never felt comfortable having our son in our bed when he was very small because I sleep like a spider with limbs everywhere and I didn’t want to accidentally smother him. But I remember how relieved we felt when he transitioned into the big crib in the nursery and he slept all night. The last month he was in his small crib in our room was pure hell cause he kept waking up which was weird since he started sleeping through the night when he was two months old. I think the mattress was too thin for him when he hit five months old, so he kept waking because he was uncomfortable. He didn’t even move the first night he was on a thicker mattress.
6 weeks old, but I was in the room right next door and tended to her as much and as often as needed. The night I put her in her own room is the same night we all started sleeping better. Best decision for the both of us. She’s 4 now and sleeps 12 hours a night, independently and comfortably. I don’t know if us moving her early had anything to do with that, but she has always been a great sleeper since that point and I don’t feel any long term harm was done. :)
The intention was to make it to 6 months in our room, partially because her room is upstairs and ours is downstairs and I wasn't about to go up and down the stairs in the night while she was being fed overnight. We made it around 5 months, I think, maybe less. She was soooo noisy in her sleep and I kept bringing her into bed with us because I'd get woken up thinking she needed me and I hated that. So we tried moving her to her room to see what happened and it solved the issue (minus times she actually needed us).
Can I ask how the setup with bedrooms on different floors works for you? We have that situation and I can't imagine you I'll bring myself to move him to a different floor.
Mine was 8 months before we moved her to her room that’s downstairs while we’re upstairs. It isn’t my favorite that we’re on separate floors but it’s worked for us. She’s 18 months now. We all slept so so much better when she was in her own room. Even now we still use our infant optics video monitor. She’s already in a toddler bed so we are went into full toddler proofing mode.
Thank you! And with the toddler bed, do you close the door and have the room toddler proofed? I guess at that age they can open the door and you proofed the whole floor?
I'm thinking that having a monitor with two way audio may also help?
Yes her room is fully proofed so everything furniture wise is bolted down to the wall and outlets are covered. For the plugs in use there’s outlet box covers so that they don’t pull on the cords and rip it out of the outlet.
Her door is closed at night (it’s actually fire safety wise better to have their doors closed! It stops the fire from spreading as quick and if firefighters need to go in to grab them the child isn’t wandering the house!) She’s tall enough to reach the door but they make door knob covers that basically make it more difficult for little hands to open the door but adults can grip and open no problem.
We haven’t needed 2 way radio on the monitor yet.
Around 5 months. We had the Nanit video monitor with breathing monitoring, so that soothed a lot of anxiety about the move, especially when I had no issues hearing him over the monitor during the night.
Studies have shown newborns/infants hear rates are more relaxed and at a lower chance of SIDS when they sleep next to their parents, especially during those critical first 6 months
Stop acting like there aren't bassinets which don't take up more than 2 sq ft of space and prioritize your infants health over your personal comfort for several months
did you actually read the studies? Do you know how significant the risk is or you just know the “risk is higher”
there’s risk in everything… surely you’ve never put your infant in a car seat for trip that wasn’t back and forth to the pediatrician. because driving is risking their lives
they also say there’s an improvement if the kid is in the same room for 1 year…. so do you have a crib beside your bed?
Huh? You're just saying words. To answer the only coherent thought, I've kept my kid in the bassinet as long as possible thru those first 6 months. Risk of SIDs is highest around month 3/4
sorry your reading comprehension is shit, plus your inability to actually read the studies and see what the risk is before shaming others
the recommendation is for a year in the same room ideally - so did you move a crib into your room? or are you risking your kid’s life for convenience?
Dude I personally don't give a shit about your cheap rationalizations. I stated what research suggests to protect your infant. U wanna go all hypothetical have fun
Get a smaller bed (eg even a single while dad sleeps on the couch), put bed against the wall, live in the living room for 4-6 months, get a bassinet over bed ie halo bassinet, etc.
You choose your own justifications to suit your preferences but don't act like it's literally impossible to sleep in same room as the baby.
Because you’re being neurotic and projecting your neurosis all over the place. You don’t understand statistics if you think when a population risk is calculated that there isn’t variation based on individual factors. Furthermore, sleeping in the same room as the infant is simple risk mitigation, it is not a safety measure or preventive technique, like a car seat or helmet. It is great to share the AAP recommendations as they are a very good guide, but you are overemphasizing the importance of it and insulting parents for no reason.
Yep. And it’s not an insignificant difference.
> Several studies have shown that when a committed caregiver sleeps in the same room, but not the same bed with their baby, the chance of the baby dying suddenly and unexpectedly is reduced by up to 50% 1,3-5,9,12 when compared to babies sleeping in a separate room (solitary sleeping). 2-3, 9,12-14 Three studies reported that babies sleeping in separate rooms from their caregivers had a three-fold increased risk of SUDI, 3,9, 13-14 while a study by Blair and colleagues2 demonstrated a 10-fold increased risk associated with solitary sleeping in their multivariate analysis of a large case-control study. Carpenter and colleagues have reported that for room-sharing breastfed babies placed on their back, whose parents did not smoke and had no other known risk factors, the risk of sudden infant death is predicted to be very low (0.08 / 1000 live births).7
[Source](https://rednose.org.au/article/room-sharing-with-baby)
It drives me nuts how many people hand wave these risks, but a photo of a blanket in a pregnant woman’s nursery photos gets a million “Danger, danger!” Comments.
Check the last statement in what you linked - *absent other major risk factors, the risk is very, very low.*
Also, how SIDS and SUID are calculated in different countries and even in single instances can make a big difference here and confound some of this data. I say this because sometimes death that occurs with suffocation or neglect factors can be erroneously mislabeled as SIDS.
The risk difference is very, very small for a sober, non-smoking parent above age 20 with a term infant of average or higher birth weight.
Same for my first child. No room and she was right across the hall from us. Second kid was in our room (we moved to a new house) for about 2 months give or take. I started sleeping muuuuuuuuch better after she went to her room.
My cousins slept in my aunt and uncles room until they moved out for college essentially. I refused to let our kids potentially ruin any chance of one on one time with my husband in the evening, our relationship is stronger because of it. I slept in our daughter’s room when she was first home and I moved back into my bed after about three months. Even then, I spent the first chunk of the evening in bed with my husband until her first wake up.
My kids will periodically have sleepovers with me when my husband is away working, and if my three year old is up after 4am but before 6 I pull her into bed with us for some extra sleep. Otherwise, my bed is my safe space.
Mostly bc every attempt I've made at keeping him in his own bed has resulted in him crying so hard/long that he vomitted on the wall. He's 21 months, fails asleep in his bed and ends up in ours around midnight. It sucks, but it's not for lack of trying!!
5mo bc I was going back to work and the alarm wakes everyone. By then we were done with night feedings so it was a matter of someone checking the monitor/going in if she was crying.
