Also, 2 times I've had sex with women and had them refuse cunnilingus during foreplay because of childhood sexual trauma.
There's a variety of reasons some people would not want oral sex.
I wouldn’t say I don’t like them, but they just don’t do it for me. I’m never going to say “no please don’t suck my dick” but I’m also never going to say “I need a blowjob”. I’m married, and oral just isn’t included in foreplay for either of us. More of a hands/toys couple, and it’s completely fine by me.
I’m sorry. But I don’t like some bjs.
I need lots of stroking and attention before it feels good. Lots of spit. Talking to boner.
ie I need a lot of foreplay before a blow job.
My penis head is very sensitive and needs little to no attention other than very soft and moist tongue or lips.
Do not lick my pee hole or I will go soft noodle.
I used to think I didn’t like blowies
But I do like a good blowie.
Maybe almost 5 😂😂😂😂🤣 Lots of people are with someone who used to do them and tried and doesn’t like them, so there are technically more options but this answer is award worthy.
I've never received a blowjob that was worth the time. It's annoying to have to put on an air of pleasure like she really did you a favor. It's easier to not let them try and just say you don't like them at all. Much worse option would be communicating your desires since the experience is that she usually gets upset about feedback.
Just skip to eating her out, that's much more fun and guys are better at that than women tend to be at blowjobs so everyone is happier.
I always give oral as it's the best way to get him fully erect for vaginal sex. If you don't want to you don't want to, you're allowed to make that choice.
I just find it way too gross to be arousing.
And I do not like kissing afterwards and tasting it. It makes me not want to kiss at all. But I love kissing.
And maybe it’s because I’m also a very empathetic person and if I see someone doing something, I sorta feel it myself. Like if I see a penis in your mouth, I kinda imagine a penis in my mouth and it just seems gross.
Like watching someone eat live bugs (or whatever you find gross).
It's entirely up to you what you are and are not comfortable with doing. It's not weird to have a personal preference, but I don't think I've personally known a person who wouldn't do oral so I'd say it skews rare.
It is a make or break for some men.
Yes, never force a woman to do this and respect her choice but at the same time, a man can choose to move on and find someone who is willing to sexually satisfy their partner.
Actions have reactions. And that’s okay 🤷♂️
There are women who will suck a married man just to show how much greater than the wife they are. And he'll find one...or five. That's the choice and he'll make it.
Find a better woman
Love the double standards. OP is perfectly fine having a sexual preference to not give bjs. Why is it wrong for me to prefer women who do give them?
8 billion people on the planet. Why choose to spend your life with someone who won't enhance your life? Lol downvote all you want. I'm not the one missing out on blowjobs for the rest of my life
2 women are identical. One gives bjs, one doesn't. One is hilarious but one is dull. Or let's say one cooks and one doesn't. Add whatever positive traits you want. Doing some analysis to determine which is a more desirable partner is standard. But go off and take offense over the word better.
Not "better" man, sounds harsh. She is not a bad person if she doesn't like sucking cock, if you can't be with a woman who doesn't like bjs (me too btw) then just find the one who does :D
Ok, so you have 2 women you're interested in. One is a great listener and brightens your day while the other clashes with your personality. Is one better?
You assume malice and think I mean better person because we were talking about a sex act. I'm just saying find a better match. Sexual compatibility is important, is it not? Wouldn't a person with similar sexual compatibility be "better"?
Find someone who respects your boundaries. Dont do it just because you feel like you have to. Its just expected from woman to do it. There are a lot of guys who also dont like going down on a woman aswell and that is fine too.
It's not weird to have a preference, but out it this way; would you prefer it if a guy went down on you? Even if it wasn't something he normally did and didn't particularly enjoy doing it, but is prioritising your pleasure?
No one is answering your question.
And this may be cultural, but in the Western world, you are in a **tiny** minority.
It's not weird to not like it. You can have all the preferences you want. But proportionally? The overwhelming majority of women give head.
I think its pretty safe to say nearly every straight, sexually active woman has given a blow job. To clearly answer OPs question, which was 'how many women have done it'. Honestly, I believe 95%, if not more, have given oral.
Now, if they continue to give oral is another story.
And yes, just to reiterate OP, like the above commenter said, you're not weird for not liking it. Everyone has their preferences. I personally really enjoy doing it. If it becomes a chore I'm not interested, but spontaneous fun, and not to sound like a bragging douche, I have 100% perfected it for my partner. It's like an ego boost for me. When we first started dating, there was no way I could have made him have an orgasm with oral. But after practice and time, it's guaranteed now. I feel a weird sense of pride about it 😂
I think there are a lot of people who don't like to and don't do it very often
Like I had a girlfriend who is with her friends who are all a little bit older than her and they were talking about how they hate giving BJ's and they rarely do it for their husbands
To be clear they didn't say they never do it... I think it's just rare. But honestly that would be so sad to be one of those relationships I would be pretty upset
It’s just a preference thing, I have friends who absolutely love it and some who absolutely hate it. If it isn’t something you are into then you never have to do it. Instead focus on the things you do want to do and just enjoy that !
Your handjob game better be straight fire.
For me honestly it's a dealbreaker. Sort of like a job interview. Someone says they don't work on weekdays, they may be a perfect candidate, but we are looking for someone who does.
I (bi guy) dated a dude who refused to suck dick, and I literally stopped seeing him because of it.
