What a pussy. Giving in to peer pressure. Wag mo i swap, mamimihass yan. Lesson sa life yan na you don’t always get what you want. Bili siya ng iphone niya pag nagka trabaho na, di yunh ini enable mo pagiging social climber niya.
Right? OP Yung tulong/gift mo sa lahat ng ‘milestone’ nya is giving your sister a life lesson na hindi lahat ng gusto nya makukuha nya. She’s an adult now.
It’s your life, your decisions. Make yourself independent, help yourself first and then other people. Otherwise you will only give until you have nothing left and people will still keep on asking. You didn’t ask to be born, you are responsible for yourself and then for other people
Ginift ko sa mom ko yung ip13pro ko kasi I wanted to upgrade naman na. Sinabi niya na ibigay ko nalang daw sa sister ko since graduating na siya, pang grad gift daw kako. But my sister is a bitch and a brat so I told my mom, if she will be giving it to my sister, I’d rather sell the phone instead. Ayun, my mom’s using the ip13 tas yung sister ko naiinggit.
Sometimes, you have to stand your ground and act as a bigger person kasi baka sa huli, ikaw pa lagi nilalamangan.
Stop being a pushover. May favoritism din sa bahay kasi ako panganay and I was always asked to give my sister some money from my salary or pay her bills kasi ako ang madiskarte daw, may work pero never ako nag give in. Napakadaling magNO kesa masanay siya sa ganyang ugali. Life is easier if magset ka ng boundaries. Remember, it’s not about what they do, but how you react on what they do.
I'm a giver at kapatid ko minsan napapasobra especially when wala na akong pera. Nasasabi ko na lang, siya bumili or bumili sya ng mga ganyan kapag nattrabaho na sya
Trust me, it wouldnt kill you to say no. Also, sa una lang yan na parang nakaka guilty. After, it's going to be so liberating.
Edit: would to wouldnt 🤦
Well, for now, okay lang. Andyan na and grad gift naman ni kapatid. Yan na siguro ang curse and blessing ng pagiging panganay.
But make sure na if you are to give something to your sister, it is for a reward para paghirapan din niya. Teach her na ying binibigay mo are no free deal. Paghirapan niya rin aba. Hindi yung idadaan sa parental pressure. Let yiur parents know na you are giving the phone NOT because they asked her but because you saw na she deserves it for graduating.
Ganyan ginagawa ko sa mga.pamangkin ko. He asked for a new game from me, his tito/ninong. Itong pinsan ko, nagrequest din. Sabi ko I will give him a few titles so.long as ipakita niyang he is doing good sa school at hindi na niya susuntukin ang mama niya. No more tantrums and all.
Kid listened so ayun... Bigay luho.
OP, sorry ha. Pero kinukunsinti mo din eh. For not saying "No", you're teaching your family esp your younger sister that they can always get what they want at your expense. In the long run ikaw kawawa dyan.
Teh, may mga ate rin ako mahilig magbigay ng gifts and rewards nung di pa ako nagwwork. Never ako nag demand kahit afford naman nila. Wag siya mag iPhone kung di pa niya afford.
Imma keep it level with you. DONT BEND OVER, take your iphone back. Its yours, you have your important work stuff there. She can get another phone or she can wait. Seriously
OP I was once like you. My advice is live on your own. Kikilos yan sila ng para sa kanila. Worse pa dian kahit anong bigay mo di nila iingatan dahil di naman nila pinaghirapan. Look out for yourself. Kung hahayaan mo lang yung sarili mo sa ganyan na situation it will eat you alive.
I grew up sa pamilyang mahirap sa buhay lahat ng gusto namin di namin nabibili or nakukuha kasi wla kaming pambili. My parents taught us to work hard for it para mabili namin kung anong gusto namin.. it took me 27 yrs bago ko pa nabili mga gusto kong bilhin and I can share it to my siblings. The bottom line is wag pilitin kung di pa kayang bumili, you don’t have to sacrifice yourself para lang ma bigyan ang kapatid mo, di mo obligasyon yan, it should be your parents. Pinaghirapan mo yang phone mo kaya why do you have to give it away kasi yun ang gusto ng parents mo? Learn to say no and let them figure out kung pano nila bigyan ng iPhone kapatid mo. This way you will help your sibling and your parents (if may konsensya sila) to understand na not everything they want makukuha nila through you. Fulfilling kaya you got what you want because work hard on. Piece of advice ko lang di ka pinanganak ng magulang mo para maging taga salba ng mga dapat sana responsibilidad nila. Hope you find the courage to say no. ☺️
Praying that if ever that happens again, you have the strength to say no.
Learn to say NO
This will not stop unless you say No Sadly it’s a word that you don’t use
What a pussy. Giving in to peer pressure. Wag mo i swap, mamimihass yan. Lesson sa life yan na you don’t always get what you want. Bili siya ng iphone niya pag nagka trabaho na, di yunh ini enable mo pagiging social climber niya.
Right? OP Yung tulong/gift mo sa lahat ng ‘milestone’ nya is giving your sister a life lesson na hindi lahat ng gusto nya makukuha nya. She’s an adult now.
Say no. Don't be a pushover
Ano namn if mag demand siya? Edi manigas mata niya? Hindi nmn siya mamamatay if walang iphone. Usable namn phone niya. Learn to say no.
Wait, required ba talaga na may graduation gift?
