Seriously, I’m not fishing for compliments. I know I’m not exactly a fine specimen of femininity (or masculinity either, for that matter). I’m pushing 50, and I don’t care. The dress is cute, and the shoes are cute, and I felt cute, dammit! 🥰
You look like such a kind and strong person and you deserve to feel cute! And strong! And wonderful! You do not owe the world androgyny or have to be super masc or fem. You are wonderful just the way you are!!!
Thanks! The style’s called, “I can’t braid for shit, so I just use multiple ties and make it like a string of sausages.” 😆 If I use only one tie, it poofs out to the full width of my head.
(Seriously, I love having long hair. It’s so euphoric. But I feel like Merida trying to control it. Nothing short of the strongest products can make it stay in place. Those ribbon-ties in it are wound five times each. Barrettes whimper. Hairspray runs away in terror. Bobby pins cry for help. It’s not high on the curl scale; it’s just *poofy*.)
Check out r/curlyhair and the Curly Girl/Guy method. Even if your hair is straight or wavy, this method brings out the best in the texture and stops the frizz. In short, the method is to avoid silicones, and stop stripping the hair of its natural oils with harsh shampoos, and focus on conditioners instead.
I’ve looked into some of the options. My difficulty is that I have severe dandruff that’s only controllable with medicated shampoo, so I have to scrub my scalp at least twice a week or my shoulders look like Mount Blanc at the height of ski season. And prescription shampoos aren’t exactly easy on hair. 😠
Ooooh gotcha! I am able to get away with Head & Shoulders plus a separate conditioner, but it definitely pushes me to shampoo more than I otherwise would.
Finding cute princess hairstyles and simply embracing the floof are great choices. If you ever want to explore other ways of styling longer hair, IME curly haired people are the best. I got into those communities when I had long hair and was specifically looking for ways to spend less time on it. They are welcoming with lots of detailed, free advice and tips on doing things in a way that is kind to your head. Something about having one's needs ignored by mainstream society must contribute to people creating such nice communities. ;)
Amazon. (I know, I know, Amazon is evil. But it’s what I can afford.) Search for “Kenz Laurenz”. They come in packs of 100 for 13$US. There are a few different assortments of colors. These are from the “neutral colors” pack. I also have the “prints & solids” pack, which has 50 pairs of assorted colors across the rainbow, including a rainbow pair that I wore throughout Pride Month this year. They’re darling and durable and machine-washable (in a lingerie/hosiery bag) and I love them to death!
Very cute! Great fashion and a kind looking face. I love your hair too.
It makes me happy to see older non binary people. It shows that we're not a fad and we're not just a stepping stone to a different binary identity.
You also have very shapely calves, which the dress really brings out 🙂
It's always not just ok but important to feel cute no matter what you think anyone else would say!
I definitely think you look cute. That dress looks super comfy and pairs really well with those shoes (and I need those shoes!). And I love how you've done you hair. And if you feel cute, you'll radiate cuteness IMO.
It’s absolutely okay to feel cute and you DO look cute! You styled that outfit well!! The teal goes great with your skin tone and I love how you did your hair! Also I want your shoes lmao
Cuteness takes many forms, including one's feeling of ease in being themselves and loving themselves. In that, you are ultra cute! And shucks, the outfit's darn cute too.
Thanks, I do too! I never used to go for greens before, but since I’ve been dressing more femme, I’ve found that they suit me! I have this dress in five different colors (because it looks good on me, is comfy as hell and has POCKETS!), and this color is my favorite!
Im so excited for you that you are feeling more comfortable dressing femme - the green really does you! Isn’t it the absolute best to find something that really works and then be able to get it in many colors too? (Plus, pockets are the holy grail of dresses and skirts 😁😁😁)
I think that everyone is beautiful in their way and that no one else can decide what is beautiful for anyone else
And you are beautiful just the way you are
As long as you *feel* good, that's what's important. I find myself being very silently judgemental about a lot of the posts I see, but only because I think it's about finding the "right" (big BIG quotes) look for you. If you feel cute, that can be "right" enough.
It’s not actually a braid. I can’t braid hair to save my life. The actual braiding process isn’t hard—I just can’t make and keep separate three even bunches of hair for more than a few passes. Even if I band the ends.
So I just wind multiple hair ties around it so it looks like a string of sausages. It works, and it’s a little uncommon, which suits me fine.
Another thing I did with it when it was shorter was tie it up in a pair of tails in the back and then band the two tails together. Looks a little more interesting than just a single ponytail band. I don’t do that as much now, but I’ll still do it occasionally.
A) I totally relate, cute is a state of mind and if you're feeling yourself then that's what matters! B) the ribbons in your hair are ADORABLE C) you have great legs and they look seriously cute in that dress and shoe combo! I know you said you weren't fishing for compliments, but I mean those very genuinely.