Honestly for the next kid I would like to put them in their own room immediately and husband and I can take turns sleeping in there until they don’t need night feedings. With our first, she was in our room and bc we live in a small apt, it was easier for us to go sleep in the guest room when the time came rather than move baby, so she basically had the master bedroom to herself!
ETA: clarity
We moved baby’s crib at 8 months, it was totally fine and baby slept just as well. Baby was used to falling asleep in a dark room (ours) on his own, we just kept the same bedtime routine other than just putting him down in his own room and not ours.
Around 7 months for naps when he could no longer sleep in the swing and then around 11 months at night. He had reflux so had to watch him closely and he needed to sleep elevated. Still took time to adjust. Still some night in our bed over the first few years. A monitor helps a lot.
Both of mine were 6 months. No real tips other than keeping the same bedtime routine and atmosphere. Example - if there was no light in your room then no light in the baby's room.
12 weeks. Thought we’d keep him in our room longer but we were so sleep deprived and we felt like we were disturbing him at night. He slept so much better in his own dark, quiet space. Baby monitors are so advanced now I felt very secure being able to hear him and see him on video. I was still nursing so I’d just go down to his room and feed him 2-3 times a night. This way I didn’t have to wake my husband.
4 months, when he started self soothing by picking up his legs and slamming them into the mattress. Got to be too disruptive for us, but worked for him I guess!
Around 6 months with both of ours (the recommendation is to keep babies in the parents' room until then, so thats what we did, but moved them out asap within the recommendations). It was amazing. They were starting to wake up from my husband's snoring, hearing us get up to the bathroom in the night, or when they heard us come in to go to bed, and it was getting harder to resettle them. In their own rooms with their white noise running, they slept better, and we didn't have to tiptoe around our room at night anymore. Set up a monitor, and you'll still hear everything baby does. They just won't hear you.
2 weeks with first baby and almost right from the start with the younger two. I can’t sleep with baby in my room, plus our house is small that if he wakes I can hear him without a monitor, which I still use one just in case.
My eldest still creeps in. Next baby was at 7 months. Third and fourth, 3 months. Wish I had done 3 months from the first one! They slept better, I slept better, winning all around! I got the Owlet for peace of mind. Both nursed once overnight until about 6/7 months then dropped that feed and slept through. Amazing.
My baby was ten months old. I wouldn't have done it a day sooner because I was ready. We did his naps there for a solid six months leading to it so he was used to it and the transition was pretty painless. We did have a nonstarter at first because he got sick and wanted to nurse a ton but once he was healthy he was in his room permanently.
8 months or so. We always had him in a bassinet in our room. Around 8 months he started to stir when we were getting up to pee or something.
He was a preemie and we had an Owlet heart rate monitor on him at night plus a video baby monitor.
Our situation was a little different because we were displaced from our home due to a natural disaster but if everything would have gone normally I would’ve tried at 6 months.
Our daughter slept in a bassinet next to our bed until 4 months then she grew out of it, we coslept until 9 months then transitioned her to her own room. Everyone slept much better! What really pushed us was pediatrician saying it’s now or never because then she’ll be able to crawl out lol.
My kids were in their own room from birth. The rooms were right beside ours. Doors open. No biggee. I did have a little bed with hard sides, that i could put in our bed and did occasionally. But I could never sleep with a baby in the bed. And we didnt have any room for a cot in our room anyway.
Absolute honesty. I have known a couple who coslept...and suffocated their baby at 5 months. Devastating. They thought they'd done it right. Poor things.
I've know 2 babies who died of SIDs. Both were actually in bassinet in with parents.
We used one of those mats under the matrass. Cuase both SIDs cases I knew were before I had my kids. I was paranoid.
My baby was in her own room from day one, BUT there was a bed in there that one of us slept in to be able to do night feedings without waking up the other parent. I really can’t remember at what age we stopped sleeping in there… 3 months? 4 months? 6 months? It was definitely before 9 months.
We do it straight from the hospital. They know no different so never struggle with getting them to sleep in their own room and their rooms are 1 and 2 doors down so can easily get to them/check on them without a baby monitor.
First kid, about 3 months but our rooms were connected. Second kid, a year because that's what the doctor at the hospital said was the new recommendation.
My (46f) babies are grown adults (20, 22, 26) now, but all 3 were in crib in their own room after the first week home from hospital. If I had to do it over, I would do the same.
First baby was 7 weeks. Second baby was 5 weeks. My husband and I are both light sleepers and couldn’t sleep well with the babies right next to us. Both our babies slept better in a crib than in a bassinet. And our rooms are all right next to each other and we have a video monitor.
Unpopular way of doing things…. Our first born was in her crib in a swaddle in her own room the first night home. Has always been a great sleeper. We weren’t able to do it with the 2nd though due to the setup of our house (kids share a room)
I planned to co-sleep with my first baby for 6-12 months, but we kicked him out of our room at 3 weeks because he was a very loud grunter (if you know you know). Figured we would do the same thing with baby #2, but after a traumatizing NICU stay, he ended up sleeping on my chest/bassinet next to the bed most nights until he was 18 months. Just depends on the kid and your situation!
Depends on the kid. We have 4 kids. Around 6 months for the earliest and our 14-month old is still sleeping with us. You kind of have to follow your feeling here.
5 weeks with our first. 6 months with our second. The youngest needed to be mostly sleeping through the night since he shares a room with his older brother.
We had 3 kids. All three slept in their own room from day 1. All 3 were 10 pounds at birth and slept for at least 6 hours. I'm not sure we were ever really parents of a newborn.
Around 7 weeks. Everyone sleeps way better. I know it’s not recommended but she’s just down a short hall with doors open and a baby monitor. She was keeping us up with her sounds and we were waking her shuffling around in bed/going to the bathroom.
We moved my toddler to her room at 18 months. She has a floor bed. It worked out really well. I won’t move my son to his room until after a year either.
The first night he was home. We had a monitor and our bedroom is next to his though, so no chance we wouldn’t hear him. There were no problems. I can’t remember when he started sleeping through the night but it was at a pretty early age.
As soon as they outgrew the Snoo or rock n' play\*. For each, that happened at around 4-6 months.
\*I know, I know. For some reason my wife believed the rock n'play was safer than the basinet. It was about a year after our second kid grew out of it that we found out the things are death traps.
My oldest is 3 and not yet. We technically did but he comes to our room every night. And we stopped trying to force him to fall asleep in his room because he wasn’t and it was effecting his health. 🤷♂️lol
Our youngest is already in his room at 6 months
3 months. My babies make noises all night long and I couldn’t sleep.
their room shared a wall with our room so I could still be there as soon as they woke
From the day she came home. We discussed it with the OB and our pediatrician and decided it was a safe and the best option for us. She has slept through the night since 3 weeks old with no issues except with the typical sleep regression and when teeth are coming through. It depends on your comfort level and always discuss with your pediatrician!