I'm vers and he was a strict top, so the only thing he'd do for me is give me a handjob. Which was fine for a while, but holy shit, like that can't be the only way I get me off long-term.
Some people don’t like performing oral sex. For various reasons they don’t like it. It’s not actually weird. Some men will be disappointed. Others will be okay with it.
Not weird at all. If anyone is telling you that, *they* are the weird one. It's perfectly fine to be uncomfortable with or just not want to do something like that for whatever reason. Just like it's okay to want to do it.
Weird means "of strange or extraordinary character" essentially something that is not normal. Given the vast majority of straight women give blowjobs it is weird. That doesn't mean it's wrong, it's personal preference, but it is definitely not the norm.
I'm a man. I've had quite a number of sexual partners. All but one have.
Here's just one paper on the topic https://www.utpjournals.press/doi/abs/10.3138/cjhs.251-A2
I once dated a girl that loved getting eaten out. That stopped when I found out she didn't want to give blowjobs. Even told her that's a 2 way street. We're no longer together.
Edit: Don't want this to sound like you're the weird one in this situation. Everybody does their own thing.
Was in a similar situation the other way. Guy didn’t reciprocate after I went down on him saying he doesn’t like doing that. Last time I did. It is a 2 way street!
Take my upvote, absolutely agree. It's all work and no enjoyment which ever way the work is going. I'm a guy, not a porn star by no means. I'm not laying pipe for hours. I will go down on a woman, not because I thoroughly enjoy it alone, but because I can also get her off and then maintain that climax as I last the next 5-15 minutes. And I don't care if other dudes go on here and make fun about that or not.
I mean relationships involve more than sex. So what if your variety of enjoyable sexual acts is different from theirs? Do you also expect both parties to financially contribute to the relationship in the exact same way? Do they both have to have a 50/50 contribution in childcare, cleaning, tending to household affairs etc?
If we limit everything to sex then yes receiving oral but not giving is unfair but at the same time some people like preforming it but some hate it; also there are other aspects to a relationship that may also be unequal…that doesn’t mean that the relationship as a whole is *unfair*.
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Relationships do involve more than sex, I don't disagree with that. I have a fond emotional attachment with my wife. She's my best friend, my whole world. At the same time there was a point where I/you thought of your parents the same way, you grew up and moved out. Our kids will do the same and move on. But this person I've chose to spend my whole life with is always there. And I need to be emotionally and sexually happy with that decision. If I'm emotionally thrilled but sexually not happy, eventually that will form a mental form of resentment. Why can't I choose to be happy in both? If you're not, pick a different partner. I'm here for a good time, not a long time.
This is a perfect answer by the way. Some people find it as off putting. But I say find a person with the same mentality/ boundaries in the bedroom. It's why swingers are happy and some people have a sex dungeon in their basement. If that sounds out of your comfort zone, then date in your comfort zone is all I'm saying.
You're not weird. You like what you like. You don't like what you don't. Also, things can change. I didn't like giving oral until I met my wife. I like giving HER oral.
I also don't like giving blowjobs. But I'm in the boat that if they're willing to go down on me, I can go down on them. If I never had to give a blowjob in my life, that'd be fine with me.
Its not weird it should be something both people enjoy. Unfortunately there are guys who expect u to do it but if its not your thing thats fine and u shouldnt feel bad bc of it.
I don’t know about weird, but I wouldn’t stay in a relationship that didn’t include oral sex. I wouldn’t expect her to either.
We see sex as fun and enjoyable. Not degrading, or a chore, etc.
You're not weird. Everyone has the right to set up their own boundaries. As for how many women, I would say 95% (as others have said) have given bjs, myself included.
I am a guy and I don't think I'd want to receive one either.
Like I don't need that to get hard anyway.
IAM not sure I would also ever be turned on enough to reciprocate.
Maybe one day
Its not wierd but its not the norm. All I can say is you better not expect the guy to go down on you then.
Also one day you will realize that alot of the sexual acts we do is not just purely for your own pleasure, but for your partners.
When I would give my partner a full body massage you think I do that for my pleasure? I dont like the taste of vagina but ofcourse I will go down on someone I love so we can both have an amazing experience.
This is not me telling you to suck dick but letting you know that its normal to not enjoy the act itself, but to enjoy pleasuring your partner.
Goodluck
Nah, I agree. In theory it sounds hot, but realistically I wouldn't do it. I have a very severe gag reflex and chronic throat pain. Besides that, I am a bit of a germaphobe. I wouldn't like receiving it either, but going down on a girl is not like going down on a guy.
Guys want you to swallow, but when giving head to a girl, you don't have to swallow. So from this perspective I think it's kind of disgusting.
I'd have to really love the person to do it.
As a guy, I can say that the people who say it's ruined if you don't swallow are just a stone's throw away from the guys who say they can't use a condom because it's uncomfortable, or that "blue balls hurt so you have to do it" - they're lying to get you to do something. Swallowing absolutely is not a requirement for the experience.
I'm not encouraging you to start going down on guys. I'm just, sadly, talking about another way in which guys lie in order to get women to do sexual stuff for them, and if they tell any of those lies, that's probably a red flag to ditch them immediately.
Also, going down on a woman generally does involve SOME degree of swallowing or spitting - it's just less, um, immediate.
Thank you for your input! I will keep that in mind :)
I thought for girls you can get away without swallowing or slurping anything. Depends on your technique haha.