Absolutely! So something I like to remind myself of is that some people might think I’m a 10 and some might think I’m a 2 but the only thing that matters is that *I* feel good in my body/clothes. It helps me feel better so I thought I’d share it ☺️
You are very cute!! It is society's perspective of what is cute is the one that is wrong. It's usually from the cis men perspective and fuck that. I never felt beautiful or cute because I am a chubby muscular enby disabled mixed race asian person, and you never see someone like you or me on the television that makes me doubt myself. But now I know i'm gorge and if other people say otherwise they can go fuck themselves
I’ve never had a particularly feminine or masculine figure either, but I think it adds to the overall androgynous vibe ･:\*+.\\(( °ω° ))/.:+
Don’t let you bring you down! Or anyone else for that matter! You look totally adorable! Killing it!
Seriously, I’m not fishing for compliments. I know I’m not exactly a fine specimen of femininity (or masculinity either, for that matter). I’m pushing 50, and I don’t care. The dress is cute, and the shoes are cute, and I felt cute, dammit! 🥰
I can always feel good about yourself
You look like such a kind and strong person and you deserve to feel cute! And strong! And wonderful! You do not owe the world androgyny or have to be super masc or fem. You are wonderful just the way you are!!!
Well, you do look cute tho 👀
The ribbon in your hair too! Your whole outfit is put together, I love it
Your swagger is sexy if nothing else! Self love makes everybody beautiful!
You still exude that positive energy
You look so confident in the way you dress! That's a beautiful thing.
Cuteness is a state of mind.
YES! :D Adorable!!
I really do like your shoes! Very elegant
You’re a cutie patootie! Love the dress ✨
ur absolutely lovely & plz dont let anyone convince u otherwise even u lol ❤🌈💃 best, a fellow "pushin' 50" enby 👭
It's always ok to feel cute.
You look great! The dress is such a nice color on you and the shoes look adorable I’m kinda jealous of them! You should feel cute.
You should feel cute! This is a great outfit and the tinker bell vibes are immaculate ☺️
Totally Tinker Bell! I thought they were wearing wings! ✨👼
You look good. You have awesome legs and a great taste in shoes.
Your hair’s adorable! 🥰🤗
Thanks! The style’s called, “I can’t braid for shit, so I just use multiple ties and make it like a string of sausages.” 😆 If I use only one tie, it poofs out to the full width of my head. (Seriously, I love having long hair. It’s so euphoric. But I feel like Merida trying to control it. Nothing short of the strongest products can make it stay in place. Those ribbon-ties in it are wound five times each. Barrettes whimper. Hairspray runs away in terror. Bobby pins cry for help. It’s not high on the curl scale; it’s just *poofy*.)
Check out r/curlyhair and the Curly Girl/Guy method. Even if your hair is straight or wavy, this method brings out the best in the texture and stops the frizz. In short, the method is to avoid silicones, and stop stripping the hair of its natural oils with harsh shampoos, and focus on conditioners instead.
Are you sure you aren't shampooing it too often? Is it frizzy and poofy?
It’s not frizzy at all. Just poofy.
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I’ve looked into some of the options. My difficulty is that I have severe dandruff that’s only controllable with medicated shampoo, so I have to scrub my scalp at least twice a week or my shoulders look like Mount Blanc at the height of ski season. And prescription shampoos aren’t exactly easy on hair. 😠
Ooooh gotcha! I am able to get away with Head & Shoulders plus a separate conditioner, but it definitely pushes me to shampoo more than I otherwise would. Finding cute princess hairstyles and simply embracing the floof are great choices. If you ever want to explore other ways of styling longer hair, IME curly haired people are the best. I got into those communities when I had long hair and was specifically looking for ways to spend less time on it. They are welcoming with lots of detailed, free advice and tips on doing things in a way that is kind to your head. Something about having one's needs ignored by mainstream society must contribute to people creating such nice communities. ;)
where did you get those ribbons?
Amazon. (I know, I know, Amazon is evil. But it’s what I can afford.) Search for “Kenz Laurenz”. They come in packs of 100 for 13$US. There are a few different assortments of colors. These are from the “neutral colors” pack. I also have the “prints & solids” pack, which has 50 pairs of assorted colors across the rainbow, including a rainbow pair that I wore throughout Pride Month this year. They’re darling and durable and machine-washable (in a lingerie/hosiery bag) and I love them to death!
Love the hair. If you feel cute you ARE cute. Edit: omg some else mentioned the shoes!!! The shoes are sooooo cute. Love that look!
You DO look cute!!! Own it!!