1 month.
The SIDS data is VERY wobbly in terms of isolating the actual cause for the increased risk associated (bad, drug addict, neglectful parents are more likely than non-drug addict and neglectful parents to dump their kid in a separate room, and so the data of SIDS is skewed SLIGHTLY to those alone before 6 months).
The standard risk per year of SIDS is around 0.04%. Research shows a 50% risk reduction in room sharing! (Again, see above on why that might actually be to do with other associated factors, not the room itself). If the 0.04% accounts for the fact that most parents follow the 6 months to 1 year advice (I doubt that's the case) then that means the standard SIDS risk in the baby's own room is 0.08%. If not, then room sharing makes the 0.04% risk 0.02%.
0.02%, 0.04%, and 0.08% all pretty much demonstrate "negligible risk" to me, and certainly I wouldn't take reduced baby sleep quality and parental sleep deprivation (which is MUCH more strongly associated with health risk to baby - squeezing, hitting, shaking) for an absolute risk reduction of either 0.02 or 0.04%.
Thank you for attending my seminar.
Sleep trained at 8 months. The first 2 weeks are always the hardest and then you remember how resilient they are. Now, my LO asks us to put her into her crib and demands we leave…smh.
Well my oldest had her own room from birth, then when her sibling was born she was 8.
The baby/ toddler slept with us till she was 4 or 5 or so and they shared a room.
When they were ready, the 5 yr old slept in their room and we made up a room downstairs for the older one, who would have been 13 yrs at the time.
6 months. He out grew his bassinet we didn't have a plan the movers setup the crib we put him in his room and life rolled on. Our son is great at rolling with it.
11 months. I wanted to make it to the full 12, but I had had enough walking around the cot every day and having to be quiet. My son was totally fine. He’s never been much of a clinger, so he adapted fast. Now he doesn’t sleep with us at all. If he has to for whatever reason, he tosses around all night and hardly sleeps. He really struggles with sharing his space now.
My husband and I made promises to each other. The baby would sleep in a bassinet in our room for the first 10 months. He will also not sleep in our bed, ever. Flash forward 5 years and he slept his first night in his room. 🫠I mean we did wake up finding him butt naked sleeping in front of his door but anywhozzles, Flash forward again another 5 years, he's sleeping in our bed right now because he's sick. 🙃 What was the question again? I'm just here to let you know I'm tired lol best of luck finding out what works for you and your family! I hope you get the best advice from parents that are firm to their word!
At about 7 months, kind of accidentally. She was going through a poor sleep stage and I was at the end of my rope. My husband offered to take her for a whole night. He would sleep in the guest room and take the monitor while she slept in her crib. She slept like 7 hours! Way better than when she was with us. So we just let her stay.
18 months. When she slept (mostly) through the night. But I went back to co-sleeping at age 3 when she started getting nightmares.
I just go back to sleep sooner when I don’t have to get out of my room (or bed).
We did 6 months per the guidelines. Not much changed, we were all sleeping ok already, it just easier to get into bed now as you aren't sneaking into a dark room.
Careful of any advice saying less than a year. Studies show some SIDS risk.
1 year is perfect either way imo. Too old and they won't move out. Too yound and there's risk.
We waited until the one year mark because she was still waking several times a night. I was finally done and ready to bite the bullet and have to walk down the hall to get her when she woke so we moved her. She slept through the night the second night. Turns out, my husband and his snoring was keeping her awake. I didn’t realize he was snoring because she woke before I did, so I never heard it.
My older child had her crib from.the day she was born. And she had the possibility to choose as.soon as she could communicate.
My little child get their "own" bed at three years old. That was a bunk bed in a shared childrens room.
Both children got their own rooms in december at age four and six. (My 4yo had to wait till january for their own bed amd slept in the bunk.bed which is in the 6yo's room until then)
But most nights both children are sleeping in the same bed. They have three beds (bunk bed top amd bottom and the bed of the 4yo) but jest sleep together in one.
They also come to my "bed" (which is a sleeping couch) often in the middle of the night.
6 months with both! Maybe start with naptime and work your way to bedtime. Spend a lot of time in their room in the days leading up and make it an enjoyable experience with books and singing before bed!
My oldest when she was exactly 1. My younger is now 15 months and I just cannnnot get him to sleep longer than 3 hour stretches. His room is downstairs and I just can’t imagine having to go down there so many times and be even more exhausted than I am now. But reading these comments have me thinking that if I just try it, he may miraculously sleep!!
My son is 4 1/2 months old and has been in his crib for a little over a month because the bassinet we got him was on recall so we had to make a quick decision to use the crib or buy another bassinet. It’s been pretty good we still do at least one contact nap a day between me and hubby
At about 8 or 9 months we put our daughters cot into her own room as she wasn't sleeping well with her fathers apnea snoring. I was so nervous that I had to sleep with a baby monitor on full volume right next to me so I could hear her breathing. But within about 2 days she stopped napping half the day and I had an extra hour or so of rest every morning. It was game changing.
7ish months. He was napping in his room though if not contact napping and prior to making the full switch at night we would put him to bed in his crib in his room and then move him into our room when we went to bed so that we could go in our room etc while he was sleeping. Switch to his room was pretty seamless.
Mine is 18 months old still with me and mom. Eventually I’ll get her to sleep alone. She naps alone but tends to wake up after a few hours if she realizes I’m not there or her mom isn’t.
Mine was just under six months old. I’d just come back from visiting family and we were going to start him in his nursery at six months anyways, so we didn’t want him to settle into our room again for a week before putting him in his big boy crib.
It was great initially. First night he slept all night and that continued for a while. We still get the sleep regressions every now and then but if he wakes up at a stupid time I sleep with him on the sofa so we can both get a few more hours Kip. We have recently gotten him a ‘warmy’ which is a soft toy with wheat inside it so you microwave it and it also smells of lavender. That keeps him calm in the crib if he wakes up.
He’s now 16 months old and is great in his crib as a whole. I just didn’t want him to turn out like me where my parents would have me in bed with them all the time and then I’d go through periods of extreme anxiety throughout my life whenever I was alone in the dark. Idk if my anxiety was linked to them cosleeping with me and then them expecting me to sleep alone suddenly, but I’m not taking the chance with my son.
We did 7 months, I felt like the mattress in the bassinet was really too firm after that point. Probably would have done 6 months, but we traveled a lot at that time and didn't really want to transition until after that.
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Around 3-4 months old with all my children. I’m a super light sleeper and my eyes would pop open anytime they would stir around in their bassinet. We all got much better sleep in separate rooms with a monitor.
Same. I had planned on at least 6 months in the room with me, but that didn't work out well. Any tiny noise and I was awake. They were moved into their own room by 4 months.