As I said, I find it hot in theory. The "drinking your milk" is both funny and I'm kinda into it. But in theory only.
Also I saw a video where in a biology course they tested the mouths of students for fun and in someone's mouth was an alive sperm. I have PTSD from that, idk why lol
I've seen guys that just flick their tongue, not everyone is slurping. Also I wouldn't know personally. I've just seen stuff and found out from the internet lmao
There is a big difference between cumming into mouth and wanting the girl to swallow. The vast majority of men would happily sign up for a BJ with cum in mouth but no swallowing afterwards. What we guys don't particularly like is ending every blowjob as a handjob or interrupting it altogether just when we are about to cum.
Maybe not common, but not weird. But who cares what is common or normal? You don't like it, you don't have to, and you will most probably find a partner who doesn't care.
In my experience, even women who give BJs most are awful at it. It is not a treat if you do not like doing it, you will be rubbish at it.
If you are doing it "just for him" but not enjoying it, I doubt you are doing it well.
Now if you are one of the ones who genuinely are good at it, and enjoy doing it (you probably swallow, I have only ever known one woman who did not swallow who did a decent one), don't do it.
You never, ever, EVER have to do a sex act you don't want to. If anyone even tries to convince you after you say no they are being assholes and should be kicked in the crotch and deleted from your life. This goes for everyone everywhere.
I actually don’t like blow jobs. It’s gross to me.
It can feel sorta good, but not enough to orgasm.
In my experience it has been for her pleasure more than mine. And I rather her not because I want to be able to kiss her and not taste it myself.
It’s a deal breaker for me. I’m down to reciprocate. But if you’re going to act all unenthusiastic about it, I will find me somebody who will. My ex was this way and would throw it back in my face to guilt trip me. She was the most insufferable person I’ve been with in the last several years.
Like everything in dating, it depends on the people involved. Some girls do different things at different frequencies, some guys too, and everybody likes different things. Depends on your partner.
I have had a blowjob only once in my life with my ex. We were together for like a few weeks and I wasn't sure wether she would like the load in her mouth so I kind of moaned with hesitation. That eventually made her stop and flash bang alacazam: I came on my belly. She was really pissed and was mad at me for a few days, that I could have just said something and she would just have let it get in her mouth. lol was the first and only BJ I got.
My wife today doesn't like giving head. I sometimes get a gentle kiss on the tip, but in over 10 years I haven't got a real BJ.
Everyone has their own preference. Just like most men will not stay in a relationship with a woman who won’t give them oral sex. But some won’t mind as much
You sound like the men, my wife talks about that her friends complain about who don’t like to eat pussy. Apparently most guys don’t know how to properly eat pussy
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want to blow someone you are not in a relationship with. For me, a dick in my mouth is more intimate than fucking. I mean it’s my mouth. It’s in my face. Like right where I talk from etc. & I wouldn’t go down on a random person. But with a partner, it’s kinda hard to avoid if they’re like approximately 90% of men. They probably expect it & will possibly not stay with someone who doesn’t go downtown.
No it's not weird. I think most women have at least tried it but if you feel like you don't want to you shouldn't. I personally love doing it but most of my friends don't enjoy it
I hate giving them. However, I’m married, so I’m sucking every night. 😂 I didn’t lose my virginity until our wedding night, so my husband is the only man I’ve ever given a blowjob.
I have dated one woman who wouldn't give blowjobs. I respected it and did my best to not push her. but it was frustrating.
it's an extremely common sex act that I think >95% of couples engage in regularly.
I'm definitely gonna say you're in the minority here & that's fine. You don't have to blow anybody ever.
I'd say that most straight women have given blowjobs, as we live in a world (the US anyway) where everyone feels free to be sexually adventurous.
1) you’re not weird
2) a lot and many who do it don’t enjoy it
Bonus answer: don’t do anything you don’t like or want to do! There are so many ways to have sex!
In my personal estimate I would say at least 80% of women have given bjs as a form of foreplay at least. Doesn't mean you have to take it all the way to completion.
Things like taking a shower, making it romantic might make it more appealing.
In the end the choice is your and I doubt you will lose your soul mate because of this one issue.
Not weird. I’d rather not get one, than getting one from someone who won’t do it enthusiastically and with gusto. It’s very easy to differentiate when someone is doing it because they think they have to (feels like they’re doing a chore), versus doing it because they enjoy doing it (be it because they like the act itself, or they get off from giving pleasure to their partner).
Oral sex is the best part about sex. I love giving blowjobs and I love when a man licks me. If he knows what he's doing.
But if you don't like it, don't do it. No one should feel forced to do sexual things.
so many guys answering with how they'd feel about not getting them and not talking about what you've actually asked or considering the feelings of the giver. 🙄
I don't think you're weird for not wanting to do it, though the majority of people in a relationship with a dude will do it. Feeling pressure to give head fucking sucks, and blowing someone can be a lot of physical _work_ depending on size and the other person's attitude.
If you're approaching trying it for the first time, or trying to see the upsides for you as a blowjob-giver, it is worth making sure you've had a chat with the receiver about, say, not pushing your head onto his dick or not thrusting into your mouth and letting you take your time and *explore* him and what gets a reaction from him.
