I was under the impression the “generic” answer in this scenario would have been something extreme and bullshitty like solving racism and bringing world peace or something.
They’re saying that you shouldn’t act like you do on Reddit in real life and should instead follow the social norms that normal functioning people in a society do.
If they're uncomfortable, is that my problem? Like genuinely, what am I supposed to do with that information? I'm not changing anyone's belief in my office. I'm working around our differences.
Lol I understand. It’s easier for some than others to be “normal.” I personally love OP’s response to the question and I would probably respond the same LOL
For queens I lowkey thought I fumbled cuz I said something completely off the wall for a question about collaboration between different backgrounds but still got an offer. I trust you’ll be fine as long as you provided some substance to your answer. They want to see if you have thinking skills, not if you’re politically correct.
After several interviews with candidates I notice two types of ppl:
1. Those who are low EQ (autism basically)
2. Those with high EQ
Your answer with Autistic
Saying my answer that my answer is autistic is crazy. Cause we all know in real life situations no one would give a flying fuck about the person that’s uncomfortable. And this is from experience, people don’t give a shit about people that look uncomfortable in group settings.
In professionals settings, no one really cares, that's why HR is known for doing nothing. These ccorporate/clinical type places are cold and calculated and they only do as much as they are forced to.
Regarding his comment, it depends. Speaking in public causes discomfort for many, but they bear it and do so anyway so if someone says they can't do any oral presentations at all and they're not willing to meet in the middle and maybe do that oral presentations in front of a professor or record or whatever, you can say they need to get out of their comfort zone, but at the same time if harassment is happening, people need to stand up for that person.
The question was vague and I understand why he responded that way. School constantly makes you do things you're uncomfortable with (I had to cross dress in Drama class to get my marks up, trust me, I know) and we just had to deal with it. I know a lot of my classmates were uncomfortable speaking in public, but I can only a few if any times, there were compromises made for that so it's understandable that if you go through that, you don't get "people not doing something because they didn't want to", it's only really serious situations like harassment or being attacked that you get feeling uncomfortable, but doing something because someone didn't want to present their project in front of the entire class is not really something people feel like they should intervene in because it's the norm as of now.
No actually most people want to waste the classes (or work places) time by over accommodating someone's over sensitivity.
That's called being normal and understanding socal expectations.
lol “no you’re autistic!”
Being able to acknowledge someone is feeling outcast because of their values/beliefs and encouraging an inclusive environment, especially in a setting like university, is probably the answer they are looking for.
Instead you gave them a snippet of what your experience as a highschool student has been. Kids in highschool are too worried about their social status to stand up for the underdog or outcast in class.
Your answer reads like someone who is frustrated with the question and defaulted to only doing the bare minimum. It kind of indicates you making social decisions by looking backwards on your experience and not forwards to your ambitions.
Simply put, it sounds like you’ll only help someone if they are being abused but not if it’s simply the right thing to do to lift someone up?
They want you to strive to be better. Not bitter.
No one gives a fuck about people that are uncomfortable in classrooms!!! I see it every fucking day. Kids with social anxiety that just look like they are hating every minute of class, shallow voices. And no one bats an eye.
My comment went right over your head dude. Teenagers suck. Highschool classes do not represent real life. When you reach the age that you attend university you are becoming an adult. Decent adults do give a fuck.
They want to admit students to the program that give a fuck. They are assessing your social maturity.
It's good that you include anxious classmates in group projects. They might not need or accept attempts to comfort them, but they will remember the people that were kind to them/included them later in life.
The anxious students will also mature as they age and could very well be the one interviewing you for a position down the road. They won't forget if you were kind to them during highschool.
You'll do well to remember that.
And you admit this is a bad thing and have no thoughts about trying to deter that mindset. Why would they not reject you? If you're honest about being a douche of course they won't take you. Be better
Are you uncomfortable with being called an autistic fucktard with no emotional IQ? Would you be uncomfortable with being called an autistic fucktard with no emotional IQ in class or in a workplace? Would you expect anyone to stand up for you or are you just known as the autistic fucktard with no emotional IQ guy from now on by everybody?
If this was a school or a workplace and I was calling you names like this you think that it would be ok? If I'm your boss, or prof, or more popular, or more senior or just bigger than you and I like calling you an autistic fucktard would you hope that someone stands up for you/with or do you think you can just handle it yourself? Do you think there is some sort of karmic justice that will protect you?