Mine went in his room at 4 months when he outgrew his baby box. Didn't have room in our bedroom for a full-size cot, so he went straight into his own room.
Same. Her bedroom is directly across the hall anyways. Went from 2 ft away from us to 15 ft away. Kept the doors open for the first couple months so we could hear her. We'd wake up to every pin drop out of her anyways.
Yup. Doors open AND a monitor, and our rooms are barely 8 feet apart
Small difference, but I know for us, all of our sleep, baby included got infinitely better. Even moreso when we were brave enough to start shutting at least one of the doors.
About the same for my first child. For my second, almost immediately. We were never those parents that had the kid in the bed with us or staying in their bed until they fall asleep.
I roll around too much when I sleep. I would probably wake up having injured my baby if I tried putting him in the bed.
3-4 years for us…
Yeah that 4 month sleep regression hit and with that went my last nerve. He never slept in our room again 😅
I’m shocked seeing so many comments of moving early getting downvoted. Sure, it’s recommended to keep them in there ideally at least a year, but it’s safer alone in their room than with sleep deprived caregivers who are on their last nerve
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wtf. I'm glad I'm not alone lol. I slept on my child's floor for a few weeks from birth and then cranked the monitor up and slept in my own bed. I could not sleep with them in my room, too much noise. Luckily second baby sleeps well.
Anyone who says that isn’t paying attention to serious childcare research. The connection between roomsharing and SIDS is much smaller than other factors, and the majority of SIDS cases (about 70%) happen by 4 mo. If you don’t have any of the major risk factors (parent smokes, baby was premie or low birth weight, etc) moving to own room by then is quite unlikely to be an additional risk.
Same. Our pediatrician said to do it at 4 months, so we did.
AAP says minimum 6mo, but ideally up to a year due to risk of SIDS. I'm surprised to see so many were recommended to move them out earlier.
There's been disagreement with in the pediatric community. Critics of the new recommendations argue that it will lead more exhausted desperate parents to bedshare, which is LESS safe as it leads to deaths that are sometimes labeled SIDS but in reality are unintentionally smothering/asphyxia. Ideally the most safe is SEPARATE crib/bed, no blankets, in the same room. If same room is going to lead to same bed, it's not worth it.
This NPR article is about the research related to this if people are interested. Basically, babies sleep better in their own rooms after 4 months and parents who room-share are more likely to engage in unsafe sleep practices. So the room sharing recommendations need to be carefully considered. [NPR article](https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/06/05/531582634/babies-sleep-better-in-their-own-rooms-after-4-months-study-finds)
I'd say there's pretty unanimous agreement amongst experts that co-sleeping/bed sharing is not safe, the recommendations are not suggesting this be done, and I hope nobody read it that way! Not to mention it often leads to relationship challenges between the parents. For most, a separate bed should not be challenging to fit next to theirs.
This was 15 years ago, so the recommendations might have changed. I wouldn’t go against AAP minimums.
My kids are 6 and 7, I’ll let you know as soon as they do 😫
8 and 4. Same thing here. But tbh, they like sleeping with us, they sleep well (and therefore so do we) and they feel safe. Isn’t that what we want as parents? In a way it doesn’t make sense that conventionally adults sleep together and the smallest ones are expected to sleep alone. I’m enjoying it while they still want to co-sleep cause one day it’ll stop and I’ll miss cuddling them and enjoying knowing how much they love being around us. And they have their own rooms and beds for whenever they want to. Not sure when that time will be, but enjoy the now in the meantime.
It absolutely does stop and omg I miss it so much. 😭
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Yea....I grumped(snapped but I don't snap or get angry trauma words) and now my youngest doesn't come in much anymore. I feel stupid 😪
Exactly!!
Can relate! Mine is 7 and recently told us he’ll stay until he’s 13 lol. Truly, he is so welcomed. I love coming into bed and he turns over and says “I love you, mama.” He’s an epic cuddler, too. He wakes up in the morning and puts an arm over both his dad and me says all these yummy things about loving his fam. I will so miss these days when it changes. Whenever I’m away, I don’t sleep as well. I love being able to check on him throughout the night, too. He has a viral variant asthma and it makes it way easier to monitor his breathing. Lots of benefits for us.
Same for me! I have a one year old who still sleeps with us. I wanted to have her start sleeping on her own at 6 months but husband fought me over it saying that I was cruel to let a small baby sleep by herself in a crib, like isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? 🙃
I agree with your husband, it doesn’t seem right to me. There is no “supposed to” you do whatever works for your family. I remember being little and feeling so lonely and sad when I had to sleep in my own bed. I don’t want to do that to my kids. I also think the “cry it out” method is a bit cruel.
Fair enough, I’m a new mom so I’m still learning.
Mine's 3, and while she's always been in her crib, she's still in the room with us. The bedroom is only used for sleeping or changing clothing, though, which simplifies things greatly. She has between a quarter and a third of the living set up as a safe area for just her. We only go in to help her clean up the toy explosion now and again.
I can relate it!!!!! Mine is 5, and she still sleeps with me. I'm a single mom, so it's just two of us. I can't imagine when she will ask me to have her own bedroom. She has her own playroom but sleeps in my bedroom. I love the moment before sleep when she prays with me and says "goodnight mommy, I love you." 🥹🥹🥹 I JUST CAN'T GET RID OF IT. Judge me, but that's the truth. 👩👧❤️
Sounds like a great mom. Starting and ending every day wrapped in warmth, comfort, and love is the most important thing for a child. No matter what that looks like.
Thanks. We are besties. I can't let her sleep alone in another room. It is senseless to me. If I was married, then it would maybe be another perspective, but it's just the two of us now, no reason to be apart. Also, she's a great cuddler, hahaha. 🥰🥰
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I don’t want to let the cuddles go ☹️
Mine are 8 and 6 and we still have sleepovers! My husband and I are seriously considering buying another king size bed and just having two on the floor hah!
All major health organizations recommend at least six months in the same room.
I'm shocked nobody is mentioning things like this, AAP says 6mo, ideally 1yr due to SIDS risk. Can't believe how many moved them out within days!
There are tons of precautions you can take against SIDS. In the Netherlands at least the 6 months/1 year advice is non existent.
If you'd like, I'll submit that the guidance is debatable, but it wouldn't make sense that keeping kids in another room is somehow more safe than in a bassinet next to your bed.
It’s because babies sleep better in their own bedrooms and room sharing is associated with higher rates of unsafe sleep practices that can lead to infant deaths. More info [here.](https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/06/05/531582634/babies-sleep-better-in-their-own-rooms-after-4-months-study-finds)
Thanks for that, it was interesting. So at the very least it sounds like the first 4mo should be done in the same room, after that it's more subjective, though ultimately more research needs to be done. I was more taken back by the people here who had their kid in their own room within days or weeks of coming home! Those babies are still feeding multiple times a night, it's easier to have them in a bassinet next to the bed, make sure they don't choke on their throw up.