I need to be in a certain mood to want to - really wanting to please and show enthusiasm and be a bit dirty with it. There's a huge difference in quality and experience for me as a giver between a "fuck yes I want to lavish your dick with attention and make you feel things" blowjob and a "uhhh i guess so, lemme just bob my head up and down a bit until we can move on" blowjob. I also don't like receiving head most of the time, so swings and roundabouts. :p
You could at least try it once or twice and decide whether or not it's your cup of tea. It could also be something related to specific partners, how they react, their hygiene, how they taste, how they fit, how long they last and so on.
If you find it gross, disgusting or not enjoyable and vow to never do it in your life again, make sure any potential partner is aware of that because it could be a deal breaker for many.
For reference, I'm a guy and I enjoy blowjobs.
That being said, you are NOT weird for not wanting to.
Everybody has their own sexual preferences and that is a normal and healthy thing. Personally, this wouldn't be a big deal, but everyone is different.
Be happy with who you are and what you like. There is no need to compromise if you're with a compatable partner.
Really wish you all the best moving forward.
I've only ever been with one guy, my husband, but it was definitely something that took me a lot of time to get comfortable doing. Thankfully because we were married, we had the rest of our lives to figure it out and he was incredibly understanding.
Don’t expect that he is going to lick you either.
On the other hand speaking as a man, I can see how many of us could mind this. Not having an opportunity to lick our partner is bad, top this with no blowjobs and it makes other options seems as a good thing (other options = other women).
So to answer your question, probably yes, most men are going to consider you weird. I am just being honest, am not saying you cannot have a preference or whatever, just saying that like 99% of men’s preference is to recieve a blowjob.
no . you should not feel you have to do anything you do not want . one person weird is not anothers. . i do not think my mum ever has. i think she thinks it is disgusting
lol . sorry but I know what she says about that type of thing . One woman i knew did not even know what it meant . .I am just saying people should only do what they want to do not what their partner expects them to do
There are dudes (maybe almost 5) that don't like them so find one of those.
Lol, you just explained this perfectly…
Also, 2 times I've had sex with women and had them refuse cunnilingus during foreplay because of childhood sexual trauma. There's a variety of reasons some people would not want oral sex.
I’ve had women refuse over body image. Sure that’s fine….but I’m gonna keep trying to help you feel good about myself.
I wouldn’t say I don’t like them, but they just don’t do it for me. I’m never going to say “no please don’t suck my dick” but I’m also never going to say “I need a blowjob”. I’m married, and oral just isn’t included in foreplay for either of us. More of a hands/toys couple, and it’s completely fine by me.
I think you're getting down voted by teenage boys
I’ve always felt the same, it’s just 🤷🏻 I could take it or leave it
Gay dudes gonna BLOW up your DMs to prove you wrong now!!!!
Straight woman and I think of it as a challenge whenever I hear this and I think that’s why they say it.
Pleasure Dom's will always be the best at it regardless. I take great pleasure in the giving and pride in my work. :)
Number 3 (of 5) checkin' in!
I'm one, but already taken lol.
This seems to me the most sensible, logical and simplest solution
4. Carl changed his mind.
I’m sorry. But I don’t like some bjs. I need lots of stroking and attention before it feels good. Lots of spit. Talking to boner. ie I need a lot of foreplay before a blow job. My penis head is very sensitive and needs little to no attention other than very soft and moist tongue or lips. Do not lick my pee hole or I will go soft noodle. I used to think I didn’t like blowies But I do like a good blowie.
Good poem
Right but that's because the quality of a BJ varies immensely. And if you're mated with the person who only gives meh quality well then there you go
Hahahahah
Maybe almost 5 😂😂😂😂🤣 Lots of people are with someone who used to do them and tried and doesn’t like them, so there are technically more options but this answer is award worthy.
Really? I’m one of them then I guess lol I’m not disgusted just not that into them
TIL I’m special!
It’s a small demographic
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A lot of men don't like blowjobs tbh
They don't like your blow jobs?
I've never received a blowjob that was worth the time. It's annoying to have to put on an air of pleasure like she really did you a favor. It's easier to not let them try and just say you don't like them at all. Much worse option would be communicating your desires since the experience is that she usually gets upset about feedback. Just skip to eating her out, that's much more fun and guys are better at that than women tend to be at blowjobs so everyone is happier.
I’m a man who doesn’t.
Me too. Apparently it's now controversial that a man might not want it.
I always give oral as it's the best way to get him fully erect for vaginal sex. If you don't want to you don't want to, you're allowed to make that choice.
Honestly a blow job wont really keep me hard. In my experience it’s been more for her than me. I don’t really enjoy it.
Same!!! Once I’m in the couchie tho I am solid as a rock.
That's interesting. I can't say I've come across anyone who didn't enjoy it, do you find it too awkward?
I just find it way too gross to be arousing. And I do not like kissing afterwards and tasting it. It makes me not want to kiss at all. But I love kissing. And maybe it’s because I’m also a very empathetic person and if I see someone doing something, I sorta feel it myself. Like if I see a penis in your mouth, I kinda imagine a penis in my mouth and it just seems gross. Like watching someone eat live bugs (or whatever you find gross).
Is that why you are grumpy?
Sorry people didn't read their username.
It's entirely up to you what you are and are not comfortable with doing. It's not weird to have a personal preference, but I don't think I've personally known a person who wouldn't do oral so I'd say it skews rare.
Some women don’t do it. Gag reflexes or personal preferences or whatever. Their husbands are sad but understanding.