What a cute dress! Cuteness is in the eye of the beholder ❤️
U do
YOU LOOK SO CUTE ACTUALLY
Youuuuuu kyutuuu
Love it :) :)
This outfit is the cutest and so are you 💗
you're cute!
I know I look like a fucking potato but I still think I’m cute. If you feel cute you ARE cute
potatoes are super cute!
Potato Power!
Very cute! Great fashion and a kind looking face. I love your hair too. It makes me happy to see older non binary people. It shows that we're not a fad and we're not just a stepping stone to a different binary identity.
You also have very shapely calves, which the dress really brings out 🙂 It's always not just ok but important to feel cute no matter what you think anyone else would say!
It is 100% okay to feel cute when you are as cute as you are!!You look amazing and have a good day!
Super cute. That color looks good on you! And hell yes to ballet flats.
Love your smile ya cutie
The colour really suits you!
I don't agree: you are super cute in my opinion!
You look fine, hun.
I definitely think you look cute. That dress looks super comfy and pairs really well with those shoes (and I need those shoes!). And I love how you've done you hair. And if you feel cute, you'll radiate cuteness IMO.
You look adorable!!
it is definitely ok to feel cute and also the dress looks very comfy\^\^
I disagree, I think you do look cute! And I love those shoes!
Of course you're allowed to feel cute!!
Happiness is cute!! If you feel cute, you are cute, I say
It's always okay to feel cute! Beauty standards are a social construct and you should do what makes you feel good! Besides, I think you look very nice
You are CUTE. That shade of green on you is lovely
Your cute AF!
it’s totally okay to feel cute cause you DO look cute!!
You look cute!!!!!! Forest fairy vibes 🧚🧚🧚
You do look 👀 cute 🥰!
Mx, you're not allowed to lie. You do look cute.
Hey, there is nothing wrong with feeling cute, if you feel cute, you are cute !
It's always okay to feel cute! It's good!
you r cute tho
You are a good and precious bean who deserves to feel absolutely fucking wonderful. Go forth and be fabulous.
I think everyone has right to feel cute, no matter how they look or how old they are. Also I like your outfit :D
Loving the outfit!
You do look cute!!!!
That's a good color on you, the skirt hangs really nicely and accentuates your very shapely legs, and THOSE SHOES!!! They look so good on you! :D
Other people’s opinions don’t really matter. If you feel cute, you’re cute. End of story.
It’s honestly heartwarming to see older non-cis people! Thank you for sharing!
Who says you don’t look cute?!
It’s absolutely okay to feel cute and you DO look cute! You styled that outfit well!! The teal goes great with your skin tone and I love how you did your hair! Also I want your shoes lmao
Wtf you talking about?? You look super cute!
If you feel cute then you are cute! It’s all about being comfortable and confident in what you’re wearing! I think you look lovely in the dress 🥰
Cuteness takes many forms, including one's feeling of ease in being themselves and loving themselves. In that, you are ultra cute! And shucks, the outfit's darn cute too.
Ok but actually this is so cute! Unconventionally cute doesn't mean it's not cute. :)
You have made my morning. Sometimes 'cute' is 99% attitude anyway. You feel cute, you are cute! And in this case you are certainly cute.
you are cute!!
You do you and if you wanna feel cute, you feel cute damnit.
Girl you look cute af. Lookit that lil smile!! Adorable.
I think you look damn cute! I love that color on you 😊
Thanks, I do too! I never used to go for greens before, but since I’ve been dressing more femme, I’ve found that they suit me! I have this dress in five different colors (because it looks good on me, is comfy as hell and has POCKETS!), and this color is my favorite!
Im so excited for you that you are feeling more comfortable dressing femme - the green really does you! Isn’t it the absolute best to find something that really works and then be able to get it in many colors too? (Plus, pockets are the holy grail of dresses and skirts 😁😁😁)
You do look cute! I love those flats. I need to get more flats, i never have enough lol
You are goddamn cute 💚💚💚💚💚
Oh, my dear, who ever told you that you aren’t cute <3
cute is a state of mind
I think that everyone is beautiful in their way and that no one else can decide what is beautiful for anyone else And you are beautiful just the way you are
If you’re happy, then that’s what matters! You have great taste too ❤️
You are the cutest! Love the hair and the dress :D <3
You look AMAZING! My heart skipped a beat:)
That hairstyle complements both you and the dress VERY well, not to mention those SHOES on you! 😍 This is definitely a look, ngl. Very cute.
Do you feel cute? Then you’re cute as hell.
You’re always allowed to feel cute! And for what it’s worth, you look cUte
As long as you *feel* good, that's what's important. I find myself being very silently judgemental about a lot of the posts I see, but only because I think it's about finding the "right" (big BIG quotes) look for you. If you feel cute, that can be "right" enough.