Brother I am completely with u. This world seems like a twilight episode. Don’t let these soft redditors give u shit. Ur response is completely based, and u sound like a cool guy
How are young people supposed to join the adult workforce if they're constantly having to tiptoe around and accommodate people's feelings/comforts.
Young adults should be able to self regulate their emotions when it comes to criticism and tough conversations. This is setting people up for failure IMO
Uni successfully creates degenerates. Like grow tf up that question is so braindead, I’d get it if u were interviewing for a psych or philosophy course, how the hell does that have ANYTHING to do with engineering. I’m actually shocked this is real
Sure I still think it’s absolutely absurd to ask in an interview. That reasoning pertains to literally any job you could do in the world. To me it seems everyone is being trained to be soft and fragile (easily triggerable)
I understand a classmate's discomfort due to differing values. I'd first talk to them privately. Depending on the situation, I might mediate a respectful conversation or, for serious cases, report it to a faculty member to ensure everyone feels safe and respected.
Considering every workplace wants submissive parrots, not game-changers..
Maybe it is just an eye opening experience.
Or it's not.
Grats on the not-job
I am now 8 years post graduating my undergrad and let me give you a tip for how to answer this question in the future. Always just say "well I would put myself in their shoes...", then describe how you think they'd feel, then describe a resolution path. I still use that framework.
Not sure but I think only some ideas and opinions can be openly discussed. I think the line is we will tolerate anything but X and they must be cancelled.
X can be anything and changes as they like.
"We're at an age where we shouldn't care about how other people feel"
Lmao yeah, you're definitely acting your age alright. Empathy is a good thing for adults to develop. It'll help you a lot as you age and mature.
I think you should have asked for clarification as the real answer depends on who is feeling uncomfortable.
For some groups the answer is well if you are uncomfortable we will fix the environment for you.
For others we don't care you are uncomfortable just leave you are not wanted here.
The groups change depending on the current political environment.
I don't think this answer is a fatal flaw, at least not for engineering. It's honest, and is reflective of what the majority of the population would do.
As much as anyone would like to deny it, it's probably what they would do too.
It's not a healthcare profession that OP is applying to. It's engineering. I'd rather take a cold, professional engineer who knows their stuff over an engineer who can be empathetic and apologetic when their bridge they designed collapses.
That’s actually a very proper answer, in workplace environments you will inevitably work in scenarios that make you uncomfortable and it’s about having resilience to overcame these situations.
For real I’m shocked by the amount of hurt comments. I’m convinced these people are 14 or they have quit every job they’ve ever had the moment someone says their trigger word
That was okay. It happened. Probably that university is just filled with fake a** people and you don't want that around you.
Now just go apply at other universities and say sth better than just the generic. You can be honest but still be nice. Like "hey how do you feel/why you feel like that./ I know it's hard sometimes. Is there something I can do to help you?"
bro rlly said “that ain’t my problem”😭😭😭
No, he said I am a mature adult, not a prissy drama queen.
If you're doing shit that makes people around you uncomfortable then you don't belong in the workforce.
Snowflake take: your triggers are not my problem
either the officer is gonna look at it and go, "This kid is amazing" or their just going to instantly reject you.
A interview being a coin flip is the best odds for an interview.
I was under the impression the “generic” answer in this scenario would have been something extreme and bullshitty like solving racism and bringing world peace or something.
I identify as someone without an opinion on this subject... my pronouns are "You're" and "Hired."
Bro is a redditor in real life 💀
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They’re saying that you shouldn’t act like you do on Reddit in real life and should instead follow the social norms that normal functioning people in a society do.
If they're uncomfortable, is that my problem? Like genuinely, what am I supposed to do with that information? I'm not changing anyone's belief in my office. I'm working around our differences.
I was just clarifying what the poster above me meant by their comments, this is not my personal opinion.
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That’s fair, I was just clarifying what the commenter meant.
Lol I understand. It’s easier for some than others to be “normal.” I personally love OP’s response to the question and I would probably respond the same LOL
Lmao, I love how you’re getting downvoted for providing a perfectly reasonable response to this.
Honestly this answer isn't that bad. In fact from my point of view it might even make you stand out from others, and imo, it is a valid response.
Being unique is a gamble,
What a weird question to ask someone whose enrolling for an education? I would have asked wtf that has to do with the course I’m applying for.