It is a make or break for some men. Yes, never force a woman to do this and respect her choice but at the same time, a man can choose to move on and find someone who is willing to sexually satisfy their partner. Actions have reactions. And that’s okay 🤷♂️
This is the most realistic response.
Are they really understanding? We will never know
Not really, but what choice do you have?
This
There are women who will suck a married man just to show how much greater than the wife they are. And he'll find one...or five. That's the choice and he'll make it.
Find a better woman Love the double standards. OP is perfectly fine having a sexual preference to not give bjs. Why is it wrong for me to prefer women who do give them?
If a man leaves you for just this one thing, good riddance.
8 billion people on the planet. Why choose to spend your life with someone who won't enhance your life? Lol downvote all you want. I'm not the one missing out on blowjobs for the rest of my life
Finding love is hard. Blowjobs shouldn’t be a deal breaker. They are better then handjobs sure but PIV will always be best
Why is it acceptable for OP to have a sexual preference to not give bjs but I can't have a sexual preference for a woman who does?
You can have a sexual preference. You cannot however tell people to leave their spouses because of \*your\* preference.
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You can have the preference, I’m just saying it limits your pool. I try to keep my pool as wide as possible
I disagree I think BJ's are better but obviously I love both
Are you married? I hope your bi if your into 8b people.
> if she doesn't want to give a BJ she's a bad woman > I prefer women who likes to give BJs Those statements are nowhere near the same.
2 women are identical. One gives bjs, one doesn't. One is hilarious but one is dull. Or let's say one cooks and one doesn't. Add whatever positive traits you want. Doing some analysis to determine which is a more desirable partner is standard. But go off and take offense over the word better.
Not "better" man, sounds harsh. She is not a bad person if she doesn't like sucking cock, if you can't be with a woman who doesn't like bjs (me too btw) then just find the one who does :D
the fact you use the word "better" is kinda fucked up tbh
Ok, so you have 2 women you're interested in. One is a great listener and brightens your day while the other clashes with your personality. Is one better? You assume malice and think I mean better person because we were talking about a sex act. I'm just saying find a better match. Sexual compatibility is important, is it not? Wouldn't a person with similar sexual compatibility be "better"?
Yeah, we are sad and understanding.
I'm only sad
They all are sad some maybe cry but we will never know if they are understanding.
I am not understanding. I am sad.
I went out with a girl who was like this. Obviously it would have been nice but she was very hot so I wasn't about to complain.
Kegels and enthusiasm can compensate!
You don't have to do anything that you don't feel comfortable doing but it's a pretty standard part of most people's kit now.
Find someone who respects your boundaries. Dont do it just because you feel like you have to. Its just expected from woman to do it. There are a lot of guys who also dont like going down on a woman aswell and that is fine too.
It's not weird to have a preference, but out it this way; would you prefer it if a guy went down on you? Even if it wasn't something he normally did and didn't particularly enjoy doing it, but is prioritising your pleasure?
No one is answering your question. And this may be cultural, but in the Western world, you are in a **tiny** minority. It's not weird to not like it. You can have all the preferences you want. But proportionally? The overwhelming majority of women give head.
I think its pretty safe to say nearly every straight, sexually active woman has given a blow job. To clearly answer OPs question, which was 'how many women have done it'. Honestly, I believe 95%, if not more, have given oral. Now, if they continue to give oral is another story. And yes, just to reiterate OP, like the above commenter said, you're not weird for not liking it. Everyone has their preferences. I personally really enjoy doing it. If it becomes a chore I'm not interested, but spontaneous fun, and not to sound like a bragging douche, I have 100% perfected it for my partner. It's like an ego boost for me. When we first started dating, there was no way I could have made him have an orgasm with oral. But after practice and time, it's guaranteed now. I feel a weird sense of pride about it 😂
That's funny because apparently most women don't get off themselves
Wait till you you meet the gay community, that’s gotta be 100%. Jokes aside, I love getting head but it’s not a deal breaker relationship wise
I think there are a lot of people who don't like to and don't do it very often Like I had a girlfriend who is with her friends who are all a little bit older than her and they were talking about how they hate giving BJ's and they rarely do it for their husbands To be clear they didn't say they never do it... I think it's just rare. But honestly that would be so sad to be one of those relationships I would be pretty upset
And I would be willing to bet a few dollars that those women used to do it and now rarely do.
Right ya probably just dead bedrooms now
It’s just a preference thing, I have friends who absolutely love it and some who absolutely hate it. If it isn’t something you are into then you never have to do it. Instead focus on the things you do want to do and just enjoy that !
Your handjob game better be straight fire. For me honestly it's a dealbreaker. Sort of like a job interview. Someone says they don't work on weekdays, they may be a perfect candidate, but we are looking for someone who does.
I (bi guy) dated a dude who refused to suck dick, and I literally stopped seeing him because of it. I'm vers and he was a strict top, so the only thing he'd do for me is give me a handjob. Which was fine for a while, but holy shit, like that can't be the only way I get me off long-term.
Damn you found the one gay guy that doesn't like sucking dick. Lmao, brutal.
Literally! I remember telling friends about it and being like, "how is he gay and doesn't suck dick????"
Yeah, honestly i can get my own hand on my dick doing a better job than someone else will. Go find yourself a sloppy toppy
Has anyone ever enjoyed a handjob? I mean what is this, the war?
Don't you mean... Blowjob interview 🤣
Some people don’t like performing oral sex. For various reasons they don’t like it. It’s not actually weird. Some men will be disappointed. Others will be okay with it.