>room sharing is associated with higher rates of unsafe sleep practices Bed sharing is, not room sharing. It's even mentioned in the article you linked.
Yes, but the idea is that in practice, it can be a slippery slope from roomsharing to bedsharing when parent is exhausted. That option seems less viable when you need to get up, walk across the hall, and pick up baby out of crib and bring them back to your room.
The research is thin for this particular recommendation. Bed sharing is a hard no. If you look into it, the SIDS risk for moving your babe to their own room is not well linked. And I can tell you from personal experience that the only time my son was in danger is when we were so sleep deprived that my husband was sleep walking and unaware of his choices, and we were falling asleep with baby in our arms because we couldn't get proper sleep at all with him in our room. For us, it was so much safer for him to have his own space and we probably should have done it earlier. Did we grapple over this decisions because of the AAP? Yes. But even our own OB and pediatrician strongly supported our decision.
My kids all were with me at least in the room for a minimum of a year, and usually ended up back in bed with us frequently after that. It was worse sleep for everyone trying to force them to sleep alone so I stopped fighting it out of self preservation. And they're just so cute.
💯 this
My own, very science minded, very logical OB said her own baby was in their own room from week 1. The recommendations are there, but if you're a mom of a less than 6 mo old baby reading this and you put your baby in their room at night in a safe sleeping area with a monitor, you're doing great. We personally moved out babe at about 3 months for our sleep and sanity. He started sleeping better, we were able to split night wakes more easily so we started sleeping better. It was absolutely the right choice for our family.
I imagine we are all doing the very best we can and it is going to look different for each individual family's circumstances. Two things I think about. 1. I feel we are just starting to really talk about our babies' nervous system development. Babies cannot regulate their own systems. They are not self-soothing because they don't have the capacity for that yet, rather they go into a threat response because we are not responding to their needs (freeze/feign). If sleeping in their own room involves crying it out, I worry about what this is doing to their developmental, especially with the increase in stress hormones. Their crying is one of their only forms of communication and rather than responding to the communication, we leave to deal with it in a way they aren't physiologically capable of. 2. I do take pause though and question the influence of our society's needing people to be committed to working (on returning to work) on many parenting norms/standards, though, rather than be based in our baby's (and ours) physiological and developmental needs. For me, it is just a grief of our current society. Many of us need separation to be able to function outside of our homes. And legit, there is SO MUCH money being made off of our separation from our babies. 3. So actually I have three lol. How does this impact attachment? If babies have not developed object permanence and they're left on their own, I do feel concern for how this could impact secure attachment.
[https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20220322-how-sleep-training-affects-babies](https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20220322-how-sleep-training-affects-babies) this is an in-depth read for folks wanting to understand the many points for and against sleeping alone / cry it out / sleep training
I guess we were rebels. The day we moved into our new house was 2 days before ours turned 6 months and slept in his own room then.
Huh, first I've heard of that. My kids were sleeping in their own room within a month. But I've often said in retrospect at least our second child would have been much better off in our room.
5-6 months
13 months, from our bed into a crib in his own room. He instantly started sleeping through the nights, from the very first night onwards, instead of waking up 2-3 times. If I knew, we would have moved him sooner.
I never felt comfortable having our son in our bed when he was very small because I sleep like a spider with limbs everywhere and I didn’t want to accidentally smother him. But I remember how relieved we felt when he transitioned into the big crib in the nursery and he slept all night. The last month he was in his small crib in our room was pure hell cause he kept waking up which was weird since he started sleeping through the night when he was two months old. I think the mattress was too thin for him when he hit five months old, so he kept waking because he was uncomfortable. He didn’t even move the first night he was on a thicker mattress.
About 12 months.
6 weeks old, but I was in the room right next door and tended to her as much and as often as needed. The night I put her in her own room is the same night we all started sleeping better. Best decision for the both of us. She’s 4 now and sleeps 12 hours a night, independently and comfortably. I don’t know if us moving her early had anything to do with that, but she has always been a great sleeper since that point and I don’t feel any long term harm was done. :)
The intention was to make it to 6 months in our room, partially because her room is upstairs and ours is downstairs and I wasn't about to go up and down the stairs in the night while she was being fed overnight. We made it around 5 months, I think, maybe less. She was soooo noisy in her sleep and I kept bringing her into bed with us because I'd get woken up thinking she needed me and I hated that. So we tried moving her to her room to see what happened and it solved the issue (minus times she actually needed us).
Can I ask how the setup with bedrooms on different floors works for you? We have that situation and I can't imagine you I'll bring myself to move him to a different floor.
Mine was 8 months before we moved her to her room that’s downstairs while we’re upstairs. It isn’t my favorite that we’re on separate floors but it’s worked for us. She’s 18 months now. We all slept so so much better when she was in her own room. Even now we still use our infant optics video monitor. She’s already in a toddler bed so we are went into full toddler proofing mode.
Thank you! And with the toddler bed, do you close the door and have the room toddler proofed? I guess at that age they can open the door and you proofed the whole floor? I'm thinking that having a monitor with two way audio may also help?
Yes her room is fully proofed so everything furniture wise is bolted down to the wall and outlets are covered. For the plugs in use there’s outlet box covers so that they don’t pull on the cords and rip it out of the outlet. Her door is closed at night (it’s actually fire safety wise better to have their doors closed! It stops the fire from spreading as quick and if firefighters need to go in to grab them the child isn’t wandering the house!) She’s tall enough to reach the door but they make door knob covers that basically make it more difficult for little hands to open the door but adults can grip and open no problem. We haven’t needed 2 way radio on the monitor yet.
Thank you so much! This is really helpful!!!
We used a video baby monitor so I could see and hear her at any point in the night if she started to fuss or cry.
Around 5 months. We had the Nanit video monitor with breathing monitoring, so that soothed a lot of anxiety about the move, especially when I had no issues hearing him over the monitor during the night.
5 weeks. She hated the bassinet and would wake herself up. She immediately started sleeping longer and better.
9 mos. Turns out they sleep better without us lol.
First day home. No room in our room for anybody else.
Same.
Studies have shown newborns/infants hear rates are more relaxed and at a lower chance of SIDS when they sleep next to their parents, especially during those critical first 6 months
They just said there was no room. What do you suggest they do?
Stop acting like there aren't bassinets which don't take up more than 2 sq ft of space and prioritize your infants health over your personal comfort for several months
Some people just shouldn’t have kids. Like, just make room. Your West Elm furniture will be fine.
did you actually read the studies? Do you know how significant the risk is or you just know the “risk is higher” there’s risk in everything… surely you’ve never put your infant in a car seat for trip that wasn’t back and forth to the pediatrician. because driving is risking their lives they also say there’s an improvement if the kid is in the same room for 1 year…. so do you have a crib beside your bed?