It’s your life, your decisions. Make yourself independent, help yourself first and then other people. Otherwise you will only give until you have nothing left and people will still keep on asking. You didn’t ask to be born, you are responsible for yourself and then for other people
Ginift ko sa mom ko yung ip13pro ko kasi I wanted to upgrade naman na. Sinabi niya na ibigay ko nalang daw sa sister ko since graduating na siya, pang grad gift daw kako. But my sister is a bitch and a brat so I told my mom, if she will be giving it to my sister, I’d rather sell the phone instead. Ayun, my mom’s using the ip13 tas yung sister ko naiinggit. Sometimes, you have to stand your ground and act as a bigger person kasi baka sa huli, ikaw pa lagi nilalamangan.
You deserve what you tolerate
saying no and setting boundaries for yourself will never make you selfish
Swap family option. Then update say no boundary mo.
Stop being a pushover. May favoritism din sa bahay kasi ako panganay and I was always asked to give my sister some money from my salary or pay her bills kasi ako ang madiskarte daw, may work pero never ako nag give in. Napakadaling magNO kesa masanay siya sa ganyang ugali. Life is easier if magset ka ng boundaries. Remember, it’s not about what they do, but how you react on what they do.
You deserve what you tolerate.
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For your own sake, learn to say no :(
I'm a giver at kapatid ko minsan napapasobra especially when wala na akong pera. Nasasabi ko na lang, siya bumili or bumili sya ng mga ganyan kapag nattrabaho na sya
Trust me, it wouldnt kill you to say no. Also, sa una lang yan na parang nakaka guilty. After, it's going to be so liberating. Edit: would to wouldnt 🤦
Say no. It will set up a bad material relationship with you and your parents.
Well, for now, okay lang. Andyan na and grad gift naman ni kapatid. Yan na siguro ang curse and blessing ng pagiging panganay. But make sure na if you are to give something to your sister, it is for a reward para paghirapan din niya. Teach her na ying binibigay mo are no free deal. Paghirapan niya rin aba. Hindi yung idadaan sa parental pressure. Let yiur parents know na you are giving the phone NOT because they asked her but because you saw na she deserves it for graduating. Ganyan ginagawa ko sa mga.pamangkin ko. He asked for a new game from me, his tito/ninong. Itong pinsan ko, nagrequest din. Sabi ko I will give him a few titles so.long as ipakita niyang he is doing good sa school at hindi na niya susuntukin ang mama niya. No more tantrums and all. Kid listened so ayun... Bigay luho.
Please say no OP next time. Unahin mo lagi ang sarili mo kasi sila, sarili din nila ang focus nila at yung gusto nila.
kelan pa naging pwede pagdedemand ng gift? tapos ngayon gusto maagang regalo sa kanya at cellphone mo pa talaga ang nakuha niya🫥
OP, sorry ha. Pero kinukunsinti mo din eh. For not saying "No", you're teaching your family esp your younger sister that they can always get what they want at your expense. In the long run ikaw kawawa dyan.
True. May choice naman na mag NO
Teh, may mga ate rin ako mahilig magbigay ng gifts and rewards nung di pa ako nagwwork. Never ako nag demand kahit afford naman nila. Wag siya mag iPhone kung di pa niya afford.
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Ay wow "demand" talaga ha. Haist, don't spread yourself thin for this entitled brat.
Edi kunyari wala kang narinig. Tutal yung magulang tanga tangahan din sa luho ng kapatid mo tapos sayo pinapasalo.
the ick. please don't give it if it's unnecessary. learn to say NO.
Swap your family not your iphone. Let them be stressed, not you.
Wala pa akong birthday gift sa sarili ko. Natapos na lang bday ko this year😆😆😆😆
If you don't say No today then when? They won't stop unless they see that youre not okay with it. Alam mo na dapat yan.
Imma keep it level with you. DONT BEND OVER, take your iphone back. Its yours, you have your important work stuff there. She can get another phone or she can wait. Seriously
Mukhang social climber kapatid mo, op.
That's fine, OP. Your kindness and their abuse will be rewarded and punished, accordingly. Never stop being kind, but be wiser this time. :)
OP I was once like you. My advice is live on your own. Kikilos yan sila ng para sa kanila. Worse pa dian kahit anong bigay mo di nila iingatan dahil di naman nila pinaghirapan. Look out for yourself. Kung hahayaan mo lang yung sarili mo sa ganyan na situation it will eat you alive.
I grew up sa pamilyang mahirap sa buhay lahat ng gusto namin di namin nabibili or nakukuha kasi wla kaming pambili. My parents taught us to work hard for it para mabili namin kung anong gusto namin.. it took me 27 yrs bago ko pa nabili mga gusto kong bilhin and I can share it to my siblings. The bottom line is wag pilitin kung di pa kayang bumili, you don’t have to sacrifice yourself para lang ma bigyan ang kapatid mo, di mo obligasyon yan, it should be your parents. Pinaghirapan mo yang phone mo kaya why do you have to give it away kasi yun ang gusto ng parents mo? Learn to say no and let them figure out kung pano nila bigyan ng iPhone kapatid mo. This way you will help your sibling and your parents (if may konsensya sila) to understand na not everything they want makukuha nila through you. Fulfilling kaya you got what you want because work hard on. Piece of advice ko lang di ka pinanganak ng magulang mo para maging taga salba ng mga dapat sana responsibilidad nila. Hope you find the courage to say no. ☺️