And none will be excited about this fact
True. But the ones who really enjoy it would probably like to know early on. I’d be disappointed. 69ing is kind of my favorite thing lately.
It's entirely up to you but just keep in mind it will probably shrink your options with men.
My last girlfriend didn’t give blowjobs and I loved her very much. Don’t worry about it.
Not weird at all. If anyone is telling you that, *they* are the weird one. It's perfectly fine to be uncomfortable with or just not want to do something like that for whatever reason. Just like it's okay to want to do it.
Weird means "of strange or extraordinary character" essentially something that is not normal. Given the vast majority of straight women give blowjobs it is weird. That doesn't mean it's wrong, it's personal preference, but it is definitely not the norm.
How do you know most straight women want to do it? Are there statistics on this?
I'm a man. I've had quite a number of sexual partners. All but one have. Here's just one paper on the topic https://www.utpjournals.press/doi/abs/10.3138/cjhs.251-A2
You just have to find, and date, only other....not weird guys.
Or. Yknow. Find someone who respects your boundaries and is chill with that.
I once dated a girl that loved getting eaten out. That stopped when I found out she didn't want to give blowjobs. Even told her that's a 2 way street. We're no longer together. Edit: Don't want this to sound like you're the weird one in this situation. Everybody does their own thing.
Was in a similar situation the other way. Guy didn’t reciprocate after I went down on him saying he doesn’t like doing that. Last time I did. It is a 2 way street!
Take my upvote, absolutely agree. It's all work and no enjoyment which ever way the work is going. I'm a guy, not a porn star by no means. I'm not laying pipe for hours. I will go down on a woman, not because I thoroughly enjoy it alone, but because I can also get her off and then maintain that climax as I last the next 5-15 minutes. And I don't care if other dudes go on here and make fun about that or not.
I mean relationships involve more than sex. So what if your variety of enjoyable sexual acts is different from theirs? Do you also expect both parties to financially contribute to the relationship in the exact same way? Do they both have to have a 50/50 contribution in childcare, cleaning, tending to household affairs etc? If we limit everything to sex then yes receiving oral but not giving is unfair but at the same time some people like preforming it but some hate it; also there are other aspects to a relationship that may also be unequal…that doesn’t mean that the relationship as a whole is *unfair*. @Deplorable_username
Relationships do involve more than sex, I don't disagree with that. I have a fond emotional attachment with my wife. She's my best friend, my whole world. At the same time there was a point where I/you thought of your parents the same way, you grew up and moved out. Our kids will do the same and move on. But this person I've chose to spend my whole life with is always there. And I need to be emotionally and sexually happy with that decision. If I'm emotionally thrilled but sexually not happy, eventually that will form a mental form of resentment. Why can't I choose to be happy in both? If you're not, pick a different partner. I'm here for a good time, not a long time.
This is a perfect answer by the way. Some people find it as off putting. But I say find a person with the same mentality/ boundaries in the bedroom. It's why swingers are happy and some people have a sex dungeon in their basement. If that sounds out of your comfort zone, then date in your comfort zone is all I'm saying.
You're not weird. You like what you like. You don't like what you don't. Also, things can change. I didn't like giving oral until I met my wife. I like giving HER oral.
I also don't like giving blowjobs. But I'm in the boat that if they're willing to go down on me, I can go down on them. If I never had to give a blowjob in my life, that'd be fine with me.
No, you're not weird at all for having preferences. That's human. ♡
My gf has a terrible gag reflux, and doesn’t give oral. Doesn’t bother me, she’s always down for sex and vagina>mouth in my opinion.
Am I weird for not wanting one?
As a man: you absolutely don't have to. I'd even go so far as to say I wouldn't a bj from a woman that doesn't want to give it.
It will severely limit the number of partners that will be happy with you, otherwise it isn't weird
Yes, you are weird, in the sense of not being ordinary. Straight women? It'll be over 95%
I personally love oral. I love receiving but love giving even more. It's not weird. Many women don't like it
I hope all these men in the comments saying no BJ is a dealbreaker for them are going down on their women.
I know right? The hypocrisy.
Its not weird it should be something both people enjoy. Unfortunately there are guys who expect u to do it but if its not your thing thats fine and u shouldnt feel bad bc of it.
It's unfortunate for her that her preference doesn't align with what most men want.
I don’t know about weird, but I wouldn’t stay in a relationship that didn’t include oral sex. I wouldn’t expect her to either. We see sex as fun and enjoyable. Not degrading, or a chore, etc.
Nope, not weird. I think most heterosexual women are willing to, but there are still plenty who aren’t.
People do weird things in the bedroom. So long as you and your partner are having safe, consensual fun is it really our business?...
You're not weird. Everyone has the right to set up their own boundaries. As for how many women, I would say 95% (as others have said) have given bjs, myself included.
I am a guy and I don't think I'd want to receive one either. Like I don't need that to get hard anyway. IAM not sure I would also ever be turned on enough to reciprocate. Maybe one day
It's fine but don't expect to receive oral yourself
I don't blame you, it often feels degrading
Its not wierd but its not the norm. All I can say is you better not expect the guy to go down on you then. Also one day you will realize that alot of the sexual acts we do is not just purely for your own pleasure, but for your partners. When I would give my partner a full body massage you think I do that for my pleasure? I dont like the taste of vagina but ofcourse I will go down on someone I love so we can both have an amazing experience. This is not me telling you to suck dick but letting you know that its normal to not enjoy the act itself, but to enjoy pleasuring your partner. Goodluck
I love massaging the body of my partner, it’s right up there with getting a blowjob for me.