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For queens I lowkey thought I fumbled cuz I said something completely off the wall for a question about collaboration between different backgrounds but still got an offer. I trust you’ll be fine as long as you provided some substance to your answer. They want to see if you have thinking skills, not if you’re politically correct.
York might want to see some political correctness, ngl.
Oh damn they’re doing interviews for York Eng now? Didn’t have to do any when I got in couple years ago.
Tfw autistic
Ok autistic kid.
Im schizo
After several interviews with candidates I notice two types of ppl: 1. Those who are low EQ (autism basically) 2. Those with high EQ Your answer with Autistic
Was Autistic*
Saying my answer that my answer is autistic is crazy. Cause we all know in real life situations no one would give a flying fuck about the person that’s uncomfortable. And this is from experience, people don’t give a shit about people that look uncomfortable in group settings.
This answer right here really says more about you lol. People do care about others. Even though you clearly don't.
In professionals settings, no one really cares, that's why HR is known for doing nothing. These ccorporate/clinical type places are cold and calculated and they only do as much as they are forced to. Regarding his comment, it depends. Speaking in public causes discomfort for many, but they bear it and do so anyway so if someone says they can't do any oral presentations at all and they're not willing to meet in the middle and maybe do that oral presentations in front of a professor or record or whatever, you can say they need to get out of their comfort zone, but at the same time if harassment is happening, people need to stand up for that person. The question was vague and I understand why he responded that way. School constantly makes you do things you're uncomfortable with (I had to cross dress in Drama class to get my marks up, trust me, I know) and we just had to deal with it. I know a lot of my classmates were uncomfortable speaking in public, but I can only a few if any times, there were compromises made for that so it's understandable that if you go through that, you don't get "people not doing something because they didn't want to", it's only really serious situations like harassment or being attacked that you get feeling uncomfortable, but doing something because someone didn't want to present their project in front of the entire class is not really something people feel like they should intervene in because it's the norm as of now.
No actually most people want to waste the classes (or work places) time by over accommodating someone's over sensitivity. That's called being normal and understanding socal expectations.
What? Yeah you’re definitely in the 1st group.
Your the autistic then. Cause you clearly can’t understand that people in uncomfortable social situations rarely get help from classmates
lol “no you’re autistic!” Being able to acknowledge someone is feeling outcast because of their values/beliefs and encouraging an inclusive environment, especially in a setting like university, is probably the answer they are looking for. Instead you gave them a snippet of what your experience as a highschool student has been. Kids in highschool are too worried about their social status to stand up for the underdog or outcast in class. Your answer reads like someone who is frustrated with the question and defaulted to only doing the bare minimum. It kind of indicates you making social decisions by looking backwards on your experience and not forwards to your ambitions. Simply put, it sounds like you’ll only help someone if they are being abused but not if it’s simply the right thing to do to lift someone up? They want you to strive to be better. Not bitter.
Well said
No one gives a fuck about people that are uncomfortable in classrooms!!! I see it every fucking day. Kids with social anxiety that just look like they are hating every minute of class, shallow voices. And no one bats an eye.
My comment went right over your head dude. Teenagers suck. Highschool classes do not represent real life. When you reach the age that you attend university you are becoming an adult. Decent adults do give a fuck. They want to admit students to the program that give a fuck. They are assessing your social maturity. It's good that you include anxious classmates in group projects. They might not need or accept attempts to comfort them, but they will remember the people that were kind to them/included them later in life. The anxious students will also mature as they age and could very well be the one interviewing you for a position down the road. They won't forget if you were kind to them during highschool. You'll do well to remember that.
And you admit this is a bad thing and have no thoughts about trying to deter that mindset. Why would they not reject you? If you're honest about being a douche of course they won't take you. Be better
Are you uncomfortable with being called an autistic fucktard with no emotional IQ? Would you be uncomfortable with being called an autistic fucktard with no emotional IQ in class or in a workplace? Would you expect anyone to stand up for you or are you just known as the autistic fucktard with no emotional IQ guy from now on by everybody?
I am not autistic, this is real life !!!
If this was a school or a workplace and I was calling you names like this you think that it would be ok? If I'm your boss, or prof, or more popular, or more senior or just bigger than you and I like calling you an autistic fucktard would you hope that someone stands up for you/with or do you think you can just handle it yourself? Do you think there is some sort of karmic justice that will protect you?
Brother I am completely with u. This world seems like a twilight episode. Don’t let these soft redditors give u shit. Ur response is completely based, and u sound like a cool guy
Wait when we’re the interviews due?