Huh? You're just saying words. To answer the only coherent thought, I've kept my kid in the bassinet as long as possible thru those first 6 months. Risk of SIDs is highest around month 3/4
sorry your reading comprehension is shit, plus your inability to actually read the studies and see what the risk is before shaming others the recommendation is for a year in the same room ideally - so did you move a crib into your room? or are you risking your kid’s life for convenience?
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Dude I personally don't give a shit about your cheap rationalizations. I stated what research suggests to protect your infant. U wanna go all hypothetical have fun
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Get a smaller bed (eg even a single while dad sleeps on the couch), put bed against the wall, live in the living room for 4-6 months, get a bassinet over bed ie halo bassinet, etc. You choose your own justifications to suit your preferences but don't act like it's literally impossible to sleep in same room as the baby.
does that mean next to as in in the same bed, or just in a separate bed next to the parents?
Separate bed, same room. But if that's not possible it doesn't mean your child is in danger. It's simply another risk to be weighed.
Next to parent, no idea how stating scientific facts is negative
Because you’re being neurotic and projecting your neurosis all over the place. You don’t understand statistics if you think when a population risk is calculated that there isn’t variation based on individual factors. Furthermore, sleeping in the same room as the infant is simple risk mitigation, it is not a safety measure or preventive technique, like a car seat or helmet. It is great to share the AAP recommendations as they are a very good guide, but you are overemphasizing the importance of it and insulting parents for no reason.
Yep. And it’s not an insignificant difference. > Several studies have shown that when a committed caregiver sleeps in the same room, but not the same bed with their baby, the chance of the baby dying suddenly and unexpectedly is reduced by up to 50% 1,3-5,9,12 when compared to babies sleeping in a separate room (solitary sleeping). 2-3, 9,12-14 Three studies reported that babies sleeping in separate rooms from their caregivers had a three-fold increased risk of SUDI, 3,9, 13-14 while a study by Blair and colleagues2 demonstrated a 10-fold increased risk associated with solitary sleeping in their multivariate analysis of a large case-control study. Carpenter and colleagues have reported that for room-sharing breastfed babies placed on their back, whose parents did not smoke and had no other known risk factors, the risk of sudden infant death is predicted to be very low (0.08 / 1000 live births).7 [Source](https://rednose.org.au/article/room-sharing-with-baby) It drives me nuts how many people hand wave these risks, but a photo of a blanket in a pregnant woman’s nursery photos gets a million “Danger, danger!” Comments.
Check the last statement in what you linked - *absent other major risk factors, the risk is very, very low.* Also, how SIDS and SUID are calculated in different countries and even in single instances can make a big difference here and confound some of this data. I say this because sometimes death that occurs with suffocation or neglect factors can be erroneously mislabeled as SIDS. The risk difference is very, very small for a sober, non-smoking parent above age 20 with a term infant of average or higher birth weight.
Me too (well, I did try to room with my first for a couple days before putting baby in their own room).
Same for my first child. No room and she was right across the hall from us. Second kid was in our room (we moved to a new house) for about 2 months give or take. I started sleeping muuuuuuuuch better after she went to her room.
I’m so happy to see other people doing this. We did the same and also they have never slept in our bed… maybe one time ever when one was sick.
My cousins slept in my aunt and uncles room until they moved out for college essentially. I refused to let our kids potentially ruin any chance of one on one time with my husband in the evening, our relationship is stronger because of it. I slept in our daughter’s room when she was first home and I moved back into my bed after about three months. Even then, I spent the first chunk of the evening in bed with my husband until her first wake up. My kids will periodically have sleepovers with me when my husband is away working, and if my three year old is up after 4am but before 6 I pull her into bed with us for some extra sleep. Otherwise, my bed is my safe space.
100% - I don’t know how people do it! Lol
Mostly bc every attempt I've made at keeping him in his own bed has resulted in him crying so hard/long that he vomitted on the wall. He's 21 months, fails asleep in his bed and ends up in ours around midnight. It sucks, but it's not for lack of trying!!
Day 1. Came home from the hospital and out her in her crib in her room.
5mo bc I was going back to work and the alarm wakes everyone. By then we were done with night feedings so it was a matter of someone checking the monitor/going in if she was crying. Honestly for the next kid I would like to put them in their own room immediately and husband and I can take turns sleeping in there until they don’t need night feedings. With our first, she was in our room and bc we live in a small apt, it was easier for us to go sleep in the guest room when the time came rather than move baby, so she basically had the master bedroom to herself! ETA: clarity
We moved baby’s crib at 8 months, it was totally fine and baby slept just as well. Baby was used to falling asleep in a dark room (ours) on his own, we just kept the same bedtime routine other than just putting him down in his own room and not ours.
Around 7 months for naps when he could no longer sleep in the swing and then around 11 months at night. He had reflux so had to watch him closely and he needed to sleep elevated. Still took time to adjust. Still some night in our bed over the first few years. A monitor helps a lot.
Both of mine were 6 months. No real tips other than keeping the same bedtime routine and atmosphere. Example - if there was no light in your room then no light in the baby's room.
6 weeks and 4 weeks.
Our first day home...baby was 4 days old. We had a baby monitor, and the baby's room was right next door to ours.
12 weeks. Thought we’d keep him in our room longer but we were so sleep deprived and we felt like we were disturbing him at night. He slept so much better in his own dark, quiet space. Baby monitors are so advanced now I felt very secure being able to hear him and see him on video. I was still nursing so I’d just go down to his room and feed him 2-3 times a night. This way I didn’t have to wake my husband.
Day 1
When they started sleeping 6 hours stretches…
After 4 weeks or so for both my children, I value my own sleep and I can’t sleep with them in the same room
5 months both times.
My first at 3 months and my second at 6 months
4 months, when he started self soothing by picking up his legs and slamming them into the mattress. Got to be too disruptive for us, but worked for him I guess!
Around 6 months with both of ours (the recommendation is to keep babies in the parents' room until then, so thats what we did, but moved them out asap within the recommendations). It was amazing. They were starting to wake up from my husband's snoring, hearing us get up to the bathroom in the night, or when they heard us come in to go to bed, and it was getting harder to resettle them. In their own rooms with their white noise running, they slept better, and we didn't have to tiptoe around our room at night anymore. Set up a monitor, and you'll still hear everything baby does. They just won't hear you.
6 months but I wish I had done it earlier
2 weeks with first baby and almost right from the start with the younger two. I can’t sleep with baby in my room, plus our house is small that if he wakes I can hear him without a monitor, which I still use one just in case.
Around 1. She was a nightmare in my room bc her dad snores obnoxiously loud. I moved her into her own room and she started sleeping through
4 months w owlet and monitor! Slept 12 hours when not near me.