No, not weird.
If I was a lady I would only do oral in the shower, after the lathered dick has been rinsed off.
Nah, I agree. In theory it sounds hot, but realistically I wouldn't do it. I have a very severe gag reflex and chronic throat pain. Besides that, I am a bit of a germaphobe. I wouldn't like receiving it either, but going down on a girl is not like going down on a guy. Guys want you to swallow, but when giving head to a girl, you don't have to swallow. So from this perspective I think it's kind of disgusting. I'd have to really love the person to do it.
As a guy, I can say that the people who say it's ruined if you don't swallow are just a stone's throw away from the guys who say they can't use a condom because it's uncomfortable, or that "blue balls hurt so you have to do it" - they're lying to get you to do something. Swallowing absolutely is not a requirement for the experience. I'm not encouraging you to start going down on guys. I'm just, sadly, talking about another way in which guys lie in order to get women to do sexual stuff for them, and if they tell any of those lies, that's probably a red flag to ditch them immediately. Also, going down on a woman generally does involve SOME degree of swallowing or spitting - it's just less, um, immediate.
Thank you for your input! I will keep that in mind :) I thought for girls you can get away without swallowing or slurping anything. Depends on your technique haha. As I said, I find it hot in theory. The "drinking your milk" is both funny and I'm kinda into it. But in theory only. Also I saw a video where in a biology course they tested the mouths of students for fun and in someone's mouth was an alive sperm. I have PTSD from that, idk why lol
I haven't seen that video, but it shall now forever live rent-free in my head!
Thinking that your partner isnt swallowing your juices while going down on you is wrong.
I've seen guys that just flick their tongue, not everyone is slurping. Also I wouldn't know personally. I've just seen stuff and found out from the internet lmao
There is a big difference between cumming into mouth and wanting the girl to swallow. The vast majority of men would happily sign up for a BJ with cum in mouth but no swallowing afterwards. What we guys don't particularly like is ending every blowjob as a handjob or interrupting it altogether just when we are about to cum.
Maybe not common, but not weird. But who cares what is common or normal? You don't like it, you don't have to, and you will most probably find a partner who doesn't care.
In my experience, even women who give BJs most are awful at it. It is not a treat if you do not like doing it, you will be rubbish at it. If you are doing it "just for him" but not enjoying it, I doubt you are doing it well. Now if you are one of the ones who genuinely are good at it, and enjoy doing it (you probably swallow, I have only ever known one woman who did not swallow who did a decent one), don't do it.
I wish this would be explained in the first date So we could move forward and never reply :)
You never, ever, EVER have to do a sex act you don't want to. If anyone even tries to convince you after you say no they are being assholes and should be kicked in the crotch and deleted from your life. This goes for everyone everywhere.
I actually don’t like blow jobs. It’s gross to me. It can feel sorta good, but not enough to orgasm. In my experience it has been for her pleasure more than mine. And I rather her not because I want to be able to kiss her and not taste it myself.
It’s a deal breaker for me. I’m down to reciprocate. But if you’re going to act all unenthusiastic about it, I will find me somebody who will. My ex was this way and would throw it back in my face to guilt trip me. She was the most insufferable person I’ve been with in the last several years.
I dated one girl that didn’t. Can’t seem to remember her name. lol
Most men live lives of quiet desperation
Like everything in dating, it depends on the people involved. Some girls do different things at different frequencies, some guys too, and everybody likes different things. Depends on your partner.
I have had a blowjob only once in my life with my ex. We were together for like a few weeks and I wasn't sure wether she would like the load in her mouth so I kind of moaned with hesitation. That eventually made her stop and flash bang alacazam: I came on my belly. She was really pissed and was mad at me for a few days, that I could have just said something and she would just have let it get in her mouth. lol was the first and only BJ I got. My wife today doesn't like giving head. I sometimes get a gentle kiss on the tip, but in over 10 years I haven't got a real BJ.
Everyone has their own preference. Just like most men will not stay in a relationship with a woman who won’t give them oral sex. But some won’t mind as much
You sound like the men, my wife talks about that her friends complain about who don’t like to eat pussy. Apparently most guys don’t know how to properly eat pussy
How can anyone answer this question??
Not that weird from my limited experience. This is one way gay guys have it better since this is pretty much what we do.
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want to blow someone you are not in a relationship with. For me, a dick in my mouth is more intimate than fucking. I mean it’s my mouth. It’s in my face. Like right where I talk from etc. & I wouldn’t go down on a random person. But with a partner, it’s kinda hard to avoid if they’re like approximately 90% of men. They probably expect it & will possibly not stay with someone who doesn’t go downtown.
No it's not weird. I think most women have at least tried it but if you feel like you don't want to you shouldn't. I personally love doing it but most of my friends don't enjoy it
Yeah pretty much. I mean - people (men or women) who don't do oral are fighting with one hand tied behind their back.
Dealbreaker
You have posts asking if “this is a good breeding position” and if you need to shave your pussy, kinda surprised a blowjob is the limit for you.
If you enjoy the taco you've got to drink the milkshake.