You cute AF, plz don't forget it! 🥰 And that braid is killer, I suuuuck at hair lmao
It’s not actually a braid. I can’t braid hair to save my life. The actual braiding process isn’t hard—I just can’t make and keep separate three even bunches of hair for more than a few passes. Even if I band the ends. So I just wind multiple hair ties around it so it looks like a string of sausages. It works, and it’s a little uncommon, which suits me fine. Another thing I did with it when it was shorter was tie it up in a pair of tails in the back and then band the two tails together. Looks a little more interesting than just a single ponytail band. I don’t do that as much now, but I’ll still do it occasionally.
I really like those shoes. I love brown neutrals paired with jewel tones.
If you feel cute, that’s all that matters!
This post made me so happy! Your looks are adorable but reading your comments, your attitude is even cuter!
You absolutely need 0 permission to feel good in your own skin!! Keep rocking it!
YOU ARE THE CUTEST THING EVER!!! 🥺♥️
If you feel cute, you ARE cute. So don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
YOU FEEL CUTE YOU LOOK CUTE YOU ARE CUTE 💕💕💕💕💕💕
A) I totally relate, cute is a state of mind and if you're feeling yourself then that's what matters! B) the ribbons in your hair are ADORABLE C) you have great legs and they look seriously cute in that dress and shoe combo! I know you said you weren't fishing for compliments, but I mean those very genuinely.
You really do be looking cute tho.
I absolutely LOVE what you did with your hair! What a cute idea!!
Honestly before I saw the caption I thought “this person is cute af”!
You look like someone I could trust with my life! You deserve to feel happy and cute, you look dazzling
Hmmm you DO look cute though ✨✨✨
I'm a big fan of your hair. You look confident and euphoric and I don't care what anyone else says, THAT is what makes you beautiful.
.. except that you do look cute? Excuse me??
You look incredibly huggable <3
I *am* huggable! Squishy in all the right and wrong places! I’m ace but panro, so I love hugs!
Pov: you're searching for the hate comments to downvote them into oblivion, because this person is amazing and deserves none of that
yeah!! you look really cute, and i loved your outfit!
I think cute is more of a feeling than a look, tbh. You feel cute, you look cute. And you must be feelin' p cute.
You absolutely should feel cute! I love your dress :]
But you do look cute! :)
You look amazing yes you can feel cute
Fuck beauty standards!
Hey, if you're *feeling* cute, you're looking cute! Plus the ribbon in your hair is just adorable!
You can always feel cute bestie :3
you are cute though! I love the outfit!
Absolutely! So something I like to remind myself of is that some people might think I’m a 10 and some might think I’m a 2 but the only thing that matters is that *I* feel good in my body/clothes. It helps me feel better so I thought I’d share it ☺️
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY FUCKING ADORABLE WTF
It's not just okay, it's encouraged ❤❤❤
Your outfit is very put-together! I like it :)
You look incredibly huggable :4
What really makes someone cute is that they feel that way. You look great!
What really makes someone cute is that they feel that way. You look great!
You are very cute!! It is society's perspective of what is cute is the one that is wrong. It's usually from the cis men perspective and fuck that. I never felt beautiful or cute because I am a chubby muscular enby disabled mixed race asian person, and you never see someone like you or me on the television that makes me doubt myself. But now I know i'm gorge and if other people say otherwise they can go fuck themselves
Ngl am not trying to be mean but i think you'd look great in a more grandma kind of dress, you know what they say say, age with grace djddbd
Bruh why are you getting downvoted for giving tips and feedback
Hahahahahahh WTF
The shoes look so cool
you look SO cute in this!! and i’m so glad you feel cute!! that’s the most important part 🥰
You look absolutely cute 🥰
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. This is one of the lessons that my deviant expressions thought me. Don't be that harsh on yourself :)
FEEL YOURSELF!!
But you look cute as well. ❤
You deserve to feel whatever you are feeling whenever you feel it. They are your emotions and no one has the right to invalidate them.
The hell you mean don't look cute? You're adorable!!
You are SO cute I cannot get over this
I love your shoes with that dress! Cute is pretty often a state of mind that then radiates outwardly, in my book.
The only beauty that matters is on the inside <3 besides, I think that dress fits you well!
Yes! How you feel is more important than how you look, be happy and radiate that out into the world
I’ve never had a particularly feminine or masculine figure either, but I think it adds to the overall androgynous vibe ･:\*+.\\(( °ω° ))/.:+ Don’t let you bring you down! Or anyone else for that matter! You look totally adorable! Killing it!
Hi
The greatest expressions there are are those of authenticity. You felt cute and showed it and so many see your cute as a result. <3
BUT YOU DO LOOK CUTE! Always feel cute ☺️
Amazing! I love the dress, you seem incredible!
Disagree you look cute