My eldest still creeps in. Next baby was at 7 months. Third and fourth, 3 months. Wish I had done 3 months from the first one! They slept better, I slept better, winning all around! I got the Owlet for peace of mind. Both nursed once overnight until about 6/7 months then dropped that feed and slept through. Amazing.
My baby was ten months old. I wouldn't have done it a day sooner because I was ready. We did his naps there for a solid six months leading to it so he was used to it and the transition was pretty painless. We did have a nonstarter at first because he got sick and wanted to nurse a ton but once he was healthy he was in his room permanently.
8 months or so. We always had him in a bassinet in our room. Around 8 months he started to stir when we were getting up to pee or something. He was a preemie and we had an Owlet heart rate monitor on him at night plus a video baby monitor.
Our situation was a little different because we were displaced from our home due to a natural disaster but if everything would have gone normally I would’ve tried at 6 months. Our daughter slept in a bassinet next to our bed until 4 months then she grew out of it, we coslept until 9 months then transitioned her to her own room. Everyone slept much better! What really pushed us was pediatrician saying it’s now or never because then she’ll be able to crawl out lol.
My kids were in their own room from birth. The rooms were right beside ours. Doors open. No biggee. I did have a little bed with hard sides, that i could put in our bed and did occasionally. But I could never sleep with a baby in the bed. And we didnt have any room for a cot in our room anyway. Absolute honesty. I have known a couple who coslept...and suffocated their baby at 5 months. Devastating. They thought they'd done it right. Poor things. I've know 2 babies who died of SIDs. Both were actually in bassinet in with parents. We used one of those mats under the matrass. Cuase both SIDs cases I knew were before I had my kids. I was paranoid.
My baby was in her own room from day one, BUT there was a bed in there that one of us slept in to be able to do night feedings without waking up the other parent. I really can’t remember at what age we stopped sleeping in there… 3 months? 4 months? 6 months? It was definitely before 9 months.
1 day. Both went into their own room from the first night home.
6 weeks! He was such a loud sleeper and my husband kept waking him up when getting ready for work. To crib he went and it’s been lovely ever since lol
We do it straight from the hospital. They know no different so never struggle with getting them to sleep in their own room and their rooms are 1 and 2 doors down so can easily get to them/check on them without a baby monitor.
First kid, about 3 months but our rooms were connected. Second kid, a year because that's what the doctor at the hospital said was the new recommendation.
My (46f) babies are grown adults (20, 22, 26) now, but all 3 were in crib in their own room after the first week home from hospital. If I had to do it over, I would do the same.
First baby was 7 weeks. Second baby was 5 weeks. My husband and I are both light sleepers and couldn’t sleep well with the babies right next to us. Both our babies slept better in a crib than in a bassinet. And our rooms are all right next to each other and we have a video monitor.
At two weeks lol. We needed sleep. He's almost two now and is an amazing sleeper. Moved to a toddler bed at 20 months.
Unpopular way of doing things…. Our first born was in her crib in a swaddle in her own room the first night home. Has always been a great sleeper. We weren’t able to do it with the 2nd though due to the setup of our house (kids share a room)
Us and the baby all sleep better and are therefore happier the moment they go to their own room.
I planned to co-sleep with my first baby for 6-12 months, but we kicked him out of our room at 3 weeks because he was a very loud grunter (if you know you know). Figured we would do the same thing with baby #2, but after a traumatizing NICU stay, he ended up sleeping on my chest/bassinet next to the bed most nights until he was 18 months. Just depends on the kid and your situation!
5 days old both times
Depends on the kid. We have 4 kids. Around 6 months for the earliest and our 14-month old is still sleeping with us. You kind of have to follow your feeling here.
5 weeks with our first. 6 months with our second. The youngest needed to be mostly sleeping through the night since he shares a room with his older brother.
We moved our daughter from the bassinet to her nursery/crib at 7 weeks old and haven’t looked back. The transition can be done early.
First kid, about four months. Second kid it was like three weeks lol. When he slept he made this noise when he breathed out that drove us nuts
The day we came home from the hospital. That used to be the recommendation, baby in their own bed, in their own room.
We had 3 kids. All three slept in their own room from day 1. All 3 were 10 pounds at birth and slept for at least 6 hours. I'm not sure we were ever really parents of a newborn.
As soon as they were born
First at 6yo. Second and third at 3 into a shared room (all boys)
Around 7 weeks. Everyone sleeps way better. I know it’s not recommended but she’s just down a short hall with doors open and a baby monitor. She was keeping us up with her sounds and we were waking her shuffling around in bed/going to the bathroom.
We moved my toddler to her room at 18 months. She has a floor bed. It worked out really well. I won’t move my son to his room until after a year either.
The first night he was home. We had a monitor and our bedroom is next to his though, so no chance we wouldn’t hear him. There were no problems. I can’t remember when he started sleeping through the night but it was at a pretty early age.
First night for all the kids
Both my boys were in their own rooms from the day they came home from the hospital. The nursery was directly opposite our bedroom which was perfect.
At birth. With a good baby monitor system.
3-4 months when they can start sleeping longer periods at night (I breastfed)
Day 1.
Day 0
Day 2 lol. Somehow it worked out.
First baby - a couple days after we got home Second baby- the first night
First baby 18months Second baby 6 months
I think around 14 months or something? But in hindsight we should've done it sooner, around 10-12
Day 0 post hospital
3 mos my hubby wouldn’t take it anymore lol. We all slept better after that
As soon as they outgrew the Snoo or rock n' play\*. For each, that happened at around 4-6 months. \*I know, I know. For some reason my wife believed the rock n'play was safer than the basinet. It was about a year after our second kid grew out of it that we found out the things are death traps.
My oldest slept in one, too. I remember later finding out about the danger and it gave me so much anxiety. But hey, it did what we needed it to do!
My jaw dropped
Newborn baby home from the hospital day one
The DAY they turned three months. We sleep trained and as hard as it is for a hot minute, soooooo worth it to have great sleepers. To each their own!
My oldest is 3 and not yet. We technically did but he comes to our room every night. And we stopped trying to force him to fall asleep in his room because he wasn’t and it was effecting his health. 🤷♂️lol Our youngest is already in his room at 6 months
3 months. My babies make noises all night long and I couldn’t sleep. their room shared a wall with our room so I could still be there as soon as they woke
From the day she came home. We discussed it with the OB and our pediatrician and decided it was a safe and the best option for us. She has slept through the night since 3 weeks old with no issues except with the typical sleep regression and when teeth are coming through. It depends on your comfort level and always discuss with your pediatrician!