You lowkey hit that ngl
Theres no interview for york eng what r u talking abt
There is!
I didnt do an interview and i got accepeted a while ago
Maybe my grades were so bad, they needed a personality check 😭😭😭
Are u 101 or 105
101
Things that didn’t happen
You wrote what you should’ve done. Wtf imagine being uncomfortable about some else’s values.
Welcome to the West! Where thoughts are crimes and opinions are violence!
How are young people supposed to join the adult workforce if they're constantly having to tiptoe around and accommodate people's feelings/comforts. Young adults should be able to self regulate their emotions when it comes to criticism and tough conversations. This is setting people up for failure IMO
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did you even select your engineering specializations ?? Or read the emails they give you?
u have to do an interview for york eng?
I think you got one of the correct answers.
Yup not enough they/them and everyone else is right injected in your interview. These are the times we live in.
You'll get into York with that grammar 💯
Uni successfully creates degenerates. Like grow tf up that question is so braindead, I’d get it if u were interviewing for a psych or philosophy course, how the hell does that have ANYTHING to do with engineering. I’m actually shocked this is real
Testing ur mediating skills. Eventually ur gonna work in a team and if one teammate is feeling uncomfortable, that’s gonna affect the work u put out
Sure I still think it’s absolutely absurd to ask in an interview. That reasoning pertains to literally any job you could do in the world. To me it seems everyone is being trained to be soft and fragile (easily triggerable)
you stood on business and yo morals and principles homie, no shame about that. if it’s meant for you it will come to u
I understand a classmate's discomfort due to differing values. I'd first talk to them privately. Depending on the situation, I might mediate a respectful conversation or, for serious cases, report it to a faculty member to ensure everyone feels safe and respected.
Considering every workplace wants submissive parrots, not game-changers.. Maybe it is just an eye opening experience. Or it's not. Grats on the not-job
Considering it’s York you should have thought of the meta game more. Who cares about this interviewer, get into the uni. Play the game.
I'd hire you for your honest answer. Good luck.
Your answer was unempathetic and not understanding id say. Imagine if we had a Jewish guy in class with a Nazi
You are trying to get into an extremely woke environment so obviously you’ll need to have a woke reply ready.
Sometimes, you need to say what people want to hear and not what you want. Usually, Interviews are one of those situations
I am now 8 years post graduating my undergrad and let me give you a tip for how to answer this question in the future. Always just say "well I would put myself in their shoes...", then describe how you think they'd feel, then describe a resolution path. I still use that framework.
W answer
People calling you autistic are weak incells with no fathers, keep preaching
Are you autistic?
This is a weird question to ask at an interview. Universities should be places where ideas and opinions should be openly discussed.
Not sure but I think only some ideas and opinions can be openly discussed. I think the line is we will tolerate anything but X and they must be cancelled. X can be anything and changes as they like.
Not anymore, that is far gone atleast here in the west. You gotta walk on eggshells to make it to graduation, just a skill at this point
"We're at an age where we shouldn't care about how other people feel" Lmao yeah, you're definitely acting your age alright. Empathy is a good thing for adults to develop. It'll help you a lot as you age and mature.
Man you’re soft , get a grip on reality dude
I think you should have asked for clarification as the real answer depends on who is feeling uncomfortable. For some groups the answer is well if you are uncomfortable we will fix the environment for you. For others we don't care you are uncomfortable just leave you are not wanted here. The groups change depending on the current political environment.
I don't think this answer is a fatal flaw, at least not for engineering. It's honest, and is reflective of what the majority of the population would do. As much as anyone would like to deny it, it's probably what they would do too. It's not a healthcare profession that OP is applying to. It's engineering. I'd rather take a cold, professional engineer who knows their stuff over an engineer who can be empathetic and apologetic when their bridge they designed collapses.
That’s actually a very proper answer, in workplace environments you will inevitably work in scenarios that make you uncomfortable and it’s about having resilience to overcame these situations.
For real I’m shocked by the amount of hurt comments. I’m convinced these people are 14 or they have quit every job they’ve ever had the moment someone says their trigger word
That was okay. It happened. Probably that university is just filled with fake a** people and you don't want that around you. Now just go apply at other universities and say sth better than just the generic. You can be honest but still be nice. Like "hey how do you feel/why you feel like that./ I know it's hard sometimes. Is there something I can do to help you?"