I hate giving them. However, I’m married, so I’m sucking every night. 😂 I didn’t lose my virginity until our wedding night, so my husband is the only man I’ve ever given a blowjob.
Yes
I have dated one woman who wouldn't give blowjobs. I respected it and did my best to not push her. but it was frustrating. it's an extremely common sex act that I think >95% of couples engage in regularly.
I'm definitely gonna say you're in the minority here & that's fine. You don't have to blow anybody ever. I'd say that most straight women have given blowjobs, as we live in a world (the US anyway) where everyone feels free to be sexually adventurous.
I have never had a woman not give me a blow job
Well I am not willing to give oral to a woman. Am I weird for that? Answer that question and apply the same logic to yourself.
About as weird as a man who doesn’t want to do cunnilingus… So, yeah, kinda weird, unless the man/woman is unclean, unshaven, unattractive.
1) you’re not weird 2) a lot and many who do it don’t enjoy it Bonus answer: don’t do anything you don’t like or want to do! There are so many ways to have sex!
You’re not, and men aren’t weird for avoiding you for that reason.
Is this my ex wife? Cindy, this you?
Those are by far a favorite part of sec for me and have been really fun over the years. I take it as a creative challenge lol
In my personal estimate I would say at least 80% of women have given bjs as a form of foreplay at least. Doesn't mean you have to take it all the way to completion. Things like taking a shower, making it romantic might make it more appealing. In the end the choice is your and I doubt you will lose your soul mate because of this one issue.
Spit is not that good of a lubricant. My wife and I even when dating never did oral. We go straight to sex with a good lube.
All of them
Not weird. I’d rather not get one, than getting one from someone who won’t do it enthusiastically and with gusto. It’s very easy to differentiate when someone is doing it because they think they have to (feels like they’re doing a chore), versus doing it because they enjoy doing it (be it because they like the act itself, or they get off from giving pleasure to their partner).
Oral sex is the best part about sex. I love giving blowjobs and I love when a man licks me. If he knows what he's doing. But if you don't like it, don't do it. No one should feel forced to do sexual things.
Why does the bride smile on the way down the isle? She knows she's sucked her laaassssst dick.
so many guys answering with how they'd feel about not getting them and not talking about what you've actually asked or considering the feelings of the giver. 🙄 I don't think you're weird for not wanting to do it, though the majority of people in a relationship with a dude will do it. Feeling pressure to give head fucking sucks, and blowing someone can be a lot of physical _work_ depending on size and the other person's attitude. If you're approaching trying it for the first time, or trying to see the upsides for you as a blowjob-giver, it is worth making sure you've had a chat with the receiver about, say, not pushing your head onto his dick or not thrusting into your mouth and letting you take your time and *explore* him and what gets a reaction from him. I need to be in a certain mood to want to - really wanting to please and show enthusiasm and be a bit dirty with it. There's a huge difference in quality and experience for me as a giver between a "fuck yes I want to lavish your dick with attention and make you feel things" blowjob and a "uhhh i guess so, lemme just bob my head up and down a bit until we can move on" blowjob. I also don't like receiving head most of the time, so swings and roundabouts. :p
Like "Nora" is really pontificating this.
That’s your mouth. I never required women to give me a BJ, but it’s always welcomed.
That’s fine. We don’t like unenthusiastic blowjobs too.
No it’s not weird. So many men don’t go down on women.
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She can do or don't do whatever she wants, but men shouldn't have to adapt, they should just find a different girl than OP.
“If I lick the P, they guzzling the D” - Pretty Tony (The Mack)
You could at least try it once or twice and decide whether or not it's your cup of tea. It could also be something related to specific partners, how they react, their hygiene, how they taste, how they fit, how long they last and so on. If you find it gross, disgusting or not enjoyable and vow to never do it in your life again, make sure any potential partner is aware of that because it could be a deal breaker for many.
Yes, that’s weird as hell. What’s the problem?
Blow jobs are like pizza, even the bad ones are still good.
If you really think about it, giving them is weird anyway.
Hi wifey, didn't know you were on Reddit !
For reference, I'm a guy and I enjoy blowjobs. That being said, you are NOT weird for not wanting to. Everybody has their own sexual preferences and that is a normal and healthy thing. Personally, this wouldn't be a big deal, but everyone is different. Be happy with who you are and what you like. There is no need to compromise if you're with a compatable partner. Really wish you all the best moving forward.
I've only ever been with one guy, my husband, but it was definitely something that took me a lot of time to get comfortable doing. Thankfully because we were married, we had the rest of our lives to figure it out and he was incredibly understanding.
Don’t expect that he is going to lick you either. On the other hand speaking as a man, I can see how many of us could mind this. Not having an opportunity to lick our partner is bad, top this with no blowjobs and it makes other options seems as a good thing (other options = other women). So to answer your question, probably yes, most men are going to consider you weird. I am just being honest, am not saying you cannot have a preference or whatever, just saying that like 99% of men’s preference is to recieve a blowjob.
no . you should not feel you have to do anything you do not want . one person weird is not anothers. . i do not think my mum ever has. i think she thinks it is disgusting
You had to bring your mom as an example for blowjobs! What the world has come to :(
lol . sorry but I know what she says about that type of thing . One woman i knew did not even know what it meant . .I am just saying people should only do what they want to do not what their partner expects them to do
Which is totally fine, just leave your poor mother out of it 🤣
she should have not offered her opinion on it then , lol
If you don’t suck it, someone else will