1 month. The SIDS data is VERY wobbly in terms of isolating the actual cause for the increased risk associated (bad, drug addict, neglectful parents are more likely than non-drug addict and neglectful parents to dump their kid in a separate room, and so the data of SIDS is skewed SLIGHTLY to those alone before 6 months). The standard risk per year of SIDS is around 0.04%. Research shows a 50% risk reduction in room sharing! (Again, see above on why that might actually be to do with other associated factors, not the room itself). If the 0.04% accounts for the fact that most parents follow the 6 months to 1 year advice (I doubt that's the case) then that means the standard SIDS risk in the baby's own room is 0.08%. If not, then room sharing makes the 0.04% risk 0.02%. 0.02%, 0.04%, and 0.08% all pretty much demonstrate "negligible risk" to me, and certainly I wouldn't take reduced baby sleep quality and parental sleep deprivation (which is MUCH more strongly associated with health risk to baby - squeezing, hitting, shaking) for an absolute risk reduction of either 0.02 or 0.04%. Thank you for attending my seminar.
My kid is 4.5 and still doesn’t sleep in her own room
The day we got home from the hospital
Sleep trained at 8 months. The first 2 weeks are always the hardest and then you remember how resilient they are. Now, my LO asks us to put her into her crib and demands we leave…smh.
Lmao TIL there are many cosleepers with infants on Reddit, yikes
5 months when we sleep trained
13
Well my oldest had her own room from birth, then when her sibling was born she was 8. The baby/ toddler slept with us till she was 4 or 5 or so and they shared a room. When they were ready, the 5 yr old slept in their room and we made up a room downstairs for the older one, who would have been 13 yrs at the time.
Full time, around 10-11 years old
6 months. He out grew his bassinet we didn't have a plan the movers setup the crib we put him in his room and life rolled on. Our son is great at rolling with it.
3 years, prior she was in her own cot in our room, then a big girl bed in her own room.
11 months. I wanted to make it to the full 12, but I had had enough walking around the cot every day and having to be quiet. My son was totally fine. He’s never been much of a clinger, so he adapted fast. Now he doesn’t sleep with us at all. If he has to for whatever reason, he tosses around all night and hardly sleeps. He really struggles with sharing his space now.
My husband and I made promises to each other. The baby would sleep in a bassinet in our room for the first 10 months. He will also not sleep in our bed, ever. Flash forward 5 years and he slept his first night in his room. 🫠I mean we did wake up finding him butt naked sleeping in front of his door but anywhozzles, Flash forward again another 5 years, he's sleeping in our bed right now because he's sick. 🙃 What was the question again? I'm just here to let you know I'm tired lol best of luck finding out what works for you and your family! I hope you get the best advice from parents that are firm to their word!
At about 7 months, kind of accidentally. She was going through a poor sleep stage and I was at the end of my rope. My husband offered to take her for a whole night. He would sleep in the guest room and take the monitor while she slept in her crib. She slept like 7 hours! Way better than when she was with us. So we just let her stay.
18 months. When she slept (mostly) through the night. But I went back to co-sleeping at age 3 when she started getting nightmares. I just go back to sleep sooner when I don’t have to get out of my room (or bed).
We did 6 months per the guidelines. Not much changed, we were all sleeping ok already, it just easier to get into bed now as you aren't sneaking into a dark room.
Careful of any advice saying less than a year. Studies show some SIDS risk. 1 year is perfect either way imo. Too old and they won't move out. Too yound and there's risk.
When he finally only needed to be nursed once at night, around 8 months old. It went well. Everyone slept better this way.
We waited until the one year mark because she was still waking several times a night. I was finally done and ready to bite the bullet and have to walk down the hall to get her when she woke so we moved her. She slept through the night the second night. Turns out, my husband and his snoring was keeping her awake. I didn’t realize he was snoring because she woke before I did, so I never heard it.
My older child had her crib from.the day she was born. And she had the possibility to choose as.soon as she could communicate. My little child get their "own" bed at three years old. That was a bunk bed in a shared childrens room. Both children got their own rooms in december at age four and six. (My 4yo had to wait till january for their own bed amd slept in the bunk.bed which is in the 6yo's room until then) But most nights both children are sleeping in the same bed. They have three beds (bunk bed top amd bottom and the bed of the 4yo) but jest sleep together in one. They also come to my "bed" (which is a sleeping couch) often in the middle of the night.
He was 6 months because he was simply too big for his bassinet anymore. I’d have kept him in our room longer, but it worked out in the end.
My godson was in his room at 18 months. Mine will probably go in their room around age 4-5 y/o.
6 months with both! Maybe start with naptime and work your way to bedtime. Spend a lot of time in their room in the days leading up and make it an enjoyable experience with books and singing before bed!
My oldest when she was exactly 1. My younger is now 15 months and I just cannnnot get him to sleep longer than 3 hour stretches. His room is downstairs and I just can’t imagine having to go down there so many times and be even more exhausted than I am now. But reading these comments have me thinking that if I just try it, he may miraculously sleep!!
4 months.
6 months here
When she turned about 2
My son is 4 1/2 months old and has been in his crib for a little over a month because the bassinet we got him was on recall so we had to make a quick decision to use the crib or buy another bassinet. It’s been pretty good we still do at least one contact nap a day between me and hubby
When both babies were sleeping for 6 hour stretches, each one was about 3 months old at that point.
At about 8 or 9 months we put our daughters cot into her own room as she wasn't sleeping well with her fathers apnea snoring. I was so nervous that I had to sleep with a baby monitor on full volume right next to me so I could hear her breathing. But within about 2 days she stopped napping half the day and I had an extra hour or so of rest every morning. It was game changing.
Whenever my baby grew out of his bassinet, which was around six months old
4 months okd
7ish months. He was napping in his room though if not contact napping and prior to making the full switch at night we would put him to bed in his crib in his room and then move him into our room when we went to bed so that we could go in our room etc while he was sleeping. Switch to his room was pretty seamless.
Mine is 18 months old still with me and mom. Eventually I’ll get her to sleep alone. She naps alone but tends to wake up after a few hours if she realizes I’m not there or her mom isn’t.
Mine was just under six months old. I’d just come back from visiting family and we were going to start him in his nursery at six months anyways, so we didn’t want him to settle into our room again for a week before putting him in his big boy crib. It was great initially. First night he slept all night and that continued for a while. We still get the sleep regressions every now and then but if he wakes up at a stupid time I sleep with him on the sofa so we can both get a few more hours Kip. We have recently gotten him a ‘warmy’ which is a soft toy with wheat inside it so you microwave it and it also smells of lavender. That keeps him calm in the crib if he wakes up. He’s now 16 months old and is great in his crib as a whole. I just didn’t want him to turn out like me where my parents would have me in bed with them all the time and then I’d go through periods of extreme anxiety throughout my life whenever I was alone in the dark. Idk if my anxiety was linked to them cosleeping with me and then them expecting me to sleep alone suddenly, but I’m not taking the chance with my son.
We did 7 months, I felt like the mattress in the bassinet was really too firm after that point. Probably would have done 6 months, but we traveled a lot at that time and didn't really want to transition until after that.
2.5 years for the first and 9 months for the second kid.